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[ - ] Something new companies are doing. They offer choice “PPO” plans to cover out of network benefits. But they set the allowable costs as Medicare rates. So the amount they will apply to deductibles and coinsurance is ridiculously low, impossible to even meet the deductible. I’m not sure why they market these as PPOs still. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Sounds like they cover something. Don’t know any company that covers out of network 100%. That’s why need to READ details. Dh and I both work for insurance companies and we still pay $800 month toward our plan. No free ride. [ Reply | More
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actually my company offered two out of network plans. One only covered the Medicare rates and the other covered based on URC. And for example, the URC allowable rate for my child’s psychiatrist was like $260, while the Medicaid rate was 90. For my therapist the URC was 200, while the Medicare allowable was 71. It was worth it for me to pay extra to get the better coverage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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This is not new. This has been the same for years. The insurance has never covered out of network providers at anything but Medicare rates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:52 PM Flag
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And they market them as PPOs as you can choose your provider without being approved or referred to by your primary physician or HMO. You just need to know how much you are willing to pay out of pocket. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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This isn’t true. I have a plan that covers way more than Medicare rates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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Then you have one of the rare Cadillac ones. Every PPO plan I have ever had pretty much covers Medicare negotiated rates for out of network providers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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np: I’ve always had better than medicare reimbursement. The deductibles and coinsurance have increased a lot though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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I also have a plan that reimburses at 80% UCR percentile which is way better than Medicare. What would be the point of out of network at Medicare rates? The deductibles for out of network are so high to begin with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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Medicare pays so little that DH's cardiologist "fired" him as a patient when he turned 65. I think of that when I hear anyone tout Medicare for All as a panacea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:01 PM Flag
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Universal healthcare would greatly reduce or eliminate the need for malpractice insurance for doctors. Your husband's cardiologist probably pays an enormous amount for this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Would they just get away with malpractice then? Who would be liable? [ Reply | More
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http://blog.petrieflom.law.harvard.edu/2016/09/13/medical-malpractice-under-a-national-health-system-and-the-aca/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:13 PM Flag
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Some of the reasons for malpractice would be eliminated. There would be centralized medical records. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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^^^ Doctors would tend to focus on basic healthcare and less on riskier procedures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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actually read this whole thing. The conclusions are different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:04 AM Flag
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Really, I wouldn't think you'd have much of a cardiology practice if you didn't accept medicare! The vast majority of patients have to be over 65.... [ Reply | More
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OR: My thought exactly, although he's in the east 70s, so maybe lots of patients can/are willing to pay out of pocket. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone end up dating someone they met online, not on a matchmaking site? Just through common interests? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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My coworker met her boyfriend through an online game. Eventually they started messaging and had a long distance relationship. She moved a few states over to be with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:44 PM Flag
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I "met" a couple online probably at least 20 years ago. I forget exactly what it was, but they became great friends online and she moved with her young daughter to be with him. They were both morbidly obese at the time - both of them 300s. They got married & somehow one day they got religion about weight loss. He did his naturally (I think?) she did WLS but they're still married today. Love & Hisses is her cat rescue insta. [ Reply | More
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I know a few couples who reconnected online after many years apart. Does that count? My cousin's widow, 60ish, is happily living in sin with her high school boyfriend, thanks to FaceBook. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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My sister messaged a Colorado rock climber on Instagram (she has just gotten into rock climbing). They are bf and gf now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:04 PM Flag
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She lucky. Dated a rock climber in college. Those guys are fit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:23 AM Flag
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My cousin met her current bf through a FB group. They were liking each other's comments and started messaging, found out they lived near each other and are now a couple. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:38 PM Flag
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sort of. freind was getting into skydiving. found a biz online. married the instructor a couple yrs later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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i know its a random interest! i think the key is to meet in person ASAP. otherwaise you build a false repor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Close to 20 years ago a friend met her now DH in a chat room. Both super nerdy and shy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Am I the only one who is glad the summer is over? I just spoke to a couple of moms who said the loooove summer and wish it could last forever. I guess I’m doing it wrong. My dc does day camp, visit family, but nothing major. They don’t have a ton of $ or summer homes. I guess they have better plans? Anyone feel the same? FWIW, the moms and I all work PT and are semi-SAH (I’ve pick up kids after school, watch them on breaks, etc). 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Fall is my favorite season. Even though I’m 55, I still think of September as the beginning of the year. Love the smells, the food, the cool air, the upcoming holidays. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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Are you the same lady with the Kindergartner? If so, how did it go today? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:28 PM Flag
