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[ - ] i have a 10mo and I am 35. No trouble getting pg the first time. When should I start ttc again? I am conflicted betwn waiting until next year so dbs are a little further apart in age and worrying that it will take awhile to get pg this go-round. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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Obviously you can't predict, but I got pg with my 1st on the 1st try at age 34, and pg with my 2nd on the 2nd try at age almost 37. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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^^^and my vote is for waiting. Your first probably isn't even walking yet. If you get pregnant immediately, I think having a 20 month old and a newborn would be very very difficult. Mine will be 3 years apart, which feels much more manageable to me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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You really can't determine when you will get pg. So just try when you feel like its a good time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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If you would really like another one, then start trying as soon as you feel up to it. At 35, you are hovering around the age when fertility drops off considerably. You may get pg first time, but you won't know til you try. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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it depends - which would be worse for you: a much bigger difference because it takes longer to conceive or too little difference bc you get lucky right away? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:56 AM Flag
[ - ] is it okay to wax (bikini) when PG? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.01.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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absolutely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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yes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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until how far along? or does that not matter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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all the way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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last time i was too lazy towards the end and since i could not see down there and it was winter i didn't care. this time, I am keep up maintenance since it's the summer. I think as long as it's not uncomfortable for you, I would do whatever you normally do. I wouldn't nevessarily think that trying a brazilian for the 1st time at 9 month pg is ideal though... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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it's also fun to have dh help with grooming! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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that would not even be fun for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:06 AM Flag
[ - ] do you get more hungry when PG? I am OP from before and I am hungrier. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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Increased appetite is standard symptom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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yes, because you are building a new organ (placenta) and doubling your body's blood supply in addition to growing a human being [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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I didn't but I was already eating too much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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Oh, yeah. I was. One night we had dinner, then went to an event 45 minutes away. By the time we got there, I had a second dinner! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:36 AM Flag
[ - ] have a 3yo and 5mo. 3yo has been very upset and jealous lately. have a babysitter tomorrow and was planning on doing something special with her, but 5mo is now sick. should i take 3yo out anyway? feel so guilty about leaving #2 with the sitter! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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how sick? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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103 fever. 3yo had it over the weekend - basically a very high fever made her absolutely miserable for about 30 hours and then she was ok. dr said it was just a virus, so i assume that's what the baby has but dh is taking her in now to doublecheck. maybe will take 3yo out for an hour or two rather than the whole day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:08 AM Flag
[ - ] any freelance graphic designers on? i'm just wondering how happy you are working on your own, or if you have any advice. i've been basically freelance since dd was born 5 yrs ago, taking on few projects by choice, and am not super happy with the overall situation. money isn't a issue; i could stop working and we'd be ok, but i really *want* to still feel professionally alive and connected to the design world. being freelance gives me a lot of good time w/ dd, which is great...but i feel like i'm trying to design in a vaccum and would love to be in a more collaborative setting. i'm starting to lose confidence in my abilities and miss having feedback. was hoping to return to a more full-time situation this year, but now i'm expecting #2...and starting to feel quite depressed. (sorry so long...if anyone has any advice/thoughts i'd appreciate it.) 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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^^and am starting to feel like i'll never get back into a satisfying professional situation. (sorry this is so long...i'm feeling quite depressed about all this, and could use some advice/thoughts. thanks) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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I am not a freelance designer, but I hire freelance designers a lot. Currently, the market for freelance is pretty tight b/c everyone's budgets are being cut and more work is getting done in house. Do you already have a lot of strong connections? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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i'm not worried about not having enough work. i have enough work through strong connections...but the isolation of working alone 100% of the time is getting to me. until 5 years ago i was happily working in much more collaborative enviornments, but when dd was born, i decided to be independent, but it's been very lonely. not sure how to get back on the right track, also b/c i've become pretty disconnected with other designers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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can you work at the place that is hiring you? maybe you can offer that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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it's more about having creative feedback, constructive criticism, and connection w/ other designers. i do like the independence that freelance status gives me, and am not really wanting to be employed by a company again. but thank you for giving my situation thought. i appreciate your suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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Hmmm. I freelance write/edit, and I know what you're saying. Can you find/organize professional events (drinks w/colleagues, prof'l organization receptions) as a way to get out and socialize? Or if you really need feedback, how about setting up a sort of "group office," as described in the NYT last week. Everyone would have a cubicle or desk and you could work there (drop in) as necessary. Freelancing is family-friendly work, but often lonely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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thanks for your good ideas. i'll look for the times article and keep this idea in the back of my mind. could be a good solution for next year (currently not feasible as i recently rented a new office space, and it's too small for "group office"). i wish there were a freelancer-moms group out there (maybe there is and i just don't know...). it's good to know i'm not the only one who finds freelancing to be a bit lonely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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Why don't you try posting somewhere like Craigslist to set up a group of freelance graphic designers to meet up on a monthly basis etc? A bit like a book club - very informal and you could meet at a Starbucks or somewhere like that to start off with. Be frank and explain it is because you need to mingle with more designers, and suggest a topical design theme for each evening - maybe one person could present some findings and then everyone could discuss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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thanks! you've given me an idea, to try and create something like this through my grad school's alumni association. there are still lots of us in the city, and others might be in the same position i am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:45 AM Flag
