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[ - ] Will business owners be subject to any oversight for how they used their grant money they received during the pandemic? I know of more than 1 person who got $$ and did not need it, because they did not lose business during the pandemic. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:17 PM Flag
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The department of Justice has already brought several lawsuits against businesses who obtained PPP funds through fraud [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:29 PM Flag
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PPP is a loan, not a grant. To have the loan forgiven, there's paperwork that requires you to provide records of what you spent on payroll, rent, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:00 PM Flag
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What about people who got it and didn’t need it - they will show they spent it on things they already could pay for because they lost no business, eg rent and payroll - these are the people I know. They got the money and it is business as usual and have a pile of extra money [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:34 PM Flag
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just because you think they didn't need it, doesn't mean they didn't legitimately qualify under the rules [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:14 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:23 PM Flag
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You have to have payroll and show that you used it for payroll. Otherwise you have to pay back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:39 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:42 PM Flag
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I don't think you can lay off anyone either for a certain amount of time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:43 PM Flag
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well, considering that the wealthiest people in the US made millions during this and the whole economy is rigged, I don't really care. I doubt the one person you know is already a billionaire. focus on the real fight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:24 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is depressed and has been for many years. He has basically refused treatment- except for when I give him an ultimatum and he goes for three sessions with a therapist and comes up with an excuse to stop. Understandably it is worse in this time without leaving the house or weekly socializing- and harder on our entire family because he is irritable and just wants to stay in a dark room watching TV for hours. He has a few good hours each day and can be a great father and husband- but there is no way of knowing how many hours or when it will switch. I’m heartbroken and at a loss about what to do. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:13 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. dh is bipolar and I am intimately familiar with the story. right now mine is manic and mean so I I would trade places. sigh. You could issue an ultimatum but it is unlikely to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:24 PM Flag
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I’m so sorry to hear that. How do you cope? Do your friends or family know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:27 PM Flag
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yes. they know. I have spared my parents from the worst of it because they would be heartbroken, but they know. I have a therapist too that keeps me from the abyss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:25 PM Flag
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I separated from mine. It was the best decision for the children and I. I felt like I was drowning with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:01 PM Flag
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How did he take it? What happened with custody? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:26 PM Flag
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Refuses meds too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:08 PM Flag
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OP: Absolutely. Gets angry if I even mention it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:26 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. Both DH and I have been depressed and although we tried a few therapists, we didn't have good experience. We should probably try harder. But medication has helped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:51 PM Flag
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I wouldn't let someone drag me and my kids down because they refuse to be an adult. Lock yourself in a room for a day or two, see what his response is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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You have problems of a different kind. This DH has a disease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:00 PM Flag
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That's just unacceptable. I get that when depressed, people are unmotivated - but at some point you have to take some personal responsibility for your life. If not by getting outside help, then at least by taking care of the things you can control - food, sleep, exercise, alcohol. I'd seriously consider cutting ties with someone who won't even take basic steps to make changes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:48 PM Flag
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Mine finally got bad enough that he listened to my weak ultimatum on meds. It’s has made a world of difference. Maybe he needs you to let him hit rock bottom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Seeking wide sandy beaches & luxury homes in cape cod ...which town should I choose 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:52 PM Flag
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You can afford a "luxury" home in Cape Cod and you don't know the answer to this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:10 PM Flag
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I don't understand this response. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:29 PM Flag
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Apparently all people with money should automatically know the fanciest towns in an area even if they have never been there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:23 PM Flag
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I prefer outer cape: Truro, Wellfleet, Chatham. Shark central though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:44 PM Flag
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I second Chatham [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:07 PM Flag
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My in-laws are in Osterville and there are gorgeous homes and beaches. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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Wide sandy beaches and luxury homes are everywhere on the Cape. What else do you want? A downtown? No downtown? Rural? Activities close by? Bike trails? Golf? Shopping? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:59 PM Flag
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Nantucket or mv [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] In NYC apt and so bored. It is hot out. Don't want to watch tv. Don't want to read. Kids are on Ipads. don't know what to do with myself. What is everyone doing today? Maybe I will think of a fun dinner to start cooking? help! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:41 PM Flag
