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[ - ] Anyone on with a dc in G&T middle school? Trying to get an idea of what "a ton of homework" means. My dc does a lot of after school and thinking I shouldn't book anything his first year entering G&T. Hoping it is not as bad as it sounds on UB? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.14.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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Depends on the school. For example, Delta kids have a lot more HW than Anderson kids. The schools have different HW policies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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do you know anything about what the differences are between these two schools. we are in d3, and will be applying shortly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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np: Anderson is near impossible to get in, they have like 10 spots for all of the city, so if you live in D3 and dc has great 4th grade scores odds are s/he will end up at Delta. Which is known for 2-3 hours of homework per night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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how many hours at anderson (out of curiosity, and just in case)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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Supposedly closer to 1 than 2 hours a night, but again, depends on the child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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nnp - This is Delta's old rep, but per kids there now on the tour we went on (and per new Inside Schools review fwiw) it is supposed to be more like 1 1/2 to 2 hours a night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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I think it's probably very child dependent. I have a couple friends whose kids go and they definitely got a bit of a shock the first year there, and I was told at least two hours most nights. I am sure some kids can do it faster and some will take longer, so no doubt some can be done in 1 1/2 hour or even sooner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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Go to helicopter mom blog. Though she is nuts. Practically does all the homework for her son. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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anyone know about NEST homework in middle school (besides helicopter mom) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:56 AM Flag
[ - ] my parents live in a very rural area of the country with no recyling program whatsoever. i can't believe it and want to try and do something about it... stir interest if nothing else. any ideas how to get started??? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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If you don't live there yourself, I'm not sure why anyone would care what you think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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I care about what happens in other places [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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Fine, but do you also care about how much of a PITA it is for people who live there? You want other people to spend time, money, and energy just because you say so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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I don't think it's a pain to recycle. Recycling is pretty much optional, so no one is forcing anyone to do anything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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Think about what you're saying. You're asking for a town to invest in a recycling program: that means new garbage trucks, new trash sorting equipment, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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I'm not asking anything! The OP just asked about information- I'm sure there are all levels of activity. Perhaps the town could partner with another town on a program. Ultimately, I think its a good idea to think of stewardship of the earth's resources. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Of course it is. It's also a good idea not to be a know-it-all out of towner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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I don't read OP's question as being a know-it-all. Maybe no one in the town has the energy or the resources. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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i grew up in this town and still have friends/relatives there, who would love to have a recycling program but haven't made the effort to get all the info. i understand that - they lead busy lives. i care about it this town and our planet and just thought if anyone had ideas, i would pass them along to people who DO live there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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This may sound silly, but google, "How to start a recycling program" or some combination of those terms. Good luck & thanks for doing it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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honestly, the added gas mileage of trucking around the countryside to do a recycling program probably isn't all that much more environmentally friendly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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Good point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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I think she means getting the resources together for the town to start and maintain a program? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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yes, but how is this stuff going to get to town? Do you really think that people are going to bike it in? In a normal urban/suburban area, the costs are worth the benefits, but I doubt in a rural one they will make sense for anything besides maybe glass and metal. Plastic and paper have little usefulness in recycling, and most can only be recycled a couple times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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I suppose that is where research would play a role. Best not to shoot something down that has a positive goal before knowing the scenario completely. Seems to me like recycling a couple of times is preferable to waste. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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not necessarily when recycling plastic is pretty toxic too. I'm all for environmental responsibility, and I have cut down our waste hugely (one trash can every two weeks). But if she wants to start a save the earth campaign, there are far more effective ways to do it than this. This is just so she can feel better than the rural people that don't know any better. It is not going to make a big measurable difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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I don't get that the OP is saving the earth campaigning- just wanting info that she might use for this town. I see that as positive effort and small efforts are valid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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and I think that she should mind her own business and focus on her own community, not her parent's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Amen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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there is no ugly motive here. and any difference would be a positive thing, in my opinion. that's like saying one person's efforts to live greener are pointless. it all adds up. (op) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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If they don't want it, who would use it? You're not even there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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How do you know they don't want it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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op here: i had to get off for a bit but am back. i'm not talking about a county/city-wide curbside service.... that clearly wouldn't fly. but i think there would be a lot of interest in a drop off location in the little town, which is where everyone has to go anyway to get groceries, etc... therefore, it wouldn't be additional fuel usage. anyway, i'm not talking about saving the earth single handedly... i just thought i might do a bit of research and provide some info to the people i know down there who do want to recycle/live greener. if they get it going themselves, who knows the limits?