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[ - ] Why doesn't my 5yo listen to me? Every time I want to tell her something (like take care of your possessions) she just tells me "I KNOW, mommy!" in the "leave me alone" kind of tone. I feel this attitude is kind of rude and disrespectful and I try to tell her that, but of course it ends up in butting head and more yelling and crying and what not. Should I loosen up and not get her under my skin so easily? Any ideas? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.02.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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explain to her that you will not tolerate her speaking to you in that way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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agree. i have a friend whose 5yo is getting to be a pain in the neck with that tone. also she's starting to think no one can tell her anything and she knows what she should do. i would avoid that kind of attitude now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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the problem with this is that they often don't "hear" themselves. you need to explain to her at a neutral time that you expect her to speak to you in a respectful manner, and that when she doesn't, that you will point that out to her. I actually found that worked with dd. didn't stop the behavior entirely, but she really didn't get what I meant when I said not to talk "that way." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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you are saying that I should give a little breather in form of a break before I go back to her and tell her that it was not okay that she talked like this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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basically, yes. remind her of the incident. but remember, it's a two-way street. she has every right to expect to be spoken to respectfully as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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yes, of course. But what is the right strategy to get this done? I don't let her get away with that attitude but it always ends up in big fights because neither of us want to budge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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talk to her when you're both in a good mood and you've done something thats made her happy (i.e., lets eat ice cream together), so she's in a mood to understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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ok. let me summarize. If she started to act up like this I should just drop it at that time and let her be but pick it up again at a later time when both of us calmed down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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say "I don't like it when you talk to me in that tone of voice" or "You are not allowed to..." Then do not get drawn in to something at that time. disengage...it'll be good practice for when she'd a teen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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thanks. that actually makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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also, get the Ames book "Your 5-Year-Old" Five can be a contentious age, and I've always found that I was way more patient if I knew the behavior, no matter how annoying, was normal for her age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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back off a little bit. sounds like you're on her like white on rice. at least from her perspective. but draw the line with the tone instead of the other issues. firmly direct her to speak in a polite voice to communicate and use her polite words. she sounds strong willed, so you need to respect that - but it will be a blessing to her in the long run to have the politeness emphasized in terms of her future external interactions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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no offense intended. but i don't htink you are speaking very well to her. "take care of your possessions" is not what i'd say ot a 5yo. try to be more specific and more explanatory. e.g. dd, if you put your doll over there soemthing might spill on it. then it'll be dirty adn you won't be able to play with it" and then leave it up to her to decide to move it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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of course I talk to her like you suggested. It's just at times she doesn't want to hear any of this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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if you point out that it will get ruined or dirty, does she remedy the problem or does she ignore it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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those things she understands. It is more the things that don't have a hypothetical consequence. Like "don't being so many toys with you on our walk to the park because you will lose some of it." "No, mommy, I am not going to lose anything." Then of course she does. A few days later the same happens again. It makes me mad because those are things I bought her and I don't want her to lose them just because she doesn't want to listen to me. Do I make any sense? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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"the things that have a hypothetical consequence" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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then you set a limit. she can take two toys because she has two hands. or whatever reason you want. set a limit and keep to it. also, keep your ego out of it. her losing things has nothing to do with whether or not you bought them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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np: or give her the illusion of control. ask her if she wants to take these 2 toys or these other 2 toys. then it's HER decision [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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np: We won't go to the park at all if DS refuses to follow our rules about bringing toys, appropriate shoes, whatever. Problem solved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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ita with this. i used to do it all the time...let dcs make their own rules and then get upset about things that didn't go well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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Yes, I used to ask open-ended questions and wonder why everything was a struggle. Now it's either between two choices or no choice at all (depending on situation). Such a difference in our interactions and my mood now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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you will be correctign her and teaching her these things until she is 18. Things will happen over and pover and over and over and over again. You still need to keep teaching. Adults lose things, not just children, btw./ You sound like yo don't remember what it is to be a child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:33 AM Flag
