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[ - ] Really smart, social, verbal DCs with nice families NEVER get shut-out if apply broadly 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.21.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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true, but smart parents won't just put their smart, social verbal dc just anywhere. Personally, I would skip the lower tier schools and go public if TT were not an option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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We know that. But not all families are willing to settle for any private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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OP: I respect that, but then they are not "shut-outs" If someone only applies to HM and does not get in, the DC is not a shut-out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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Sometimes they do if they need a lot of FA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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all you shutouts cite FA as the reason, but chances are you would not have gotten a spot either way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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I'm not a shutout, so please stop with the presumptuous "all you..." This does happen to some people. That's why I began with the word SOMETIMES, I'm not claiming it's a universal explanation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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sounds like you do have a pony in the race. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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her Pony is called "my DC is in a zoned public" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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My dc are at a TT ongoing. But I've seen other people with smart, social, verbal dc and nice parents shut out, or offered acceptances w/out enough aid. It happens. I'm not sure why that's so tough for you to believe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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Every family with a dc with 98 or 99 who asked for A LOT of FA (70% or more) all got placed a private with enough FA that I know of. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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That's nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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we gave up lower tier school for anderson recently. very smart dc, and only signed the contract for the chance that dc would not place well in public. happily forfeited the money. felt dc would not be with like peers. some of the kids I know going to the private are average at best we were planning to apply out in a couple of years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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...and you post is relevane here because??? or you wanted one more excuse to tell us for the 50th time that your DC got into Anderson :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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you don't seem to qualify as "nice family" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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maybe not, but we did get into a couple of privates. luckily dc is very smart. maybe didn't get tt because of us, who knows? but we definitely felt anderson was a better option than the private we had in hand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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can you say which school? Want to know what spots have opened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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Nursery school teacher here: over the years, I have had some shut outs -- and, in every instance, there was some sort of "explanation." Maybe the ERBs were scattered and the family didn't look at a range of schools, maybe the parents were PITAs (and even if the school report was nice, the ongoing schools could tell), maybe DC had difficult playdates and school visits. That being said, I agree with this advice -- if you apply broadly and act interested on all tours/interviews, you should be okay. At a certain point, it does become a numbers game and DOAs say that they WL DC who would "fit" at the school, that they just don't have enough space for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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agree that there are often explanations, but what surprises me is that many of the kids who do get in could have "explanations" that are very similar (PITA parents, behavioral probs, scatter). so my question is why do some of these kids get in anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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^^^...and others don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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You never know who has connections or which PITA families were able to pull it together during the application process or what "brokering" went on behind the scenes. Sometimes that side of it *doesn't* make a lot of sense -- but the shut outs can be "explained." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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connections, donations (we know 2 kids who got off the wl's this year because parents told me they and other family members made big donations-enough for naming rights essentially in both cases)-depending on the school, this can trump a lot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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Add singleton to that equation. Not true with twins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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I think I agree. Unfortunately, I know many shutouts this year, and there are issues--ranging from behavioral problems, difficult parents, erb issues, parents not applying to enough schools, etc. That said, I think this year was particularly brutal, especially for boys, and in a another year with better odds, many of the shutouts would have gotten placed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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add wealthy to that description, and I'd agree. FA can be a deal-breaker, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I need some suggestions for great online baby stores! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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Petit Luxe, www.petitluxe.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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You can shop for really cute celebrity kids styles at www.thedapperbaby.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.27.08, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] 2.6 dd asked to wear her big girl underwear yesterday. no accidents. every thirty minutes was put on the potty. peed three times .. no poop. anyway. only accident was at night eating dinner. we knew she needed to go but she didn't want to stop eating. anyway, we said oh well it's an accident. today new days and she went on the potty every thirty minutes...for 5-10 minutes...no pee....within 5 minutes of getting off she has an accident. i'm totally frustrated and ready to ditch the whole thing. I don't want to punish her for accidents of course but i feel like she holds it in on the potty and they pees once she gets off. and yeah, could care less that he's in wet underwear. wwyd/. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.21.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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return to diapers for another month or so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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Bad idea. If you think she's withholding let her sit on the potty until she pees then reward. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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np: My DS would sit for 30 minutes, still withholding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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not a bad idea. you wait to potty train until you can do it without any issues. if there are issues, then she's not ready. ask any ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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great now i'm totally confusde [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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I think maybe every 30 mins is too much. I would remind her and ask her if she needs to go, every 30 mins, but don't put her on there so often. It will become an annoyance for her, and then a control thing. Accidents are bound to happen, but in this case she is doing it on purpose. Either put her in diapers for a few more weeks and try again, or just know that accidents will happen, always carry around a change of clothes (for girls it's so much easier when they wear dresses, as only the underwear needs to be changed). The fact that she is asking means that she is ready, but don't over push. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:27 PM Flag