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Not me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:31 PM Flag
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OR: no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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Love summer. Not looking forward to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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OP: great. Can anyone relate? Sigh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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I can we are the only ones it seems without great plans, in a private school FWIW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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I WOH and I hate summer. So much coordination of camp and childcare. Yes, we take a week or so off for a vacation but it doesn't make up. I also like the energy and routine of the school year. I guess I'm not a lazy summer day kind of person? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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Maybe their kids sleep in? Mine doesn't. There are some things I like about summer, like not having to find a million indoor toddler activities, but I also like structure and I much prefer fall weather. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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+1 my dogs are on a light schedule. Winter means they go down earlier and get up later. Summer sucks. They start barking at 5am. [ Reply | More
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huh? how are dogs relevant to the OPs questions? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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You are my twin! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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I like all seasons and am always ready for the change to the next one.even winter has it pluses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:44 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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winter is my favorite! (vermont skiing mom) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:06 AM Flag
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I am sad about summer ending. I do work FT and kids go to day camp but I love beach on the weekends and no homework struggles. I also take more vacation time in the summer than I do during the school year - usually a week at the beginning of summer and a week at the end. I do think fall is beautiful, though, and I look forward to the end of year holidays. On a more shallow note I also like fall clothes and find it easier to lose a few pounds in fall as I tend to drink a bit more and eat more BBQ and ice cream in summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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I have a young DC. The summer is a nice break from having to wrangle a toddler to be at nursery at 9am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:09 PM Flag
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OP: i felt the same, but my child is older now and wakes the same all year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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I'm with you, not my favorite. Love Fall and the cool air. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:34 PM Flag
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I am a teacher and love summer but by August, I am sick of my own kids and want the routines. Thankfully, my kids do their homework independently so I do not deal with the HW stuff other people hate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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My kids are not generally tough to wake for school and the one who has homework does it fairly independently with few struggles. On the other hand, they whine when bored and are bad about cleaning up. That's why I love fall and school, but not summer and no-routine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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i feel like i am doing something wrong that i do not feel this way too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:43 PM Flag
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Me too and I am the teacher above so it is even worse. I love my kids but get sick of trying to come up with things to do. I get sick of making three meals. I get sick of sunscreen. I miss routine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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omg so sick of sunscreen. sick of peeling wet bathing suits off kids who need to go to the bathroom then dragging them back on. and so sick of making endless meals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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I’m in the throes of perimenopause and am looking forward to colder weather. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 05:08 AM Flag
[ - ] I have been posting about my colleague who is not good at what he does. He has been here longer than me (almost 4 years, versus less than a year). For next year, I was given all the prestige projects (and the associated work), and he was given ... nothing. I am somewhat flattered but I am worried that I will continue to do 75% of our department’s work. I would be fine with it if I made more money than him and he reported to me, which is not the case now. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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Don’t feel jealous. They are most likely paving a way to fire him. Do you have union ? They might be preparing the case that he doesn’t work or can’t work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:17 PM Flag
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Not unionized but everything gets documented. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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Have you discussed with your boss? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:17 PM Flag
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One boss would like to get rid of him, the other one (who gave me all the projects) has not communicated anything to me, other than that she thinks I know more than him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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Just do your job and stop focusing on your coworker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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+ 1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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We have people like this where I work, and they are often "unfireable" for various reasons, so the director is more than happy to load the competent worker up with the important projects so they get done correctly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:35 PM Flag
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NP. I am one of those competent employees and I'm about to leave. It keeps happening. I need to learn to be just competent enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:29 AM Flag
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What makes them unfirable? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:31 AM Flag
