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[ - ] Does anyone know how schools are going to handle the K process next year? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:30 PM Flag
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They are considering the following: Zoom parent interviews. Joining online classes for observations or watching school made videos of child. ISAAGNY report. Zoom test administered by a psychologist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:50 PM Flag
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Watching school made videos? Can you imagine? Maybe live feed would make sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:35 PM Flag
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Schools are still working to develop a plan - so they said during the Parents League kindergarten fair. Anyone who tells you schools ARE doing X, Y, or X at this point either works in admission at a school (in which case they should clarify which school) or they are speculating. If you want to know how schools are handling things, speak to the schools - many started online tours last month, and some may continue through the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Apologizing to my kids all day every day for not playing with them because I have to work is so brutal. That's all. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:20 PM Flag
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In solidarity sister. Seriously, it sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:24 PM Flag
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Yep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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im agonizing all day every day about whether or not to send my child to sleepaway camp this summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:28 PM Flag
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The camp will cancel - don’t worry. You won’t have to be the bad guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:31 PM Flag
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they have said they will open - they made the announcement nearly 3 weeks ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:22 PM Flag
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So did Tripp Lake and Takajo, but then decided to close last week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:27 PM Flag
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they had low interest - our interest is about 65% and camp feels they can do it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:33 PM Flag
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seriously my mom is trying to get my to send my dcs to camp for their mental health but im a physician and most of my colleagues are still too worried about camp. fwiw my dh grew up in a war torn 3rd world country and in general had very little parental involvement and he turned out ok. i truly believe kids are resilient [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:31 PM Flag
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You're already ahead of me - I have to apologize for snapping at them every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:29 PM Flag
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I'm sick about it. They're arguably old enough to entertain themselves (10 and 12) but it's awful. They are just so sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:45 PM Flag
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what are they doing this summer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:15 PM Flag
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A few online classes, bike riding and skateboarding. Lots of screen time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:45 PM Flag
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I feel this so much. Definitely feels like work has forgotten we still have kids at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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It's awful. I was considering taking leave from work, but I'm scared to get off the ferris wheel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:07 PM Flag
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Same. I'm a non-equity partner in a mid-size law firm. No way I can just take the summer off and pop back in in September. But every day is awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:46 PM Flag
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+1 A women in my office put in her notice last week. She has two young kids and just can't take it any more. Company offered to change her work hours or give her some unpaid leave, but she turned both offers down. I honestly am totally envious. I don't have the guts to do something like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:19 PM Flag
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Me neither, but I've been dreaming about it. Working from home with DC requires me to constantly choose between prioritizing my DC or work. My work has only ever been a means to support my family. While it's sometimes satisfying, I find it pointless and redundant. It was fine when I was in an office away from my family and there was nothing else to do, but it's practically torture now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:57 PM Flag
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I feel the same way. SO guilty. All these people who are having happy family time during covid... I am not among them. Working hard to keep up at work. Not at all there for my kids, except we eat dinner together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] We are relatively new to the city and will be applying to K, so I wanted to ask what makes Hunter so special, besides its selectivity? I know a couple of families who can afford private and were offered spots, but went with Hunter. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:11 PM Flag
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It’s selective, goes through 12 and it’s FREE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:35 PM Flag
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Also not under DOE thumb [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:11 PM Flag
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Smartest kids in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:46 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:51 PM Flag
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I have to dcs there and I dont know if this is right, but its FREE, teachers are great, parents are very involved and the common factor is that the children want to learn. Also, good socioeconomic diversity which is important to us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:12 PM Flag
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A decade ago, DD didn’t even make it to Round 2 for K but got a perfect G&T score a month later and was accepted at both Trinity and Brearley (we are not wealthy or connected). She is killing it at TT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:45 AM Flag
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All that proves is that Hunter has the smartest kids of your smart daughter did not even get into the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:43 AM Flag
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It has the smuggest parents in NYC, which is saying a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:51 PM Flag
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Oh please. There are smug, insufferable parents everywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:21 PM Flag
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There certainly are. But the Hunter parents are the worst, and they have pretty stiff competition. If I hear "The smartest kids in NYC! And it's free!" one more time from a hunter parent I will vomit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:24 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:51 PM Flag
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Haha, there's nothing wrong with liking your DC's school, but there's just something about the Hunter parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:52 AM Flag
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If you get into K, you are set through 12th grade graduation. And it's a great school. And it's FREE. Literally will save you millions compared to private, and will save years of worry about testing and admissions in 5th, 8th, etc...my DS made it to the 2nd round. I asked him how it went and he said he just sat on the floor and didn't say much and nobody was surprised when he got dinged. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:10 PM Flag
