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[ - ] Is Serena going to win?!?!? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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She's been playing great. I'm hoping the crowd helps her overcome any pressure based nerves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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me too- that was just an amazing overhead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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yes, and getting to the drop shot first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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I hope so. The other girl is hitting really well. I always get so nervous!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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I've been following Bianca the whole two weeks. Really enjoyed her playing, but she has a lifetime. I want to see Serena win this one in NY. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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Agreed. Love that Markle is here for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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I dont know what to think about Markle.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:34 PM Flag
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+1 and that's being nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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who cares. she's her friend and she's supporting Serena. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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It probably goes both ways. She flew below Serena’s radar before Harry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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Markle is there for herself. Loves suddenly being an A-lister and getting the attention and adoration. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:48 PM Flag
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I dub you Tennis mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:00 PM Flag
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it's a Russian troll [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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OP here. Actually a NYC mom who loves tennis! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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A troll dropped in on your thread, then :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendations for flats that are dressy enough for weddings? Heels and I just don't get along. Looking for something metallic, or nude if dressy enough. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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Valentino? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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Rene Caovila [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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Would these work? https://www.colehaan.com/tali-modern-bow-ballet-nude-leather/701937742697.html?71700000045363566;s.a=GOOGLE;p.a=71700000045363566;as.a=58700004662825236;c.n=PLA_Brand_Density;p.n=PLA_Brand_Density;as.n=PLA_Brand_Density_Men;qpb=1;&bidkw=PRODUCT_GROUP&dvc=c%26lsft%3Dadtype:pla,channel:online&gclsrc=aw.ds&&gclid=Cj0KCQjwqs3rBRCdARIsADe1pfSe5d9L1vIG9Uw3oPUX5L07cCXFUOR3FBbun7YGDXTcRy9XB4dgebwaAqg0EALw_wcB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:31 PM Flag
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Sorry for the crazy long link! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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I think those look a little business-like, BUT honestly, nobody is going to be really looking at your feet, and they are pretty. If you like them and also would wear them afterward, why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Stuart Weitzman [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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I will be reviled, but look at Clarks. I have a pair of their gold tone flats -- well there is a 1/2" heel that is pretty wide like a loafer heel -- that I have worn to work parties where I needed go be on the go the whole time. Got a number of compliments and not one side eye from the chi-chi crew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Going to London for the first time in a very long time. If I leave my phone on airplane mode, can I get by on just using wifi to check email and text? Or should I set something up with my carrier to avoid roaming charges? I have Verizon. Thanks. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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Verizon costs 10 a day extra in London. Might be worth it to just have what you need. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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op. you're totally right. I'm weirdly cheap about things like this. thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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I can be that way too. I think that is totally worth it though. It does not kick in unless you use the service in a particular day. You don't have to commit to the whole week, so just go day by day and connect when you need it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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I always just use wifi, especially if on vacation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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I always get international service for when I travel - do it - you'll need it. we do try to use wifi as much as possible of course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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All carriers have a daily international option. ATT just extends whatever you have domestically to International (so if you are unlimited data at home, you would be in London). Especially travelling I like to have data in case I get lost. Frankly, especially in London, where I go more often than other cities, but not enough to explore without getting lost! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:29 AM Flag
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Just buy a new SIM card at the airport. It's $20. Then use wifi at hotel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:37 AM Flag
[ - ] SISTERHOOD!!!! GO SERENA!!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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Yes!!!! Goooooo Serena! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Loved it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:30 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of a man who describes himself as a lovable rogue? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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The guy I knew who used to talk like this about himself was about 300lbs and died in his sleep last year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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Trying to cover insecurity with humor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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He’s an asshole and he knows it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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What makes him a rogue? Probably nothing good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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can't keep pecker in pants [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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or in trouble with the law. Maybe he was arrested for public intoxication or lewdness. What a scamp! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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Scamp? That's tough talk, sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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Scamp is a euphemism for boys will be boys. You're bound to be disappointed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:14 PM Flag
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She was a vamp a tramp and a bit of a scamp ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:15 PM Flag
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...she was a V ... A ... M ... Peeeeee, ... NP. I'm old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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Time Traveler mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:21 PM Flag
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I think that when people tell you about themselves it's smart to listen. He's saying: I'm charismatic and unreliable (at best, maybe even untrustworthy) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:15 PM Flag