[ - ] what should dh and i do tonight. have sitter. want to do something different 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.21.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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Have a three-some with sitter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] what should dh and i do tonight in city - have babysitter. Want to do something different 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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Go bowling. Walk across the Brooklyn Bridge. Take the Staten Island Ferry and admire the Statue of Liberty from afar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] how often (if ever) do you argue, yell, fight, etc. with your dh in front of your ds/dd? do you feel just horrible about it after? Is it ever okay? Or have you found good ways to avoid this? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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Frequently when we are sleep deprived. Dc usually intervenes and stops us. No, we don't feel horrible. A life w/o conflict is not real. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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we have had a couple of huge blowouts. otherwise some bickering here or there. during one of the blowouts i actually just left b/c i didn't want to have it continue with the kids around. i always feel horrible after and try to avoid. i will even tell dh to stop if we are fighting and to take a time out, but often he can't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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it happens. i think the thing that is really bad is when you bad mouth your spouse in front of your kids. i have a friend who bashes her husband to me in front of her kids (6 & 8) all the time. I see the kids listening to every word (and she just goes off) and it's heartbreaking. i always just change the subject. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:24 AM Flag
[ - ] divorced moms please help - I am ready to leave my husband but getting out of this marriage seems like such a monumental task. How did you do the separation? Did you leave or did he? And where did everyone live? I am so overwhelmed so any help you can provide is appreciated. Thanks. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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no help to give you except to say best of luck to you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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I rented an apt/signed a lease, then told dh the next day that I was leaving the following morning and that the marriage was over for me. We made an agreement then that dd would live with me during week and spend weekend with dh. We were agreement about most things, so divorce was not awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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Before you do anything, you need to consult (usually free) with a divorce attorney to get the facts/your rights in your state. Arm yourself before uttering the word divorce to your dh. Once you know what you are legally entitled to do and can expect, you will feel stronger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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Hi there - I just left on 11/1. I told my husband that after what we had been through i needed some time to get myself & my sanity together living separately. I just had the conversation with him that it will be a permanent thing. I know this method may be misleading, but at the time i was about to lose my mind and I really could not deal with any drama while I was packing and moving my stuff out. It's a weird thing but you'll do it if it's right for you. I was having migraines almost every day living there and now there are gone. Big hugs to you. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.26.08, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm always suprised at how coveted spots at Collegiate's lower school are here. I will agree that the upper school seems fabulous though. BTW, my son was accepted to Collegiate and we turned it down so this is not a case of "bitter mom". 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.21.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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No, just a case of VBA. Which one is Collegiate again, sweetie? You're going to have to remind me if you want me to be properly impressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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Nah, I was actually curious. Perhaps there is a parent on UB with first hand experience with Collegiate's lower school that could enlighten me. I made sure to state that my ds got in to head off all of the "oh you must just be a bitter SO" comments (although, yes I am proud). Awwww...thanks. I like being called "sweetie". It gives me warm fuzzies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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It's just that Collegiate is the only boys' school that is TT. Girls have 3 TTs to choose from. But personally, it's far too traditional for my taste. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Can somebody explain? Why TT private are better than 2nd tier? Peer group? curriculum? We are thinking about trying private next year. DC has fall b'day. He will be Anderson this year. Should we try only TT or better to try 2nd, 3rd tier to LOOK FOR private than staying A. DC's ERB score is 98/98/97, btw. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.21.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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What you should do is really try to find out what the kids are doing in the grades beyond K at Anderson and take that knowledge with you as you tour private schools. That way you'll know what you're comparing. Just comparing K and 1 is not enough valid info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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You know, we have to start the process in September. It is kind of early how DS is doing, thriving in early months. We just want to set our direction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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That's understood. I'm just saying that if you go into it with no knowledge of what you'd be giving up, except for what has occurred in the first 3 weeks of kindergarten you won't be able to make a fair comparison. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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Why don't you just save the tuition money and stop worrying about the status of your 5 year old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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The 7 tt schools (HM, Trinity, Dalton, Chapin, Brearley, Collegiate, Spence) have college placement that's far superior the 3rd tier (e.g., CGPS, Friends) and 4th tier (eg, Dwight, Trevor, Hewitt) schools. 2nd tier schools (eg, ECFS, Riverdale, NBS) are pretty impressive too but not as good as the tts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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^^^If my DC was in Anderson, I would try for tt, but would not bother below tt. When your DC finishes MS, you can always apply broadly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] very odd -- everytime I'm sick, DH suddenly feels a little sick too. Hmm... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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that's a quality in many men that i both love and hate- they're such babies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone want to diagnose me? Horrible joint pain and rash for 5 days. Now I have 102.5 fever for the last 48 hours? Doctors have no clue. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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That was me 2 years ago. The next symptoms were a blinding headache and a swollen ankle. I had Lyme's disease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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I tested negative for Lyme. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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When were you tested? You have been sick for 5 days and a blot test for Lyme takes at least 7 days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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I was tested on Tuesday - should I be retested? How long were you sick? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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If you were tested on Tuesday, you do not have the results yet. I was in the hospital on IV antibiotics for 5 days then oral antibiotics for another two months. I was sick for about 6 weeks total. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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I went to urgent care on Tuesday and they called on Thursday and said it was negative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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They didn't do a blot test, which is the gold standard. Go see your primary care physician or an ID specialist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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whoa, you're not the first person to post with those symptoms (unless it was you before). i dunno. and docs have no clue? the last person who posted about it it was diagnosed as fifth's disease [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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search by 'joint' or [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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http://www.urbanbaby.com/search?search%5Bquery%5D=joint+pain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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several posts from people with same situation on that search [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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I'd continue to go to the MD -- maybe ask for a different panel of tests (or a retest -- lab errors do happen!). The joint pain and rash makes me (a non-MD!!) wonder if it's some sort of autoimmune issue. (I have rheumatoid issues and I was originally diagnosed when I had a funky rash.) GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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my primary care said the RA panel was negative -- should I go to a specialist? What kind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Maybe go to a rheumatologist. My "issues" are broad and unspecified -- but my levels come back very high (whatever that means!) and I continue to get monitored by a rheumatologist. In my case, it's not a "big deal" -- I don't have symptoms (I don't have joint pain) and I'm not on meds. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Who here has actually aborted a pregnancy because of down syndrome? Or some other survivable abnormality? I can't believe how many people are posting they would abort because of down's. That is horrifying. You suck. 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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dude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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best response ever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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Would you rather they gave birth to babies that they lack the capacity to raise? Are people lining up to adopt downs babies these days? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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i don't think you know what you have the capacity to raise until faced with it. this is the lamest reason ever. what if your perfectly healthy, normal, G&T perfect little child was diagnosed with leukemia -- would you have the capacity to deal with that? Please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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There is a HUGE difference between bringing a child into the world knowing that they will need care for the rest of their lives (potentially longer than you will live yourself) and treating a child who gets sick. Huge difference. I aborted a TS baby. When DH had thyroid cancer, I didn't drive him out to the wild and abandon him. Totally different situations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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It's not different. Not at all. It's about accepting the unknown when you decide to become a parent. There are NO guarantees. With the new ultrasound technology, what else will people start selecting out? bone structure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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You want to compare bone structure to severe mental retardation and chronic health problems? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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What is your problem? Is it the unknown? In that case, if downs or tay-sachs are diagnosed, they are no longer unknowns. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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according to published reports there are waiting lists for children with down syndrome in the U.S. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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you're saying you deinitely wouldn't? i'd be very torn. honestly some people are just not up to it, and they realize it and i think that's good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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maybe to you... i'm not saying that i would or i wouldn't, but for me, a woman should be able to choose whether she wants to have a child or not... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, I agree 100 percent -- a woman should have the right to choose whether or not to have a baby. Not determine through termination what kind of baby she wants to have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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i understand the way of looking at this where it seems horrifying. But, life with a downs child/adult is a completely huge difference from life with a non-downs child. and if you don't have the resources or wherewithal to deal with that, that seems better to me to call before the birth than after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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np: So a woman should not have the right to terminate a pregnancy if the fetus has a terminal genetic disorder? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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are you referring to something like I state below, where there is virtually no chance of survivability after birth, or are you talking about something like Huntington's? CF? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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I am talking terminal conditions. You said that mother's don't have the right to chose what kind of babies they have. But do they have the right to chose to NOT have terminally ill babies? Terminally ill babies that will suffer until they die? Where is the line? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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look below -- i already posted on that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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So why would you say that a woman has no choice to use termination to decide what kind of baby she has? Clearly, you do support women terminating to chose to not have a sick baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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And if there was prenatal testing for their conditions, their parents would have every right to chose to terminate to spare their children their suffering. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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are you ok with people aborting for other reasons? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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OP: If a woman for whatever reason cannot have ANY baby at that point in her life, or if the baby is diagnosed in utero with a condition with a very small chance of survival after birth. THis is not the case with down's -- many of whom grow up and live very fulfilling lives, though of course not ivy league material. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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And many babies with downs are plagued with serious bowl problems and face a life of painful surgeries. Others can never care for themselves and end up in group homes when their parents get too old to care for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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and many "normal" children experience painful surgeries and life-altering accidents and end up in group homes when their parents get too old to care for them. so what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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And if there were genetic tests for their conditions, their parents would have every [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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OP: It's about the parents' ego and nothing else. Not wanting to have a "different" child, a child that can't match your expectations. Joke's on you though, because one way or another, your child is going to disappoint you anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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You are sick. And clearly, you have never had to figure out how to care for a chronically ill child for 30 plus years. How to make your household finances work when SAH is suddenly your only option because there is no childcare. How to balance caring for elderly parents and a child who needs all of your energy and attention, all of the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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np: Do you have a child with Down's Syndrome or another chromosomal abnormality? Because unless you've been there - and for 30+ years like in my family - you don't know the extent of what it takes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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ITTTTA. My aunt and cousins were saints taking care of severally delayed cousin. She was tall and strong and mentally disturbed and wreaked havoc on all their lives and none of them ever complain, but all three women say they would abort a downs syndrome fetus. I don't judge and I agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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Okay. When your daughter gets pregnant at 14, you're going to let her have and keep the baby, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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np- honestly, yes. Couldn't imagine advising for abortion. I'd raise it before advising for an abortion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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How noble of you to sacrifice your DD's health and mental well-being for your own personal satisfaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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It is a personal choice and a very difficult one. You really don't know until you are in that situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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i didn't have to do this, but i had CVS b/c if there had been a high risk for downs, i would have aborted. i was extremely depressed when i found out i was pg w/ #2 (suicidal, crying, etc), and was back and forth about aborting anyway. if the db would have also had downs, i would have probably not been able to deal at all. (mostly fine now, btw. due in 4 weeks. have still had moments of depression during pregnancy, but dh has been amazingly supportive and patient throughout, and we'll get through this.) anyway, that's my honest answer, take it or leave it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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Downs Syndrome varies hugely in its effect. If you think it's just mild retardation, then it seems terrible to abort for that. But it can also mean multiple, life-threatening surgeries for heart problems, and pretty severe retardation. My neighbor's son has Downs, and he can barely walk and, at the age of 7, still wears a diaper. Maybe you are up for that kind of care -- and your DH and your other DCs are -- but that's a huge burden. Not to be taken on lightly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, lady. once you start making blanket statements about other people's choices, life is going to screw with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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You are a judgemental prat. Why post your little ragefest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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I terminated my first pregnancy last year after the amniocentesis revealed the baby had Klinefelter's syndrome. It was an extremely painful decision based on my and my husband's assessment of our ability to care for a potentially mentally retarded child. We did not think we could handle it. It was extremely painful and devastating, but the right decision for us. I am now pregnant again and we had a CVS, which revealed no chromosomal abnormalities. It was not an easy decision to make, and I am so grateful I had the choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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I am so sorry you went through that, but I would have made the same decision and for the same reasons. Your story is exactly why women need to get out and THINK about their vote this November. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Having a child is mostly a leap of faith and love ... if you cannot love a child who is "less than perfect" both mentally and physically then you have your decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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I have not but I would. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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you post this on a regular basis, don't you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] What the hell. So few people answer the posts here now. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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i'm not seein gthat. i'm getting good answers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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what's your question/topic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:36 PM Flag
[ - ] i'm having real estate regrets. bought our house in january for more than it's worth now, and saw a house yesterday that was almost 1/2 the price that i liked more than ours. tell me how to not feel terrible about this? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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Why beat yourself up? If you can afford the house, will live there for a while (more than 5 years), and can maintain it, you will be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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i wish i had your attitude. this is, i'm afraid, a chronic attitude issue with me. i start obsessing about the thing i did wrong and the other path i could have should have taken. it's bad, not to mention lame. but thanks for the advice, i'll try [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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Of course we could all make better decisions for ourself if we had crystal balls. We don't. We go with the information we had at the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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No matter when you bought the house, and for what price, you will always see better/cheaper/etc houses. Stop reading the real estate ads and you'll be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] any Hunter moms on? I have two questions. One, considering homeschooling my dc for first grade and wondering if you could tell me what your dc learned in first grade math, reading? Can handle the rest, just curious about standards. And the second question, does Hunter have a psychologist that works with the children if they are having problems? Or do they have a list of recommendations? If schools is still in session I'll call Monday, but I think they are out already. Thank you. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.21.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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ah...the homeschooling nuts are here! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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Hunter curriculum is 1 or 2 grades advanced. But there are many kids who are 3 or 4 grades advanced and they form small groups to go at their pace. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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Yes there is a school psychologist. In terms of the other stuff it really is at their own pace--some kids reading at 1st grade level, some at 5th or 6th. math varies by 2-3 grades too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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could you give me the name and phone number for school psych? Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:39 AM Flag
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