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[ - ] How do people find probono lawyers? What is the best way to find one? Should I call law firms one by one asking if they have probono lawyers to help with my divorce? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Are you a compelling charity case? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:53 AM Flag
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What do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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she means do you deserve help, I am CPA I do free tax returns for the elderly, had an old lady walk in who was worth many millions of dollars - and I had to tell her she needed to pay someone - she was pissed - probably why she was wealthy - but she was also a piece of shit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:58 AM Flag
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You sound nasty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:31 AM Flag
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No, she sounds real, honest and truthful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:43 AM Flag
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this is how people get rich, by never paying for anything they don't have to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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OP never mentioned about her wealth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:47 AM Flag
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Reply was to NP and her old lady worth many millions of dollars. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:37 AM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:03 AM Flag
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Better odds with a Volunteer Legal Services agency. Most lawyers don’t just represent someone pro bono unless the person is indigent or there are compelling facts (objectively compelling, not just compelling to the person seeking pro bono legal assistance). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:11 AM Flag
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This. Don’t waste your time calling private firms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:47 AM Flag
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This, for example if you are a starving artist, some organizations support the arts community by providing legal help for free to artists; if you are an immigrant or elderly there are groups that may be able to put in touch with immigrant or elder aid groups; similarly, anti-domestic violence non profits may assist clients with low fee or free legal representation for divorce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:48 AM Flag
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Call a local bar association. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:32 AM Flag
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I did this. I just kept asking, and if they couldn't help I asked for referrals. I finally found one who was just out of law school who took me on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:33 AM Flag
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You do realize that a lawyer just out of law school has never handled a divorce and knows hardly any more than you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:21 PM Flag
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Pro Bono is short for the phrase “ Pro Bono Publico” Latin for “ For the Good of the Public”. It generally refers to legal work done without charge on causes that affect the public, like environmental issues, free speech, civil rights in a community, etc. What you are looking for is a lawyer who for some reason ( such as, s/he is new, has no clients and is hoping you will be able to pay something at some point) is willing to give you his time for free rather than charging you for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:40 AM Flag
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Calling law firms asking for free legal representation is like calling doctors randomly asking if they will treat you without charge. Clinics exist for that purpose and someone may refer you, but a random medical practice doesn’t do this. Individual doctors may volunteer many hours of their medical services through organizations or causes that they choose, but not generally as a result of a random request from an individual calling the office. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:53 AM Flag
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It will be hard to find a lawyer to handle your divorce for free. Just as hard as finding a plumber to fix your pipes for free. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:46 AM Flag
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Huh? Why would anyone do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:59 AM Flag
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Try your local bar association [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:28 AM Flag
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Also Legal Aid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:29 AM Flag
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Some posters above gave you the best advice - call your local bar association. The NYS has association, the NYCounty Lawyers’ Assn, even the American bar assn, a national group. They’ll all direct you either to a roll of pro bono lawyers, or to their matrimonial sections, where pro bono help can be found. Don’t call law firms. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:00 AM Flag
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No they won’t, no such thing as a “ roll of pro bono lawyers” willing to represent a random individual in a divorce who just wants to save a few $$. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:18 PM Flag
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Most legal aid agencies don’t handle divorce, because they are relatively inexpensive and you can also divorce pro se. if you are a victim of DV, you should reach out to your local DV services agency- they may have legal resources. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:52 PM Flag
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Just hire a lawyer and pay for the services rendered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you buy a house in the burbs without a bathtub? There are 2 showers. I'm not a huge taker of baths and my kids mostly take showers these days, but not having the option would bug me. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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can you install one? I'd be worried to have none at all for function and resale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:29 AM Flag
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Nope, no room for a tub. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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How is that possible? Someone really designed a house with no bath tubs and not enough room for one in the bathroom that the children are supposed to use? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:35 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:34 PM Flag
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Technically, there is a half tub on the 3rd floor which is a converted attic space. Big enough for a baby or toddler-but who wants to drag their kid up to the 3rd floor to take bath. It would not fit the smallest adult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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do You plan to ever sell? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:30 AM Flag
