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[ - ] At what age do kids write in sentences/ write stories? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.13.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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i did at age 6 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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tell stories or write them down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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write down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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my 5yo does that now. She learnt that concept from preschool (her teacher was into story telling and writing them down). She pretty much writes her own stories now and asks me once in a while how to spell a certain word. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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kids at our public learned to do this in K. know kids from other publics doing this as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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ditto at ours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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prek? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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not at our preK. not at all focused on this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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First grade (age 6) for my child--rough narratives about what she did on the weekend using invented spelling. This is private school. More elaborate writing started somewhat later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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My 4 yo made "books" that had very simple story lines. Like 4 sentences. But they told a story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:07 PM Flag
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tritto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:21 AM Flag
[ - ] My boss is driving me nuts. She seems to be constantly bringing up the fact that she is PRO-breastfeeding, that she thinks choosing NOT to brreastfeed is CHILD ABUSE. I had twins and major complications and was unable to breastfeed. Which I have told her. I swear to God, I don't know what possible point she is trying to make. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Your boss is doing something highly unprofessional, if not illegal. At very least, it is unkind. I would suggest calling a meeting with her and saying in a straightforward and non-confrontational way "I appreciate your feelings about BFing, but your continuously mentioning it makes me feel uncomfortable, and I would appreciate it if we could take it off our list of conversational topics." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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That is a wonderful suggestion if she were anyone else, but this woman cannot take feedback. She's got a chip on her shoulder a mile wide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Then go to HR. Seriously. At least get it put in her file. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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she needs to know that this is not an acceptable conversation for you. That's the only way to stop it. I suppose another way, now that I think about it, next time she does it, break down and cry and rant and rave about how hard it has been. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Honest to God, she would just feel superior if I broke down. She is horribly insecure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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then take the opposite approach. Laugh and say how cute it is she is so concerned, but billions are raised on formula, and the 5 IQ points, and a few more ear infections aren't worth it. (I don't believe this, before I get flamed, but it's ludicrous for her to even mention breastfeeding to you, not professional at all) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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She's also said that she can't imagine having to put a child into daycare before the age of 3 -- that parents should be willing to make the "tough choices". I've got 2yo twins who are in daycare and have been since they're first birthday. We can't survive on what my husband makes and I have to work. I swear, sometimes I feel like being a bitch right back and telling my single-mom boss that I think it's terrible for a child to be raised without a mother and a father. Except I don't think that at all, and I really don't want to play this stupid game. I just need to look for another job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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sounds like that might be the best alternative. She sounds like a trip, and I can't imagine she's very professional if she thinks that this is acceptable. What did she do with her dcs before age 3 if she was a single parent? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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She was married part of the time and then moved down the street from her parents and her sister. They take care of her kids all the time when she travels on business and she sounds completely unappreciative and is always criticizing their care of her children. She's a new manager and, frankly, I'm much more qualified than she is. But I'm new to the company and she's been there for years. It's gotten so that I dread going to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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how toxic. I hope that you find a lovely new job soon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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Ignore her. Ignoring her is all that you can do. She is your boss, and not a nice one at that. Breastfeeding is the best as far as health goes, but not everyone is able to do it, why she would be a jerk about it probably has to do with some sort of deep insecurity. lol You should feel superior in the fact that you do not need to hurt others in order to feel good about yourself, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:23 PM Flag