[ - ] This may be a dumb question, but I'm new-ish here and I don't know the lingo. Below a poster refers to "my rising 6th grader"; I've seen that term "rising xth grader" before here in the past week or so. "Rising" means what? Aren't ALL students "rising" as they move up through the grades? Or does that refer to something else? TIA 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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It’s the frade the dc is about to enter. [ Reply | More
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Grade [ Reply | More
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yes, no need to use the word 'rising' [ Reply | More
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In the summertime there is, when kids are between grades. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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rising means the kid is in between 5th and 6th grade, finished one and has not started the other. [ Reply | More
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this [ Reply | More
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means her kid is about to be in 6th grade. like the school yr hasn't yet started but kid will be in 6th grade when school starts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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Public school in NYC starts tomorrow. so I guess people say rising grade until the day the school starts,. once school starts, the kid is in 6th grade [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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I don't get why people use the term. Just say 'my kid is going into 6th grade.' It's like people who use gifting as a verb. Ugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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It's a one word adjective that describes the child's situation. It's convenient to use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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No. Rising is fine if you are just using it in the summer between grades. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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I think it's just more clear if someone asks over the summer. DD's school also used it in the spring when talking about future plans and schedules. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:21 AM Flag
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Back in the day we just said "going into" X grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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Right, but that's an awkward phrase if it's not the point of the sentence. " My rising 8th grader is worried about making friends at her new school." "My child who is going into 8th grade is worried about making friends at her new school." [ Reply | More
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"My child is going into 8th and worries..." "My child, who will be in 8th, is worried..." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:36 PM Flag
[ - ] What's for lunch tomorrow for your elementary student? I think I'm making cute pb&j, fruit salad, crudités and a mini cookie. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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whatever the cafeteria is serving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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The food at our school makes me sad. I try not to let my kids eat it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:34 PM Flag
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That's too bad. Ours sources from our local farms. And we're public! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:08 AM Flag
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kids can only bring their own lunch if they have serious allergies at our school [ Reply | More
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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^^Just looked it up: vegetable noodle soup, chicken nuggets, mashed potatoes, steamed broccoli, Caesar salad. Sounds exceedingly pedestrian, doesn't it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:05 PM Flag
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What do you want them to serve? It sounds like a step up from the scrambled ground beef in gravy over mashed potatoes I used to get. Unfortunately, I love bed the stuff. [ Reply | More
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^ “Loved” [ Reply | More
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PP: Well my friend in Paris sometimes sends me pdfs of the menu from her three-year-old's school. It includes a cheese course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Ah, gourmands in training. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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Gourmets. A gourmet is a connoisseur of fine food. A gourmand is a glutton. [ Reply | More
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OP--I cooked the French school lunch menu as our dinner for a few months back in '14. Great meals but even my good eaters balked by the end. American school food is so uninteresting and over-seasoned that everything else is bland and weird in comparison. [ Reply | More
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there are still schools that allow PB? [ Reply | More
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NYC, baby! [ Reply | More
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I'm in NYC - have had kids in a private preschool and two different public elementaries and all have been nut free [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:32 AM Flag
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PBJ is available as school lunch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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NYC still allows this. I am sure it's been banned elsewhere. [ Reply | More
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Oh shit. Lunches! I hate lunches. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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I wish my daughter liked to bring them to school. She likes the hot lunch. I have fun making her lunches over the summers. [ Reply | More
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It gets old. I wish mine would eat the lunch offered at school. There are lots of options, too. [ Reply | More
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Hmmmm maybe I only like making lunches *because* I only make them in the summers (taps forehead) [ Reply | More
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I can not imagine making lunch being fun for me. I wish I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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x1,000. I wish DC ate the school lunch. [ Reply | More
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What is a mini cookie? A Chips Ahoy cut in half? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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I buy tiny little cookies at a Japanese Mart. They fit in the smallest part of our bentos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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You're a parody of a trendy NYC mom (tiny cookies and crudite in a bento box). [ Reply | More
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I suppose. The bento is great because it doesn't leak, the cookies are my favorites from when I was an exchange student and my child won't eat eggs, dairy, pasta, lunch meat or cold chicken. She lives on crudités and moules frites. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:02 AM Flag