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Try again for 7th! My DS got dinged in K, accepted in 7th with zero prep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:56 PM Flag
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haha. Same boat. I asked my DD how it went and she said she didn't like it. She is in 1st grade now and still will mention the H play date sometimes with disgust. I'm not sure what happened, but the school didn't make a good impression on her, lol. Oh well. She loves her current school and is excited for her brother to join her in 2 years (I'm not even going to apply to H for him). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:04 PM Flag
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My DD got dinged at 2nd round too probably because she didn’t respond to answers. I was disappointed but obviously moved on from it. It would’ve been great not having to worry about MS and HS admissions. That’s really it. Have one at Hunter already and like every other school there are pros and cons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:08 PM Flag
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*questions. Not answers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:09 PM Flag
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Agree. Cons are - kids coming from all over (though by HS that's true of every school), and awful facilities. I can't think of any other cons. I guess it could be too hard for some kids, but if you don't prep your kid to the gills and s/he gets in for 7th, it's likely a good fit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:17 PM Flag
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NP: I have heard (from a Hunter parent) that some STEM and foreign languages classes are weak. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:27 PM Flag
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I agree but happy they’re getting language classes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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My DC is only in 7th but the foreign language is FAR above what he was getting in regular public MS. I can't speak for how it compares to private. Really like the teacher, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:38 PM Flag
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Totally agree on all fronts. It’s akin to a top suburban school with like 80% top students and 20% other above avg students [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:31 PM Flag
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This. It's the kids that make it really great at the end of the day. When I sat in on the classes I was blown away - not by what the class was doing per se, but by the level of engagement and thoughtfulness of the kids' comments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:41 PM Flag
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What would you say the pros and cons are? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:23 PM Flag
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Answered above. In many respects, it’s tougher to get into a CW due to the numbers. Pros- small community, good teachers, great principal Cons- small community, students spread out all over the city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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Really underwhelming facilities. Foreign languages and STEM are weak. College exmissions are not as strong as TT private. We know several families whose kids got into Hunter and chose private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Expecting a girl - we're thinking either Adina or Aviv (my husband is pushing for Maytal but I think that might be a bit too "out there"). Also Yael but I think it's a bit overdone (though beautiful). We have a DS named Micah. Thoughts? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:10 PM Flag
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We thought about Aviva, but my husband decided it sounded "too Jewish" for a child from a mixed marriage. (We have a Jewish last name). But I guess that's what you're going for. All of these names sound fine to me. I even like Maytal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:17 PM Flag
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Aviva is very pretty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:25 PM Flag
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+1 I had a good fried named Aviva, means springtime, I believe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:27 PM Flag
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Shorten all of them - Adie, Avi, Mayti and yell them 20 times. That's you at the park. Still like them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:27 PM Flag
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And I wasn't meaning that to be snarky. I just wanted to make sure you like the nicknames as you won't have a lot of control over that. I like my son's full name, it's not long. 80% of people call him a shortened nickname. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:28 PM Flag
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You just took out the Jewish part [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:36 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:39 PM Flag
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Eh, my name is Alexandra and I've been very clear that I go by Alexandra, not Alex. Never has really been a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:47 PM Flag
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It’s not a problem at all, you absolutely do control what people call you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:52 PM Flag
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DS is William. Got shortened to Will in college. Helped differentiate him before that since there were always Wills and Liams in his class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:12 PM Flag
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omg Avi means father or dad. So no. np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:49 AM Flag
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Abba is Dad!!!! Aviv means spring Avi is short for Avraham [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:10 PM Flag
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i love Yael [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:28 PM Flag
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I like all of those names. Maytal to me seems really beautiful and not out there (and I don't have any cultural connection to these names). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:30 PM Flag
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I love Adina but they are all pretty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:36 PM Flag
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Aviva is lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:40 PM Flag
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Adina sounds like adenoid and Maytal is too close to Maytag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:41 PM Flag
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Not this. Ridiculous. Every name is close to something else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:48 PM Flag
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NP: I also thought Maytag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:11 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks everyone for your comments. Just to confirm - Aviv is not a typo, it is a name by itself without the a. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:48 PM Flag
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np: I know an Aviv. I love the name. Adina is a little more old-fashioned, I think. (But my kids have biblical names, so who am I to say?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:07 PM Flag
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I think most people will assume it is a typo. I'm not a fan, personally. I think AvivA is lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:15 PM Flag
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+1. And when I find out it's not a typo, I just think of Tel Aviv. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:37 PM Flag
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Exactly: when the settlers built it at the mouth of the Yarkon River, they named it "Hill of Spring". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:41 PM Flag