[ - ] what age did you first give your db peanut butter? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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1 y/o [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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2 yo and he had a severe reaction and had to go to the e.r. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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Maybe I should go to the ER waiting room and give him the sandwich. Ha! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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I'd start by putting a dab on his/her cheek and see if any redness appears [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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OR below: That's a really good idea, our ped recommended doing that at 1 year before giving to eat (forgot about that!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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and seriously...not any fun to watch your kid have an anaphilaxis reaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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1 year for both kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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We are waiting for 3 as per our ped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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if there is no history of prob in your families, my ped said the earlier the better. we did it at 1 yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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3 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:19 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you like your Peg Perego P3? I'm so stroller confused. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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what kind of stroller do you need [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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We are moving to Japan so I need one that will work on trains with a ton of walking in between. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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maclaren quest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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baby jogger city mini [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Any idea what it means to refer to your child as a "rainbow child?" This child has not been born yet so it has nothing to do with any specific behaviors. I do know this family lost an infant about a year ago. Is this related? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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in what context? example please [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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She refers to the child in her womb as her "rainbow baby." As in "We found out that our rainbow baby is a girl!" "I don't know what we will name our rainbow baby." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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odd indeed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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not to sound like an idiot, but is the couple interracial? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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no - i don't think so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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np: i think it has something to do with miscarriages and infant loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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google the term. it's a new age thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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i did - but i couldn't figure out how that would apply to a child not born yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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sounds like the parents are projecting on their db in utero. probably a way of helping them cope with the past loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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ITA - like a rainbow that comes out after a terrible storm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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or: great thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Any suggestions for helping 4.5 yo deal with the anxiety of going to a new school? He is having a hard time, which has really surprised us because he's always been a well-adjusted kid and dealt very well with other life changes. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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has he started the new school already or are you talking about next fall? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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OP: He just started daycamp there and will continue at the same school for pre-K in the fall. Was previously in daycare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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don't discuss school. it's very early and all that'll happen is that he'll worry all summer and build it up into a really anxious-ridden ordeal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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OP: Should have clarified. He is already there. Started last week. He cries before bed and begs me to pick him up in the middle of the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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only child? is it a full day camp? are you home or do you woh? is he saying what it is that he doesn't like? have you spoken to his teacher? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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It is a full day camp. He is used to being in daycare 9-5, has been since he was 5 mo. One problem is that some kids at this new school go half-day and he gets upset when he sees them getting picked up. Teacher says he adjusting well but exhibiting some anxiety behavior like going to the bathroom every 15 min and cried at naptime on Friday. He has been worse at home -- exhibiting some OCD behavior like constant handwashing. Also will not sleep in his bed, only on the floor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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yikes. he sounds really anxious over this. i'd suggest a couple of things...review the whole idea that some kids don't get to stay in camp all day but some kids do. and maybe make a special stop on the way home to buy ices or a cookie or something. that's special for kids who go home at 5pm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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Thanks. the special treat is a good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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visit the school and let him play in the playground over the summer, talk with him about everything that will stay the same - routines, who will take him and pick him up, etc., try to set up playdates with other future classmates [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:01 AM Flag
[ - ] 29wks pg had have the worst hemrroids! Waiting for ob to call back, but have had 2 thrombosed ones lance in the past. Just went to the bathroom adn there was a little blood when I wiped. Anyone btdt? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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It is pretty normal. Get some prep H and witch hazel pads. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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since it's a chronic thing, i'd go easy on the use of the witch hazel - as an astringent it can dry out your membranes. there is something sold otc in the pharmacy area called balneol - a perianal cleanser that is good (expensive, but soothing). as a preventative, take colace on a regular basis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:03 AM Flag