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Moms with nannies - when do you pay them for vacation weeks? Our nanny is taking 2 weeks off. I gave her one week pay in advance on her last day before leaving, and told her I'd pay her for the 2nd week on her first day back at work. She looked a bit surprised, although didn't complain. Was that inappropriate? It seemed like alot to give her 2 weeks pay in advance. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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I usually pay in advance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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Even for 2 weeks in a row? This is a relatively new nanny (has only worked for 9 months but I said it was okay to take an early vacation) and my previous nannies haven't taken 2 weeks together. I did pay the first week in advance. I guess I'm asking whether this seems okay, even if some people do pay both weeks in advance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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I agree with the other poster--it's kind of controlling not to give it all in advance, as if you don't trust nanny enough to come back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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I dont get an advance from my boss when I go on vacation. I think in the nanny world things may be different, but I don't it was wrong either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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I get paid as usual when I'm on vacation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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me too, posted below, doesn't everyone in 'real' jobs have direct deposit these days? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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in advance. it feels kind of controlling to give her part in advance, part later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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OP: that was my concern -- I didn't do it to be controlling but simply because it was a huge amount of money to pay in advance (and in most workplaces, you don't get paid in advance). I didn't want her to think I doubted she'd come back, but it just seemed unreasonable for her to expect to get all her money 2 weeks early. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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Most professional people have direct deposit, so while they don't get the money early they don't get it late either, it shows up when it is supposed to, so I don't think your comparison flies so well. And nannies often need the money for vacation. But in any case it is water under the bridge for you now. I assume you will give her the rest of the money the day she comes back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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OP: Right, as I said in my post I told her I'd give her the 2nd week the day she came back, so she gets her first week pay 7 days early, and her 2nd week 3 days late. Not "everyone" has direct deposit, so I didn't think this was unreasonable. Who gets paid 2 weeks in advance anyway? Or perhaps I'm cranky because I'm paying for so much away time -- she's taking her vacation separately from ours, so she'll also get at least another 2 weeks this summer plus various days for long weekends, all of which she gets paid in advance. I guess I just didn't feel like paying her an entire 2 weeks in advance since she was taking them in a row. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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I wouldn't worry about it. I don't know how common it is but it seems fair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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Always in advance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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we do it before, but ive never had a nanny take 2 weeks in a row [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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i don't know why OP's nanny needs 2 weeks off, but if she is like most, she is probably going to visit family. i think 2 weeks is reasonable. many nannies use vacation time to go back to their home countries--with their kids during summer break. i think less than 2 weeks to visit their family and relatives in another country is way too short. as an employer of someone from another country, people should think of what is fair, rather than what is in the rule books. also, many nannies cannot afford more than one trip abroad per year (tickets, coordinating dh's sched, etc.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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OP: As I said, I don't mind her taking the 2 weeks in a row, but I do mind a bit the fact that the expectation is that she gets all her money in advance. My thinking was that in the "real world" you are paid end of every week. So the first week she already has her money, the 2nd week she would get paid on Friday and gets money Monday instead because she isn't there. Most people do this -- I guarantee you that not everyone uses direct deposit -- I don't, and I pick up my check the next time i'm at work (and we have a more than 2 week delay getting paid, I don't get paid Friday for the work I did up to Friday). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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being a nanny is not a corporate job. more often than not, their financial situations are more precarious than their employers...therefore, i think you should look at the situation and not the rule book when it come to this. take a look at her needs...maybe she doesn't need the money in advance, but if she is, say, going to her home country for 2 weeks, maybe she does, to buy presents, clothes, goods (which relatives always expect). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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OP again: So have you all had nannies who took 2 weeks in a row? As I said, all my previous experience has been for 1 week vacation at a time, which I've always paid in advance. So this is my first time with 2 weeks in a row. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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We had a nanny freak out on us once. My DH (not the most on top of things guy) usually pays her. He forget to get out extra cash earlier in the week, so he coudn't pay her in advance (and this was only for a week vacation). She left and slammed the door on him screaming "you don't respect me" He was definitely wrong to do this, but after that point, it was clear that she wasn't going to last that long (she lasted another year, but the attitude used to kill me). I'm going highjack your post here, and just state that I really think most nannies talk about/denigrade their employers incessantly, and any chance to criticize us to their nanny friends on the park bench so they seem like the martyrs is their way of passing time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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OP: I'm sure that is true. I'm pretty sure this nanny would never complain directly to us because I really do think she knows she has a good deal -- we pay her for a ton of time when we are gone as well as the 2 weeks vacation, and never ask her to coordinate vacation at all. I thought I was being fair by giving her the one week early, but I didn't know if I was imagining her reaction (from the responses here, I guess I wasn't -- she expected to be paid for both weeks). Oh well, not much I can do about it now - I don't think it's that big of a deal -- she's not going away, just spending time with her family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:52 AM Flag
