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[ - ] Anyone send their elentary school aged kids on a school bus that takes 45 minutes or more each way? What's the impact (if any) of the commute on your child? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.01.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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DB is scheduled for 7:15 p/u this fall. School starts at 8:20. Not sure what time bus arrives, my guess is around 8. Thinking DH may drive hims to school, seems like too much, especially since DB still naps. So worried about the start of school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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How far away is the school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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first, stop referring to your soon to be K dc as db. second, he will get a rest time in school. third, why the heck did you opt for a school so far away? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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I will refer to my son anyway I want, thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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poor child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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db still naps? oy...db IS growing up, ya know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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np. Eh. It's not so strange. My dc has a July bday and was still napping the summer before K. And sometimes she'd fall asleep during rest time in K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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np: You and all the "oys" - enough! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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i may drive my dc to school in the fall also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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This is what we will be doing too, although both of us work, so we don't have a choice. I will be able to drop off and pick up DC at school 2x/month, but that's it. DC will just have to cope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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We're probably looking at an almost 1 hour commute to a citywide G&T next year for our 5 year old. I'm shocked how many others are in the same position. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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lots of stupid people out there. I just cannot see doing this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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It's not stupid if you are happy with the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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many have good local options. i think the citywide concept is a bad one for elementary, but that's just me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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Some don't have good local options, so they make a wise decision to send dc to schools outside zone and kids adjust to bus rides. The stupid ones sacrifice the comute for a lousy school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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commute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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so quit asking about it here. you made your choice, now deal with making your elementary school kid commute 2+ hours per day, 10 months per year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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oh, and consider moving if the school is that important, and your dc's quality of life matters at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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i so agree. is it really worth bragging rights to send dc to nest if it means a 2+ hour commute every day? not imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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They adjust. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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DD's starting at Brearley in the fall and we live downtown. I think she will be fine. We will probably move closer to school in a year or two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Where DT? They've been taking a lot more girls from downtown the past few years. You might be able to find other families to share the commute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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My dd is on the bus for 30 minutes in the morning and an hour in the afternoon (last one picked up, so last one dropped off). Honestly, she hates it and it does have a negative impact. Luckily her school doesn't give homework until 3rd grade and by then we will likely move near school (we are waiting to see what happens with younger child). She loves her school and doesn't want to go to a different school, but she often says she wishes we lived near school. I think it would be better if the longer commute was in the morning and I may see about swiching her to a different bus next year where she would be first on/first off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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we did that for preschool for two years (45-60 minutes one way). For K she'll be on the bus but that's probably also going to be 45 minutes each way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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i would never do this in a million years. a lot of these people going on and on about the commute could have sent dc to a closer district-wide school even if their zoned school sucks, but chose not to. so enough with the whining. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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My two cents. I wouldn't, at least in the beginning...although, I understand from one elementary school principal that after the first week or so all the kids want to ride the bus. So, most likely you will have to play it by ear. I, too, have a child who will be five in the late fall and still naps if given the opportunity and/or falls asleep in transit and for that reason alone I would not do it. We turned down a g&t placement which would have required a 45 minute bus ride each way if I took child to school, not to mention the wait for the bus and/or the walk from the bus to school/home. Just too much....but, that said, it just wasnt right for my child. I think only you can make the decision after careful consideration of what is best for your son! Good luck with it!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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It turned my kid gay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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Best post ever on UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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Our 6 yo takes the bus 45 minutes in the morning, 7:15 pick up. dc LOVES it. It's like this little community before "real"school starts. dc has made friends in other grades and is begging to be allowed to take it home as well- and I KILL myself to get there in the afternoons...Fatigue is not a probem, but bedtime is now earlier than it was in pre-k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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This was us, too, but with a 7 am pick up for a 1 hour commute. dd loved the bus friends and the chatty time she had before the quieter classroom time. It got all her talkativeness out of her system so she was ready for school. But, sometimes she just liked to read. She started right away in K and did it for as many years as she was in elementary school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 04:48 AM Flag
