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[ - ] Neiman Marcus: any mom who could share a good coupon code to get even a small discount? Trying to get a pair of expensive shoes for dd's 17th bday and it would really help - the NM100 is not valid on this product. Thanks 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:44 PM Flag
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What shoes? Please post a link! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:27 PM Flag
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check your AmEx card. Mine has a Neiman (and Saks) offer. Can't remember amounts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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Neiman Marcus used to be my go to place for shopping but the promotions as of late do not apply to anything I want to buy. Its supper frustrating. Also, absolutely hate the new return policy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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Try the Rakuten app.or just Google Neiman Marcu discount codes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:46 PM Flag
[ - ] How much do you tip movers? 20% of job or a certain amount per hr? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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20% - no way. More like $100-150. Maybe more if a very difficult move or they went above and beyond. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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Not enough. They have to split that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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OP- That’s what I figured. This job will only take about one hr btw 2 men. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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I furnished my vacation house with all crate and Barrel furniture. The guys assembled beds and moved all the furniture in. I think they were there for 3-4 hours. The delivery guy said I have 67 pieces of furniture for you. I have them $120 each. Three guys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:52 PM Flag
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And then I went on my balcony in Armani dress and said “ Ta... Ta” to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:00 PM Flag
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No idea what this has to do with OP but neat I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I have been dating a guy for a couple of months. Can I ask him by text if he is sleeping with anyone- we are not yet. I feel like if I ask him in person- and I don’t like the answer o will be noticeably upset .. so want to feel that alone. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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what is wrong with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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Oh, stop! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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If you can't ask him in person, doesn't sound like you're mature enough to be dating anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:00 PM Flag
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You have been dating him for a couple months, but haven’t had sex yet, is that correct ? Are you moving towards sex, or is it actually platonic ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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Yes. Moving toward. I had a sexual assault so I am taking this very slowly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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I see. I think it’s ok. Maybe you could make it part of a larger discussion regarding when you might feel ready, and what you would need to feel ok about it. If you hadn’t gotten physical at all, it would be weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:24 PM Flag
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Thank you. It’s my first attempt to be with a man since it happened a couple of years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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I disagree with the responders on here. I think this can be a touchy subject for some depending on history. I think if you were having a flirty text conversation there may be an appropriate time to ask, but I also think that if you want to keep it more serious, you can mention on text in a very warm way that you might want to have that talk next time you go out. Just do it, though, and don't worry about your reaction. You have every right to know and maybe it's a good way to open to him a little and develop more connection [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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This is good advice. There is no shame at all in having a reaction OP. And being in the. presence of him and feeling how he responds will let you know if he is the right person for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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I would ask in person. I would hate to have to wait while he texts back. He could wait a whole day or two to text back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:47 PM Flag
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Good point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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Also, in person, you have some chance of judging the truth of what he says. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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Yeah. Good point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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agree with this. also, its not all about what he has/hasnt done. sounds like you are deciding if you are ready to be intimate with him. i think you should NOT phrase it as "have you slept with anyone", but instead ask if he considers you guys to be exclusive, or is he still dating others. texting about relationship issues is like passing notes in high school. You can be cool about it, ask with a smile. it's known as "the ta;k" where you find out if you are boy/girlfrind or one of many... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:15 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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Did you post last week about dating a great, successful guy (with dominatrix friends) and you felt unworthy and nervous about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Was just invited to coworkers Rosh Hashanah celebration (is that the right word?) Sunday Sept 29. What do I bring? I asked her and she said don't bring anything. Kosher wine? Flowers? Homemade cookies? tia 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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no food. flowers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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Jew here. I’ve never seen anyone bring flowers in my 40 years of celebrating. Dessert is appropriate but keep it kosher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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Do not bake it yourself because of kashrut (kosher) issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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Do not bake it yourself because of kashrut (kosher) issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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i disagree. flowers always appropriate and appreciated! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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Also Jewish and flowers are fine! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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I totally agree too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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Me too, another Jew. Flowers are safe and a nice gesture. And you don't have to worry about whether or not they're kosher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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A honey cake from Citarella [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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Thanks both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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Only buy something that says the word kosher on the package. Go into a local kosher store and buy something. IF you tell us where you live, we'll tell you where to shop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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UES; coworker is in Brooklyn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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Most people are not kosher. Ask her if she keeps kosher at home. If so, dessert from a kosher bakery or a kosher bottle of wine (Israeli brand, not manishevitz). if not kosher, any bottle of wine or dessert [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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Thx! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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buy a couple of bottles of good Kosher wine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:16 AM Flag
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Can't you bring her a real hostess gift rather than something you expect to be served. Some hostesses plan a full, coherent menu, and something random and unexpected doesn't fit. Pet peeve of mine actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Apparently my ex and I are at the stage where I get a giant fruit basket for my birthday. This is new. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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Your ex sends you a birthday gift? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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Apparently. I get flowers most years. I like this better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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He's an ex for a reason, but at least you're getting something! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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Enough time has passed. We get along at a new level lately. I like the fruit though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Exactly. My ex gave me a massage gift certificate. I think I MAY have gotten him a card! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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ha. It is better than fighting, I will give you that. Also my basket is the kind that also has little stuff like gingerbread cookies, a wedge of cheese, chocolate bark. Hell yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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Fruit is good. Helps with cholesterol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a DH who automatically assumes you have shit for brains? I got invited to a NYRR focus group for the NYC Half (a race I had qualified for and ran). You get a New Balance gift cert for attending. I told DH about it; he said "you probably got invited because you shopped there." Like the assumption is the lowest common denominator. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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I had an ex DH like this. It's not so much shit for brains so much as he had so little respect for me. I dumbed myself down for him because he was insecure (I didn't realize until late in our marriage) and I had to sublimate myself to make him feel better about himself. Anything good that happened to me he'd made sure to attribute it to something else and anything bad he'd made sure to tell me it was because of my incompetence. After 20 years of being with the douche, I finally set myself free and have never been more confident or joyful about my life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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Thank you for sharing your experience. I left a man who was awful to me in so many ways. It is incredibly painful to think I have remarried the same kind of man. In many ways, he is much much better, but I have stopped sharing information with him because I don't want to hear his response. I'm glad you got out and are now joyful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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I'm truly sorry. It's tough to not be able to share freely with someone you're married with -- it becomes very lonely and honestly, heartbreaking. I think the entire dynamic of marriage isn't suited for me and have decided to never marry again. Once was enough. I date and maybe I'll find a longterm partner but my independence is too precious. I hope you find a different outlet (friends, work, family or organization) that appreciates you and thinks you're the best thing since sliced bread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:53 PM Flag
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Aw, thank you! Yes if anything happens to him, I would NEVER remarry. I need my own equilibrium and peace. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:54 PM Flag
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Amen, sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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No, never. Would never have married someone who does not respect me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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This. Can't believe what I read on this board. Why did you people marry such losers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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Do you point this out to him and call him on it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:53 PM Flag
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Sigh. He's a grown man not a child. I've found that as one gets older it is incredibly hard, nay, impossible to change. I bet his dad treated his mother the very same way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:54 PM Flag
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That wasn't me (OP). Yes on occasion. I plan on choosing my moment and trying to explain to him how hurtful it is. Or doing the same to him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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I had a boyfriend like this. His treatment of me got worse and worse over time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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I don't know what he's like normally, but in this exchange it actually sounds like HE is being foolish/simplistic for not knowing how focus groups work and recruit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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*Because, yes, if the group was for the store or NB brand, they would have recruited you off of a customer list. But because it's for NYRR, they recruited you off of their "customer list" (i.e. participant list). To me it just sounds like he doesn't get it, not that he's projecting lowest common denominator on you... but as I said, I don't have enough context into his personality to know otherwise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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My mom does this. Minimizes, invalidates, questions everything I tell her or do. So the only safe subject I will talk to her about is the weather. It’s soul crushing. Knowing Your mother is incapable of supporting you. She likes to tell me what I need to buy at the supermarket. When I tell her I’m not out of item A, she can’t accept I know how to run my own home. And she tells me I never put things in the right place, that’s why she thought I needed item A. She always has a way of letting me know that I can’t do anything right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Considering buying a 2 bedroom in Santa Monica/Pacific Palisades, renting to my best friend, and visit 1/3 of the year. When I use NerdWallet's calculator there is no home value that makes buying better than renting. When I use Zillow's calculator after 8 years a $1.3M is. The M/P about inlaws haunts. Best friend and I lived together before, so not a worry, and I know rental history, so another no worry. WWYD? