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[ - ] What should I pay a college student who will help me out with my baby twice a week for 3 hours 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:33 PM Flag
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$15/hr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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Cheapo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:05 PM Flag
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What do you recommend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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$20-$25/hr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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I think $15 is fine. That's minimum wage, and she is most likely not declaring it as income, so she's better off than in a regular job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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It depends where OP lives as to the minimum wage. Many states in the country have a minimum wage of $7.25/hour, including three of the first four states voting in the Democratic primary next year (Iowa, New Hampshire, and South Carolina). Nevada minimum wage is $8.50. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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PP: I was assuming NYC. Can’t imagine babysitters in South Carolina are commanding more than $15 an hour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:44 PM Flag
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I think 15-18 is fine for off the books which this surely is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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Ask what they charge, and then negotiate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.13.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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When I was in college ten years ago, I wouldn't get out of my pajamas for less than $100. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.13.19, 08:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Does IKEA deliver in Brooklyn? Ten year old DD dressed falling apart, and we are really busy this month- I need a standard tall dresser sent to apartment? Any ideas? Thanks 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:24 PM Flag
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Yes, the Ikea in Brooklyn delivers in Brooklyn. We’ve had some stuff delivered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:29 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:38 PM Flag
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But don't you have to go shop and pay in person before they'll do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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No you order online [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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Yes they deliver but it’s not cheap. It’s like $60-70. If you’re not that far, way easier to take an Uber there and pick it up yourself. You can choose pick up option when you order and they have it there waiting for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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Make sure to secure the dresser to the wall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:59 PM Flag
[ - ] 11 year old dd is having a full-on tantrum because we told her she can't have a playdate with a friend. How worried should I be? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:10 PM Flag
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Not worried at all. Don't give her tantrums "currency" by making them something more than they are. Just tell her that you know she can get through her strong feelings of disappointment and when she's ready to come out of her room, she can have a glass of juice. My kids had low blood sugar type tantrums when they weren't eating enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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tween, normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:23 PM Flag
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Thanks, guys. This is reassuring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:24 PM Flag
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What's not normal is that you're still calling it a playdate at 11 years old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:08 PM Flag
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yes it is but maybe not where you live [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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Maybe she'll be having her period soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 05:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Poor moms: If your appealing, well liked, involved in school's EC's kid has generous FA to a TT school but the kid's academic performance is low B's, what would you do if goal is to have child attend top 50 college with affordable FA. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:08 PM Flag
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Leave her where she is now. She should be fine for top 50. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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I'd get some tutoring (if that is your/their goal--top 50). Otherwise I'd say be happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:14 PM Flag
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How much has she been reaching out to her teachers for help? At my DD’s TT the teachers are very willing to meet with struggling students, and even will set up weekly meetings to help your kid. You don’t need to pay for tutoring for her to get more help in her classes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:23 PM Flag
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I'd work with the school first to figure out what she needs to get her grades up and also see what they're thinking relative to her college placement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:28 PM Flag
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Who cares about a hypothetical about someone else's kid who doesn't exist? Articulate your own problem and ask that actual question you want an answer to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:09 PM Flag
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Move to a state with a Big Ten university. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:10 PM Flag
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Become a D1 level athlete [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:17 PM Flag
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Poor mom: can you give me (roughly) the kind of income that gets generous aid. Thanks in advance! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:52 PM Flag
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Tell us your HHI. You probably won't get really generous aid if you're "NYC poor" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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Do not assume you will be able to get aid in college. NYC independent schools give aid to families with higher income than colleges will. Run your numbers on college net price calculators to get a sense of college aid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Ugh. SO hungover. I regret everything! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:05 PM Flag
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I replaced alcohol with weed. Lost weight and now I remember everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:07 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:10 PM Flag
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I remember those days. I was a full blown alcoholic though and my cure was to just drink more (even in the morning). Don’t do that. Just take it easy today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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Same here! I'm the sad single 30yo who was thinking of dating a 48yo (I need a shorter nickname). Last night I went to a dinner party which was basically a set up. My friend turned it into a slumber party and it was very fun to wake up with her this morning and feel like teens. Hungover teens tho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:54 PM Flag