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Yes, I'd want to move once the kids were fully out of the house in about 12 years or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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I wouldn't move anywhere without a tub, but I'm a big bath person, as is DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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As long as there's room to put in a tub. Gotta have that for resale for young families [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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No. My realtor told me people want one tub to bathe young children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:34 AM Flag
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No. No room for a tub means very small bathrooms so in addition to not having a full bath vs 3/4 baths, the baths you would have would be tiny which people don’t want in the burbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:45 AM Flag
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Not normally but if it is all you can afford then location is more important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:54 AM Flag
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This. But know resale price will reflect this. Just go in with your eyes open. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:53 AM Flag
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Bathtub are out . Walk in showers are in, I have never once taken a bath in my tub. But they do seem to matter for resale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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every night after they gym for about a half hour with my book. you are missing out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:07 AM Flag
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This is me, too. Specially in the winter. Boil up my bones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:42 AM Flag
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YES! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:46 AM Flag
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Yes yes yes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:09 AM Flag
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Same! Give me my lavender epsom salts, my book, and my little teak shelf, and I'll stay in there until I'm shivering! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:11 AM Flag
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different strokes for different folks. DH loves baths. For me, there's about 5 minutes when the temp is just right when it's nice. Then it's either too hot or too cold, and I just don't like sitting around in water that much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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Nope. As I'm getting older, I find I need a bath every now and then (muscle relaxation). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:00 AM Flag
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wouldn't bother me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:02 AM Flag
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If there were room to put one if I wanted to or were going to resell, then yes, otherwise no. It will be hard to find a buyer w no tub. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:21 AM Flag
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Nope. I bathe at least once a week, kids still take baths and I think they are critical for resale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:50 AM Flag
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I would never buy a house like that because my son still takes baths. It definitely affects resale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:52 AM Flag
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Sometimes you need need to soak--sports injury, for example. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] My 10 yo ds is so snarky and it’s really bothering me and also wondering where he gets it. We were watching that show A list and he said the counselors are “ cringey” like his teachers, criticed the “waste of my 20 minutes” on watching the show. Then I was showing him a pic of the town Boy Scouts in costumes and he goes, “looks like they shop at the dollar store.” That last one made me want to send him to bed and cut the WiFi for the weekend. He refused to do scouts and quit the only sport he liked recently to. And he’s 10 going on 40. WWYD to instill some humility? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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Thinking a volunteer opportunity is going to be lining up this weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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Newsflash! No-one wants to be "served" or deal with your privileged, snot nosed kid! He's not doing anyone any favors with his presence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:47 AM Flag
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Stop giving him so much stuff. And such fancy stuff. Make him shop a the dollar store exclusively. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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I have never derided the dollar store and I shop at Wall Mart and Aldis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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Maybe the kids he’s been hanging out with have been making this kind of comment and your dc has just picked up on it. Either way, give him a minuscule budget for something he needs, so he can only afford to get it at the dollar store. Then explain to him that you, as parents may be able to afford to shop elsewhere because you have worked hard to earn the money to do so, but he, as a non-earning individual ,has not even earned the privilege of shopping at the dollar store yet. So had best not disparage those who have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:45 AM Flag
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Dollar stores do not sell what he "needs" such as iphone, ipad, video games, designer clothes and sneakers. Kids today... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:31 AM Flag
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Positioning shopping at the Dollar Store as punishment is unlikely to make him rethink his position on it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:13 PM Flag
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He's probably getting it from some obnoxious friend at school who he admires. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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Does he watch shows on the disney channel? I don't know if they have gotten better but a few years ago I would not let my kids watch because the kids all talked like this on those shows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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This! My mother lets my kids watch Disney a lot and they copy that behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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I was going to ask EXACTLY this!!! When DD was watching Jesse obsessively the snappy/sassy comeback was her primary mode of communication. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:35 AM Flag
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Yes recently watched one of these teen shows, the kids were all so obnoxious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:38 AM Flag
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The dollar store comment is rude but the others seem totally normal to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:00 AM Flag