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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Sorry but can't fully understand your question, so I'll just jump in with my questions: have you ever been a landlord before? Are you willing to risk your best friend over house issues/rent payment? What do you mean "there is no home value"? Have you done a basic calculation of your costs vs revenue? Have you spoken to your accountant about how much you can write off in income? Have you run credit on said best friend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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OP - Yes and I hate being a landlord. No and I value this relationship more than any other. Nerd Wallet's calculator says it will never make sense to buy at the rent amount my friend pays and that doesn't improve with a 30% increase either however Zillow's calculator says $1.3M breaks even after 8 years. That's the only calculation I did. I haven't spoken to my accountant. I haven't run credit but know leased car in December so must be decent? Also I previously paid off their student loans, but there could be an unknown mountain of credit card debt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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You paid off your friend's student loans??? I would consider adoption. Probably cheaper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:49 PM Flag
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I think you are crazy. Why in the world would you do this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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+100000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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OP - Part of me says this is an opportunity? A win win? Friend is an available long term tenant (current building is being converted so lead time to purchase property), I like Santa Monica, I'd live there again, I have no interest in being a landlord, my friend will never be able to buy. But the other part of me is "post this on UB to talk some sense? cents?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:52 PM Flag
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NP. The ONLY way I would do this with a friend is if I got 12 months rent up front. There are too many things that can go wrong and leave you on the hook for making mortgage payments with no rental income. She lost her job; her boyfriend broke up with her; she's going through a tough time, etc. Excuses why she can't pay her rent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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Sorry, I would never do this. Even if you never had issues with your friend it’s not worth it to buy if it will take 8 years to break even. Don’t do it. Just rent when you need a place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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This. It’s a stupid investment, like a timeshare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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I would never mix a friend with finances in this way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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This. So many things to go wrong, you are risking your friendship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:36 PM Flag
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+100000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:23 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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DO NOT do this. 1) Your friend sounds financially irresponsible. 2) It's a bad investment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:13 PM Flag
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This is a trainwreck. if you are her landlord, it is NOTHING like being a roommate. What if she cant pay the rent? will you take her to court? What if you want her to move out or sell while shes there? NEVER would i do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:19 AM Flag
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What if she decides to move to a new city and leaves you without a tenant? What if she breaks stuff in YOUR house or doesn't treat your place in a way that you think is considerate? So many possible issues that could cause a rift between friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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I don't do business with social acquaintances, so it's a big nope for me. What if she falls behind on rent? What if she resents your using it four months a year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Give me the odds of this relationship being saved: "met" a WOHM online when our kids were going through the college app process. We exchanged many emails and I finally got to meet her IRL. My husband's nephew coincidentally had moved down to where she lives (SC) and was a realtor (she's a RE attorney). I mentioned him and asked if she would be willing to talk to him. Since then, she has not responded to my emails or texts. WTF? I just emailed her and apologized (but not sure what I did wrong). Any advice here? Or just move on? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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this is a person you have never met in person, right? how would you define the relationship you had? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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No we did get to meet "IRL" (in real life). We were close. When I met her, I mentioned my nephew (after we both caught up on work, our kids, lots of stuff). I wasn't asking for a handout -- just an introduction since he was new to her town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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Maybe you think you had a relationship and that you were close, and she just thought you met once after exchanging e-mails. I would never call myself "close" to someone I exchanged e-mails with and met once. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Could be totally valid. At one point, we were emailing each other daily about our kids, husbands, step kids. But she might not have considered that "close". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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Why do you care so much? She's ghosting you, move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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We were close. But she reached out (see below). Happy ending (but not "that" happy ending lol). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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Move on, it is weird because people in the real estate industry are usually willing to talk to people like that because there is a lot of referring back and forth between RE lawyers, Brokers etc. Everyone is a potential client in some shape or the other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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That's what I thought. You never know where your next deal will come from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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Instead of apologizing, I would ask if everything is OK like I haven't heard from you in a while, just want to make sure everything is OK. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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Good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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Do not do this. People see right through the 'are you ok'. She's fine. She's busy or you're being weird to her with the over apologizing. should have just dropped it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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How long has she been silent? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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A year! In which she traveled to NYC and did not reach out to me (we had talked about meeting up). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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Maybe it had nothing to do with him/that situation. Maybe something else went on--were you "clingy"...some people don't want to be diluged with obligations. When did she stop responding to you and how long after you asked that? Had you been back and forth right up to that request? How long haven't you heard from her? There was a hurricane there you know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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All good advice. Yes I reached out to her on the guise of Dorian-safety. Don't think I was clingy. She was totally normal when she called. Glad to have my friend back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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Why do women apologize for no good reason? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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Sorry! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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Update from OP: she called me! And said nothing was wrong, and she'd love to get together. So chalk it up to me over-worrying. Thx all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Yep. You projected all over this one. Try to not do that later on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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Writing this down in my notebook. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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Let it go. Move on. Don't contact her again or you'll start to seem like a nutcase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:15 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you do if you give someone you're dating a key to your apartment but they never reciprocate and give you one to theirs? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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How long are you dating? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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OP: Over a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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If I was dating someone over a year and felt serious enough to give him a key, I would certainly expect to feel comfortable to ask him why. Guys are lazy. It may mean absolutely nothing. I would joke about it and ask him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:18 AM Flag
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Nothing. Why should they? Creepy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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OP: It's creepy to give someone you're dating a key to your apartment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Well you didn't say that did you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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Why do they need a key? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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Offer to make an extra set. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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OP: Of their apartment key? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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Yes. Maybe they don't have an extra set and haven't gotten around to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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Yes, and then offer to buy your own engagement ring, OP. *eye roll* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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My posts were in jest. How do you even answer this question without knowing more about the relationship? You can’t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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Change your locks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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Practical Mom in the house! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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Only right answer. Bravo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:01 PM Flag
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Ask for it back. Was the intention to give it so that you can get one? If so, and your condition for wanting it back is so that you're "even" then what's the point of giving someone a key? I give a key because I trust the person implicitly and he spends time in my home with or without me being there consistently (ie: hangs out over the weekend while we do separate things) otherwise, I treasure my space and like privacy. My parents don't even have my key. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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OP: I guess it was just an assumption that we were on the same page in the relationship. I assumed he'd reciprocate. It was a little eye opening when he didnt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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Maybe you should have discussed it first. Never assume. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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No don’t bother asking for it back, creates way too much drama. Just change locks and move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 01:51 AM Flag
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How long has it been since you have your key? Is there a practical reason why you need his? When dh and I were dating he lived in a building with a very cold lobby and guard like door men. Not an ideal place to wait if he was running late, so he offered his key. I lived in a building with lots of couches in the lobby and an atrium. I also had a roommate who could let him in (and who's privacy I cared about) so I didn't offer a key until he actually needed one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Do you mostly spend time together at your place? Not unusual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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I'd be hurt. I'd give it some time, but if after several weeks, even up to to a couple of months, there's no sign of reciprocity, I'd want to have a conversation about it. It seems like you're not on the same page. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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Maybe his landlord doesn’t allow handing out keys to non-residents of the building. I know that was the case for a very secure building where we rented our last apartment. We got two key fobs, one for DH and one for me and had to sign that we won’t lend it to others such as friends or cleaning ladies. When my mom came to visit we had to request a temp key fob and she had to have her ID checked, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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OP: He owns his unit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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It doesn’t matter. There were lots of people in that building who owned their units. It was a building rule - for safety only the residents of the apartments (be they owners or renters) could get a key fob. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:10 AM Flag
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I dated someone for several years who had a key to my apartment and I never got one to his. He would stop by to walk my dog and meet me at my apartment. I had full access to his apartment, but would not regularly go there without him. I think the key here is why do you need it and is there a lack of trust that he is not giving you access for some reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:50 PM Flag