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All the guests slept in their clothes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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Not all, just about half. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:03 PM Flag
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How did the set up go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:06 PM Flag
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This was me the other day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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Poor thing. If you want, I'll come over and you can talk - I'm a very good listener. You supply the coffee & Tylenol and if I have to clean you up it's extra. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:21 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you say to your toddler to help him or her stay on tasks like getting dressed? My DS is all over the place when getting him dressed. I would like to be not helping him at all at this point but it's been so hard to get him to focus on one thing at a time. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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I dressed my kids until they were 5. Each kid is different. My dd got it at 2 and could come down in a fully chosen (matching) ensemble My ds OTOH would have gone in his briefs if left up to him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:51 PM Flag
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Put on a timer and have him play "Beat the Clock". Give him a reward if he can do it under 3-5 minutest (or whatever you decide). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:52 PM Flag
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Great idea!!!! Thank you so much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:58 PM Flag
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I raced my toddler getting dressed. Also works with older kids, but not teens. ha ha [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:59 PM Flag
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As in "Can you get dressed before I get breakfast on the table? I bet you can't beat me! I'm faster!!" + maniacal laugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Need a new bed and new sofa. Don't want to buy online as not good at putting things together! Any recommendations for medium range price, good quality, stylish stores in city where I can shops, get things delivered and set up? TIA!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:36 PM Flag
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If you need a bed + mattress, we liked the one we got from Charles P Rodgers in Flatiron. For general furniture, I think Room and Board is a little better than Pottery Barn and the other big boxer stores. Both will deliver and set up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:40 PM Flag
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Ordering in line doesn’t mean you have to put it together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:06 PM Flag
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This. It’s more of a price point thing. I know Macy’s and crate and barrel “deliver” assembled furniture. Sites like Wayfair “ship” flat packed furniture. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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^ actually my bed from Macy’s was not assembled but their guys took care of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] If you could point to one habit or mantra that keeps you thin, what would it be? 86 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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Burn more calories than I eat every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:31 PM Flag
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By doing what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:35 PM Flag
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FTW. The ONLY one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:37 PM Flag
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How do you burn more calories than you eat. That seems impossible and unhealthy. I stay on a 1400 calorie diet and burn several hundred calories 3x a week but not more than I eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:55 PM Flag
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You burn calories walking around, not just while working out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:56 PM Flag
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More than you take in. No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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Your body burns a certain amount of calories just keeping itself going each day, usually in the 1100-1400 range. Otherwise we’d all be enormous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:12 PM Flag
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Are you being serious right now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:12 PM Flag
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Omg some of the people on this site are so dumb. That's how you know the whole "TT school" thing is just a bunch of fantasists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:13 PM Flag
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Lol. If you don’t burn more than you eat then you would gain every day. Even just lying in bed all day, your body would probably burn 1000 calories. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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BTDT didn't work for me. I had to eat less calories. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:55 PM Flag
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smh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:11 PM Flag
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calories in isn't the same as calories out. Bodies easily adjust to exercise, ask any professionally employed trainer / coach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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Oh, honey... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:34 AM Flag
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Reddit is a better URL for MRA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 03:19 PM Flag
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*fewer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:34 AM Flag
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Genes, nervousness and keeping busy (it’s a package). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:32 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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At a grocery store, peek into a skinny person's shopping cart. Buy what they buy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:33 PM Flag
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I thought I was the only one who did this. I find other people's shopping carts fascinating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:56 PM Flag
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I found a grocery list in a cart that amused me so I brought it home. It lists all the dinners for the week. Monday night is "Kelly's" which made me crack up, it's so Boston. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:57 PM Flag
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Me too, but not for this top post reason. Bachelors and single Dads are predictable and sometimes funny, sometimes sad/depressing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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Me too. I like to compare which people are buying ingredients vs. buying food that's heat and serve. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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I do my shopping in stages. This morning was cat food. Enjoy your kitty food! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:50 PM Flag
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I’m pretty slim but almost always have chips, chocolate, cheese, in my cart! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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+1 because I don't gain weight no matter what. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:30 PM Flag