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If you name her Aviv she will probably have to deal with the typo/correcting people issue her whole life. I wouldn't do that to her if I were you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:55 PM Flag
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Pretty sure that's a male name, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:13 AM Flag
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Very very ethnic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:51 PM Flag
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Israeli names? I've always liked Sivan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:51 PM Flag
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I like Sivan and Aviva [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:27 PM Flag
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Adina is so beautiful. And goes great with Micah. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:47 PM Flag
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(Christian white chick here FWIW) I know you're looking at Aviv but personally I love Aviva. It's my best friend's name. I think it's beautiful but also has an edge to it and makes me think of someone vivacious and full of life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:05 PM Flag
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I love Aviva too, but it makes me think of the annoying character on the show Wild Kratts. Clearly I have small children... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:59 PM Flag
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Had a horrible experience with an Adina, thereby hating that name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:21 PM Flag
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Toots and the Maytals, great band! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:55 AM Flag
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Aviva. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:40 AM Flag
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I like Maytal! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Any CT moms on ...are Southbury & Woodbury CT as nice as Ridgefield area.. looking for a weekend place & Ridgefield prices / taxes are high based on schools ....other towns are more affordable if we are willing to go further which we are but I want to make sure I don't buy in a dumpy area...thank u ! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:03 PM Flag
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Woodbury is beautiful, lots of historic colonial homes and an easy drive to other towns nearby like New Preston, Litchfield etc. Southbury is a smidge closer, but more commercial and not as picturesque. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:08 PM Flag
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Ridgefield is decidedly more fancy, and a bigger town, more restaurants/shops etc. Woodbury and Southbury are both much more rural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:09 PM Flag
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We live in Easton, moved from Brooklyn. The real estate here is unbelievable value, had I know about this town when I lived in Brooklyn I'd have bought a house in a minute: woodsy, very quiet, many farm but not dumpy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:09 PM Flag
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*farms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:10 PM Flag
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What are the schools like in Easton? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:13 PM Flag
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OP: they're actually excellent, and why we moved here. But: not fancy and zero pretense. If you're looking for Litchfield you're not going to like Easton. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:23 PM Flag
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Roxbury, CT or Washington, CT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:52 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the best place to order moving boxes from? We are in the city. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:52 PM Flag
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Yes, home depot. Super cheap compared to other places. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:02 PM Flag
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We used uboxes.com. It seemed cheaper, but I didn't realize that all of their boxes are generally squares - even the big ones (with the exception of the hanging/garment boxes). We're hiring movers (but packing ourselves) so it won't affect us much, but the sizes are a bit more cumbersome. I still need to buy some of the tall boxes from Home Depot - we have some things that just don't fit in a square box. I do like their room-specific packing tape (different colors with room name on it), though, and we bought a "room package" that includes packing paper, bubble wrap, etc. Their regular packing tape is junk, though - you're better off buying Duck brand (or similar) from Amazon or another site. I got the "fragile" and "heavy" labels from Amazon, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:15 PM Flag
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^Just looked at Home Depot and realized the boxes are similar - we have been spoiled with having the movers pack us as they provide a selection of tall packing boxes. Looks like I won't be getting them after all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] DS has been working with a school psychologist for about five years who has been fantastic. He "graduates" to middle school this year. I'd like to get her something but have no idea what. Does anyone have suggestions? thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:52 PM Flag
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the best thing would be a handwritten note from DS (and one from you too) expressing how much her help has meant to you both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:31 PM Flag
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and tell her boss! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:52 PM Flag
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DS or DD? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm not one to hassle the teachers but have occasionally- throughout the year- sent emails with questions, or have responded to an email with a question. I've noticed that when they don't feel like answering a question they just blow it off. For example, I checked in to see how my DS was doing/is work being completed, when there are tests can they let parents know when results are available,will there be any kind of final update at the end of the year how the kid did. "all fine"--- other questions blown off. I don't do this when I respond to client/colleague- or any- emails. Should I follow up/press? I find it super weird. Thanks. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:50 PM Flag
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Yes, definitely. I think it’s like anything else - the squeaky wheel always gets greased. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:02 PM Flag
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OP: ok. You're right. I'll wait until Monday. Maybe I'll even go through *all* of the unanswered questions throughout the year and hit them with everything. Seriously? I hate this sh*t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:07 PM Flag
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Don't hit the teacher with a lot of questions in one email. You may as well ask if you have talk to each other on the phone. That may be easier for both of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:13 PM Flag
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It happens to me too. I don’t ask enough questions or complain enough, so I’m not on their radar. If it matters to you, you have to put yourself on their radar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:14 PM Flag
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OP sound like she's plenty squeaky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:13 PM Flag
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OP: actually no. I think I've sent a grand total of four emails all year. All. Year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:43 PM Flag
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What questions are being blown off? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:04 PM Flag