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DH gave me his key at 7 months because he was going away for three weeks and invited me to use his apartment while he was gone, and then he never asked for the key back. I never gave him a key to mine. I'm just not the type to want anyone to be able to drop in unexpectedly whether or not I'm there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:45 AM Flag
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Not weird. I didn’t give DH a key when we were dating but I had one to his place. He lived alone and I had roommates and keys that were a pain to copy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone live in Crown Heights? Feedback? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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I don't but my best friends do with 2 kids and like it very much. Rapidly gentrified in the last 5-7 years. They've been there about 10 and have a lot of space for low rent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:46 PM Flag
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DH has worked there for years and likes it. We used to take DD to the Brooklyn Children's Museum all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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I went to a party there for coworkers of the man I was dating. I loved their apartment; they were happy there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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op: thanks a lot for the feedback! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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I’m not far. It depends on which part of crown heights. Area around Brooklyn Museum/GAP is nice. Franklin Ave. has a lot going on. I wouldn’t go so Far East though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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several friends live there - one couple bought a building. all seem to enjoy it. lots of beautiful architecture + the museums are nearby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Tell me to remain calm and that it was most likely a family emergency that I got an “auto reply out of office, will contact upon return on Monday” email this morning from my ds’s (HS Jr.) guidance counselor. It’s the 4th day of school! 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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I mean, why are you freaking out about this? Do you have a life? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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This x 1000000. Why do you even care, much less care enough to freak out like this? Maybe it was a wedding, a medical issue, or something else. Its one day off! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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Won't your DS tell you what happened when he gets home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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Dude. I'm feeling sorry for your kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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Do you have an urgent problem for the guidance counselor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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Call the front office and find out? What could you need to know so soon? Maybe they are busy with first day things at school and have their email off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:48 PM Flag
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or she is on a retreat with freshman or seniors for the start of the school year. remain calm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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whether the guidance counselor replies today or monday will have no impact on where your DS ends up getting into college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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This is a HS junior. This mom needs a xanax. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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How is this any of your business? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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Death in family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Family wedding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Sick? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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But its only the fourth day of school!!! Doesn't he know he isn't allowed to get sick! Or attend a wedding! Or go to a funeral! Or have a personal issue! It is the FOURTH day of school! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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He's likely dealing with a mountain of paper work and isn't ready for the drama of the parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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can you blame him? this lady sounds nuts! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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When did you send your email? Do they normally work on Fridays? IME, some people set their out of office to respond at 5:01. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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who cares? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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What is there to make you other than calm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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As others have said, there are lots of valid reasons she might not be in. Maybe her own dc is sick or she had a meeting at her dc’s school. It’s her boss’s job to monitor her attendance, not yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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wtf? Xanax? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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What time did you email him? Maybe he set it up at 3:00pm today, to set expectations for no reply until a work day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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The guidance counselor is sending this out so parents know he isn't available over the weekend for work. He won't be checking emails. He isn't required to check emails outside of work hours. He isn't required to work on weekends. Parents like you are the whole reason the automatic response is needed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Tell me your favorite easy appetizer. Would like to bring an appetizer to a friends house tomorrow. Just a bunch a friends getting together. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:36 PM Flag
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This gets rave reviews every time https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/toasted-bread-with-burrata-and-arugula [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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NP. I love this but do you bring it all assembled? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:46 PM Flag
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Sometimes. I transport it on a giant cutting board covered with foil. Other times I get each component ready at home and then assemble at my friend's house. Everyone LOVES it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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I bet! Thanks for posting the recipe! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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No one in my crowd would eat this. The women that I know do NOT eat bread. Or cheese. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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So the people in your crowd get to stay home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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Omg-you need new friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:34 PM Flag
