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[ - ] Any idea why it's called Fire Island? 6yo DS has asked. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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^^ and please spare me the flame jokes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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because those boys are on fire! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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I was under the impression it was named that because pirates used to set fires on the island to get boats to think they were sailing/landing inland. The ships would then run aground and could be taken over. Coney Island is named after the dutch word for rabbit (conijn). This is also the root for the "c" sland word for a vagina. (Many slangs for women/vaginas have rabbit origins.) And with that, I'm going home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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Coney is the English word for rabbit, too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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It was Henry Hudson's Dutch crew members who went ashore and found all the rabbits. I was trying to find out for a class who first set foot on NY. This was the best I could find. (I was teaching special ed at the time and we had this thing, if they stumped me they got to pic Friday activity. It had to be a question related to work from that week.) I happened to also be taking a lit class and reading Tropic of Cancer and was doing research on "cunt" ironically the two went together. Otherwise I probably wouldn't remember either. (I did not share the ironic Henry Miller research with my class.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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Unfortunatley there no evidence of wrecks to support this story, but it sounds nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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Fire Islands coast is pure sand. I don't think the goal was to wreck the boat, it was to run it aground then capture it and take it. (I wikipedia'ed this. It has this and several other stories. I think I heard that story in junior high school when we did a field trip there.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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On early 18th century maps a bunch of islands off Long Island's south shore were written as "Five Islands". In later maps it got changed to Fire Island. Not very exciting, but true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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On 17th century maps the area said FIVE ISLANDS. In subsequent maps it was mistakenly changed to FIRE ISLAND. I believe this, there's no evidence of pirate activity in the area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:15 AM Flag
[ - ] i need to get laid tonight 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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don't we all honey [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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no, i do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] how much does a stamp cost? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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41cents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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Went up to 42 cents on May 12. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:26 PM Flag
[ - ] My dh and I are fighting over UB. He says it's stupid. I say it's religion. Help me settle this -- what's the most insightful thing you've learned here? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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Honestly, it gives me perspective (sometimes). If I am not sure about something, I can come here for a sort of consenus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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I don't necessarily go for insight. I WOHM and use UB for questions I would pose to mom friends if I hung around other moms more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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ita with this. i get good tips here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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I think it's moderately helpful, but mostly a guilty pleasure. I love to "escape" here. It's usually a time zapper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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Amen Sister! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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But much less so now w/ he new site. I used to be here every single day of the week - well, maybe not Sundays, for nearly four years. Now, maybe 2x per week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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It's guilty fun, but I wouldn't assign any more significance than that. If I did, I'd probably be depressed thinking I'm an awful, poor mother whose kid will never get into college because they aren't going to a TT or G&T or whatever school in Manhattan, and that my dh is actually having an affair instead of working. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] i feel 3yo's preschool isnot teaching them enough. very play based. are there any enrichment classes that offer more traditional ways of learning in nyc? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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what is he learning? in what areas do you feel the curriculum is lacking? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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get...a...life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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I think you are the one w/too much time on your hands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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he knows his alphabet bc i taught him they have yet to do that and he should know how to hold a pencil, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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I would ask the director what the children a year ahead of him are learning, if you don't think they are teaching them enough, I would switch unless you LOVE the school or work more at home w/him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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This is a kindergarten standard. Anything taught before is simply a bonus. These are milestones that are meant for kindergarten. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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itda, many schools have requirements for admission [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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well therein lies the difference in expectations. If you are trying to get into a NYC school then that's one thing, but in many other areas, there are no admissions requirements for K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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play based learning at that age IS traditional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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oh my god you are pathetic. your poor poor kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:55 PM Flag
[ - ] We need middle name help please - Lila _____ Reid. DH huge golf fan and wants "jones" or "hogan". I like "Ruth",which was my middle name.....any thoughts? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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annika [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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we are looking for names of people who are not alive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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But your middle name is Ruth and you're alive? Makes no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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Ruth is no longer my middle name. When married, took dh's name and my last name became my middle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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How about Birdie but spell it differently - like Berdie or something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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where's that name from? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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a birdie is when you shoot one under par [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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I like Lila Rose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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I like Lila Ruth Reid and the monogram would be beautiful, fwiw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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was your middle name? has your middle name changed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] ok, i am making a commitment to actively find some frineds in this small town. i tired of waiting to be asked out. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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try the library, newcomers, local volunteer groups (junior league) or college clubs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:26 PM Flag