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He’s a rake or a cad, but downplaying it so as not to induce vapors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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Long as he's not a ram-cat or a rakehell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 01:57 PM Flag
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He realizes that his behavior is no longer acceptable (sexist jokes maybe, or ordering the women in his life around, or sleeping whith whoever he wants to whenever he wants to while still expecting a hot meal at home), doesn't want to change himself and so is trying to dress it up in some kind of romantic bullshit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:31 AM Flag
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Drinking problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:33 PM Flag
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That he wishes he were Tom Jones or Colonel Flashman, but isn't. Be careful. -HM [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I felt it was so annoying when some parents at DC’s preschool ask if we are going anywhere for holidays etc. I felt this was kind of nosy. If one shares it then fine but I wouldn’t ask such personal questions. It also seemed like a way to brag about their own vacations. Is it just me or anyone else feel same way.I’m self-employed so I don’t plan ahead, but I usually go away for months on a whim, so it’s different from employee-mentality who has to plan ahead and let the company they work for that they will be off this day etc. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:16 PM Flag
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Oh good lord. You do need to feel superior don't you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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People are just making conversation. It is fun to talk about holidays. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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I'm very reserved and private, and even I wouldn't consider "what do you have planned over the break" to be a "personal question." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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lol. agree with this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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Oh my god, we’re all going to die! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Wait, what holidays? Are people actually talking about Christmas already? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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That’s small talk. Not prying into your personal life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:37 PM Flag
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I think some people meant to be small talk, some of them really nosy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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The problem however, is when the receiving party views everything as an affront. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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your Take is just ridiculous I’m sorry. I don’t really care if you’re going anywhere. It’s small talk. I’m not judging you or your budget. When did everyone get so sensitive to every question. It’s the same as what kind of work do you do? Blows my mind that these questions are offensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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The work question is offensive because it's tantamount to asking "how much money do you have and where do you get it." It's also so insufferably dull to talk about work -- one's own or others'. Surely you can think of a more interesting conversational gambit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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The work question is not offensive. It’s a way that people can discover what they might have in common. I can’t imagine asking someone what they do to get a sense of what they make - who would do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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You should tell them just that. "I can go away for months on a whim so I don't plan vacations when school is out and all the proles are on 'vacation.' (Air quotes). I just don't have that enployee mentality." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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Yes. Do this OP! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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Yes! She will make friends quickly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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Yes! separating the wheat from the chaff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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Which is which? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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Small. Talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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Dcs are 6 and 3 and we’ve never gone away during any spring break because the times just haven’t worked out for us and I ask people what they’re doing. I’m friendly and chat with people and it’s pretty much the same as asking how was your weekend. You’re way too sensitive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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Is Lilly back in the room? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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I kr. People without trust funds just don't *understand*! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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Vacation plans are official permissible small talk subject, no different from the weather. You are over sensitive for personal reasons. Just babble a list of places you might like to go. Nobody is really listening. Or say, haven’t decided yet, any suggestions? And then let them babble about all the places they have been or want to go to. Done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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yeah, if vacations are out, what safe small talk subject is there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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This. My hairdresser ask me about vacation at some point during every visit. She has no particular interest in my vacation plans. Just small talk. She asks me, I ask her in return, we compare likes/ dislikes, best/ worst, fun places we hear our friends are going. It passes the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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My hairdresser has a beautiful photo of a resort at her station, and I think I've asked her three times where it is. I ask but don't care enough to remember, and she explains every time without seeming to remember she told me before. It passes the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:59 PM Flag
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Is this fake? I really hope there aren't many out there like you, how miserable! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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It's just small talk. NBD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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It’s called small talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Dinner tonight, my friend's DH is trying to set me up with one of his friends. Weirdly nervous about it! It's like a date, but with an audience! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:41 PM Flag
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I would feel the same way. I hope it goes well, did your friend tell you anything about the guy ? You need another woman's opinion ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:43 PM Flag
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He's been friends with her DH since college, but after college he moved. She said he has the same dry sense of humor that I do and we both like cooking. He has a dog. She's big on details, obviously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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Good luck! I think that would make me less nervous, fwiw, but I know normal people agree with you. Twice I've fixed people up with each other, and both times I offered to do a double date for their first meeting, but they declined. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] If you received an expensive birthday gift from your dh that you really didn't like much, would you ask him to return it ? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:36 PM Flag