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They sound such fun! Lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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Almond pesto, gruyere, and a baguette. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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Yum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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Artichoke dip, shrimp, spinach dip.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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Spanokopita triangles; stuffed mushrooms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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Astoria moms - is this available in any of the Greek shops? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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Costco! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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Are they frozen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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We have Greek shops in Brooklyn that carry them, but 9 times out of 10 they are available in the local supermarkets too. I just make them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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Mediterranean foods is the best. They have a huge one by Ditmars and a smaller one closer to 30th Ave.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:41 PM Flag
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Cheese and crackers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:48 PM Flag
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Bacon peanut butter wraps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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WHAT!? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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OR - They are SO good. I used to waitress for a woman who owned a catering company. They were always the biggest hit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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recipe please [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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OR - https://www.cooks.com/recipe/x32w16vj/peanut-butter-and-bacon-roll-ups.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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thank you, but that seems disgusting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Trying these next PMS cycle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:40 PM Flag
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bacon wrapped asparagus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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Prosciutto? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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yup- https://www.fifteenspatulas.com/parmigiano-prosciutto-wrapped-asparagus-spears/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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Any near that sells mini knish? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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cocktail shrimp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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Those little mozzarella balls and tiny tomato and basil on a toothpick. Drizzle with balsamic glaze. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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This is the easiest!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:40 PM Flag
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Ina Garten's Rosemary Cashews are always a huge hit and easy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:08 AM Flag
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This is a nice idea because you can put them in a nice jar and if the hostess has planned the spread already, she can put them aside as a real hostess gift and enjoy them later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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Those flaky cheese straws from Murray's cheese or breads bakery. Cubes of melon wrapped in prosciutto on toothpicks. Samosas. Spanikopitas. Homemade onion dip with thick potato chips to dip in it (buy at eli's). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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speaking of Murray's why not just go there and get some cheese! a hard cheese, a blue cheese and a soft cheese [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:11 AM Flag
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A cheese plate is for a cocktail party or the end of the meal, not an appetizer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:18 AM Flag
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Pigs in blankets are always a big hit. Shrimp in cocktail sauce too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:49 PM Flag
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Scallops wrapped in bacon and baked. So easy and SO good! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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Raw veggies, homemade hummus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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Bacon wrapped dates with manchego cheese stuffed in the middle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 04:09 AM Flag
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Appetizer or hors d'oeuvre? For hors d'oeuvres, I make gougeres and they are always a hit. I also make a bloody Mary shrimp ceviche and serve it in shot glasses. This time of year I would do a watermelon or tomato dish as a starter, maybe compressed or marinated, topped with an herbed cheese and edible flowers: https://static.seattletimes.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/779a65ba-757e-11e7-9c4d-20b1fe6901f4-780x520.jpg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 11:17 AM Flag
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There are lots of delicious ideas on this thread. But as someone who hosts all the time, I would hate for a guest to bring an appetizer without asking. I usually have all of my food planned out and plenty of it. And I certainly don't want something that doesn't go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:27 PM Flag
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Baked feta with honey. Garnish with walnuts, pita on the side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I was just humbled by my 8-10 yo kids getting diagnosed with first cavities (one in a baby tooth but one - in a permanent one). I thought we did everything by the book and they would have perfect teeth. They brushed thoroughly with both electric and regular brushes and fluoridated toothpaste (I help them myself every other day to make sure). They rarely flossed but are getting used to floss regularly now. They don't eat much sweet stuff (and brush soon after when they do). They go for checkups/cleaning twice a year. They drink filtered tap water (which should have about half of original fluoride, NYC water). They eat reasonably well and drink vitamin D-fortified milk. They used to take gummyvites (multivitamin and vitamin D particularly) but now I think that might've been a mistake as despite brushing right after - these may be bad for teeth. What have I done wrong? I think genes play a big role (I've had bad teeth since my early years in the Soviet Union but believed it was primarily because of poor dental hygiene and lack of vitamin D and fluoride supplements). What has been your experience and what tips would you give please? I feel like I failed as a parent... 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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My dad was a dentist. Aside from poor dental hygiene, a lot of it is genetic regardless of care. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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Genetics are a huge play in here -- but also there is sugar in fruit and acidity in most foods you don't think about. Our eldest had terrible cavities due to blueberries and grapes when he was 4! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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I'm exhausted. Make sure the dentist puts sealant on their teeth and they'll be fine. Some people have the tendency to develop cavities. I had cavities as youngster and still have all my teeth (56yo). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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OP: thanks - the dentist recommended and did it a year ago to the older one but he still got a couple of cavities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Do they chew ice? That can crack the sealants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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no, and they are careful not to damage their teeth with anything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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https://www.amazon.com/Cure-Tooth-Decay-Cavities-Nutrition-ebook/dp/B004GB0JIM/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3M4DHE05NWRPS&keywords=healing+teeth+naturally&qid=1567799419&s=gateway&sprefix=healing+teeth+%2Caps%2C123&sr=8-1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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posting this book recommendation as this has worked for my 2 ds, we've been able to heal some of their small cavities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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It is about diet and genetics. NOT saying you feed your kids a bad diet. My kids have very weak enamel and had so many cavities in their baby teeth. It has gotten better with their adult teeth as those have come in. Yes, it is humbling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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Genetics. I eat sweets like they're going out of style and sometimes forget to brush before bed, and I have never had a cavity. My DH hates sweets, brushes religiously, and he has cavities at very dental visit. I call his teeth "marshmallow teeth". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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My dc was dx'd with 14 micro cavities. Went for a second opinion and that dentist said first one was scamming insurance. He had NO cavities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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OP: they've had the same dentist over the last 5 years but this is the first visit when they were told that there are a couple of cavities to treat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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Ok, well ask your dentist. I'd go with more sealants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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It's their genes but also -- did you go to a new dentist? I don't trust dentists not to find problems that arent there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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OMG - you failed as a parent because your kid has a cavity? Give it a rest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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But I did EVERYTHING right! So my kids should be PERFECT. What don't you understand about this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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Genetic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:54 PM Flag
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sugar, juice + no flossing = cavities [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 12:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Growing up my two sons had a set of same-age brothers as close friends. Their mom and I met at toddler story time when we each had two. The relationships soured in middle school and then our kids went to a different HS and they stayed in district. The older one has been in and out of juvenile court for years, dropped out of HS. The younger one was the most difficult kid of all - like *that* kid you see having complete meltdowns. And he (the younger one) was just arrested for stabbing someone in their home. I have no idea who it is but the papers say it was not fatal. JFC 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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OK it was not the mom. Dad or brother [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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You sound like a total Mrs. Kravitz nosey body. Get a life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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NP. And you're a Judgey-body. You get a life! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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I'm fine, I just live in a small town. My same-age son at college texted me the link. I wasn't googling anything. I'm just shocked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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Disagree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:37 PM Flag
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Whoa! Glad the relationships soured! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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You and me both. 7th-8th grade is when my son realized this boy wasn't really his "friend" but was just using him as muscle. After the older ones parted ways, it was easier for my younger one to drift into new friend groups since they were no longer sets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:33 PM Flag
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You should catch the play "The Bad Seed" the next time it's in town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:33 PM Flag
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op. I know that one. I've got my theories because we were there for a dozen years. I think they might have been different if the mom had raised them alone. There's a lot I know I didn't know about. What she told me was alarming enough. But what do you do if she's not going to leave her husband and she thinks it's more or less normal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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you OP are disgusting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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What did the dad do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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One day she came over and while all the boys were playing she started crying. He had gone to Vegas the previous year. Recently he was developing some rashes "down there" and it turned out he'd been with some hookers in Vegas and he was paranoid that he was HIV+. In the meantime she'd been having sex with him the whole time even with all the sores on him. She was fluent in English but it's not her first language. She would sometimes phrase things in startling ways, like, "do you know what oral sex is like with sores?" (Uh no? I don't ?! Am I supposed to ?!). That kind of thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:22 PM Flag
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Yikes. You dodged a bullet there OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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op. I'm pretty sure my older son did not come up with this on his own, but I remember him once saying there are 3 types of boys. Say you find a baseball. Boy 1 will think, hey, free baseball ! Boy 2 will think, I wonder whom this ball belongs to? And Boy 3 will look around for something to throw the ball at. Both those boys were #3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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you are gross OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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ok for some reason you think this bothers me, fyi it does not. have a nice day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 09:24 PM Flag