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Find a project? Watched some John Mulaney videos on YouTube this morning and then DH and I cut up a bunch of veggies we had in the fridge and are roasting them with a ton of garlic and olive oil, kitchen smells amazing right now. Will probably read the NYT, do laundry, try to get DC to tell me about his new video game. There is always something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:44 PM Flag
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Same. I think I'll work on making a shutterfly photo album from our vacation last summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:45 PM Flag
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I did my nails while audiobook. Yoga next [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:56 PM Flag
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did a ton of cleaning today - hard to do during the work week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:27 PM Flag
[ - ] We received an Economic Impact Payment card with $469 on if. We have 2 kids. Should we be expecting a second card ? Wondering if we trashed it by mistake . 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:39 PM Flag
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we got all of it on one card. you will get a notice in mail in about 1 week that will outline what you received. so then you will know if you threw one out... it looks like junk mail an i almost did! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:28 PM Flag
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Thanks ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:44 PM Flag
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do you file jointly? it should have come on one card. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:51 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:56 AM Flag
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We got one for $602 the other week. But we don't qualify. Also, it was sent to my husband with my last name. It's all so weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 09:24 PM Flag
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Yes , ours had my last name too. Happy for a chunk of money tho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 09:43 PM Flag
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OP: We also did not qualify for the stimulus check although I lost my job recently. It was addressed to DH first name and my last name, weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:59 AM Flag
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Dumb question: it's a debit card, so how do you know the balance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 11:12 AM Flag
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You need to set up a PIN number . When you do they let you know the initial balance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 07:55 PM Flag
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OK thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 09:00 PM Flag
[ - ] If school starts again in September, I am not really comfortable with my 16-year-old taking the subway to school. He has offered to bike from our home in Fort Greene Brooklyn to his school in Soho. Would you be comfortable with your teen biking in Downtown Brooklyn/ Manhattan or is better to just risk your child catching the virus on the subway? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:37 PM Flag
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My DS has to commute too. But I figured the fact that he's in school with other kids who will be taking the subway, there's no difference. He might as well take the subway too, and wear a mask. Not ideal but the kids have to adjust. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:40 PM Flag
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^this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:42 PM Flag
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I don't think this is quite right. Being on the subway is much different than being in classrooms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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but if some kids are taking a subway - others will be in the classroom with them and exposed to whatever kids riding subway were exposed to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:28 AM Flag
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Do you and DH drive or walk to work? How do your coworkers get to work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:43 PM Flag
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Both DH and I work from home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:21 PM Flag
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Do either of you have the ability to drop him off early at school in a car? I assume his school starts around 8 and your work starts around 9? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:03 PM Flag
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Pre-covid you both worked from home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:25 AM Flag
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Yes, we both worked from home pre-covid. His school starts at 9am so I won't be able to drop him off in the morning unless I dropped him off an hour early. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:29 AM Flag
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I wonder if parents will get together and hire cars or mini-vans to take groups of kids together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:47 PM Flag
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I think biking in the city during rush hour etc is more dangerous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:47 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:49 PM Flag
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agreed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:15 PM Flag
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+3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:39 PM Flag
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100%. the subway, even with covid, is way less of a riskfor a 16 year old than getting hit on his bike. there will be a TON of traffic and lots more bikers. i would expect a big increase in accidents. the subway with a mask, and maybe latex gloves that he throws away when he gets to school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:34 PM Flag
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This! Sew or purchase many more masks. He wears one the subway and tosses it in a wetbag. Then a clean one for school and a 3rd for the way back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:35 AM Flag
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We’re a big biking family and I wouldn’t allow this. You need to be a really smart and experienced biker to be doing this daily and you also wouldn’t be 100% certain that he wears a helmet the whole way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:58 PM Flag
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The good thing is that I am 100% confident that he would wear his helmet everyday. He is very cautious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:24 PM Flag
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We’re a big biking family and I wouldn’t allow this. You need to be a really smart and experienced biker to be doing this daily and you also wouldn’t be 100% certain that he wears a helmet the whole way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:58 PM Flag