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OP: written above: "will there be any kind of end-of-year update" (as there are no parent/teacher conferences), "can we be notified when results from online test are available" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:06 PM Flag
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Yes, we have given way too much power to teachers and tip toeing around them. I respect and I am thankful for teachers. However, it is a job and one that needs to be done to completion no matter what. I am also tired of the gift giving etc...I don't get a gift because I do my job, and I do it well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:14 PM Flag
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OP: sorry but I completely agree. The gift giving! The accolades! The soliloquy! I get it: tough few months with need to quickly adapt. But that has been the case for all of us, and I'm also dealing with the possibility of losing my job or facing a salary cut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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This has absolutely been my experience. They're quick to email parents to tattle about something your kid did that annoyed them (your son interrupted me during quiet reading time) but questions you have about things that matter to you get ignored. And heaven forbid you ask for advice about how to actually help your kid learn something they don't get, since parents are expected to fill in all the gaps in their kids' understanding of the material - the answer is always "just have them practice more on line. Or here is the list of teachers who are happy to tutor your kid after school for $75 an hour." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:38 PM Flag
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OP: this. So one of the ignored emails from many months ago pre-COVID was a tattle email. DS is unruly and rambunctious when returning from school breaks. So I responded: "this is very helpful. Thank you for letting me know. We'll talk to him but: how can we help? When you've seen this before with other kids, what has worked?" ZERO RESPONSE. And it's one of the responded questions that is really irking me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Help - someone suggested a florist in Yonkers and I forgot to mark the post. Really appreciate if whomever suggested, can reply here with the link. TIA! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:48 PM Flag
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Search function? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:31 PM Flag
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Doesn't work on UB. OP, you can try going to google and use a search term like 'Urban Baby Yonkers Florist' and it may turn up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:59 PM Flag
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like that - will remember for next time. fortunately i had written down in margin of some notes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else think the virtually staged photos in listings often look worse than the real ones? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:46 PM Flag
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I know that they’re meant to give you ideas but then you come to see the home and realize that they were really just reaching to get someone to personally view the home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:48 PM Flag
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That too. I have learned never to go to a viewing where they don't show the kitchens and baths. I used to be optimistic that it just meant a less than perfect kitchen/baths, but I'm realizing now it means gut jobs. Or, in at least one apartment I saw, no kitchen at all. The space existed, but there were no counters, no appliances, nothing. [ Reply | More
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I absolutely agree about the bathroom and kitchen. No pics is a disaster gut job! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:12 PM Flag
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I think it's fine when the listing is empty, it gives you a sense of size. I think it's funny / weird when they show the current decor and then wipe it out and show a different kitchen or different furniture. They show you both versions, as if to say, look at this person's horrible taste, wouldn't it be so much better with this all white furniture. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] School, I've been very pleased with your remote schooling plan in general, but remote Field Day is just sad and not really worth having.... 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:35 PM Flag
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OMG, just no to that. What does it entail? Does it make assumptions that every kid has access to a yard/outdoor space and a parent who can supervise/organize? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:44 PM Flag
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OP: fortunately they do not assume that every kid has access to outdoor (which is good), but then the activities are like weird games that kids set up around the house, which means that every 20 minutes my kid calls me to find her some plastic cups or a bucket while I'm trying to work. What's the point? There's no team building in doing activities alone, there's no exercise...Now my kid is upset because she didn't score enough points in her last activity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:53 PM Flag
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We got an email two weeks ahead with a list of household items that would be needed. I was annoyed but easier to do it ahead then get interrupted .. . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:07 PM Flag
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This sounds awful - so sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:33 PM Flag
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Omg, I thought you were joking. This is for real? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:01 PM Flag
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we have this also and the teachers were excellent about giving us a list of supplies well in advance so it sounds as if you are just unprepared [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:04 PM Flag
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WTF - people work and are basically overseeing academics for their kids - collecting a bunch of items is just not something most working people can add to their plate right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:17 PM Flag
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OP: didn't get a list of supplies. would have been nice, but still, having my kid play sock basketball alone seems like a useless exercise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:28 PM Flag
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Omg, way to be a dick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:28 PM Flag
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+1000 - I am supposed to collect socks to be used as balls and hampers to be used as nets. I get that they want to keep kids involved, but I have no bandwidth for this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:05 PM Flag
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My kids actually liked their remote field day. . . . I was shocked, but they stayed engaged for several hours and actually got a workout. All indoors, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:06 PM Flag
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We noped out of that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:07 PM Flag
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It is so ridiculous and they are grasping at straws. Would rather the teachers respond to emails and get the core subjects taught. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:15 PM Flag
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SAME!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:38 PM Flag
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Our DC's HS did a Field Day but they completely rethought what it meant. They announced where each senior is going to HS, with a pic of them and the school name on screen, then they did timed scavenger hunts with the MS buddies. My DC probably got more exercise that morning, racing around looking for things like paper clips and pajamas, than he did in the entire rest of the quarantine. From what we could see, it was pretty great, he had fun with friends and it brought the kids together for something other than classes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:08 PM Flag