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Np: it’s never once occurred to me to do this but now I’m dying to. Very curious ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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Biggest would be stop eating when I’m full. Second, no attraction to snacking. Third, food isn’t issue-laden for me. I love food with no negatives - I don’t feel guilt or stress issues attached to food. I am naturally thin though - so I think food being a happy neutral thing for me also comes from being thin to begin with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:41 PM Flag
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I think I'm the opposite. No attraction to whole meals. I'd rather graze all day. But, I'm the type who would also eat one thing out of the TV dinner and leave the rest for later. I wasn't in the mood for 5 things, just the 1 or 2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:13 PM Flag
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Don't bring anything home that you don't want to eat. So if you crave an oreo or two, just buy a 6 snack pack and throw out 4 to begin with. I actually like snacking on vegetables so I prepare (wash, cut up etc) so I can easily pop in a microwave and have a small bit of dressing on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:46 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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Plan ahead. Keep healthy snacks available and pack them when you’re going somewhere where you’re unsure whether they will be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:54 PM Flag
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Birds of a feather... get rid of the fat, unhealthy, toxic, drag you down, Debbie Downers in your life, and surround yourself with people you want to be like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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Weight yourself every day. When the number is too high, eat less for a couple of weeks and get it back on track. (Obviously taking into account time of month, large meal, etc). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:07 PM Flag
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+1. The times I’ve stopped my daily weigh-ins were when I gained 10 lbs and it was so painful to lose them. So much easier to drop 1-2 every so often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:28 PM Flag
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I'm thinking of trying this--do you give yourself a range? Or a set number? I hate to weigh myself, but I agree that there is accountability when you can see the number creeping up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Hi! I try not to be too strict about it. If I am in major working out mode I can weight more and it is okay. I am 5’8” and I prefer to stay close to 140. If it was at 145 id dial it back. The key is to use it as a check either mostly being healthy otherwise. No obsession over an exact weight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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Thanks. That makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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Small portions, don’t eat when I’m Not hungry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:09 PM Flag
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Tolerate hunger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:28 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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Thirding [ Reply | More
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Fourth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 03:49 PM Flag
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I sniff grapefruit oil to beat cravings. Works like a charm and after 2-3 days I don't even need it. That said, I eventually always backslide and I am average, not thin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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Is this a thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:49 AM Flag
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Being hungry is normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:44 PM Flag
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Moment on the lips, lifetime on the hips. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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Don't drink calories. No soda, OJ, lattes, very limited alcohol. And none of that toxic diet soda crap. I drink one cup of coffee in the morning and water all other times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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This. I drink flavored seltzer and coffee with a splash of half and half. I try to limit wine. Never diet soda - that stuff is bad for you and ineffective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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I do the same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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Me 4 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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+ smoothies. All sugar and no fiber. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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No binge eating, EVER. Not on holidays, not at parties, not at a special restaurant. As soon as I'm slightly full I stop eating immediately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Define "binge eating". Do you mean you never mindlessly eat? Never eat a big meal? Only eat when hungry? In this context, is splurging (like having that second slice of pizza or extra mashed potatoes and stuffing at Thanksgiving) the same as binging? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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I define it as eating when you aren't hungry, so I think those are all potential examples. If you're eating the second slice of pizza because you're hungry, that's not binging. If you're full enough to stop, but eat the pizza anyway, that's binging. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:13 PM Flag
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If I could stick to this, I wouldn't have a weight problem. I feel like I eat out of habit and/or boredom. I need to learn to listen to my body. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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Yep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:26 AM Flag
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NP. Watching this. It's a constant struggle for me. I wish food and weight wasn't a psychologically loaded issue for me, but I don't know how to change it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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Why would I want to be thin? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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ily [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:27 PM Flag
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Do not get up from the table feeling stuffed. Always leave room to eat a little more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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I like to leave enough empty space that if necessary I could run [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:26 AM Flag
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A moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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Drink a full glass of water before each meal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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This didn't work for me but I'm sure drinking more water overall helped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:27 AM Flag
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I think about if the enjoyment is worth the calories. Usually I can find equal or almost equal enjoyment with a lower calorie healthier option. For example, I’d be as happy eating quinoa as I would be eating white rice or pasta. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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Yes like Kate Moss "nothing tastes as good as being thin feels" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:27 AM Flag
