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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] anyone in cobble hill just hear that? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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hear what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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In Boerum Hill some idiot is setting off M-80s, a kind of firecracker that makes a big boom. He's been doing it for a couple days now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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np: it's funny that you defined M-80 for people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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Ya think it was unnecessary? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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np: i had no clue what an m-80 is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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O.K. Just a part of my misspent youth that I thought most people shared. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Three year old has become very shy around new people. He doesn't like to talk a lot unless it's just me and him. He sometimes has trouble with pushing other kids and hits me when frustrated. problem or normal? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.06.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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It's normal. Pushing and hitting still have to be dealt with, of course. I wouldn't worry about the shy part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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Normal phase, but pushing other children and hitting you are unacceptable. Gently redirect. Also schedule short playdates with children you think he will get along with to build his social confidence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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only hits when tired how can I help him cope better when tired [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:52 AM Flag
[ - ] I have an 11 week old who is colicky...trying gripe water...anyone actually have any luck with that? or is it just BS like a lot of other colic "remedies"? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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happiest baby on the block -- best book to deal with this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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thanks...have the book and the dvd...have tried it all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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Swaddle blankets. Otherwise nothing worked for us! They fight the swaddling but that was the most comfortable time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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gripe water didn't work for us. sorry. nothing does. but colic goes away so give it a couple of weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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every parent of a colicky db I know swears by Mylicon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Heading to the library in a bit. Anyone have any good books to recommend for me? Nothing too new - I don't want to get on a waiting list - I just want a good read that has a decent chance of being in the library. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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I liked "Dedication," by the Nanny Diary authors. It's not new. And I'm enjoying "Ghost," a thriller about a ghostwriter--it might be 2007. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you think Obama as the president will end affirmative action based on race? Do you think it will become affir. action based on poverty? I wonder if we end affi. action based on wealth. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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No, I don't think he'll end aff action based on race, and I don't think he should. For affirmative action based on poverty, he'd also have to pay an awful lot of tuition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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I think aff action based on race alone should end. if mixed with poverty, it should be in place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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That is sort of assuming that there is no prejudice based soley on race to overcome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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for college admissions specifically, yes. We should invest 10x for K-12 so we keep more kids in school and help them graduate. Those who already graduated enough to benefit from race alone AAction are doing okay compared to those who drop out of MS/HS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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I mean there is no college that rejects applicants based on race alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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I don't think he will end it, but do think that he will make poverty more a factor as it should be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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How do you make poverty a factor? Many colleges to some extent make income a factor by trying to admit people from different backgrounds, experience, and by expanding their financial aid funds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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Same way you make race a factor - that would also mean setting up more federal programs to help those disadvantaged by poverty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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I think affirmative action based on race should only apply to African Americans and Native Americans; people who were directly oppressed by the US government. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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Asian Americans were also directly oppressed by the US government - Asians could not become naturalized citizens until 1952 with the McCarren-Walter Act. There are a host of other instances as well. Hispanics have also been directly oppressed - that little war called the Mexican-American war. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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Sorry, not the same as slavery and genocide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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Didn't say it was, but plenty of state-sponsored and condoned hate-crimes against both and abuse of labor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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Under your theory Jews should get affirmative action too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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np; under your theory, yes, they should. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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np; how do you define African American? Obama is not a descendant of slaves. More recent Jamaican immigrants/kids benefit from Aff Action at competitive colleges. How do you prove you are a descendent of a slave? No papers to prove. Won't work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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There are always gray areas. What about wealthy, privileged, fair skinned "Hispanics"? They consider themselves "White" except when it comes to filling out college applications, then they become oppressed minorities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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I know, and there are fair skinned, wealthy, privileged AAs (who really only have a drop of AA blood and look totally white) who claim AA box for college only. When you count who actually benefits from AAction, it's startling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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not, this IS affirmative action [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm struggling with taking my dd out of her private daycare (homebased, Montessori) and enrolling her in an ACD funded daycare (nearer to home and 1/3 the cost even as a private, non-subsized family). We just can't afford the other place - only reason we are leaving and I feel bad about it but given the economy and our expenses it just seems dumb to keep paying so much money. Any advise? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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She will be fine in the new school, and you have to do what you can afford. And remember, it's preschool. Her future really does not depend on this. As long as she enjoys herself, it's great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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She will be okay--you're not sending her to a dangerous or sketchy place. And you're doing something fiscally prudent for the family, which is also good for dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:19 AM Flag
