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[ - ] possible to get pg while using a condom (started without and put it on after starting)? I'm not a teenager, just really ignorant and embarrassed to ask! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.25.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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absolutely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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oh yes, definitely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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OP: I'm in my 30's and it was before ovulation (I thought??). seems like impossible odds though, right? I know I should know more about all this. first baby was conceived quickly but totally planned to the day. this would be very weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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Totally possible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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of course. did you not read the package insert? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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honestly, no. never had to think about it before; always was in relationships on pill and then TTC (condoms sometimes, but never an issue). I must have slept through sex ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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yes, but the percentages are in your favor. How long until your period? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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almost 2 weeks. I'd be thrilled if I were though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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unlike bc from what i have read, preejaculate has no sperm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 11:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Any Forest Hills moms on? Looking for information or opinions on PS 101. Looking at this and Our Lady of Mercy parochial school. Any help would be appreciated!!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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PS 101 is a beautiful school, good scores. You have to live in the wealthiest part of Forest Hills to be zoned for it. And it may be getting crowded... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok come one did you prep your 99x3 ERB dc? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.25.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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Not even a bit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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ditto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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Never saw the need as my kid is very, very bright. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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I don't know why you think that someone would admit this on here - they won't lie, just won't answer the question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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Are you trying to figure out whether you should prep? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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No. Dc is very bright and I knew she'd do well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 11:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Niece was just diagnosed with a brain tumor. Feel horrible. Any advice about what we can say or do or what we shouldn't say or do? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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don't say everything will be okay because it might not, just say this sucks I am so sorry and what can we do to help? and make sure you are able to help and be there for them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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Sorry. Just say that you are around if there is anything you can do to help or if they want to talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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Are you local? Do they have any other children? Don't just ask what you can do, just actually start doing things-- feed them, watch the other child(ren), clean their house, put out-of-town visitors up in YOUR house, mow their lawn etc etc. It almost outs too much of a burden on them to figure out what you could do to help. Just do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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Excellent advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:31 PM Flag
[ - ] dh family is renting a house with a pool. we are going for a week in august. no fencing around pool. they have dogs and don't want to put gates around doors and deck. I have 2 kids, 2 and 5. older dc can swim. will clearly watch kids, but should I get an alarm for pool? I feel a little neurotic doing so, but I worry, esp about younger dc. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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I would be worried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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btdt here, i purchased a swim suit for my dd that had built-in floatation thingys and she was totally unsinkable and in the pool all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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I would. my 2yo is fast and fearless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:03 PM Flag
[ - ] dh family is renting a house with a pool. we are going for a week in august. no fencing around pool. they have dogs and don't want to put gates around doors and deck. I have 2 kids, 2 and 5. older dc can swim. will clearly watch kids, but should I get an alarm for pool? I feel a little neurotic doing so, but I worry, esp about younger dc. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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I grew up around pools. I would absolutely get a pool alarm. I am slightly paranoid about pools and I have been a lifeguard too. Who cares if people think you are neurotic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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I'd get an alarm too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I JUST got a gate up today at the house we bought. Also have pool alarm. Poolguard--apparently the best. Recommend 123 swim vest from One Step Ahead. Put that on 2 yo and she was in the deep end paddling away that same day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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Just watch them. They'll be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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For one week? I wouldn't get an alarm for such a short time. Just watch the children more carefully. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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np The doors and deck will be open for dogs. Asking for tragedy with 2 yo. Personally, I think ils should suck it up and put up gates and let dogs out as needed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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This is the thing about pools accessible to small children. If something goes wrong, it will be a tragedy. There is no second chance. Also, I have found when vacationing with a lot of family members, everyone assumes that someone else is watching/with the children. This is not going to be a relaxing vacation for you. And really, who cares about the dogs. Strange priorities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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i had the same issue, visiting mom over the summer. i bought something called the safety turtle--an alarm band the kids wear around their wrists. worked great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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Get the alarm and don't feel neurotic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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what exactly is a pool alarm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:33 PM Flag
