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[ - ] Re; The Housing crisis. What percentage of people in general "have" to move (relo, divorce, new baby) vs. "want" to move (and so will stay put because they dont want to take a loss). 57 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Very few people have to move. Relocations are optional (except for military) and you don't need a new house because you have a baby. Divorce can force the issue though; although you could argue that divorce is also optional (at least for one spouse). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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I'm not sure I agree. Lots of people end up moving b/c they've lost a job and find a new one in another city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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OR: But it's not a mandate. It's a choice to take a job in a new city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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if you loose a job and can't find one where you live, then it is a mandate. Those of us that don't live in huge cities need to move. If my husband lost his job, there would be no other openings in the city we live in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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There is not a single job in the entire NY metro area that you husband could get? I don't believe it. Unemployment is still under 6%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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np: at a certain career level there might be 3 of your positions in the nearest city. Thats not much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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So you get a different job. This is still about choice! You may not get to do exactly what you want to do, but there will be something you can do. And if you chose to leave your home city so that you can stay in your position, that is a choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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you're being ridiculous. If you're at the top of your career, what do you suggest, taking a job at McDonalds instead of moving? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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I am suggesting that it is a CHOICE to remain in his career of CHOICE as opposed to trying something else. No one is forcing him to remain a journalist. That's his choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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ummm, the last post wasn't me (Dh as journalist)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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np: She is suggesting that it is a choice to move instead of taking one of the jobs that is available locally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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there are a lot of places in this country that have pretty dead job markets [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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It would still be a choice to leave. I haven't seen any treasury agents holding guns to people's heads forcing them to move to cities with more lucrative job opportunities. Got to keep that revenue up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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but they still wouldn't be able to stay in the house, because they would not longer to be able to afford it. So what's the difference? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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They could chose to get second jobs. People do it all time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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oh good grief. You're so helpful. Thank you for helping us poor blokes understand our options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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Who was asking for help? If you want help, ask someone who was around in 1982. They can fill you in on coping mechanisms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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wait a minute...you're a senior level accountant in the non profit health care sector earning $125k....the closest lateral move outside of the non profit health care sector would be several levels (and pay grades) down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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And that would be a choice. I work on Wall Street. If I couldn't get another job on Wall Street, I would have two choices. Find a job in banking outside of the city or find a job outside of banking in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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So if you opt to stay in NYC you will be virtually entry level as your banking skills are not transferable at anywhere near your current level. Is this ok with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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I would not be entry level. My skills do transfer. But that's besides the point. Personally, I would chose to leave NYC and work in NC or Chicago. But it would be a choice, not a something I would "have" to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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Yeah I'm not making the location argument so much as asking you how you think you could come close to matching your present salary outside of your specialty. i think you are being very unrealistic about the options that would be available to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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I'm a treasurer at a bank. Banks are not the only organizations that need treasurers. I like banks because I enjoy doing funding and liquidity work. But I would be a treasurer elsewhere if I couldn't find a job in a bank. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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good luck with that with the influx of finance people desperate for jobs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Finance isn't treasury. No one is walking from a front office position or a P&A role into a treasury role. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Ummm. I'm not in the NY metro area, yes he would be able to find a ton of jobs in NYC. You posted this in general, not NY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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So there is not a single job (other than the one he has) anywhere is commutable distance to your home? Not one? I still don't buy it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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nope. My dh is a journalist. Only one major newspaper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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np: my brother is a journalist at a top-of-the-food chain paper but even I realize he will be finished within 10 years, the biz is dead. What does your DH think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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so dead. My dh is getting into freelance and doing pretty well at it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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^^^ but still needs the day job right now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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So why can't he do something else? PR? Communications? Teaching? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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hmmm, b/c he's built this amazing career and doesn't want to start as a lower paid middle level cog? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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He doesn't WANT to. It's his choice to pursue journalism. He wouldn't HAVE to move. He would CHOSE to move so that he could do what he loves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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we would go into foreclosure if he lost his job. There is nothing else in this town that would pay him enough to keep the house anyway, so it's really not that much of a choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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Well then it sounds like you made a pretty bad choice when you bought your house. You took out a mortgage even though you wouldn't be able to afford it if your DH lost the only job locally that he would be willing to take? That's terrible planning. What's the plan if the market isn't moving and DH loses his job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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I think that you're crazy. We'll be fine, b/c dh isn't going to loose his job (unless he does something stupid to get himself fired), at least not before we can afford to have him go full time freelance. But you're argument that moving is always a choice is pretty flawed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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ignore snarky person, you'll just feed the insanity;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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OMG above poster is the most deluded fascist I've ever heard. i hope this is a sick joke! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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I think that she was just trying to get every riled up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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^^^really really hoping that she did at least. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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so if the housing market grinds to a halt what percentage would you say will still occur despite the economy...5%, 10%? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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OR: Not everyone lacks equity in their home. Not by a long shot. As for hard figures, I can't say for sure. But I think that the tightening of the credit market will have a much larger impact than the decline in home prices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Credit is extremely difficult now but the market is soo flat in many parts of the U.S. is this due to no one moving or fear or what???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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The market is flat for a few reasons. Tighter lending standards (no more 100% mortgages). Far fewer speculators. Buyers waiting for the market to bottom out before buying. And overbuilding. Many areas are overbuilt with homes that no one wants or needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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In major metropolitan area you attribute the rise in house prices to overbuilding and speculators? I'm not trying to be snarky but I read in the WSJ an article about what happens if you HAVE to sell your house and I wondered what % of people that involves? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Who said anything about major metro areas? But yes, many are overbuilt. Las Vegas, Miami, etc. Then you have the exurbs which created a glut of unwanted homes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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yes, but if the exburbs go way down, it will drag the rest of the market with (which it is just starting to do where I live). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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in my area, the downturn is many due to foreclosures and short sales, which means the few people that do need to move are screwed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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what is the connection? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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if you are competing against 10 foreclosures, then you will have to drop your price [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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in my area, it is now listed as a "declining area" which means no more mortgage insurance. You now have to bring 20% to closing. This means most people can't afford to buy at the bubble prices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Realtor here: yes this is very true and 90% of the U.S. is "declining". Moreover if you buy in a coop or condo a huge percentage of the building must be owner-occupied. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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I wonder if the divorce rate rate will drop because people can't afford to move? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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We are moving, sold our place and made a decent profit (about 750K).....but we bought in Manhattan 9 yrs ago. People who are getting hosed are people who bought at the height of the market 2 yrs ago and then had to move because of a job for example. I've seen houses and apts on the market for less than the seller pd 2 yrs ago. That's gotta hurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone notice that their children's sippy cups smell like sour milk. how do i prevent that from occuring. the cups are washed in the dishwasher as soon as my child finishes the drink. don't know what to do 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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do you take apart all of the pieces when you wash it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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this is my advice too. you have to run water through all the valves and straws before putting them in the dishwasher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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i do that...is it just me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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are you pregnant, by any chance, and smelling things more acutely? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] just visited friend in hospital after birth of baby. A young woman came in in shorts and flip-flops and said she was with the medical school and did we mind hearing about a study they were doing blah blah blah. A medical student, dressed like a lifeguard, 12 hours post-partum to discuss a study ! Then girlfriend told me she was the third person to come in asking about a study. Is this common ?! 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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^^ PS This is NOT a teaching hospital (where you would sort of expect that in a way, no ?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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if it was not a teaching hospital, it was prob not a med student, more likely a research assistance (no med student would dress like that). I don't think asking about participation in a research study is terrible though - how else will they get postpartum subjects? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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No, I have no issue with asking about participation in studies, but it seems like you should be allowed a bit of "down-time" or - since we are all out of the hoospital before you know it - some coordination so you don't have a constant stream of people would be nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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^^BTW, my dad is a prof of OB, so I am a fan of the teaching hospital as a rule ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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at a teaching hospital, you can request to see no students. I always do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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I would assume the same would go for another hospital as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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this is not a teaching hospirtal. When my friend asked that she come back later after the baby was finished trying to nurse and after her guests left she seemed to be unhappy with that response. I just feel like that time is private and special. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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thats too bad, because you are affecting the education of someone that might be taking care of you or your kids in the future, besides, med students are an important part of the medical team, and are often the "eyes and ears" that pick up problems first off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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this is not a hospital where med students are taught ! This hospital is in no way affiliated with any medical school ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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OK, then a med student didn't come into the room in the first place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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that being established, why was she there and who approves this ? Do you think the hospital is making money in some way by patient participation so they allow it ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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all hospital studies are approved by an internal review board. Whether the hospital is making money depends on what kind of study/who is funding it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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couldn't reply to you. thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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This is horrifying. I didn't realize the liberties that occur when you give birth in a teaching hospital...20 year old med. students in and out of my room...guessing about what stage of labor I was in (and being wrong). I will never be treated for obstetrical issues in a teaching hospital again - and I'm from Boston where you can't swing a dead cat without hitting one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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just tell them very firmly no students. OB's and nurses only. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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where exactly are you running into 20 year old med students? The youngest would be at most in their mid 20's, and many are older... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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This is your defense of the intrusion of my privacy while giving birtht o my first child (and no epidural)? Okay, they were 24 not 20. Better now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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part of going to a teaching hospital is participating in the teaching-in exchange you get more exposure to cutting edge medicine, etc. Its your choice, just as is having an epidural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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They should have raised the issue of the studies when she pre-registered at the hospital or engaged the OBs to introduce the topic weeks ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I've been out of the UB loop for a while... are the classified pages still available? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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Don't think so. I've never found them if they are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Just got our class assignment for K at PS166. It looks like the principal (whom I believe the parents did not like) has left and there is a new acting principal. Does anyone know the scoop? Should we be happy? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.15.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Wow, I did not apply to 166 ONLY bec of him. That's awesome news!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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you sound like an idiot. who makes decisions like this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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You should be happy. Whether or not you liked him is no matter. He had a morale issue in the school and with teachers. That takes away a principal's energies to be a productive educational leader. So, a fresh start is a good thing for everyone in the building. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:42 AM Flag