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I think this post is fake. I think you're just an ANTI breastfeeding zealot, making up this story to try to make yourself seem persecuted and anyone who is pro-bfing seem nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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OP: First of all, this is not fake. Second, I'm definitely not anti-breastfeeding. I wanted to breastfeed and was unable to (which I said in the original post). Third, and most importantly - seek professional help. You are deeply paranoid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 12:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone bored and want a fashion challenge? I am looking for a stylish tote that can be used like a briefcase and hold a laptop/sleeve. But I really want a tote, something fashion-y, cool looking. I hate my black croc laptop case... so conventional. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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How much do you want to pay? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Truthfully, I don't want to pay much (I haunt Ebay for good-quality used designer goods) but I'd pay up to $350. However, I'd be happy paying less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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OP: Okay, http://tinyurl.com/5lb3km What about this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Head Porter bags. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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is longchamp too simple? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Just ran across this while doing a search: some like to say the olsat is faulty, and sb is the true test. also say that lower scores by some kids owe to the fact that they are divergent out of the box creative thinkers. as if scoring a 95 makes you divergent compared to a 98. then there are those who think only sb measures creativity. truth is it doesn't. sure you get partial credit for a not so good answer, but it cannot be some creative fantasy or anything. its more like saying a table and chair are similar because they have 4 legs (1 point response) vs. they are both furniture (2 pt response). the latter answer shows a greater ability to abstract, whereas the former shows a lesser ability...not creativity. if a kid were picking the lower score response over and over because of their "divergent thinking", they would not even make the cutoff and get to the onsite with the SB. all total bunk.[ 64 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.13.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Where did you find this info? Link please [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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She is taking one example and extrapolating. It is not totally true & the OLSAT does often test creatively smart dc lower (Maybe by 3 or 4 points, but that can make a difference in the cut off) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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dc got a 97 on olsat, but a 99 on sb. perhaps that is why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Who knows, but those scores, in the end, are not really different. IMO, the biggest issue with the OLSAT was often the tester [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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I agree, but this is even more true for the erb/sb [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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Not at all - those tests are administered by trained psychologists, not any random teacher wanting to make a buck on Saturday. I do agree that the tester can make a difference for all these tests, thus the popularity of a certain Hunter tester, but the DOE test was so unevenly administered - it was absurd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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np: the olsat is less corruptable. the teachers are supposed to read a script, and the kids answer from multiple choice items. hardly rocket science, and all teachers have experience working with kids. as for trained psychologists, well, the tests are pretty easy to administer. i know, I give them. I think the popular testers for sb are not those who are tecnically gifted in the art of delivering similarities. they are the ones who promt the kids beyond what is allowed in order to give the best score possible. the olsat is far more objective in its administration. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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np. ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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ditto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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tritto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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Not at all, the you should have seen some of those teachers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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what? not dressed to your liking? give me a break! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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No parents saw the OLSAT being administer, right? So what do you base this on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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her dc's poor score? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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They met the teachers & the unwashed high looking young man did not impress my dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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these scores are not statistically significantly different on the olsat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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Ditto. have a super bright, verbal, creative kid who scored a 97. it bugs me that all these parents with kids scoring 99 got better placement, and think their kids are superior. If you met my dc, you would think she is very very smart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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It bugs me that they think their dc are superior to any dc who scored 90 or above [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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It bugs me that they think their dc are superior to any dc. Period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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oh, please! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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and where did you get *that* info from? Link please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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it was a response by a poster who was responding to an anderson mom who felt that lower scoring kids were really just more creative, out of the box kids. copied it, but not sure I could find it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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But they won't be in Anderson, so why would she say this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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I think it was a post about last year. many kids with low scores got in via the onsite. someone argued the lower scores were better since it was related to the divergent thinking of these kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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Ah, possibly & thus they aced the onsite IQ test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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onsite was hardly an IQ test. dc described it to me in detail. a test of sorts, yes, but not an IQ test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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this whole "divergent thinker" bull is just that -- bull. the kids are smart and some are creative, but the onsite, imo, doesn't specifically look for out of the box thinkers, whatever that means. the onsite picked kids who the administration thought would do well at the school -- just like hunter and the privates do. signed, current anderson parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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what makes a good fit for the school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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who knows? ime, there isn't a specific type at anderson -- some kids are outgoing, some more quiet, some "active", some very well behaved. all seem really smart to me, and all seem very verbal and thoughtful (as in, insightful) -- but i would imagine that most schools that are handed a pre-selected group of kids (or pick their own, as in previous years) would have similar types of kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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lower score response over and over because of their "divergent thinking", they would not even make the cutoff and get to the onsite with the SB. all total bunk. Kids scoring 97+ must have had some of the usual thinking in order to score that high. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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When my 4 yo took the SB, he was asked what does incapable mean? He said, if Batman didn't wear a cape, he would be incapable. That's a good answer for a 4 yo; it shows the child recognized prefixes (in), can intelligently "attack" the meaning of an unknown word, knows that "able" is an adjectival suffix, and can use the word correctly in terms of what part of speech it is in a sentence. I wouldn't call that a creative answer, but I'd call it an answer that shows advanced verbal ability. On the OLSAT, which is multiple choice, there isn't necessarily any way to show that kind of advanced verbal ability. And as the previous poster pointed out, getting one or two answers wrong on the OLSAT can make you lose points. On the SB, you have to fail at several qustions or tasks on any given level, before you get "points" off. No test for this or any age group is perfect. But SB is better than OLSAT for identifying gifted. No one else in the entire country uses OLSAT for gifted testing. Hmm. Wonder why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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your dc's answer would not earn him any points. if he answered all the items in this way, he would get a low score. so even if its interesting how he came up with his answer, it is meaningless in the world of testing. he would have to get enough correct answers (or high point answers) in order to score highly enough to have a shot at a good school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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NP - If he answered all of the questions this way, it would mean one of two things: (a) he has a lousy vocabulary, and therefore isn't terribly smart, or (b) he is uncooperative. Neither makes him particularly well-suited for a challenging program, either in public or private. (And anyway, how do you know what your kid said in response to a question on the SB?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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99olsat 99 sb dc but olsat is quack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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and mommy is illiterate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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you are just jealous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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of what? our dcs have the same stats, but saying olsat is quack is either some form of UB speak, or the person has difficulty expressing herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Divergent can be thought of as off beat. An example of it might be a question asks which one of four things is different. The things are: a cow, a pig, a kangaroo and a chair. Most people would say the chair is different because it's not an animal. A divergent answer would be the kangaroo is different because it doesn't have four legs. Or the kangaroo is different because it ends with a vowel. Or the kangaroo is different because it's the only item that can only be found in Australia. The OLSAT would mark that wrong. But most of us would be pretty impressed if our four year old gave us that answer. That is one of the big weaknesses of the OLSAT. Gifted kids will often approach a subject or a question from an angle that you don't expect and to penalize them for it on a test to identify gifted kids is massively nutty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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I have PG dc, and he would pick the chair. he might then go on to expound on the rest, but he would always know what the answer is. All kids are creative. its the lovely part of childhood. When our own dcs give answers like you have listed, we think "how smart," but a truly smart kid gets what is being asked. np, btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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my gifted dc would pick the chair as well. it's obviously the correct answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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NP - Absolutely agree. 99 ERB/99 SB kid would also say chair. If asked, or given the opportunity, she might offer up one of the other ideas - but she would start out by saying the chair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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agree completely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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^^^and dc is at anderson and is very creative. but still, dc would not make something more complicated than it has to be, just because -- a straightforward question deserves a straighforward response. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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OR from above: the dc in your example would get no points on either the olsat or the SB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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97 SB but 99 OLSAT here. How do you explain that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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. Truly gifted kids do NOT always know what the expected answer is. Kids who are good at test-taking always intuit what the tester wants. All kids are NOT creative. People who actually go on to come up with new ideas, may or may not be good test takers. They may or may not intuitively know what the expected answer is. The idea that gifted = knows how other people think/knows what is expected is upside down. If you don't believe me, look up what gifted characteristics are on any of the gifted websites. Ask any teacher or administrator at Hunter. Ask anyone who adminsters the SB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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SB is harder to get a high score on than OLSAT BUT for some kids who are very smart but think in a quirky way, kids who pick the kangaroo instead of the chair, it will be easier to score high on SB than on OLSAT. A SB tester would probably say kangaroo, interesting... kid would say it's the only one that ends with a vowel.. SB teacher would note how observant kid is re language and give kid a similar question - and yes, maybe she's give a little prompt, like this time make your choice based on the type of thing it is or what it does... that's not cheating; thats giving enough information so kid knows what you are looking for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 05:44 AM Flag
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psychologist here: if the tester is giving points after the dc answers incorrectly, and after much prompting, they are doing it incorrectly, and in essence, cheating. It is likely the reason that so many kids get very high scores in nyc with the "better" testers. If a dc can only come up with an answer with the allowable prompting, it should result in a lower score for that item. A bunch of those would result in a lower overall score. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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i asked our SB tester from a few years ago -- a tester who i think has the rep for giving higher scores -- whether a child would score differently with a different tester. she said, in a vacuum, no -- that the test is supposed to be administered according to strict guidelines across the board, that checks are done across testers to ensure the accuracy of results and adherence to the administration guidelines, and despite what parents may think, the results from these checks typically support the consistent administration of the test across the board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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ITA, but I do think that certain testers are better with kids, therefore, it can mean a point or two difference that can mean the cutoff or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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yes, i agree with that, but given that a two or three point differential isn't considered "inconsistent", my point holds. that said, a cutoff has to be set at some number, and whether a child likes a tester could ultimately determine whether that child makes the cutoff or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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the checks do not control for the amount of prompting given in the testing situation. some testers give more than is allowed, and do not write what they did on the answer sheet. the answer sheet is what is reviewed. the tester could write only the final answer and not report the prompting. I have been giving these tests for a long time, and I am very sure that this goes on regularly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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see post below -- are you now questioning the process that screens prospective hunter and (past) anderson applicants? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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lol! you sound like a believer. Nothing to be done with blind faith in a system. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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you need to have a bit of trust in the system if you're going to play -- otherwise, you should be sending your child to your local zoned school, and not even bother with privates or application-based publics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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supposed to be, is the key phrase here. not happening irl though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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you are being suspicious of a process that has been in place for years just to be suspicious -- you have no actual proof of anything happening that is not sanctioned by those who oversee the SB administration to prospective hunter and (in the past) anderson applicants. many of these "easy" SB testers have been on the hunter approved list for years -- do you mean to say that the whole process for screening prospective hunter and (again, in the past) anderson applicants is flawed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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of course it is. there are many variables to this. testers get paid for this, and prefer to be desirable among other testers, they also have private pracices and do testing and treatment for a living. know more than a few in treatment with some of these folks. being popular pays off big there. too many kids score highly, many of whom are not gifted. so, yes, this process, and any trying to assess 4 yos is flawed. what's new. i am not against having these systems, but nor do I see any one method as being flawless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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you are not implying that the system is flawed -- you are implying that it's corrupt. i agree with the former but not the latter. the testing process isn't perfect, but given the success of the many schools that have in the past used and currently use a test-based system for admissions, iwould just say that the proof is in the pudding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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two scores are consistent -- a two point difference is not statistically significant. (says a SB tester who said the three point difference between dd's SB and ERB score is not relevant in the world of testing.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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Only in the world of "We have to make the cutoff somewhere" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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99 olsat with super creative kid here - I agree that there might be variables due to the tester or the weather or how much sleep the child got or if they were sick or if their dog died - but that would be true of any test they take be it SB or SAT or Regents, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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well, of course -- but the results themselves are consistent in that both support the view that the child who receives them is very bright. but yes, the cutoff is the cutoff -- nothing can be done about that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Fashion Q: What color shoes should I wear with a pale green bridesmaid dress? TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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I would go strappy silver? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm looking for a ligitimate work-from-home job in the Boston area. Any ideas? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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I think you would make a great book editor! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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So.... that's a no?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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watching other people's kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:46 PM Flag