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Having it now and I think it's great! Getting a workout and keeping her occupied [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:17 PM Flag
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We opted out, but I don’t fault the school. It may be fun for some kids, but I figured it would be more fun for my kid to just be outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Darnella Frazier, the 17-year old who recorded the entire George Floyd murder, is being lauded for her camerawork. https://www.thewrap.com/darnella-frazier-filmmaker-george-floyd-killing-video/ I'm wondering if her recording would fit in a category for Pulitzer Prize. Anyone know? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:29 PM Flag
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Good question. I also heard the poor girl is getting threats and being called out for not helping/saving him. A 17 year old girl. Not only did she watch a man being murdered in cold blood, but now she has to have that unimaginable guilt, when in reality, because of her there will be justice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:42 PM Flag
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np: Also, other people who did try to intervene were stopped by the other officers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:46 PM Flag
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How could she have prevented four police officers from doing what they were doing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:58 PM Flag
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Exactly. People are cruel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:35 PM Flag
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right what was she going to do, call the police? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:21 PM Flag
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NP- Well, to be totally logical, if she had called 911, the officers might have been contacted over their radios and it could have stopped it. That said, it probably wouldn't have happened efficiently enough to save him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me if I'm in my head too much...tried (and failed) to connect w/ 2 different longtime dear friends who are fairly local and neither followed up w/ me. I did try a 2nd time and just never heard. I know they both have their own stuff going on, but we have always been the kind of friends who can be totally vulnerable w/ each other. Feel stupid that I'm hurt (and kind of selfish) but I just am. Logically I couldn't have done anything to make them mad bc last contacts were positive, but that's where I go. I think being home too much really making me a little nuts....and lonely somehow 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:23 PM Flag
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How frequently do you speak to them under normal circumstances? I don't know about you, but each day is insane for me. Work plus home schooling plus worrying about everything that's going on in the world is really exhausting. I pretty much never want to do catch up calls...especially if it's a friend I haven't talked to in a while where I know it's going to be an hour call at minimum. Are you calling them or are you texting? Give us a few more details. But my first inclination is to just let them get back to you when they have time. I don't think them being most likely overwhelmed right now says anything about you or your friendship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:28 PM Flag
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OP: Not that often under normal circumstances but neither of them have young children who they're home schooling. One isn't working at all. But I do see your point about having nothing left at the end of the day. I've been there and I get it. It's just that one had been the initiator w/ me and had previously indicated that weekly calls would be good for her. The other one had indicated that she is often alone and has too much free time so that's where I'm confused. But who knows, maybe they're both struggling and just don't want to talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:44 PM Flag
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When you say 'weekly calls would be good for her' - are you saying she asked you to do weekly arranged calls? Or did you ask her what would work and she answered 'weekly.' I'm just asking because with a few of my friend groups we set up weekly or every 2 week zoom calls and they got to be way too much very quickly. Everyone has all sorts of things going on with managing these days and it was stressful knowing every Thursday night we had to hop on and kind of rehash last week's call. If I were you, I would just leave it and let your friends reach out when they have time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:59 PM Flag
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The weekly calls were her idea (though I was happy to oblige). She's got some crappy stuff going on in her life and I was happy to listen and offer support. But you're right to advise letting them reach out when they're ready. I just needed some confirmation I guess bc being home all of the time leaves me feeling a little sad and lonely. I'm someone who needs to be out doing things to feel ok. More of an extrovert I guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:02 PM Flag
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I am too. I posted here about being sad that a friend ghosted. It seems doubly hurtful at a time like this. And I am certain she ghosted. I think one day I will realize it was for the best but I feel like right now, I need all the connections I can get - especially one that was a close connection pre-Pandemic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:14 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry that happened. I just never understand that. Is there any chance she just forgot to text back? Either way, no one deserves to be ghosted and anyone who does that is really hiding from their own vulnerability but geez - isn't that what good friends are for?? I just could never ever do that to someone. I hate that it's become a thing now. UGH, so sorry. Wishing you some better connections soon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:51 PM Flag
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No, she did something hurtful and whether or not she meant to she couldn't cop to it and apologize. So that was that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:18 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:33 PM Flag
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i've been ghosted and blown out so many times recently. i don't know the answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:29 PM Flag
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I haven’t gotten back to a few people. It’s not them; it’s me. I have a full plate at home and have nothing left to give at the end of the day. If I text someone back, they will text me back, and on and on and on. I can’t keep up right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:36 PM Flag
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OP: sorry to hear that. I would so much rather someone just tell me they're busy or in a bad place then ghost. I go down this rabbit hole about feeling unimportant sometimes and it hurts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:46 PM Flag
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But they want to reach out to you, and plan on it. They don’t mean to ghost. This is a terrible time and it’s not about you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:06 PM Flag
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Agreed, I know I'm being self absorbed but kid of just needed to hear it. I know you're right - thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:48 PM Flag
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OP, are you local to nyc? One other thing I've noticed is that if you live in NYC, basically everyone you know from high school on has been reaching out since Covid started. It's very sweet, but it's a ton of people you haven't spoken to in forever. Maybe your friends have a ton of people reaching out and they're buried. If you want to make plans with them, be direct. Text and say 'hey, we're going to be in the park at 5pm tomorrow. If you want to join for a socially distanced, walk, let me know!' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:43 PM Flag