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I suppose it depends what it is but yes have returned plenty gifts as gotten me. He means well but doesn’t always get it right and better to exchange and get something we are both happy with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:38 PM Flag
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OP; here is the situation. My dh gave me two birthday gifts: a new ipad ( I guess I can use this but I'm not really excited about it, feel like my iphone and laptop have me covered ) and an Apple Pencil which I have no interest in. I have been trying unsuccessfully to get into a new career after staying home, and since I have no income, I rarely treat myself. I would really like to spend an equal amount of money on clothes and shoes rather than this unneeded technical stuff. Can I say that without sounding ungrateful ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:41 PM Flag
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I thought that too until I received an iPad for Christmas...I can’t love w/o it now. My laptop is like a one ton dinosaur compared to my iPad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:45 PM Flag
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Op here: yes, I have had two ipads in the past, so I get it. My last one died a year ago and I do not miss it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:46 PM Flag
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^ I think it really depends on how you spend your time and lifestyle type stuff. For me personally, I can't really use my software on an ipad so its only good for reading / facebook and I don't have time for that much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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So funny. I absolutely never thought I wanted an iPad. My dh gave me one one Christmas and it’s become like an extension of my hand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Are these gifts a real financial stretch for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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I don't have any income of my own right now so I don't feel comfortable dropping 700-800 on myself (I am frugal, and a saver). As a result, I can't stop thinking about what I would *want* if I had this much money to spend on myself. And I would want new clothes and shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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To clarify - I feel like if a person is going to spend that much money, it should be something they REALLY want. Not feel "meh" about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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You know your DH better than we do, but if he really thought he was providing you something useful as you get back to work and it’s a. On-issue financially, he could be hurt if you want to return them for a jacket and pair of shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:04 PM Flag
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These are intended for personal use. He is a tech guy and he likes this stuff. I was always interested in fashion so thats what I like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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I don’t think he’ll be offended. Definitely return the pencil. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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Absolutely. You don't have to be insulting when you do it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:45 PM Flag
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Op here: what would you say ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:46 PM Flag
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The apple pencil is $130 and I have been wearing the same sneakers for 3 years because I'm trying to stick to a budget. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:50 PM Flag
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My dh actually returned a gift he got me one Xmas (knife set) b/c he found he could get it a lot cheaper somewhere else. After I oohed and ahh'd about it, he packed it up and in a few days we got the less expensive one, ha ha. He's a good guy. I like his thriftyness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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No way. Rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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^That said, we establish our budget jointly, and there's no way the price of an iPad would make the cut. If he said he needed a thousand bucks in the gift budget for me, I would hint to see what his intentions were. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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He is your dh. Talk to him .. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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I think it's too late now. He wanted to surprise you with something and make you happy. I think it would hurt his feelings to say you don't want it. But christmas is coming soon. Start hinting now about the clothes and sneakers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Sadly, I think you are right. We are Jewish, so don’t really do Christmas gifts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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Why do so many women here think it's ok to behave like a spoiled child? "I don't want this present! Take it away and bring me something else!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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I am the op and I have said no such thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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Wouldn’t most people feel upset if an $800 gift were basically going to waste ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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I would rather my husband return the gift and get what he wanted vs it not being used. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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A spouse's gift is different than any other gift. The money spent is also yours, so you have a bigger say. OP can thank DH extensively for the thought, but insist that she'd rather spend the money on something she really needs/wants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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I would definitely say something. DH and I have each returned gifts the other gave us, I would much rather that he have something he really likes than just put up with something meh, and vice versa. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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This gift dissatisfaction is only a symptom. The real problem seems to be that you feel like DH is more entitled to spend the household income because he is the one earning it. It's weird, imo, for you to be foregoing clothing -- a necessity -- and receiving costly toys from him as if they are charity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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OP here: thank you but I do not agree this is an accurate assessment of the issue. I would venture that perhaps you could be projecting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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Yes I have and he stopped getting me things on a regular basis for years. Haha. I’m totally fine with it. Recently he got me a designer wallet which I would never buy for myself and I fought the urge to return it and have been using it. He’s also bought jewelry which I’ve exchanged. He didn’t seem to mind that time. I think if you are really nice about telling him, he might be accepting but it’s tough. Some men get really offended about this type of stuff...maybe bc they feel that they put a lot of thought into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:37 PM Flag
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I'm a DH and I would be offended if I was told to take it away, but there's nothing wrong with exchanging it for something you prefer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Stupid fight of the day with DH. I asked if I could take 7yo DC to lunch today (and he could stay with 6yo or take her out) to have 1-on-1 time. He said okay, but only if lunch is $10 or less per person. Fine. He asked where I was thinking of going and I said I don’t know yet. Later DC told him we had discussed possibly going for sushi, and DH went ballistic, saying that I lied by omission by not telling him I was considering that. Ugh. 75 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:43 PM Flag