[ - ] My DD, almost 21 months, is saying only about 9 words and only a few words with any frequency. I know some children are talking much more at this age. When I've gotten advice, people say to go to Early Intervention. But I have to believe, that children go at their own pace and if it was 30 years ago, our parents would do nothing and wait. But we're much more alarmist in our generation-- especially with milestones. Does anyone agree or disagree??? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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Disagree. I think we need to the best we can with the information we have, otherwise we are neglectful. Our DD was delayed and we did EI and it was great for us, super helpful. I think she would have been fine anyway but having the therapist come was great for the whole family and we gained much from the experience. DD is ahead of the curve now and doing well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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Maybe - but I would kick myself if I missed a real problem when I could have gotten help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:25 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have their copy of the nursing mothers companion handy? still trying to figure out if i can take dramamine--it's not listed on kellymom.com and i'm in mexico, so i don't have my copy with me...tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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that is for motion sickness. YOu need to google the medication with the word pregnant and see what comes up. They company should have something listed. Why are you feeling so sick? Are you pregnant again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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i've googled but there's a wide range of different opinions...2 sites quote another book and say it's L2--passes through but not a problem. others say avoid it, the company stuff says consult doctor...called doc over an hour ago, still no call back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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I don't have the book, but according to safefetus.com: * Excreted in breast milk. * Use in nursing mothers is not recommended due to the potential adverse effects in infants such as unusual excitement or irritability. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Gross, don't take it. It's compounded w/so much other crap AND on it's own the molecular weight of it drops right into breast milk. Can you get your hands on some cinnamon sticks? Make tea; it should help. Also, try taping some pennies or copper content to your wrists, armpits or temples. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:39 PM Flag
[ - ] ugh, dd (15 mos) went to bed at 8:30 and she's been up since 9:45 in her crib crying and screaming. I went in, checked on her, checked diaper, took temp (no fever) gave her motrin, offered more milk, held her for 10 mins... finally put her back and she is still crying and screaming. What do I do now? She never does this. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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Could she be teething? Maybe something she ate is upsetting her? If she never does it I would keep checking, one time DD did this and then threw up and was sick for a few days. Also was the day super crazy? She could have gotten over stimulated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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a little crazier than usually (as it's the weekend) ...she is fine when I pick her up and stops crying...just wants to lay in my arms.....but I don't want to make it a habit....I feel bad but I have the feeling if I hold her she is just going to cry when I eventually put her back in her crib... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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If she's never done it before, I would hold her and give her some extra attention. If she does the same tomorrow, then I would rethink but it the meantime, something may be going on that she doesn't ahve words for and a little extra love can go a long way for you both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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My ds did this once, and we tried everything to get him to stop crying (for about 2 hours). We ended up calling the pediatrician and she basically told us to give him some benedryl to get him to sleep. We brought him in the next day and it turned out he was sick (had coxsackie virus) and in some pain because of it. I am not trying to freak you out-I just wanted to share our experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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whoops-didn't read that she stopped crying when you pick her up. Disregard the medical stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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i think that it is an epidemic= my 19 month old awoke this am at 3 and didnt fall asleep till after 8 am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know anything about MMS (Metropolitan Montessori School)? Is goes through 6th and I was wondering if it was any good? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.13.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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yes, it is supposed to be good. it is hard to get into if you don't enter at 3's. Also, when we toured got the sense they are looking for big donors for planned capital plan. If your child is young and you have the money, I thought the school was lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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MMS is a wonderful school! Any specific questions? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Almost 3 yo dd fights me every night to go to bed. She screams and cries, sometimes she fights me to get her clothes on etc then gets out of bed 10 times before she finally goes to sleep. I'm at my wits end and I am doing this alone since dh is in the military. Tonight I told her if she got out of bed I would spank her and I did and she got out again so I spanked her again. I am so sick of it. She is a huge challenge all day/every day and I am sick of her not listening to me. I am consistent and a good mom and she is stubborn and even tells me, "mommy you are not the boss of me". When I ask her to do things like clean her toys up she tells me, "I will do it when I am ready". Any tips, what can I do about the bed time thing? I asked dh what to do and he said tell her that's 30 more minutes, and I said 30 min of what and he said, "I don't know", uhg. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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What happens if you stop talking to her at all and just keep putting her back in bed over & over? My oldest is very stubborn and would LOVE to be the one in charge. I have had to take that approach with him a couple of times and it worked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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lady, I have a 3yo too and I do so want to spank her but don't go there as it causes more harm then good. Let's figure this out, I need some more info. Do you have a bed time ritual? What is it? Do you prepare her for bed? Talk about bed & sleeping in a pleasant way at other times of the day? Do you let her make choices about bed? and by choices I mean night gown, friend to take to bed, bed time story choices, etc., Does she have pillows and blankets she likes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I have a 3 yo too. Any illusions I had about being a good parent are pretty much gone :) Have you read How to Talk so Kids will Listen...? That helped me a ton, to understand things from her perspective, and to come up with solutions for getting things done- for getting her into bed without drama, for getting her dressed in the morning without a zillion tantrums. etc. And I echo previous comment about spanking not doing any good- it's a short-term solution and sends the wrong message anyway. gl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Miscarriage question: After an 5 week ultrasounds (and the one at 7 weeks) showing a irregular shaped empty gestational sack I was told I would miscarraige. Now at 8 1/2 weeks I have started bleeding. But it is very light. Just spotting for 2 days now. Is this normal to bleed so lightly in the beginning? I am expecting that the bleeding should get heavier. Can anyone share their experience? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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I had the same situation, but my dr recommended a d & c before I started bleeding. I would call tomorrow; he had told me that if I did start to bleed, it would get worse and he was worried about me losing too much blood- I am sorry for what you are going through. This just happened to me two weeks ago, so I can relate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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I am hoping that I bleed more than I am. It seems that it has to come out and if the bleeding stays light, how could it. I am trying to avoid a D&C. I had one on Nov, and it took me a long time to recover. Sorry for your loss. How are you doing with it all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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I am okay- I get upset every once in a while, a few times a day, but I try to think positive and not think about God's will or any of the b-s lines everyone told me, and just believe that my dh and I will keep moving towards our dream of having a baby, hopefully sooner than later. You? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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I feel the same way about it being Gods will. There has been a disconnect between my husband and I for a while. He has crossed so many lines with me since we are married (6 yrs), and has been so mean. And even though it is calmer now between us and we have seemed to work through whatever we were going through, I ahve lost respect for him and want to take care of myself now. I kind of feel that this is part of why it is not working out for our third baby. I have 2 healthy beautiful boys (3 and 4 1/2) and feel fortunate that I have them. This is upsetting, but I am greatful for what I have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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Just keep your focus on what you have and not what could have been- I could have been a tall blonde with big boobs, but I am not, so instead I focus on the positive and what I have been blessed with- my beautiful dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I m/c'd at 8 weeks and it started out as spotting for the first 4 days or so then got heavier, with some clots....like a very very heavy period. Of course I don't know when exactly the embryo died as I never went to the OB before the bleeding started [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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We never had a heartbeat so I just keep thinking that we never had a baby, just the potential and something happened that made God change his mind on the timing- not very religious, but definitely felt something through this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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that's so hard...I sort of felt glad that I hadn't made it to the 1st OB appt so I never saw anything on the ultrasound...only reason I knew I was pg was the positive preg test and the fact I missed my period...this made it easier to deal with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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So just try to think of it as a false start, like a race- someone stepped off too soon, and you have to try and start again, hopefully soon! That is what we are thinking - and we are going to enjoy every minute of trying again- =) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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It is good that you have used spirituality to make sense of it all. There is always a larger picture. And things work out in time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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I know there are certain thing I can control, and certain things I cant, so instead of losing my focus on the things I can not control, I try (and try being the operative word) to stay positive. It does not always work out, but if I can get through the day without breaking down in public, it is a good day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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good luck! We actually made it to the finish line about 18 mos later (and even after a 2nd m/c). We aren't going to be racing anytime soon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:27 PM Flag