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Your child sounds almost as insufferable as you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:16 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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Post a pic on your insta. UB is not your target crowd. #lunchgoals #momlife #UBdontcare [ Reply | More
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Ok, what's your nanny packing for DC since you will busy at The Class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:30 PM Flag
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According to the DOE menu - Peach BBQ Chicken, corn muffin, carrots, apples, juice ice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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Now I want some peach bbq chicken. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:27 PM Flag
[ - ] My daughter starts kindergarten tomorrow and so many people have said "doesn't it feel like the blink of an eye?" Honestly - not really! It feels like an eternity, and each stage has gotten much more progressively interesting, especially since about 3. I'm super excited for her to move to the next stage. Unpopular opinion I guess. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I feel the same. Mine are in 4th and 6th grade now and it doesn't feel like the blink of an eye. I am looking forward to when they are totally independent and on their own! [ Reply | More
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I felt that way until my kids started K, and then elementary school breezed by in a blink of an eye. My DD is almost done (5th) but it seems like she was just in K. Maybe it's because my own elementary school years felt so long, but from a parent standpoint, it's pretty quick. [ Reply | More
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this [ Reply | More
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Days go by slowly and years faster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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+100 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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OP. For me the years have not gone by particularly fast. Maybe because I was with her all the time? It may seem quicker in elementary school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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They speed up from MS to college. I still remember dd's 6th grade and now she's a senior in college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:36 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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For me, the years were slow until elementary school. Now she is starting college and it feels like 2 years have passed. [ Reply | More
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I'm the same. I felt like my oldest DD was so ready for k and baby, toddler, and preschool years seemed so slow. Now people say "Can you believe she's in middle school?" And I think, yep, seems about right. [ Reply | More
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mine is going into 9th grade, and I do think it feels like a blink of an eye, but probably didn't when she was little. I was dying for her to enter elementary school because she was really ready for actual schoolwork. now, I'm reading about colleges because I think that it'll come really fast! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I received class placement for my rising 6th grader (new middle school) with just a class/homeroom number. No teacher name, no classmates, no schedules, nada. Is this normal for middle schools in the city? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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Even our public elementary school sends just the room number [ Reply | More
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That's what my DC's middle school does [ Reply | More
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Yes. Why do you need to know who is in their class? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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Because it’s reassuring for kids to know they’llhave a friendly face or be prepared if there’s a kid they hate. [ Reply | More
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Ok, but they usually call one another and compare. [ Reply | More
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They don't want you to complain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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Totally normal. When my kids were in NYC public middle school, they found out that morning which class they were in. [ Reply | More
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wagner middle school does room number only [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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Yes. Our MS posts just the first period class the night before school starts. Kids get their full schedules in the first period class. [ Reply | More
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Yes, that’s normal. [ Reply | More
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What would you do with more info than that anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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np. my kids always want to know which friends are going to be in their class! But they will find that out the first day, they're just impatient to know. [ Reply | More
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Mine texts her friends immediately when she finds out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:32 PM Flag
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Pretty easy to ask your friends... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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Yes, normal. [ Reply | More
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Our 7th grader got nothing - just show up at the cafeteria on the first day. [ Reply | More
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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We have a schedule and all teachers' names, but I see we are in minority. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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We do too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:57 AM Flag
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Booker T? Totally normal - my kid is there. If it is Booker - don't block the gate at drop off. The 6th grade parents are the worst!! :) - that said the school is amazing and so many kids thrive there. Happy first day of middle school! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm currently pregnant and my wedding rings no longer fit (fingers are swollen). Ladies who have been there, did you just not wear your rings for several months? Any suggestions for a temporary ring(s)? I'm willing to spend some money but nothing crazy. TIA! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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I didn't wear my rings for several months. Unmarried and pregnant, that's me lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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Get a cheap band if you like. Even a Walmart CZ might look cool. My fingers never re-adjusted so I had to get a new one anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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I didn't wear my rings from 7 months until dd was 6 weeks old. Wouldn't worry about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:54 PM Flag