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NO to biking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:40 PM Flag
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seems fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:27 PM Flag
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would rather virus. biking is dangerous. i mean so is the virus, but less so unless you have high risk person at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:18 AM Flag
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OP here: I agree that biking in the city during rush hour is dangerous. I am thinking that one option is that he could do citi bike across the Manhattan Bridge and the walk to to school from there. Walking the hole way would take over an hour but biking across the bridge would significantly shorten his trip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:33 AM Flag
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sorry for the typos! whole not hole! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:34 AM Flag
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What if it rains? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do TV shows always mention scores on SATs/LSATs/MCATs as passing or failing? The writers know it doesn't work like that, right? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:37 PM Flag
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They probably don't want to specify a score as failing or passing and make some kid feel bad because they either got or didn't get that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:46 PM Flag
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Legally Blonde mentioned a specific score. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:09 PM Flag
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That’s because Elle’s academic counselor said “you’re going to need at least a 175 on the LSAT to have a chance at Harvard” so that’s what she was aiming for/above. Gosh, you really must brush up on your cinematic history ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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Good reminder for me to watch Legally Blonde tonight! I'll never forget how one of my dad's friends was making one of the movie and my dad stepped in and said "Oh, that movie about the bimbo? The one who graduated with a 4.0 from a CA state school, found a goal and went for it?? And then she got into Harvard? And people there were awful but she proved herself, and pulled herself up even after getting harassed? And then dumped the jerk boyfriend? Is that the bimbo we're talking about???" To be fair, he had to take me and my friends to the movies and he watched them with us, so sometimes he got invested :) He won't admit it, but he likes the Princess Diaries too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:31 PM Flag
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Love this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I miss going out to restaurants more than seeing my friends. I can’t believe it’s been 3 months since we’ve eaten in a restaurant. The longest I’ve gone before this is probably a month and that was during a major life change. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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Same. I miss so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:21 PM Flag
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We used to eat out all the time and I'm surprised to find that I don't miss it at all. I enjoy working from home and having more time to cook delicious homemade meals. Tastes better and is healthier. I miss having friends over though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:38 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:29 PM Flag
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me too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:26 PM Flag
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Me tooo! I've realized I don't like cooking everyday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone here handled a trust ? Did the attorney who created it keep tabs on the trust or check in on you ? My aunt is executor of my grandmother's trust and in one year we have heard nothing even though we are also beneficiaries....lawyer says she is no longer involved 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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Do the terms of the trust entitle you to any specific, scheduled reports? Or to info upon request? Either way, you need to ask your aunt, the executor, for the info to which you are entitled by a date certain, in a polite but firm letter, send it the old fashioned way, certified or registered mail, return receipt requested. Keep copy of letter and all receipts. If no satisfactory response, hire a lawyer to explain your rights and assist you in enforcing them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:35 PM Flag
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Executor generally has the right to hire/ fire lawyer for the trust, if fired, the lawyer who set it up would have no further involvement. But you could call and ask, if she was fired, she may be able to tell you to whom she sent the files. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking to buy patio furniture for house in rural CT. Thinking Adirondack chairs. Started looking - so much on line it's hard to filter - too much choice! Want wood, not plastic. Have heard that their are some that are coated so they withstand the elements better. Any recommendations from folks who have bought and are happy with their purchase? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:42 PM Flag
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I think Smith & Hawken is always a good choice. I also love the look of RH outdoor stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:52 PM Flag
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^ that there are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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Check out this site, which has a few posts on Adirondack chairs, including this one: https://www.gardenista.com/posts/modern-westport-adirondack-chairs/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:04 AM Flag
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this is great - thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 03:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Have you heard of any NYC privates going back in mid August? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:32 PM Flag
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By us, teachers were told that we should hold from Aug 26th onwards as possible teaching days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:45 PM Flag
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CSH 8/31 monday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:45 PM Flag
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We are beginning 8/31. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:12 PM Flag
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Boarding school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:35 PM Flag
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Some were supposed to go before Labor Day, so it isn't much earlier [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:10 PM Flag
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Do you mind sharing schools and plans. Will all students be in the building at the same time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:40 PM Flag
