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[ - ] We want to move closer to my family. We have a small house we bought at the height of the market. My parents want us to take over their house for a small payment. Should we rent our house out or brave the market. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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rent if you can. but where is the house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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near princeton, NJ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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I am a Realtor and you can rent if you don't need the cash but don't try to time the market for profit...it just doesn't work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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no we are just hopeing to pay the morgage if that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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So list it for 45 days and at Day 30 start looking for renters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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can you find renters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I am sooo jealous! Go for it. My parents live in a huge house that is ridiculous for them but they won't give it to us (which of course they are under no obligation to do) in exchange for a smaller house we would buy for them. All their savings is tied up in this house. Waaaaah! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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My mother lives in a huge 2 br in Greenwich Village - would love it if she did this but not expecting that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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the house needs updating but it has an apartment on it so my parents may move there or a smaller house. I hope my dh knows what he is getting into moving closer to my mom and sisters :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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Before you do anything, consult a tax attorney. If you don't do this absolutely perfectly, your parents will owe a fortune. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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how so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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The difference between what your parents take as a "small payment" and the market value of the home is a gift. Your parents (two people) can give you and DH (two people) $48,000 a year tax free. Anything above that, they have to pay the gift tax. So take the market value, less the payment, less $48,000 and that is the tax basis. Assume a 45% tax rate. But it can get more complicated from there. This used to be a popular form of gift/estate tax evasion. The IRS knows all about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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not or, but it will also get hit with more capital gains tax when they sell unless they move back in for a couple year (I don't know the exact figures), b/c it will no longer be a primary residence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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no that is no longer true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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really? So if I sell my rental house, there's no capital gains? I seriously doubt this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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Who is talking about rental property? This is her mothers home. There is a one-time capital gains exemption for the sale of your primary residence (occupied for 2+ years). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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if she's renting it out, then it becomes a rental property. I didn't get the sense that the parents were staying in it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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What is we just rent to own? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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OR: Assuming it is an arms length transaction, you (and they) are fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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That's what I think we will do. Once the market improves we will sell are Princeton Property and be able to give a good down payment and buy the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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But what would you be paying for the house? The market price? Or a preferred price? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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It would depend, I have 4 sisters so I think we would pay market price and draw up a private mortgage so it would be fair. It will be great not to have to pay all those fees and s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Private mortgages can be a great tool. Just be aware (hope I am not freaking you out) that the IRS will expect your parents to declare the interest as income. If they don't think the interest is high enough, they will apply a higher interest rate, count that as income, AND treat it as a gift to you. So your parents pay taxes on money they didn't give or receive. Nice, huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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damn government [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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This is why lawyers have job security. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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What can be done though, is the house can be placed in trust and gifted to you in shares small enough that no gift taxes are required. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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my dad is really good with this stuff. I think he has a plan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Unless he is a tax attorney, he should consult one. Your dad may know a lot about tax code, but unless he is certain that he is absolutely current on all relevant sections of the code and all PLL, he should get a consultation. GL! Sounds like a wonderful deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] am lifetime with ww, and 4 lbs under goal weight. i weighed in yesterday and have been eating what i want since. it is so hard to get back on track with i know i don't have to weigh in until next month. i have to stop this and start eating better. it is so hard. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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amen sister - I ate a bag of potato chips and a can of pringles last night for dinner and went into a massive shame spiral (was also very thirsty) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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i walked out of a Diet center years ago after hitting my goal and then ate an afternoon's worth of chocolate chip cookies slathered with peanut buuter with tall glasses of whole milk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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the difference is that I am 10 lbs away from preferred weight - in my defense I WOHM and have an 8 mo dd who I am still nursing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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i had no excuse except for food deprivation induced insanity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I hit my goal weight on Saturday AM, was thrilled, bought white jeans as a "reward" (I had promised them to myself)...and have eaten like a pig ever since. I want to wear the jeans on Thursday, so I'm hoping that I stop it before then! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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congrats on hitting your goal weight. i remember rewarding myself after that but it was with food, not clothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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Thanks! :) I am worried that I'm going to reward myelf with food -- but the enormous serving of burger and fries that I ate on Sat. PM gave me a horrible bellyache, so maybe I have learned to eat better. We'll see! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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op: thank you both. i have had malt chocolate chip cookies, they are new keebler ones and so delicious. i had frozen yogurt last night and tonight. my meals have been good, but snaking. need to start with the baby carrots again. thank god i exercise. also had some m&m's today. i need to stop this! need to go back to tracking points, that really helped me lose the weight. but maybe one more day. i can't think that way. i am going out to dinner thursday, probably for sushi and know i will have a drink. going out with a girlfriend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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OR: my husband told me last night that you need to be out of your routine (ie on vacation) on order to change ingrained habits. FWIW, I was amazingly disciplined after a detox hiking trip in Brazil two years ago - didn't touch sweets or crappy food. It was actually amazing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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^^oh, and throw out all the crap in your house [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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funny i tend to be the opposite. when on vacation i eat whatever i want, bagels, cupcakes (love crumbs!!) etc. when home i am much stricter. i don't cut out all things but when i have things like chocolate it is a small amount. but i have to get better, it is harder to be really disciplined in only the week before i weigh in. need to stay good the whole month, only 1-2 days to be bad then back on track. so tomorrow is back to the grind. boo hoo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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np. (and not a ww) I'd suggest not buying M&Ms etc so that you can go out with your friend and enjoy your meal/drink without feeling guilty. If you are happy to treat yourself occasionally you won't feel like you are denying yourself so much the rest of the time. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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op: i can buy the candy and leave it in my house and not touch it. same with having it in my bag, not eat it for days, then one day i open the bag and eat some of it, i had not even 1/2 a bag today. but it is the eating of a few small snacks, some m&m's, 2-3 cookies, cherries (sugar content), fro yo. need to put the carrots back in my bag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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Yup. Don't buy it and then it won't be there when you fancy a nibble - GL. My other suggestion is to start buying good quality dark chocolate. It's hard to eat too much of it and once you are used to it you won't like the taste of M&Ms any more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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op: had been doing that. the m&m's are the mint ones, they are new and don't think they will be around a long time. i just have to stop. i cut it all out when had weekly weigh ins, so i know i can do it, just need to keep the motivation up. i will bet back on track. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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Get your dh or a friend to weigh you each week - that would work for me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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White jeans poster: you can do it! GL to us both! I'm super busy tomorrow, which means that I'll eat better during the day (b/c I literally won't have time to stuff my face!). I also like to snack -- but you're right, it needs to be carrots most of the time, not cookies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Younger sister has low iron, low white blood cell count and bruising. Is this common or should I be worried? She's going to the dr. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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No idea if this is common or not but try not to worry until you know what you are dealing with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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isnt the bruising related to the low iron? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] people on here really can't tolerate that some people hire help 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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No, we find your tortured phrasing to be silly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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no one says domestic help - unless you are trying to differentiate it from your international help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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what would you call people who work for you in your home (landscaper, nanny, cleaner, etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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landscaper, nanny, cleaner, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I think the hired help is on here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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No it's just calling them 'help' that people don't like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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what would you call them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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Spoken like someone who grew up with no money! No one talks like Krystal on Dynasty irl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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I'm a nanny, I have no problem with people hiring help...I do have a problem with people hiring replacements...such as parent replacements. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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no idea what thread you're referring to, but... I don't judge housecleaners but I think people who hire baby nurses are LAME beyond belief [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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because? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Almost a year ago this week DH adn I made our list of privates and started on the application process. A year later dc is shut out and headed to public school. I have nothing but anger and bitterness about the whole process and hope all the schools go to hell and have to start closing their doors. 93 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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You are not alone! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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The process sucks, it was not the schools there were very tough odds this year and many great dc got shutout. I hope that you and dc are happy at the public he or she is going to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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she won't be. she is rightfully bitter, and I too hope that these schools go down the tubes when the economy tanks. its not just that they are insufficient for the number of kids applying. that is life. but the way they have set up the system to their advantage with FC letters, top 3 choices, back room deals with psd's, contributions and the like...I say, let them rot one day. they have used their power in an advantageous market to take advantage of the public, and I believe they should be sued for anti trust matters. so if OP is bitter, she has a right to be. the schools have really over stepped the line, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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ITA!!!!! Thank you for articulating this so well. OP's post really hit home for me too. There are many of us out there who feel absolutely abused and belittled and it is not something you can just "get over" b/c the process is designed to hit you personally and it involves your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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wow, makes me extra-glad we didn't even consider this route. So obscene to spend that kind of $$$ on a 5 year old's education - more than the average salary nationwide so that a child can do puzzles and have recess and learn introductory phonics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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yes and no. The real issue is that if you did want that for your child and had the means, you were still put through the meat-grinder by many of these schools and it all just really sucked [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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np: I agree. For us, the worst was all the complete self degradation that came with calling all the w/l schools, being encouraged to call daily, hand deliver self debasing letters promising your soul if only they would take you out of the w/l pile. who would put up with this in other areas of life? maybe someone who had to debase herself to feed her family. at any rate, all the begging eventually got us a spot. we later turned it down for a citywide. just felt so abused by the school at that point, and no longer grateful to have a place to send my 5 yo. it was disgusting. the whole game is repugnant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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i know! I sat at work working waitlists and made myself sick. I am not one to grovel but there I was having to suck up to bitches on a power trip and for nothing I might add [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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Ah! Who is this I wonder who is suddenly attacking the sad moms? Is it an admissions person or someone who took advantage of the backromo dealings and has a child at a school based on $? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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None of the above, and you know it. You just cannot stand the fact that the number of dcs who are given a spot far outweighs those who do not. If only admissions people or connecteds got their dc in there would be many empty slots. Now go have a drink [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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I am np above. we did get a spot. I was happy at first, but have to say, I never felt great about the school, even though it had been high on our list throughout the process. I think they did require that we grovel and show that our every molecule wanted a spot. that was unnecessary and demeaning. I actually felt traumatized by it. later, when we had a way out, I took it gladly. just could never have felt right about the school. btw, its not all ego. these people could have been nice, told me that they would call me if our luck changed. Instead, I had to call them every 2 days, hand deliver a fc letter, email, etc. oh, and psd had to call as well. it was ridiculous. how much do they need to hear we love them? I felt the psds in these instances are disingenuous and cruel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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Sorry but you sound so high maintenance that you won't be happy anywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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oh, god. another nest parent who thinks she's better than everyone, including every private school doa in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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why do you keep posting this. the real issue is the back room deals made with families and their kids that are meant to put schools in a better financial situation and stack the decks in their favor. it is wrong, and has nothing to do with nest or any other public school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Wow, NP here, you are seriously paranoid aren't you. Back room deals! Laughable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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If you are laughing it's only because you are so innocent you don't know what's going on. Truly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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no. psd told me about it. I believe her. it is part of how we got off the w/l. she offered me different deals for different schools, btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Because your dc was marketable. OPs for whatever reason was not. Life isn't fair what can I tell you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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its not about fair. I would have no beef with a process that just picked kids that were more marketable. its the holding families hostage for contributions, allowing psds to reveal things about your financial contributions, your intent vis a vis the schools and other such things that I object to. it is unfair business practice that may well be illegal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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We're nobodies who got our kid into fc. Kid had great playdate and school report. And 99x3 erbs didn't hurt. Nothing beyond that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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You may be nobodies, but you know how to play the game. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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Nest basher strikes again...Where did anyone mention Nest? You seriously need to check yourself. Now you are imagining that people are writing about Nest when they aren't. Its too bad that your kid didn't get but you need to move on and let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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np: It is Celenia I tell you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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np. anyone who writes citywide is a NEST parent. the anderson parents say anderson. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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Your sure about this? Via what means did you come up with this concluesion? Have you done a survey and then crunched out some metrics on this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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You sound insane. We worked the WLs, got a great spot at one of our top choices, paid the deposit and never looked back. We are thrilled. Do you have a job? If so, how do you get through every day when you take everything so personally? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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Lady, were you here for the white flight of the 70s or the crash in the 80s? keep dreamin' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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look, I doubt all the nyc schools will have trouble of the magnitude being wished for here, but they should be held up to scrutiny and possibly be evaluated for anti trust issues. I think that is why they were publicly decrying fc letters. meanwhile there was still the backroom horse trade. these schools need to be stopped from these repugnant practices that stack the deck in their favor, and take advantage of people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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the are PRIVATE schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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You have posted about 4 times on here and it is so clear you are a flunky of a private school. Go away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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You are very disturbed. Be a better person for your child and good luck to you, its only school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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If you get a boil on your butt, I will be happy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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Picking things up is important. I do it all day long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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they are private schools, but they get lots of not for profit tax benefits. they operate like an oligopoly, and they rig the system and take advantage of people to squeeze out $$/donations, etc. there is a rigged system between psds and doas that benefit the schools financially, and IMO this is illegal, not to mention unethical. some smart lawyers are catching on, and I would love to sign onto any class action suit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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Me too!!!!! I hope lawyers do end up doing something about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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People have been saying this for decades. The reason they don't admit to giving the dcs on site IQ tests, which they still do, was because of a lawsuit in the 70s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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So you are optimistic that lawyers might actually accomplish something?!?!? I hope so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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They won't do you know how many crazed manic shut outs have lodged suits? Sorry, but no. FWIW they didn't win their suit, again, private school make their own rules, but they just began to deny they were doing it to stop the crazies from calling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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how do you know this with certainty? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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Because I lived through it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I think the lawsuit should be based on antitrust law violations. when you f&ck with uncle sam, its a different story. btw, there are not many lawsuits of shutouts on the books. you are making this up to support your point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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I'm the poster who asked about certainty of information, and I think you're right. There aren't too many lawsuits. I think the naysayer might be an admissions director afraid of having herself and her school exposed!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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ITTA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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ITA -- so true -- and things will change, but maybe not fast enough for us. There's a lot of bad karma everywhere in NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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You are not the first to feel this way, you will not be the last and the doors will never close. Sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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actually.... you must not have been around in the early 1990's then b/c doors DID close. It will happen again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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yep. no people feel lucky to get a spot at the worst schools in town. when will people wake up and realize the racket this has become in this market? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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LOLOL read above, I don't remember any of the good schools being closed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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I have no idea who started parsing "good and bad" schools but that is not what is being discussed here. it is the whole process at issue. The whole ISAAGNY kabal and the other schools following that lead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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of course good schools didn't close, but so so schools did. right now, people will sign up for anything that opens. those schools may make it, but when the cycle takes its course, as it always has, lesser schools will lose students, and become only able to recruit the kids counseled out (or close), and good schools will take a broad range like they always have. also, contributions/endowments/capital projects and the like will slow down. part of why these schools are storing up $$$ now. they understand that the schools, like the economy, have cycles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Not so so schools, the very bottom that were struggling to begin with, not even BW closed they merged but they were the bottom of the lower tiers at that time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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needing to merge is not exactly a sign of a financially healthy school. like I said, there are cycles. everyone in the school business knows this. so everytime someone pulls up an article discussing how this was difficult in another decade, I just smile. its newsworthy at that moment because the wave is at its peak, rather than trough. what goes up comes back down, and then goes up again. always has, always will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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You do realize don't you that you have just contradicted what I am very sure you say all the time. That is was ' so easy' back when it was the legacy moms turn don't you? Get your story straight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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have no idea what you are talking about. I believe the school admissions game goes in waves, just like the economy. this has been confirmed by other doas and history. I have never commented on legacy moms. perhaps you are confusing me with someone else. it has been easier at times, and harder at times. right now it is harder. there have een other hard times in history. what's your point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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And you are entitled to your dc getting into one of these great schools because? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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You need to relax, Why are you so competitive. Do you realize how sick you sound? You want to bash us for belonging to a club you beat yourself to death to become a part of? Get real. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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You have some sorry logic and I am not even the poster you have been fighting with. She is attacking the admissions process. I happen to agree with her too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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NP: I also agree. The sad part is that the admissions process seems to have given you an inflated sense of self worth. Wake up and smell the coffee. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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Gee, I didn't post the original but why don't look at logic for a moment. This entire thread is about bashing the entire private school system and bashing the people associated with it because you didn't get in hard as you tried. What on earth would YOU call it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Well, I definitely wouldn't call it an inflated sense of self worth. Again, just b/c you were lucky enough to get in, don't think for a moment that the system isn't completely broken. IT IS. A bunch of loser doas who aren't nearly as educated or accomplished as the parent body applying are taking out their revenge and feelings of mediocrity on people who have actually done worthwhile things with their lives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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b/c my child had a great score, is a charming and sweet kid, we can pay for it and we were led on. How aboutyou go put salt somewhere else [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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Obviously all of that is not true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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actually. It really is true. ended up shut out. It happens [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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ITA. Wonder what a "great" score is. And EVERYONE thinks their own kid is "charming and sweet". Rose colored glasses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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sorry it was so tough for you, but maybe you overidentified to your dc's results if you feel this strongly about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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and your child attends? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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a tt private. if my dc's had been shut out though, would have sent to our local public though. doesn't affect my ego-happy with results though since I think dcs are in the best place for them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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well, obviously the posters upset here do not think their dcs are at the best places for them. so have sume f&cking compassion and normal humanity. they are upset for obvious reasons. no need for you to lecture them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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No they and you are not upset for normal reasons. It is people like you that schools see a mile away and avoid. It is you they are trying to avoid, people so tied to what their dcs do or do not do or achieve at four years old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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Oh and you have somehow risen above all this ---righhhhhhhhhht! You probably prepped your kid for the ERBs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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Really, you can believe whatever it is that lets you sleep better. No need to fight you o this. I have nothing to prove to you. I suggested you help yourself out and realize you need to get a grip but if you want to continue to spit venom, please help yourself. I am logging off. Enjoy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Good. Get off this post and go bury yourself in your jubilation until it's time to apply for colleges. Let's see who will be laughing then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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I can't believe you are still sore over the SO. A year later! Get a grip, woman. Public is not like jail for god's sake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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I know how you feel. we had a similar experience. we are going to one of the "new" schools. our zoned school was just not acceptable and g&t did not pan out either. try again in a couple of years. public is fine at least through second grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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NP: All of these responses make me sad. We got into our fc (and accepted), and, you know what? After going to orientation, talking to more parents, learning more, etc had some pretty massive buyers remorse. No school is as fantastic as the private schools have to market themselves as being (to justify their price tag/cachet). They're just not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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This is so true. They're all better when you're outside looking in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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The problem here is with you, your attitude, outlook in life and what you think is important. You are way too competitive mommy. Chill OUT you are making a fool of yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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how about instead focus on becoming involved in the public school and making it be a great school for your dc. being bitter can help NOBODY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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You obviously have never dealt with the DOE in NYC. Keep this advice for yourself in your fairy tale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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np: I have a dc in public school and have been involved since he started. And while nothing earth-shattering happened I believe dc's school experience has been good because of my involvement. With your attitude odds are it will be bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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I also have a dc in public school and have been an involved parent. But our experience has not been pleasant. We have encountered a lot of bureaucratic idiocy, etc. Don't lecture me before you even know the situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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And we have encountered none, our dc's teachers have been excellent and our dealings with the administration fine and extremely limited. Maybe our expectations are just different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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I agree with OP that the process is terrible. Although we got a couple of spots, I knew that my dc would never get into our fc because of the way the game is played these days -- I would have had to not apply to the schools where we were in the community to appear credible. That system really does suck -- but I'm at a loss to figure out how it could be changed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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What do you mean "schools where we were in the community" While I think the process sucks, mainly because of numbers, and there certainly are some schools that do backdoor dealing, it is not the majority. There just needs to be more school choice in this city. We applied to both public & private this year and found both processes imperfect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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Lifestyles of the entitled... In NYC everyone feels they are due what they want because they can afford it... I really must stop reading UB because although the public moms are all clawing for the holy grail of "the best" even though it may not be the right match for their child; the private school wannabes are more revolting and selfish than anything that Hollywood could depict. Their contempt for anyone and anyt institution that gets in the way of what they want is translating into the next generation of vile little humans that make Trump look like Gandhi. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:22 AM Flag
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As the mom of a shut out 2 yrs ago, I know exactly how you feel. I knew going in what we were up against (late spring b-day, 97 erb but bombed coding)...dc got into a G&T and we are very happy but I am still bitter about the way we were treated in the application process for private schools. I have two friends whose dcs got multiple acceptances with no communication regarding FC to any of the schools they got into. The process stinks and it is rigged, no doubt about that...those who managed to get a spot they are happy with will always think us 'shutouts' are just crazy bitter people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:43 AM Flag
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Crazy, pita parents often find their kids shut out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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I understand the process is brutal, as I did it myself, but had a great outcome fortunately. However, I feel no matter what the issue, anyone who expresses such venom toward a process, person, or situation in life will never be truly happy. Move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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why is it so unacceptable for OP to feel the way she does? I liken it to having a bad shopping experience at a store and refusing to go back (and telling friends about your experience as well). I'm sure she has "moved on" but certain things leave a permanent bitter taste in your mouth. I don't think her life is in turmoil because of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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not op but posted above....you really cannot understand her feelings as, like you said, you had a 'great' outcome. Most people I know who were shut out harbor resentment about the process and trust me, you would too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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Millburn. Scarsdale. Chappaqua. Jericho. Rye. Westport. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 10:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Thinking of buying an apt. that needs a gut renovation (moving some walls, new kitchen, wiring, baths, a/c, keep floor, but refinish them, skim coat all walls, etc.). In Manhattan, 2000 sq. ft 3 bedroom. For a mid to mid-high renovation what do you think it would cost? Anyone btdt? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Location? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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park ave in the low 90s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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Been there - 2000 sq ft, 3 br. Total renovation 4 years ago. $300K and we really scrimped. The end result looks high end, but I spent hours finding the cheapest sources for everything (i.e. tile that looks like Ann Sacks for less; online sources of Duravit). Realistically, without the hours I spent, it should have cost $400-500. Most architechts will tell you $200/square foot minimum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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How long did it take you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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About 9 months -- but only 5 or so were pure construction. Working with architecht, interviewing contractors, etc. also add time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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at least 120K, for mid level reno [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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I am not in NYC but that seems extremely low....a decent kitchen is 80k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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no way. way way way too low [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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I just finished one last year. 2100 square feet and it cost $620K. Not super high end but it was fairly nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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people above us got an estimate to do similar work for a 2300 sq ft loft...estimates were upwards of 600K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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West side, borderline gut -- added some walls, a lot of new electrical, new floors, mid to high end kitchen, pretty good materials. Around 300K for 1600 sf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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500k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] george steinbrenner looks like he had a stroke. he was brought out in a cart and was unable to stand up and throw out the first pitch. it is so sad. he was crying while they were bringing him out. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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i've heard Alzheimers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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op: i had not heard anything. dh is huge yankees fan and said there has been nothing said about his condition, just that he cannot run the team anymore. we live in florida, coming to ny to visit next month and taking 5yo dd/ds to a yankees game. dh is so happy with this, wants dcs to experience yankee stadium. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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there was a piece in SI. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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if i'm not mistaken, it was entitled "the madness of king george." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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they will have a WONDERFUL time - we leave right across the river and I cannot wait to take our 8 mo dd when she is old enough. Make sure you take the subway up - so much fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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we plan on taking the subway. dh and i are nyers and this will be something we are excited to share with dcs. they already have jeters tshirts and yankees hats thanks to grandpa. we know we won't last the whole game but it will be fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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It really will be the end of an era - so much development going on there. If you can, try to get to the Bronx Museum around the corner - great place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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we plan to do the same with 5 y/o ds. dh is a huge fan. have fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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was really sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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sorry, but the guy's a major tool. what goes around comes around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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he's a legend - even Yogi hugged him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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used to be our next door neighbor in Tampa, and he was an asshole [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been to Sesame Place? Going with toddlers and would love any ideas about where to stay. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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It's kinda dirty and disgusting I live 10 miles away and have never been. There is a Sheraton right across from it I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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love this..you've never been and you know *all* about it? My sis lived about 1/2 mile away and held a season pass for years. It gets very crowded on weekends and afternoons (and as my sister would say, full of pushy, urban New Yorkers (!) ). Go as early.... as soon as the park opens....if you are staying overnight, use the morning to your advantage. The Sheraton is fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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just go early and make it a day tri[ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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i disagree about it being dirty. my DD has loved it there since she was 2 and we've gone a few times. i wouldn't stay there though; it's an easy day trip from NYC and I don't think you'd really want to do more than one day anyway. they are so worn out that the ride back is a breeze. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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I always wondered who went to Sesame Place I guess people from NYC huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] How many dh's help alot on the weekends? I mean dishes, cleaning, feeding the dcs ect... not just playing with the kids for a few minutes between naps. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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mine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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are a SAHM or WOTH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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WOHM and we talk all the time about being co-parents - he is extremely aware [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Not mine and that's for sure! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Mine does just as much (if not more) than I do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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my dh does what i tell him to do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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like a dog [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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In my dreams lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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My DH spends a lot of time wuth DC. He's a teacher and has always been comfortable with DC (including our own, thank goodness!). He's a terrible housekeeper, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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so yours would be a no to dishes, cleaning [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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He barely helps with the house -- but does help with DC (which, in turn, gives me time to deal with the house). He does some things -- he has been "trained" to put dishes in the DW, but would never even think to run it. He feeds DC (and bathes them every day -- I hate bath time!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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DH is very helpful on HIS terms and HIS way. He will cook, clean, organize - do just about anything providing it's his idea. If I ask for help in a specific area, it's sure to go undone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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my dh thinks if he cleans the house once it should stay clean forever. it's actually funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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is your house covered with protective plastic? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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he would LOVE that! He mopped the kitchen floor once and the next day ds spilled milk all over. He didn't yell but he was soo upset. I told this is why I get tired you have to do these things everyday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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np: I truly believe my kitchen floor has a mopping jinx. Every time I mop it, someone spills milk that night. Every single time - and they don't spill milk other times. Sometimes I'm tempted to throw some milk in the corner as soon as I'm done mopping to see if I can break the curse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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mine does. he cooks, does laundry, unloads dishes, whatever, and takes ds out for afternoons/mornings whatever so I can have some time. we do get in scuffles sometimes about who has more time alone, but never over household chores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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mine,not just limited to weekends either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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My dh is huge help on the weekends. I still get up in the morning with db and dh sleeps until 9:30 or 10:00, but is tremendously helpful after that. I am SAHM and he WOTH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there not one single D2 private school elementary parent on who can tell me how long the day usually runs? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.15.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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PS11 mom here....hours were 8:40 to 3 pm. Next year they will be 8:50 to 3:10 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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what's a d2 private school? does not compute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] why is my 18 yr relationship w/ my dh so easy to maintain and my relationships w/ domestic help so difficult? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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do you honestly want a reply to this ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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no it was a form of a statement. a jumping off point for discussion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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Makes for a fascinating discussion. "Why do I get along with my husband - someone I consider an equal and not an employee - and not with the people I hire and pay to do what I tell them ?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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correct [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Lets start off with your use of the term domestic help. It speaks volumes... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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what should i call sitters, nannies, painters, contractors, landscapers and cleaners? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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what you call them in private... "those people" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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a) i am a person of color - latina b) sitter - white, nanny - latina, painter - latino, contractor - white, landscaper - white, cleaner - latina [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Oh, well then you must not be elitist and walk with an entitled air ! My bad ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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no, maybe i am elitist, but i certainly don't call domestic helpers "those people" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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esa gente ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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cute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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ok, so what would you call them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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ah, you just did a fine job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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op: no one has said what to call them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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What do you think the problem is? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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multiple problems. nanny - doesn't feel that she can make all of the decisions regarding the child, cleaner - comes 1/2 of the time, painter - too many other jobs, contractor - too many other jobs - taking too long, sitter - has to leave early, come late, too much tv [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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Wow, I feel so lucky. The peopl working for us in those capacities are just lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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np. do you call them the help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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I've never thought about it. I call them by their names. When referring to them I would say assistant, housekeeper, babysitter, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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np. contractors/painters seem to be generally unreliable. I suggest building in a time schedule linked to payment next time you use them to make sure they concentrate on your job. Sit down and explain to nanny what you expect of her. Sack sitter and cleaner get someone better! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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now that was constructive! the contractor was great, but is soooo slow in eeeking out the 15% of the job left to do. the nanny knows all about the nap sched. and sleep philosophy, she just rolls her eyes and makes comments alllll the time about it. otherwise, she's amazing. i would never fire her. she's so sweet and concerned. cleaner has to go, but haven't gotten around to getting someone. i'm so busy at work and home. sitter is also great w/ dcs, but has a ton going on in her life too. i'm just saying it comes easy w/ my dh and sooo difficult w/ the aforementioned people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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people are so jealous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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positively pea green with envy ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Maybe you are a good spouse and a lousy boss [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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i am a lousy boss. i don't constantly call the contractor to make sure someone is coming (squeaky wheel gets the grease), I don't call out the cleaner when she doesn't show (i usually say, no prob, see you next week), I say fine to the sitter who has to leave early or come late, and i put my foot down when it comes to naps w/ my db w/ nanny - she hates that. dh has been in my life for 23 yrs and we've gotten it all worked out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] last night I had a dream where it was myself outside of my body next to me kind of in front of me - what does this mean? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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sosmeone has taken polyjuice potion and is screwing with you. [ Reply | More
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] while I'm on the hospital issue, it is now virtually impossible to distinguish a doctor from a nurse from an orderly from the person making floral deliveries (except they usually have flowers !) in a hospital. I'm not saying that nurses should wear that old white hatted outfir and doctors need a white coat and a stethescope, but jeez ! How do you know who's who anymore ? Everyon's in mauve or aqua scrubs ! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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It's so true. My dh is a surgeon, and for the reason you cite, it's a problem. A female co-surgeon of his was asked to change a bedpan recently. One clue: if they are not the plain blue/aqua scrubs, the person is probably not a dr. Docs don't wear pink, cartoons, mauve, etc. The doctors wear scrubs in surgery and ties or, for women, nice clothes, with a white coat in clinic still. But the nurses, compared to the old days, look like slobs, imho. Its like they wear their pajamas to work and never bother to run a brush through their hair. It's disgusting. In the old days, at least they looked sanitary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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To me it just seems sort of unsafe. In a crisis, who do you try to get ? And what's wrong with allowing patients and families to easily discern who does what job ? stupid... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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agreed. And according to dh and his co-workers, patients are always making assumptions (both ways) based on gender. [ Reply | More