[ - ] DF admitted that she prepped her now-13 year old DD on the ERB and that noone ever gets caught. Wondering if that's true or not. Does anyone on this board actually know a DC who was called out for being prepped? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.14.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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How exactly did she prep? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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Sent DD to a tutor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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She better be careful. Private school do counsel out children... it's not like prepping for an IQ test makes the kid any smarter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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Their DD is 13 and is top of her class, so I doubt she's going to be counseled out at this point! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Probably tutored to hell. If she was prepped at 4yo with a private psych, I'm more than certain the parents forked over $$$$ for tutors in every class. That kid won't be able to compete on her own in college or after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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baloney, the child is probably very bright, don't kid yourself that the ERB is so reliable when the kids are 4. probably the tutoring just made sure she did well, and provided insurance against an "off day" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.08.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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I don't think being caught is as in your face as being "called out". According to my psd, if the tester suspects prep, it will be indicated on the report. For instance, if the kid doesn't require instructions, this is noted. Up to the *schools* to decide whether kid's playdate performance (and school report--preschools don't lie as doing so will ultimately impact their ability to get dcs into schools) matches erb score. Ultimately, it's an IQ test, and if your very average kid scores a 99/99/99, red flags will go up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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know many who got that notation on the report, and still got in. of course they prepped, but it is very very hard to prove, and erb people do not want to take on a bunch of lawsuits. the tests are not infallible, and most average to bright kids, even prepped, with the right education will do fine. so its worth the risk for many. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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Then schools admitted these kids knowing they cheated. Maybe $$$$$ families or PSD report indicated these kids are very smart anyway and really dind't need prepping though pita parents did it anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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Especially with kids like mine who will say they know how to do everything and they've done it all before [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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OR Perhaps. But, fwiw, my dc's score report did state that she listened carefully to instructions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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so are you saying that the testers are subtle in their comments? or do they come right out & say they suspect something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.08.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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If the tester can tell that your dc has been prepped they will indicate it in the narrative section of the ERB score. It is seriously frowned upon by schools who will read the report. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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What does she mean by prep? You mean hire a psych to administer same ERB test ahead of time or just Brainquest type of things? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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I don't know anyone that did, but I do know that there are psychologists out there that claim they can prep undetected for $500 and hour. I think it is a bad idea and think it is that wide spread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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Real crazy parents out there with dumb money to spend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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Glad my kid's naturally smart and I didn't feel the need to resort to that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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ita. I'd be nervous about not keeping up with peers if cheated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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My friend has children who are graduating from college. She said everybody prepped for the ERBs back then. Her DC went to Spence and Chapin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.08.08, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] CT moms: Relocating to Darien/Norwalk with 3 yo DD ASAP. Any chance of finding a PT pre-school for her for the fall or will everything be booked? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.14.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Anyone? We're moving from Chicago, and I really don't know the area. DH grew up there, but he doesn't know anything about pre-schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:10 AM Flag
[ - ] name poll: Bodhi 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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Bodhi means being. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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surfer dude from Point Break [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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Not bad. A friend's DS has that name and everyone always misspells it or calls him "Bobby" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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Rajendra is nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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That is nice. What does it mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:05 AM Flag