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emotional abuse. Get out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:46 PM Flag
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100%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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Op: he’s making me crazy...feel trapped by all his rules. He wants to grill out tonight but only if all of us accompany him at the grill the whole time, because in his words, “I’m not doing it just to cook for you guys.” [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:54 PM Flag
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Leave now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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np-THIS. Take it from me. I just filed for divorce, long term marriage. IT ONLY GETS WORSE, I should have gotten out a long time ago. I am now but i wasted so much time. PEOPLE DON"T CHANGE just remember that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:04 PM Flag
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Op: how old are your kids? I would need to take them out of their schools I think, which is hard since we have moved them around a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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I have one left in HS and two in college. BUT, kids are resilient, they always adjust. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:09 PM Flag
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Op: how is DH taking it? Is he being spiteful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:13 PM Flag
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he isn't happy, but he did some really really bad things. He never thought I would serve him. He was shocked, even though no one and I mean no one would stay around and live with him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:15 PM Flag
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Op: I totally get it. I hope he cooperates with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:21 PM Flag
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Demand he sit with you when you cook. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:08 PM Flag
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That is a conversation I would have with my kid: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:46 PM Flag
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Op: I do feel like a teenager sometimes- on a tight leash! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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NP: that would be an intolerable life for me. We’ve never treated each other like this in 30 years of marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:58 PM Flag
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Same here. I do this with my son because he is 12 and does not know the value of money. My dh would never and he is frugal and I was a sahm for years/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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"Taking myself out for a couple glasses of wine, I'll be back when you calm the fuck down, princess." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:47 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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100% this. Frankly, I would have looked at him like he'd lost his mind when he gave me a $10/pp cap on the food. WTF? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:52 PM Flag
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Obviously this isn't a one-off behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:09 PM Flag
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Op: no it’s not. Ongoing issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:21 PM Flag
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Are you having financial problems? Is the why he is setting a budget for lunch? He sounds very anxious and it comes out as trying to control everything (which understandably feels oppressive to you). Couples therapy can help break this kind of pattern. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:09 PM Flag
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np-ITD, this isn't about the money or the food on the grill, this is about control. Her dh is extremely controlling, and this won't end well is my prediction. These things usually escalate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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I literally wrote that anxiety "comes out as having to control everything." You obviously don't have a grasp on the symptoms of mental health diagnosis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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Op: no financial problems but def very anxious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:12 PM Flag
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np-has he always been like this? could he be cheating, doing other things behind your back? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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Op: he’s always been somewhat controlling but I thought it was OCD; for example he would text me when I was coming home from a work trip, “please wash hand upon entry.” [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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Hands [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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ugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:21 PM Flag
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He treats you like a child. You have a parent/child relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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omg Is he also Suitcase Husband? You have to get OUT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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Op: I don’t think he’s cheating but I guess it’s possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:24 PM Flag
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Why would you care anyway? I would let an OW have him if I were you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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Accompany him at the grill?? He sounds like he has mental problems, seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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Op: I wonder sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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from the little you told us, it seems so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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you wonder?! Seriously. Clearly he does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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Op: what kind do you think? OCD or something else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:32 PM Flag
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He's got a terminal case of ControllingAsshole-Itis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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Lol. Sometimes that is the dx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Set your alarm for 3am. Wake up and start screaming bloody murder at him about things he's done (or hell, even things he hasn't done). The next morning cook breakfast with a big smile on and pretend nothing happened. Do this every time he thinks tantrums are OK. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:21 PM Flag
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Op: lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:22 PM Flag
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W. T. F. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:41 PM Flag
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Did you also post about your dh getting mad because he thought you overtipped at the barber $1-2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:44 PM Flag
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np: Or tearing up the doctor bill so he wouldn't see an overcharge? Or are there just a lot of these guys around? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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There was also the woman who was terrified her DH would discover she’d opened a credit card account in her name, and the DH who lost his mind over furniture. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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Don't forget the guy who had kittens because of a small christmas tree AND the dh who flipped out about chocolate. I want to open my home to these women. This is no way to live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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Op: my DH was the chocolate, credit card, and barber. I know, it’s bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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jfc. Divorce or stop complaining. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:16 PM Flag