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It must happen all the time. Were uniforms so upsetting ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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I don't know! DH is too young; not around for uniforms. But, I think the uniforms were good. And, b/c I'm such a girl in these ways, so much more aesthetically appealing than universal pj's! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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some people think nurse outfits are hot ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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My MIL made an interesting point that she always sees people eating lunch in restaurants in their scrubs. She said she thought the point was that the clothes are sanitary but if they're eating in them and then returning to work, how clean can they be? It made me laugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Private schools not requiring uniforms: do they have some rules anyway? I know Trinity clothes look like uniform in a way, but what about the others? HM or Dalton? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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All of them have uniforms until the upper grades [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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wrong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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all of them that matter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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Only the SS schools have uniforms except for trinity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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Which is the point, OP is asking about others, we are providing information about others [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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Many k-8s have uniforms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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Mandell has a uniform for the new K class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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all the ss girls schools do, collegiate, buckley st bs and davids have dress code. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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HM and Dalton have no uniforms. Just the pretentious labelled clothing the momies put their kids in. I am dead serious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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Dalton LS kids actually dress very casually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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I see a lot of polo players on their clothing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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With those polo players readily available at filene's basement for 15 bucks, not so pretentious these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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At Marshall's for $10. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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There you go. Where's the closest Marshall's? I need to stock up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] question is the correct abbreviation for Limited (as in business) LTD or Ltd. ? Thanks. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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the latter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Ltd. thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Which downtown school is considered better, Friends or UNIS? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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They are different except that both are full of shite when it comes to admissions time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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True! Friends is "meaningfully" full of it though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Yes. They both will do that. One thing I notoced that is the same is that there is no parent interview at UNIS and there may as well not be one at Friends since the admissions team there are a pack of dopey clowns who lose files and never read them when they have them anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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My oh my, sounds like someone didn't get into Friends this year . ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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like around 14th street and way far east [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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i think it's 3rd and 15/16th st [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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15th St. (between 2nd and 3rd Avenues) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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^^^ right--entrance on 16th St. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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old roommate went to UNIS and could barely walk and chew gum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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every kid I know at Friends has major tutoring. I think both schools are not as great as they think they are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Before anyone asks - yes I did post this before, but no one responded, so Im hoping to get some input tonight - just started back on the pill this month. Was on it for years before getting pg. Went off with no problem. Got pg, had ds, perios came back, was regular and normal. Went back to same pill, started a week ago sunday. still bleeding. Is it norma to have this? Any bdtd? Dr didnt have much to offer. For those whove seen it, sorry for posting again. TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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I'm guessing it's just your body getting used to the pill again but if you are concerned call Dr. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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op: ispoke to the nurse, but she gave me the whole business about making sure I take it at the same time every day and I may experience spotting for the 1st 3 months, but WTF? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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It sucks but I hope it settles down soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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op: thanks, me too. I think Im a little mad for going back on it, but I dont want an iud so wheredoes that really leave me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know what time pick up and drop off are at PS183 &/or PS59? I can;'t find this anywhere on the internet. Is the day 8:30-3:00 usually for public elementaries? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.15.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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PS 183: for K drop-off is at 8:30, pick-up at 2:40, both at the classroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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Thanks!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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You're welcome. There is some variety from school to school. DC had a great K year at 183. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] WOHM - I work with the most passive aggressive narcassistic guy (who outranks me) - what are your coping methods? I have to work closely with him and his emails are insane. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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avoid as best as possible and treat him like the "slow" neighbor child from next door - with patience and calm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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how do you stay calm when you want to shove his head, say, down the nearest toilet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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serenity now ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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put everything in writing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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that is wise advice imho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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