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07.13.08, 19:34 PM General Topics
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My boss is driving me nuts. She seems to be constantly bringing up the fact that she is PRO-breastfeeding, that she thinks choosing NOT to brreastfeed is CHILD ABUSE. I had twins and major complications and was unable to breastfeed. Which I have told her. I swear to God, I don't know what possible point she is trying to make. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.13.08, 07:34 PM Flag
 

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Your boss is doing something highly unprofessional, if not illegal. At very least, it is unkind. I would suggest calling a meeting with her and saying in a straightforward and non-confrontational way "I appreciate your feelings about BFing, but your continuously mentioning it makes me feel uncomfortable, and I would appreciate it if we could take it off our list of conversational topics." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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That is a wonderful suggestion if she were anyone else, but this woman cannot take feedback. She's got a chip on her shoulder a mile wide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Then go to HR. Seriously. At least get it put in her file. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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she needs to know that this is not an acceptable conversation for you. That's the only way to stop it. I suppose another way, now that I think about it, next time she does it, break down and cry and rant and rave about how hard it has been. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Honest to God, she would just feel superior if I broke down. She is horribly insecure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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then take the opposite approach. Laugh and say how cute it is she is so concerned, but billions are raised on formula, and the 5 IQ points, and a few more ear infections aren't worth it. (I don't believe this, before I get flamed, but it's ludicrous for her to even mention breastfeeding to you, not professional at all) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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She's also said that she can't imagine having to put a child into daycare before the age of 3 -- that parents should be willing to make the "tough choices". I've got 2yo twins who are in daycare and have been since they're first birthday. We can't survive on what my husband makes and I have to work. I swear, sometimes I feel like being a bitch right back and telling my single-mom boss that I think it's terrible for a child to be raised without a mother and a father. Except I don't think that at all, and I really don't want to play this stupid game. I just need to look for another job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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sounds like that might be the best alternative. She sounds like a trip, and I can't imagine she's very professional if she thinks that this is acceptable. What did she do with her dcs before age 3 if she was a single parent? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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She was married part of the time and then moved down the street from her parents and her sister. They take care of her kids all the time when she travels on business and she sounds completely unappreciative and is always criticizing their care of her children. She's a new manager and, frankly, I'm much more qualified than she is. But I'm new to the company and she's been there for years. It's gotten so that I dread going to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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how toxic. I hope that you find a lovely new job soon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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Ignore her. Ignoring her is all that you can do. She is your boss, and not a nice one at that. Breastfeeding is the best as far as health goes, but not everyone is able to do it, why she would be a jerk about it probably has to do with some sort of deep insecurity. lol You should feel superior in the fact that you do not need to hurt others in order to feel good about yourself, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:23 PM Flag
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I think this post is fake. I think you're just an ANTI breastfeeding zealot, making up this story to try to make yourself seem persecuted and anyone who is pro-bfing seem nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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OP: First of all, this is not fake. Second, I'm definitely not anti-breastfeeding. I wanted to breastfeed and was unable to (which I said in the original post). Third, and most importantly - seek professional help. You are deeply paranoid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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