[ - ] how well do you think the inserts work for strollers? We're shopping and trying to figure out if we can get a toddler (like the McL Tech) and do the inserts for our newborn, or if we should go with the big graco monstrosity that has the infant carrier/carseat thing. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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mac techno with inserts works fine. that's what we did. but, if i had it to do over again (and if you're in nyc and walk a lot), i'd invest in a bug. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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neither. get a snap and go for when you have the baby in the carseat and use a regular stroller for other times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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i used a mac from 3 monthson bt itself, and a bjorn up until then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Guitar Moms: DH plays a little guitar - taught himself. And would love to play more so he could play to our 7mo DD - she's fascinated with the thing. Any Father's Day gift ideas? Recs for a good children's song book? He also needs new strings and a new tuner. Any resc for websites or store in NYC to go? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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Umanov in the village is a really fantastic guitar store. Once for Chanukah I bought DH a series of lessons. HE was also self-taught and the lessons really helped him go to the next level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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thanks, only porb is right now he doesn't really have the time for lessons [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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guitar center in nyc. signed, musician dad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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^^14th st [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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thanks, what would you like for Father's Day that's music related? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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thanks all. also, what's a good, not-too-expensive guitar for a beginner if i decide to splurge? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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electric or acoustic? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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acoustic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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fender and ibanez make good guitars for $150 or less. make sure you hear the salesman play it first so you know if it sounds good or not, is set up well - i.e. strings aren't too hard to press down but aren't so low that they buzz against the frets, and most importantly, stays in tune. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:23 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm having a tough time with a friend who has become a little too close for comfort. She's been through a difficult time and was out of work for almost 4 years, but somehow managed to get buy on money from her family. Her mom passed away a little over a year ago and with her inheritance money she bought a house and moved out of state to live near us, now she's in our subdivision. She doesn't get along with our neighbors, who we are friends with, and the whole situation is awkward. She has just run out of money again. She's asked us for money to help with her mortgage and we don't want to see her go into foreclosure. The whole situation is a mess. She's no longer speaking to her family over money issues and as much as I want to be supportive of her, I feel that she's getting to me and I'm not feeling as good about the friendship as I was in the past. Any thoughts? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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she sounds like a mess. the best you can do is get her hooked up with a mortgage counselor. I would NOT help her out financially [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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i would NOT help out financially, but would try to offer other types of support [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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Why would you not help out financially? Just curious... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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np - I also said not to help out with money. It would just be a bandaid on a larger problem, IMO. Her friend needs financial planning/budgeting help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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or -here.you will lose your money,and ultimately it will not help her. she needs to be responsible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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ITA - if OP gave her $, it would be a gift, not a loan, and I doubt it would keep her in the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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It's enabling someone rather than helping them. Having been through this with a good friend who is alcoholic, sometimes you have to do the tough thing in order for them to turn themselves around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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op here. I feel terrible about it all and we've been very supportive and generous, but she goes through these incredible highs and lows and the money situation is a mess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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it's a sad situation, but if you help her out with $ now you'll only be enabling her - it seems she needs help setting a budget for herself, at a minimum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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sounds like she needs meds. Seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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I'm not sure about needing meds, but the fact that she's in danger of losing her house, which she moved into less than a year ago, speaks volumes as far as her lack of budgeting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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if you lend her money, you will not get it back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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incredible highs and lows? probably bipolar. encourage her to get some psychiatric help. as for yourself, she is an emotional vampire and will not be content until she drags down you and her family with her. tell her that she's a huge drain on you and start to try to disengage. you did not create the mess that is her life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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ITA with this diagnosis...financial irresponsibility and not getting along with others is the hallmark of manic depression. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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np: Ditto. This could be DH's friend. He ended up losing his apt. even after all the $$ friends gave him, over and over again. We could see his mania coming on like a storm (he would stop his meds when he had a low). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:15 AM Flag
[ - ] help. I'm really getting restless and bored in my marriage and staying home with the kids. I know this is a phase, but I feel like I'm going crazy! 