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DC is starting K in Sept and will turn 5 in late fall. Although we LOVED NEST, we felt 45-60 minutes on a school bus 2X's a day would not be good for our DC. WE ranked 2 good district G&T's before NEST on our placement form and got one of them. Also we like to be involved in the schools parent community, and felt it would be difficult to do so living so far away from the school. But everyone makes choices that work best for their own family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 PM Flag
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DC was accepted at citywide and we are moving closer to the school to avoid 60 min. commute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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If that works for your family, great! That option would not have worked for us. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:36 PM Flag
[ - ] everytime i have a party, my single friends never come. its very annoying, since i go to all of their parties. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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dh's friends have been like this recently - they assume that it's just boring couples. ironically lots of single women who complain that there are no single guys. you can't win. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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i dont know why, but its really bothering me, since i go everywhere for them. i didnt do this, when i was single, its just not nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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some people are rude. i have a friend who really cannot be bothered to come to any party i give. she doesn't think it's rude to say "no" year after year, wo any excuse or apology. i wouldn't care except OTHER people notice that she's never there and always ask why? i've stopped pretending i know. you can say something like "what are you boycotting my parties" or you can ignore it. i've chosen to ignore it, but i'm not as close w that friend anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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Have you ever simply said, "I miss you and wish youd come by. You know, it's not all couples." Maybe one simple call could change this for you ? As my DH says, "You never get what you don't ask for". I then try not to lecture him about ending sentences with prepositions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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I like you :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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op its hard to say i miss you, when i always see them, its just not at my parties. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Why do people let themselves get excessively overweight? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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i don't know, why did you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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depression [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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I've wondered the same thing. A few pounds over the years or after db I can understan, but when you weigh 500 pounds I just don't get it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I don't think anyone who isn't that large could "get it". It has to be a mental disconnect, no ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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I think so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Ds has had diarrhea for 4 days now, otherwise she is acting fine. what could it be? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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too much coffee... sorry. It's probably just a bug. How old and has she been eating a lot of fruit in the summer heat ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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not really, but yes i am thinking its just a bug, waiting for a dr to call back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Teething? My dd gets the d when teething. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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no, he is almost 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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well then, maybe he ate something or it can be a little bug going around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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i guess, thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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me too! But he's 10mo. He has no teeth yet and I don't feel any in there, but I suspect that is what is going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
[ - ] I am hosting a (hopefully) casual 3rd birthday BBQ thing for my son. Any suggestions on a good way to do the presents? There are about 11 kids coming - and about half of them are older siblings ages 6 - 12 yrs. and the rest are kids 5 and under.... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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don't open presents there. have fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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ita. Save them for later. If they are opened at the party they will get spread all over the place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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So...just tuck them away as they come in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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yep, stack them on a table or something and people will just put their stuff there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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np: I never opened presents at my kids' parties, but when I had a really casual bbq the family and a couple of really close friends stuck around past everyone else and wanted us to open the presents. Since almost all of the younger kids had left we opened them and it was a lot of fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