[ - ] got my hair colored at high end salon and had to blowdry it myself. is this normal??? i just assumed i'd get a blowdry after paying $250 for highlights!!!! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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Were they overbooked? That does not sound right in any case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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nope, i asked the friend who referred me to the salon and she said they never dry hers either... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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its normal - obnoxious but normal IME [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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Unfortunately it's the practice in many expensive salons in nyc. I stopped using them and now go to reasonably priced places, that blow dry your hair as a matter of course afterwards. And guess what, there is no difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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That's crazy. The only time I've ever not gotten a blowdry at a hair salon is at the Haircutery for $9. I would say tell them they add the blowdry or you're finding a new place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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i dont think its normal, i pay about the same and always get a complimentary blow out. where did you go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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No way!! You should try Xac Anthony Salon in Chelsea!! Amazing Cuts and colorists and they are very friendly and affordable! I go and I've sent my friends and they ALL love it and are very happy!!! www.xacanthony.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.12.08, 08:45 AM Flag
[ - ] If I think I injured my rib, can I go to my general practioner for that or do I need to go to a specialized doctor? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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Start with your GP. Maybe call them and ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Yesterday went to look at a house in Norwalk. so depressing! No park to walk to, no coffee shops nearby, etc. etc. The closest "downtown area" consisted of a 7-11 and a mechanic. Those kinds of things are important to me as a SAHM. Thinking about looking in Fairfield. Is it any better? And how is the commute to midtown? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.14.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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i don't know norwalk, but fairfield seems cute...i haven't seen the main downtown area, part i've seen is like typical suburb w track-malls, but lots of different shops. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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^^as for commute, we drive there, but i think you have to switch trains in stamford. it's about an hour or so. why not look closer, like stamford? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I've heard stamford schools aren't that great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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cute downtown that you can walk to if you live in the beach or center area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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You don't have to switch trains in Stamford. Fairfield has several train options that range from 67 minutes to 85... really great community but commute is long. If the office is near Grand Central and your house is within 10 minutes of the train station it's totally doable. Great town. suzysaid.com will give you a sense of the community. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:15 PM Flag
[ - ] I find this new posting system so annoying. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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What don't you like about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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Maybe I'm just old school. I thought the original way, although not perfect, was easier to read and felt more immediate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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I can't even remember what it used to be like. I don't find this too bad at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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It's almost like my laptop doesn't like it. It takes it a while to post my messages and to move around in general. I don't have this problem with any other website. Who knows... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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np: it seems like no one ever responds to posts anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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I feel the same way. There is way less traffic on here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:06 AM Flag
[ - ] is it better to apply for fancy private schools for pre-k or kindergarten? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.14.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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usually K. only a few have pre-k and usually they are filled with sibs and legs. but this may vary depending on the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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Any time you ca nget in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I say both. When you get rejected for pk you reapply and you will have an edge over the other k applicants for being committed to the school. Worked for us any way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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eh, neither. neither is going to give your kid any advantage over other children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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IMHO, unless you really know the schools well, it's better to wait for K. That way you can really get to know what differentiates them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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Some schools entry grade is pre-k and they have very few k spots. So check out the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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depends on the school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] If I were in a tt corporate environment in charge of hiring I would be VERY cautious in hiring a 25-35 y.o. woman without kids. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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Why you ould have at least 10 years work out of them before they decided to have kids ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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do you work in 1950? way to be supportive of families. This isn't just a woman's issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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THANK YOU. good lord, this drives me nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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Its a womans issue as long as men continue to divest themselves of family issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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and it will continue to be a woman's issue as long as people like the OP discriminate against women of childbearing age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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'cause you book as soon as you have kids and work is "boring and "stressful" and daddy makes lots of money anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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hmmmmm...what world do you live in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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lol just read UB and welcome to my world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Then you'd be short sighted. It's not like people stay in their jobs forever. They leave for better jobs too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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They don't go out on maternity leave...often collecting salary and benefits; then quit when the baby shows up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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Now, they stay for the training then sit on their butts and slack until a better job come along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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Hey that's good news, I create the trianing. Thanks for the job security! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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you suck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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Nice attitude. On your point, there's always the chance the childless woman won't have kids vs. hiring the one with kids who has to call in everytime she needs to stay home or pick up a sick kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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And forget about tt graduate programs...when you are looking for long term productivity from your graduates we are not the demographic to select unfortunately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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ittta with this, it sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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hm. most of my female friends are totally single and still working, and we're over 35 y/o. that would suck for them if firms didn't hire them bc they assumed they'd be leaving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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but it happens all the time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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PLease, you can tell you aren't in a hiring position. I hire and anyone can leave you at anytime. This isn't 1970 where people stay with companies for their whole careers. People jump around all the time. My experience is that the women who don't stay work for companies that indicated subtly that they didn't want them to. Thankfully mine isn't like that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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calling 1960 here. you are stuck in the 20th century, lady [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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So if you are 28 and have a child are you saying they are available for hire? I think you need to get out of 1961 and get a clue. Quite honestly I think women who have children are way more efficient and organized then those without. It is like once you have a child your multi-tasking and organization skills whip into overdrive. Watch out we may just take over your job! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been to Eleuthera in the Bahamas? Thoughts? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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No - Is that the island where the stars live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:46 AM Flag
[ - ] baby 3 mths-loves to be held. started having problems falling asleep--any suggestions 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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I found the Babywhisperer book and website helpful. Having said that if your dc is approaching 4mo it might be time for a change to their schedule. What times does dc nap? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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naps am midday and late afternoon---only about 40 min each time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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Have you tried napping in a swing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Need travel advice. My DH and I are taking a [much needed] vacation to Italy in early Sept. Flying into Rome, staying one night and heading to the Amalfi Coast. Question is, I'd love to go to Positano but I've heard it's so touristy. Is it worth staying 1-2 nights there or is there another town we could go to that doesn't feel overrun with other travelers. ANY OTHER ADVICE ON THE REGION IS APPRECIATED. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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you can go across to Capri [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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We are going to Capri but didn't necessarily plan on staying there. We have two young kids at home so we only have 5 days. Do you stay in Capri? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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We stay in Finale Liguria [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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Where is that in relation to Positan and what do you like about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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np: get a map and a travel agent! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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We stayed at the Villa Franco and had the most wonderful time. We were there in early October. It is a good central location with beautiful beach. The other towns seemed more "urban" for lack of a better word. I think Positano is the place to stay. You won't have any regrets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:05 AM Flag
[ - ] potty training: we cannot get ds to stop asking for diapers to poop in. he's been pee trained for over a month, but once pooped in his underwear and ever since asks for diapers and freaks out if we ask him if he wants to try to potty. Any advice for getting through this? I feel so bad for him when he gets upset. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.14.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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No advice but I've heard this a lot so someone will have good advice for you. My ds will not poop on the potty either yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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how old? has he been pee trained for a while? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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2.6yo. Never tells me when he want to pee or poop but when I ask if he wants to go he always says yes and goes (not poop though). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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go with it until he's ready. offer m&m's (2 for going poop, 1 for trying) for potty use. watch elmo's potty video. read "where's the poop" and "everyone poops". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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doing m & m's, have everyone poops, he's anti-Elmo (alas, because everyone tells me about that video...). Have tried toy bribes, stickers, doing it with him/next to him. Kind of stumped by this. Also, when he poops in a diaper, he then freaks about taking it off, which is new. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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yeah. sometimes they like to stay close to their poop for a while. from a developmental perspective, pooping is a child's first creative act. it feels like a part of them and can be scary to let go of. I would not push this right now. it sounds like he is not quite ready to go on the potty. i would lay off even suggesting the potty for a while, but keep reading the books and get some more books about it (like i said,"where's the poop" is great). and just be patient. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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Np. some kids gets scared of the mess and loosing something from his body. If you can bare it then take off the poopy diaper and show him tipping the poop into the toilet and flushing it away. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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How old? DS is 3 and will not even pee in the potty. He tried sitting on it a few times, about a year ago. Something obviously freaked him out, because it's now full out tears if we even suggest it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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my dc pooped in a pull up for months after being potty trained for pee. Just let it go. He is not ready and it is very common for poop to come later than peeing in the potty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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