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[ - ] do you take anything to help you sleep 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:48 PM Flag
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melatonin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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Can't find anything higher than 12mg, which doesn't keep me asleep. Do you know if they have a higher mg? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:58 PM Flag
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You could always take more than one ? Or, alternatively it helps to take it earlier. Like an hour before bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:03 PM Flag
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Sometimes klonopin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:10 PM Flag
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Natural Calm. Its a magnesium supplement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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Lemon Balm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:02 PM Flag
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Used to take melatonin, now take CBD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:19 PM Flag
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Ambien, klonopin, xanax, depending [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:35 PM Flag
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I listen to podcasts. Puts me right out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:40 PM Flag
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Must be some boring podcasts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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NP: i do similar and have great success here. volume is on very low. works like a charm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:06 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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I use a device called Ebb. Band you wear to cool your forehead slows down activity in the frontal cortex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Interesting. Looks like someone capitalized on using ice packs for your head. I have been doing this for my migraines when I cannot get out of bed, I keep flexible gel icepacks in my fridge, they do the trick cooling your head down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:32 PM Flag
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No. I have never had trouble sleeping. My head hits the pillow and that's it until morning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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It must be amazing. I always wonder what kind of people can do this and never get affected by any anxieties and runaway thoughts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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Same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 09:48 PM Flag
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Depends on what the cause of insomnia is. For non-anxiety type of insomnia I prefer melatonin, for anxiety/panic type of insomnia I prefer prescription anti-anxiety, regular sleep aids just make me tired, but don't calm me to allow me to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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Celexa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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Simply sleep, half a dosage. Don’t need it to help me fall asleep but to stay asleep. So many years of kid wake ups so I wake up early even though they don’t anymore. When I’ve gone away without kids I don’t need anything, I think I’m just more alert with them around [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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I just bought the Natural Calm magnesium powder yesterday and took it for the first time last night. I heard it’s supposed to promote sleep and help with restless legs. Start with a low dosage, I heard it can give you the poops. I took half a teaspoon mixed with warm water. I slept 6 hours straight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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no. its a slippery slope. there are better ways to help you sleep, unless you had a major trauma recently. No screens 1 hr before bed, low lights, no caffiene in afternoon. get up at same time every day. if i have caffiene after 2:00, i cant fall asleep at 11pm. also, exercise will knock you out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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My therapist recommends magnesium over melatonin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 09:32 PM Flag
[ - ] What are some good "matches" for rising senior DS in NJ. Doesn't care about sports, wants under 10,000 students and a self contained campus within 4-hour driving distance from Northern/Central NJ. Stats: Very strong public high school, but not elite; 3.75 unweighted GPA; all accelerated or AP classes; 1430 SAT; no hooks; decent but not exceptional extra-curricular. Will apply for FA so likley no early decision. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:46 PM Flag
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What does DS plan to study? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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OP: Probably some combo of international relations/poli-sci or history. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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Maybe check out schools in PA: Lehigh, Bucknell, U Pitt, U Penn etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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OP: I think Penn is probably much more of a reach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:44 PM Flag
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U Penn should be within in range, Penn would be a reach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:03 PM Flag
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Whoops meant to write it the other way. Sorry! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:03 PM Flag
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Penn is U Penn. Penn State is called just that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:36 PM Flag
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um, no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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Um Yes Univ of Penn = Penn. Penn State = Penn State [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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Penn and U Penn are the same thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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Haverford? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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OP: Great school, but I wonder if they're interested in garden-variety academically strong, well-rounded white kids. I've always had them in the group that only takes unicorns for regular decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:47 PM Flag
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NP. I agree. His best bet (but they are on the small side) is to aim at several LACs. They often have more female applicants so men have an advantage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:13 PM Flag
