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[ - ] what should i do with a 5 YO DD that keeps having accident's. it's become a huge problem. she only had one accident the entire time she was in the 3's program but i think it was b/c it was a shorter day and she just didn't go. this year in her 4's program she had a lot of accidents at the beginning of the year and they started again at the end of the year. she's also been having them a lot in summer camp. we have a lot of change going on this past year and it will continue through the fall but i dont' know what to do. she's going to start K? should i not send her if she's having accidents? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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You might consider taking the pressure totally off by having her use pull ups for two weeks. She'll go in the pull up, if need be, then remove it and wipe herself. Since she's trained, using pull ups as a transitional tool isn't a regression, and might help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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i guess i could try it. just worried me that she'd suddenly just think it was totally okay to pee in her pull up. but i guess it's better than being embarasseed at school. although strangely she is not a bit embarassed at this point but i'm worried in K, she midght be made fun of by other kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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I feel for you. We just finished a year of 4 yo ds pooping in his pants but oddly enough, he never did it at preschool. So frustrating. He finally stopped. But I'd do the pull up idea for K...I think peer pressure will set in by then though as they are forced to be much more independent in K....she may be doing it for attention but in K she will soon realize that she isn't going to be coddled anymore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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i hope so! she seems to not care at this point. i've tried not to embarass her but i feel like it backfired [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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and seriously, thanks for sharing, i'm glad i'm not the only one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:43 PM Flag
[ - ] colored contact lenses - cheesy or not? if not, which brands are most natural looking? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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cheesy only when its really obviously - but thats all i can say!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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cheesy. not your eye color. Your eyes are the window to your soul, after all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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soooo cheesy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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and obvious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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oh yeah you can see the line where the real color is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone do on who did an IUI at Cornell? Is the monitoring really time consuming? I had a consultation recently with Dr. Kang there and really, really liked her - just trying to figure out if its worth switching from my current RE who is around the block from my apt. Just trying to figure out how to make it all work with a job and a kid. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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I only went in for one u/s on each of my IUI cycles. Had HCG shot same day, then back the next day for the IUI. So, no, wasn't too time consuming for me. Although, if you go in for the u/s and follicles aren't ready, you'll have to go back for second u/s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:54 PM Flag
[ - ] DCs love Lifeway kefir but one quart is 5.29 at DAGs, any other suggestions? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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I do!! If you live on the UES, the health food store on 77th and 1st has it and it is much cheaper than anywhere else (along with the pirate booty and smart puffs!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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Wow that's great thanks, I"ll check it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I have noticed recently that the homeless / mentally ill homeless on the streets seem to be back to late 70's numbers. Anyone know why? Should I blame Bloomberg? Where is the support for these folks, outside of "outreach" vans that swing by and tell them to go to a shelter when they're in an area where it looks bad, when you're trying to sell multi-million dollar condos? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.15.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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I agree that the homeless number seems to be on the rise. Was not sure if it was the weather (making it possible to stay outside). I feel horribly bad - my kids get scared sometimes and I feel sad that these people seem to have nowhere to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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OMG. I thought you mean they were wearing outfits from the 70s... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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tasteless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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well, obviously the economy stinks, so anyone who was barely hanging on may be on the street these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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^^also, sro's are being sold to developers and i'm not sure they have placed those people. happened in my nabe in chelsea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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i agree the numbers are up, but they are not nearly as bad as when I moved to NYC in 1989 (maybe they were better in the 70s?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] How do privates factor in the mother working or not working, when determining financial aid? If I'm a SAHM and the next family has a working woman, does that affect HHI-related decision? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.15.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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HHi is HHI, they don't factor in who works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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Yes, but if a mother stays home and the next family has a working mother, is the family with the non-working mother entitled to more FA, all things considered? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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I don't beleive so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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nope. in fact, if the hhi is the same, the family with the sahm is at a disadvantage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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why would an non-working mom be entitled to more financial aid? It should be the other way around, because you don't have to pay for daycare [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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They are not. But schools want to attract MC families and they don't mind sahms (they figure more involved at school or something). Don't blame the moms, blame the schools wanting these families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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that's not true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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they add an amount of say, $60K or so, for income you could be earning. I think that only counts if you have a young dc at home or aging parent to care for. otherwise, your are expected to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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Nope you are wrong $60k is way, way too high. They don't add that much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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They figure they are watching the db if you have a db/young kid (toddler). If you don't have a young dc or an eldery to care for, they assume the moms can make at least minimum wage. They add ohh... $15k -$30k to total HHI (artificial income one could make if flipping burgers or something). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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I think it is more like 50K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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Nope. Not 50k. I asked them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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Whom did you ask? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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Director of Financial Aid - at 2 schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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Which schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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Was your child accepted? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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Yes, got into both with HUGE FA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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it's poor taste to brag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Sorry, but wanted to encourage families who think they won't get FA or that asking for FA will get in the way (of acceptance)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] would you be mad if DH left for cali at 6 pm yesterday and you still hadn't heard from him. nary a call or email or text? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.15.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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yes, it is inconsiderate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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OP and ITA!!!!!!! i know its only 3:30 there, and i am sure he is in meetings. he didnt land until like 2:30 am ny time, but still!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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if he has a cell, he can text or make a 2 minute call. It may not have occured to him, but it was possible and he should call! Can you tell I have had this conversation before!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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it makes me feel better that i am not the only one! but i feel like s*&t [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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I know - it is scary, and then I get angry. I hope everything is fine and I hope he understands how it makes you feel. Are you able to explain to him that you would have loved to hear from him - without him getting defensive? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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i will do so, but not while he is away, which is until fri [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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good call. Good luck and I hope you hear from him soon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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it's sometimes hard with time change and business meetings. it happens [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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OP: it makes me feel terrible, as though i am an afterthought. granted, we have been having some stresses lately, but still [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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try not to be too upset. I use to get dressed up and meet my dh at the airport when he went away. Now he is lucky if I roll over and kiss him when he gets home! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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depends on your expectations. dh travels a lot and sometimes a day or so will go by without my hearing from him and that's totally cool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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a day or two? wow. you are much more relaxed than i am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a little embrassed today I corrected a woman at the park for calling one of my son's thomas trains by the wrong name. I think I need a new hobby. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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I'd agree :) I"m sure she was impressed with your knowledge [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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she laughed and said she was an expert in pokeman [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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Cute response - great! But I do agree you may want to broaden your horizons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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Dh and I joke we could get a degree from thomas U [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Eleven people are watching one item I'm selling on ebay, 3 bids. The auction ends in 6 hours. Is it likely some of the people watching are waiting until the last minute to bid? I'm a newbie to ebay, TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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Very likely that someone will "snipe" at the last moment. Since you already have bids and many watchers, sounds like it is something of interest. I always wait until the last moment to bid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been through a rough patch in their marriage and get through it? I'm having trouble. He had emotional affair, and although we're in couples counseling and things are better, I still think about what things would be like if we got a divorce. I don't know how to let go of the past. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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yes - and I think it comes down to committing to yourself that if you choose to move forward together, you find a "matra" to help stop holding onto the anger. My friend recently told me that resentment is anger with mold on it!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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^^^mantra [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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My parents have been married over thirty years, but when I was young they went through a rough patch (we were pain in the ass kids). My mom was leaving on a business trip and the night before my dad asked if they could date other people, she looked at him and said he could, but that she would leave. She came back a few days later and they started working it out. My dad says that to this day he thanks god he turned down that offer. PS they did not tell me this when I was a child, only as an adult in a serious relationship when I asked about tough times. People can work through them, no relationship is perfect, but both people need to be dedicated to making the relationship work. good luck OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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My dh & I had a very tough year (9/11, my mother died, had 2 m/cs, my dd almost died) and we almost didn't make it because instead of supported me he attacked me for not paying enough attention to him. I never thought I would really get over it but I go pg & 5 yr later here I am very glad I did. He is not perfect & neither am I but if we could make it through that I truly believe we passed thru a crucible that made us trust & believe that we could make it through anything. However at a certain point you do have to let it go, even though you are perfectly justified & right to be angry, you have to let it go in order to live life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Okay, I think we're ready but I feel like I need to read an article or a book or something before attempting serious potty training. I work fulltime but am ready to devote my summer vaca to this project- Any good resources??? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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first try what you think will work and if it doesn't work, ask for advice from other moms or start reading books. it's not rocket science. don't make it into a bigger thing than it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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I recommend cold turkey, no pull-ups during the day. Load 'em up with fluids and bring them to the toilet every 20-30 minutes. Worked with dc #1 in 3 days and I start training dc #2 next Monday. Wish us both luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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ditto this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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Take off diapers. Set a timer for 20 minutes. Get all excited to go try, then set it again. Worked for my two boys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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potty training for dummies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:42 PM Flag
[ - ] How much does it cost for a medium cup of regular coffee at Starbucks? (Not a coffee drinker, but I was thinking about getting a gift card for a friend as part of a goodie basket.) I'm not sure what amount to get her that would provide a decent number of trips. Thanks! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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about $2 and change. Most people drink the fancier coffee drinks at Starbucks which run from $3.25+ for small to $5+ for large. I'd say $20 would be great as part of a gift basket. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking to visit Hersey, PA in August w/my 3 dc. It'll be our 1st time there. Any recommendations? I haven't planned a thing! Thanks! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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isn't that near the amish towns? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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go to Lancaster too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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What dates? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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how old are your dc? if they are older, you'll definitely want to do the amusement park. if they are younger, there's a kiddie place called Dutch Wonderland that would be more fun for them. if you like to shop, there are lots of outlet stores in nearby lancaster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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