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[ - ] How do snowbirds do it? I want to spend end of October through March in another location for better winter weather but sadly not excited by housing (feels like a trade off? better weather but worse home). Sign a lease for a year? furnish? sublet? fly out to do this or just arrange online? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:36 AM Flag
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Just buy a place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:31 AM Flag
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+1, everyone I know who does this in Florida or Arizona just buys a house or condo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:55 AM Flag
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+2 unless you are wealthy enough to afford help with maintaining a property a condo is the way to go. The only maintenance we do is to pulldown the hurricane shutters, clean out the fridge and leave the place for months on end. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:11 AM Flag
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If I were to spend that long, I’d prob buy a place. When my kids were young, we spent feb in Miami Beach and rented for a month. When my husband retires and kids are gone, we will prob start spending 2 months of the winter (Jan and feb) somewhere warm. I already have 3 properties to maintain. I don’t want to deal w another, so we will rent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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I disagree with previous posters - rent first and then if you like the place, buy there. You could try out different parts of the country - New Mexico, Arizona, ocean side FL, gulf side FL, southern states, etc. Then buy a condo (not a whole house) in a place you really enjoyed spending a few months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:33 PM Flag
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I would buy a condo so someone is maintaining the exterior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Switched from private to public this year. So far, so good. Already feeling remorse about all the money we spent on private. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:59 AM Flag
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What grades are your kids in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:02 AM Flag
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Third grade [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:06 AM Flag
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Are you in NYC? So two days of school . . . ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:06 AM Flag
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ikr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:07 AM Flag
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well, it does stink to have that money gone, but you have started saving now. df moved kids when eldest was in 5th and youngest was in 1st and they are so so happy a few years later because it was a ton of money out the door. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:06 AM Flag
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We did the opposite this year. Switched from public to private (NYC) and happy so far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:15 AM Flag
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What grade? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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NP: so did we, also happy so far. 9th grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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it's literally exactly the same as saying 'we switched from a dog to a cat this year and happy so far'. totally depends on the specifics and not necessarily applicable or helpful info beyond your family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:22 PM Flag
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BS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:28 PM Flag
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Op: yes, this is true. Let me specify that my special snowflake child is probably less special and less snowflakey than yours, so will probably be fine with the public school masses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:41 PM Flag
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You sound insufferable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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Just move forward. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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We did the same: chalk it up to experience and think about all of the money for grades 4 - 12 that you'll save. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:20 PM Flag
[ - ] DH lectures me a lot. Today he spoke for 16 minutes straight about something he didn't want me to do (I timed it), without stopping. If I try to walk away, he follows me and keeps talking, saying I can't end the "conversation". Anyone else's DH like this? What to do? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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Sounds like you're stone walling, and also being passive aggressive. You can't change others, only yourself, so I guess go to counselling and task the therapist to help yourself be assertive? kind? respectful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:43 AM Flag
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just stand up for yourself. tell him that he's hurting your feelings because he doesn't respect your choices and you simply don't want to hear his lecture anymore. say everything calmly. leave the house if necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:07 AM Flag
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What was the topic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:23 AM Flag
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This. That makes a big difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:21 AM Flag
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OP sounds like the same poster as this MP topic: http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55924940 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:24 PM Flag
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My dh tries to end discussions when he gets an answer he doesn’t want to hear, no matter how grounded in fact it is. Maybe your dh feels the same way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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Are you much younger than him? 10+ years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a friend who is really not doing well. She is barely holding on by a thread - her DH is chronically unemployed, she has to keep the family afloat. No one thinks they are rich. Her DH is very Status conscious though, hides his employment status, and want to project like he is a retired finance guy. No one believes it. Why does he do that? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:10 AM Flag
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Because men define their worth thru employment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:11 AM Flag
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This. Which is why women will thrive, and men will fail, as automation leads to universal basic income. Women have always defined their worth by what they contribute, to family and to community. Get ready for some hefty increases in men's suicides over the next 200 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:04 PM Flag
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She is part of the problem, she puts up with it and enables him to live the lie, she contributes to her own hell, sorry to say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:27 AM Flag
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So she should just tell everyone? I am the only one outside of her immediate family who she confides in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:43 AM Flag
