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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] Oprah needs to go on the show Survivor. That would humble her and make her lose weight. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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So your briliant deduction is that she is fat because she is pompous? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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glad you know what's best for everyone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a recommendation for a well-priced Manhattan car service (for bringing babysitter back to Brooklyn from lower Manhattan at night)? TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.13.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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I am babysitter in manhattan and use safe way to get home, its about $27 from warren and west bway to my area in bensonhurst.I dont have the number on hand though, sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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lower eastside car service 212 477 7777 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] My 7 month old just learned to crawl by getting up on all fours putting his forehead on the rug and pushing across the floor with his feet. I've been watching for 15 mins it's so cute! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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get off ub and get the camera :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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our db did this, we called it face plowing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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so cute! love that stage!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I've posted so many times on here when I have been upset/depressed, so I wanted to post that after two really really bad years, things are finally falling into place, starting with my new job. I'm a nanny, and this new job is everything I could ask for in a position..sweet baby(who eats well, sleeps well, etc), wonderful normal parents,commute is a three block walk from my house, and very decent money. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.13.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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woo hoo! Go you! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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Congrats! That's wonderful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Oh that's great to hear! Good luck with your new job. You sound like a nice person. I can't imagine doing the job you do--it's hard enough taking care of my own kids so I admire those who take it seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:03 PM Flag
[ - ] My 4 year old is having a lot of axniety about starting preschool in the fall. Any advice? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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visit it this summer, play in their playground if you can, get together with other children who will be attending for playdates, talk through what the routine will be (daddy will take you and then... and then mommy will come pick you up and we can talk about your day, etc.) over and over an d over again, stressing the aspects of how your presence will book-end his day their. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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ITA and also tell her about all the fun things they will be doing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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And Showy Show - Preschool Show ; ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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ok starting to get obnoxious... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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ITA. I'm smelling spam [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Sorry...I am writing lots of other advice! ; ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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LOL! Just repost another day to get opinions. I know youare excited, but this is pretty much the same crowd that was here earlier. GL with the showy show [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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Thank you!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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ITD!! Absolutely stop talking about it unsolicited. To a 4 yr old, 2 months away is another lifetime. To discuss something so abstract is so anxiety provoking. Downplay it completely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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might depend on the kid. My DD loves to talk about things that are going to happen (even if she doesn't get how long 2 months really is) but it seems to help her prepare anyway and get excited about things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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or: but he's already worrying about it...hence my suggestion. it's really the emphasis on the continuity and presence of his parents in his life that is the important part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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this is good advise. We visited DSs school all summer before school started. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I was not a good "baby" mom. I became a much better mom once my kids hit 4 years. Before that, I often isolated and bored. Now, I love being around my kids, and feel like I do a much better job. Anyone else feel this way? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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lets switch...I love the baby times, cuddling, making bottles, night feedings etc. Don't care for the whining attitudes of the big kids! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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My big sister is like that. Loooooves babies. Is actually kind of afraid of older kids. I think each age has it pros & cons. I love babies, but it's so fun seeing who these little people are turning into. And I used to teach high school and like my students a lot, so I'm actually kind of interested in what the tween-teen years bring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I am a nanny and this is how I feel. I adore children in general but would much rather work with them the first 3 years. I feel that way about my own niece and nephew, I LOVE them to death but enjoyed them SO much more when they were babies. I'm a baby person, always have been [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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i was a great baby mom and feel a little maxed out by having to be so present all the time emotionally with my toddler. we should have arranged a mom-share ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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I'm the other way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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to-tal-ly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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baby are sooo easy 2 and 3 much more challenging but I like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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i think i am the same as you, though dd is only 2... but i've been liking it more and more as she becomes a little person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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I just think they're so interesting once they can talk and express their ideas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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same, hate the 0-4 stage. I have a 5 yo, 7 yo and a 1 yo. I'm counting the days til she's 4. I hate the grunting, pointing, screaming when I don't know what she wants, hate having to watch her all the time and be within arms reach of her all the time at the park. (she is a daredevil and a climber so it is really hard). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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I hated being a mother for the first three years. I was in therapy telling my therapist that I made a terrible mistake by having a child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] My ds has a bit of a hitting problem. It only happens when he is very tired or angry he tries hard to control it but it still happens. He says sorry right after and seems to feel bad so I don't know how to discipline him. Time out doesn't seem right because he is remorseful. I'm at a lost. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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how old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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age? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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three years old he used to hit more but has improved alot now it's about once or twice a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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verrrry normal, not really a "problem" as annoying as it is. sounds like you are handling it well, esp since he is trying to control it. you could phrase the time out as "take a time out to calm down" - that helps with my dd sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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I think a lot of kids do that. Don't worry, he'll grow out of it. I would just stay consistent in how you react and in the discipline even if you don't think it's working. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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op- I have him say, "I feel angry!" and try to get him replace the hitting with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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we tried stomping feet, worked very well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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So common. My ds loved the book "Hands are Not for Hitting" at 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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thanks I'll try that, we do the stomping sometimes he knows better and feels so bad when he does it I hope he gains more self control soon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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he will [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 12:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel horrid saying this about babies, because all babies are beautiful but just saw a picture of J.Lo's twins and they are really not cute. She is pretty, I'd thought they would be so much cuter. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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all babies are not beautiful. Some are downright ugly. They are almost all cute though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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Hard to tell through all the silk & cashmere though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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I was very surprised myself, but Julia's Roberts kids are the worst [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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link? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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Genetics...they look like her DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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Who knows what she really looks like anyway? These stars have so much surgery and injections now it is hard to tell whats real and what is not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Austin, Texas, for a weekend. We'll have 1-1/2 days free. What should we do? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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I've only been once and that was years ago, but go eat at Las Manitas. Yum! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] so why do you supposed that Sam I am was so invested in the furry guy trying green eggs and ham anyway? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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I think he was on the spectrum and green eggs and ham were his thing... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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LOL! could be. He was pretty obsessed! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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ROFLMAO - laughing so loud I scared dh and dc! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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I don't know but I hate Dr. Suess not allowed in my house because the sing songs rhyming drives me crazy and he is a bit creepy, Ironically we named our son Theodore LOL!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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WHAT!!!??? Your poor kids! You have to read Dr Seuss to them! They wont turn out normal if you don't! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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really...? Dr. Seuss doesn't seem that "normal" to me, they get the Dr. Seuss from school but I just can't do it at home, I also can't even handle watching Charlie and the Chocolate Factory! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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LOL! Ok - now you sound abnormal!! (kidding! I'm kidding!) Do you mean the Johnny Depp one? I loved that! I always like strange things though. Maybe I'm the abnormal one...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I mean the old one, the new one (which I did NOT see), I also hate Alice in Wonderland, The Wizard of Oz and The Neverending Story I actually put these in the scary movie category DH makes fun of me all the time! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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that is really funny. I'll bet you don't like clowns either. (Well, neither do I and I think I would shoot a mime that came near my kid!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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does anyone like clowns? maybe I hate fantasy stuff...who knows? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I agree. Dr. Seus is kind of creepy. I do not get this thing with making up language... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.12.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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Don't you every REALLY want your kid to try something new, convinced that they'll love it if they just try it? And, of course, they don't. sigh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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OP actually my DD usually does. She will try most anything. (Don't know where she gets it. I was really picky) But if she hesitates, we remind her of the book ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] IVF: how long after transfer do I start feeling pregnant? or how do I know if my embryors attached....39 1st ivf cycle....5 perfect embryos transfered three days ago....( 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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are you taking progesterone now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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^^ op? are you still here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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yes, im here. Ill be on all eve thanx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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Hi, yes I sure am. I get PIO shots every night.thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.27.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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I didn't start to feel pregnant until 6wks, which was 2wks after the positive pregnancy. I know a bunch of people that obsess about symptoms, but I have never heard of anyone getting real symptoms until after their positive test (assuming they test around 4wks). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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when you start feeling nauseous for no reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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yep, that would be a sign.....thnx so much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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So many people I know had nausea after IVF from nervousness (this includes a few that it didn't work). Really, you need to stop stressing, the progesterone that you're taking can also make you feel pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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ok,thank you, your'e right... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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I wish you luck! With 5 perfect embryos, I imagine one of them will stick around. (sorry if I sounded harsh before, I really didn't mean to) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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thank you so much, I appreciate the advise and I know my DH will too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 11:41 PM Flag
