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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] How can I find out which camps will be open in and around nyc? Is there a list somewhere? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:06 AM Flag
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seems like most will be open but not until end of July. Chelsea Piers, Steve & Kates [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] How much sleep do your kids get and how old are they? What time do they go to bed and rise? Everyday feels like Friday night/Saturday around here lately. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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9 year old (just turned). I try to get him to bed by 9:30 latest. He wakes up at the crack of dawn. Basically 6. Drives me crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:45 AM Flag
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Tween DD is similar. In normal times she's in bed by 8:30-9 but lately closer to 9:30. And she always gets up EARLY no matter what. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:27 AM Flag
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My 10 yo DD went to bed at 2 am yesterday. She's turning into a night owl like her father. They like hanging out together at night. I need to get her back on a normal sleep schedule. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:50 AM Flag
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9 and 11 Pre-COVID, M-F, by 8:30. Now, by 9:30. Today, just now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:23 AM Flag
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7 and 10 yo are in bed by 8:30 and up around 6:30-7. 13 yo is more like 10-6:30. I really hope he starts to sleep in sometime soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:24 AM Flag
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7- 9 year olds bed at 7:30 and wake up at 7 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:11 AM Flag
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9 yr old goes to bed at 7:30? mine is up until 10 these days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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8 and 9 11-8 the past few months. Usually 10-7. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:12 AM Flag
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Not enough. I have an 8yr old and she sleeps 8pm-7am. Sharp and sweet kid when rested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 05:32 AM Flag
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12 yo sleeps from 9.30-7.30 on school days. On weekends she would sleep till noon if we let her. 8 yo goes to be at 8pm and wakes up at 7.30am [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:18 AM Flag
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8 and 10 year olds usually go down around 11pm (pre covid bedtime was 9 but they would stay up talking until 10 or later anyway). 14 year old around midnight. I've given up yelling "go to bed" and just warn that they'll be tired in the morning, but they never are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:07 AM Flag
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7 year old goes to bed at 9, doesn't fall asleep till 10, wakes up at 6. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:07 PM Flag
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12 yo 9:30 pm and wakes up at 7 now, 14 yo 10 pm - noon if no school 9 if school now, 19 yo who knows when he goes to bed but usually up no later than 10 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:14 PM Flag
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My 15 yo DS goes to sleep around 1 and wakes up at 8:30, and my 18 yo DD goes to sleep at 2 and wakes up at 11. Her college isn't in EST so she's up on Zoom with her friends late at night a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Any good books on adhd? Really really struggling with our six year old and deciding ether to medicate. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:23 AM Flag
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How much exercise does he/she get? 6 is young for ADHD medication. Do you have a mini trampoline? Pogo stick? Easy ways to burn a ton of energy in a small space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:36 AM Flag
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Thanks. Not enough at the moment. Things are somewhat better when he’s worn out but not much. He’s been very very difficult for his whole life. He’s aggressive toward us and his sibling, and we are at our wits end. At what age do people start medication generally? His therapist is pushing for it somewhat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:26 AM Flag
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You could always try it and see how it works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:42 AM Flag
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Is he in behavioral therapy? Is the aggression the reason to medicate? Because that could be ADHD (impulsivity) or some other behavioral issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:14 AM Flag
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He has been in behavioral therapy for a long time. Doesn’t seem to be helping much. Anxiety and ODD are also part of his diagnosis. The meds would be for the defiance and aggression. I don’t think he can pay attention in school either but I’m less worried about that at this stage in life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:52 PM Flag
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Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder Is a good one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:44 PM Flag
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It's not specifically about ADHD but The Explosive Child by Ross Greene is supposed to be good. BTW I and both my sibs were medicated for ADD starting at 8/9. Medication really helped with managing impulses and emotional volatility but ramped up anxiety/intrusive thoughts. I stopped medicating in my late twenties when my executive functioning had matured and I didn't need any more support than strong coffee. Good luck, start with low doses, monitor carefully, stop if necessary, and don't let anyone shame you. You and DS are both doing your best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:43 PM Flag
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My sister is an executive functioning coach and she recommends the Explosive Child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:06 PM Flag
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Good website for this - additudemag.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 12:08 AM Flag
[ - ] DD is at CSH . Love it & want to remain SS . But may want to leave NYC . Aware of Greenwich & Washington DC SS schools. If you could choose any city / burb / flyover for best SS for girls K to 12 , where would you send a DD ? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:43 AM Flag
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Hockaday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:30 AM Flag
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Agnes Irwin outside Philadelphia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:34 AM Flag