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No, she should get a divorce; she is working and doing all she can to live a normal life, he is not, why stay with him? Look what it's doing to her, this is not about who she shares her problems with, this is about solving her problems, for her sakes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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He's embarrassed. Ashamed of being unemployed or underemployed, with no chance of regaining his former employment status. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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That’s obvious, but he’s not fooling anyone, so it’s kind of pointless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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What do you want him to do? Their misfortune seems to make you feel superior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:21 AM Flag
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No. She is great but I almost have disdain for what he’s doing to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:55 AM Flag
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That’s his coping mechanism for very high anxiety and pressure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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No one in your circle believes it but he knows a ton of other people casually who I’m sure believe it. You would be amazed at what people believe and it is easy to become addicted to the casual respect that comes from people thinking you are successful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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im fucking a married guy like that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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What an ass. How do you cope? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:57 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:06 AM Flag
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you then are a double loser- cheating with a married loser [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:03 AM Flag
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This, it’s bad enough to be married to that kind of loser. Why would you fuck him if you didn’t have to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:02 PM Flag
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omg. no one thinks they are rich. that is SO AWFUL. the shame. she is lucky to have you as a friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:22 PM Flag
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I think OP's point was that the DH pretends they are/tries to imply that they are when it's clear that's not the case, not that nobody thinks they are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:37 PM Flag
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Let's stop making excuses for the dude. He's a grown ass man who wants the luxuries and status of life without working for it. Fucking arrested development and hasn't matured since he turned 16. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I drive everywhere in my car, as I live in the burbs. I drive to and from work and drive the kids around all weekend. I want nothing more than a really nice, roomy SUV. I wonder whether I should splurge. I don’t have that much money. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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Look at used ones. Set a realistic budget and stick to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:23 AM Flag
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If your present car is serviceable, drive it. Start saving toward the suv, maybe a used one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:24 AM Flag
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I can’t even save money. Can’t afford a used contemporary one (it’s still around $25k). I mean I could use my entire bonus for it but I would think that it’s irresponsible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:42 AM Flag
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Then why are you even contemplating buying any car? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:00 PM Flag
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I drive my car all the time in the city. I’m happy w the space in my minivan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:43 AM Flag
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I hear what you're saying. I have a perfectly serviceable car with just about enough space, but during those drives/hanging out in parking lots waiting for kids to come out from practices, etc, I have wished for a more luxurious car to do so in. BUT, not in the budget, and not worth sacrificing for, IMO. With eyes closed and podcast playing I just imagine that I'm in a Lexus SUV or whatever :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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Get a 7 year old, well maintained Honda Pilot. You can get financing for a car up to seven years old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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This. My brother bought my parents a 13 year old, immaculately maintained Honda Odessey with all the upgrades. Even though it's an old car, it feels very luxurious since it's so big and clean and has the leather seats, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:18 PM Flag
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If you don't have much money, no, you should not be buying luxuries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:07 PM Flag
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I have kids and a small hatchback (Nissan Versa Note) that I appreciate. I love large vehicles but I became used to the car's smaller size and gas savings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:19 PM Flag
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I don't get the appeal of SUVs. You know they are much less safe than sedans, right? I think the height makes people feel safe, but it's an illusion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 12:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I bought a Tom Ford clutch in London and after trying it out in the store they switched it for a "fresh" one at the last minute. Back in NY... I open the package and the metal strap is completely not attached to the harness and it's missing the metal piece that would hold it together. I took the bag into Tom Ford on Madison and they said not only do I have to pay for the repair, it will likely take months while they order the super special metal piece from Italy. Where do people go in Manhattan for metal work??? I know leather is the Leather Spa. So disappointed as I've never bought anything from TF before. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:11 AM Flag
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You should do a chargeback via your credit card for defective product. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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ooh, nice one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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Thank you. Great idea. I hope I put it on Amex... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:31 AM Flag
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Still would like to know where to go for metal work though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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You should be able to do this with any credit card. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:43 AM Flag
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That's likely a 1K+ purchase. Their treatment of you is insane. I would be camped out doing a fully on temper tantrum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:37 AM Flag
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You are correct so I feel very stupid and simultaneously annoyed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:41 AM Flag