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no sugar and an hour of exercise a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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I had an eating disorder for many years, and this post is very triggering and upsetting. It's sad to read the things women do in order to stay thin. Sniffing grapefruit oil? Embracing hunger? Weighing ourselves every day? When I weighed myself every day, I drove myself crazy... I would get so upset if I weighed 0.2 lbs more than I thought I should. Why not being at peace with our bodies, even if they are not perfect? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:08 AM Flag
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To this point: last year, Kate Moss officially retracted her comment "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels" https://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-45522714 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:19 AM Flag
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In the early days of her career, Kate was dubbed the face of "heroin chic". now? "I go to bed, I drink lots of water, not too much coffee, and I'm trying to cut down on cigarettes." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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All for publicity reasons probably. Just liek we see pics of all celebrities doing stuff with their kids, when 95% of the time there is a full-time team of nannies involved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 04:45 PM Flag
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I hear you, but obesity is a real and huge problem in our country right now. I'm not reading these things and thinking about getting rail thin. I'm reading them and hoping for ideas on how to get my BMI down to a healthy range again. You of course are seeing it through your personal lens, but if I didn't weigh myself consistently I'd gain even more weight. I know, because it's happened. Clothes these days are stretchy and "flattering" and you can't tell you've gained weight until you're up 15lb. I repeat- I'm not anorexic, I am just trying to lose weight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 02:19 AM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 03:46 AM Flag
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np--The post asks for ideas on how to stay thin--not be a regular weight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 07:31 AM Flag
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When regular = obese, thin = regular. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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OR: thank you. What I think most of us read when we read "Staying thin" is "not getting fat", as opposed to "staying too thin and not becoming a healthy weight". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 04:50 PM Flag
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NP that's what I read it as, at least [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 05:44 PM Flag
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I like food that are not fattening (vegetables, lean meat...), and eat a fruit or a boiled egg as snack. I have a weakness for candies and chocolates though. I weight myself regularely, and when I reach my upper limit, I stop candies and chocolates for 1 week or two until the weight goes down. That said, I've always been the same weight except when pregnant, so my metabolism is working fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:18 AM Flag
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Doing WW and it is helping. Cut out mindless snacking, track everything you eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:40 AM Flag
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Heroin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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Remember Aunt Cindy. She lost both her legs and then her life while her boys were still teenagers. Diabetes. :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 07:31 AM Flag
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Eat slowly, savor the flavors and textures and really chew your food. Give your body a chance to indicate that you’re full. Also, it helps that I am a mother now. I try to set a good example for my son. He gets a kick out of admitting to his peers that he’s never consumed soda. He’s not obnoxious about it. And they kind of look at him like he’s an alien. But he still enjoys it. He’s 10. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:40 PM Flag
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UB recommended the book the truth about cosmetic surgery and it talks about another book, you the manual. Anyone read it? Anyway, this plastic surgeon says the keys to healthy weight - when focused on WHAT to eat - are a bite or two of fat at first (fish? edamame? He's not a fan of dairy and meat, and fish only 3 times a week) and the rest of the time vegetables, fruit, whole grains... He also thinks half a glass to 2 glasses (for taller people, men) of wine is beneficial. IMHO that latter part is probably for being social? relationships? less stress? So less about what and more about the context. HTH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 03:24 PM Flag
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Eat nothing containing flour [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 04:30 PM Flag
[ - ] What would be your preferred birthday gift? Something you will not spend money to get for yourself, but would love to receive. State your age please. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:12 PM Flag
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For years now, DH has been gong me a pop up book (I collect them). He’s good at finding them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:14 PM Flag
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Giving, not gong. [ Reply | More
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Very cool! Special, not extravagant, collectible, memorable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:34 PM Flag
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Those wicked good slippers from LL Bean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:19 PM Flag
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60. Got a giant fruit and nut basket for my birthday, Wooo hoo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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:-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:51 PM Flag
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Why do you ask? I can't think of any reason my birthday gift wish list would be useful to anyone but my husband and closest friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:27 PM Flag
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I see you're doing your daily listicle crowdsource. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:28 PM Flag
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Necklace with pendant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:46 PM Flag
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Cheese and salumi selection with honey and nuts. (cheesemonger mom, I just can't get enough of cheese!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:52 PM Flag
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Museum membership or show tickets or gift card for my glass blowing classes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:58 PM Flag
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expensive wine. 50+ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:44 PM Flag
[ - ] NYC moms- would you let your DCs run through the sprinklers at the park today? DH thinks it’s too cold and they’ll get sick. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Are they even on? Playground water was off when we went yesterday. [ Reply | More
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NP they were on at the parks near me yesterday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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Sprinklers shut down at our Brooklyn parks after Labor Day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:11 PM Flag
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They were on at Brooklyn bridge park yesterday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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I think there is an 80 degree rule. It’s not automatic. See Parks Dept website. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:15 PM Flag