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This. The dollar store comment is the only one I'd really react to. I wonder if that has something to do with knowing his parents wanted him to do Scouts (I noticed that you said he "refused" which implies he was being prodded a bit?) and feeling like he has to justify why he didn't or something. I would make clear with him that that was rude, and explain why and that I don't want to hear that kind of thing again. The other stuff is annoying and I'd say so but it's pretty common for kids this age to have an attitude and think adults are lame (and it's not this generation, I'm in my 40s and I remember middle-school-kids being awful). He's likely getting this from his friends and classmates. Tell him it bothers you but don't over-react. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:06 PM Flag
[ - ] are there any dating sites for lesbian moms? in NYC? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:11 AM Flag
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If you find out, can you please share : ) I recently realized I’ve always been bi (maybe now lesbian?) but married to a wonderful guy and have two little kids. I’m just not attracted to him the way I am with women. It’s probably the hardest situation I’ve ever been in. Hope yours is much easier! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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^and just to add, if I weren’t married I would try OKcupid. I think it provides the best options for actually writing about yourself vs just photos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:52 AM Flag
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i am on OK cupid- so far.. ehhh- want to meet other moms.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Sorry if this is a dumb question. Does the PATH train go from Hoboken to the WTC on Saturdays, or is there no service on weekends until the end of October? Thank you in advance. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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There's no service to WTC at all over the weekend. You can take the PATH to Exchange Place, take a voucher inside the station, and go to Harborside Ferry to take a ferry over. I think the WTC station won't open until late / end of NEXT year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:07 AM Flag
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Also, they make exceptions for major holidays - like for Labor Day, the WTC station was open all weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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You can take it to Christopher St, 9th St, 14th, 23rd or 33rd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:10 AM Flag
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Oh, that’s a relief. As long as we end up somewhat downtown, we’ll be good. Thanks to all of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:16 AM Flag
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NP: Just take the 33rd st train to Christopher St. (depending on where you're going), it's an easy trip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Its been 10 years since my mom died. Man, doesn't get too much easier. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:04 AM Flag
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I'm sorry. It's been 20 years for me, and I still miss her. But it does get gradually easier. Or, you get more used to it. Sending you good thoughts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:28 AM Flag
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Been about 4 for me. When she died my professor told me I'll never get over it, it will just get different. At the time I wanted to throw a stapler at her head, but she wasn't wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:16 AM Flag
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Haha, right? It does different but not really better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:29 AM Flag
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Sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:28 AM Flag
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i'm sorry. She must have been a pretty great mom that you feel this way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:30 AM Flag
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Thank you. She was great. Just paying her tribute tonight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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I mean this with sincere kindness... I am so happy you had a good mom. My mom died three years ago, and I haven’t missed her yet. I keep waiting for a single pang. I strive to be a person my children remember fondly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:25 AM Flag
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Same, and it'll be 10 years in February for me. The older DD gets, the sadder I am about it, because she is so far removed from the granddaughter my mother knew. I hate that they missed out on knowing each other longer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:36 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:05 AM Flag
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My mom recently had a health scare and I was a bawling mess at the hospital. I never expected to react like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:33 AM Flag
[ - ] What jobs do the best DHs/fathers tend to have? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:54 AM Flag
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Cops, fireman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:01 AM Flag
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Maybe fireman but cops have high rates of divorce [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:02 AM Flag
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Cops have a high rate of domestic violence. Good luck going to his friends about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:13 AM Flag
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My mom’s friend was punched in the face by cop husband. He left her for someone else and had other cops stop her for trumped up violations during the divorce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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My friend divorced her violent cop husband, and all the other cops in her small town used to harass her, driving past her house at night, breaking things, scaring her, she ended up having to leave town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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Firemen have women throwing themselves at them all the time, "badge bunnies." Lots of them cheat chronically because women chase them like crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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I don't know that this can be generalized, but I had no interest in high level finance or lawyer types. I have a great dh who is a great dad and he's in media. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:24 AM Flag
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Anesthesiologists. Dermatologists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:12 AM Flag
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Anesthesiologists tend to be narcotics abusers. And dermatologists are always vain and narcissistic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:08 AM Flag
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NP: my DH is a dermatologist, they aren't all into cosmetics. DH works a lot with connective tissue disease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:12 AM Flag
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I knew a dermatologist and he was very into fixing all blemishes and looking perfect [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:35 AM Flag