[ - ] My barely 15 year old daughter is spending time w/ an older crowd (15 - 18) and wants to be driven around by them. I feel she's growing up too fast and not mature enough to handle the situation I fear she's getting in to. Any advice? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 07.01.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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without knowing your dd or her friends, I would say I agree with you. There is a big difference between a barely 15 yo and a 17yo or 18yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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^^^as for advice? just set up your house rules. no matter what they are, she'll probably tell you that no one else's parents are so strict. my dd says this and I think she believes it too, but I've talked to other parents and we're pretty much midstream. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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^^^the other piece of advice that I find really key is talk to the other parents. Find out what their rules are; talk to them about your concerns. You may be surprised to find some allies there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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^^^finally, set consequences and disobeying and stick to them. The main thing really is that she knows what you expect of her, cuz when she's making those critical choices, you're not going to be there. Sorry for the chopped up response, but UB kept cutting me off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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Thanks all for the advice. It's reassuring to know that I'm not being overly protective. 15 is young, and I don't yet feel confidant in my daughter's decision making skills and judgement. I fear she cares more about being accepted by "the cool kids" and it's a constant struggle to keep her on track. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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my 15yo gave me a button that read Raising a teen is like trying to nail jello to a tree. another parent with 2 grown kids told me the single most important thing you can do is make sure she knows she is loved. after that you just need to keep the lines of communication open, make sure she knows she can come to you if she's in trouble, and hope for the best. good luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:35 AM Flag
[ - ] How have you gotten over caring what other people think? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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By having a dh who is very self confident and seeing how much happier he is than me who worried about every little thing. Some of his confidence has rubbed off on me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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My husband is the same way. I need him to rub off a bit more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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i go in phases [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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i tell myself I don't care and secretly do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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Generally, yes. Just don't have time to entertain the thoughts. Also, one DC has special needs so you have to let a lot of child-centric expectations fall by the wayside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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I've pretty much been an independent spirit my whole life. I really only care about what I think. To the extent I cared about what other people think/feeling insecure about myself, I got over it shortly after I turned 35 (and became a mom), and I've really let loose since I turned 40. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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working on it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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Only sociopaths don't care what people think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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I never cared that much, now that I have a kid, I'm too tired to care. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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by growing up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:37 AM Flag
[ - ] I don't so much mind the new format, but I hate how they blow up poster's messages on the homepage. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.01.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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i don't hate it but it's kind of lame [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone 100% plan on BFing and have it not work out? When did you quit and why? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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over and out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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#1 - mastitis hit five days pp, in both boobs, which turned into abscess, so had to have surgery. #2 - I decided I would only pump to avoid mastitis, but it still came 2.5 wks pp, and had to be aspirated. My boobs are hopeless milkers! Thank God for formula! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Ouch. I feel your pain signed fellow mastitis sufferer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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Wow me too, everyone made me feel as though i was imagining the whole pain of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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omg - so sorry! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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I didn't mind not being able to breastfeed - was happy enough to have a good excuse for getting out of it, but I did want to try it. Yes, mastitis is terrible. BF'ing friends told me that engorgement is painful so I put it down to that and reckoned I was just being a wuss about it, so I let it go for too long before calling my Dr. My husband had to call her at 4am as I lay in bed with a temp of 104.9°. What fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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My friend's dc was born with a tongue tie and couldn't latch. She was totally set on bf and was very upset to begin with. By the time she had dc #2 she decided not to even bother trying to bf as she found ff convenient. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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quit at 3 weeks. older child dx with cancer and i had thrush. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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np I'm sorry, I hope your older child is OK [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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Me. Twice. could not produce enough milk. did everything known to womankind to increase supply making myself miserable and sleepless. Had to supplement immediately. Gave up entirely after 6 mos with #1 and 4 mos with number two. There is no shame in using formula. Your baby will be fine. You need to get your rest and be sane to help baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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4 mo - I stopped then and had no problem bfing - you did bf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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I 100% planned on it, and did it for 1 week and continued to get blocked ducts, and i was in miserable pain, I am very large breasted and my dd wasn't hardley getting anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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I didn't produce enough, used everything to increase supply (including domperidone), also had yeast and blocked ducts. Started supplementing at 2 months and continued with a combo till ds was almost 9 months (at the end I was BF just once a day). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Post partum sex: how long before it won't hurt down there during sex, it is 3 mos now and way too painful still when we have tried 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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i don't know because I haven't tried yet - but what about it hurts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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i must reiterate. Lubricate & inebriate the first time. It works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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np. Great idea, I'm sure most of my issues were mental rather than physical. The more you do it the easier it gets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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Went for it at four months - very gently - ouch. At 7 months, it became enjoyable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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^^ With #2, it was easier. Back in the saddle within 3 months and it was fine from first go. But take it easy - it's not the time for bucking broncos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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7.5 months later still too painful. we've managed about 4 times with me crying pretty much the entire time. haven't tried again in months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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at 3 months it hurt so much and was so hard that it took a while before we attempted again. but it took several times before it got comfortable (and i'd had a c-section) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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I ended up needing a prescription cream to make it comfortable before I stopped breastfeeding after my first pregnancy. Second one I was totally fine at 6 wks. You never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
[ - ] help, please. having some new sleeping issues with just-turned-2 ds; he's always been a great sleeper. for the past few weeks, he's been waking up earlier each day (today, we're down to 4:55), and just screaming to get out. In the past few days, he's also refusing to go down to sleep, again, screaming - no, no, and taking a long time to settle down. nothing changed during the day, he's in daycare, and takes a 2-2.5 hour nap there, generally. i am at my wits end, he's clearly tired in the evening, and while awake in the morning, getting really tired by lunch time. TIA. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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Dos he need an earlier bedtime? The more tired my 2yo is the harder it is to get him to bed and the worse he sleeps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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i am not sure. it's already 7:30; you think he needs earlier? he seems wide awake, even when i try to put him in then... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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No to be honest that seems like a reasonable time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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Our ped says that when DB is about to make a leap forward, they often go backwards. Maybe that's it ? Is there something he's on the cusp of ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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i am not sure. he's been picking up a lot more language lately, but the last few months, not the last few weeks.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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i guess not so much worried, as the kid is clearly lacking sleep, and i dont know how to help him get there. cry it out doesnt seem to work, he literally yells for an hour and a half. each time. and i feel bad for dd, b/c he wakes her up so early in the morning, and she's suffering too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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It's rough all around, but in the end he will sleep. We go through this over here too and I remember our dear ped's sage advice, "When they are tired they will sleep. When they are hungry they will eat. Your job is to keep them safe and love them." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone from Park Slope? I'm wondering how much it would cost to rent a 2 BR in the center Slope area. TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.01.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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look on corcoran.com or nytimes.com. I think it would probably be around $2,500 and up, depending on the apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
[ - ] We're visting my parents for three weeks with 5 m/o. Would you put in pack n play or buy a cheap crib? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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unless you plan on being there often or having more dcs I'd just go for the PnP. We did that til DD was 2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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PnP. If the mattress thing bothers you, you can get a portable crib mattress for the PnP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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rent a crib - we did this in FL it was great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:16 AM Flag
[ - ] What is a good site for kids birthday invite? TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.01.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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np: I was just about to say the same thing. There's also birthdayexpress.com but I've never used them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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lol, reminds me of the Justin Timberlake skit in SNL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:59 AM Flag
[ - ] can I start dd on solids even though she hasn't hit 4mos yet? She's a week away from 4mo. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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Unless you are one yourself, defer to the experts, who advise waiting til 6 months. What's the rush? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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np: they advise between 4 and 6mos, on the later side if you have a family history of allergies. but i wouldn't start a not-yet-4mo without clearance from ped, though. why do you want to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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It's one week? You all are intense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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Pediatricians say around 4 mos, I don't know why you are saying 6 mos. And OP, I think you are fine, esp. if db is hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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4 months is really the old recommendation. and for bigger formula fed dbs, it may be fine. for ebf, i'd wait until 6 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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why would you? Most peds recomend 6 months. No need to do it that early [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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ITTA. They don't need it, they're (sometimes) not ready for it, and it's a big PITA -- messy, slow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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My ped/expert said start trying betwee 4-5 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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what is the rush people!? formula and/or bm are more calorically dense, waiting until 6 months reduces risk of allergies and feeding solids is a pita and messy too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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I would wait at least 3 to 4 more weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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http://www.aap.org/publiced/BR_Solids.htm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:58 AM Flag