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No I'm in the burbs. And I was pretty direct w/ the one who I wanted to get together with. Wishy washy plans drive me nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:48 PM Flag
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Np-op- I am you. I have had people text me saying that they have not heard from me in a while, am I ok? People get used to me initiating the convo Always and never initiate. When they are the ones who initiate they find it weird and then blame me for keeping contact. It is weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:48 PM Flag
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And a double standard. If these people don’t come around, then they are ghosting you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:49 PM Flag
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UGH - people blame you for keeping in touch? that stinks. I'm glad people at least reach out to you. I wouldn't trade my family for anything, but sometimes I miss the easy days of my 20s when plans were always easy and a given every weekend (of course then I did live in NYC). It's like pulling teeth to get people to do things. Kind of a crappy aspect of adulthood (for me) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:52 PM Flag
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Meant to say they blame me for NOT keeping in contact. “Oh you must be so busy”. “I haven’t heard from you, is everything OK “. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:16 PM Flag
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Oh I see - that makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:43 PM Flag
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If I did not reach out, most of the friendships would fade. I understand what you are going through. The trash takes itself out in cases like this. You willlikely be better off without them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:19 PM Flag
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did you try calling instead of texting / email? Emails and texts can go unread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:12 PM Flag
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Yes, the texts were returned and left off w/ plans "I'll call you tomorrow" or "I may not be able to meet Monday bc I have to do X" - and then I see she's posting pics of her hike on FB etc., (this is what I mean about me being nuts. I'm feeling like an 8th grade girl which I know is just dumb) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:45 PM Flag
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Hm. That would hurt my feelings too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:01 PM Flag
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or maybe she had the other plans in place tentatively and truly just went with Plan A without meaning to be hurtful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:19 PM Flag
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Sorry this is happening to you but I think is a symptom of what's happening right now. People are feeling fragile, they are worried for their safety and their jobs. They feel like since you've been vunerable w each other on the past, a talk is going to unleash all those issues and they just aren't ready to do that. Either that or they are just generally overwhelmed and dropping the ball. One of my close friends hasn't spoken to me 1:1 since this started. (We've been in group chats and few group texts.) Everytime we have a plan to catch up she gets busy, is too exhausted, or claims to have forgotten. I think she just can't handle an intense convo and is avoiding me. Trying to have compassion but also frustrated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:22 PM Flag
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I understand that. I have also thought that these 2 people may see me as having things a bit easier in my life right now and that may be preventing them reaching out. Usually when we talk it's about their issues and I only touch on mine I think mostly bc I've been mostly OK. I'm just less OK now but they have no way of knowing that. Honestly this is very helpful for me. Just needed some reassurance so thank you:). AND - I hope your friend does reach out to you soon:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:47 PM Flag
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I'm glad it helped. You sound like a good friend and I'm sure these friendships will be back to normal when life is back to normal.❤️ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:57 PM Flag
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Thank you! You too!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:08 PM Flag
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Well OP that is VERY telling. It sounds like these women were giving you evidence before this happened, that you are their sounding board but it's not mutual. That's disappointing but good to know. Maybe these aren't the friends for you to lean on when things get rough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:20 PM Flag
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I guess you're probably right. I am lucky to have a supportive family, but I don't feel like I have any friends who I can just call when things get tough. I feel like no one really does that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:38 PM Flag
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yes and in a time like this it is thrown into high relief - hard to miss. I am sorry and I am in the same boat at least with local friends. Old friends from college and high school have been more supportive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:19 PM Flag
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glad to hear you have old friends who are there for you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:32 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:34 PM Flag
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I would try to not take it personally. It's been interesting watching how my friendships have changed during this time. A couple people pretty much dropped off the face of the earth except for a couple texts so trying to give them space. I have other friends who want to do video calls a couple times a month or text all week long and I'm exhausted after a long day at work, I don't have the mental energy to keep up with that many video calls and texts right now. I am emotionally exhausted and am glad for their concern but at the same time, they seem needier than usual and want to vent and I just am spent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:51 PM Flag
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I think you're right and I totally understand how you feel. And I tend to keep things light hearted w/ my friends but do leave room for them to talk about whatever is going on if they want to. I'm generally a very positive person and I miss them because we ALWAYS have a nice combination of talking about real stuff + lots of laughs. I am giving them their space though bc clearly that's what they need. Anyway, thanks for your input - I appreciate it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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Hang in there, you sound like a good friend! Hopefully things improve soon! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:51 AM Flag
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Also I recommend un following these women or quitting social media for now- people are selling just what they want you to see, it’s not reality and can incite jealousy . Plus It’s all gotten so political and angry. I agree with a lot of the posts but it’s not bringing me joy at a time when I am already unhappy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] how do you feel about/ think about helping friends get jobs? I feel like it's a great way if you can to help people and always try to help folks - even if it's not at my company, it's just super important to me. And I am shocked at how many people do not prioritize this. what do you do? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:12 PM Flag
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I think it's weird. You should get a job on your own merit. As someone who is an introvert with not many friends, I find it totally unfair that people give jobs to their friends and family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:14 PM Flag