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I vote for my DH. He's a math professor- summers off, flexible schedule, lots of time with dcs, passionate about teaching and loves to spend time with them going on adventures and learning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:07 AM Flag
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You are blessed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:34 AM Flag
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Those that earn a decent living, are stable, but also provide a good work life balance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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Can't generalize, but my dh is a great dad. He's a social worker. Doesn't make a fortune but makes enough. Works 5 minutes from home, came home for lunch every day when kids were growing up, always did lots of fun stuff with them. Home at 4:30, never works late or weekends. Very close relationships with dc's. But I think the bigger factor was that we were together a long time before we had kids and the years when he had to work two jobs and put a lot of effort into his career came before kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:49 AM Flag
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Public defenders! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:50 AM Flag
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Prosecutors are more fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:14 AM Flag
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Insurance underwriter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:37 AM Flag
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Anyone with enough seniority to leave to coach little league, attend school concerts, do carpool duty for sport practice. My kids play hockey and this week the rink was packed with "high level finance and lawyer types" at the 4 pm ice time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know how I can get rid of/sell old crystal and silver? Feel bad just throwing it away. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:46 AM Flag
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Replacements LTD - definitely the go to for this kind of stuff, way more so than eBay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:58 AM Flag
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Crap, I just donated a bunch of China. Forgot about this place. My mom replaced pieces from her own set from them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:35 AM Flag
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np I've sold a few things to them, but they pay very little. For sterling, sell on eBay and list the weight specifically (show a picture of it on a food scale or postal scale, to the tenth of an ounce). I sold a sterling cream and sugar set, and the buyer told me he would be melting it down and not to bother sending it in a box, all padded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:38 AM Flag
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Is the silver sterling or just plated? If solid sterling, can sell by weight, just like any precious metal. If plated, it’s crap just donate or toss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:59 AM Flag
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Crystal/ silver maven here: can you tell me maker and pattern of crystal, and silver? If so can give you an idea if it’s sellable for anything more than scrap value. Also, full matching sets? # of # piece place settings, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Stanford/Yale EA? Political science 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Doing what with that degree? Law school? Grad school? Check to see which one places more students in the relevant programs after graduation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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That’s a long way away for a high school senior. Any other suggestion besides grad placement? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:38 AM Flag
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They are both good in that way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:38 AM Flag
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All things being equal, with an interest in political science, Yale. But that’s on the margin - surely your DC has a preference [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:43 AM Flag
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Old. Can’t decide. Likes both the same. [ Reply | More
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First word is nope. Not old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:44 AM Flag
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Visit both and see which he likes. There's more to college than a major. Also apply to both and see where he gets in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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Done. Tie. Needs to pick EA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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Look at things that affect college experience but are often overlook. For example, cafeteria food, temperature of dorms and classrooms, upkeep of grounds, professionalism, of support staff such as security, cafeteria workers, administrative aides, maintenance. Options in local shopping, culture, fast food, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:53 AM Flag
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There is no advantage in applying to Stanford early, so I would say Yale. RD Stanford. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:57 AM Flag
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NP: Why is there no advantage to applying early to Stanford? My son is a legacy at both Yale and Stanford. Want to play my car right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:55 AM Flag
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4.3% regular admission at Stanford versus 9% early odds seems like a big difference, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:59 AM Flag
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Very different locations. If all things are otherwise equal, does he want East coast or West coast? Where does he picture himself living as an adult? Law school or politics? Are both realistic? Are travel costs to come home a concern? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:04 AM Flag
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For most students, this would be a waste of an early decision application. It looks like Yale allows a student to apply ED II to schools that notify after January 1 though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:13 AM Flag
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Stanford and Yale would allow an EDII [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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Terrible weather in new haven [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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as my dad said 23 years ago, yale is the past, stanford is the future. he was right. personally, palo alto is a much nicer place to be in than new haven. it sounds stupid but having the sun shine a lot makes you happier. not up on it these days but when i was there stanford poli sci dept. better than yale. school has only gotten richer so i would assume faculty has only gotten better. also went from stanford poli sci to being trader on wall street although do well at either will set you up for the future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:02 AM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:42 PM Flag
[ - ] The oldest woman in history have both- thoughts?https://www-m.cnn.com/2019/09/06/health/india-woman-73-gives-birth-scli-intl/index.html 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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I saw the post below too and still have no random thoughts. [ Reply | More
