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06.21.08, 11:31 AM General Topics
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i feel like crying. dh works sat. but we can usually go out at night. he has been working so much lately. last night had dinner but he was on blackberry and phone didn't stop ringing - lots of things/stress going on at work. basically dinner was lame and ruined by all of it. i feel like i try to be patient but this is getting to me. now, just called he has to work tonight :( had to cancel our plans . why do i feel sorry for myself? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.21.08, 11:31 AM Flag
 

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frankly, i don't know--how about feeling sorry for him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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how? i am with 3 dc. 6-7 days /week by myself. i might as well be a single mom. everyone is with their families on the weekends and i am by myself. my ds said today why is daddy always working on sat. when the other daddies are home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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right, you might as well be a single mom--except then you'd also be working f/t to support your kids. maybe you guys need to reevaluate your set up--he should work less, and you should think about getting a job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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np: Exactly - hate when these mommies cry over their pedicures and cleaning ladies, Subzeros and BMW SUVs. If you enjoy the lifestyle someone has got to pay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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you're making a lot of assumptions about this women and women in general. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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^^woman^^ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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p.s. everyone is NOT with the dhs over the w'end. My husband typically works all day Sunday and he earns 100k. - not so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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My 2 cents: this is modern american family life, compounded in your case by having 3 kids and a husband who works on weekends. Either you find another day in the week to spend quality time together, or reassess your income/lifestyle needs relating to how much daddy works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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i am not trying to be funny but i don't know what you mean by reassess- you mean get a babysitter? or see if he really needs to work so much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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np: not too bright, eh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Yes, babysitting, date night out at least 1x week, family time on a different day than Sat or Sun--all these might help. I think the balance in your life is too heavy on the daddy/breadwinning side. Both he and you need to think about what works for your family as a UNIT, not the fact that he works too much on weekends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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yet I am guessing she has no trouble spending the income his hard work generates - which is fine but hard to complain about [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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np: i think you're being a bit insensitive. just because you don't relate to her situation doesn't mean you can't see that there would be some difficult patches. it is pretty hard work being with kids 24/7. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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i totally understand. one thing that might help is to remember that other people's lives are not blissful and perfect as they often appear. if you saw my husband out with my dd you would think what a great dad, yet he cheated on me in a truly horrendous way two years ago which our family struggles with every day. sorry to drag in a whole OTHEr topic, just want to tell you that we are all together in this, mothers, and it's really hard work. no family is perfect. well, some. but most aren't. but i know how you feel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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Be grateful that he has a job. Many layoffs right now and a lot of stress for families as a result. That would be much worse. Not saying it is easy -- I would imagine that the hours are very hard on him too -- but things could be a lot worse. Try to keep a perspective and be grateful for what you have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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I can relate. My DH has to work 2 weekends a month, and it gets lonely. However, I know it is so much harder on him and hates missing out on family time so I try not to dwell on it and make the most of the weekends when he is home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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you have every right to feel sorry for yourself -- and for DH. it's the summer, so get a summer helper if you can and do some things for yourself or with one or two of the kids at a time (while little one(s) is/are napping) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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are you in DC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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