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Stuart Country Day in Princeton. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 09:19 AM Flag
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Don’t consider this school. The leadership is awful. They treat faculty terribly and the School has been struggling with low enrollment for years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:49 AM Flag
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Why move if you love it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:26 AM Flag
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They love the school, but not the city (anymore) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:31 PM Flag
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Holton-Arms, Bethesda [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:55 AM Flag
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A much better school than CSH for sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:13 PM Flag
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The Baldwin School (Main Line, outside Philadelphia) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:31 PM Flag
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How Catholic does CSH feel? I think that would be as important to the culture as single sex. . . . you may want to look at Catholic girls schools. Holy Child (Rye NY), CSH (Greenwich CT), Oak Knoll (Summit NJ) are all pricey Catholic girls schools in the NY suburbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:36 PM Flag
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Main Line schools outside Philadelphia as mentioned above, Kent Place in Summit, NJ, and Castilleja in Palo Alto, CA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:34 PM Flag
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I've been very impressed by the women I met from Laurel School in Ohio. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 01:44 AM Flag
[ - ] I need to get the F away from DH. Where can I still rent a cottage/bungalow/home for a month or 2 this summer? 4 hour drive from nyc 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:49 PM Flag
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Rhode Island [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:53 PM Flag
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Catskills, Berkshires. There’s also Vermont but that’s longer than 4 hours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:19 AM Flag
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Just you alone ? What's the budget ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:33 AM Flag
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OP: 2 teenage girls would be with me. Budget is not limitless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:30 AM Flag
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Do they want to get away from him too, or just get away? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:40 AM Flag
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No, more so me who needs to get away from him. I try to make things nice for them. They probably know how I feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:52 AM Flag
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OP: anything south in jersey or west in PA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:53 AM Flag
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Cape May, NJ and Avalon, NJ are nice. New Hope, PA is cute or other towns in Bucks County. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:46 AM Flag
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spring lake is beautiful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:49 PM Flag
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Really depends on your budget. The teens won't be happy where they have no friends and nothing to do, so factor that in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:01 PM Flag
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OP, can you afford to have your girls bring a friend for part of the time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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OP: yes, I was thinking to bring 1-2 other kids for company but then I think about 4 teenage girls... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 09:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Need a new phone - currently have iPhone 7 that has worked fine for me, but time to change out. iPhone 11 worth it or OK with the iPhone X? I don't car about a lot of bells and whistles so am leaning toward the X unless someone convinces me otherwise.... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:45 PM Flag
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Yes so worth it for the camera. Get the 11. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:03 AM Flag
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Get the iPhone SE. Great deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:43 AM Flag
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this this this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:43 AM Flag
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Get an SE, they brought back the home button. I have a X and hate not having one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:08 AM Flag
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The X sucks. Doesn’t have a jack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:20 AM Flag
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I have an X. It’s good but at this point just get an 11 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:28 AM Flag
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I used to have the X and now have 11 pro. I really don't see a difference. Just go w the X if you don't care [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:22 PM Flag
[ - ] If you take Lexapro, what is your dose? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:41 PM Flag
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10 mg. I tried doing 20 and it made me a narcoleptic. FWIW my previous drugs (that worked but I didn't like the side effects) were paxil 60 mg with 300mg welbutrin, and 20mg of prozac with 300 mg of wellbutrin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:18 AM Flag
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10 mg. But I started at 5 or maybe even 2.5 and went up slowly. When I was pregnant and breastfeeding the dose was higher because blood volume was increased. I also take Wellbutrin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:08 AM Flag
[ - ] We’ve been paying our part time babysitter since mid March but not using her. Now I have learned I won’t be back in the office until next year. I told her we needed to reduce amount by mid July and encouraged her to look for other work. Our kids are tweens now. Anyone else been through this? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:38 PM Flag
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You should tell her that you can't keep paying her. It is very kind you paid her this long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:46 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:18 AM Flag
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Going through similar except sitter was out of country until May so we haven’t been paying her. I need to decide when/how to tell her she’s probably never coming back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:52 AM Flag