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NP ugh I hate that feeling :( sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:47 AM Flag
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That's like saying Target should treat her special for spending $20. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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Why don’t you phone the store in London and make a big stink? Send pics, etc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:43 AM Flag
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+ you should be able to ship back to them at their cost and they should be able to ship you a new one. I hope you got VAT back!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:58 AM Flag
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Yeah, call London store, and stop the charge on your card. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:42 AM Flag
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Post it on their Twitter, include pics. They will respond. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:04 AM Flag
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Not this. So childish. This is not a problem that needs to be broadcast to the general public. You give the store in London a chance to remedy the situation. If they don't, then you dispute the charge on your credit card which gives them another chance to remedy the situation. The problem is with quality control at Tom Ford, so why blast the London store? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:13 PM Flag
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The general public is not following Tom Ford's twitter. Tom Ford is. Corporate twitter accounts are exactly for complaints to give them a chance to remedy the situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:11 PM Flag
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just tweet the issue at them and they'll fix it. social media shame is a powerful tool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:23 PM Flag
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Use the receipt and disputed the charge. Have the store in London respond. I have had a problem with Ferragamo shoes bought in Italy and got a tremendous response from them. Same once with Longchamp wallet I bought while in Paris. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] How long should a screenplay synopsis be? 3 pages or less? Tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:09 AM Flag
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depends on who you are sending it to - an agent? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:38 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:06 PM Flag
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He asked for it. I actually just sent it after googling. It was 2 pages (700 words which is probably too long). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] 7 year old DD is still spelling her name backwards sometimes, spelling 3 and 5s the wrong direction, things like this. I asked at public school and they said they think she's fine. Should I get an outside assessment? At what age is this a problem? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:56 PM Flag
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I think she is fine. 7 yo DS reverses his S, 5 and prob some other letters. You have to keep correcting and ask her to look for examples on the sheet so she self corrects [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:00 AM Flag
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This. Have her write 100 of each letter and number every week, and 10 of her name every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:25 PM Flag
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if she can read well in general, it's probably fine. if she's struggling to read, then worth getting a dyslexia test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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My ds needed OT for handwriting because he was still needing to think about how to form certain letters when he was 8. The school didn't find this, we had to work with an private pediatric OT. That is the best money we ever spent, and we have had our kids in a ton of activities over the years. We had her help him with his problems and then also teach him cursive. Public schools don't teach handwriting anymore. I wish I had started my ds earlier because he had to unlearn a lot which made it harder. I don't know if your dd needs it or not. I would look for a pediatric OT who uses the Handwriting Without Tears curriculum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:06 AM Flag
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Also contrary to pp above, my ds had zero problems with reading. He was reversing the b and d for example. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:07 AM Flag
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I forgot, she also taught him to touch type. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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ok cool. i will look into that. she can read pretty well, not flawlessly, obviously. but there's lots of times she sees otto and says toto! or evil and says level! it just seems like her eye is going to the wrong word. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:34 AM Flag
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My ds did not have this but it could be normal. My ds could do normal fine motor stuff like legos, but he had undxed fine motor problem. Something to remember is that the range of normal is large at this age and the school isn't going to notice kids who are not huge outliers. But this is your child and early intervention means that the correction will take a lot less time. I would call around for an eye doctor who does testing for kids who need vision therapy but maybe does not do vision therapy themselves. Vision therapy is a little controversial (some people say it is unnecessary) but I know a reading specialist whose did everything to help her dd and in the end what helped was vision therapy. So YMMV. My kids' eye doctor screened for it and said my kids did not need it. I have another friend (another teacher) who found someone to do it for her child and she drove 45 min each way once a week to get it for her child. It is hard to find eye doctors trained in it. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:41 AM Flag
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Also I would get a private evaluation for dyslexia. I know it will be expensive but I know FIVE families in my area who had to get a private dx for dyslexia because the school districts (two different ones) would not test their kids for it. Some of the kids were not dxed until 3rd and 4th grade! GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:43 AM Flag
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Or you could wait and see if she struggles next year... the really painful thing is that the later the kids are dxed the more they internalize that they are not good at this stuff and it does a number on their self esteem. I don't know how your dd is doing and she may be on track, but maybe someone else reading is in a similar situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:44 AM Flag
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FYI something like 15-20% of people have language based learning disabilities, so odds are good that if not your dd, someone else reading has a child in this situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:50 AM Flag
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Past age 7 could be an issue. I would have her evaluated for dyslexia or other visual processing issue because if so you'd want to get her help early. https://www.understood.org/en/learning-attention-issues/child-learning-disabilities/dyslexia/faqs-about-reversing-letters-writing-letters-backwards-and-dyslexia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:33 AM Flag