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I know this is a "tough love" response and I wonder, OP: Does this help? Or could you use our help in another way? Maybe another woman here has felt the way you have about leaving (fear) and she can talk you through the steps? I think local women's shelter can provide you with legal aid and financial/emotional assistance to leave an abusive relationship. Yes, you are in an abusive Relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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PP is nice. I have posted before about my relationship with an abusive boyfriend. He “flew off the handle” over stupid stuff all the time. Once, he started throwing stuff at me after accusing me of being too messy because I left a printout in the printer tray, ironic because the printer sat on a desk full of empty coke cans and overflowing ashtrays that he had left there. Yes, this is abuse. It is very hard to see it, when you are in it. Please talk to someone ( like a therapist, maybe a support group ? ) and begin to make a plan. It will be very hard in the short term but a million times better in the long term. Please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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NP (1) Read Too Good to Leave Too Bad To Stay. UB recommended to me. (2) FWIW UB is TOO QUICK to suggest divorce so much easier to tell someone else what to do versus DIY. Realize that there are two sides to every coin. (3) Read Loving your spouse when you feel like walking away, by the same author as 5 love languages. I'm not Christian. I appreciated the template letters. (4) Deploy Medium Chill, 180, etc. get busy. Get out of the house. Reduce communication with DH and when you do communicate keep it calm. (5) Brene Brown. HTH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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There is nothing that is too good to stay about OP's situation. She needs to find a therapist who treats abused spouses. She needs a lawyer and a plan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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You're a fly on her wall? #3 has a few chapters that relate to OP. Not everyone is a knee jerk #2. She keeps posting here so she's not #2. "Can drag a horse to water but can't force that horse to drink." Accept who is posting (not you, not your life) and answer her questions accordingly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:51 AM Flag
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Did you read the threads that she started about all the other incidents? There is nothing too good to stay about her situation. It is no way to live. OP, I hope you can get help. This is abuse. You are entitled to so much more than abuse. Your kids deserve better too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:09 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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NP. I missed it...what were these other examples? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:31 PM Flag
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Make a plan. Please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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Wasn't there also one who flipped about leaving the light over the stove on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:13 PM Flag
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This is totally fucked up and not normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:44 PM Flag
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This isn't a stupid fight. You are married to a controlling freak. GET OUT. CHANGE SCHOOLS. NONE OF IT MATTERS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:47 PM Flag
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I feel bad for your kid tbh. He sees his mother being abused. Yes, it is abuse. He's going to hate both of you soon. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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Yeah, after reading that OP has been complaining about this guy's insanity for a while now I no longer feel bad for her. Too bad she's wrecking her DC's life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:17 PM Flag
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Stfu victim abuser [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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I'm not a victim abuser. I'm a woman who was abused by her father and then was in an abusive marriage. I left. So fuck off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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Was he like this before marriage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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You sure he doesn't have a brain tumor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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Actions like these are hallmarks of “Power and Control” aspects of domestic abuse. Please call the national domestic abuse hotline 1 800 799 7233. Many women call and ask “ Is this abuse?” They can help you get a clearer understanding that what he is subjecting you to is off the charts not normal and not ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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FAKE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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Why would this be fake? There’s clearly a lot of women on UB with controlling DHs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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NP: which is sort of comical or depressing (depending how you look at it) since the same women are probably scooping out dating advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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You need to shut up. It's real. You're probably the asshole in your relationship which is why you can't relate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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This sounds like an exhausting way to live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:06 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.13.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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I read through this entire string and my one advice to you is start preparing yourself for financial independence. If you don't work out of home, start planning it. If you need to do things to bolster your knowledge on anything that tethered to this man start doing it: financial state, accounts, investments, housing, everything. My ex DH is controlling, a narcissist, demeaned me (and after 15 years, I believed everything he said, meanwhile I accomplished more than him), nice one day, downright bully the next. I've spent years in therapy working on myself when all along it was him who was messing with me. I finally divorced him and it is THE best thing I ever did. Believe yourself. You aren't the crazy one. He is. He will NEVER change. Even after divorce, he will continue to be like this. Oh, he'll have a period of time where he's "normal" but he will regress and it goes up a notch. Mine physically assaulted me. And, no, domestic violence doesn't discriminate. We live a very nice lifestyle. Do you and your DCs a favor and leave him behind. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:04 PM Flag
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This is excellent and compassionate advice, pay close attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:34 PM Flag
[ - ] there is a private school in morristown that i'm thinking of sending dd to for HS. But really and i know this is wrong, the top (cum laude) kids are applying and getting rejected from the very top colleges. I know that sounds awful, and Wesleyan is great and all, but i can't help judging. 63 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:37 PM Flag
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Yawn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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I'm sorry your daughter got rejected from Wesleyan. That sucks. There are lots of good schools out there though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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That’s not what she’s saying. She’s saying best school top kids go to is Wesleyan. BTW, I sent to to Wesleyan and got equally good education to sibling who sent HYP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:05 PM Flag