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Same exact situation. Started by telling her we won’t be paying her when we are on vacation (that’ll be 3 weeks this summer)—original situation was to give her this as PTO in order to offer a competitive package but that was before! We will likely give her notice of further reduction once we know what next school year holds. If it’s remote, at least in part, I’ll be remote too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Just found out that a finance friend is retiring at the ripe old age of 40-something. I work in healthcare, work hard and proud of what I do, make a good living, etc. But part of me is just so jealous - this person who just shuffles other people's money around has been so well compensated that they can retire, while I know that i have another 25+ years that I'll get to/have to keep working. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:05 PM Flag
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Just know that that’s EXTREMELY rare even among the finance people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:09 PM Flag
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OP: And yet, here we are. They're lovely people, at least, but still leaves me feeling at least as sad for myself as I am happy for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:16 PM Flag
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Because they don't want to -- it's never enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:50 PM Flag
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THIS. Plenty of finance people, if they manage their money correctly could easily retire. They choose not to, because as much as they like to make money, they like to spend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:25 PM Flag
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Many are being laid off or have not had a significant bonus in quite some time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:56 PM Flag
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boo fricken' hoo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:14 PM Flag
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NP: This is because many people in finance have the most high-maintenance, costly lifestyles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:25 PM Flag
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must have family money, or really lucky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:43 PM Flag
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Full retirement or going to find something else to do? This wouldn't have been my choice at 40 even if I could have afforded it, but good for him or her, I guess. And I get how you feel. Compensation is so out of scale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:44 PM Flag
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Just a little burned out here. COVID, racial aggression, working so frickin hard. Just catching me at a vulnerable moment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:11 PM Flag
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I fully support your feelings of discomfort [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:18 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:15 PM Flag
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Yeah, don't feel guilty over your feelings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:46 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks - you're right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:12 PM Flag
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umm this person is not retiring. This person was told they were going to be laid off and took a less embarrassing way. My brother did this too. He "retired" at 50 and got another job later on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:47 PM Flag
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This. Very common in finance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:51 PM Flag
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No one is retiring in this type of market in finance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:11 AM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:20 AM Flag
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This. And IF they were truly retiring, they would at least wait for one last bonus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:52 AM Flag
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+4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 09:47 PM Flag
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I have 2 female friends both single, not from wealth families who retired at 40. That was about 10 years ago. Sometimes it is hard for us to relate. I'm overwhelmed with 2 kids and working ft and they are planning their next trip to Europe or outing to s hot new restaurant. But true friendship can transcend different circumstances. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:40 AM Flag
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A previous job put me in touch with leaders of the FIRE movement (Financial Independence, Retire Early). The ones who will make it to death without having to work again are not the people traveling to Europe or going to hot new restaurants. They prioritize not working above all else, and the trade off is any shred of luxury. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:55 AM Flag
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Agreed unlikely it was “retiring.” This is the age when families prepare for college, getting kids set up in life, caring for elderly parents and then their own retirement. I have a friend who fits that “retirement” category and I’m not wholly convinced he’s thrilled with it nor is his wife. I’m not crying for them but the reality of elder care, college etc etc and of course health insurance is real, and when you are living a certain lifestyle that can be hard to maintain for the rest of yours and your kids’ lives. Of course if someone truly made hundreds of millions of dollars I get it. But even if I had $20m I would be wary of retirement in my 40’s - not because of my costs of life but because of succession and elder care planning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:21 AM Flag
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Although I recognize the independent wealth figures in as well. I guess it’s how they spin it. In this case it was spun dubiously in public media so it’s unclear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:54 PM Flag
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It could be either: 1) They are being forced to "retire" as many people in finance get pushed out at this age. Or 2) They saved enough and feel this is a good time to get out.....hard to tell though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 03:47 AM Flag
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ITA. He may be pushed out, has enough to live off and is thinking next move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 09:48 PM Flag