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It's kind of crazy. They got married the same year as my mom and dad. My dad is currently writing my mom's future obituary as she is on borrowed time. Seems an odd choice to have twins at this juncture. [ Reply | More
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Her husband is 82 [ Reply | More
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[ - ] We stayed at a hotel last week in FL and had an adjoining room for 16yo DD and 17yo DS. Hotel just sent a bill for extra cleaning and when I called they said there was vomit on the bedspread at checkout. I asked kids and DD said she got sick the night before we left but didn’t feel the need to tell me. Would you suspect a) bulimia or b) she was drunk? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:32 PM Flag
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She was drunk. Bulimics are better at hiding things. [ Reply | More
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this [ Reply | More
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+1000. no bulimic throws up in their bed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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Maybe she was just sick? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:36 PM Flag
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Op: it’s possible, but very strange that she wouldn’t mention it at all the next day. Also, I know that she and her brother met up with some friends on the beach that night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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Well there's your answer. They met up with friends on the beach. [ Reply | More
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Drinking, duh. Vomit- teenagers [ Reply | More
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lol. they spelled it out. someone brought alcohol and she drank too much. [ Reply | More
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and agree that a bulimic would never vomit on the bed. they are expert at hiding it [ Reply | More
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Drunk. Bulimics don't just puke on the bedspread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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Drunk. You are lucky. What were you thinking?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:52 PM Flag
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What do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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It could be much worse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:39 AM Flag
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I would go with drunk unless you have some reason to think she has an ED [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:56 PM Flag
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Drunk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:36 AM Flag
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Drunkity drunk. [ Reply | More
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You put your teens of opposite gender in the same room? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:17 AM Flag
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In a hotel? Why wouldn’t you, and what would you do instead w teens? Not OP, but my brother and I are 1 yr apart and we’d have been thrilled to get our own hotel room on a family vacay and not be squeezed into one room w our parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:21 AM Flag
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+1 When we were 22 and 18 my brother and I shared a tent on a camping trip. We were each in our own sleeping bag. At this age, I would probably share a room but maybe not a bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:29 AM Flag
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ignore. nothing weird about this whatsoever. it's weird you think it's weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:35 AM Flag
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Why? Did you used to fuck your brother? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:07 PM Flag
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Drunk. Why didn't she clean it up when she woke up? Sounds extremely bratty. [ Reply | More
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Did you ask hotel for proof? DNA testing? Maybe the maid did it. [ Reply | More
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Her daughter said she was sick and threw up when the mom asked her. [ Reply | More
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Somehow DD forgot to tell mom that she was drunk and somehow she forgot to remove puke from the bedspread. Go figure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:14 PM Flag
[ - ] My DD (9) found out today that she needs a brace for scoliosis. Anyone have any experience with this? There are worse things to deal with for sure but I’d love any experience you have to make this better for her over the next few years. Thanks! 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I had scoliosis and needed a brace as a child. One of the specialists recommended trying intensive gymnastics classes instead (3-4 times a week at least). They helped so much that I never wore a brace. I was diagnosed and started much younger though. Not sure whether it’s an option at age 9. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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wow! [ Reply | More
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That’s great. Glad it worked out for you. [ Reply | More
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She's lucky. My scoliosis was never dx'd and I have a somewhat noticeable curve. Kid on our block had to get surgery b/c his was more pronounced and he became 2" taller afterwards. GL to your dd! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:37 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More
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My daughter has scoliosis and has to wear a brace. Join the FB groups (there’s a few — parents of kids with juvenile scoliosis etc). Very helpful community. [ Reply | More
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Thanks - I will do that now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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My friend's dd had to wear a brace in middle school. She handled it really well (certain hours in the day she had to wear it, other hours she had to take it off). It fit nicely under her clothes and was not visible. She is in high school now and no longer needs, issues seems to have been resolved. I recall that it sounded scarier than it actually was. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:04 AM Flag
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This is very reassuring, thank you. This sounds like what we were told - 16 hours a day in the brace. It doesn’t seem visible under clothing. She can still do all of her activities. I’m thinking she will complain because it’s different and that’s sort of her, but I’m hoping she adjusts to the new normal quickly. [ Reply | More
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not personally, but a girl in my class wore one in middle ( and high?) school. she's a therapist now. i think that as hard as it will be, its ultimately character building. You have to see the big picture, even though she wont for at least a decade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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I hope so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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I think there is a Judy blume book about this. Might be fun to read?! [ Reply | More
