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09.08.19, 01:10 AM General Topics
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I have a friend who is really not doing well. She is barely holding on by a thread - her DH is chronically unemployed, she has to keep the family afloat. No one thinks they are rich. Her DH is very Status conscious though, hides his employment status, and want to project like he is a retired finance guy. No one believes it. Why does he do that? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 09.08.19, 01:10 AM Flag
 

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Because men define their worth thru employment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:11 AM Flag
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This. Which is why women will thrive, and men will fail, as automation leads to universal basic income. Women have always defined their worth by what they contribute, to family and to community. Get ready for some hefty increases in men's suicides over the next 200 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:04 PM Flag
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She is part of the problem, she puts up with it and enables him to live the lie, she contributes to her own hell, sorry to say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:27 AM Flag
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So she should just tell everyone? I am the only one outside of her immediate family who she confides in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:43 AM Flag
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No, she should get a divorce; she is working and doing all she can to live a normal life, he is not, why stay with him? Look what it's doing to her, this is not about who she shares her problems with, this is about solving her problems, for her sakes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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He's embarrassed. Ashamed of being unemployed or underemployed, with no chance of regaining his former employment status. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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That’s obvious, but he’s not fooling anyone, so it’s kind of pointless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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What do you want him to do? Their misfortune seems to make you feel superior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:21 AM Flag
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No. She is great but I almost have disdain for what he’s doing to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:55 AM Flag
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That’s his coping mechanism for very high anxiety and pressure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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No one in your circle believes it but he knows a ton of other people casually who I’m sure believe it. You would be amazed at what people believe and it is easy to become addicted to the casual respect that comes from people thinking you are successful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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im fucking a married guy like that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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What an ass. How do you cope? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 02:57 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 03:06 AM Flag
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you then are a double loser- cheating with a married loser [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 05:03 AM Flag
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This, it’s bad enough to be married to that kind of loser. Why would you fuck him if you didn’t have to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 06:02 PM Flag
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omg. no one thinks they are rich. that is SO AWFUL. the shame. she is lucky to have you as a friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:22 PM Flag
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I think OP's point was that the DH pretends they are/tries to imply that they are when it's clear that's not the case, not that nobody thinks they are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 01:37 PM Flag
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Let's stop making excuses for the dude. He's a grown ass man who wants the luxuries and status of life without working for it. Fucking arrested development and hasn't matured since he turned 16. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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