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went [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:05 PM Flag
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Competition for college has outpaced the ability of the most desirable schools to keep up. It's not really news and it doesn't have any particular bearing on the quality of a prep school. It's just a different landscape. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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No, wrong. Look at college admissions stats of top prep/ private schools. Routinely 1/3 Ivies, 1/3 top lacs, 1/3 highly selective though less prestigious colleges like Trinity, Franklin and Marshall etc. BC, BU. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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And the legacy percentages? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Private school in wealthy NJ area will also have legacies; it matters , but strength of academics matters more, in terms of significant admissions from a prep school or lack thereof, year after year after year. And remember it is Legacy + Significant donations constantly increasing since graduation, that actually makes the difference, legacy but no or little donation ( which is a lot more common than you may believe) does not give a real leg up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:20 PM Flag
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TT NYC schools don’t just have legacies. They have mega wealthy, mega connected legacies. Obama and Clinton are writing their recommendations and their friends are on the boards of Ivy League schools. It matters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:47 AM Flag
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Um I think as an outsider you may be overstating the universality of this phenomenon even at NY TT schools, where most kids are just not connected in the way you have imagined. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:28 PM Flag
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This, your imagination has gotten way ahead of reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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Plus, if you are not an HYP etc. legacy for your DD, which it sounds as if you are not, irrelevant for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:21 PM Flag
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But Wesleyan is a top LAC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Top LACs are Amherst Williams Swarthmore.. Wesleyan , Oberlin, just a tad below that, still very competitive, but not tippy top. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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Wesleyan is quite similar to Amherst and Williams. Acceptance rates for all 3 range between 13 to 17 percent (amherst 13%, Williams 15%, Wesleyan 17%). Oberlin has an acceptance rate of 30%, so really not comparable to the other 3. My niece goes to Williams and knows people who were rejected from Wesleyan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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Not as prestigious. May be just as hard to get in , but we’re clearly talking snob value here not comparing academics. And those three are the ‘ best’ lacs for boasting purposes. Not advocating, not judging myself, just describing the boasting mom pecking order as observed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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ok, gotcha. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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So QED, top colleges are not impressed by grads of this school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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That's not true at all. Great LACs are classic feeders to great grad schools. It's almost the point. You don't come out of an LAC necessarily qualified to do anything in particular, you're just given lots of information and training in critical thinking skills. Mine went to Williams and he's going to Georgetown next. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:31 PM Flag
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Mixup-I was referring to grads of the Morristown high school OP is considering for DD that has poor college admissions record. Apparently colleges don’t think much of the academics at this high school, since admissions stats are consistently lackluster. Not commenting on merits of grads of all these exceptional colleges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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Yes. MoBeard is not a top private school. That’s why. And kids aren’t that stellar and little diversity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:08 PM Flag
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I dont understand. Are you saying that top LACs are not top colleges? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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No. OP commented that a particular high school she is considering for her DD has poor college admissions; as evidence, she noted a top honors student was rejected by Wesleyan and she thought that was unimpressive. My comment was that if this is a common result at that high school (that even the top students can’t get in to top lac colleges, it’s probably a sign that top colleges do not respect the academics at this high school. That happens, and when it does, the high school needs to make a big public effort to upgrade its academics and then do a tour of top colleges alerting them to the revamp and trying to convince the colleges to give their applicants a second look now that standards have been raised. Then we got into a side quibble about which are the most boast- worthy top lacs. That was off topic, because the OP’s real point is that schools like Wesleyan are not accepting even the top kids from this particular high school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:20 PM Flag
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Those are connected kids, though. You're giving the school credit for the accomplishments and relationships of the parents. Which might be true, but it has zero to do with the actual educational curriculum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:17 PM Flag
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It has to do with the colleges perception of the academics at prep schools. Ask any admissions officers. Grads of Collegiate and Brearley are not more connected than grads of Spence and Chapin. But year after year, Br and Co do just a few HYPS spots better than S and C. They all do well compared to random other schools. But the difference between Br and Co and the others is small but consistent over many years, confirming colleges think these two are academically just that bit stronger than other TT SS NY schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:55 PM Flag
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Get a life please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:11 PM Flag
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This is not arcane info. Anyone who grew up in NY and attended these schools knows this. It’s been true since the 80s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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Yes except back then Chapin wasn’t in the running, trailed N-B by a mile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:27 AM Flag
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Maybe half a mile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 02:34 AM Flag
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So don’t send DD there. Simple. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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Whatever school you send your DD to, you need to evolve your expectations on college. If Wesleyan isn’t your kind of school fine but get used to the idea of similar ranked colleges, even if they have different styles to Wesleyan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:20 PM Flag
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And I'm guessing you mean this get used to this rank as one that is not a shoe-in for anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:35 PM Flag
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Just FYI, it’s shoo-in (as in the verb shoo), not shoe- in (as in Manolo). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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Ha! Thx! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:59 AM Flag