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I agree. It's hard to tell what the hook is for Haverford admission. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:39 PM Flag
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Its a small school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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Franklin & Marshall; Bucknell; Dickinson; Union. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:14 PM Flag
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Lafayette, Skidmore, Trinity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:17 PM Flag
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What about Hamilton? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:39 PM Flag
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If he isn't capable of doing this search on his own, he isn't ready for college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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This. High school students are bombarded with college information, and they have the internet. He knows what he wants. Tell him to search. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:09 PM Flag
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OP: Super-helpful. Congrats on the free-ranging. You do you. Meanwhile I'll parent my kid and actively engage in the college process because it's important and I haven't raised a college-obsessed kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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More traditional- Conn College, Bucknell, Lehigh, Union, Colgate, Trinity, Skidmore, TCNJ. More alternative- Bard, Sarah Lawrence, Vassar, Hampshire [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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These are good suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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OP: I don't think alternative would be a fit, but we've discussed almost all of the traditional schools you listed. TCNJ and Lehigh are high on his list. We visited Lafayette and he wasn't into it. And if it stays that way, this may turn out to be a very quick, simple process for us. But I still have my concerns about TCNJ. Just wanted a better sense of what schools we should classify as targets based on his stats and the experiences of others. Wondering if there is a middle ground between the frattier schools (Bucknell, Colgate, Lehigh) and the alternative places like Bard, Vassar and Sarah Lawrence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Clark [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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np--or Union or Holy Cross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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Skidmore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 09:47 PM Flag
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American University [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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Conn college is def a middle ground. Great theater program but not alternative, My DD got into SLC and Bard and it was too alternative. Similar GPA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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Np: I think Hampshire closed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:02 AM Flag
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Not sure if you are still watching this post. I suggest you look into College that change lives list and then pick based on the distance. These are all small LAC where you most likely will get a generous merit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] hi there! I'd love a really nice (designer, even) leather watch strap for my new Apple Watch (it came with the sport loop). does anyone know which designers/retailers sell them? I;ve been looking on amazon but I just get cheap results which prob all look a lot worse in person than the pictures. thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:40 PM Flag
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the apple store has some nicer leather ones. DH splurged on a hermes one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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I saw someone wearing what I thought was the Hermes one but she said she got it on Amazon. Maybe check there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Does your teen daughter shave or wax her legs? My DD (13) asked me yesterday to shave her legs but I am thinking if its better to take her to a wax salon?! Please share your experiences. Thank you, ladies! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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If you can afford it, waxing is way better. Less wasteful and last around 4 weeks. I can't pay for DD's waxing, so I just bought her an epilator. Braun and Phillips make very good ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:43 PM Flag
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Does it hurt? How long do your legs feel smooth? Does the hair have to be a certain length to work best? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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oooooh, so you've never waxed?!! it hurts like hell! The wax grabs all the hair and rips it out at the roots. Have you ever plucked a hair? its like plucking 40 hairs at once. Its awful. lasts about 3 weeks? it needs to be a certain length, maybe 1/4". IF YOUVE NEVER WAXED DO NOT BRING A 13 YR OLD TO DO IT. omg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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PP, not op. I’ve waxed but never used an epilator. Is it the same pain feeling? I stopped waxing because I hate that stubble feeling in the grow out phase. It never got soft, just stiff, short, pokey stubble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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epilator also just pulls hair out. yes, ripping out hairs always hurts. this is your kid! get your priorities straight. Is hairlessness really a priority. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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I am not op just curious about the epilator. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:11 AM Flag
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Epilator is great. I've had one made by Philips for over ten years. It came with this ice thing that could be attached which cools the area just epilated. Over time, I got used to epilating my legs and it gets done very quickly. Less than 5 mins for both legs. Way better than waxing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 03:41 AM Flag
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a 13 year old shouldnt be given the message that her body hair is so repulsive that she needs a painful method to remove it. Shaving is fine. Already at 13 your child had to endure this crap? Better get her some spank so she doesnt have panty lines. Let a 13 yr old be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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I couldn’t wait to shave. My leg hair was black and thick. I think I was in the 6th grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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My 11-year-old just told me she wants to start. I'm encouraging her to wait, since it's such a nuisance once one starts. Lots of hair but it's very blonde. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] DD starts pre-school next week with a very slow, staggered phase-in. What happens during these? Do you play with your kid? Do you talk to the other parents and let the kids play? I'm sure it will be fine and we'll just see how it goes but just curious. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:33 PM Flag