[ - ] What is law in NYC regarding car seats in cabs. Trying to figure out what I need to do to get db home from hospital. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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The hospital will not let you leave unless the db is in a carseat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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but isn't it complicated to install with the base and all? Will a NY cab really wait there while you do this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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you don't need to have the base to install the carseat. the base is more of a convenience to keep in your own car. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Just tell them to put on the meter. They get it though and will have no problem with it, new baby and all. My husband walked home with the baby in a carseat in a snap n go ourselves, I took a cab. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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but isn't a car seat complicated to install with base and all? will a ny cab really wait while you do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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Once you open the door, the cab is yours. Driver may not like it but that would be so far down the list of things I give a shit about at that point that I would probably overlook it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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^^oops on the double post before, didn't see it come through the first time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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Everyone says this but did anyone actually have a hospital check? I carried both my sons out. Seat was in car. Nobody stopped me and I can't imagine what they would have said if they had tried. What authority does the hospital have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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Hhmmm... I'm not sure. My dd was released from the NICU and they did a weird hang out in the carseat for an hour before we were able to leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying I think you ought to take a newborn in a cab (or any car) without a carseat. Just that it seems odd that everyone says the hospital won't let you leave without baby in a car seat. What if you live around the corner and are not driving? What if the car seat is installed? etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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I wasn't checked either. I wasn't even escorted out of hospital with DS #2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Cornell checked, not only that you had a car seat but that db was properly buckled in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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^^^ even my friend who lived across the street and was not getting in a vehicle had to bring in the car seat and put her db in it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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I wonder what they would say if your friend said, "No. I have a stroller." Or "db's dad is carrying." Or whatever. The hospital can't stop you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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Lenox Hill checked. The nurse came downstairs with us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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I did, two babies, two different hospitals. and really, why would you NOT put a newborn in a carseat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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As I said above, I'm not advocating that you don't. Just pointing out that, 1. I don't think this is as hard and fast a rule as people think; 2. so what? Unless the hospital has somebody trained in car seat installation and is going to come out and make sure it is installed, why get involved at all. And 3. to tell me I need a car seat to walk my kid home... please. I guess if I felt like the hospitals had really perfected L&D and the whole maternity floor experience, then they should think about branching out to traffic safety. But since they seem to screw up their core mission so regularly maybe they should focus on that first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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they have a ton of mandates for baby safety since for too much of the population, that's one of the few reliable contacts with the healthcare system. its the same reason they tell you not to shake your baby when you are checking out. I don't imagine they will stop you from leaving, especially if you say baby is being walked home. but they will ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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that is not true at all. my hospital didn't care. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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^^i know b/c i didn't have one (i thought we did) and they were basically like "sorry, we can't help you". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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The law is irrelevant. A newborn needs to be in a carseat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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Try KidCar New York. They will come pick you up with the proper infant carseat. They will even teach you how to install you own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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http://kidcarny.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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This is very helpful...thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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I'm against unnecessary expenditures but if they show you how to install it I think it would be worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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cabs have a special exemption under the law -- it is NOT illegal (however unwise) for a child to ride in a taxi without a carseat in NYC. def not recommending it esp for a newborn or any infant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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you do not have to have a car seat in a nyc cab. we don't own a car and do not plan on buying a car seat since we normally just use the subway. however, it was suggested to us to borrow an infant car seat just for the trip home from the hospital since we will be taking a cab and not the MTA. maybe with a toddler for a short distance in a cab w/o car seat is okay, but not a newborn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:37 PM Flag
[ - ] If you were due 8/31, when would you get wax to be close enough where still looked ok, but not too close in case things happen early? This is first db. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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surrender Dorathy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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what does that mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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it means that you may have to give up some things once you're a mother. I'd let this go for a while, you have bigger concerns. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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hard to say. i went 4.5 weeks early and had a wax appt for that coming weekend. but honestly when all was said and done, there was so much going on down there, i'm sure the extra hair was the last thing my OB and nurses were looking at. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Very true, and I know it's not a huge deal in the end, but wouldn't mind attempting to be groomed if possible. Thanks for the response! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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on saying that, i did make sure to be groomed for my 6 week post natal visit :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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Ha, thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:01 AM Flag