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So here’s the truth: this means that the top colleges ( the ones rejecting these kids) do not think highly of this school. They probably have had some experience with its graduates in the past, may be quite some time ago, and found the kids to be poorly prepared for college. In turn, the school has apparently done nothing to upgrade its academics and then work on communicating that to colleges. Conclusion: don’t send your dc there if you are seeking top notch academics. For comparison, go to Collegiate ( NYC boys school) website and look at the exmissions stats they provide for last 5 years. That’s what college admissions stats look like where colleges value a school’s academics. Contrary to what one OP says, this has EVERY particular bearing on the quality of a prep school. And the verdict on the school you are considering is guilty of lackluster academics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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How old is your DD? Is she a brilliant kid now, who gets nothing but straight As, picks up foreign languages on her own, always does extra work, is years ahead of her classmates in math, so that you have needed to get her tutors with whom to do advanced academic work to keep her from being bored? Most important, do her teachers routinely comment with emphasis that she is the most brilliant student they have taught in many years? Because if not, no high school will change the basic nature of her intellect. And you would be foolish to be thinking of Ivies, Stanford MIT etc. as either attainable, or a good fit for her. If she works hard, Rutgers may be attainable, quite good among state schools, you’re lucky to be in NJ. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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Sorry, but I went ivy and kids there were smart, but not smart in the way you're discussing for the most part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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Agree, but that is what HYPS are looking for in applicants, especially those from lackluster high schools. Just read this board, all about how nobody without a 4.5 average and 1580 sat plus some “hook” will ever get in to a top college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:24 PM Flag
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^^^also, if you attended Podunk High School and you are HYPS material, that is exactly what your teachers will have been saying about you for years. I also went HYP, but from a top prep school (so had a realistic estimation of my academic level as smart but no genius); Met so many kids from random high schools across the country who were shocked and dismayed to find out that compared to their highly selected classmates in college, they were just academically average. Because they had all been tippy top of their high school class without ever having to study hard, praised as academic stars since 3rd grade, told by their teachers they were“best student I have taught in 20 years.” They arrived at HYPS fully expecting to still to be the smartest kid in the class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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Please. I went to a top college and the smartest kids there were the stars from small towns. Because they weren’t groomed from k like prep school kids it was all natural, obvious intelligence. The athletes were noticeably the weakest, followed by the super rich kids. Prep school kids as a lot were spoiled and didn’t work that hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:06 PM Flag
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Reading comprehension fail. Your post does not even address the same point the op was making, let alone refute or contradict it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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Yeah, I hear you, but the Board is wrong about that. It is true that if you want to get in without a hook (like extracurriculars and/or sports and/or family name) then you better be off the charts smart (whichever school you're coming from). But if you have have one of the aforementioned extras, you don't need to be a genius. Where I was, there was a small minority of true geniuses and a big sea of very smart kids, some of whom came from public and others who came from privates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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But I will say that even with a hook, getting in is a big crap shoot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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Yes admission to any specific school is way more of a crap shoot than it used to be, mainly because schools manage acceptances to generate impressive Yield Statistics. But getting in to at least one of a correctly targeted tier of schools is actually no more unpredictable than in days of yore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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Responder from above. Agree. Although the added statistical noise from the managed yields means that a small percentage of those kids will get unlucky and not match in the correct tier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:55 AM Flag
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Yes agree, that used to happen exactly NEVER. Now it does pop up here and there with unfortunate and unfair regularity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:23 AM Flag
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Well you’d never know it from this board where people act like you need 1580 and perfect grades to even have any shot. They read SAT scores form admitted students which is way off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:07 PM Flag
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Yes that’s what we were saying: you’d never know it from this board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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IME, the most important thing is where your DC has a good fit and will be happy. I did not go to a "very top college" but it worked out more than fine, I loved my college, was able to go to a great grad school, and made 2MM+ last year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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This. Other than snob value of the name, who cares. You worked hard and made a great life for yourself. Brilliant! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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villa walsh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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Oh it’s a private Catholic school? That might go some way to explain poor exmissions- colleges may expect applicants will choose a Catholic college (especially if historically many do so choose), so less likely to accept and ruin the college yield number. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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Just checked website- OP is right, these exmissions (listed by year from 2015) are truly appalling. Only spend money on this if for deep religious commitment- it may be perfect for that. Be surprised if local public in this wealthy area doesn’t do at least as well if not better on college admissions. Yikes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:13 AM Flag
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If you are going to send your DD to private school for social reasons (although Villa Walsh, kind of sounds like a downmarket British seaside resort), then your choice is clear and that’s fine. But if you are trying to find a school that will get DD better college access, doesn’t sound as if this is it, so why waste the money. Not as if it’s a nationally known school like Exeter or Groton that will look good on her resume forever no matter where she goes to college. Have you checked their SAT score averages, compared to your local public? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:34 PM Flag
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One word: Lawrenceville. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:43 PM Flag
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This. OP, if you’re this worried about exmissions, just apply for your kid to be a day student at Lawrenceville. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:35 PM Flag
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MKA and Newark Academy are considered better than Morristown Beard. Also what about Pingry? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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Is Catholic school less expensive? Maybe she just can’t afford Lawrenceville or similar? Or maybe dcs scores are to low to get in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:21 AM Flag
