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07.15.08, 16:59 PM New York City
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grrr. guy i am seeing just sent me a text that said "been tied up all day . will try to call you later". meanwhile, we talk everyday at this point. how can it be you cant find one min. what can i write that is cool and calm and seems like i dont give a s&*t even though i do. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.15.08, 04:59 PM Flag
 

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ugh. i might write "don't hurt yourself trying." but don't listen to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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np: and then he's never call. (i wouldn't.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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^^^he'd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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don't reply. you don't want to look too needy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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dont you think its weird to write "i will try to call you". why can't you find a min> [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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maybe he's with people and can't talk. maybe he wants to talk for more than a minute. maybe he's just not that into you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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I'd text back, "actually, I'm tied up myself today--it's been a crazy day. Can we just talk tomorrow or something?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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yeah, he's going to believe that. much better to not reply, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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Not replying looks "mad" and sulky. Men are dumb--I think he would totally believe that the OP is tied up herself. If he is trying to be distant, then the fact that she doesn't reply and is thus most likely mad, will fuel his "she's getting clingy" or "I'm not that into her" feelings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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not at all--for all he knows, she's not checking her phone. sending that passive aggressive reply looks much worse--i have time to text you, but now i don't want to talk to you, so am pretending i'm busy too. and, frankly, men love it when you ignore them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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same poster--one more thing. And then i'd be unavailable or at the VERY least just do very polite, but one-word answer-y -type texts for a day or two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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reply, "cool. ttyl." that's it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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np: this is perfect. short and relaxed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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Do not respond. Will drive him crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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if she doesn't respond, he's going to think she's angry. it's better to come across as cool about - like, no prob. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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doormat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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yikes, which is it??? don't reply and it will make me look mad like poster said above, or one word answer like "ok"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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mine was the best. text, "cool, ttyl." lesbian mom here, btw. guys tell me stuff they don't tell straight women... it's a nail in the coffin of the relationship to come across as needy or bitchy about something small like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Show up outside his apt with a boom box and a hurt look on your face (LOL)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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people who LOL at their own posts are sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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OP: LOL. just the thought makes me laugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Don't you think that you're overreacting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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no, we are going on a few days of this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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np. do you mean he has been texting you for a few days that he is too buy to speak to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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he has been calling and texting, just seems short and cold. today he is traveling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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OK. You need to calm down or you will scare him off. He is traveling and is busy there is probably nothing to get worried about. Men are usually more straightforward than women. I'm guessing he means exactly what he said in his text. I'd reply saying Hope your trip is going ok. Chat soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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thats what i said. i said "don't worry. have fun. lets talk tomorrow" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Spot on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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well, is he actually tied up? Is there a big project at work or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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just write.."thanks for the note. it's getting late - I'm so wiped out. let's just connect tomorrow. sleep tight" - (sounds normal, healthy and not paranoid...) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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just write - "thanks for the note. its kind of late now - a bit wiped out. let's chat tomorrow. sleep tight." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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i love how many responses there are to this post! no on thought it too trivial!! (not that I do because I too would be wondering what to text back). But just have to say-- great level of response! Love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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