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np--My understanding is that dyslexia is an aural processing disorder. It's about not hearing the distinctions in sounds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:12 AM Flag
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This is find still at her age (called mirror writing) . You could get someone to give you a different dx but what's the point? Just wait a year. I'm sure by then it will have resolved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:25 AM Flag
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https://cpb-us-w2.wpmucdn.com/campuspress.yale.edu/dist/a/1215/files/2015/11/Brennan2013-125jbzh.pdf ("13% of 7 years old still do it"). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:27 AM Flag
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I'm surprised no one is asking this but difficult name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:55 AM Flag
[ - ] DD can't find her calculator (last used in June) or water bottle (came back from camp in mid-August). Any thoughts on where they might be? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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They are still in her bag or backpack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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How do I have a drawer just for calculators and a shelf just for water bottles? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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Big house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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define big? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:56 AM Flag
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My DS found his calculator in his backpack from last year when he was cleaning it out to donate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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My dd's calculator was always either on the floor of the car under the passenger seat or slipped between couch cushions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:37 PM Flag
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School and camp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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This is where it would be with my dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Which would you think was a better investment? 1090 sqft 3br/1ba single family home monthly cost of $4069 (principal & interest, property taxes, and home ins.)-$698k asking price? Or a 1,032 sqft 1bd/1ba condo with a monthly cost of $3835 (principal & interest, property taxes, home ins, and HOA)-$568k asking? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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How do the locations compare? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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The three bedroom's neighborhoodscout crime index is 32, with 100 being the safest. The one bedroom's is 20. The three bedroom's great school ratings are 2/10 for the elementary, 2/10 for the middle, and 8/10 for the high school. The one bedroom's is 9/10, 8/10, and 6/10. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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I don't know what any of that means and doubt it's how anyone picks where he or she wants to live. You could be comparing the terrible Lower East Side with bucolic Sioux Falls, South Dakota. But I bet the LES apartment will appreciate more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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They're both in the same region of the bay area. And, yes, families in the suburbs care about the great school ratings, but I just don't think that matters if it's a one-bedroom. The neighborhood the one bedroom is in looks safer than the three bedroom's neighborhood. It's just closer to San Francisco, so that's probably why the crime is higher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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I agree that school statistics matter little for a 1 bedroom, other than the fact that a good school creates housing demand, which causes higher prices, which causes a higher income neighborhood, which creates a higher end business environment i.e. ripple effect. I would venture that this is a classic apples and oranges scenario. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:13 PM Flag
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list the neighborhoods and I'll weigh in. In general, single family homes are usually a safer investment in the Bay Area. Will you be living there and do oyu have kids in school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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+1 House is usually better. I think it is because Prop 13 makes it better to remodel than to sell and buy something bigger, and you can't do that with a condo. Also a 1 bdrm is a problem. With 2 or 3 bedrooms you can rent to people who are professionals but have to have roommates because it is so expensive there. With a 1 bedroom you are limited to just single people or couples. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:33 PM Flag
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The one bedroom is in South San Francisco and the three bedroom is in East Palo Alto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:51 AM Flag
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My take: East Palo Alto is a long bet. It will probably gentrify but not overnight. Many buyers will be scared off by the name. The schools are terrible. SSF will appreciate (or not) along with the broader market. I know which area you’re talking about based on the schools — it’s great for commuting to the city. Not far from Genentech and YouTube (though EPA is close to Facebook). The weather isn’t as good as EPA (fog). I guess it depends on whether you plan to live in or rent out the properties while you wait for them to appreciate. (And if that’s your main goal — don’t buy now. The market is definitely softening but it’s still as expensive as it ever was.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:33 PM Flag
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I live in the Bay Area. Where are you talking about? For those prices, assuming East Bay? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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No, Peniinsula. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:52 AM Flag
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Many properties are still selling over asking down here. Just FYI. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:35 PM Flag
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In the bay area, in the last downturn, the one bedrooms were very hard to sell. You couldn't give them away. HTH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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OR of course this is a slight exaggeration. But keep in mind that it will still be pretty crowded. I would not do the condo. It will never appreciate as much as the house will there. Many bay area suburbs have school of choice with magnet schools and there are inexpensive parochial (Catholic) schools. With a house, people can buy it and add on a bathroom or add a second floor (although now it is crazy expensive there in the Bay Area to do that, have friends who just got bids back) but you can't do that with a condo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:27 PM Flag
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by crowded I mean that people do squeeze 5 people or more in to one bedroom condos so the complex itself will be crowded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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Would you still say that knowing the house is in East Palo Alto? I would assume the places that get hit the hardest in a downturn are the ones no one wanted to live in if they could afford anything better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Oh man, I so wanted Serena to win. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:05 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More
