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[ - ] A genie grants you one of 2 wishes, either you marry the ultimate man of your dreams who is everything you want in a man and more but you never have children or.... you have beautiful children who are everything you hoped for and more except their father not on the scene and you never will find true love. Which do you choose? I choose the babies 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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babies - but this would not have been my choice before I married [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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tough call but i would say babies you can always get a divorce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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the man. Children deserve an example of a good father/good husband or they will end up being neither themsevles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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so not true my dad was never around and I came out fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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are you a dad? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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Neither my father nor my husband had their dads around and they are both great men and TERRIFIC fathers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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limited POV [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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Oh, ok and if I said "babies" my pov would be wider? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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No. You make it sound like an absolute and there are SO MANY examples to the contrary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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No, I gave my answer and an explanation. So, let's just do it over and I'll say, "the man". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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But don't ask me why :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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The babies...I don't think I would have been happy if I couldn't have been a mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Can I marry the ultimate man and then just adopt the beautiful children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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that's what i'd do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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That's what I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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the children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I have poor to nonexistent sex life. He is not interested in sex w/ me (finds me unattractive but great mother, wife, etc.). I offered him a blow job out of the blue yesterday when I lost a bet...and he hasn't collected. Wouldn't most guys want a bj even if they dont find their wives attractive? Any DHs on who can confirm or deny? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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just pull his pants down and go to it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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I have yet to meet a man whou would turn down a bj from their wife or girlfriend (a hooker maybe). I suspect your dh is either impotent or having an affair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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no, neither [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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my hubby says that any man would take it but he says to possibly add whip cream [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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My guy turns down blow jobs, but granted we have sex quite frequently. This situation sounds horrible. I can't imagine a man telling his wife he finds her unattractive. Did he elaborate at all? Is your relationship good emotionally? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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np I don't think it can be a good marriage emotionally if she knows he finds her unnattractive and they never have sex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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I disagree. I have a wonderful healthy marriage, but every now and then we have our dry spells. A REALLY long one after our baby was born. I was at brunch with a bunch of friends today. No one is passionatly attracted to our husbands any more, but that has been replaced with an intense love and comfort which is really much better for a life long relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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dry spells are one thing. Being told you are not attractive to me is totally different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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We have great kids. He does make me laugh and I am a great housewife so I simplify his life. Otherwise, it is no romance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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^^ and of course it is very sad to me that he does not find me attractive...I'm not especially though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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np Did he tell you this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Yes, in marriage counseling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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that is harsh. I don't know what I would do if DH said that to me in any context. I'm really sorry. You deserve to be loved and desired. I hope you 2 can work this out. Sounds kind of lonely to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Yup it sucks but I try to concentrate on the good things I have and my great kids. I wish I knew why some unattractive women appear to have loving DHs who seem to be into them...and I do not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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have you always had issues in your sex life or is this a new development? He must have been attracted to you at some point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Briefly before our marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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ok so this is not a huge surprise then. Hope fully you huys can work it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Maybe it's that you don't FEEL attractive, but you really are. Do you get enough exercise. A good yoga class helps me feel attractive and sexual. That vibe will rub off on him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Sometime attractiveness is not just physical. Maybe you need to get out of the housewife mode (not so attractive, probably reminds him of his mom) and do something that makes you feel good for you. Now that's attractive... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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Hey, I'm so sorry to hear you say you're not especially attractive to yourself. It's bad enough to hear this from your partner. Your housewifery and great kids cannot replace or supply a healthy self-love. I hope you are in therapy w/out your H; sounds like it's time you renewed your self-image and hopefully, you'll gain some perspective w/some distance from the wfe/mom context. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Anna Emerson or Anna Makenzie? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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they are both really nice. makenzie and emerson are equally annoying tho. are they family names? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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The only people who will ever know her middle name are her immediate family...way way way too overthought [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Emerson, dislike Makenzie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Bugaboo question--does one color wear better than another? Or is there a reason to choose one shade over another (aside from looks)? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.13.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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I think its a matter of how it will look when a toddler gets it dirty, the lighter colors I think it will show more, and look messier , then the black lets say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] My in-laws are going down hill fast. It's like everything is breaking; they know they're declining and are angry, needy, demanding and difficult; and this is what we're going to be dealing with for the foreseeable future. Does anyone have anything positive or hopeful to say? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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your time will come. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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And that's supposed to be hopeful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Yes, I hope it gives you some perspective and allows you to help them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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We're going to help them regardless of how we feel about it. Just wondered if anyone had gone through this and had strategies that worked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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You just do what needs to be done. And you are in control of your mood and your reactions, thats it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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NP: Not everyone responds like this though. To be angry, demanding and difficult is unnecessary. I have a lot of elderly people in my family who have ailments. They don't become nasty because of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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people die like they live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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np: ita with this, unfortunately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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MIL was always somewhat difficult, but I still liked her and liked having her around. Now, she just so hard to be around, and seems miserable. This ISN'T how she was her whole life; it's upsetting that she's ending up this way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Well, can you talk about feelings and suggest therapy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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So true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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I know. hard to realize, but helpful once you do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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depression in the elderly is very underdiagnosed. do you think they might benefit from antidepressants? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Yes. We tried to get MIL to take antidepresents because she's so angry and stressed all the time, and she took them for 3 days, felt they were upsetting her stomach (which is always problematic) and stopped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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i'm sorry. it's hard. do you have a relationship with their primary care physician? some docs are good at getting the elderly to take antidepressant under the guise of some of their side effects (this will help you sleep, help you hurt less, help your nerves/your stomach, etc.). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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She doesn't have a primary care physician - another problem. Just goes to many specialists without someone managing her meds, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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see below. try to get her to go to a geriatric specialist and talk with her/him ahead of time (or go with her to the appt) about the depression/irritability. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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What? OP is no more qualified to dx depression in her in laws than I am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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or: op is perfectly qualified to let the doc know about a significant change in MIL's baseline mood and behavior - it's highly relevant for the doc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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op: this is what I think dh needs to do. Communicate directly with her doctor about substantial changes in her personality, mood, and memory that have occurred in the lat 18 months. But he's reluctant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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taking acidopholis sp? helps their tummy also eating a lot of natural yogurt can ease the stomach cramping etc.. just a suggestion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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^^ also, sometimes getting them to a geriatric specialist can be helpful in terms of accurate dx, identifying med interactions, ability to relate to them more effectively, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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Makes my blood boil. The woman has a right to refuse meds. Her doc has not right to trick her into them. The woman said they upset her stomach. The OP acts as if that wasn't even necessarily true. Old doesn't mean that they have no rights or control over how they go out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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or here: boil all you effin' want for all i care. i've btdt. have you? if not, then hush. you have no idea what a difference it can make in the quality of life of someone you love and your own life as well when someone is appropriately medicated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Yes, I have. Fil died in my living room after many months of care. Are you still going to vote me off the thread? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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i'm going to suggest that caring for someone dying is not the same as caring for someone who is depressed. i'm sorry about your fil, but they are different situations. i am trying to describe caring for someone who is living, infirm and depressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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you are a trip. A) you have no idea what my fils mental state was and B) you have no idea what OPs MIL's mental state is, but carry on... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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^^ and it's not "tricking" someone. many elderly associate great stigma with meds that are prescribed overtly for what they see as "mental problems". describing the relevant impact of the medications in other words is very different from sneaking it into their food or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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OP: Am I saying she doesn't have a right to refuse meds? I don't think she should be tricked. But I do see that a this woman who seemed to get a lot of joy out of life is absolutely miserable, and creating distance between herself and her dh and her children. 3 days is really not enough time to determine impact of medication. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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how many days is? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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It usually takes a few weeks for your body to adjust, and for you to feel an impact. I think MIL took the pills for 3 days, didn't feel any "happier" and dropped them (confused them with xanax or other fast acting anti-anxiety meds) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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np: 6 weeks is what it takes for the full antidepressant affect to come about with current generation antidepressants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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What goes around comes around [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Any BIL's or SIL's? Ally with them and share the responsibilities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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I recently read in the NY Times online that there is a new blog for just this situation. Basically a place for people caring for aging parents to share info, etc. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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There is a great story about a man and his father - and the mans son - has to do with carving a wooden bowl. Know it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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no - do you have a title or author? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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no you could google. But it goes like this. Adult man is taking care of his dad. His dad gets old and feeble. Old guy drops the dishes and they break. Adult man yells and makes his dad use a wooden bowl and cup. Fast forward about an hour. Adult man walks in to childs room. Child is trying to carve in a piece of wood. Adult man says, what are you doing. child says, making a wooden bowl and cup for you when you get old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Have any of you ever cashed in a life insurance policy? Are there penalties for doing this ahead of your retirement age? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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Whole life insurance is a ridiculous investment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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how could you say this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Virtually every single FA will tell you this, hardly a surprise. If you want investments buy investment if you want insurance buy Term. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Yes this is true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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ita, I bought term life insurance through allstate, and the poorly trained salesperson kept trying to convince me to buy whole life, but his facts didn't add up at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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So if you had a whole life policy, would you recommend just taking the money out and investing it elsewhere and in term? TIA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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Yes cash it out, buy Term life and reinvest the whole life funds in a straight mutual fund or whatever investment vehicles you use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Thanks. One last thing...do you know if there are penalties for cashing it out early? I bought this policy straight out of college because it seemed like a good investment. Now...years later I have other thoughts for many of the reasons you have stated above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Sorry I do not know this having never purchased Whole Life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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Well you were VERY helpful anyway. Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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Before you decide what to do, find a competent financial adviser to go over the fee, etc. with you. It may be better to just leave it at this point, if you have had it since college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Why do you say this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Starting tomorrow, for one week, dh and I will be child free, at home in our apartment (first time ever). Do you think it will be pretty weird? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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sounds fabulous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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you are not gonna know what to do with yourselves!! enjoy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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Absolutely it sounds weird!!! I think you should leave your quiet apartment and come here and watch my two kids. My dh and I will go to your place instead. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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I think I'm going to say NOPE to that suggestion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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Well...it was worth a try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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sounds like you will have a fabulous time! I always enjoy time alone w/dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] what does ERB, SB stand for in regards to school testing? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.13.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Educational Records Bureau (test is actually the WPPSI-III or Wechsler Test of Primary and Preschool Intelligence) and Stanford Binet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] My DH just sucks. I can't stand him. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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why did you marry him, then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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He didn't suck then. His suckiness has increased with each year of marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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np, mine tricked me. admits it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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get in line [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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what exactly is your beef with him? maybe it can be reversed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] 34.5 wks pregnant and my neck hurts and my throat constantly feeling like it is closing up. uch! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.13.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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im 34.5 wks pg and cant stand for more than 3 mins! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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I'm only 31 weeks pg and everything hurts! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:22 PM Flag
[ - ] any recommendations for a really nice bunk bed? NYC. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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Ikea has nice wood one if you have high ceilings - and believe it or not Kmart has a fine wood one too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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but I would never use really nice and bunk bed in the same sentence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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well, i would never use the words "hag" and "witch" in the same sentence, but in your case, I'm making an exception. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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Why so rude? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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This is so unnecessary. Why don't you just answer the OP's question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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I did. But there is no such thing as a really nice bunk bed. Its a bunk bed. they are only so nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Shut it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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Stanley Young America line has lots of solid wood choices. They used to sell this at Raymour & Flanagan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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R&F is considered really nice furniture these days? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Stanley Young america is very nice solid wood. Look attheir website. I am not kidding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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ita. dd's furniture is all young america and we love it. great quality, very attractive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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none of them are terrific, but get wood not metal. The metal may look better to you, but it bends almost immediately. You need wood. Most are pine - so they aren't that nice. If you want something "really nice" you will need to go custom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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since when is pine not very nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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pine is considered to be one of the cheaper woods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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well a mahogany bunk bed is a bit of an oxymoron [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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that's funny! I said the same thing above! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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I'm not sure where the best place to buy one is...but if space is the issue, also keep in mind the trundle bed. My friend bought this for her two daughters because of space issues and it works out great. It also takes up less space in the room. Just an idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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could also do one regular, one loft bed (perpendicular to each other so the head of one is over the head of the other.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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lol. did this in my freshman dorm. worked well, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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Pottery Barn Kids. New store opened in NYC this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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I agree -- they look pretty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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Also consider a day bed if it's just for sleepovers and not for everyday use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:34 PM Flag
[ - ] For the past several months our inlaws have been very, very preoccupied with all the other grandkids. Well, in that time they have completely and totally neglected our dds as a result. I don't expect their lives to revolve around these granddaughters, but now they are trying to make up for the fact that they basically had nothing to do with our kids. It's so obvious what is going on. Even dh feels the same way that I do. Should I be a shithead or just let them make up to them the fact they have been absent and playing favorites with the other grandkids?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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why have they been so absent? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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just let it go--life is too short. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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ITA...Who knows what was going on. There might be a reason why they were more concerned with the other grandkids for that period of time. Look at it this way...at least they have returned to the realization that they must make up for lost time with your kids and they are making every effort to do so. I would let it go and just pick up where the good times with them left off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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Maybe it is easier for them to manage planning things with one group at a time. Are they now "neglecting" the other gdc to spend time with your dds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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I always think if you notice people are spending less time with you and more time with the other siblings/friends, etc its because you aren't as fun to be around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I am 35 weeks pregnant and my bf from high school (who lives far away, but I am close to) doesn't know. I emailed her at the beginning, but email was wrong, I hav just been so wrapped up I havent called and now I feel awful. What do I say when I call her? She is godmother to my #1 (this is #3) and I am godmother to all her 3 dcs. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.13.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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I have no idea, good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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Tell her you had this paranoid sense you were going to miscarry and wanted to wait before you told people. In other words, lie! That's how I make my relationships work. ; ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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that's a good one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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until 35 weeks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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it's not that plausible, I suppose it would really depend on how gullible she is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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just call her and tell her, the longer you wait the worse it will be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 yr ds is going through a stage where he doesn't want to go to sleep at night and won't sleep through the night. We have been putting him in his crib and laying on the floor until he falls asleep however he doesn't sleep through the night. Usually around 3 am he wakes up and we just bring him to our bed. Any ideas? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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What do you want to do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I want him to sleep through the night and not come to our bed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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Then my suggestion would be to stop staying in his room for him to fall asleep. Make a good bedtime routine, make it clear that you're saying good night, give him a lovey of some kind and then stay out of there. When he wakes up--if you're sure he's not sick or needing a fresh diaper--just let him CIO and see how that works. But don't keep bringing him into bed--he'll need that to go back to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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We have had similar issue with our 2 yo ds. One helpful thing has been that he never, ever gets to sleep in our bed. We haven't completely solved it, but it helps. Also, making sure that he is eating enough during the day and and at dinner, so he won't awaken hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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cio! you should not just be laying on the floor everyday until he falls asleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Expecting first baby. We live in a 1 bedroom in Manhattan - not sure what we are going to do before we move. (baby will be here for 6 months)We are going to get a Bugaboo. Can the baby sleep in the bassinet feature instead of buying a real bassinet? Has anyone else done this?? Do you take it off or keep it on the wheels?? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.13.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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only a real bassinet is designed with SIDs in mind. Pack n' plays, strollers, etc. are not, because they are designed to only be used with an adult around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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obviously cribs and travel cribs are also designed according to sids specifications as well, just in case that's not obvious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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We are moving when out lease is up and when you pay 3500 a month in rent, 1000 on a stroller seems normal. and I didn't ask your opinion on the price - just the use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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huh? I didn't comment on the price, just the fact that it doesn't meet SIDs specs probably. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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I'm sorry -- response not meant for you. It was for the person who made a comment about the 1000$ price tag. New to the boards... not sure how to use them :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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no prob. I actually just saw that. I thought that I read down through the post, but hadn't;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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By the way, something that you probably hadn't thought of, a bassinet or crib is nice because the baby is not to spit up a lot, etc. The bugaboo isn't going to stay pretty at all if the baby is spending 12 hours a night + naps sleeping in it. Do they make sheets for the bugaboo? if not, I wouldn't just for the sake of convenience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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opps baby is going to spit up... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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Just get a crib and put it in your room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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ITA. I wouldn't worry about anything. Lots of babies are in their parents' room for 6 months...and longer. A crib will be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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ITA - the advantage of a basinett is that it can be kept in your room. If you are in a 1BR w/ the crib in your room, just use that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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I don't see why not. Those Bugaboos are wonderful. You can get a special sids prevention cushion to go inside...ask the pump station in LA. Even if you're not in LA, they are really helpful and can explain what you need. And I'd leave the wheels on so you can rock her when she gets fussy. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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6 mo can't sleep in a bassinet. That is going to last 2-3 months at best [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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mine did. Had a very large bassinet. Stayed in it until 7 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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those "sids prevention cushions" are actually a sids risk if you look it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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is it just me or does it seem ridiculous to spend $1000+ on a stroller when you're living in a 1 bedroom with your kid? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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NP - We are doing the same thing and 1st - a Bugaboo is $900, not $100+, second - it is a temporary situation until our lease is up (and we already pay $4000 for a large 1BR so a $900 isn't a big deal. We had a two year lease and didn't expect to get pg so soon and I'm sure OP is in a similar situation. Don't judge w/o facts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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it won't work for six months. i would just buy a crib and put it in your bedroom. we used our bug a ton, and db slept in the bassinett whenever we traveled (and on walks), but as soon as they can move around, roll over, etc., it's not big enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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do a pack n play! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Taking ds to have pictures taken with our friends daughter. They are taking a wagon for them....what should I wear on ds? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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overalls and a red checked shirt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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That's what our friends said but I HATE overalls on my son [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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LOL! I was joking. I'd say jeans and a solid color shirt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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OH good. I think once they start walking overalls don't look good. I don't know what to do....I hate trying to pick outfits for pictures [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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just pick something you think he looks cute in, but solid colors are better than patterns in photos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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I probably should see what our friend is wearing on her daughter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Journey To Center Of Earth for 6 yo ds? Has anyone seen it? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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saw the previews and it looked like it had some scary parts. Might depend on the kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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With my ds, the scarier and more suspenseful, the better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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well then go ahead! DD said she didn't want to see it but she's only 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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it was fine for my six year old - the movie is ok, make sure you see it at a 3D theater. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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Don't they just hand out the glasses? Or does it have to be special theater? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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has to be a special theatre. You have to ask. Where do you live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Miserably naseaus with 2nd DB. Is 2nd preg. worse? When will it go away? I want to die.... 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.13.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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my OB had me take 1/2 a Unisom with a vitamin B and it changed my life ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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Oooh. What's with the vitamin B? I'm taking some major vitamins (3 X a day for max effectiveness). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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np I took Stuart natal pre natal vitamins. They have extra B6 in them and for some reason that seems to help. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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Isn't Unisom a sleeping tab? Didn't that knock you out? I love how I'm supposed to feel like this but also go to work and you know, keep it a secret. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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vitamin B changed my pregnancies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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I feel for you. I wanted to die when I was pregnant. But it did go away for me in the 2nd trimester. It is truly the most awful feeling. My sister had really bad morning sickness and saw a chiropractor for a Cranial Sacrum (sp?)and she said it totally worked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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Did you have a girl? It'd be worth it if it were a girl...:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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Do you live in LA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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No, Brooklyn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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I know a chiropractor in Manhattan I could recommend, but Idon't know if she can help morning sickness. I have often wondered how we could have populated the planet when pregnancy is so awful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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I have the solution!! Buy the wrist bands that are sold for seasickness (available at most pharmacies). It worked perfectly for me and I was sick 24 hours a day until my friend brought the bands over. Wish I'd known about them for first kid . . .GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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this worked for my sil, too. also important to always keep some small bit of food in your stomach - much worse when it's empty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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