UrbanBaby

09.06.19, 19:56 PM General Topics
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Give me the odds of this relationship being saved: "met" a WOHM online when our kids were going through the college app process. We exchanged many emails and I finally got to meet her IRL. My husband's nephew coincidentally had moved down to where she lives (SC) and was a realtor (she's a RE attorney). I mentioned him and asked if she would be willing to talk to him. Since then, she has not responded to my emails or texts. WTF? I just emailed her and apologized (but not sure what I did wrong). Any advice here? Or just move on? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 09.06.19, 07:56 PM Flag

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this is a person you have never met in person, right? how would you define the relationship you had? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:01 PM Flag

No we did get to meet "IRL" (in real life). We were close. When I met her, I mentioned my nephew (after we both caught up on work, our kids, lots of stuff). I wasn't asking for a handout -- just an introduction since he was new to her town. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:04 PM Flag

Maybe you think you had a relationship and that you were close, and she just thought you met once after exchanging e-mails. I would never call myself "close" to someone I exchanged e-mails with and met once. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:19 PM Flag

Could be totally valid. At one point, we were emailing each other daily about our kids, husbands, step kids. But she might not have considered that "close". [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:29 PM Flag

Why do you care so much? She's ghosting you, move on. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:04 PM Flag

We were close. But she reached out (see below). Happy ending (but not "that" happy ending lol). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:23 PM Flag

Move on, it is weird because people in the real estate industry are usually willing to talk to people like that because there is a lot of referring back and forth between RE lawyers, Brokers etc. Everyone is a potential client in some shape or the other [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:04 PM Flag

That's what I thought. You never know where your next deal will come from. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:23 PM Flag

Instead of apologizing, I would ask if everything is OK like I haven't heard from you in a while, just want to make sure everything is OK. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:05 PM Flag

Good idea. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag

Do not do this. People see right through the 'are you ok'. She's fine. She's busy or you're being weird to her with the over apologizing. should have just dropped it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:23 PM Flag

How long has she been silent? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:05 PM Flag

A year! In which she traveled to NYC and did not reach out to me (we had talked about meeting up). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag

Maybe it had nothing to do with him/that situation. Maybe something else went on--were you "clingy"...some people don't want to be diluged with obligations. When did she stop responding to you and how long after you asked that? Had you been back and forth right up to that request? How long haven't you heard from her? There was a hurricane there you know. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:07 PM Flag

All good advice. Yes I reached out to her on the guise of Dorian-safety. Don't think I was clingy. She was totally normal when she called. Glad to have my friend back. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag

Why do women apologize for no good reason? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:10 PM Flag

Sorry! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:26 PM Flag

Update from OP: she called me! And said nothing was wrong, and she'd love to get together. So chalk it up to me over-worrying. Thx all. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:21 PM Flag

Yep. You projected all over this one. Try to not do that later on. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:24 PM Flag

Writing this down in my notebook. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:25 PM Flag

Let it go. Move on. Don't contact her again or you'll start to seem like a nutcase. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:15 PM Flag