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so if you knew about someone hiring for a job and a friend was looking for a job, you wouldn't link them together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:29 PM Flag
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Merit? How are you measuring merit? Merit is a myth. A fancy school on a resume, where the person's grandfather might have given a building? Networks matter, and using them to help people in need, especially people with less access to powerful networks, is important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:32 PM Flag
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I'm married to a long-time freelancer and I think the societal attitude about this has really changed in the past decade or so. People have moved from "let me help you out by connecting you" to what the above post said... essentially "you need work so you must not be deserving of help." Please keep doing what you're doing, it's so, so important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:32 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:42 PM Flag
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I feel any referral I make comes with my personal endorsement, so if I don't think highly of your work (even if we are friends) I won't do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:16 PM Flag
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I don't mind referring people or putting people in contact with each other, but I am not doing follow up, etc. for the person.....I have found that many people want to be spoon fed and also want you to basically drop a job in their laps and I cannot/will not do that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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It becomes awkward when the friend isn't up to par. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:29 PM Flag
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Well, by putting people in touch -- giving access to information about a job, about a candidate -- you are not taking responsibility for whether or not it would be a good fit. It's the company's decision who to hire, and the company's responsibility if it goes bad. Of course, you shouldn't overclaim for friends or lie about their capabilities, but otherwise, it's not on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:34 PM Flag
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I give advice freely, but people gotta be willing to put in the work and time. Finding a job requires stamina, positivity, and humility. Anyone who has those qualities doesn't need much from me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:03 PM Flag
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i disagree. I spent 7 months job hunting and it took every waking moment i had minus 2 hours a day for my kids. i got so depressed but i kept going. people could use help. it's tough out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:26 PM Flag
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Agree with the job hunter. It's tough out there. Every connection helps. I try to help when I can and would hope others would feel the same way too. But in my experience, most don't help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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Of course I help - with advice, my network, if I've heard of an opportunity. Connecting a good candidate with a job is a favor for both sides of the equation! I so appreciated the people who met with me to chat about the industry and help keep me connected when I was looking so I make sure to do that too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Who checked their portfolio today and did a happy dance? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:47 PM Flag
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I feel a sense of impending doom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:08 PM Flag
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This. Now that I mostly recovered from March, I did a happy dance that I could sell off almost everything except my bonds and some target funds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:25 PM Flag
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I'm a markets professional and I don't get emotional over my investments - the question I ask myself is "what should I do next?" I am more bearish on the markets, more inclined to go short than do a happy dance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:58 PM Flag
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What are your thoughts on oil? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:05 PM Flag
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I did a bit as I was able to get more of my money out where I bought rather than the loss it would have been 2 weeks ago. I see nothing that tells me the economy is headed up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:04 PM Flag
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The economy and the market are not the same. This crisis solidifies that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:36 PM Flag
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I am not really happy about anything these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:06 PM Flag
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Who cares? Money isn't even real. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:11 PM Flag
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I don't really understand why the market keeps going up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:17 PM Flag
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See unemployment numbers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:40 PM Flag
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"only" 13% unemployment - woo hoo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:47 PM Flag
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No happy dance, though I laced up my sneakers and "muzzle" and went for a Happy Run. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:28 PM Flag
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Why do you call a mask a “muzzle”? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:37 PM Flag
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Because it's snug-fitting around my jaw and up to my eyes, and I can't slip my fingers under it. It's also very confining. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:10 PM Flag
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Haha, I hate wearing mine too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:27 PM Flag
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I did feel happy, at least I felt justified that I didn't sell anything when people were telling me that they were taking money out, and instead I put money in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:34 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Best reusable masks? Need to order some online 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:45 PM Flag
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los angeles apparel's are well designed, fit tight and made in a soft terry, but are too hot for exercise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:05 PM Flag
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Second this. We have kid and adult sizes, and we like that they go behind the head, not the ears. They do get hot, though - the ones with folds seem to be a little easier to breathe in during hot weather (though mine were promotions at stores, so I can't help with finding them online). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:20 PM Flag
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Kakooshka.com. Only $7 and so cute!! Comfy too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] My kid is finishing eighth grade. Since there is no graduation this year he already received his diploma, but the teachers are still assigning graded work every day. Whats the point? Its so stupid, just so the teachers can justify what they're doing I guess? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:31 PM Flag
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To get them prepped for high school, which will be more rigorous? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:34 PM Flag
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If I hear the term rigor one more time... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:41 PM Flag