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I wore my on a necklace. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:00 PM Flag
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If either do this or wear nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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No rings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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I took mine off and never put them back on. I realized I liked being ring-less. But if you wanted to wear a ring what about a pretty silver and CZ eternity band? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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I wore mine on a chain around my neck until they fit again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:51 PM Flag
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no rings. I do have one ring (don't ask) that's a bit loose so wore that sometimes but mostly, no rings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone familiar with Viand restaurant on the Upper West Side? Found it on Yelp when looking for somewhere near West 81st that is child friendly, where we can walk in around 6 on Friday and not wait too long. Catch is I'll be in very casual work clothes, so definitely need more of a diner vibe than fancy-pants Manhattan. Appreciate any input or other recommendations, thanks. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:34 PM Flag
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Viand is a classic diner. you will get all the regular diner fare there. def casual. but you can really go to most places in casual clothes these days. There is also Fred's on Amsterdam and also Flame on the UWS which is Hibachi. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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5 Napkin burger [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:48 PM Flag
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Viand is classic but gross. Food is very low quality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:48 PM Flag
[ - ] We received a 5yo bday party invitation for DD's friend on a weekend when DH is out of town and my regular sitter is unavailable. Would you ask the birthday mom if you could bring along older DC to the party? Or just RSVP no and not say anything? 52 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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Ask if you can drop off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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op: I don't know the parents at all (brand new school), so not sure if I feel comfortable yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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If you ask, your child won’t be invited again. Thy aren’t a babysitting service. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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Oh please, it's a birthday party. That means there are hosts. And the kids are 5, not 2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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op doesnt even know the parents AT ALL and its a brand new school. Its really rude to ask a stranger to host your other child upon the first meeting. Actually i think its rude in general, but if you dont even know the parents? you can find some way to have t=your other child occupied for 2 hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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It’s a birthday party. That’s kind of the point. We aren’t talking about babies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:08 AM Flag
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a party is 2 hours. set up a playdate or some activity for your other kid. DONT ask. They have to say yes and its rude. its not the hosts problem that people cant get childcare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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When DD turned five her party was a drop-off. Are you sure the host wants you to stay? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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good point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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This. Ask if it is drop-off or if parents are expected to stay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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If house party, I might ask if dc best friend. If place pay $50 a head- definitely no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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Where is the venue? If your sibling child is actively participating in the party too and the host has to pay per head, then I would hesitate in asking to bring the sibling. If there is no additional fee for the sibling, I would reach out to the host and ask if sibling could tag along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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this. depends on venue setup and how they count kids for costs. I've been to parties where the sibling is much older, has no interest in party activities for 5 yos and just sits on the side with a book. Venue doesn't include that kid in headcount. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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Nope. Accept and make other arrangements or decline. Don't make a parent at the new school need to solve your childcare dilemma. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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Is it not drop off? Can another friends' mom "chaperone" while you go off with older ds? I wouldn't have cared if this happened at my kids' parties. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 08:52 PM Flag
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Have you not read the gazillion UB posts on this topic, usually posted by the hosts of kids' b-day parties who are at their wits end because parents ask to bring siblings or even just bring siblings without even asking? If you had, you would know the answer: do NOT ask to bring a sibling to a party. The host will feel obliged to accommodate your request. It's totally not fair to the host. The venue might not be big enough to accommodate additional kids, the host is probably paying on a per kid basis and has already provided the venue with the headcount. If your child is comfortable with being dropped off at the party, ask the parents who are hosting if drop off would be OK. If your DD isn't comfortable with drop off, find another babysitter (maybe a teenager in your building if you are in NYC) or see if a friend of older DC is willing to host a playdate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:51 PM Flag
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DD's birthday parties were drop-offs beginning at 3. It was great and worked out fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 09:52 PM Flag
