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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] i need an easy recipe for califlower. tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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chop, toss with olive oil and salt. Place on baking sheet. Put in 400 oven for 20 minutes. Stir. Put back in 400 degree oevn for 20 more minutes. Yum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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you dont have to steam it first? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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no. It cooks quickly. And don't worry if some of it gets brown on the edges. That is the part that tastes best [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
[ - ] One can choose to save the $ but if you make $200k, you could afford 1dc to private if you live modestly. I don't understand posts that say $300k is hard to afford 1dc to private. It's all about allocating resources. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.14.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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Don't worry about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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yet still you post here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Yeah- I'm just saying that if you are content and getting it all done, what's it to you how someone else does it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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I'm saying there are families who make between $200k and $300k who want to consider private but UB posters are saying don't bother. These families think they might be able to but they hear stuff like "you can't afford it" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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Anyone who believes UB chatter without running their own numbers is a huge fool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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well, let them work it out amongst themsleves [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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we make 200K and choose not to afford private. besides the fact that we believe in public schools, we choose to save for retirement. in addition, housing in nyc is really expensive. we own a 2BR 1 BA (less than 1000 sq ft) in morningside heights that we bought as part of a co=op conversion and maintenance and mortgage is over $4K per month. we never take a cab, don't live extravagantly at all. its tough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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Good for you. But I'm simply saying it's mathematically possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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depends largely on housing costs. we make more than $500k and chose not to put dc in private -- housing costs are high, and it's important for us to save adequately and pay for college 100%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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OP: I agree that it'll be impossible if your housing costs are high, say $5k-7k/month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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ours are $7k a month. we could do it, but it would mean sacrificing savings substantially (basically, dipping into bonuses to pay tuition -- something we weren't prepared to do). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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of course you can with $500k. you choose not to. and good for you. but people can afford 1 or even 2 tuitions with $500k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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of course -- as i said, we chose not to go private, for reasons that were personal to us (significant savings, college). we are also very happy with our public school, however -- if we weren't, we might have made a different choice for the upper elementary school grades. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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sure you could. but throwing away $30k a year for the next 13 years makes me stop and think, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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education isn't "throwing away" $. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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the only education that is worth that much money would be college. Maybe high school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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throwing away? I don't think educations is throwing away..unless you pay for your dc college and they don't go to classes. That's throwing away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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in most cases, yes, but you don't know everyone's circumstances. they could be paying off student loans while taking care of elderly parents or a sick dc, or dealing with some other catastrophic life event. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:09 AM Flag
[ - ] is it normal for the seller to pay transfer taxes? our building is selling common space to one of the residents for private use but the resident is insisting that the building should pay all transfer taxes. so far we have held firm that the buyer should pay because that has always been our experience when purchasing. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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I've heard that sleazy sponsors do this sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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op: we have only bought in sponsor sales before. but i thought it was the same regardless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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are you on the board? honestly, board members like you drive me crazy. common knowledge that buyer pays transfer taxes except in sponsor sales. just ONE example from numerous real estate websites, or better yet, ask your attorney! http://www.prudentialelliman.com/MainSite/Guide/NYCClosingCosts.aspx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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we have told the attorney and building manager that this is why we don't want to pay transfer taxes. they never said it was unusual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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buyers pay transfer taxes, but transfer FEES (flip taxes) can be paid by either according to the proprietary lease... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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where do you get that from? because all of the major real estate companies in nyc state otherwise on their website. of course, practically any custom can be modified by contract. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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I think you are confusing two things. A transfer fee is paid to the gov't, a flip tax is paid back to the building and is determined by the proprietary lease for a coop. Don't know anything about condos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Please recommend a good hand pump (that I could use for a day of travelling) or would you bring a Medela pump in style (with the battery)? Also, EBF, how long would I have to pump for (if I did so every 2-3 hrs)? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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I posted below, I liked the Avent one, it's around $50. If your PIS has a battery and is easy to carry, i guess I would use that. You would only have to pump every 3 hours or so I would think, for a 5mo old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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op: how long would I have to pump? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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If you are Mom of the 5mo why would you pump 2-3 hourly. Isn't your dc nursing 4hourly. Sorry no advice on pumps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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op: dd eats about every 2-3 hours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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wow. poor you that is a lot of feeds. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:36 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone know a gym in east hampton or amagansett that I can join for august? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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east hampton gym, east hampton rec center [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Phil & Teds Sport or Vibe? Why? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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Search this. It's been a popular topic recently. Btw - Vibe is better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:18 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you feel about having an au pair? I totally hate the idea of a live-in person, but boy is it cheap. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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I wouldn't consider it. I like privacy and I wouldn't have another woman living in my home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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agree. a friend has an au pair from Sweden, and she looks like every man's fantasy. Plus, she is super nice and great with the kids. grr. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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NP: wow you have little faith in your dhs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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it is more bc my utter lack of self-confidence than a lck of confidence in him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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Now that is silly! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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I trust my dh but I would not deliberately put temptation in his way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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np: Scandinavian au-pairs are great, but they do tend to be hot, so not for the insecure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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cheap? You have to pay an au pair an allowance. You have to provide food and shelter. You have to make the au pair part of your life. It's really not cheap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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The most expensive part (in NYC anyway) is that she needs to have her own bedroom, ideally separate living quarters actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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isn't that a requirement? or is it allowed to let the au pair sleep in the kids' room? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Manhattan Real estate question: Huge 1300 sq ft 1 bedroom loft co-op one block north of Union Square, 13 ft ceilings, great closets, tons of light, open kitchen, in good condition, but not brand new, excellent buidling -- WHAT'S IT WORTH? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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that is huge [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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building amenities? what floor? common charges? outdoor space (private, public)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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...guess you're not really interested in an answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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OP: 4th flr on side street with trees, maintenance is low ($1K), recently renovated roof deck with mini-playground, etc. Private keyed elevator => thoughts? estimates? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Any recs for a UWS gym that will let me join for 3 months? want to join while on maternity leave only. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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you can sign up at the NYSC w/o an annual contract, but it's more expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know what the separation policy is for K at Ps 87 or ps 199? We're considering both areas and my DD separates pretty well as long as she is eased into the transition. Do they just make you leave them right away? TIA 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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you would base your choice on the new days at the beginning of K that your dd might have separation issues??? How about making you choice based upon the quality of the school since that will be the key issue for six years of your dd's eduction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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no, that's not how i'm basing my decision, i'm just curious about how they separate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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are you 87 or 199 parent? pretty nasty! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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np- I agree. I would be more concerned about the overcrowding issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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i happen to ask one question and you think that this is my only factor when making a decision? why do people on this board jump to conclusions rather than answer the question if you know the answer and if you don't know the answer ignore the post! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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if you have not moved, I would be more concerned that 199 will loose all its extra classrooms next year. Th year after it will have not choice but to use the gym or raise class size. I find it hard to believe that you would even consider initial separation against long term problems [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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i didn't know publics have a separation week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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i don't think they do, but some want yu to drop the kid in the yard or cafeteria, some let you go to the classroom, some let you go into the classroom, etc. not uniform. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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How about just stay away -- what kind of entitlement crap is that???? GO to private school -sounds like that's what you're looking for for your special child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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I don't know what the separation policies are, but I read on UB that 87 offers a "camp" for incoming K DC the week before school starts. I've never heard of any other school do this. I would ask current parents or the parent coordinator about this, but if you're worried about transition this seems like a great opportunity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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PS87 eases into it. They offer a week of kindercamp, if you want, right before school begins. Then the first week of real school is 1 hour, then 2 hours, then 3 hours, then another 3 hours. They don't start full days until the second week. Parents bring the kids to the classroom for the first few months, and can stay until dc is comfortable--up to a half hour if needed. Teachers offer assistance with the separation process if you want it. They handle it very well and really work with you. Ignore the PITAs who are criticizing you, it's a legitimate question and I was happy that 87 dealt with it so well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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NP: I'm impressed. My DC went to K at a good gen'l ed on UES, and have DF w/DC at most of the UES gen'l eds and LL, and none of them ease into K like this. Ours had two short days w/half the class, then right into the full day by the 3rd day. Sounds like you can't do better than 87 if you want a gentle transition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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At 199, parents can stay for about an hour on the first day, but after that you drop off your kids in the yard and leave them with the teacher. Parents don't go into the classroom unless invited for specific events. The first two days of school are half-days for K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.08, 12:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Need travelling with baby advice: I have a bridal shower that I need to attend in Boston. I am travelling on Amtrak from Newark to Boston. I am breastfeeding my 5 mo. DH wants me to leave dd, but how would I pump on a train and then at the bridal shower (its at someone's home). Then I would need to take the subway (red line) to the bridal shower, safe, thoughts? Need any advice. Thanks so much! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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I had an avent handpump I used when I traveled, I found it easier. Then you could pump in the train bathroom and at the house. You'd have to carry a cold pack;and freeze what you had pumped when you arrived [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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op: will a hand pump do the job or should I bring my Medela PIS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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the electric one will be faster, but I'm not sure there'd be anywhere to use it on the train. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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I'm confused--are you bringng the baby or not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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op: I'm torn on bringing baby or not. I would think it would be easiest, in terms of breastfeeding. But what would i have to do if I did not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Weaning my 1 yo from bm and formula to cow's milk. Any problems I should look out for? TIA. 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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why cow's milk? it's so bad for kids!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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Then what should I give him? Not doing juice. I think it's crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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water? rice milk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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I am doing water. Rice milk is nutritionally void garbage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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water is best. that's all my kids drink. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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I don't understand, how do they get the calcium vitamin D, and fat that they need? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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calcium from green veggies and soy yogurt, vitamin d from the sun, don't worry they eat plenty of fat: olive oil, nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Oh no, are you vegan? Yikes. Give 'em some butter for crying out loud. People have been eating it for a long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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no, not vegan. my kids eat eggs. and actually, sometimes they eat butter when they ask for it. but it's pretty rare. people actually haven't been eating dairy in the quantities americans now eat it for a very long time. do some research. http://www.ezhealthydiet.com/casein-protein.