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Me three [ Reply | More
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Me four [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:09 PM Flag
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me too. Bianca played great, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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O Canada! Very happy that Bianca won. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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So wonderful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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me too. At 19 too. wow! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:57 AM Flag
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I love Serena but she had her time and now some young women will start women. This is how it works in sports. She is amazing though: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:26 AM Flag
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Start winning not women [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 09:27 AM Flag
[ - ] is a Disney cruise in December a bad idea (too cold?) we have been trying to plan one but December is the only window that works for us.. while the option exists, I wonder if it's just too cold 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:59 PM Flag
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Out of Florida it's fine. We're taking one out of NYC in October, and that's going to be a bit iffy. Have done two from Port Canaveral, both in March -- outstanding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:00 PM Flag
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^^P.S. Transatlantic probably not a good idea either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:00 PM Flag
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They do Christmas festivities really well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:48 AM Flag
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elaborate? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:57 AM Flag
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The decor, the theme, etc. Friends did a Nov cruise last year and their pics looked magical. Their 4 yo girls loved it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:14 AM Flag
[ - ] How many new spots does Fieldston have for 6th grade typically? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 09.07.19, 09:52 PM Flag
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They used to have this on their website. It was a pretty small number, if I remember correctly--maybe around 15? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:39 AM Flag
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Thanks. Couldn't find it on the website. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:03 PM Flag
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My son started in sixth grade (graduated two years ago) and was one of maybe 20-25 new students [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:18 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:03 PM Flag
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I heard lots of families in the middle school are trying to leave; that should open more spots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:33 PM Flag
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where are they going to go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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Why is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:09 AM Flag
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10 spots for boys available the year we applied, so 20 total? Give or take? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] That crowd is amazing!!!!!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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Indeed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Newbie here----I am going through the online independent school applications. When I get to the parent statements---I am copy pasting into a word doc so I can draft and then go back and paste in. Here's my question, when I get to these--my options are to save/return later or Next. Next doesn't allow you to skip to the next section but instead requires you to paste something in the box. And when you hit next you see that it says "submitting". So is there a way to bypass the parents essay and keep going to see what else might be required? Thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 09.07.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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It is submitting to be saved. Application won’t be submitted until you pay the fee. Once you do the electronic signature page, it gives you a chance to review the entire thing before moving to the fee payment. You can enter anything and move on. However, parent statements that I’ve seen are all either on one page or a separate entry (in addition to the application). So if the parent statement is part of the application, the rest is likely just final details and electronic signatures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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Also, forgot to mention that you can also go back once you see the draft application and enter your final statement(s)/edit. Until you pay the fee, it is a work in progress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:26 AM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone going to register for the Boston Marathon this week? If you've run it before, what hotel did you stay at? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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Stay at the Lenox, you're already home as soon as you cross the finish line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:32 PM Flag
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Wonderful -- thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:36 PM Flag
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It's decently inexpensive considering it's a city and its location, $400 a night. But, you are also running the marathon, so if you can't treat yourself then I don't know when you would do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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Haha so true! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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The Taj is not too far. The rooms are not as swanky as other hotels in the area but the staff is dreamy nice and I am sure they'd fall all over you if you are in the marathon. Then the park is right there for a brief stroll in the morning. I'm sure all you'l really want is a comfy bed and they are that. [ Reply | More
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Thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Hi! In your opinion, what are the best 5-6 preschools in the city? We are new to the city, so I'd really appreciate you feedback. We are looking to apply for 2020, my child will be three years old. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 09.07.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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OP here: We live in midtown, but would not mind moving to another area on Manhattan or to the Bronx if our child gets accepted into a great preschool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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This must be a joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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Why? It is not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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Unless you have tons of money. Most are doing UPrek and not moving to Bronx to be able to afford private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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I did not mean we'd move to Bronx to afford private, I meant schools location. I actually only mentioned Bronx because of Horace Mann, but then I realized their nursery is on Manhattan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:03 PM Flag