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Boys school has offered distance learning to those who want it. That will probably help with number of kids at school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Any suggestions for escapist travel memoirs and/or narrative picture books that take place in any non-US country? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:32 PM Flag
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Travels memoirs: Tales from the Expat Harem; Go Girl! The Black Woman's Book of Travel and Adventure; Kinky Gazpacho: Life, Love and Spain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:00 PM Flag
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Picture books: King for a Day by Rukhsana Khan (Pakistan); Anna Hibiscus by Atinuke (Nigeria); Erika-san by Allen Say (Japan) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:20 PM Flag
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HM - I escape into the past. Love Dickens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] how long do you think the protests will go on for? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:02 PM Flag
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wasn't this asked yesterday? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:05 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:14 PM Flag
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Well, the problem has been building for 400+ years so probably a while yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:17 PM Flag
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When short attention spans turn to some other bright and shiny thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:29 PM Flag
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Until the next major catastrophe such as hurricane, earthquake, or police misconduct. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:21 PM Flag
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until the police budget gets lowered a lot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:30 PM Flag
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Until Wednesday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 12:38 AM Flag
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Until the press cycle changes. It's something I've noticed, for example with CNN. Remember when the listed the cases and the deaths constantly? And then they moved on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 11:15 AM Flag
[ - ] What protocols are you following these days in regard to covid? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:57 PM Flag
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facemasks when in public, going into stores. washing hands frequently . in NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:06 PM Flag
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Same but it’s all I ever did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:17 PM Flag
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same! never washed groceries or packages [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:27 PM Flag
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Same (also in NYC). I recently learned that I do not have antibodies, so it must be working. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:02 PM Flag
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+1. Haven't gotten tested for the antibodies yet but haven't gotten sick either. None of us have [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:53 PM Flag
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I don't have the antibodies either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:54 PM Flag
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Same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:47 PM Flag
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Will you wear a mask when you go back to work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:29 PM Flag
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np, I have been back to my office. wear a mask through the building. Take it off when I am sitting in my office. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:14 PM Flag
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Are you alone in your office, you have a private office? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:16 PM Flag
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very few other people have been going in. Yes I have a private office. but overall the space is very spread out so even the cubicle area isn't too crowded [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:30 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:11 AM Flag
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Haven't changed. Masks and wipe down groceries. Waiting a few more weeks before changing anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:04 PM Flag
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+1. But I take walks outside with friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:40 PM Flag
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Masks outside home, no touching elevator buttons, wash hands when we get home or touch boxes etc but we did this before as well. We used to wipe groceries at the height of it but not anymore. DH has been going to the office the whole time And I have no antibodies and neither of us has gotten sick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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Well we’re at our beach house and have been here since mid March. We go to the store once a week, but otherwise never leave our property and we haven’t had any guests or seen anyone else nor do we plan to. We’re going to have a quiet family summer and see how all of this unfolds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:55 PM Flag
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So you won't allow any playdates all summer long? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:24 PM Flag
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We've been protesting, but wearing masks when we go and otherwise staying at home except to get groceries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:07 PM Flag
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mask, gloves, distance, hand washing. Cleaning high touch surfaces, but less often than in March/April. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:12 AM Flag
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I put on my "muzzle" whenever I leave the apartment, and gloves when I go into a store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 11:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Renting house this summer in CT. Owner plans to disinfect house (hired a company) with chlorine dioxide before we move in. I did some research. It's EPA approved but I'm still not sure which is worse: Covid or the toxic chemicals? WWYD? It's our choice 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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How old are your DCs? Are they likely to lick and the walls and the floors? As long as you don't move in within minutes of the chorine dioxide treatment, I'd think it would be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:00 PM Flag
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One teenager plus a dog. We'd move in the following day. Just hard to know if we're trading one threat (virus) for another (exposure to toxins). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:07 PM Flag