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I will look for it. Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:02 AM Flag
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It’s called “Deenie” [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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Thanks again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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NP: There is a random pretty mature/explicit scene. Maybe not what you want for a 9 yo, or at least you might want to read it first. [ Reply | More
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Maybe it will be an opportunity for her to learn how lucky she is to be living in a time/ place/ family where medical treatment is available for her condition, so she will grow up with a nice straight back free to do anything she wants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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I agree and we talked about that a little bit - how it was disappointing and not what she wanted but that we are fortunate to have the ability to afford medical care (is good insurance), that it wouldn’t affect her life in huge ways, that her body is healthy and strong and she will be okay. [ Reply | More
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You are lucky you found it early. It kind of sucks but it is what it is. My daughter wore one. They are lighter and not as noticeable now. Make friends with the school nurse. Try both kinds of undershirts and buy her some new clothes that work with it. Just lots of hugs and pep talks. She will forget quickly when it’s over. The brace really doesn’t improve anything but it stops it from being worse. Eva Chen and Martha Hunt both had it. It’s more common than she thinks!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Fun place to take out-of-town guests for cocktails? Preferably in or near East Village? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Cool friends- Mono Mono. Older relatives- Goodnight Sonny. [ Reply | More
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Vandal isn't bad. Artwork is interesting (the artist who did the Obama poster has artwork inside the place). [ Reply | More
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The Standard, the bar at the Bowery Hotel (good for celeb spotting), B Bar, if you can make reservations at Please Don’t Tell, Death & Co., Angel’s Share [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Medical Question: my 79 yo mother recently passed out. I was not present. My drunk brother claims her heart stopped and gave her mouth to mouth. I brought her to the hospital, where she had an EKG (normal), chest x Ray and blood tests(no idea what was tested...were normal). They told her to follow up w her doctor who says it’s a non issue. She’s always been in good health, non smoker, relatively active and eats well enough. Any further testing needed? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Your mom is getting older. There is no crystal ball beyond the test results. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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Im not asking for a crystal ball. I’m asking if there are other tests that need to be completed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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You are asking UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:40 AM Flag
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When I passed out randomly in my mid 30s, I also had a CAT scan and a test where I wore a heart monitor for 24 hours. [ Reply | More
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I had this too - and a blood pressure monitor. But nothing much came of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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Did they say it was a vasovagel thing? Blood sugar? Blood pressure? If all tests were normal, as scary as it must be for you, just take a watch and see approach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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Blood pressure was normal, not sure about blood sugar. I get that she’s old and shit happens, but also want to make sure that there isn’t something being missed that could be righted. [ Reply | More
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You only give CPR to someone whose heart has stopped; otherwise the heartbeat is confused. The EKG would have shown the "heart attack" and it obviously did not. Have your mother give you permission, in writing, to talk with her doctors so you can get an idea of what is going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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Did she have a full blood work up? Anemia? Low blood pressure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:39 PM Flag
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Think full work up. Normal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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Ok, but do follow up. ER are about stabilizing and making sure no one is dying You have to go to a doctor that knows you and can follow your health. Glad she's not seriously hurt. [ Reply | More
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She says sh \e followed up with her doctor who said it was a non issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:55 AM Flag
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She could have a cardiac arrhythmia. Sometimes they come and go, so it might not be caught. She should see a cardiologist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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yes - my dad has this happen and was eventually diagnosed with leukemia. find out what blood tests she had and make sure that they tested for cancer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:11 AM Flag
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Any and all cancers? Because she fainted? There are hundreds of types of cancer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:45 AM Flag
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Is she taking vitamins or supplements? I believe too much Vitamin D caused me to pass out. All tests were normal ( and I ended up wearing a 30 monitor after the 24 day one.) [ Reply | More
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You say she eats well enough, but could she be dehydrated and/or low in sodium and potassium? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:29 AM Flag
[ - ] 73 year old woman just had twins. https://www.cnn.com/2019/09/06/health/india-woman-73-gives-birth-scli-intl/index.html 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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Idiotic and irresponsible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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How do you know it's irresponsible? Maybe they have plans to live with lots of extended family and everyone cares for everyone else kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:22 AM Flag
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Better her than me. [ Reply | More
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I say better late than never. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Bank accounts for college freshmen - do they get checking accounts with paper checks anymore? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I still use checks for some things but if your kid doesn’t think he or she will need them, that’s their option. [ Reply | More
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Nope, checking account with debit card is what my dc has. Joint account so I have access. [ Reply | More