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Op: they are on at playground in midtown west [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:17 PM Flag
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I wouldn’t. The weather has turned and it’s ripe for catching a cold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:19 PM Flag
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If you get a cold it's bc school started and you're kid are indoors with others. Nothing about a 70 degree day sparks a cold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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The weather’s been so weird. Hot then cold then damp...I actually got sick this week as a result. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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I wouldn’t. The weather has turned and it’s ripe for catching a cold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:19 PM Flag
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No one gets sick and it's not that cold. Just dry them off later. Scandinavians believe cold is good to build your immune system. We let our kids nap in very cold conditions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:47 PM Flag
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Of course. PS, you don’t get sick from being moderately cold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:08 PM Flag
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My kids are swimming in our (heated) outdoor pool today, so I would let them run in the sprinklers if they wanted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:21 PM Flag
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Does your husband know how viruses are passed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:48 PM Flag
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Seriously. It's an outdated old wives' tale that being cold gives you a cold; I'm so surprised that people continue to believe this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:25 PM Flag
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Visit Eastern Europe. Most people will tell you being cold will make you sick, you will catch meningitis if you stay with your hair wet or, God Forbid, go outside like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:31 PM Flag
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Of course - it is summer weather and you get sick from germs, not being wet in 78 degree weather. [ Reply | More
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This is stupid on so many levels. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:09 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Lame complaint of the day. I hate the massage chairs at nail salons. They’re not relaxing and if you turn them off mid cycle you have a ball in your back. Is this just me and everyone else loves them? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:32 PM Flag
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I’ve never gotten an actual massage (and not interested) but when I’m in those chairs, I just tolerate them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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Turn them on/off until the ball moves to a better spot. [ Reply | More
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Me too. I tell the person doing my nails not to turn it on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:36 PM Flag
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I go to a nail salon that doesn't have them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:44 PM Flag
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I like them. There’s a few movements that aren’t comfortable but overall feels good bc my back is always so tight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:12 PM Flag
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I love them, but if you don't like them just don't turn it on? Or as someone already said, just ask the nail technician not to turn it on before you even sit down. [ Reply | More
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I don’t enjoy them at all. [ Reply | More
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I don't like them, so I don't activate them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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I love them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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I love massages, but I've never cared for those chairs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:18 PM Flag
[ - ] will zyrtec make me drowsy? internet says different things. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I've never noticed that.It's once a day, so just take it in the early evening and see what happens [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:16 PM Flag
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Some allergy meds have the opposite reaction for me, FYI. Like Claritin keeps me wired and awake (can’t take it at night). Zyrtec has no effect on my sleep/sleepiness whatsoever. So maybe best bet is take it on a weekend, not necessarily close to bedtime. [ Reply | More
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Doesn’t make me drowsy. I take one each morning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:18 PM Flag
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It has different effects on different people, like anything. Don't try anything for the first time where you need to be awake or have your wits about you. [ Reply | More
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zyrtec makes me a bit drowsy (and hungry). (that said, allergies make me exhausted so the zyrtec is a bit better. If i need it, i take it at night. allegra and claritin don't. flonase is helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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I'm the opposite. [ Reply | More
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It doesn’t bother me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:28 PM Flag
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Not supposed to, but I do. Very lethargic rather than sleepy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Thinking of doing a larger nightstand in one side of the bed, and a glass table on the other, would use the same lamps. Just works better in the room. Would it be better to do this or just have one nightstand? Could do the same lamps on either side. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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What works for you? [ Reply | More
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I like the idea of a table at least on one side. It seems like you are supposed to have matched nightstands. But I thought a glass table would be different brought that it looks ok. Was considering round to make it very different. [ Reply | More
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It sounds fine to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:38 PM Flag
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NP. There is no "supposed to" - do what works for you. We have never had matching night stands/tables, I can't stand matchy matchy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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Make it comfortable vs. what "works" design wise. Sounds fine in print. [ Reply | More
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Thanks! This is more comfortable. [ Reply | More
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Different lamps if the tables are different imo [ Reply | More
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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I'm not a big fan of symmetry, so I would prefer your layout better. Also it's better to do something that works for you functionally, signed architect. [ Reply | More
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Thanks. Would you do different lamps? [ Reply | More
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I would probably keep lamps the same to unify it. [ Reply | More
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Op: that’s what I was thinking plus I already have the lamps! [ Reply | More