[ - ] I haven't bought new jeans in 2 years b/c of pregnancy, getting body back, etc. I am finally ready to take the plunge and don't even know what's in style. Where can I get some decent denim (no highwaisted, I can't even go there!) 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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bloomingdales [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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yes or barney's coop [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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What size are you and what is your body shape? How does your butt look? How big is your gut? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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start with the gap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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mavis - they stretch and are forgiving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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earnest sewn in the meatpacking district. fabulous! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:24 AM Flag
[ - ] tried yesterday and got nothing, trying again... has anyone ever hosted or been to a birthday party at the NY transit museum in brooklyn? was it fun? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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No. But it sounds like it might be fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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attended. yes fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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It was awesome and the kids had a blast! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Will my old clothes ever fit me again? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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If you lose weight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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not always this easy. you can lose the weight and your body may not look like it did prebaby. it took a full year for my hips to go back- not b/c of weight - they were just wider for a long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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OP: The weight is coming off, but so far, the proportions are different. My boobs are a totally different shape and hike up all my shirts. Very frustrating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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Wait til you get back to your pre-pregnancy weight, and see how things fit then. Til then, your old clothes will not fit as well as they did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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I hear you- I don't have the means to buy new clothes, so I'm wearing just a handful of things over & over. I segregated some things in the back of my closet that could potentially fit again if I lose weight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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Old Navy is good for reasonably stylish and very cheap. It's been great for me and my new belly. . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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probably [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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some will, some won't. You just have to try them on to know for sure. Get rid of the things that won't fit you b/c your shape changed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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it depends. when i finally lost the weight after #1, i found that my tops which i'd always wore fitted and small did not all fit. my ribs had expanded a little less than an inch (and this was 2 yrs later) and my breasts sat a little differently so that some tops were unflattering even when they fit. my waist, which was always much smaller than my hips actually became a touch more proportionate so that i fit better into new clothes, but some of my old clothes needed alterations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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No, but you are going to wear them anyway and at family functions we will all wonder what you are smoking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:54 AM Flag
[ - ] UGH - dd's 8th bday party is tomorrow. It's at the movie theatre and we're going to see the American Girl movie on opening day (not in NYC.) I can not get over the number of mothers that want to come along and bring their younger kids. They all claim they'll pay their way but it makes it so complicated since they want me to get tix so they can sit with us. I tried very politely suggesting that if they just drop their dds off. Then, I decided it wasn't worth the drama and I would pay for everyone. But I just got a call saying that a mom needs to bring her 13 y.o. son. She only needs to bring him b/c the mom WANTS to come - I didnt' ask her to. Is it me or is this rude? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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Very rude, I'd say no. They can buy their own tickets and be in the theater, I don't think the 13 yo wants to sit next to a bunch of 8 yos anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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i honestly don't know what to say to this mom. i told her she could come along. she asked, i didn't. now she's saying she'll have to bring her son since he has no where else to go. i told her not to worry about - i have plenty of help and she can just drop off her dd. she said "no, no, no - i'll come." i don't want to be rude. but i think i either have to say "your son is not invited" or suck it up and know he will be there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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that's rude. Tell them you can't pick up the tickets but show up at same time as you so you can get seats near each other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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they are all so rude. I can't STAND when ppl invite their other kids. They say they will pay but put you on the spot. I don't like it. I never do that. So sorry that such a nice outing is turning into a huge PITA for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Just found out that some of my fav Cosi sandwiches have over 2,000 mg of sodium!! Talk about blissful ignorance. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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Holy s*&T! That's a lot of sodium!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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has your doctor told you to cut down on salt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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NP: It doesn't matter, no one should eat that much sodium in one sitting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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Based on what? I'm not being difficult. I read a long article about how the FDA set these crazy and arbitrary numbers for how much sodium Americans should eat but there was no actual science behind them. Doctors will tell you if you have coronary/cardiac issues or sensitivity to salt to cut your sodium intake but it is not like salt is stored or does any particular damage. So if your bp is good and you have no cardiac indicator why does this matter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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I had a horrible moment when I realized my favorite one (tuna/cheddar) has like 900 calories ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Now that I have 2 yr. old and newborn, what's the safest way to position the carseats? One seat on each side, or newborn in the middle and 2 year behind passenger? Also, am I supposed to disengage the airbags? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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do you have airbags in the back seat? If so, yes disengage them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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Middle back is the safest position so there and behind passenger. Disengage any airbags that would be near to the car seats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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np: just wondering, if you have side/curtain air bags in back seat, do you disengage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:57 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm 40, have two great DCs (DS 4 and DD 2), a job and a DH. We don't have the time, energy or square footage for another DC. So why does it make me so sad to know that I will never be pregnant or nurse a baby again? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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No idea, but I am in a similar situation and still get pangs for #3 for no good reason really. I wonder if it were the case even if we had 3 already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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i hear you. I never wanted more than 2 dcs and I know a 3rd would push us over the edge, and I don't even like the newborn stage, but it is a little sad to know that era is over already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Because it sounds like, in your heart, you would like another one, but your head is telling you it does not make sense for you as a family. So you are grieving for the child you feel you still have inside you? Am sure plenty of people feel the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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because it's the close of a part of your life that you enjoyed, but there are many other new parts that you have to look forward to. it's a journey. signed, old mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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np: That's one of the nicest and most helpful things I've ever read on here! Thanks!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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you're welcome! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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^^^I'm actually continually surprised at how milestones that I think will be heartbreaking (starting primary school, graduating primary school!) are actually joyful, because I'm doing what I was meant to do. Raise this child to become a productive and happy and independent human being [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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you should get a puppy... for as long as you have the dog, he'll be that baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:39 AM Flag
[ - ] ugh, 1 week postpartum and have developed mastitis. Desperate for my OB to call me back. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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Ouch! You can call or email a La Leche League leader near you for advice on what to do (you don't have to know that person already; a friend is a LLL leader and takes queries from strangers all the time). Good luck! It will pass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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Luckily, she is still nursing and I am also pumping. I am sure this started b/c of improper latch on in the first day or two. She cut me and I got infected. Such a bummer! I will look up the LLL number. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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I have had mastitis twice and it really makes you feel terrible (sickness and shakes). The first time I needed antibiotics but the second time I was able to sort it myself with lots of soaks in hot baths and expressing. I hope you feel better soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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Warm compresses and massage or even better massage in a hot shower. The more you nurse and pump the better. If it's just a clog you may be able to work it out before it's mastitis. If you already have a fever and your breast is streaked red and feels hot you're going to need abx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:52 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you think is required in order to demonstrate residency to qualify for in-state tuition at SUNY? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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At CUNY, I had to show my lease and a couple of bills. It wasn't difficult. But applying for a TAP grant was harder; I was denied because I still had out-of-state license and voting registration. Will the school's website admissions page describe it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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^^and FYI, I had lived in NYC 14 months before I started school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:26 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you all think of a 13' x 9' bedroom (boy)? Will it seem more like a maid's room (it's pretty narrow)? NYC apt. if that matters. tia. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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decent size NYC bedroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Well, that's about the size of my daughter's bedroom.. . . and so far she's not scarred by it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Do you have a choice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Looking to buy a 3 bedroom and the only apts we can afford are 2 bedroom plus maid's room apts. This would be the size of the 3rd bedroom if we expanded the maid's room. On the other hand, our dd's room (she is older) would be much bigger (14' x 15'). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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I think it's fine depending on the layout though. I would not want to have one of my kids in the maids' room off the kitchen with separate entrance. Though the dc may well love it during his teenage years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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I guess that's really the issue -- is the son going to feel shafted because his room is smaller than his sister's? From your original post I didn't realize there was another child in the picture.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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DH & SIL grew up in the suburbs and his room was easily twice as big as hers because it was an old house and the bedrooms were not equivalently sized. I'm pretty sure it was not that big a deal. How old are dcs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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np: this was me and my sis growing up. When I went away to college, she got the larger room and I used her former, smaller room on vacations. It was totally fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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np: Yep. My brother was counting the days until I left! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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That's the size of my DD's bedroom. It's perfectly fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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How high is the ceiling? I built a loft bed that I can raise over time. Right now it is high enough for the dresser and some storage to be under it. In a few years it will be all the way up and a desk will be under it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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We did think about doing that when our ds is older. The ceiling height is 9 ft. Is that high enough? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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yeah. Just pad the bottom of the frame and drape cloth 2" below front edge so it warns you before you stand up from desk and crack your mellon. This is a great way to save space. If you want to make it the envy of his friends, put on a fireman's pole! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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my son's room is 10x14 and it doesn't look narrow at all. it really has a square appearance (obviously its not . . ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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we fit 2 dds in that sz room in the city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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my bedroom (with DH) is 12:10 so I think the kid will be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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I've got my 3 yo ds and 5 yo dd together in a 10x11 room and it's totally fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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I think in NYC that is TOTALLY fine. If we stay, we are probably dividing a 17 x 12 room in two. You just need windows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 01:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I cannot believe how much I am showing at 10 weeks with my 2nd pregnancy. This is ridiculous. I must have no stomach muscles at all. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.01.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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totally normal! about a week after i got the positive test back i was in my maternity jeans...sad but true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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OP: I honestly think I look now the way I did at about 20 weeks with the 1st one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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np: i feel your pain. i am 23 wks and i easily look like i did at 7 months last time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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totally normal. It evens out later, don't worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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I was the same and I have to say now No 2 is 9mo my stomach is done for. I have the hernia thing that requires surgery to correct but I don't want it done so I'm stuck with my pot belly! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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what hernia thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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You're pregnant, though, you are supposed to have a belly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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Not this early and not this much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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don't fight it, just roll with it. Besides, maternity clothes are pretty nice these days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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It's a nice little porch for you saggy boobs to rest upon. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] If you were 32 weeks pg, and someone asked you how many months you were, (not weeks) what would you answer? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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you are over-thinking this issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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nope, just a practical mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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i'd say that i'm due in august or september, or whenever... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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Huh? 7.5 months. Can you not figure this out (don't mean to sound harsh) or is there a reason why you would not want to say how many months as opposed to weeks you are? Weeks only mean something to women who have had babies, and some men. People who have no direct experience of pregnancy still think in terms of months, and weeks are meaningless to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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op: I do say 7.5 mos to the uninitiated. DH keeps telling I'm wrong--that I am 6.5 mos, or "in my 7th month" (which I find acceptable). Then asked another friend, who has had two kids, and she agreed w/ DH. FWIW, I think they are both wrong, but I was curious as to how others would respond. I can always count on UBers to assume idiocy on the part of the poster though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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then they say, oh, you just have one month left, when realy you have two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] If you have a cleaning person, do they do things like clean shelves in pantry, garbage cans, shower curtain? We've had same person cleaning once a week for over a year and she has never done any of these things. If I ask her, she says its and extra charge because it is through a service. Trying to figure out if this type of thing is usually included. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.01.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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does not do that, does not even vacuum or dust under couch, beds etc. Not impressed with her work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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I think you and I might have the same person! But it's such a hassle to find someone new, isn't it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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exactly - FT WOHM - never home to talk about it. Too many other fish to fry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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No, mine doesn't clean shelves or garbage cans. We have a glass shower so she cleans that door. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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that generally falls under heavy cleaning. I have been looking for such a service that would come in once a month or so to do such things as that, as well as clean under the bed, ceiling fans etc. In NYC--if anyone has any recs, let me know! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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ours does this once a month so on a rotating basis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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Mine does windows, cooker, fridge, bins etc. She does the usual clean and then rotates the extras. We have her through an agency but previous cleaners from them have not been so thorough. I think she doesn't like to see us living in a mess! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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You should ask the service what is included for what price [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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if you pay her a flat fee for apartment cleaning that makes sense. if you pay her an hourly fee, then that would mean more hours therefore higher cost. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:02 AM Flag
[ - ] my 10mo really loves his nanny. Its very sweet - she came this AM and he started kicking with excitement and then lay his head on her shoulder when she held him. That makes me happy. And sad at the same time. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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exactly! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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i hear you, but i'd be more sad than happy. that's my own guilt and insecurities though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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op: i'm more happy than sad, b/c he clearly knows I'm the mom and he does the same thing for me when I come home. I also know over the course of his life that I will always be his mom and I want him to be happy when I'm at work. But sometimes I have to tell myself this a few times in the car on the way to work in the AM. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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I think it's so so so much better than having to convince yourself that you have a good nanny in the face of maybe not much evidence. Imagine that situation!! But I understand how you feel -- it's totally natural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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np: that's really sweet. it's good for kids to have strong attachments to other adults. i understand feeling torn but he's very lucky really [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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I know exactly what you mean, but now that my DD is 2.5 yo (and we've had the same nanny since she was 6 months), it is so wonderful that DD has another adult that she loves, and who loves her. I was a little jealous for a while, but even though DD spends more of her day with the nanny than with me, I'm still the mom and we both know that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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