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MD Mom. I thought long a hard about this and realized that retirement is not the right goal. For me, a focused Type A personality, not having a structure and purpose in my day would be deadly. I need to be needed, to feel important, to lead other people on my team. Charity or reading or exercise or gardening is not going to do it for me. I am the happiest when I work at 60% workload: still feel needed, but have time to do other things without being compensated like academic pursuits, teaching, writing, exercise, occasional facial pre-covid, etc. I think FIRE movement has it right: once you get to the point that you don't care about how much you make you work for fun. I am not there yet, but I notice that I start choosing responsibilities not only based on financial incentive. I am lucky to actually love what i do (when I am not stressed or overworked), I hope you do too, OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:24 PM Flag
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For lots of people, happiness dips at retirement -- and those are people who've worked long, productive lives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:39 PM Flag
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Thank you for whatever you are doing in healthcare - it's so needed right now. I'm sure that doesn't get rid of the jealousy, but you are valued. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 07:12 PM Flag
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I don't think it's about your friend. It's about you and your discontent with the next 25 years of your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:26 PM Flag
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You really have no idea what this ‘friend’ does, how much value they add for their clients, how much risk they take and how stressful it is. No reason to be bitter and judgmental about it. Just myob [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:44 PM Flag
[ - ] How is FIT for interior design ? The tuition is so much cheaper than Pratt, RSID etc . We are in NYC and this could save so much money. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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It's not as "elite" as some of the private art schools but as someone who spent 100k on fancy art school (and will be paying off the student loans for the rest of my life btw), I would say it's an outstanding option. You will get your foot into the door of the same places as any of these others schools. People come from all over the world to go to FIT just like Parsons or SVA or NYU. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:03 PM Flag
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Yes, it's a good option and cheaper. And there's less of a chance of Bella Hadid being in your class! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:06 PM Flag
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I am a Pratt graduate and honestly after working all these years don’t see any difference in terms of earnings. It really depends on the individual and what you make of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:15 PM Flag
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Fellow art school grad - I completely agree with this. Especially for something like interior design where you DC would most likely wind up running their own business. Also, FIT puts a huge emphasis on interning which I think is incredibly beneficial in the art world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:14 PM Flag
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Communication Design major (mid80s, I'm old) and I agree w/spending less at FIT, especially if there's a good internship program. IMO, most career success in the visual arts/design is the result of talent and being a good worker. It's all about your portfolio, and being pleasant to work with! [ Reply | More
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I know a someone who went there who runs his own successful fashion-related business. I think it's a good choice for a kid who is focused and has an idea of what they want to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:45 PM Flag
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Pratt is probably a better program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:43 PM Flag
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np: It's not $120k better though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:03 PM Flag
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Just looked it up, difference in tuition is $184k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:16 PM Flag
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I mean.. case closed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:19 PM Flag
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Did you mean NYSID? or RISD? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:44 PM Flag
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Typo, RISD is correct. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:17 PM Flag
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know a very successful art director that went to FIT and really enjoyed their time there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 11:39 PM Flag
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Calvin Klein graduated from FIT . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 01:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Asking for a friend. She was just offered a job in another company with a completely different role. She is now a director of a physical rehab place and now heading to a wellness center that has a component of physical rehab, She has a really tight non compete for rehab competitors but not this facility. Can they sue her for her non compete? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:46 PM Flag
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Certainly sounds like it. She should certainly have an employment lawyer review her contract and the new offer and advise her more formally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:49 PM Flag
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This . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:18 PM Flag
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I think so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:12 PM Flag
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Those ECs are very hard to enforce legally. Most employers don't have them written well enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:41 PM Flag
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+1,000 - unless she’s bringing in millions of dollars a year to her current place, I doubt it’s worth it for them to go after her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:47 PM Flag
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She certainly shouldn't put it on linked in. I don't think it would be worth it for them to track her down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 04:41 AM Flag
[ - ] So what exactly will be different come Monday in NYC when we begin Phase 1 of restoration? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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Not much unless you are in construction or gardening but there is no phase 2,3 or 4 without the phase 1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:30 PM Flag
