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[ - ] a single friend of mine is having an affair with a married man with kids. Teh wife has no clue. The husband says he works late all the time, weekends, etc. but he's often at my friends house. I'm not condoning their behavior, but apparently the husband and wife have very little sex and things are not great. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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this is the oldest cliche in the book. this dude is a cheating liar, and that's who your friend is schtupping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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How can she have sex with her husband if he is always at work or with his girlfriend? He's a liar, a cheater, and your friend is an insult to women and marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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sorry but i agree with both prev. posters. your friend is in the wrong, big time. equalled only by the cheaty husband. she should realy back away from that. it's not cool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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i don't care if the wife never had sex with the DH -- that doesn't give him the right to cheat on her... your friend is a homewrecker and so is her married boyfriend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm writing a story and am having brain freeze. what is a something else that topples like dominoes. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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a house of cards? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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not bad. thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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no problem. what are you writing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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a children's book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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good luck!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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a house of cards? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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opps, posted before I saw earlier reply [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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bowling pins [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:14 PM Flag
[ - ] We sold our house today. Boohoo. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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why are you sad about it? do you not like your new house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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No we havent found one yet. Moving to Boston and love it here (NY) so just sad to leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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We just got back from a 36 hour trip to Boston. We loved Boston! I told hubby that if his company ever offered him a transfer to Boston, take it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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geez...our house has been on the market for over a year and it's not selling. I wish ours would! we could use the $$. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:08 PM Flag
[ - ] 6 yr old's party at gymnastics studio- drop off or not? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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depends on the kid... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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at 6? probably. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you just keep up with school work in elementary school or do a lot of supplementary educating at home? Does it help if you do? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.21.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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I don't do much else with DS at home -- he just finished up K -- he does his homework, and then we do other things like read together, play games and do some big puzzles -- but that's about it. I have one friend who constantly drills her kid and the thought of doing that totally stresses me out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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What kind of hw does he get in K? I am in London so curious about differences. Kids go to K at age 4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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he gets a worksheet or two -- he has to trace his ABCs and stuff like that -- nothing major... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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Don't do any supplimental "work" at home. DS just finished K. Very bright, enjoys games and running around - I believe school is fine. I would be pretty pissed if my boss wanted me to suppliment my work at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Private Schools in Lower Westchester/CT e.g. Rye country day vs. Scarsdale/Bronxville kind of public school. Which would you pick and why for a girl? Please discuss pros/cons. We will be moving back from London (private schools here) and kids are a year ahead of American schools. Thanks 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.21.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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It all depends upon the kid. I would prefer a smaller private school because I went to a great public HS in Westchester but it was so huge I got lost in the shuffle. A small school would've been better for me. Then again, many people in my class went to Ivy League schools, so there ya go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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Well I went to an Ivy with kids from across the board, public, private, tiny village schools etc. so I think that is too unpredictable. I am more interested in providing all the possible resources/options which facilitate learning and getting the right resume for getting into a good college. Whether a particular child makes it depends on the child I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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Right, and by the same token, without knowing your dd, I don't know how to answer this question. The private and public schools you mentioned are all excellent. It depends upon dd's temperment, which resouces you feel you really need, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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I thikn a child that will make it will make it whether they are from a public or private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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There are some great small public schools in Westchester Rye Neck and Pocantico Hills are great public schools, since they are small they have more of a private school feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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We moved back from London and ended up sending our son to a small private school in Lower Westchester. He was way ahead academically of the other kids at the public school and the kids who are ahead academically do not get any extra help or push, just boredom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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Which private school in Lower Westchester? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:19 AM Flag
[ - ] My sons (6 and 3) will be baptized in July ... the church is very laid back, so a suit isn't required by any means ... is a sweater vest with polo shirt and chinos too casual? The church isn't air conditioned so a sports coat might get too hot. I need advice for boys dress up clothes in the summer!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.21.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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won't a sweater vest be too hot? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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^^^why not just go with a nice button down shirt and chinos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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i think a sweater vest would be too warm. what about a cute john john set for the younger boy and a matching shirt and slacks for the older one -- woodensoldierltd.com has some great stuff... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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I would do khakis and white shirts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:16 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone know when the cut off B'day is for schools in Westchester? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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12.31 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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No, it varies from district to district, e.g., Katonah/Lewisboro is Dec. 1st, Mamaroneck is Dec. 31st, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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generally 12/31 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] when writing the phrase "master's degree in psychology", which words get capitalized? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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If you're just talking about the subject, no capitalization necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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and its masters, not master's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:52 PM Flag
