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07.15.08, 17:33 PM General Topics
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why is my 18 yr relationship w/ my dh so easy to maintain and my relationships w/ domestic help so difficult? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
 

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do you honestly want a reply to this ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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no it was a form of a statement. a jumping off point for discussion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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Makes for a fascinating discussion. "Why do I get along with my husband - someone I consider an equal and not an employee - and not with the people I hire and pay to do what I tell them ?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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correct [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Lets start off with your use of the term domestic help. It speaks volumes... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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what should i call sitters, nannies, painters, contractors, landscapers and cleaners? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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what you call them in private... "those people" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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a) i am a person of color - latina b) sitter - white, nanny - latina, painter - latino, contractor - white, landscaper - white, cleaner - latina [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Oh, well then you must not be elitist and walk with an entitled air ! My bad ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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no, maybe i am elitist, but i certainly don't call domestic helpers "those people" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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esa gente ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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cute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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ok, so what would you call them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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ah, you just did a fine job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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op: no one has said what to call them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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What do you think the problem is? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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multiple problems. nanny - doesn't feel that she can make all of the decisions regarding the child, cleaner - comes 1/2 of the time, painter - too many other jobs, contractor - too many other jobs - taking too long, sitter - has to leave early, come late, too much tv [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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Wow, I feel so lucky. The peopl working for us in those capacities are just lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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np. do you call them the help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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I've never thought about it. I call them by their names. When referring to them I would say assistant, housekeeper, babysitter, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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np. contractors/painters seem to be generally unreliable. I suggest building in a time schedule linked to payment next time you use them to make sure they concentrate on your job. Sit down and explain to nanny what you expect of her. Sack sitter and cleaner get someone better! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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now that was constructive! the contractor was great, but is soooo slow in eeeking out the 15% of the job left to do. the nanny knows all about the nap sched. and sleep philosophy, she just rolls her eyes and makes comments alllll the time about it. otherwise, she's amazing. i would never fire her. she's so sweet and concerned. cleaner has to go, but haven't gotten around to getting someone. i'm so busy at work and home. sitter is also great w/ dcs, but has a ton going on in her life too. i'm just saying it comes easy w/ my dh and sooo difficult w/ the aforementioned people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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people are so jealous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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positively pea green with envy ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Maybe you are a good spouse and a lousy boss [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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i am a lousy boss. i don't constantly call the contractor to make sure someone is coming (squeaky wheel gets the grease), I don't call out the cleaner when she doesn't show (i usually say, no prob, see you next week), I say fine to the sitter who has to leave early or come late, and i put my foot down when it comes to naps w/ my db w/ nanny - she hates that. dh has been in my life for 23 yrs and we've gotten it all worked out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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