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Move to Riverdale! We have great preschools - and easy to get in! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:35 AM Flag
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Kept mine home until K. Best preschool ever -- 1:1 ratio of teacher to child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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I'm surprised this URL is big enough to house your ego :P [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 04:03 AM Flag
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Go to a preschool that is close to where you live. The "best" preschools are filled with kids who are legacies to the top schools. Those schools won't take a ton of kids from the same preschool. Kids don't need to be at the "best" preschool. They just need enrichment and socialization. Which preschools provide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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"Best" is really subjective, it depends on what you like. What was best for me was not what was best for my friend, and we're each happy with our choices. And I wouldn't move to be near a good preschool. I'd move to get into a good zoned public. Preschool goes by in a flash. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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smart answer. and, I'll add so does k-2, so when applying to public, consider that. most early childhood educators are great, and it's very easy to apply out of district for a different elementary by 1st or 2nd as the space opens up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:15 PM Flag
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This is excellent advice - at both public and private. Lots of spaces open up, and you can apply to schools out of zone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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If you live in midtown. I would do.... 1) St Bart’s 2) Christ Church - new director this year , but they hired within and she is great 3) All Souls 4) REDS 5) STMPG 6) Garden House [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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Thank you! That's very helpful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:08 AM Flag
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If you live in midtown. I would do.... 1) St Bart’s 2) Christ Church - new director this year , but they hired within and she is great 3) All Souls 4) REDS 5) STMPG 6) Garden House [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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Best based on what? Commute? Class size? Academics? Time outside? Truly unstructured vs “inspired” free play? Religious influence? Exmissions? Value for money by hour? [ Reply | More
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I feel like class size is the same in most preschools on Manhattan, not sure if it's true. Probably based on how much the children actually learn there, so yes, academics. And exmissions matter for us as well. [ Reply | More
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teacher: student ratios fixed by DOH law [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:22 PM Flag
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Yeah, the minimums are. But my daughter’s (private) preK had four teachers for 20 kids. That was nice. And not Doe mandated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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UB used to live for this stuff. Remember all the lists of TT preschools and the "pull" their PSDs had? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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The old TT list is in this 2002 New York Magazine article (which weirdly has omitted the actual names): http://nymag.com/nymetro/urban/education/features/n_8067/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:07 PM Flag
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Thank you!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:05 PM Flag
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This article is odd to read in 2019...Harvey Weinstein and "Donald and Ivana Trump" are listed as prominent parents at various schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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92nd St Y, Episcopal, Brick Church, All Souls, PAC (RIP), West Side Montessori, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 04:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there a store or service that both delivers and installs medicine cabinets ? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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I don't know that it's a market on its own. I would call handyman services and see what they're comfortable with. My handyman replaced a door (not in NYC though). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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for something like that, we've ordered via Amazon and then had a handyman install. our guy will let us send to his place (we're not home during the day and we don't have a doorman). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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Try Smolka on East 33rd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else love kids going back to school. Have found it so fun to catch up with everyone, see all of our friends in school, etc 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:49 PM Flag
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Yes, love it. Kids love it too actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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++ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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Nope. Hate the hw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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Why do you hate homework? My kids do their hw independently and it does not affect me. How does it affect you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:32 PM Flag
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It utterly destroys family time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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I see. My kids are done before I get home from work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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My guess is they are young [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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MS and HS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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How is this possible? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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such BS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:21 AM Flag
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I love it for another reason: DD is at a sleepover tonight, so DH and I can go out to dinner somewhere that doesn't have a kids' menu. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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Parenting fail [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:49 AM Flag
[ - ] What’s delbarton like? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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GO SERENA!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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Wrong post? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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You mean the all boys school in NJ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:45 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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