[ - ] It's funny how people spend so much money on education for their kids, and there is no guarantee of them getting into a good college. I don't get this crazy obsession over all this. In the end are your kids really happy? Or is it all about you. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.21.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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People who want their kids to go to private school JUST SO they can go to Harvard, Yale or Princeton are just stupid. However, I think most private school parents don't think that way. They just want the best current school for their kids - same as the public school parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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You really think that peole don't expect their kids to get into good colleges after spending similar tuitions? And when it comes to public parents on this board seem a little crazy. Why only send their kid to public if they got into a G&T. It's a little rediculous. Gen ed can be fine too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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np: my dds are in private school and I dont' care or hope they go to Harvard, Princeton or Yale. I just want them to go where they want and get a good education. There are good opportunities besides HYP. Our public option sucks and we don't have faith in the public system..so we went private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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One of the differences between a private school and a public school dc come college time is that the private schooler would never ever go to a SUNY or CUNY, even if it was more selective. They would rather go to a small, unknown private or out-of-state public college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Ironically, a SUNY or CUNY can be more impressive than an obscure liberal arts college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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Yes, of course. But try to find a CUNY Honors College attendee from a private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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Every dc at my dc's ongoing gets into a good college, many of them Ivies. We aren't fixated on HYP, but we know dc will get into a good one. But that's not the main reason we send dc to an excellent private; we do it for the sake of the 13 years between K and college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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What do you mean for the sake of the 13 years between K and college? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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What I mean is that we cared more about finding a school that we thought would offer dc the best educational, emotional and social experience during the 13 years between K and 12. We would never choose an ongoing because we thought it was a ticket to a certain college or tier of colleges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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My dc is at public school and I have the exact same confidence that dc will get into a good college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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np: then you must be zoned or in a good public. Many ppl don't have that option [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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Dc is already at a selective public HS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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^^^And why is it that even when I post about my specific opinion and situation, once I mention public school, I have to answer for all 1.1 million children in the NYC public school system? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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no one said you are speaking on behalf of all public students [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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I guess I just feel that way when someone says - many people don't have that option (of a good public school). But of course, the same is true of private schoolers - no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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well considering public is something we pay for with taxes..I think the options out there SUCK (at least in our district). I also went to public in Manhattan and it was a waste of time. That's why when ppl have a good option like many D2 schools, they are lucky IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I was looking at the list of schools Brooklyn Friends grads got into this year... not that impressive. Wesleyan was about the best-- not that it's bad, but there were a lot crappy colleges on the list too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] How much does it cost to have a sump pump and interior french drain installed? We're in CT. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.21.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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there are many moving parts to this answer. but, in short, i'd say about 5-8k for a good sump pump and 15k for interior french drain. of course once the drain is installed, you'll have to fix the floor, paint, etc the basement which will cost more $. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] i feel like crying. dh works sat. but we can usually go out at night. he has been working so much lately. last night had dinner but he was on blackberry and phone didn't stop ringing - lots of things/stress going on at work. basically dinner was lame and ruined by all of it. i feel like i try to be patient but this is getting to me. now, just called he has to work tonight :( had to cancel our plans . why do i feel sorry for myself? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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frankly, i don't know--how about feeling sorry for him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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how? i am with 3 dc. 6-7 days /week by myself. i might as well be a single mom. everyone is with their families on the weekends and i am by myself. my ds said today why is daddy always working on sat. when the other daddies are home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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right, you might as well be a single mom--except then you'd also be working f/t to support your kids. maybe you guys need to reevaluate your set up--he should work less, and you should think about getting a job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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np: Exactly - hate when these mommies cry over their pedicures and cleaning ladies, Subzeros and BMW SUVs. If you enjoy the lifestyle someone has got to pay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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you're making a lot of assumptions about this women and women in general. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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^^woman^^ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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p.s. everyone is NOT with the dhs over the w'end. My husband typically works all day Sunday and he earns 100k. - not so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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My 2 cents: this is modern american family life, compounded in your case by having 3 kids and a husband who works on weekends. Either you find another day in the week to spend quality time together, or reassess your income/lifestyle needs relating to how much daddy works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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i am not trying to be funny but i don't know what you mean by reassess- you mean get a babysitter? or see if he really needs to work so much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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np: not too bright, eh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Yes, babysitting, date night out at least 1x week, family time on a different day than Sat or Sun--all these might help. I think the balance in your life is too heavy on the daddy/breadwinning side. Both he and you need to think about what works for your family as a UNIT, not the fact that he works too much on weekends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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yet I am guessing she has no trouble spending the income his hard work generates - which is fine but hard to complain about [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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np: i think you're being a bit insensitive. just because you don't relate to her situation doesn't mean you can't see that there would be some difficult patches. it is pretty hard work being with kids 24/7. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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i totally understand. one thing that might help is to remember that other people's lives are not blissful and perfect as they often appear. if you saw my husband out with my dd you would think what a great dad, yet he cheated on me in a truly horrendous way two years ago which our family struggles with every day. sorry to drag in a whole OTHEr topic, just want to tell you that we are all together in this, mothers, and it's really hard work. no family is perfect. well, some. but most aren't. but i know how you feel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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Be grateful that he has a job. Many layoffs right now and a lot of stress for families as a result. That would be much worse. Not saying it is easy -- I would imagine that the hours are very hard on him too -- but things could be a lot worse. Try to keep a perspective and be grateful for what you have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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I can relate. My DH has to work 2 weekends a month, and it gets lonely. However, I know it is so much harder on him and hates missing out on family time so I try not to dwell on it and make the most of the weekends when he is home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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you have every right to feel sorry for yourself -- and for DH. it's the summer, so get a summer helper if you can and do some things for yourself or with one or two of the kids at a time (while little one(s) is/are napping) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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are you in DC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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