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Our school was intentionally vague about this. I think we mostly stayed but didn’t engage, then if your kid was doing pretty ok some parents left briefly, which was good because the kids were reassured that you were coming back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:05 PM Flag
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Depends on the school. I've been at two different preschools. In one, they wanted you to stay in the classroom with the kid until the kid felt comfortable enough to have you leave. So you were there until you got the ok for the teacher to step out into the waiting area. In another, all parents dropped off quickly and you waited it out in the waiting area until it was time to pick up (maybe an hour later). GL, as a working parent, I found those phase-ins torturous! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:24 PM Flag
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Thanks with two working parents, it's a pain. I guess I will follow the school's lead. DD has been in daycare until now so I am guessing she will be fine, but it's all new so who knows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:25 PM Flag
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no you're not in the room. you wait outside the room with other parents or nannies. or leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] So frustrated. I made a mortgage payment at the end of the month that has yet to clear. In the meantime my ds school overcharged me for tuition by thousands and now our mortgage payment may bounce and go to credit report for 7 years. School is telling me there is no way to reverse charge and bank is saying the same. Charge is still pending. Unreal. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:29 PM Flag
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Transfer assets from savings? Cash advance from credit card? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:32 PM Flag
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OP: no and no. :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:34 PM Flag
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np - Why no? No other assets you can get in there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:09 PM Flag
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One instance will not go on your credit report. Have the school cut you a check. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:36 PM Flag
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I would call your mortgage company and let them know what happened. Maybe they can hold the payment for a couple of days while you sort out the tuition situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:39 PM Flag
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School is saying that they overcharged you by thousands but they can't reverse the charge? So they just steal thousands? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:40 PM Flag
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This. Have your lawyer send a letter right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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Bounced check doesn't go on credit report. Not reported until payment is more than 30 days late. you have time to rememdy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:42 PM Flag
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surprised no one has asked why you are paying for school when you seem to be living paycheck to paycheck? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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You have to wait until the charge is cleared then dispute it. You may have to pay a bank fee but they should absolutely be able to reverse it since the school overcharged you. Either that or demand the school cuts you out a check for what they overcharged. As for your mortgage company call them and explain. Nothing ends up on your credit report until after 30 days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:06 PM Flag
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Can you get overdraft protection on your checking account ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you know any women who had attacks or died from them? Was there a family history of heart disease? I ask because every man on my dad’s side died young-ish from heart attacks, as in dropped dead from them. I am the only woman in at least two generations on my dad’s family branch. You always read that heart disease is a leading cause of death in women. I am so scared I will have the killer kind of heart attack and die young too. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:47 PM Flag
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discuss this with your doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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This. And to OP: yes, I've known women who have died. My dear neighbor's SIL dropped dead at 40 while walking her dog in the park. Sometimes it has been freak, other times it has been based on family history. DH and I both have heart issues in our families. DH didn't think about it until he had one, and now he's on meds. So far, I have no blockage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:52 PM Flag
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How old was he and how long ago? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:56 PM Flag
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69. This past spring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:56 PM Flag
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see your doctor, do what you can to stay healthy, live your life. my dad's father died at 66 from a heart attack after having 3 previous attacks from the time my dad was in his early teens. as a result, my dad was very concerned about dying from a heart attack and thinks like indigestion would cause him great anxiety (not to say it was unfounded given how heart attacks present). My dad died at 56 from cancer. do what you can, but live your life. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:53 PM Flag
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Take a daily aspirin and have one on you at all times [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:29 PM Flag
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an aspirin is not going to save you acutely in the event of a heart attack [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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That is poor medical advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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My MIL had a heart attack 10 years ago. She's alive and thriving today. Very active woman who hikes and skis into her 70s. Heart disease is strong in her family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:55 PM Flag