[ - ] new a recipe to cook veal cutlets for my picky 2 yo. would prefer not to bake and not to make it breaded. any suggestions? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.13.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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^^^need [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Slice them thin...season to your liking and toss them in a pan with some olive oil. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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how long on each side? want to make sure they are tender and juicy. thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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also, low or medium heat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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veal picada, lemon w/ capers but you can skip the capers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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Veal...awww come on...I'm all for eating meat, but veal? That's just wrong.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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oh go tell it to PETA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I feel the same way...and DH is eating a veal parm hero right now. It just grosses me out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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I have no problem with veal, but that seems like a pricey meal for a kid that may well end up throwing it on the floor. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] When a schools says that they individualize curriculum based on the abilities and learning style of each child, is it really true? How can they possibily do this? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.13.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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they do not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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so they are lying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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exaggerating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Once they get a sense of where each child is, say on a continuum, they can adjust lessons/segments/expectations for each child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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But do they actually do it? In your child's experience? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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I felt that my ds's K teacher adjusted for each child--not the lesson, per se, but how she approached each child, her expectations, etc. But my ds's K class had only 14 kids, with a full time aide [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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what school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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I would agree about DS's kindergarten teacher. She does a lot of small group & individual instruction. Small class size plus an aide and parent volunteers--that helps a lot. But it's also just her approach--she's a really gifted teacher. She got my DS on a level no teacher has before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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I haven't heard a school say they individualize curricula, but I have heard my dc's school say they try to accommodate different learning styles. Here's one example: my child, in 3rd grade, had to do a book report that could be done in written form, poster style form with drawing, as a dance or verbally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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lol! and all that for just 30K+. wow! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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That is something they should tell you on tours, some people would steer very clear of a school like that and others wouldn't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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The smaller the class and the higher the teacher ratio determines how much individualized attention they can provide. Most private schools can provide smaller group instruction based on ability and change those groupings as often as needed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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they don't, especially in private school. They are lying...that's why they have such a secretive application process...they choose kids who fit their style and if they make a mistake and choose a kid who doesn't respond to their style, they kick them out. If they could individualize curriculum like that, they'd just take kids first come first serve. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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I couldn't agree more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:27 PM Flag
[ - ] We put a gate across db's door because we were having major issues with him going to sleep at night. he moved into a toddler bed 2 wks ago and just kept walking out- last night he did it from 8pm to 12! So tonight we put the gate up and he is sleeping. my question is should we remove it now so if he wakes during the night it is not there, or just leave it there? he has also been coming to our bed around 3:30am, but not every night. thanks so much. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.13.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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leave it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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and let him cry during the night ? i guess i would go out once to just reassure all is well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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he will probably cry for a night or two then get the message. I would not go out cuz once he sets eyes on you it's all over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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wow. that is very cruel. You locked your child into his room for the night? That's not right. Remove that gate, for goodness sake. Btw, yes, kids will always try to sneak into your bed at some age. It is just a phase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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over reacting much? How is a gate any different than a crib? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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A crib prevents your child from falling out. Once you put a kid into her own bed you kind of gave her the freedom to get in and out anytime she wants. And then you put the gate up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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please, if it was just to keep kids from falling, you would put the mattress on the floor to be done with it. The kid is used to not having complete freedom, so it's not exactly traumatic. It's not like a 2yo should have the right to wander around the house at will just because they are out of the crib. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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wow. well, we do parenting in a different way and yes my 2yo is allowed to roam around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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np: at night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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sure. My 2yo is not restricted at all at night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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so if dc wants to go play in the family room, or walk around the house instead of going to bed, that's ok? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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instead of going to bed? Yes, if he keeps walking out of his room instead of going to sleep we bring him back. We never let our kids cry themselves to sleep so a gate would not be an option no matter what when it comes to getting the child to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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sounds like a ton of fun nighttime at your house [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:10 PM Flag
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np: all my kids switched into a toddler bed at 18 months and we never closed the door at night. They were never brave enough to roam around in the dark. They would find their way to our bed but that's pretty much it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:51 PM