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[ - ] wwyd...having sporadic contractions, tons of "rear" pressure, really uncomfortable! constant flow of mucus (sorry tmi) would you call doc to see if there is anything i can do to speed this up!? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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no, there's really nothing your doc can do for you now, the baby is on its own schedule. by mucous, do you mean a bloody show? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:38 PM Flag
[ - ] name my dd...please! i like pretty, girly names 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.06.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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Amelie, Annabel, Jopsehine (my all-time favorite--didn't get to use it), Susanna, Elsa. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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Esme, Adrianna, Lindleigh, Maribelle, Narissa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Nerissa is a great Shakespearian name! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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np: it just has an evil vibe to me, like the name of a Disney villain. Is it the name of a Disney villain? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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I don't think so. Nerissa is a character from Shakespeare's Merchant of Venice. The meaning of the name is 'sea sprite'. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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np: Now I remember--Nerissa is the evil queen/stepmother in enchanted, so technically a Disney villain too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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Anissa, Tessa, Gabriella, Juliana [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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leah, arden, lola, meghan, sara, alexandra [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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i love flower names right now. rose, lily, violet, dahlia. not fern though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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And Ivy! Cecilia, Lucy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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Lucinda [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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Annabelle, Elisabeth, Amelia, Lila, Anna, Josephina (Josie), Casandra and then maybe Isabella or Natalia if someone in your HH speaks Spanish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:49 AM Flag
[ - ] How many pairs of flip flops do you own? How many is too many? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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I have a box full of them in my closet (which horrifies DH). They're relatively cheap (and comfortable IMO) and I wear them all the time, so I don't mind having so many! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I need advice for how to deal with my mil. She never says anything openly rude to me that she could be called out on, but she is very passive aggressive. for example, yesterday, when I told her that i have been reading a lot lately, she nodded her head and said that was great for me, but she doesn't have time to read, implying that i am lazy and sit around reading all of the time. when she saw me pout a glass of diet coke for myself, she, unprovoked, told me that she would never drink anything with aspartame in it. i could go on and on, but she does this constantly, and i think you all get the idea. i find myself making excuses to her, like a dumb ass. there has to be a better way to deal with her. i can never think of the right thing to say at the time. so, i am thinking maybe i should just ignore her? i'd appreciate any advice. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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What can you do, other than just ignore those comments? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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For the reading, I'd shrug and say, "oh. well it's a great book, I'm really enjoying it." For the Diet Coke, I'd say, "Great. More Diet Coke in the world for me." Don't make excuses to someone who is trying to belittle you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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that's good advice. she always tried to put me on the defensive though, and i let her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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my mom had a relationship like this w/ her own mother. my mom could never take it any of the provocations, and always ended up looking like the bad guy because she would fight back when her mom made a snide remark. My uncles were far better at dealing w/ grandma, they just never get defensive, never apologize for something that required no apology and it kept her in her place with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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Why do people do things like this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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because they can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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I'd respond, "So, you think I am lazy for having time to read?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] All of a sudden, 5 yo ds has started to call me "mama" instead of "mom" or "mommy." I hate bieng called "mama". Just a vent. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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my 3yo dd switched from mommy to mama as well. i don't know where she got it from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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Well tell the child. I personally like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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op: I have asked him why he started to call me that, but feel like it would be mean to tell him not to call me that if he wants to. It's not like it's a mean name, just not my favorite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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My 5 yo switched to Mama 85% of the time too. I like it though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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op: hmm...it makes me think of fat, matronly women. I happen to be overweight, so maybe it just hits a nerve. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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My 3 yo too. I prefer it, actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:14 PM Flag
[ - ] DS has been complaining of leg pain since he woke up this morning. Seems to not be able to put a lot of weight on it, but no swelling, bruises, or anything else odd looking. Any idea what could cause this? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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leg pain where? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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he's pointing to a spot about an inch below his knee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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sometimes a cold or virus can affect kid's joints [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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growing pains. call doc if still there in 3 days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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OP: are they usually so bad that the kid can't walk? He's been crawling or hopping when he wants to go from room to room, or more frequently asking that we carry him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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I've heard of growing pains causing that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Thanks. Guess we'll see how he is in the AM. If he still can't walk, we'll have to keep him home from daycare and will call the ped. He doesn't have much of a cold, but has been a little hoarse in the past week, so wondering if it's viral. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] can you recommend a good table and chairs for 2 year old? little tykes? kidkraft? tia. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.06.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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I got a fold up table at bed bath and beyond that is great. it's sturdy, and I love that it's easy to stash in a closet or transport to my mom's house for a family dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:45 PM Flag