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toxic chemicals are worse. there is no evidence that you can contract covid from a surface. Even if it can live on surfaces, it isn't potent enough to get you sick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:08 PM Flag
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I would tell them to skip it, and move in a couple of days after I’m supposed to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:25 PM Flag
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totally this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:40 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:21 PM Flag
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That sounds really unnecessary. They should just do a regular cleaning. For extra precaution, you could leave the house empty for a day or so and/or wipe down surfaces like knobs and switches an extra time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:27 PM Flag
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Just give it 3 or 4 days before moving in. Ridiculous to have it sprayed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:03 PM Flag
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I would accept this offer and still wait a day or two after the owner does it. The chemicals have a short half life, and you'll know that everything is clean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:05 PM Flag
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I don’t think you need chemicals. Just let house sit empty 72 hours before you walk in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:00 PM Flag
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Toxic chemicals are worse, Ironic how all the organic, environmentally-conscious mommies all went crazy with the Lysol wipes these past two months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm looking for a good family saga book. It can be old. Something like The Thorn Bird or Lonesome Dove, pillars of the earth. any suggestions? 61 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:46 PM Flag
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Homegoing, Pachinko, The Forsythe Saga, East of Eden, Commonwealth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:48 PM Flag
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Second Pachinko and Forsythe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:49 PM Flag
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A Kind of Freedom by Margaret Wilkerson Sexton, the Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai, Love Medicine by Louise Erdrich. This genre is my jam! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:51 PM Flag
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Louise Erdrich x 100 but I vote for The Round House first and then either LaRose or The Plague of Doves [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:08 PM Flag
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+1 on East of Eden and Commonwealth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:00 AM Flag
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I loved Pachinko as well, highly recommend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:26 AM Flag
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Me, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 12:53 PM Flag
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another vote for east of eden [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 06:34 AM Flag
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Here is one I recently enjoyed (I'm trying to read mostly international fiction): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pachinko_(novel). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:49 PM Flag
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Thanks!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:57 PM Flag
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One Hundred Years of Solitude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:05 PM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:31 PM Flag
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Jeffrey Archer - the Clifton Chronicles [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:18 PM Flag
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The Dutch House by Ann Patchett [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:43 PM Flag
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i just logged in to recommend the dutch house too—also commonwealth by ann patchett [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:58 PM Flag
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The Forsyte Saga, Galsworthy. Or Trollope’s Parliamentary Novels.Forsyth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:40 PM Flag
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love the Forsyte Saga - excellent! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:31 PM Flag
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The first 3 Outlander novels. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:41 PM Flag
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I read these already.:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 09:39 PM Flag
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The Cazalet Chronicles, Elizabeth Jane Howard. Chronicle of an well-to-do English family from @ 1930s. Just wonderful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:44 PM Flag
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A Fine Balance, Pachinko, Shantaram, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:58 PM Flag
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A fine balance was one of my favorite books [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 09:39 PM Flag
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+1. Definitely a saga. I like all of Misty's other books too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:26 PM Flag
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Ken Follett's Century Trilogy (first book is Fall of GIants). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:09 PM Flag
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Didn't care for it, or any of his other stuff after Pillars of the Earth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:17 PM Flag
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Clan of the Cave Bears [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:21 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 12:57 AM Flag
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Shogun and the following sequels by James Clavell, Hawaii by James Michner, Winds of War and War and Remembrance by Herman Wouk OMG. ALL SO GOOD! I want to read them all again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:26 PM Flag
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Anything by James Michener is pretty good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:27 PM Flag
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Second James Clavell. I love the whole series, but Shogun is my favorite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:41 AM Flag
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Mine too. Didn't care much for the later ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 04:19 PM Flag
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I recently listed to the audio book of My Antonía and found the interwoven stories of several generations of immigrant women/girls very compelling, even through a male narrator's voice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:32 PM Flag