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Or if you have a boss who essentially thinks his employees are gullible or can't read or are just desperate enough to come in to work at a non-essential, Phase 2 business (yes, I looked up what the firm does on the state website, and we are by no means stage 1), and has been for weeks! (In essence, the employees have him by the b****, but he doesn't know it.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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Are you the same one who posted here before who works for a quasi-well known big shot who is being a dick? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:56 PM Flag
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Nope. Sounds fascinating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:59 PM Flag
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Retail - curbside pickup. This is kind of a big deal. Though I'm curious when stores will actually have any inventory. The stores I've walked past still have the same items and window displays that were in there in March. (Not to mention how much is boarded up now because of looting). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:36 PM Flag
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How is this a big deal? Honestly. What is it that you want to buy that you are having trouble getting now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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Me personally, nothing. By big deal, I meant of all of the industries opening this is the one that has the biggest consumer impact that we'll see. In NYC (especially in Manhattan) you don't really see Manufacturing or Agriculture first hand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:44 PM Flag
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honestly. you can order anything and everything online and have it in a day or 2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:51 PM Flag
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Correct. But by retail opening, that means a lot of people going back to work. This is a good thing, people - let's encourage it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:55 PM Flag
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amazon prime seems to have moved to 10 day shipping [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 08:06 PM Flag
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jigsaw puzzles [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:45 PM Flag
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Sneakers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:30 AM Flag
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And probably dusty, if not faded from being in the window. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:44 PM Flag
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Just because a store has followed the rules and not done the (non-essential) work of adjusting their window display doesn't mean they don't have access to inventory. I've bought a number of things from local stores -- delivery only -- since they had to shut down, including books released since March. They're getting stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 06:17 PM Flag
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Will they open the tennis courts like they have in the rest of the state? It seems silly to keep them closed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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If they do, then why can't they open ball fields? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:45 PM Flag
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I agree. The reality is that tennis is played with the players at least 12 feet apart. Soccer, for example, is very different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:51 PM Flag
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Maybe proper games/scrimmages are out of the picture for the time being, but coaches can do drills that are distanced (not just soccer, but baseball and softball and other field sports). It's not always easy to do this in city parks (nor should balls be thrown around in crowded areas). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:16 PM Flag
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My town opened Ballfields today [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:19 PM Flag
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Are you in NY State? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:22 PM Flag
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Yes, Westchester [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:36 PM Flag
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yes, the ballfields being closed is really ticking me off. So kids can do sit inside at day camps, but no sports camp outside? Ok... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:55 PM Flag
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Even beyond sports camps, why can't a parent and kids (who have been indoors with each other for 12 weeks) go out and play catch!? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:58 PM Flag
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what about the pools? my son takes private lessons at asphalt green, he is 6ft away from anybody at all times as are all the other swimmers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:02 AM Flag
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OP: Thanks everyone! So the answer is "basically, nothing" ... bummer! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:47 PM Flag
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I think you'll see more people out and around though - a lot of people in the city work retail jobs. A lot more construction work too. So that might give the city a new energy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:49 PM Flag
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Well, you can have your kitchen remodeled! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:54 PM Flag
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OP: We could, but we rent so that'd be weird ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:03 PM Flag
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we are on Long Island which is already open for Phase I, as the other said: retail stores that were totally closed before will open but require curbside pickup, I saw that restaurants are open, but didn't see anyone sitting inside last time I was out. That's about it. Construction and landscaping has been going on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:55 PM Flag
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I will finally get my beds delivered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:12 PM Flag
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not a big difference unless you work in construction or retail but as someone else mentioned we need to get through it to get to phase 2. i need a hair cut! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 10:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Did you ever have gallbladder issues during pregnancy? I'm 24 weeks along with my third. With my first 2, I had lower rib pain just from being squashed, and it went away when they were born. This time, I thought I had the same pain so I've been just dealing with it, but it's much worse and more intense. It's the right location for gallbladder. Anyone btdt? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:30 PM Flag