[ - ] can i take dramamine while nursing? been throwing up 2x/day all day and i'm desperate to feel better. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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meant throwing up 2x/hour [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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kellymom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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check the website kellymom- it lists all safe meds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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A good natural remedy is ginger, ginger ale, or cooked sugar syrup, like you find in a can of peaches. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] my 3.5 yo has tantrums anytime we go into a store and there is some kind of toy he sees and wants. is this normal or have i spoiled him some way? TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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Is it working for him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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this is not normal. i dont use the word spoiled because its loaded. but really, it is not normal. when this happens, just walk out. every time. it will make your errands less effective in the short run but much more pleasant in the long run. he'll get the message. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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Mine doesn't have tantrums everytime, but he does sometimes have tantrums when there's something he wants--that seems like pretty standard 3 yo behavior [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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I've learned to tell my kids ahead of time what to expect- it eliminates the tantrums for us. For example, "we are going into this store to buy a gift for X. You are not getting anything, but I need your help choosing something X will love." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:05 AM Flag
[ - ] I bought DD a leapster for her birthday but keep going back and forth as to whether or not I should give it to her. She starts kindergarten in the Fall. For those who have do your DDs like them, play with them too much, etc. Thx. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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my DD is 3.5 and doesn't love hers. She gets it out once in awhile but not on a regular basis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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DS is 6, got it at 4. Never been that interested in it. He does it a bit in the car for longer rides, but he's really a more raw-materials/hands-on kind of kid. That said, I know of a lot of kids in that age range who really like them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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my 4 to dd loves the prinsess one...there is a tracing game with letters that keeps her busy for a long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] books on tape - any recommendations for 5 yo DD? We have several long car rides coming up. Thanks!! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Pippi Longstocking is very well done. DS loves it. And the one with the animals--The Incredible Journey, I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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wow, books on tape. This is crazy but I really hadn't thought of that for car rides. We always set up the DVD player. Any good ones for 4 yo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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DS started listening to Pippi at that age--he literally went through a year of it every day at quiet time he liked it so much. Frog & Toad is good. Magic Treehouse can be good but maybe a little scary for that age. The Just So Stories are on tape (cd). Katie Kazoo, Switcheroo was a hit too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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so cool. thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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james and the giant peach is great -- read by jeremy irons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] What's wrong with Muriel Puce??? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:46 PM Flag
[ - ] What magazines do you subscribe to? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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New Yorker, Entertainment Weekly, Cookie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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Domino. Given subscriptions to Sunset & Country Living. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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New Yorker, Artforum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Mother Jones [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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TONY, Massage Mag, consumer reports, Paris Review, Gun & Hunting mag, KidsTOnY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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NY Mag, Time Out, GQ, Consumer Reports, and Vanity Fair. Obv. TTC. No kids yet! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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EW, New York, People, Newsweek [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:32 PM Flag
[ - ] We just went to Chuck E. Cheese for the first time. Good God - that place is horrible. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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ideal place for bridal showers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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best damn birth control I've ever seen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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I'll bet the kids loved it though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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I'm assuming you're over age 8. You're not supposed to like it- it's not FOR you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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It was just so...icky. So white trash. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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Here we go again with the white trash thing...Didn't you see any Project Kids there?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:47 PM Flag
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I know total nightmare and DD loves it. We save it for desperate winter time activity. The food is horrid and it's a slime pit with screeching and blinking and whirling. The little toilets are cute though....looking on the bright side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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