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[ - ] If someone was smoking in your apt hallway near an open window would you say anything? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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probably not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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I would complain to the landlord, definitely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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ditto, I HATE cigarette smoke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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I would ask them to please either go outside or into their apartment to smoke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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definately. I don't think it's legal to smoke in the common areas of an apartment bldg in NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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absolutely, and I have. it's illegal and obnoxious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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I have a stupid neighbor who smokes in the refuse room...have complained many times. All they do is send out memos asking not to smoke, doesn't seem to reach him... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] anybody applying this year to hunter & anderson and next year to privates for their dc's? mine splits the age cutoff 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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You mean fall birthday? My DC went to Hunter round 2(didn't accepted) and going to district G&T and apply private from there. I think most of the fall birthday DC remain at preschool but DC was already bored and wanted to move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] where do i look for nannies for hire? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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look in the back of town and country magazine. all of the agencies advertise there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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I have used two great agencies- one is called Abby Nanny. You can reach the owner at CZDLutz@yahoo.com and the other agency I used was Pavillion. Both agencies do a great job. Pavillion is expensive but, they did find me a stellar nanny and she stayed with us for 6 years. My current nanny / housekeeper I found through Abby Nanny which is less priecy, CZDLutz@yahoo.com, and we love her ! You can also try gonannies.com but, I didn't get good matches through them. However, my friend found a great nanny on gonannies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.14.08, 11:35 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone have a lands end free ship code? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Vacationing with friends: good idea or bad? What are the keys to making it work? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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It can be ok. I'd suggest not spend all your time together as a group. Do things that you want to do and then arrange a time to meet up for meals/drinks etc. That way you won't feel like you are on someone elses holiday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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we (myself, DH and two boys - then 2 and 5) vacationed with a close friend of min, her DH and her 4 and 6 yr old boys and it was terrific! we don't live near eachother but we see eachother enough that the kids were all confortable with eachother and all the parents; we had a big enough beach house, and we are all pretty laid back on vacation. we developed a loose schedule (boys playing outisde all morning, kids all eating lunch together, bigger kids playing games inside or TV, while youngest napped, more outdoor play, kids eating together while grownups cooked more elaborate meals). I have to say best vacation we ever had with the kids. We are all pretty laid back on avacaton and while the kids just hung out and played togteher mnost of the time the families did take some eperate day trips and the DH needed their alone time to grocery shop or play golf one one day. I even had time to read because there was always an extra grownup around! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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I would love it, but my dh would not be a good candidate for it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:49 AM Flag
[ - ] I live 2 blocks from PS 6. Is there a good reason to test ds for Lower Lab, Or is PS 6 just as good, and should I opt for convenience? What are the real differences between the two schools? Do they teach art/music in both? Is math different in two schools? Lost here, any advice is appreciated. TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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Tour both schools and decide for yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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Try for LL. Move there if dc gets accepted. No reason to move if dc can't get accepted. PS6 can be back up if you like LL more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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no need to move if accepted to LL, it's not that far from 6, and there is a cheese bus if wanted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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i only have stories about ps6, but i live in the area as well and have been paying attention. two friends families mentioned that by grade 3, the class size and the nyc bureaucracy got so bad, they pulled their kids out. they both said in K and 1, it was fine, their kid thrived, but as the years went on it got worse. i tell you this so you can be sure to talk w/ parents of older children at both places as you do your research. gl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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6 is large (5 classes per grade?) and traditional (teachers called Mr or Mrs). LL is 2 classes per grade, more progressive. Why not test and keep options open as you see how DC develops? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 01:14 PM Flag
[ - ] For a boy, Dylan or Dillon? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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Dylan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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itta [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:14 AM Flag
[ - ] I got beautiful spring beets and fresh soft goat cheese at the farmer's market. How should I make them together? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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roast the beets then dollop the cheese on top. Sounds wonderful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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No dressing or anything? I have a homemade balsamic/dijon dressing, should I drizzle that on top? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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that would be tasty too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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^^make sure you go really light on the dressing though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Should you stop exercising while TTC? My pilates instructor told me some of her clients stop working out when TTC. I had a m/c in December and I am now trying again. Work out usually 1X per week & trying to figure out what to do. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 07.06.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Unless you have been advised not to exercise then carry on. I think it's good to maintain your normal routine and stay relaxed. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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Thanks. Your right sticking to your normal routine is a good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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It's really only an issue if you are underweight. 1x a week is hardly likely to affect ttc. I did have a friend who was on the low end of the bmi and ran 5-10 miles a day, she had a really hard time ttc until she cut back on the running and started eating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Thanks. Fortunately, I don't have that problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] any moms of 9mo's (or around that age) with milk allergies? what do you feed them? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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why would a 9 mo be drinking cow's milk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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np: db doesn't have to be drinking straight up cow's milk to discover a db has a milk allergy. You can discover from rxn to formula or breastmilk (if mom is taking in dairy) or any other dairy products such as casein or whey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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my niece had a milk allergy at that age. she was on soy formula, avoided all casein, whey, dairy products. it was hard on my SIL especially since her older dd had no allergy and was a milk fiend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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breastmilk, of course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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well then you have to consider what mom is eating, and 9mo usually consume more than just breastmilk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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my #1 didn't. Nothing but mom until she was like 15 months old. Anyway, I didn't think that much of the dairy stuff gets through the mother's milk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:54 PM Flag
[ - ] is it ok to throw sofie the giraffe in the sanitizer? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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No idea but if you need to then find out where you can get a replacement from if it goes horribly wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:04 AM Flag
[ - ] This weekend we received a copy of dc's transcript for the year from school (a K-12 private school my dc is leaving next term, as he has been admitted somewhere else for 9th grade). This past yr dc went through the admissions process for 9th (public and private). SHOCKED to see a "D" as a first term grade on the transcript, a clerical error (narrative report card sent in November directly to us had only very high grades). There was a second, more obvious clerical error (another grade was reported as "G" which was not one of the options). I am thinking through all the interviews we had in November and December, and imagining the admissions people wondering why we were not trying to do "damage control" relating to this supposed "D" in the first quarter report card. ISEE scores were all 8 and 9 stanines and letters of rec would have been consistent with terrific, hard working, great kid (which he is). Thankfully dc got into a school we love (for HS) but I am still quite shocked that this happened. I am so grateful to the school that admitted him for overlooking this bad grade (which was wrong) and admitting him anyway. Parents, MAKE SURE there are no clerical or other errors on your child's record when applying to schools or college. What really annoys me is I asked for a copy of the transcript but was refused it and told "wait for the report card, it has all the same information, plus the narrative descriptions of performance" (and incidentally the narrative part was not included in the transcript sent to the schools). Ouch. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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wow, I'd be suspicious that that was an 'accident' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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I can't imagine they would do something like that (OP).That would be crazy. Anyway, he was admitted to Stuy (we chose to send him to private). The grade error would not have kept him out of Stuy in any case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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np; which private is he going to? So, he was at a private for K-8 and you are switching him out of there for HS? I can see why they are peeved. To lose a smart dc who can boost their college exmissions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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don't want to out myself too much, but he will attend a really terrific school on the UWS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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ahh trinity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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A lot of kids who start out at "lower tier" privates try to switch to TT HS. In UWS, there is only one TT HS. Trinity and they add A LOT of new students, some 60 kids, for HS who boost their college exmissions. I bet new HS kids help them more than kids who started out in LS there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I am sure their lower school is extremely strong too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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I'm sure it's pretty good but not much better than lower tier LS's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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Collegiate is a great school on the upper westside.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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its the better school on the UWS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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Lots of kids switch schools for HS though, it is not a put down to any school. By HS kids know what their interests are, and many kids find a better fit by changing schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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If the private has HS, I can see why they're upset. if they're being counseled out, it's one thing but a A student trying to go to TT HS, it undermines the investment the school made for that dc when they accepted dc for Lower school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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what do you mean?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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admission to Stuy is based on one test, which is taken by thousands of students in the fall, and then top scorers are admitted, very similar to Hunter admissions (for Hunter HS). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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do you think a school would dare do something like this deliberately? who would do it? it seems difficult to picture (someone sneaking in when nobody is looking to make the change). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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I am quite upset about it, but dh rightly points out there is nothing to be done, and we have to try to forget about it. Thank goodness our favorite school was able to look beyond one bad mark. We are SO grateful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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np. I would still want the report corrected though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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Dh plans to request a corrected transcript be sent to the high school dc will attend. Maybe we will request corrected one be sent to all the schools where dc applied. I wonder if we should bother with that though. Maybe not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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I probably wouldn't bother with the other schools as long as you are happy with the one you got. I would want to give one to his new school though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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absolutely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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My dc's private school (preK-8) gives quarterly grades which are mailed. Sorry this happened to your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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So does mine, only there was a discrepancy between the grades we were sent and the ones they logged on the "official transcript" which was sent out to others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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a k-8 school probably would have noticed though bc they actively seek to assist students in the hs placement process. Someone would have had a file for that student and would have been on top of all of it, and would likely have noticed something wrong on the transcript. In a K-12 there is no "process" for applying out, and certainly nobody has a responsibility to help or oversee the process for any child. Mistakes happen everywhere, but in a K-8 my guess is the problem would have been discovered. None of it is deliberate in any case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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Was the course marked "D" a critical one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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I wonder how much it matters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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why did you not get the transcript prior to the applicaiton process? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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we asked but the person in charge said we needed to just wait for the report card, said the transcript "has to be signed" etc. etc. and it is a big job for her. Report cards were being issued within days anyway. I am sorry I did not ask to see a copy of what was sent to the schools but never would have guessed there could have been an error. Dh says "forget about it" and he is right. The only important thing is the outcome, which was terrific (dc admitted to a great school). Anyone can make a mistake, and we are lucky the outcome was good. Come to think of it, this is the first year they have sent out a "transcript" to parents at the end of the year. Previous years I only saw the quarterly narrative reports which had grades included. We were not even expecting the transcript in the mail. We might never have discovered the error at all (not that it really matters now, anyway). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] DH likes me 20lbs overweight. I used to love it but now I resent it and have lost 40 lbs and still going. Is it possible to develop an eating disorder in your 30s? I never had one before... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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Eating disorders (from what I know of them) seem to be linked to anxiety and control issues. Eating is one thing that people are able to control even if everything else is out of their hands. I suppose if this is the case then it could begin at any age. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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I never thought my dh "liked" me overweight but he has reacted badly to the fact that I've lost 30 lbs. It's like he's jealous and suspicious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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why does he like you 20lbs overweight? finds it sexy? a control thing? why would he not want you to look and feel great? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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I think a lot of men find it threatening. (OR here) Since I lost weight, I get a lot more attention from men. Dh notices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:21 AM Flag
[ - ] I wonder if anyone can offer advice: DH cannot seem to stop "keeping track" of time spent with dd (now 2.5). I have said, very nicely, several times in the last fews weeks that it's not productive and that I'm just as committed as he is to both spending time w/dd and making sure the other person gets time off. He did it again this morning ("I just spent an hour with her, now it's your turn") instead of just saying hey, I need to make a phone call now so can you take her. How do I deal with this? I really don't want to fight about it but it's so destructive (we did fight this am). 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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It's just how he measures time and not a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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what do you mean how he measures time? it's this awful score-keeping that has nothing to do with anyone need's but his own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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make a big chart and hang it on the wall and color code time spent with her for you and him. he'll get the message in about a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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lol--I should. I felt like saying him today "but did you get up with her for an hour in the middle of the night last night when she had a bad dream?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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he needs a paradigm shift from "babysitter" to "father" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Which name is more boring...Sofia or Kate? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Kate, definitely. I still love Sofia. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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I love the name Kate but I don't think either are boring [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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I must admit I find Sofia boring at this point (soooo many!)--still love Kate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 12:41 PM Flag
[ - ] expecting db #1 any day now. my mil is calling every other day to check on me, which is fine, but she keeps asking if my milk has come in yet. i told her that doesn't happen before birth but she still asks! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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that's so weird. I hate when my mil asks about things she knows nothing about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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yeah, and i'm not all that comfortable talking about the state of my nipples with my mil! but she doesn't seem to get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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just say that. If you don't, the conversations are going to get a lot worse when the baby comes and the milk does come in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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She's just excited and trying to connect. Give her all the details you are comfortable sharing and let her be excited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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that's good advice. but how do i respond to "do you feel any movement in your milk sacks yet?" i just said no and tried to change the subject. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Sounds like you handled it well. Talk about the baby moving around and all the nursery preparations you are making. Can you give her a job? Like buying sheets or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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she doesn't live near me so there's nothing for her to "do" at the moment. i think she is just trying to connect, i just have a hard time talking with her about my boobs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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She can shop online! Can she find the best price on diapers and have them shipped to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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I don't agree. It sounds like she's not setting any boundaries. It is fine if she doesn't want to talk about breast feeding, but she should just say it. She doesn't have to be mean or anything, but ignoring it if it is already a problem is just asking for many more issues when she's actually breast feeding. The mil probably doesn't have a clue that it upsets her this much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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just be glad she's not trying to convince you NOT to bf and that formula is better for the baby, like my idiot MIL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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fair enough! she's definitely supportive, and i'm glad for that, just a bit intrusive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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I get on really well with my MIL and we are close but she would never ask about my breasts! Is your MIL like this with other things? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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she is endearingly honest but often ventures into "too much information" territory. i can't be too angry at her, i just don't want to hurt her feelings when i say that i don't want to discuss certain things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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That's tricky. I think I'd laugh it off without answering her questions or get dh to tell her to ease up a bit on the inappropriate comments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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