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So these extra seven days of assignments will make the difference for them come September? Cause that will teach them how to really buckle down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:48 PM Flag
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np: they’re required to have a certain number of instructional days. Would you rather they watch movies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:56 PM Flag
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Yes, very very much so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:59 PM Flag
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Given what is going on in the broader society, it would be more worthwhile to have (non graded) instruction about some of the issues. Watching a movie such as the 13th amendment would be instructive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:44 PM Flag
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And discussions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:45 PM Flag
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So don't do them then. School is still in session. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:05 PM Flag
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A diploma for 8th grade? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:34 PM Flag
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End of MS, I suppose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:08 PM Flag
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My DC went to a K-8, he graduated and got a diploma. It was a sweet ceremony, the parents and teachers all enjoyed the bittersweet moment and the kids were all excited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:13 PM Flag
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Of all things to be frustrated about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:35 PM Flag
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please. anyone is allowed to be frustrated about anything they want. people can be multi faceted, it's true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:42 PM Flag
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It is pretty pointless. Many schools and teachers, especially the traditional ones, lose sight of what education is and can’t think much beyond grading. One of the best teachers my kids had - still talk about it years later - was a social studies teacher who would interrupt the curriculum when there was a major event and teach around the event: causes, consequences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:40 PM Flag
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Isn’t this the opposite? Mom is saying that grading is over so why are the kids still learning? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:27 PM Flag
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Don’t have him do the work. Others want their kids to have work to keep them busy. Teachers have different kids and families that all have different needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:28 PM Flag
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And also a job to do: to teach kids every day they are in session. Chances are they are following their lesson plan that was mapped out before COVID, not just throwing random work at kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Tennis moms - which program is better for kids? The Riverside Clay Tennis Association or Central Park Tennis Center? Thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:20 PM Flag
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They are all closed so who cares! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:45 PM Flag
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Absurd, but true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Probably the most overdone question of the month but any fathers day gift recommendations? TIA 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:20 PM Flag
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Bottle of scotch. Done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:49 PM Flag
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Doesn't drink anything else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:05 PM Flag
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I'm a DH and don't care for scotch either: in these crazy times, a bottle of wine or even a case of craft beer would be very much appreciated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:19 PM Flag
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My DH wanted a roomba so we got that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:07 PM Flag
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We do only minimal gifts for mother's and father's day (like my kids will give me some nice soap or make a card for my husband), but we have a very nice breakfast with bagels and lox (which we don't usually get because it's expensive.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:03 PM Flag
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Apple Watch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:36 PM Flag
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But know your audience: my DH doesn't want one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm so sad today, we have twin boys who are almost 6yo. They started K at a great private in September and we really love it. We knew that one of our boys was going to have learning issues, he's always been way behind his brother, but we've had a few meetings with the school about it and they've recommended that we move him to a specialized school. We live in midtown on the west side, should we move both to keep them together, and what schools should we apply to for one versus both? Anyone been through this, please tell me it's going to be ok 126 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:27 PM Flag
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I would not keep them together. Each should have the best school for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:31 PM Flag
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Thanks, I guess I'm wondering if there's a school where they could be together as twins and siblings but each get the stimulation and support they need. I feel like if we split them up and one goes to a special school it's going to be really tough when they're older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:50 PM Flag
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np don't think if it in that way. think of putting each kid in the best school for his needs even if it is diff schools. I know twins where one is in mainstream school and one is at specialized school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:18 PM Flag
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Thankyou [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:08 PM Flag
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Yes, do not keep them together. In this situation, they are different individuals with different needs and tracks. Help them develop their own identities. Keeping them together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:32 PM Flag
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^ will only reinforce comparison with each other on every assignment, class grade. It will be ok, you will all settle in, but being a parent of a DC with any type of differences is challenging. It might be a bit of a long road. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:34 PM Flag
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^ in terms of which school to apply, this needs to be driven by DC’s needs. Get inputs from the school, do a neuropsych, make your own observations about DC and go from there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:36 PM Flag
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I'm not sure I would take advice from the school. Just go to a good neuropsych. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:39 PM Flag
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Good point. Sometimes though, the input from an experienced teacher can be valuable, to be taken as just one piece of the puzzle. Similarly, neuropsych are far from perfect either, especially at such a young age (BTDT). I would treat everything as a piece of a puzzle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:47 PM Flag
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OP - thank you, I feel like the current teacher just didn't care and didn't want to put in the time. The school actually didn't want to take him but agreed to try for a year [ Reply | More
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