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I’d rather not have joint account. But I think checks come in handy at times. Just wondered if kids had them. Dc will have their own credit card, debit card. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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How do kids put down deposit on apartments without checks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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Most apartments require a certified check for deposit. After that you can set up online bill pay.! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:16 AM Flag
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Same here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:29 PM Flag
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gst the checks, if he needs them, then he has them. Discuss with him to keep checks in a safe place and all that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I put together a bowling night for an out of town sales meeting for a team I run and one of my sales reps - declined with a comment "what the heck is the matter with you?" I am not sure if I am offended. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC? Maybe he had a different vision of his night in the big city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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I am actually in NYC but it is a national team meeting this time in Ohio, we meet every 6 months usually go out to dinner and drinks, sometimes sporting events, was trying something new. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:38 PM Flag
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His loss. Bowling is awesome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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np That sounds fine. Maybe he sucks at bowling [ Reply | More
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He sounds obnoxious. I guess I need to know more about the workplace culture before I judge if you were totally off-base. [ Reply | More
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most of the sales reps are lone guns, there is very little interaction with them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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"Lots of things, but not Asperger's, which seems to be your damage." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:43 PM Flag
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Petty, mean and nasty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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That's usually what I go for when people are rude to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:51 PM Flag
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Are there any people on the team w physical issues that would prevent bowling? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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yes, but not him as far as I know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:16 AM Flag
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is he the victim of a traumatic event at a bowling alley? [ Reply | More
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I'd go, sounds fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:39 PM Flag
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He wanted a strip club, duh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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he sounds like an a-hole. I don't like bowling, but I'd go and have drinks and eat and socialize. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:13 AM Flag
[ - ] My DS who is applying to colleges this year and really into bilogy and wants to go to medical school. John Hopkins is not in his college list. Will we regret not including John Hopkins? If we will, we can add it, still have time. 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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Why not try? What is his list? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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in similar category, he has stanford, harvard, brown, upenn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:14 PM Flag
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Yes. Add it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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If accepted you don’t have to attend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:27 PM Flag
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Ha ha ha ha. Is he a straight A student who took the most advanced classes he could, got close to 1600 on SAT or 35 or more on SAT, and did a serious research internship? Otherwise, no chance. unless there's some hook you haven't mentioned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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Parentnoua- stop feeding the flames [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:59 PM Flag
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What does this mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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Parents being paranoid. Should be spelled parentnoia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:41 AM Flag
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op: yes to all except for hook [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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Is UPenn his safety? Lol. [ Reply | More
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op: no, I said 'same category' meaning statistically difficult to get into category [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:03 AM Flag
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What are his safeties? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:12 AM Flag
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Np why does that matter? It’s kind of rude to post that. His safety is problem some Es dream and then that will be argued [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:42 AM Flag
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It's probably a school like Case Western or Boston College. If he has an unweighted 4.0, took advantage of the advanced classes his school offers, and worked in an industry related to his major, and held leadership positions in his extracurricular activities, that would be appropriate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:27 PM Flag
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Your DS has nothing to lose by adding it to his list. However, if the supplemental essay adds significantly to his stress level, I wouldn't bother. When we visited Johns Hopkins, about six kids left in the middle of the tour...this didn't happen on any of the other college tours we went on. My sense is they concluded pretty quickly that it wasn't a good fit (and I'm not referring to academics). [ Reply | More
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What do you think they didn’t like? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:14 PM Flag
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what made them quit the tour? is it the social scene? what do you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:15 PM Flag
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I'm confused. It's August. Applications for RD aren't due for months. If you have $70 apply. There's no large question here. [ Reply | More
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we try to visit before seriously considering to apply. ds already has 10 schools to apply and not enough free time left after school and extracurriculars. in short, there is plenty of time but he needs to use it effectively. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:23 PM Flag