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You need to get yourself to a cardiologist right away and talk to a doctor about this, not UB. My mom's side of the family has your family history; every male dropped dead around 45 (until advances in medicine, my mom would be 86 if she were alive), every female has high cholesterol after menopause, which can cause plague, which can cause heart disease. Women are often afforded some protection against this until menopause, when estrogen levels drop. I don't know how young you are, but go to a cardiologist and get some tests run. There's no need to just be scared; address this and deal with it now. You'll feel so much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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+1. Good advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Help - just got a job offer that checks all of the boxes on paper, but for some reason deep down I'm just not that excited about and don't know why. How do I sort through these feelings? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:46 PM Flag
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Listen to your gut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:03 PM Flag
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Thank you. It is a nice bump in compensation and perceived prestige, but I am still not sure about what the culture and lifestyle will be like and don't know how to ask these questions without seeming difficult or entitled. DH thinks I am completely overthinking it and should just take it, knowing I can always move on if it doesn't work out, but I don't think it's quite that easy. Sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:12 PM Flag
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He's right and you are scared to take the chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:27 PM Flag
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This happened to me once. I asked to meet with more partners after receiving the offer in writing. When I went back to meet with more people, they offered me more money. I guess they thought I was playing hardball. It turned out to be a fantastic job. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:04 PM Flag
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Can you ask for another interview w someone who might be your peer? If they really want you, they want you to be happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Mid fifties in high level HR position - any chance of getting another job ever again? Saw one at McKinsey. Am trying hard to keep job but so worried what would happen if I lost it or whether any chance of something making more, 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I switched in my mid-50s. It's totally doable if you come with experience. [ Reply | More
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Thanks. How did you come by your position? I am already so much older than Most except very senior management and McKinsey strikes me as young [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:46 PM Flag
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I'm in legal and in a very specific practice. I know a lot of people in my particular practice/industry and kept my eyes peeled. Even at 55, though, I'm sort of in the middle age-wise in my current position. [ Reply | More
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High level HR myself. Mid 40s. Suggest a couple of things. #1, make yourself look younger on your resume. Take out the jobs you had in the 1980s and 1990s. They're not at all applicable 20 years later. Take out education years. And get in tight with key HR headhunters at the big places: Egon Zehnder, Korn Ferry, Hanold Associates, etc. And talk to them when there are roles. Sounds like you feel stuck in your current place. Just keep your eyes open. High level roles can take a year or two to come to fruition. [ Reply | More
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Thanks - not including education years screams old as well but I hadn’t considered this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:51 PM Flag
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NP - I disagree. That's pretty much the norm these days. I was laid off from a job at 34 and that was the first thing my career coach suggested. Unless you're a recent college grad with little/no work experience, no need to include it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:17 PM Flag
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What about LinkedIn? They ask for years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:21 PM Flag
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Take the years off LinkedIn as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:01 PM Flag
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NP. This may seem fluffy but in the mindset of looking younger, change your personal email to gmail (not hotmail or worse, aol). [ Reply | More
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Yeah I have that! [ Reply | More
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Oh - this is critical! Always gmail. As crazy as that sounds. [ Reply | More
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on a bedroom that mixes whites and ivories with some worsen/natural accents? Also plan to do some sort of rug that is more colorful and decorative pillows that are fun. Have a white lacquer dresser, a fabric bed that is a material with some texture and is the color stone white. I have an acorn colored desk that is a small piece but there only wood right now. . Trying to decide on nightstands. Thinking of raffia, I have a raffia mirror. Any thoughts on paint color for walls? Would an ivory duvet look nice? Or just stick with white? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I was really into worsen accents then I moved to all out catastrophe surfaces instead. Made a big difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:15 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More
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Sadly this pretty much nails my decorating aesthetic. Or lack thereof. [ Reply | More
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I hand out Hazmat suits when people enter the family room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:15 PM Flag
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ILY. We should hang. You seem to share my decorating aesthetic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:58 PM Flag
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Yes on the rattan or raffia nightstands. I think you need a solid color or a print for the duvet and the background color should not be white or ivory. You need to tie the room together with your duvet, paint and accessory colors. I could go either way on the rug. I think a neutral would be better, but not white or ivory. I would find a duvet with colors you LOVE use that as your inspiration. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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Thank you! Should the wall color match the duvet? Even if it is solid? I have some old lamps that are a pale aqua or blue/green. They are nice so I am probably going to keep them. One of the only traditional pieces in the room. I have a tray that is Asian styled which has the same blue-green color in it. And no artwork right now. That will have to come later. The rest of my apartment has gray paint. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:15 PM Flag