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np. Funny enough, I picked it at a book sale and it has been sitting on my night-stand for a few months. I think it's time to read it finally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:40 AM Flag
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You must read The Round House by Louise Erdrich as well as LaRose. I read a lot and these are both remarkable family stories and she’s a gifted writer. I’ll add Freedom by Jonathan Franzen. Sing Unburied Sing by Jesymn Ward and Savage the Bones also by Jesmyn Ward. Swing Time by Zadie Smith. Life After Life by Kate Atkinson (amazing especially if you like world war two stories and this one is different). Commonwealth and The Dutch House both by Ann Patchett. My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante (I was slow to the party on these but they’re a standout and beloved for a reason). A Constellation of Vital Phenomenon by Anthony Marra. Did You Ever Have a Family by Bill Clegg (so good) Imagine Me Gone by Adam Hasett (very moving). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:03 PM Flag
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please report back if you read any of the suggestions or other people too the posts about books are some of my favorites on UB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:04 PM Flag
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A Visit From The Goon Squad by Jennifer Egan. The next two are ‘lighter’ and fast but fun reads and also insightful imho Modern Lovers and The Vacationers both by Emma Straub oh and this a can’t miss if you like post war British fiction truly amazing Old Filth by Jane Gardam and then her other two books in the same series which are told from the perspective of two different characters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:07 PM Flag
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+1 on Goon Squad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 12:58 AM Flag
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Posted just below you; it seems like we have similar taste. My Brilliant Friend has been hanging out with a small section read--keep meaning to get more into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:19 PM Flag
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I’m about to finish the fourth book in the Neapolitan series. My mom has been watching the tv show and loves it. I want to see the show too but wanted to finish the books first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 12:57 AM Flag
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Dutch House, Commonwealth (Ann Patchett), The Children's Crusade (Ann Packer) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:17 PM Flag
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I prefer non-fiction, so would recommend Daughters and Rebels by Jessica Mitford, and The Six by Laura Thompson (which is a biography of the Mitford sisters). The Romanovs, by Simon Sebastian Montefiore, is about the history of the Romanov family from 1613-1918–it’s a massive biography, but very well written and really focuses on the personalities of the various family members as well as the roles they played in Russian history. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:27 PM Flag
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I enjoyed the Montefiore book a lot, though I think I prefer Massie's "Nicholas and Alexandra", which I've read several times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 04:17 PM Flag
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I never read the book, but Orson Welles’ Magnificent Ambersons is worth watching [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:41 PM Flag
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how soon can you come over? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:44 PM Flag
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The My Brilliant Friend books are so engaging. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 12:57 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:40 AM Flag
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The Cairo Trilogy by Naguib Mahfouz hands down should be on your list just like the other excellent recs by others. The Cairo Trilogy tells the tale of an upper class Egyptian family through multiple generations with changes to the modern history of Egypt as the backdrop. It is superbly written. You will come to develop complicated views of members of the family much like in real life with one’s own family. They are endearing, shocking, cruel, naive, innocent, sweet, loyal, but ultimately loving all at once. Mahfouz won the Nobel in 1988. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:49 AM Flag
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Oh yeah these were great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:35 PM Flag
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Pachinko, One Hundred Years of Solitude, Homegoing, House of the Spirits, the Joy Luck Club, A Fine Balance, A House for Mr. Biswas and In the Time of the Butterflies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:52 AM Flag
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great suggestions! I also loved The Valley of Amazement by Amy Tan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 12:52 PM Flag
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How about The Corrections or A Widow for One Year? Two of my all time favorites...Also: White Teeth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:30 AM Flag
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Middlesex, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn are two of my favorites. East of Eden was already mentioned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 05:54 AM Flag
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Oh! A Tree grows in Brooklyn...how I loved that book! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 06:00 AM Flag
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One of the most engaging family sagas I’ve read was Penny Vincenzi’s books that begin with “No Angel”. British and American family drama beginning c.WW1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 11:16 AM Flag
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The Joy Luck Club & Wuthering Heights "Heathcliff - it's me it's Cathy - I've come hommmmme!" (couldn't resist :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:57 PM Flag
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Does anyone still read Michner? Loved The Source. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 04:18 PM Flag
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Rosamunde Pilcher's books. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 04:19 PM Flag
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David Mitchell (he wrote Cloud Atlas) isn't for everyone, but I've re-read The Bone Clocks a couple of times and heartily recommend it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 04:20 PM Flag
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Anything by Susan Howatch: Cashelmara, Penmarric, Wheel of Fortune, Glittering Images series, St Benet’s Trilogy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 09:15 PM Flag
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Last Hundred Yeard Trilogy - Jane Smiley. One of my favorite authors and three of my favorite books [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 12:16 AM Flag
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Logged on just to reply. If you like this genre - PLEASE read Kane and Abel, by Jeffrey Archer. So, so good! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 03:00 AM Flag