[ - ] I hate having to look for a new nanny. This will be the third in 8 months. Sigh. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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do you cook and eat them ? where are they all going > [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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The first one just wasn't a good fit -- too much drama in her life, she was having people over during the day without telling us, doing 3 loads of her own laundry at a time, etc. Second one lasted a week -- caught her giving medicine to my toddler without telling me, then she lied when I confronted her. She seemed great, had great references, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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my nanny has permission to give my db tylenol or motrin during the day if he needs it. What's the big deal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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her nanny gave medication and said she had not given medication. That's different and that's potentially dangerous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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OP: Nanny had only been here a week and I did not give her permission. Nothing was wrong with db and I don't see why anyone would want their nanny giving meds to db without letting the parent know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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I don't know why you think older is better, both of my nannies have been young (first lasted 6 years until she had her own db, second a year and counting) and they are fabulous. I very much prefer it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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Mine are young as well. I was simply stating that if she has had a recurring problem with what her needs are, maybe she should change it up and give something different a try. Younger nannies work for me, but some people prefer older women. I don't know... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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First nanny was late 40s, this one was mid-30s. Both had kids of their own, which we thought would be helpful. The demeanor of the 2 nannies was very different. We really thought we'd hit the jackpot with the second nanny. She seemed fabulous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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good luck this time. do you maybe want to share a nanny with a friend ? That way you know she's good ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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why so many? are you a terrible boss? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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Can you read the posts above? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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np: If we are talking about tylenol I really don't see this as big deal as this is toddler not newborn but I can see OP freaking out if she told the nanny to always consult before doing anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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Her post yesterday says that she saw her give DB something on the nanny cam and the nanny denied it. When presented with the "smoking gun", nanny confessed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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np: The whole situation is set up to fail with a nanny cam. Lucky for me DH doesn't have one on me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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i am looking for a new nanny as well. my sitter is great but does no cleaning and it is frustrating to come home to a dirty house. i hate interviewing and trying out new nannies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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we were in your situation a few months ago. Our nanny of 5 years left when she had her second child to stay home with her kids. Finding a great replacement for her was a nightmare. First one lasted until I got a nanny cam (I had the feeling she was just telling me what I wanted to hear, not what was really going on and the kids weren't bonding with her at all -- fired her the day after the camera) and second one lasted 4 months. But now, we have the perfect nanny for our family. From the day she started, it was like a huge load was lifted off my back. The kids both loved her from day one, and every mom friend of mine that has meet her and all of my older child's moms who have dropped their kids off with her (6 years old, so all drop off playdates) have RAVED about her unsolicited. My long winded point is -- great ones are out there. Just keep looking until you find her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:58 AM Flag
[ - ] SAHMs without help. What is your daily routine? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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It's changing because summer vacation just started, but generally it's this: Kids up between 8 and 9 (kids are 8, 5 and 3). DH or I serve breakfast. I do a bit of cleaning, then we get out of the house -- most days just the playground (will start the pool soon) but some days (at least 1 a week) we have a Grand Adventure, which just means a museum, or zoo or coney island. We eat lunch out on Grand Adventure days, but otherwise come home for lunch then we watch a movie for down time (sometimes the 3 yo will sleep then). Then if it's not too hot we go outside again -- either hang on the stoop and draw with chalk or hunt bugs or we go on a bike ride if we didn't do that in the am, or the playground. Then around 5 we come back in to cook dinner, and I open my first beer, LOL. DH home by 6:30 and he mostly handles bedtime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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^^^and if it's raining or too hot outside we do arts and crafts or play games/legos/blocks inside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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OP: Thanks for taking time to answer. You sound like an amazing mom. Honestly, do you ever feel seriously bored tho? I miss work. I love looking after my girls, but... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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almost every day, LOL. I talk to friends on the phone, ichat, email, etc. Even though I get bored every day, there is also something each day that I treasure and that I'm so glad I experienced (recently my 5 yo learned to ride his bike without training wheels before my 8 yo, who was so pissed she just jumped on his bike and rode it). I also remind myself that I got bored at work and suffered through horrific meetings, too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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2 dc (3 and 6 mo) - wake between 7-8. breakfast home, then usually out of the house by 10. park, class, beach, etc. home for lunch. then either backyard, pool, paint, make cookies, chalk on patio, etc (something @ home, since little one takes his only quality nap from about 2-5). 3 yo either watches a show or helps me with dinner. dh home by 6:30/7. we eat, bath, books, bed by 8:30/9. repeat (again and again) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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