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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they eat lot's of dairy in some cultures. India for example does [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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not as much as we do LOL. And their rate of casein-linked cancers is on the rise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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meh. Everything causes cancer. I'll keep drinking my 2% and eating yogurt and cheese etc. Yum! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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me too - I actually drink full fat milk as does dd. We are very thin and need the extra fat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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np. Don't you give them any dairy or just not milk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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a little butter, sometimes yogurt but rare. no milk! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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ita, cow's milk no good IMO. unfortunately, i came to this conclusion after i had already given it to my 1st DC. 2nd DC will not be introduced to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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On what do you base your opinion? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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the other poster suggested reading The China Study. It's great, I think you can get it on amazon or maybe the library. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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np. Cow's milk is fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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for calves, yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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ITA. Read the China Study by Colin Campbell. Eye-opening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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yeah - one person's opinion will make me change my entire dietary philsophy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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there is nothing wrong with cow's milk! sheeesh. we recently switched, just mixed it in gradually with the formula for a couple of days and it was not problem. only thing to keep in mind is that cows milk does not have the same anti-bacterial properties as breast milk so it can't be left at room temperature for as long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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come on, cow's milk is for COWS. too high in protein for kids, casein linked to cancer, and hard to digest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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link on the casein please? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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http://www.ezhealthydiet.com/casein-protein.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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i agree with first sentence. also find it weird for humans to drink the milk of another cow while in adulthood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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why is that any weirder than eating chicken embryos or killing a pig and eating it's body? We eat things that taste good and are good for us. It's all weird if you really think about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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that's the first time i've heard someone say with a straight face that eating pigs is good for you. i mean, come on, everyone knows eating vegetarian is healthier. Whether you want to actually implement changes in your own life and those of your kids is another matter. Do the research and come to your own conclusiosn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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LOL! Pork has protein. We need protein. We also need some fat (granted, americans get too much of both) Everything is good in moderation. "everyone" does not "know" that vegetarianism is healthier. Eating a varied diet is the healthiest thing. And I have done my research and come to my own conclusions thank you very much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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that's not weird because animals routinely do such things to survive--eating the young of another or eating other mammals. drinking another's milk, not so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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they probably would if they could figure out how to do it though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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would be the same as nursing from own mother. the only time it happens is when a mammal is clearly adopted by a mother as her own. from a inter-species standpoint, this is quite rare. fact is, they don't do it on the regular b/c it's not natural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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cow's milk is so bad for you. you've been duped by the Milk: does a body good campaign. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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it's not bad for you. Anything in excess is bad, but milk products are a great way to get some vitamins that we need. You people crack me up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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So you read the China Study--what research exactly have you done that contradicts his findings? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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no. I haven;t read it. I probably will not. I don't base my family's nutrition on any one study. I believe in eating a varied diet that includes everything - even fat and sugar sometimes. Variation and moderation are the keys IMHO to a healthy diet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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ita. a little cocaine here in there is alright. just not everyday. ditto re weed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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are you seriously comparing milk to drugs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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Start goat's milk early, the cell size is relative to human milk and is well tolerated and full of important nutrients. It's way to young to use rice milk as a milk substitute. Adults don't need milk-babies do; One yo is a baby, so talk to ped nutritionist-don't take my advice, decent as it is, or any other on such an important issue, from UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:49 AM Flag
[ - ] make me feel better: share your worst mommy moment. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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in a big fight with DH yelling that I wished we'd never had kids - and dd (age 3) heard me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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that's rough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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let my infant dd roll of the bed twice (!) the same day ( she's fine. )I've lost my temper with my 5yo more than I owuld like lately [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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what happend with your 5 year old--just shouting? that's not that bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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it feels bad. she really knows how to push my buttons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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oh please, we must have the same kid. Mine just gets really defensive and blaming of others. drives me crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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clearly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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huh? i wasn't the OP. what's your problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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I guess the thread, I'll step off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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shouted at my 6 year old. literally jumping up and down in the bathroom while i shouted, screaming, bug-eyed. then smacked him on the butt and put him in his room while I raged. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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spanked my kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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no way- why dwell on the worst? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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those who don't study history are doomed to repeat it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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So you are saying this happens often with you? You should study your own history- more effective than comparing yourself to other people's bad moments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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nah, doesn't happen that often. But if you don't learn from your own actions, then you will just repeat them. Sounds like it's happened to you, miss defensivo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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Sure- I pay attention to my mistakes. But, frankly, reading about the sick/mean things that other people have done in a fit of frustration doesn't feel good to me. For you, though, you are saying this makes you feel better, which I don't get. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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it helps to know one is not alone in getting upset with one's kids, yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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How often do you get upset? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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once a week? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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I think it is important to know you are not alone and to not immobalize yourself with shame. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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but still, seek help & seek to change [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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a lot of yelling. also, i told dd once, when she was 2 1/2 that if she didn't stop whining while i combed her hair i was going to take scissors and cut it all off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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yelling or screaming? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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mostly yelling altho a couple of times i'd call it screaming. :-( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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ugh, i've done that. feels terrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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Did your folks yell at you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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yes, not too much though. i was disrespected as a child tho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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I hope you can break the cycle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:35 AM Flag
[ - ] JP Morgan or Lehman better to work at? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.14.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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if you can get a job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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ita - layoffs more likely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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just don't get into editing. You're sentence structure is abysmal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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it's a bulletin board, grumpy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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right back atcha. likewise re your spelling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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People ar Lehman are worried about the future of the firm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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I work there and won't lie to you, it's scary these days. That said, it is truly a terrific place to work. It will be sad if we don't make it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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why truly terrific [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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Why is it truly terrific? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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seriously? Lehaman is on it's way down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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JP Morgan is more stable right now financially. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:00 AM Flag
[ - ] watching Amy Winehouse self-destruct has really disturbed me. Surprising since I usually don't pay celeb stuff any mind, but she has really made me sad. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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Why just another spoiled brat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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np that's cold. She is someone's daughter and has a lot of talent. Watching her throw her life away is sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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what can you actually do about it, though? what is the benefit to you in having it bring you sadness? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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well obviously I can't do anything about it. Neither can her parents and friends. It makes me sad to think of anyone wasting their life that way and she kind of represents all people who are addicted to something I guess. It's ok to feel sad sometimes about sad things. Not like it's wrecking my life but I feel for her family and friends and her too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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it happens all the time. You could always say a prayer instead of worrying- it's a positive thing to do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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yet equally ineffective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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I disagree- prayer works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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obviously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Check it out- there have been scientific studies. Even the Dalai Lama's mind/life work with western scientists- when monks meditate, it changes the brain patterns. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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true. I pray for people in trouble kind of generally. Never thought much about praying specifically for someone like her. Maybe I should [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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not my daughter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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I agree with OP that feeling compassionate is good. Sometimes I do that exercise with people that are irritating me- imagine them as someone's baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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you really think she has talent? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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LOL! She has a fantastic voice. Whether you like her music or not is a different story. The woman can sing though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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not that sad- it's her choice. same old heroin story, story of addiction [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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it's still sad. Yes, she did it to herself, but it is a waste of a human life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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ITA. and it sounds like she was a mess before she became famous. having money and fame has just accelerated the process [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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probably so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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well, who knows, maybe she'll pull out of it- some junkies can [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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yep. I hope so. SHe is talented and I would selfishly like some more albums from her! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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write her a letter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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ita re the posters who have little sympathy for her. for some reason, her story doesn't resonate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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Her parents public statements make me sad. They obviously want the best for her and see it all going bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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ita- I feel more sadness for the parents. As a parent, I would never want to go through this. Can you imagine? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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np I can sort of. My younger brother almost died from alcohomism a few years ago. Luckily, he got it together and now has been sober for over 4 years. As hard as it was to watch that, I thik it would be even harder to watch your own kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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I caught a few minutes of a documentary on meth addiction. They showed one guy, who had come clean, but he was recounting his story with his parents & his dad had his head down in his hands the whole time- broke my heart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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i don't see why they don't get guardianship and conservatorship. they'd have a great case (at least by US standards). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:23 AM Flag
[ - ] looking to buy an apt. and wondering which public schools are considered to be really good on the east side. tia. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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PS 6. 158 is okay. 290 is overcrowded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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if you want progressive, 290, if you want traditional 158 or 6. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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I do not think PS 6 is traditional [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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PS116 on 32nd bet 2nd and 3rd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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How is the community/neighborhood? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.27.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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PS 59 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.27.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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