[ - ] OMG. A mom at the park asked me how her nanny does when she isn't around. I tried to think of a polite way of telling her the nanny is better with the boys than she is. What a freak! Poor nanny, I have no idea how she could work for such a helicopter mom! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.25.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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just smile, say she's great, and move to another bench [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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I told her, she is a great nanny. I wish I had known her before I had my son and had to quit my job because of no daycare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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awww [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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There is a loaded reply. You sound lovely! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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i think you are the crazy one, whats wrong with her asking? who else can she ask? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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sure she can ask... but it seems pretty self-conscious to do so, in my opinion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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her boys are 18 mo. she was very concerned because one scraped his forehead on a bench under her care. Uh, 18 mo toddlers are always falling and running into things. Definitely, not the nannies lack of attention! I told her that's what 18 mo do.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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she seems pretty insecure (and lacks understanding of toddlers) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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no kidding! the nanny is awesome. you have to let go and run the risk of minor injury with toddlers...that's how they build self confidence and self esteem. She is really insecure with them. I feel bad for the boys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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How judgemental are you? Do you have 2 little boys? If not, it can be crazy. Also, it is often easier for a nanny because her only job is to make sure that the kids are safe & taken care of. A mom is often watching the kids, cooking dinner or other meals, cleaning the house, doing bills, answering the phone, laundry, etc.. Sounds like you may have only one or may not have 2 highly active boys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it really true that Dalton received 1,500 applications last year? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.25.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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is that all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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That is a lot of applications. Almost as many as Hunter got. Hunter got 1600 or so last year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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No, but it was above 1000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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Probably something like that. About 3500 kids take erb, so it makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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No, last year, 3100 took ERB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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and how many private spots are there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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90 total. 45 for girls and 45 for boys. But probably half go to sibs (with 95+ erb). So, 45 for non-sibs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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NP: That's really such a huge grade. It's nearly twice as large as the single sex schools as well as Anderson, Hunter, LL... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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60 for SS schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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Really? I thought it was around 50 per grade at Brearley, Chapin, Collegiate, et al [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Around 50 at Spence k. Not 60. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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I'd believe it. I think everyone I know who applied to schools applied to Dalton. Pretty much everyone tosses their hat into that particular ring. TT, so it gets the status-seeking applicants and progressive, so it gets the more loosey-goosey parents. It offers something for everyone! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Makes sense. I don't know about status seeking but has the academic reputation plus it's coed, so boys and girls apply. And progressive lovers, too. SS is only for the "believers" in SS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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how many seats are there in the ISAAGNY schools for K? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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2400 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Really? We were one of the few people I knew who applied to Dalton. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone help tragically un-hip mean and explain what Twitter is? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.25.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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It is a service in which you update your status (where you are, what you are doing) and your friends can see what you are up to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:49 AM Flag
[ - ] is it possible to have identical twins while taking fertility pills? or does that result in only fraternal twins? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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Yes, it is absolutely possible to have identical twins AND be on fertility meds. If one egg is fertilized and then decides to split, voila - indentical twins, meds or no meds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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it can get even crazier than that. You can have two eggs "take" with fertility drugs and then one of them split so you end up with triplets - two of them being identical twins and one being a fraternal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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and you can have identical quads with NO MEDS at all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:44 AM Flag
[ - ] What would you expect to make cleaning a gym per hour? It's a local one location gym in NYC. TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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a lot of money. depending on the gym, they can be grimy. is it just locker rooms or those plus pool, plus gym machines, etc? there are a lot of places to clean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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and a lot of germs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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What's a lot? $ 15 - $20 per hour. This gym is three floors, all machines and floors including locker rooms need to be cleaned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:40 AM Flag
[ - ] awww, but that carnegie mellon professor whose last lecture got a lot of attention, died. he was only 47 and left 3 little kids. http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080725/ap_en_ot/obit_pausch 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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I can't go to link, but did he die on Tuesday by any chance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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i don't know, why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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a friend of mine died of pc on Tuesday and I just wondered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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not sure, but sorry for your loss [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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Thank you, he too was an extraordinary man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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I'm sorry too. I posted a bit ago about Randy Pausch's death, my fil is fighting pc. It is an awful disease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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