[ - ] what's a good type of wine to invite the ladies for a playgroup? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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nice light summer wine- sauvignon blanc or a pinot noir are nice. Love the Caymus Conundrum which is a lite white blend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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for summer, an albarino (from Spain, white) chilled, with some manchego cheese. For red lovers, I like an Australian Syrah. Neither need food to be drinkable. OTOH, no one ever turns down champagne and it is sooooo festive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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oooh- along the lines of champagne and much cheaper, a prosecco sparkling is lots of fun and very yummy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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or: a yes, forgot about Prosecco. Good idea for a budget and fun! Serve with parmesan cheese , crumbled [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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How about a champagne cocktail - a Bellini would be perfect (and they are delicious). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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nice rose d' provence and tocai from Italy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] What is your tolerance level for words like stupid, idiot, moron, etc. from your 1st grader? What is your consequence? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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no tolerance. we dont even allow 'butt'. at some point we'll have to soften on this, but not at this age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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consequence? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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no tolerance... consequence is a warning and then a loss of something. In the grand scheme- not a huge deal but in first grade equal to telling someone to F off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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0 tolerance policy. time out until they can apologize...if they do it again after apologizing, they lose something fun. acting that way is social suicide, and just mean, and i think you need to nip it in the bud [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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Sometimes we let it slide the first time with a verbal reprimand. Next time, time out. I'm amazed how many bad words he knows and how mouthy he is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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No tolerance but I'll make believe I didn't hear if it was a learned kind of passing thing sometimes. If he is being aggressive about it -- I will call him an asshole until he stops. OK maybe not. He is 5.5yo. Telling him it is not ok and making him apologise to whoever he said it about seems enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:34 PM Flag
[ - ] How do I help ds (1st grade) who feels the need to always belittle others to deal w/ his own low self esteem - particularly his little sister? It makes me so sad that he sounds so mean. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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show him. when he gives a compliment, compliment him back or reward him somehow...don't give him attention if he is mean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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I hear you - I try so hard to find the positive & point it out but it is too hard to hear him talk so nasty & not say anything - yet nothing gets through to him anyway :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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this sort of behavior really tends to be socially enforced. i mean, you could talk to his teachers about keeping an eye out for it but it will probably be other kids that make him learn to act differently [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:14 PM Flag
[ - ] what would you do if you found evidence that your DH was contemplating cheating, but you were pretty certain he hadn't ? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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Get him away from whoever he was going to cheat with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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it wasn't a specific person - more a potential crime of opportunity and/or interest in an escort service [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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Confront, counseling. If he refuses, boot him out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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I confronted, he has apologized profusely and already made an appointment to see his therapist. Is that enough? I don't want to be stupid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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np - I would request couples counseling but I have to say, it's impressive he has a therapist - I wish dh would go.\ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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I know. I thought he was a decent guy. I'm not sure he would have actually done anything. This might be his version of a midlife crisis, and I don't want to overreact, but OTOH, infidelity is a deal breaker and he knows it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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I guess I'd approach it as you trying to help rather than punish - maybe then you will get more out of him as to why he is thinking this way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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ita, go for the couples counseling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:07 PM Flag
[ - ] any korean moms on? is dashi bad for dbs? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.28.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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dashi? meaning dashita? if that's what you're talking about, it's bad for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] can allergies give dc a fever? DS seems fine and perky and has been having allergy symptoms (he has terrible seasonal allergies) and just tonight he has a low fever. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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btw called ped just waiting to hear back from him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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yeah, allergies can give a low fever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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THANK YOU!! i never get any responses on this website anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:38 PM Flag
[ - ] My new eating plan. Eat sensibly and count calories. How many calories per day should I have for a reasonable weight loss (2 lbs/week). I'm 5'4" and 160 lbs. Want to lose about 30 lbs long term. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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do low carb. so much better for you in both short run and long term. plus you dont have to be hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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Use calorie-count.com. It's free -- you input your height and weight and goal weight and activity level and it will tell you how many calories to eat each day. You can also use the site to track your food each day or your weight. I've lost 10 pounds since the end of March. (Would like to lose about 5 more.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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1200/day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Our recycling was not picked up today and I have no idea why (the neighbors' recycling was picked up so it's not that they just didn't show). Should I call the town to find out what the problem is a/o to complain? (yes, I realize this is not a huge problem in the grand scheme of things, but we recently moved and I've spent a lot of time breaking down boxes to comply with the recycling rules so I can get rid of them). suggestions? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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yeah, call to find out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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Give the town a call. (A few weeks ago our paper/cardboard was picked up, but our cans/glass weren't. I wondered about it but never got around to calling...at the next pick-up they took it all). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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Make sure you got the separation right first. If you rat on DOS in NYC they will check your garbage for the rest of their time at that site and ticket you whenever they remember. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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oy. obviously I don't want tickets! I just want them to take the stuff, and if there's some problem, I need to know what it is so I can fix it (e.g., sometimes people put their leaves in plastic bags, which is a no-no, and the DOS puts big stickers on the plastic bags saying that's why they weren't picked up). the only thing I can think is that it was more stuff than they wanted to take, but they didn't take any of it, even a small box of newspapers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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