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If it is a guest room with 2 people sleeping in the bed, you NEED to have something on either side of the bed. Make sure they are the correct height. [ Reply | More
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It’s not a guest room [ Reply | More
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If 2 people in the bed, you NEED to have something on either side of the bed. One nightstand does not cut it. Nowhere to put a lamp, clock, phone for charging, etc. One person will suffer. [ Reply | More
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Op: I am single. His is why I am considering it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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Curious: Are you. the one who has been posting nightstand questions all week? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:47 PM Flag
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Nope. That was someone else. [ Reply | More
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I’ve always heard the lamps in your room should all be as close to the same height as possible because the eye finds it more pleasing when it scans the room. So if the tables are different heights, this logic would suggest different sized lamps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:53 PM Flag
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this, but try to have the tables be similar heights. [ Reply | More
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I think this sounds fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:45 PM Flag
[ - ] For the morning crowd: thoughts on Del Barton? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Oops didn’t mean to type it that way! [ Reply | More
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I went to college with some guys who went there a long time ago. From what I understand, it has a very good reputation academically. [ Reply | More
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np: Also a big sports school. The guys I now that went there from college were athletes. And very catholic as well. [ Reply | More
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Op: does anyone know how hard it is to get in? How hard are the suburban jersey day schools generally? [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Collegiate School College advisors. Opinions? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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well you win the award for niche question of the day. [ Reply | More
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Exactly. I would guess they do a good job or they would be fired [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:42 PM Flag
[ - ] We live in the city and kids go to school here and DH wants to buy a “summer house” to use on weekends in Scarsdale. He just likes the town, has some friends there, and it’s an easy commute back and forth. The house we are looking at is $1.3m for 4br with finished basement and small backyard. Is this a crazy idea? 51 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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How much is property tax? You can’t deduct that.. [ Reply | More
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Op: $30k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:21 PM Flag
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Just move there! [ Reply | More
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Op: def don’t want to be there full-time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:50 PM Flag
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I know a family with a summer place in Bedford. I would look for more of a country feeling myself. [ Reply | More
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Agreed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:31 PM Flag
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I know a family in North Salem. I would never go to Scarsdale except the easy commute. Not for a weekend house. [ Reply | More
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Would you spend your whole summer there? I would suspect he’s working his way towards moving there. [ Reply | More
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+1 [ Reply | More
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Me too. [ Reply | More
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I would rather have more land and a pool. Just a little further out will get you much more. [ Reply | More
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Not at all. Many people do this. I live in Westport and a bunch of folks from the city own homes. [ Reply | More
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np: This was my dream - DH wouldn't buy it :( [ Reply | More
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odd place for a summer house [ Reply | More
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That's what I was thinking. [ Reply | More
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personally I would go elsewhere than scarsdale - somewhere a bit more rural bc weird to have summer house in suburbs. For example bedford hills, westport, Redding ct are all lovely and a bit more of a contrast/ less of a suburb. [ Reply | More
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Westchester has crazy high property taxes. Connecticut seems better. I know folks who have weekend homes in Greenwich even. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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np - but flipside is CT will try to tax your income because they'll say you're a state resident [ Reply | More
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You can’t be taxed by two states. And if your kids go to school in NYC.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:02 PM Flag
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Not so. We have a house in East Lyme. Never been an issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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Much less traffic in Westchester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:03 PM Flag
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YES, it is a crazy idea. [ Reply | More
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It's crazy to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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You rich! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:36 PM Flag
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I think if you could spend the whole summer there it might be worth it. Just weekends, probably not. We have a condo by the beach (1400 sq ft) where we live in the summer and a house in the burbs (2400 sq) where we live the rest of the year. They are 40 miles apart. I sometimes think we should flip that and live in a condo in the burbs and a big house by the beach. That way we could host lots of people in the summer. Our far flung friends would much rather come to the beach than the burbs to visit us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:49 PM Flag
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Also, houses in our beach town are 1/2 the price of houses in our suburb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:50 PM Flag
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yep, lower schooling costs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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What beach town? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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What? Where is this cheap beach town, please?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:09 PM Flag
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yes, please answer this question! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:16 AM Flag
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Sorry...was away from the computer. We are not in NYC so probably not helpful. Our suburban house in 15 minutes outside of Boston and our beach house is in Gloucester MA. [ Reply | More
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that is what we do- we have a beach house that we own and rent an apartment in Manhattan. To be fair this was initially driven by economics but works for us. [ Reply | More
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Where is your beach house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:16 AM