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Where is this? Serious question, I have NEVER been to a drop off party for 3 yos and there's no way in hell I'd be willing to host one unless it was maybe 2-3 3 yos I already knew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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Me neither. Many 3 year olds still have accidents time to time especially when they are having fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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that is weird [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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thats weird. 3 year olds are a handful. However, when they are older,drop-off parties at brunch time are the best. You can have a date with your DH and get free childcare! the best [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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This is NOT the norm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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i may have unpopular opinion but i am fine with people bringing siblings and have done the same myself. Here's how they and I have done it; you say 'we'd love to come but i may have a childcare issue for other ds - waiting to see if dh will be free and will circle back' then parent has the choice to either say 'no worries, bring them along' or 'ok no worries lmk when you know'. neither is awkward. I never give AF if people bring siblings personally unless i have numbers limit which i try to avoid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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Of course you do not mind because you do it too. It is rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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np: I'm the poster below. Where I live it is very common for people to bring siblings and for parents to stay for the party. Sometimes BOTH parents show up. Showing up without asking would be considered rude but the way pp is suggesting it gives the host a graceful option out. This may be cultural. The people here strike me as very uptight and "structured". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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agree that it depends where you live. im in NYC where space is limited, everyone has siblings that are usually not invited and parties anywhere other than the home are $$$. Thats why NYC parents can be uptight about this. I have family in the midwest and they have a party for anyone and everyone in the backyard. no "Paperless Post" invite, no RSVP required. Bring your cousins, no one cares. So, location means EVRYTHING [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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NP We had DD's parties at home until she turned nine, and even then I wouldn't entertain uninvited siblings or parents. It's rude, period -- not a function of the out-of-pocket expense. Party invitations are specific. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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^^Also NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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np who doesn't mind siblings - i am in nyc and this is true of many parents at our school. the way I do it isn't rude, it puts no pressure on the hosting family whatsoever. also i only do it if i genuinely have no childcare. If this is something you get this exercised about honestly (not trying to be rude) i think you are likely projecting anger about something deeper. There's just no way you could find a parent potentially bringing a sibling to the party of someone who has actively offered to host them that offensive in the grand scheme of the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:13 PM Flag
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PP: FWIW we've never had a "parents stay" party, so childcare wouldn't be an issue. But we're on a budget so have parties at home, and it annoys me that the people who pay a thousand bucks to celebrate a four-year-old's birthday at Bounce U or wherever think they deserve special consideration because they are paying per capita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:06 AM Flag
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Uptight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:14 PM Flag
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this. the only people who dont mind are the ones who expect that they can drop their other kids at other parties. The example of the response you give is pretty transparent. cmon now. lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:03 PM Flag
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Not sure why you act like this is some kind of smoking gun or mystery you've unraveled - "Ooooh, of course you think it's okay - because you do it too! LOL!" That's what she's saying - she thinks it's okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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let me phrase it differently: irresponsible moms are laid back about everything, their childcare and yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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This. Of course rude people do not see it as rude. You do not bring extra guests to any party from a birthday to a wedding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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if it's rude then every parent in both my kids classes is rude. I'll let them know you said so! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:14 PM Flag
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please do! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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Every parent brings extra kids to parties who are not invited. I would never want to live near you. These are the same people who RSVP for weddings with extra people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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+1, IA with all of this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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I never cared either if siblings came. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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I think that's a great way to word it. Puts no pressure on the host. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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is this maybe an UES thing where parties are different and they're super fancy and there are all kinds of unspoken rules? trying to figure out why this would be so different from anywhere else I've lived or seen. Bc if the vast majority of families in America do not have weekend childcare or parents nearby then how are they meant to navigate this scenario? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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You drop the kid off at the party if they are over 5. If they are under 5 you ask another child’s parent if they can watch your child at the party as well. Or your child can actually skip the party. Consider taking responsibility for your own kids childcare. It’s not complicated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:52 AM Flag
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I realize you think you know everything - but where I live no one did drop off parties at 5. could it possibly be that there is no one answer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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you are correct that there is no one answer. There are several solutions. Be resourceful, or use one of the solutions i provided,. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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I'm in Tampa, FL and I navigate it by leaving my othert kids with dh or a sitter. Or i drop off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 07:41 AM Flag
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where i live dropping off is a thousand times ruder than bringing a sibling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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um, you only drop off is the party is DESIGNATED as a d