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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bored how - like you want to be going out? or meeting a new guy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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yes, just stir crazy in my life! I feel like i have given up myself to stay home w/ the kids and given up so much to stay in my marriage...I just don't feel like myself anymore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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have you discussed thiw with him? maybe he is in the same boat and you can work on it together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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he knows something's up. I told him that i feel like i have sacrificed myself for this life. He said maybe I just need to get out with my girlfriends more often [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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he needs to understand that it's not that simple. Did you give up a career to stay home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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yes, I did. A career that I loved. I feel worthless now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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get a nanny and go back to work. nothing wrong with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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I couldn't do that. I always felt like I needed to raise my own kids...I guess I just figured I'd always be happy doing that. I dont' know if I'm cut out for staying at home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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FWIW, you're not alone in that thought. I also wanted to raise kids - turned out I was not cut out for that, and I'm OK with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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what did you do? did you go back to work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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Attorney. Went back to work. Have a pretty unique situation, in that my mom is retired and decided to be the full time nanny, so to speak. Going well so far. [ Reply | More
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OP: wow, that's the perfect situation. You have someone you completely trust taking care of dc's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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it has its ups and downs - mostly a great thing, but she does feel more entitled than most to co-parent, if you know what I mean. But I feel very lucky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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yes, but that guilt is temporary, in my experience. Find a good person to look after your child and see if you can have flexible work hours that allows you to put family before work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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I thought that was part of where you were coming from. It's very hard. Do you have plans to return to work, once DCs get to school? Seeing a light at the end of the tunnel helps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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and perhaps think of working part time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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yes, I plan on going back as soon as dc's are in first grade [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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any chance that he could take a week off of work and take care of the kids while you just veg out. That might open his eyes a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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he's so busy right now, it wouldn't be an option at this point. it would be nice though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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well, but you have to think of BOTH of you. You would be busy, too, but for the fact you chose to stay home for the benefit of the family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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is he always busy or is it just now? If the former he needs to find a way to squeeze some family time into his professional life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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just right now, for a couple of months he'll be really busy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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how long have you been married - unhappy with your dh or marriage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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7 years. not the best marriage, but not the worst i gues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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how old are DC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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4 and 1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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Get out every day. Put dcs in some kind of camp or mom's day out a few days a week. Start a project--something creative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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good idea. I would feel guilty for putting my kids in a moms day out. I shouldn't, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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are you in love with him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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hmmm...good question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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I'm not being mean, but I think right NOW this has more to do with you than with him. Get yourself happy and then see what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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OP: ITA. I go through these phases every now and then. I know it's all in my attitude. I just need to get out of this funk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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do you like your friends? where you live? is everything ok with your kids/are they hard to raise? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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1 yo is going through a hard stage right now. I'm exhausted by him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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I don't disagree, but if she truly loves him, its one thing. If she doesn't - then its something all together different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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if I don't love him, what do I do? I feel like I can't leave just for that. We have 2 kids together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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I also agree with you, but if you're in a serious funk or even depression, it can be very difficult to even know if you truly love someone. Sometimes you can Kinda feel it, but not always. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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yes, and i feel like I have to make it work for the kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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I think that's natural if you can make it work, but a bad marriage is bad for the kids too, depending on HOW bad, divorce may be the better option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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it's not bad. We don't fight often and generally get along. I guess the passion is just gone! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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have you seen a therapist? discussed this with dh? I wonder if he feels the same about the passion. I feel that can be re-invigorated with work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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Find a way to improve yourself. Sounds like you're generally pretty unhappy. Make yourself happy and your relationships will follow suit. What's something you really have wanted to do for a while...take a class, pick up a hobby, go to the gym more? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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all good ideas, IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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I go to the gym about 4 days a week. I think I would just like a little more adult interaction. DH is super busy at work, I am at home w/ the kids from morning to night. I get together w/ friends for playdates, etc, but I feel like I would like to have more adult time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:01 AM Flag