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How are you making distinction between gallbladder and liver? At 24 weeks your uterus is not so enlarged that you should be having intense pain from compression of organs. If you are in that kind of discomfort please contact your prenatal care provider. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:44 PM Flag
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I saw my doc on Tuesday, and he said it could be gallbladder and to monitor it. I just wanted to chat with someone who had experienced it. It's the upper abdomen, right side, and pregnant women are at higher risk for gallbladder issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:18 PM Flag
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The 5 "F's" of gallstones: Fat, fertile, female, forty, family history. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:06 PM Flag
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My gallbladder had to be removed kind of urgently when I was in my 30s, although I wasn't pregnant. I had had pain now and then but blew it off and then one night I felt pain I can't even describe. I was in the ER shortly after, on the table next morning. I think you should call your doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:49 PM Flag
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I didn't have much pain but I was vomiting all the time and diarrhea. I had my gall bladder out after I was pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:49 PM Flag
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I had terrible pain in that area with both pregnancies. I had to go on Aciphex starting around 18 weeks (with the first I actually ended up in the hospital because the pain was so bad until they gave me a huge dose of antacids). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:24 AM Flag
[ - ] I am losing it at this point being trapped at home with a 5yo, 1yo and DH, trying to work full time, be a teacher, entertainer, chef, housekeeper and everything else. I have ZERO time to myself because there is just no time. DH and I both have very demanding jobs and we are up early before the kids and are working most nights until 11pm to make up for the fact that we get little done during the day. And, it's about to get so much worse when school ends and there is no camp since the kids need very different things. How are others staying sane?! I have been so short with everyone lately and I hate it. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:24 PM Flag
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I am so sorry to hear this! My job is not very demanding and my daughter is old enough to be self-sufficient during the day. No, I don't know how you do it. It really does sound like too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:42 PM Flag
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I'm with you, and feel for you even more, because my youngest is 6. I can't imagine doing this with a baby. Are you comfortable bringing a babysitter in for the summer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:56 PM Flag
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Right there with you. I only have one nearly 6yr old but DH is in the office working 12+ hour days. I work non stop and DC is playing. I try to do one online activity - craft, art, outschool class. But I’m frankly at the end of it and feel like both me and dc will need mental health by the time this is over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:32 PM Flag
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That is just HARD! Was just having a discussion w/ my DD (19) saying that the psychological toll that this has taken on people will never be able to be measured but it is significant. Hang in there and know that this is CRAZY making. I don't know how anyone could do what you're doing and not lose it, really [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:36 PM Flag
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I totally feel you and in the same boat but my kids are 9 and 11. I have no patience and and constantly in a bad mood. I keep telling myself this too shall pass but it sucks in the short term. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:55 PM Flag
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NP: Thank you for posting this. I see so many people talking about how they're loving their family time, etc. I have been yelling/snapping at everyone nonstop for 11 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:33 PM Flag
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same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:42 PM Flag
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When did you normally spend time with your kids pre-COVID? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:52 PM Flag
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how is this question helpful or relevant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:52 AM Flag
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So not often then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:44 AM Flag
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Oof. You have a lot on your plate. Perhaps look in to hiring someone to help with the kids. Someone who will continue to socially distance outside of their immediate circle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:00 PM Flag
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Bring back your nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:56 PM Flag
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+1 We did two weeks ago and it was a game changer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:21 PM Flag
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same on a part time basis and it really helped. I think we are at the point now where it is safer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 02:09 PM Flag
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just some solidarity - you have 1yo which is tough! we have 4 and 6 yo boys and ft job and never having time to myself ever is making me insane - and i can't talk to work about it - you prob feel the same - bc i don't want to seem like a bad worker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:53 AM Flag
[ - ] A bigger issue than whether schools will reopen this fall is whether they will stay open. If a school has to close for a week whenever somebody gets the virus, then large schools like BT, Stuy, and BS will be closed until a vaccine is found. The likelihood of someone in a school getting the virus is proportional to the size of the school. In a school with 2,000+ students, there will almost always be at least one person getting the virus each week. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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I don't think they should close the school for each case of the virus. They should quarantine just the kids who have been in class with the kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:13 PM Flag
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dd goes to BS - the hallways are basically a mosh pit everey 41 minutes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:17 PM Flag
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Yup, ALL high schools are like this... my kid's suburban school is not as large as BS, but it's just under 2,000. I really don't see how this is going to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:36 PM Flag