[ - ] can you recommend a good table and chairs for 2 year old? little tykes? kidkraft? tiz. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.06.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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IKEA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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np - i am thinking of getting some from the mammut series. i think they are cute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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I don't remember the names. But we bought a sturdy set about 4 yrs ago, and the table and chairs are still holding up very well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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I have the Tutor Tots Queen Anne one from Target and Walmart. It has held up really well and looks nice with traditional furniture. More for a girl than a boy though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:32 AM Flag
[ - ] HIgh achievers are likely to do well anywhere they are placed. And they will do well in later life, usually. Gifted children are at greater risk, unless they are also high achievers. Gifted children are often self-directed to the point where they dont' care about pleasing teachers. Gifted children want to study teh things that interest them, not the things they are given to study. Gifted children are used to things coming easily and resist challenges. Gifted children will coast and then suffer self esteem issues when they can't push themselves to compete or overcome difficulties. Gifted children are often precociously "moral" thinkers, and don't take the petty injustices of a classroom in stride. Gifted children - I have one - are a PITA 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 07.06.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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You know, a lot of kids are like what you describe, not just the "gifted" children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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Generally those are the over-praised children, gifted or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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np. ITA. And the trouble w/ gifted dc is that many of them don't need exposure to excessive praise to develop an inflated sense of their innate abilities and all the issues that go with that. If they spend most of their time in a regular, heterogeneous classroom, they'll soon see for themselves how they compare to their peers, and they'll come to their own conclusions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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In NYC, "gifted" children are defined as those who do well on a test at age 4. DS has been going to school with those kids for several years. They share little in common except that they are all pretty obviously quick-witted. Other than that, they are all over the map. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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That is true of all gifted children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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and all regular children too. Some are hard workers that will make the best out of any environment, others are 'high maintenance' and need a lot of support. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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so you're saying that gifted kids are just like average kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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my time on this board has made me loathe the term "gifted children" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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np, I know - and many teachers and administrators feel that way too - which is partially why is it so hard for those rare kids that fit OP's description. They are often loathed. And they can't figure out why. It sucks sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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I have one like you describe as gifted. fortunately, he is headed to anderson in the fall. I am hoping the school really does work well with kids like him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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It is tougher, despite what people think, to have a kid who learns much faster than others. They need teachers who really understand how these kids are wired. They need schools that support these kids as special ed cases. Education industry in general is so biased against gifted children or to simply acknowledge there is such a thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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Seeing as how the school system fails so many American children, I have trouble feeling especially sorry for gifted kids versus the average student. I have a child in special ed, and every single service we have gotten for him has been a fight and struggle with the Board of Ed. And even then, what he receives in school is not nearly what he needs, so we spend the money and supplement with private services. Yeah, gifted kids have special needs, but so does every single child in this system. The kids that succeed are the ones whose parents are willing to go above and beyond what schools provide - that goes for gifted, gen ed and special ed children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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typical bitter post. cannot see someone else's situation for what it is because you are too caught up in your own pain. blech! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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I am not caught up in my own pain. I see the limitations of the school system for what they are. I don't expect the school to provide this magic bullet cure catered to my child, especially when the schools fail so many children (most of whom have no special label, gifted or special ed). I'm involved in his education and will go above and beyond what the school will provide for him. I will do the same for my other kids that have no developmental delays. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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np: as are all the parents of 'gifted' children posting on here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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nnp: But it is a simple matter of which child is more likely to provide a return on society's investment, I am sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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The SN or low-achieving child, of course. If you can get them to a point where they will self-support as adults you have saved a fortune in social services. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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Or how about just getting the regular kid to graduate HS and maybe go to community college or a trade school. That sounds like a great return on society's investments than coddling the unmotivated, yet gifted child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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mmm yes huge potential upside there, sky's the limit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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please, you're not sorry. And it's not a "simple" matter at all. How do you assess this return on society's investments? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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The potential to advance civilization / add to the body of knowledge or to create value for society and the economy. Pretty remote for the SN [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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Frankly, your view of special needs is antiquated. You sound like you stepped out of the 19th century. Special needs encompasses a wide spectrum and can include the severely mentally retarded to the bright child who has developmental delays. But, hey, you're not alone in your eugenic thinking. Hitler didn't think much of those with special needs either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reductio_ad_Hitlerum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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lol. you must feel delighted that such a person of historical importance held the special needs people of this world in such low esteem. I will "call the Nazi card" as this article so aptly states :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Yes, mass murder is exactly the same as denying government funds for some trumped up "developmental delay" that someone paid a private specialist to identify. No moral difference whatsoever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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You don't see the worth in these children. You're angry at how sucking society dry. Maybe you're not in the mass murder, but you certainly don't value their place in society. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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Oh, you're so right. The little girl in my ds' class who has cerebral palsy and can't sit on her own is such a waste of our resources, with her full time aide, and extensive physical therapy. Why don't they lock kids like her away and devote taxpayer dollars to the complicated poet children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Actually I think we should devote unlimited amounts of money to educating all the children, because they are our future. We should give them all everything that could possibly aid them, with no one denied because of limited resources! Of course, achieving this goal will require massive contributions from individuals. Starting with you. So pony up or STFU. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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Really, your post is so unrealistic that it deserves no response. Good night, have fun in la la land. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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People like you make me livid. I have a 'gifted' child (whatever the f that means--he got accepted in the gifted program in our district and does really well etc.) and one who gets extra services for various motor and processing delays. I am outraged when I hear people suggest that my 'gifted' child is somehow more deserving, and a better investment, and therefore a more valuable human being, than my other child. Neither you nor they know anything about the strengths and weaknesses and potential for society of each of these children. For you or anyone to think that a certain IQ is a guarantee of that person's contribution to anything is absurd. Thank goodness you are not making decisions that affect children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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amen, I have one too - and while I know that in life (as an adult) it will be ok - this childhood school thing is TOUGH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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How do you define "high achiever"? This seems like a tautology. "Children who do well are likely to do well." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Federer is killing me! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I have to attend a wedding two weeks after my due date. I was going to order something online since I am not sure if I will be up to shopping after I deliver. Should I order a maternity dress or just something a size larger then I was pre-pregnancy? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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Order a wrap around dress that is not maternity and in your normal size [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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good idea! thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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depends on what your body is usually like after a pregnancy. I'd probably order an empire waist dress, not a maternity one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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empire waist has never looked that great on me, my boobs are too big to pull it off, it will be even worse after my milk comes in :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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ah! I never get bigger than a 34A. kinda depressing but makes the empire waist thing easy for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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is this your first? I had lost almost all of the baby weight by 8 wks pp, but was spongy in weird places. order your most flattering style in your normal size. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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I'm always suggesting this dress on UB: http://www.calypso-celle.com/shop/cart.php?target=product&product_id=17490&category_id=335. Can be dressed up with jewelry and is comfortable and hides lumps and bumps. There are more colors in the store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a nanny for a ten month old baby boy in Brooklyn Heights. His mother and I are trying to find free activities for him during the day. Anyone have any ideas? We are already attending baby story time at the Brooklyn Heights Library on Tuesdays and we go to the local parks daily. Anyone know of anything else that is in the area? Thank you! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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the Barnes and Noble on court street has a story time too, on wednesdays I think. and the Music Together on remsen is really cheap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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Great! I will look into those. Thank you very much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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if you take the train into manhattan, they have free kids shows in madison square park every tues and thurs at 10 am all summer long. Google "madison square kids nyc" and you will probably find the schedule [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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When he gets a little older, they have free storytime yoga at Karma Kids near Union Square. There is also swimming - maybe there is a pool near you? I live elsewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:44 AM Flag
[ - ] tired of the same old strained fruit & veggies for my 8.5mo. can i give her a piece of bread to chew on? all i have is sprouted multi-grain. is this ok to give her? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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If she can sit up and pincer grasp, go ahead and give her fingerfood. Just make sure that it's in very small pieces. Does she eat cheerios yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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she'll put a cheerio in her mouth but won't swallow it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:51 PM Flag
[ - ] dc had a really bad experience with a daycare teacher I took him out and he is home I worry about his self-esteem he's 2 and half and was yelled out and made to sit for most of the 5 hours he was at school another teacher warned me to remove him 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.06.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Wow--did you speak to the director? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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he'll get over it. if he has low self-esteem it won't be because of one teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:53 PM Flag
[ - ] dumb question - how much does it cost to mail a letter these days? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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42 cents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Had a c-section with #1. Due with #2 in Sept and want to schedule the c-section. Is it possible that my insurance could force me to try a VBAC? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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never heard of that happening. they generally prefer the second c-sxn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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uh, it's usually mothers who want to try for a vaginal birth, and why wouldn't you? if you're actually under the impression that the risk of uterine rupture outweighs the risks of major surgery, you're sadly mistaken and need to do some serious research. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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your insurance co. does not want you to have a vbac. And how would they force you? have they forced you to have other medical procedures. I've had a VBAC, try keeping an open mind. it was a breeze compared to my section. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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OP: I've been reading about women being denied medical coverage due to 'elective' c-sections. I was worried that maybe they wouldn't cover a c that wasn't emergent (like I had to have for #1). I'm scared to have a VBAC - my labor with #1 was long, horrible, and didn't turn out well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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a second section isn't considered elective, it's standard operating procedure for most obs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:07 PM Flag
[ - ] three year old scared of loud noises- weed wackers, fireworks, ect.. normal or Sensory problem 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.06.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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if he's just a scared kid, he's probably normal. if he's so scared that it's inhibiting his normal functioning, then maybe something a little more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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Normal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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