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Did it actually mention the principal in the letter? Maybe I just glanced at it too quickly. Interesting. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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If you look at the top of the letter it has the name of the Principal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Favorite running or workout songs, please. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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Thriller - embarassing I know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Sexy Back by Justin Timberlake makes me work harder to get a better body back!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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american idiot by green day, hate on me by jill scott, breakout by the foo fighters, a punk by vampire weekend, rock star an lapdance by N.E.R.D., Galang by MIA, I could go on :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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^^ ironically have not worked out in months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
[ - ] thinking of moving to nyc with 3 kids -- can people afford this? is life crazy with 3 kids in nyc b/c of school costs, etc.? i'm worried that even with a good salary, we will feel like we're always scraping by. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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define "good salary"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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high 6 figures [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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how much equity will you be able to put into where you live? buy outright? how big a mortgage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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i think we would rent to keep things simple and easy to back out if it's too hard to live there. rents are ridiculous for a place big enough to hold a family of five tho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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np: You really only need a two bedroom with a dining area that can be converted to a sleeping area. And you can probably get away with one bathroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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Suburban mom here - 1 bedroom for 5 people????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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I said two bedroom. One for you, one for two dc, one dc in the dining area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Depends on how you want to live. Are you willing to live in a two bedroom? Do you insist on having a doorman? Will you have a car? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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Where do you live now, why move? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Often, Manhattan families move to Brooklyn when they have 1st or 2nd kid and then New Jersey or Westchester with 3rd kid. I know families in Brooklyn with 3 kids. You can get a brownstone or small house with backyard for cost of a 2BR in Manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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You can always send dcs to public school. That's where my kids go. And it's free. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you all think of a 13' x 9' bedroom (boy)? Will it seem more like a maid's room (it's pretty narrow)? NYC apt. if that matters. tia. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.15.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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My ds's bedroom is 7 by 9, and it's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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We have dc in an 7x11 room. It's fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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np: we will have this too when were done converting. I sure hope its ok! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Why can't I narrow the message boards I'm looking at? I cleared all the boxes on the right of the screen, clicked on "newborn," and "new york city," clicked on "default," but still the posts I am looking at are from a million different categories, e.g., "Boston, general topics," etc. It seems impossible to actually *save* your desired default settings. Any advice?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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OP: one more thing. I have tried repeatedly to hit "update filters" so that my choices would "take," but with no luck... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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Did you click Update Filters? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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What you are doing should work. Select boxes click update filters and then save as default. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] grrr. guy i am seeing just sent me a text that said "been tied up all day . will try to call you later". meanwhile, we talk everyday at this point. how can it be you cant find one min. what can i write that is cool and calm and seems like i dont give a s&*t even though i do. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.15.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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ugh. i might write "don't hurt yourself trying." but don't listen to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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np: and then he's never call. (i wouldn't.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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^^^he'd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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don't reply. you don't want to look too needy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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dont you think its weird to write "i will try to call you". why can't you find a min> [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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maybe he's with people and can't talk. maybe he wants to talk for more than a minute. maybe he's just not that into you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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I'd text back, "actually, I'm tied up myself today--it's been a crazy day. Can we just talk tomorrow or something?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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yeah, he's going to believe that. much better to not reply, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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Not replying looks "mad" and sulky. Men are dumb--I think he would totally believe that the OP is tied up herself. If he is trying to be distant, then the fact that she doesn't reply and is thus most likely mad, will fuel his "she's getting clingy" or "I'm not that into her" feelings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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not at all--for all he knows, she's not checking her phone. sending that passive aggressive reply looks much worse--i have time to text you, but now i don't want to talk to you, so am pretending i'm busy too. and, frankly, men love it when you ignore them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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same poster--one more thing. And then i'd be unavailable or at the VERY least just do very polite, but one-word answer-y -type texts for a day or two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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reply, "cool. ttyl." that's it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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np: this is perfect. short and relaxed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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Do not respond. Will drive him crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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if she doesn't respond, he's going to think she's angry. it's better to come across as cool about - like, no prob. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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doormat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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yikes, which is it??? don't reply and it will make me look mad like poster said above, or one word answer like "ok"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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mine was the best. text, "cool, ttyl." lesbian mom here, btw. guys tell me stuff they don't tell straight women... it's a nail in the coffin of the relationship to come across as needy or bitchy about something small like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Show up outside his apt with a boom box and a hurt look on your face (LOL)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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people who LOL at their own posts are sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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OP: LOL. just the thought makes me laugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Don't you think that you're overreacting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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no, we are going on a few days of this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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np. do you mean he has been texting you for a few days that he is too buy to speak to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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he has been calling and texting, just seems short and cold. today he is traveling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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OK. You need to calm down or you will scare him off. He is traveling and is busy there is probably nothing to get worried about. Men are usually more straightforward than women. I'm guessing he means exactly what he said in his text. I'd reply saying Hope your trip is going ok. Chat soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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thats what i said. i said "don't worry. have fun. lets talk tomorrow" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Spot on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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well, is he actually tied up? Is there a big project at work or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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just write.."thanks for the note. it's getting late - I'm so wiped out. let's just connect tomorrow. sleep tight" - (sounds normal, healthy and not paranoid...) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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just write - "thanks for the note. its kind of late now - a bit wiped out. let's chat tomorrow. sleep tight." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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i love how many responses there are to this post! no on thought it too trivial!! (not that I do because I too would be wondering what to text back). But just have to say-- great level of response! Love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:51 PM Flag
[ - ] If I have only "NYC" and "Newborn" selected, why (even when I hit "update filters") do a million posts appear, from all different topic areas? How do I truly narrow what I want to post? I hate this new format!!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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after you select it and hit update filters and the screen refreshes, there will be a new link somewhere in that same box saying "make changes default". It's totally stupid, because who thinks to look after they've already changed it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny's 50th birthday is coming. She's been with us for years and I'd like to do something nice - wwyd? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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Paid day at the spa? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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That would be a good idea for most but she is not the "spa" type. She wouldn't go. Thanks though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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seriously, a whole lotta cash. and maybe your whole family should take her out for a nice lunch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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we're having a bbq at our house in her honor. All the dcs will be there. I've also ordered a Tiffany sterling key chain with her name and dcs' initials inscribed on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I think the G&T process was hugely improved this year, with the exception of two factors: 1) DOE allowed for prepping by not stopping dissemination of BRSA and KTSS. 2) placements came a bit late. otherwise, I think they did an admirable job. the goals they set are likewise laudable. Carry on. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.15.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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i don't think scores should be everything considering how flawed the tests are and how easy it is to cheat. i also disagree with the sib policy. if there's a tie, the sib is in. otherwise, letting a 90-scoring sib in over a 95-scoring non-sib is a joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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it's actually over a 99-scoring non-sib. if a dc scores 99 and fc's ll, for instance, a 90-scoring sib still gets first dibs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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I THINK IT WAS CRAP. THE DUMBEST KIDS I KNOW GOT INTO G&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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says the lady whose dumb kid couldn't do well enough on the test to get in. now she is convinced she knows who is smart and who isn't. lol! so predictable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Actually I have twins and they are going to private. My friends and sister have really smart kids who took that OLSAT did badly. All the kids I know who did well were coached dopey kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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so your friends and sister have smart kids, but the ones who did well and got in are dumb? I see.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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ha! her kid probably got in, and now she feels the other kids are beneath her and will slow her down. actually know someone IRL who said this. meanwhile her dd is not that smart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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No, they should not have lowered the bar to 90. Really went against what they tried to do - justify the reason for G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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What do you mean dissemination of BRSA? That is just the long name for the Bracken. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
[ - ] bought a house that has blinds in every window and of course the string hangs down like a noose when we open them......I know I'm supposed to do some cutting of the cords, but what and where exactly do I cut? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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I separated the ends so they don't make a loop anymore and also use those little 3M stick on hooks to store the cords out of reach when the blinds are up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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that seems like the sensible thing to do...but will it have some effect on ruining the pull mechanism when the blind goes down and the cord goes up....I'm picturing one end of the cut cord getting sucked into the track and then having non-functioning blinds....which is better than a dead child, I guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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I bet you could find something to stick on the ends of the cords so they wouldn't be able to go through - even a big bead would work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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Every store that sells blinds has child proofing available. Maybe you should have them re installed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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Free kits at Home Depot. You cut the loop and shorten the blinds and tie a little plastic bead on the end of the 2 cut ends. Or you could just knot the ends. When blinds are fully in down position, trip to desired height. I like mid-window. When you open the blinds, the cord will of course lengthen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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I have chains rather than cords so they can't be cut. I have stuck small hooks up high and I hook up the chain every time the blind is opened or closed. Another option is attaching the bottom of the blind cord to the wall (where it naturally hangs) through a loop/ring screwed into the wall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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