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np: don't match walls to duvet; match your duvet to more "permanent" things like rug, walls, furniture, etc. (well, not match, but pair with). Switching out bedding is the easiest way to refresh your room later on. [ Reply | More
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Thanks. Do you think doing white bedding with statement accent pillows that brings in the wall color and lamps etc would work? [ Reply | More
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I think you need to tie it together with a color (pale blue or seafoam-type color) then the two neutrals (ivory and driftwood-type accents). I would not have ivory right next to white (I think it will look mismatched). [ Reply | More
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What would you paint the walls? Thanks! [ Reply | More
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Can you dish the white lacquer dresser? Tonally the hard shininess of it feels "off" with raffia and natural wood accents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:17 PM Flag
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I can’t. I also have an acorn desk. There is actually a lot of white lacquer and raffia on sites like Serena and lily. Not exactly what I am going for but close. I have actually no natural wood. Just raffia. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] My old phone is on a brink of dying and it often interferes with my having to send work emails or using GPS. DH brought a brand new iPhone 8 which is not my preferred phone to have if I am about to get a brand new one. If he returns it there's a $50 restocking fee even though the box is unopened. Do I suck it up and use the 8 or get what I want? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:57 PM Flag
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I had an iPhone 6 for a long time. Had to upgrade because it was no longer compatible with work systems. I just took the plunge and got the X. Love it and hopefully will be able to use it for a while with the ever-changing software. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:00 PM Flag
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I have the 6S too and even though the battery (replaced!) dies annoyingly fast I really like the camera vs the 8. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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^^ I'd rather add a bit more and get the X too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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It's a great device. I also got the charging pad which eliminates problems with your battery overcharging. Hopefully this one will last me another 3 or 4 years until I'm forced to change again! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:24 PM Flag
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are you talking about the X? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:49 PM Flag
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Yes. Sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:54 PM Flag
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Never like saying goodbye to $50, but go with phone you prefer if you are using frequently for work or often need GPS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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Get what you want. His error; he eats it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone use Apple's AirPods while running? Reviews online seem mixed as to whether they fall out easily. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:53 PM Flag
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Yes. Never had them fall out, had them over a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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They are designed (like ear buds too) for one-size-fits-all. Unfortunately, human ears are not all the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:57 PM Flag
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i always buy earbuds with different size attachments (not sure what you call them) because i have really small ear canals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:17 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:44 PM Flag
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i'm afraid they cause cancer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:52 PM Flag
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then you are a moron [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:24 PM Flag
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No. Not really. OR has reason do worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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I can't keep those in my ears--even when not moving. I can't use any in-ear buds. I have really small ears. I go with over the ear headphones and I have trouble keeping those on because the part that goes over the top of the head is always too long. I have to stuff something under there to fill up the gap. I never knew I had these physical deformities before.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:31 PM Flag
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All the time. They have fallen out once or twice. Usually when I'm adjusting one. I really like them, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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Sorry, I meant to say I RUN with them all the time. But they've only fallen out once or twice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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One ear they fall out, the other doesn't. So odd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 10:58 PM Flag
[ - ] How much water do you drink in a day? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:51 PM Flag
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In summer, 3-4 liters. In winter, 2-3 liters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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Not enough plain water because I'm sipping tea or coffee all day. I do stay hydrated from that though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:54 PM Flag
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Same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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Coffee will not hydrate you, the opposite infact [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:05 PM Flag
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This. How do people not realize this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:33 PM Flag
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2-3 750mls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:58 PM Flag
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i do not consume a ton of water as I hate needing to relieve myself and have no access to bathroom. What are the downsides of this choice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:04 PM Flag
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Inmate Mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:14 PM Flag
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haha, no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:03 PM Flag