[ - ] We have been out of city since mid-March as DH has an underlying health condition. DCs and I are returning on Sunday for a few days for medical appointments then heading back to our home upstate. DCs want to do something for door men and building staff - we are in a rental building. They suggested pizza, though that means not all will be there to get it. Should we also consider a mid-year tip for each of them in light of the circumstances? We are fortunate to live in a building with such a great crew and would like to recognize their efforts in this difficult time. Our staff have been lucky but understand that there have been at least 40 doormen who've died during this crisis. TIA for any and all suggestions. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:04 PM Flag
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I'm going to do mid-year tip in the end of June. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:08 PM Flag
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Wow, that's a really nice thought. Do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:22 PM Flag
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MId year tip would be great. Even if they are getting paid, their household may have taken a hit. When our cleaner came back, we gave her back pay (we tried to do it weekly but she does not take venmo and would not swing by for it). She kept saying by text that it was not right for her to get paid for not working. When she finally came back, we put that weeks cash on the table and the back pay in a thank you card, thanking her for holding our spot. She left a post it note with a thank you when she left, texted thank you when she got home, sent a mailed thank you card the next week, and yesterday, three weeks later, (not her day with us) left a potted plant on our front door. It meant so much more to her than I even realized. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:27 PM Flag
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If you can afford it,it will be much appreciated. Pizza for those on duty as well . . . . and a nice card to all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:30 PM Flag
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We ordered our doormen dinner one night, but we know that is not nearly enough. I like the idea of June tip. December seems so far away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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You are nice people. So much negativity here. I like you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:22 PM Flag
[ - ] My daughter wants me to do a one night (overnight) visit to her apartment to celebrate my granddaughter’s 15 b/day the next day with a picnic with some friends, I am 66, no underlying conditions, have been SIP since mid March and only going out grocery shopping but this week have been to two supermarkets on different days for about 20 minutes each day early in the morning when not crowded, I am nervous about going, any advice? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:57 PM Flag
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Where are you and where is your daughter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:13 PM Flag
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We’re both in the same city, we just have not seen each other since whole thing started because of transportation problems [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:19 PM Flag
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It's fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:30 PM Flag
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Great, thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:31 PM Flag
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If you are in the same city, why would you stay overnight? I think the picnic aspect is 100% fine. It's outdoors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:42 PM Flag
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I think you’ll be fine. Enjoy the party! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:27 PM Flag
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OP, thats how I feel, I’d much rather do just picnic but she is being so insistent that it’s making me upset because I don’t want them or me to take any chances getting sick, she doesn’t want to hear it, ugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:43 PM Flag
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NP. Your DD sounds selfish, honestly, if you are stressed she should be understanding, not making demands. My mom lives 10 minutes from me in Manhattan and I haven't seen her other than once a week to drop off groceries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:52 PM Flag
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np -- I am in same situation, getting tons of pressure -- please do what makes you feel comfortable, what the experts are saying is recommended -- just do the picnic. Do not let her pressure you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:24 PM Flag
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If you're nervous, don't do it. Don't let your daughter pressure you. You will spend the entire time fretting and not enjoying the event if you feel forced into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:57 PM Flag
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why are you nervous? wear your mask and wash your hands frequently and do not touch your face, you will be fine and human contact will be good for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:05 PM Flag
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I would just do the picnic part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:22 PM Flag
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Wow, I would never push my mom to do this. Just the picnic and be honest with her that it makes you uncomfortable to think of spending the night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] My daughter has a red mark behind her ear. It started like a pimple, then got bigger and itchy like a mosquito bite. Then, it got smaller, then back to mosquito bite size yesterday. Today, she developed a lump next to it (like a swollen lymph node about a 1/4 of an inch away). It hurts. Any ideas? No fever, nausea nor rash. I can only think of a tick bite (we are in the woods, but I don't think the lump matches?) or staph? Experience? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:15 AM Flag
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Spider bite? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:25 AM Flag
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I considered that. The lump is weirdly off to the side. I'm imagining those stories of spiders laying eggs in someone's skin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:35 AM Flag
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Those stories are stories. If she was bitten by a bug, her lymph node is reacting. Call the nurse at ped office. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:03 AM Flag
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It could be a cyst that got infected. Try a hot compress on it and see if that does anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:38 AM Flag
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Doesn't sound like a tick. There are some weird gnats biting this summer. Call ped for virtual visit - you'll feel much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:26 AM Flag
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OP: Thank you. [ Reply | More
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