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So you would rather spend like 2 thousand dollars and 2 days of your time to visit a school to save $70? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:30 PM Flag
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efficiently. Not effectively. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:30 PM Flag
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It’s September. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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And... [ Reply | More
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OR said it was August. [ Reply | More
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I went to Hopkins. I loved my time there, but it is very competitive for those who want to go on the pre med track. There’s also great opportunities that may not be as easily available in other places. I would say they have to be drawn to the school first not just assume that it will be good fit because they want to go into medicine. [ Reply | More
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op: great opportunities part makes me feel like JHU might be the place for DS, he's really into biology and related research [ Reply | More
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If your son wants to go to medical school, he needs very good grades in college. In my experience, the grades themselves seemed more important than the quality of the class. Some of my classmates took Organic Chemistry in the summer at an easier college to boost their grades and it worked. Also, I noticed that you use "we" multiple times in your post. It is your son's college search and future. You might want to take a step back and be less invested in the whole process. [ Reply | More
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Oh stop with this bs. You aren’t fooling anyone. Parents drive ny kids to tours. Patents help with list - ensuring a financial and academic safety l, parents help exit essays. Stop pretending [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:31 PM Flag
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The name of the school is Johns Hopkins. If he is going to apply, you need to master the name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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Lol. Or at least he should [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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Maybe he doesn’t want to live in Baltimore. It’s a fair point. Signed, grad of a different Baltimore college. [ Reply | More
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You wont regret it. They dont teach bilogy at Johns Hopkins. [ Reply | More
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Be kind. Poster is obv ESL. [ Reply | More
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I am a doctor and did not apply to Johns Hopkins. I didn’t want to live in Maryland. [ Reply | More
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johns hopkins [ Reply | More
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If he didn't like Johns Hopkins, then there's no reason for him to apply. If he did, there's no reason not to. If you guys are worried enough about it that you're posting on UB, might as well just add it. [ Reply | More
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I went to Hopkins for grad school. Worth applying but there are a couple things that would make me not want my kids to go there. Undergrad when I was there was cutthroat in a way that wasn't striving for excellence, but more naked ambition--I'm willing to cut you down in order to push myself up. Culture and social life seemed correspondingly bad. Also, lots of people want to go to med school there which makes it necessary to make higher grades if you want to go to med school to stand out. [ Reply | More
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op: thank you. this (competitive environment) is what we've read about jhu and decided not to include it. I'm just trying to figure out if it was a right decision. hearing about cutthroat culture over and over makes me think it's better to skip for now. [ Reply | More
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NP pre-med can be cutthroat in a lot of places that don't have a rep for it. I was pre-med and it was awful. I would not want my kids to go to a school KNOWN for it. It turned me off the whole thing and I went in to another area of science. [ Reply | More
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Any elite school is likely to have a cutthroat premed program within biology/chemistry. If he's serious (and sure) about med school, he might be better off going to a great but not "elite" college and going to an elite medical school from there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Double-space makes the UB posts difficult to read. I connect from my laptop, didn't try from phone. From laptop screen, the new double-space format made it difficult for me to scroll and read. WDYT? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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For me, it's only in the Chrome browser. So I just use Firefox instead. Looks fine there. I guess Chrome made a change to their coding? [ Reply | More
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Happens on my Chrome browser at work. If I switch to another browser like Explorer, not an issue. [ Reply | More
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I'm using safari and it's fine. [ Reply | More
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I never noticed a double spaced UB version. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else actually really love their in laws? My dad had a crazy family who was so mean to my mom so I think I internalized that because my in laws are literally the sweetest, most perfect people. My mom passed away in my 20s and I know how hard it is and I am just terrified of losing them too. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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Good for you. Warm and healthy relationships are a gift. I have an unhealthy with my mom and my mil so I envy you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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Aw I am sorry. They really are a gift. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:12 PM Flag
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Yep, love all my in-laws and hate to say it, but have a better time with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:13 PM Flag
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I did and continue to, but our politics are very different. It's really hard right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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My in laws are great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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There’s no point in being terrified. You WILL lose them unless you die first. That’s life. Enjoy them while You can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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If I wasn't so close to my own Mom, I would think of. my MIL as my mom. She wanted me to call her mom but it just felt not right to my mom. I call her by her first name and she signs her cards " Your other mother." She has been a wonderful support for me and I love her son! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:42 AM Flag
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my MIL has always been a wonderful friend to me from day one. Never any conflict. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:31 AM Flag
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