[ - ] My DD's birthday is in October. It's my understanding she can attend public K when she's 4.11 years old, but would not be accepted to private school K until the following year. If this is correct, do people send their DC to public K and then repeat K in private school? Also, when is the best time to take the ERB in this situation. Thanks for your help. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.02.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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my dc is in same situation. we decided to keep dc in private prek for an additional year, instead of going to public k and then to private. if dc gets into private k we will send, if not will put in public 1st grade. does that make sense? also, dc took erb this spring at 4.6 instead of waiting till fall [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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OP - It seems you're a year ahead of us. We are in private nursury this year and were accepted to public pre-k for fall 2008. We were considering doing public pre-k and public k while applying to private k. What made you choose to skip public K if you don't get into private? Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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It's not a choice. With Oct bday they will place your child in first grade, where dc belongs based on birthday. K is not mandatory in NY. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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or: we chose private prek bc i love dc's school and think she would benefit there for 1 more year and we think dc has a better chance of getting into private from private prek. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Some people do have dc do K in public and repeat in private. There are also a few private schools with later bday cutoffs. Friends w/ a fall bday dc sent dc to Claremont Prep for this reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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you mean 4.91 - she will turn 5 after a month of school. 4.11 means she will not turn 5 till the next year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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she means 4 years, 11 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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keep in mind that if you go to public K, you will not have a preschool director helping you when you apply for privates. i think this is a major drawback -- the privates like having the insight a PSD gives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:57 PM Flag
[ - ] When can db have peanut butter? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know if they give the ERB at either Children's Aid or First Presbyterian? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.02.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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yes at children's aid -- they administer the erb on site [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:30 AM Flag
[ - ] where else can I advertise for a nanny (I am helping the nanny find a job) besides craigslist? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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why you have to help her that much? She is a grown up after all. You can give her references when needed but you are not obliged to find her a job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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I want to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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Where did you post? i am interested in a good nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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park slope parents is a good resource for this - not only park slope parents belong. i have also heard that the irish echo is good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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^^ what worked for us, however, was word of mouth in the neighborhood and our own personal email lists and list-serves. i did not have much success on here at all, and that was before the reformatting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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gl - also think carefully about how you word things - people really responded to the word "energetic" in our description, for instance... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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prenatalyogacenter.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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I need someone. Please post more info when you have it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 03:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Can any Chicago moms recommend a good exterminator? With the arrival of warm weather (finally) we have developed an ant problem. I've tried home remedies --vinegar, baby powder, etc -- but they are not working. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Chicago 06.02.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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Tech One - I use them for my home and rental property we own. FWIW, I am currently living in a rental house that will be torn down soon and had a fierce ant problem. I bought Raid stakes that you put outside of your house and they worked really well. No more ants in the kitchen. I did not want them to spray where the ants were because it is in kitchen and dog dish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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we used orkin - did the trick so far [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] how early did you start feeling pregnancy symptoms? Was it after a missed period or before? did you have implantation spotting? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.02.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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I tested at 11 dpo bc I was an emotional wreck at work. I knew I was not behaving normally--and it was positive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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before (2 dpo with 1st pg - glass in nipples feeling - that ended in chem pg, 7 dpo with 2nd pg - huge cold sore on my lip plus fatigue - that ended with healthy db). no implantation bleeding - and, on the 2nd pg, i had a positive test at 9 dpo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:47 AM Flag
[ - ] My poor little DD - 2.5 yo and she was wearing new shoes yesterday. I noticed her limping a little, but she kept denying they were hurting her. I finally took them off, and she had gotten little blisters. Curious that she wouldn't have mentioned they were hurting! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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high pain tolerance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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guess - or very stubborn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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or very pretty shoes. i have done the same myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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when you were 2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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no, as an adult. i like pretty shoes, and i would bet i am not the onlyone who has suffered for fashion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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lol - she must *really* have like those shoes... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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2 year old dd was given these hideous disney princess slides and she wore them until she had bloody blisters - with NO indication that anything was wrong. and then she threw a tantrum when I wouldnt let her wear them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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mean mom [ Reply | More
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