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Do you wear jumpsuits a lot? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:27 PM Flag
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Basically none. Drink tea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:12 PM Flag
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Currently: a fuck ton. In third trimester and essentially need to be constantly drinking water. Spent one weekend being lax about it and ended up in L+D w preterm contractions. So now I drink and pee all day long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:05 PM Flag
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All day long. Probably 10 cups at least. I do not drink anything but water. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:28 PM Flag
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Sooooo much. At least 6 24 oz water bottles which amounts to over a gallon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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How many times do you pee all the time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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I pee a lot too. lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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Do you have diabetes? You can drink too much water. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:12 PM Flag
[ - ] UB grammarians: Is this sentence correct? "There's a darkness which comes without a warning." 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:36 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:39 PM Flag
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I'd write, "a darkness that". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:39 PM Flag
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OP: Same. It's actually a song lyric and the "which" drives me nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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What is the whole sentence? Does it continue onto the next line/verse? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:48 PM Flag
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But I will sing you lullabies and wake you in the morning... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:57 PM Flag
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OP: Yes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:59 PM Flag
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Les Mis? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:49 PM Flag
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Yes, a beautiful song. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:57 PM Flag
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OP: Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:59 PM Flag
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I think you're going to have to let it go. Les Mis was not written for people with formal education. The writers were far more interested in least-common-denominator emotional grabs than in grammar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:08 PM Flag
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OP: Agree. But it isn't like using that instead of which is pretentious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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Wasn't it written in French too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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it's "that," not which. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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I would drop the “a” [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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The second one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] When someone hurts me I give them the silent treatment. It is not purposeful, it’s just how I react. I posted before about a falling out I had with my friend at work who is also in a supervisory role over me; we have worked together and been friends for twenty years. I reached out to him on two occasions to try to smooth it over and he was overtly hostile toward me, but then tried to warm up a bit. I’m so upset at how unfairly he treated me that I have clammed up and can’t eben look at him now and I know that for professional purposes I have to get over it, but I’m not sure how to. Any advice??? Help 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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I'm like that too, but over the years, I had to adjust. As hard as it is, you need to take that step to talk to the other person. That's the hardest part. It doesn't do anyone any good to not know why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:32 PM Flag
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Thanks, I am trying it is very hard when I feel wronged to just adjust my being and feel like a doormat. I realize in the work place you sometimes have to, but I am having a very difficult time. I have approached him on three occasions and each time is worse than the time before it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:41 PM Flag
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What happened ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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He didn’t like the way I handled something and no amount of explaining changes it and I like to think I am pretty open minded and not stubborn, so I try to understand the other lij g of view, but I. This case he is really wrong and he is not willing to listen. It is very hurtful and I am having a very difficult time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:43 PM Flag
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Was the falling out a long time ago? Or are you talking all abut this recent incident (work-related)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:48 PM Flag
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Last month. All recent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:49 PM Flag
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It's work. Let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:07 PM Flag
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In a hundred years will this matter? Life’s too short. Let it go. When things are calm between you, he may even be able to acknowledge. But if he never does, does it really matter? Get along at work, go home and live your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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Right, but will anything matter then? Trying to make the present day a good one and it’s difficult to navigate these things and for me even more so because I literally shut down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:24 PM Flag
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Then take a deep breath, force yourself to get out of your chair, and go about your business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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I am. Just feeling very alone thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:42 PM Flag
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If you have known the person 20 years, you should be able to put this incident in perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:55 PM Flag
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