[ - ] When you test 10,000 kids, statistically, 100 kids will be in the top 1% of IQ test. So, if DOE tested 50,000 kids, there should be 500 kids in the 99th percentile. That is, if you assume Olsat/bsra is a good IQ test. Anyway, if there were only 250 kids with 99th percentile, it's way fewer than predicted. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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It is not an IQ test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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^^^but I agree with you about percentages. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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But there were almost 450 for K alone and they didn't test 50,000 for K. It's a lousy test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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That doesn't make sense to me. Fifty percent could have scored 99%. It could be any percentage. It's not the top 1% that scores 99%. The test was normed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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There were only 11,000 4 year olds who were tested, not 50,000. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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So if 11,000 4 yos were tested adn around 450 scored 99 (whatever that 99 means), that means around 4% of the children tested scored in the top 1% of a projected norm. Whacky whacky. And no one is calling the DOE on their math or their thinking. Because all the mc and umc moms are too busy trying to get in THROUGH the system to question the system. With the SB, if your kid got a 99, it meant he or she had scored in the top 1% of all the kids in teh country taking the test in his or her particular age group. No one knows wht the numbers mean in the DOE system. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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I have always heard that the percentiles were based on national, not NYC, norms. I don't relaly understand what your overall point is. If you have been following UB/Insideschools, you will have seen PLENTY of criticism and questioning of this test & its administration, in the past 9 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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You don't understand. The normed group was tested in the past. It's set. So 50% percent or 27% any percent could have scored 99% against the norm. Did you take math in school? It's not whacky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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what the hell happens to the late bloomers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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That's already factored in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Friend decided to move to the burbs to avoid school admission process. Not pg yet (ttc). I hoped she would wait till she has a dc. I will miss her. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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If that was the only reason she moved and she's only just ttc that sounds a bit crazy to me! Hope she enjoys her new lifestyle and that you soon make a new friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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Anyone taken out of NYC because of the school process really wasn't that into NYC in the first place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] where do kids from East Side Middle go to HS? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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I want to know, too. Anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] why would jealousy in the school process be more of a factor than anything else in life (success, $$ real estate, attractiveness, etc. etc. etc.) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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A lot of $$$$$$ families at the "bottom" tier schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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interesting question. i used to believe it was because private school parents with money feel entitled (money) and high-scoring public school parents feel entitled (superior genes) now i think it's because just about everyone feels more comfortable being invested in their kids' brains, achievements, beauty, luck, success etc. than they do in their own. kids are the arena where all of us -- but especially women -- can be more blatantly competitive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Unless you can donate $500k/yr or whatever, I don't think you can buy your seat at a private school. There are enough wealthy people who can donate $10k-$20k/year in addition to tuition. If you have a dc who is very smart, doesn't bomb test/visit and the parents are normal, nice people (not PITA), dc will get accepted to TTs or runner ups (like ECFS, etc.). 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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keep sayin' it and maybe we will belienve you, lol! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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A dc with 98+ erb, no issues, no pita parents, who can pay their way gets shut out of top 15 schools? I don't think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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Nor do I. Btdt. Tt (fc) was no problem to get into. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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Ditto. I think the "parents not being PITAs" is a huge deal here. But also the 98+ erb is also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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Dc's erb was higher than 98 (the score that gets flames) and we're not pitas (though psd clearly didn't like me--which convinces me further my dc's placement wasn't about me. At all.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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Nobody thinks they're PITA. Nobody. I'd believe your PSD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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LOL. You're misunderstanding. My kid GOT into tt. Not a pita at all, but psd didn't like me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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I know one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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Unless it's you (and perhaps even then) you have no idea about issues or pita status or even erbs (the one thing you KNOW for certain about your only YOUR kid. Unless you actually SEE other kid's reports, I think erb score claims are largely BS). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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Happened to a DC I know who had 99 and those stats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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well then why does it seem so difficult to get in to these so-called TTs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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There are only 7 TTs, but with a situation that I described, dc could get into top 15 (TTs and runner ups) if you FC correctly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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Not always, look at this year. And if you need FA it is even less likely no matter how smart dc is and how nice you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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I agree FA is more difficult. If FA is needed, but still there are many, many families who get FA. Only 20% of applicants request FA, and many schools have 20% dc's enrolled who get FA, so I don't think it's more difficult. If you need 80%+ FA, maybe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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np. Where are you getting that 20% number for applicants requesting FA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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Most of the shut-outs from our Pre-K were high scoring, nice dc, with nice families who needed FA - several were told point blank that if they had not needed aid they would have moved from WL to accept. Also, FA awards are often broken down by division, meaning that 20% of students in the lower school receive aid, not 20% per grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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Most of the time, possibly true. But it sounds like there are plenty of shut outs every single year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:27 PM Flag
[ - ] My nuchal came back w/elevated levels for downs (1/89 - am 36). I've scheduled an amnio but any btdt w/ happy end? TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.06.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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I would guess that 88 had normal results and 1 does not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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which is still very good odds for a healthy db - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:21 AM Flag
[ - ] 4 yo ds just moved to the preschool room at daycare about 3 weeks ago. It is a pretty good daycare, but we are wondering if we should move him to a more academic preschool. Thoughs? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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do you woh? how would you handle all the hours that you work when there is no preschool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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NO. No no no. No "academics" for four-year-olds. Read to him at home, play counting games if he likes them, and let him work on social skills in a play-based nursery or daycare setting. Kids with strong social skills have better school success than children with poor social skills and unnecessary mastery of the alphabet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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More important to keep him where he's happy and comfortable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:35 AM Flag
[ - ] ds just turned three. sil says that he should know letters, numbers, how to spell his name, etc. is this really the case? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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Nope. If he does, yay! If not, he's normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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he knows some letters and numbers and can sing the alphabet but i think it's more song memorization. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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not at all - signed K teacher with an MA in early childhood ed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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all kids learn differently at different ages. one of my kids could spell her name orally before she could write it. another one wrote her name earlier but didn't know how to spell it until she could write it. both are completely normal. neither did better than the other in kindergarten. your sil sounds competitive or at best, misinformed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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No. But at her age, SIL should know to shut her mouth when she doesn't know anything about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Ita! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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hahahaha! love it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Just moved to UWS, from out-of-state. Dying for good chinese food takeout. Any suggestions? TIA, ladies. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.06.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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Where on UWS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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shun lee is excellent and expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:29 AM Flag
[ - ] New SAHM with a 2.5yo and 2mo. Moved states, and no longer working. I miss working...this SAHM thing is insanely difficult and isolating 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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Can you make a plan to go back to work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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it gets better -- since you have the baby look for some new mom groups. sign 2.5 yo up for some mommy and me classes (you can bring baby in the carseat) so you can meet other moms. go out on good walks every day. stay connected to friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I have two sons. The younger one came down with coxsackie on Thursday and the older one had diarrhea on Friday and a couple of blisters on Saturday am. Older one seems fine now and the doctor said it is usually contagious 2 days before and 2 days after blisters. He starts a week long camp tomorrow. I think I should keep him home atleast monday, right? The doctors office said that because of the nature of coxsackie they do NOT suggest keeping them away from other kids, which I thought was really odd. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.06.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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No one??? What would you do?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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I'd keep him home Monday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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Hmmm... maybe keep home Monday. My 19 mo dd had it last week, but we didn't know until Thursday (Dr. said had red blisters instead of white, so no longer contagious)- she was ill since the Friday before... I would play it safe though. She is still not perfect, had still some Diarrhea on Friday. DH and I have been sick too - SUCH a fun holiday! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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I don't know - if your Dr said they don't recommend keeping him away and he feels fine then I'd send him. It won't hurt him to stay home but if the camp is only five days then he will miss 20% of it even though your doc said it was fine for him to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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I thought once they had the blisters they weren't contagious any more? Read up on it at www.mayoclinic.com. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:22 AM Flag
[ - ] need some good, easy reads. not nec. chick lit, but something easy to read, entertaining, light and fun (without being crap). any suggestions? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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the series Number 1 Ladies Detective Agency [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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i loved 'then we came to the end'. such a great read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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I actually found it strange and a hard read. I had a hard time feeling for the characters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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this isn't necessarily light, but i just finished the unaccustomed earth and it was one of the best books i've read in a long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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