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of course it doesn't. because you are disgusting and have no life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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you're the one on my thread. what kind of life do you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:03 PM Flag
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Sounds like that mom could have used a friend all these years with two very difficult boys. Even though the boys weren't friends, you could have stayed in touch a little bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] So many storefront businesses are empty all over the city. I've read it's something like 20%. I odn't understand why. Wouldn't landlords make more money renting it at a lower rate than letting it sit empty for months and years? How does this bring them a profit? Healthy local businesses are forced to close because of high rents (I've asked the storekeepers) - so it's not just the Amazon effect. Can real estate companies inflate the rent and then take the inflated rent that no one will pay and list it as a loss? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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They get a tax break for the loss. It’s not a hardship for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:17 PM Flag
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Although there is a push for a vacancy tax that would encourage landlords to lower rents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:19 PM Flag
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I would be in favor of this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:32 PM Flag
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I think this would be great and that the foreign owners pay a bigger tax since they are not here to see how it ruins the community. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:46 PM Flag
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Get a clue! Many of them have loans and have to come out of pocket to pay them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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I didn’t know this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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There is no tax break for the loss, what are you talking about? You don't get income, so you don't pay taxes on the income you didn't get but how is that a tax break? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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It's a leverage move. Not a tax move. If they can say the commercial rent on a building is 20k, they can borrow against that. It doesn't matter that no business is actually in that space or willing to pay 20k for that space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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It's one more way in which real estate interests are ruining New York City. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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One of many!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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Actually it is reflective of a terrible national retail market. Now that everyone buys stuff online retail storefronts are no longer viable. Landlords are unwilling to accept the lower rental rates that are a result of the reduced demand. Often because the income produced at the lower rates implies a value of way less than they paid for it. Eventually lenders will foreclose and sell and with reset bases new owners will rent out at the new market rents. This doesn’t happen overnight but we will get there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:33 PM Flag
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Landlords are increasing rents by large percentages when leases expire in NYC--far beyond what what the market will support. That's why businesses can't renew their leases. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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This was ten years ago. Now they moved in national retailers and higher end tenants who couldn’t justify the store front. So many retail bankruptcies nationwide. Get a clue! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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These aren't mom and pop owners with empty store fronts. They are usually big companies and they get loans based off of inflated rental prices and use that to buy or build new buildings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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I am in this business. If the property Plummets in value the lender will be taking it back. I know it is not mom and pop. Retail is a very out of favor asset class in real estate investing right now. Lenders actually do pay attention and don’t make loans off inflated rental assumptions. Lender are focused on their debt yield and the debt service coverage ratio of the asset. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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That would make sense for new stores in new buildings. But there are many stores in old buildings who still have plenty of customers but the landlord jacks up the rent and they have to move out. Yes, there may be a poor retail market overall; and new buildings may be overvaluing their commercial spaces; but neither fact explains why a landlord would rather get $0 instead of the $8,000 (or whatever) he's been getting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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Lots of interesting articles in the NYTs on this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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They don't explain it, either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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Totally. That’s why I come to UB. To learn what NYT can’t explain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 02:14 AM Flag
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It's not impossible that someone here would happen to know. For instance, the NYT knows less about schools than UB does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.07.19, 03:56 AM Flag
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Our councilman in Brooklyn has been working on this. Some landlords agreed to permit pop-up places. Sadly right now, we have a glut of nail salons on one of our avenues. Service type stuff appear to have longer survival rates - like salons, restaurants, bars and liquor stores. Everything else is a risk considering the high rents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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Gold rush mentality in NYC! That'd what happens. Poor buffalo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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Buffalo used to be vibrant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:41 PM Flag
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Yes. Why did Frank Lloyd Wright build so many homes? And Stanford White? And Louis Sullivan? And Frederick Law Olmstead designed the park and parkway system? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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NP: when I was growing up, Buffalo always seemed to be in the public conscious as a major U.S. city. Funny how you rarely hear about it now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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and that Richardson asylum! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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I was thinking the same thing, stores on first and 2nd Ave. have been empty for years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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Two are closed on my block. It makes the neighborhood look awful. <