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Yes, much, much less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:13 AM Flag
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mka is trash [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:45 AM Flag
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OP, no need to tell us, but ask yourself what type of schools you and DH attended. Most schools if they have changed since then ( and some have not) have only become more selective than they were in your day. So start thinking of schools like your own for your DC, and research current admissions standards there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:09 AM Flag
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If it’s Morristown Beard then it’s because the school is not an academic powerhouse. Kids get in there who couldn’t get into Pingry, Newark Academy etc. But kids seem to like it. They used to have good remedial program. No AP classes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:56 PM Flag
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Morristown Beard? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Robert Caro is 83. What if he never finishes the final LBJ book? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I think you seem lost [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:52 PM Flag
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I wonder what happens if his wife dies. He says she's the only research assistant he trusts. Although of course one hopes the research is done now and he just has to type the damned thing. [ Reply | More
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alas, writing isn't like that, but I hear you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you know about THEATRE XIV in Brooklyn? I was offered free tickets, but nor sure what it's all about 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:09 PM Flag
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Haven’t been yet but it’s gotten great reviews. Ballet dance company with a burlesque twist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:18 PM Flag
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Not sure what burlesque is all about. Can you please elaborate? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:35 PM Flag
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It’s a caricature of more serious works. Intended to be comedic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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Its a show with a number of acts, usually comic and almost always Benny Hill-level sexual. Sometimes there is a magician with a smoke and mirrors act and there "might" be a few drag queens and kings hanging about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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^^ You might get a hit of Cirque du Soliel type acrobatics [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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A little Cirque du Soleil with comedic theater. You drink a cocktail and admire 1/2 naked people in bejeweled jockstraps and pasties with tassels. Wonder why your body will never look like theirs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] For those of you who follow a no-sugar, low-carb diet to keep weight off, how often (if ever) do you allow yourself to indulge? I feel fortunate to have a lot to celebrate and people to celebrate with, but the constant “special occasions” challenge both my willpower and my waistline. It also doesn’t help that DH and I love food and great restaurants. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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Embarassing question - how to deal with constipation that comes with? Ive always stopped the low carb anything because of that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:31 PM Flag
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Magnesium or Colace [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:40 PM Flag
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vegetables, fruit, beans, whole grains, etc.. are all good for you and keep you regular, so eat those any think more no sugar, no white flour rather than no carb. [ Reply | More
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Sorry this isn't really helpful. But if you have a lot of events where you want to enjoy carbs...why not pause your low carb way of eating for a month or two. Go with reducing portion size, monitoring calorie intake, etc. [ Reply | More
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I’ve tried Weight Watchers (portion control) and it doesn’t work for me these days. I seem to be extra sensitive to carbs the older I get. I don’t mean “true” special occasions but more like the ever revolving door of birthdays, baby showers, anniversaries, holidays, etc. It’s always something. I know I have to discover my “cheat” limit for myself but curious how much others get away with. [ Reply | More
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This is me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Just booked a trip to New Orleans for Rosh Hashana break - very end of September. Going with DH, who loves jazz and teens. What are the "must see" for us? I want it to be special for DH, as he has a special birthday. 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:31 PM Flag
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If your DH loves teens, maybe go to Alabama [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:33 PM Flag
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There are men who like teen girls everwhere. Not just one place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:40 PM Flag
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Ah ha... our teens are coming along [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:45 PM Flag
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Or West Palm Beach [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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+2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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Beignets at Cafe du Monde [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:34 PM Flag
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Noted, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:45 PM Flag
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+1, this was the best part of our trip, we went late at night and it was still open and busy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:08 PM Flag
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Stay at Hotel Peter and Paul. It is outside the French Quarter and a great property. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:49 AM Flag
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St. Charles street car; cemetery tour (go with a guide--we like Free Tours by Foot) lots of history in those graves; maybe Jazz at Preservation Hall--buy tickets in advance; Canal Street Ferry to see the Mississippi River--you can cross to Algiers and walk around a bit or come back on the next ferry); Frenchman Street (your kids may not be able to get into many venues, but there's street music as well); Audubon Zoo; Snug Harbor has jazz and allows teens [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:50 PM Flag
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Magazine Street for eating and shopping [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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Willie Mae's Scotch House for fried chicken [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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TY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:03 PM Flag
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np- Best fried chicken in the country imo. [ Reply | More
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TY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:03 PM Flag
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Thank you!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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Where should we stay? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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in a hotel or bed and breakfast--do not do Airbnb-it's not legal and is hurting NOLA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:55 PM Flag
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OP: not considering Airbnb, not our thing. Asking about area other than French Quarter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 05:01 PM Flag
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We stayed at the Ritz Carleton and the club room there was the best we have seen in the US. [