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Kids are going to stay in one classroom when they reopen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:37 PM Flag
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How is this feasible in practice? Kids don't all take the same classes with the same group of kids all day in HS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:19 PM Flag
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I think students and parents may need to be more flexible and accept that they may not get their ideal schedule. Maybe they can keep all or most kids together in core classes and have limited numbers moving in the halls if they are doing a subject in a different "track"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 12:34 AM Flag
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Yeah, I think the best high schools can do is have fewer students changing classrooms at a time (eg. keep freshman/sophomore classes together in the same room for core requirements that don't need special facilities like labs or studios). It gets harder for upperclassmen where there are more electives, APs etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:06 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:13 PM Flag
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Some schools are talking about moving to a "block" schedule, which is more like what happens in college. Instead of a class meeting 5x/wk for 40 minutes each time, it would meet 2x/wk for 90 minutes. That is just an example but you get the point -- less transitions, less time in the hallways. There is also talk of having only 2 grades in the building at a time. So it could be half days, or it could be one week in the building, one week at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:27 AM Flag
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I think at best schools will stagger classes for this reason. They want to have smaller groups of students at one time so they don't have to shut the whole school down, just quarantine the exposed group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:29 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:19 PM Flag
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DS's university is starting classes in August, going straight through, no breaks (class on Labor Day), then classes end right before Thanksgiving. All exams are on-line, so once they come back for TGiving, they don't go back until Spring semester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:44 PM Flag
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Notre Dame? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:14 PM Flag
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Our private is planning for this by systematically keeping groups of kids separated. If someone tests positive, that group goes remote for two weeks. It makes sense, we'll see if it works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:50 PM Flag
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Oh that’s a good idea. Hope it works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:15 PM Flag
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easier for private, they are much smaller. easier for my elementary school too, because same group of kids in one classroom all day (guess we'll cut out specials). the logistics of MS and HS give me a headache. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 11:44 PM Flag
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which school? Is this for younger kids or for high school? I don't really see how this works for high school where kids take different sciences, different languages etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Real estate rant: Stop listing your apartment as a "classic 6" if you ripped down the dining room wall to make a "great room" and/or ripped out the maid's room for a larger kitchen. People who are searching for those terms typically want the floorplan in tact! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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Intact is one word. Sorry, pet peeve. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:15 PM Flag
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Thanks for correcting me! (No sarcasm- I’d rather find out on an anonymous internet board than look stupid IRL) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:22 PM Flag
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Yes! Owner of a seven - I like the sep. kitchen and use the maids room as an office / laundry room. I feel you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:20 PM Flag
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Exactly! If I wanted a kitchen/dining/living room, I'd be looking for new builds. I like the formal layouts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:51 PM Flag
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Broker Mom: Are you using an aggregator service (e.g. StreetEasy?) The REBNY listing system has us input both "room count" and "original room count" -- so it's really easy to see when someone has made a six into a five. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:33 PM Flag
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I've been using Compass because that where my broker is. Does REBNY have % down filters? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:50 PM Flag
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Broker OR: the database interface I pay for does. But your broker s/b able to do some of this lifting for you as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.20, 01:35 AM Flag
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Hmm. I have one of those and was thinking about listing it. It's so easily restored. A wall is one of the easiest things to build. How about if it's listed as easily restored classic six? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:03 PM Flag
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Is it just the dining room wall that's down, or did you tear out the maid's room as well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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Just the maid's room wall. And it's only really half down. Has an easily destroyable arch. You know, dry wall. (that seems distinct to me because every other wall in my apt is plaster and much more of a big deal to take down.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:12 PM Flag
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I don't think that's as big of a deal, as long as the kitchen is still set up in a way that the maid's room wall could easily go back up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 08:16 PM Flag
[ - ] UES is back! yay 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:04 PM Flag
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mommas***^^ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 07:05 PM Flag
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With new admins. Not necessary, but yay for LPB!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 09:08 PM Flag
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She’s been through so much. I saw a group of protestors marching up 1st Avenue with signs decrying how horribly she’s been treated. #LPBMatters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 10:43 PM Flag
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Who is that? [ Reply | More