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[ - ] just got + from ovulation stick. sounds silly but - what do i do now? when should i have sex? how often? positions? thoughtful tips. want to get pg and don't want to "mess up". thanks! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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keep your knees up after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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did that. what about how often to have sex? and when? like how soon? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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for us it usually worked to have sex early in the cycle. but everyone's different. didn't use an ovulation kit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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needed to because cycles are 9+ weeks long!! i don [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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--don't want to miss another cycle! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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wow! good luck - in that case I would have sex every day for the next few days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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thought there were "rules" about how much and positions and such. ugh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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For me, I did it twice within about an hour of the positive. Have a baby boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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^^ Also didn't ovulate for months before this time. I think we did it again the next day, but can't recall. I was on bottom. Worked the first time we got the positive opk. Tested 2 weeks to the day later and it was positive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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:) thanks! i just don't want to do it too much. i'll try twice today and once tomorrow and we usually have sex most days anyway -- we did last night. so keep yopur fingers crossed -- hopefully a boy for me too (have 15 mo dd!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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I think doing it too much is more for when you "think" you know when you're ovulating. You don't want to "use up" the good sperm and then ovulate a few days later. I think if you have a + opk, you'll be fine. Have at it! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] i like las vegas...didn't think i would 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] The doctors just found a hole in my aunt's heart. She's 45. Anyone know of anybody with a condition like this? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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I have a PFO, is that what hers is called? Hole between upper chambers. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Moved 3 yo into his bed from the crib. Mostly going well, but he cries every night between 4-5. Will not go back to sleep except in our bed. WWYD? Let him and hope he grows out of it, or keep bringing him back to his own bed, even if he doesn't resume sleep? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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we do the you can't come out of your room until 6Am rule. you can play in your room or read books but you can't come out. works for us. [ Reply | More
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how does dc know it is 6? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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this is a tough topic. I would bring back in. I know people on this site are anti-Chinese and oh so smart but non-Western cultures are not inferior but different. So if you look at Chinese, they allow their kids to sleep with them until dc are ready for transition. Moving a child out of your bed in the middle of the night would be a pretty traumatic experience. I would not do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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What does being Chinese have to do with anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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has to do with not being an American [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Chabad preschool in Manhattan - any feedback appreciated 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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generally good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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can you elaborate please? do your dc go there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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my db goes to a chabad daycare/preschool and it's great -- more curriculum than i think you get elsewhere at this age, and i like the jewish bent to things. feels kind of like where i went to nursery school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the latest in pregnancy that you would travel 3.5 hrs away (by car). Would not want to deliver there 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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7 hours before birth [ Reply | More
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ita. when contractions get 10 min apart i would head home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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38 wks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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I just gave birth at 35 weeks so I'd say then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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35 weeks [ Reply | More
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33 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 year old sleeping in my bed. refuses to sleep in crib... do you think that's okay? i know western cultures don't approve of this. ANyone else had the same issue? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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nope because i never would have allowed that in the first place. my children sleep in their beds because they are their beds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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? 'because they are their beds'??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] very calm 3.5yo in delivery room? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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NO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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no no no never [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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why scare the shit out of a kid? I don't see the upside. [ Reply | More
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np. also, someone is still going to have to watch them and dw and dw are going to be otherwise occupied [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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LMAO! Oh yeah! Great idea!! Snort! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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To see Mom in excruciating pain, with blood and weird stuff happening to her. Are you nuts? You should be ashamed of yourself -- stop being cheap and get a babysitter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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My friend had her 6 yo dd watch. BIG mistake. Her dh had to take her out of the room and then he couldn't be there for my friend because he had to calm hysterical dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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^^^plus she had an epidural, so she wasn't in terrible pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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My friend had her 3yo at her home birth. The kid even touched her sibling's head as it crowned! Ack to me, worked for them. Kid doesn't seem injured by the experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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They showed this kind of thing in the Business of Being Born, and I've read about a lot of kids at home births. I would definitely have the sibling involved at a home birth, but not in the hospital, which is a scary unfamiliar environment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Maybe that is the difference. I think a lot depends on the child and also what you and DH are like in general. My friends live the life of people who give birth at home, DH and I tend to run to the doctor for a little nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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"nothing"? like someone coming out of your vagina? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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ROTFLMAO! 39 wks pg, and that just made me laugh so hard I peed my pants a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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oh!! sorry! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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No, it was much needed. Love the image of "someone" coming out of there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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In the movie, the couple that did this was very zen and in a kind of special psychic zone. Bore no resemblance at all to my experience in the hospital. Kids don't give a crap about the gore, they just want everything to feel safe and normal. Not really possible in your typical hospital setting with all the bustle and tubes and bright lights and intervention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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i don't think this is great forum in which to get support for this. people do it and have good experiences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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np: to that point, the hospital is also not the right forum to get support for such a decision. I think if you want a child there, then plan to do a home birth-- calm, familiar, not terrifying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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holy hell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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OMG. Hysterical. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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sure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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My sister has 3 and did last two at home. She had young kids about that age there and they did fine. It was a good experience for them and they talk about it sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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There's a book these people should check out and buy for their kid. It's called "Welcome With Love," and it's specifically about a dc watching sibling being born. It's a home birth setting, but would also apply to hospital birth, I'm guessing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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UM NO. WTF. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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Why would you do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Need a dress to wear to the gala. I feel fat, big boobs, size 10 and short 5'3". Where can I find something fun to wear? in NYC 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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i like the variety and amount of options at macy's in herald square [ Reply | More
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np. macy's doesn't scream gala to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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I have your same body type (short-waisted too) and I have the best luck at macy's...lots to choose from [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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kritzia probably [ Reply | More
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krizia [ Reply | More
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I would try the dress dept at Bloomingdales. A big selection, decent hel[p [ Reply | More
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anthropologie [ Reply | More
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np: I hope you're joking. [ Reply | More
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OP: not my idea of dress for big boobed ladies. these clothes shred in a stiff wind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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Lord & Taylor has a good dress dept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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bergdorf's has a sale going on now - 40% off some stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:53 PM Flag
[ - ] How much would you pay an 11 yo neighbor to take care of your cat while you're on vacation for a week? 30 minute play, fresh food, water & litter scoop each day? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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$100 [ Reply | More
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np: for an 11 yo? sounds crazy high to me. [ Reply | More
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$5/day [ Reply | More
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$7-10 per day [ Reply | More
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$15 a day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
[ - ] I cant take it anymore. I am seriously considering leaving dh and kids. I feel like I am in a prison. Anytime I try to go anywhere ds acts up. He turned 4 last week and does not listen to a word I say. He is constantly bullying other kids. DD is so very sweet but because DS needs so much time and attention by the time I get to her I am way to exhausted to play. I cant take it anymore. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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what do you and DH do when DS acts up? How do you handle it? How does it get handled in school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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time out, toys taken away, no sticker on sticker chart. He goes to school 3 am's weekly, though he is out on summer vacation. At school they put him in time out and sent a note home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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you need to do those things really consistently, and there should be serious consequences, every time, for the really bad stuff like bullying other kids. Also, he's old enough for reason. You should talk to him and make him understand that bullying is unacceptable, that he makes people feel bad, and that you, and others, don't like him when he acts that way. If none of this works, then maybe he has emotional/developmental issues and could benefit from seeing a specialist. You can't walk away from your family-- I'm sure you're not really contemplating that-- but you don't need to accept a miserable situation. You can take control. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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Before you abandon your family, get some therapy for ds and yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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yikes! Really. Sorry you are having a hard time OP but this is life and has real consequences for your kids. You can't just quit being a mom. I hope you will get the help you need [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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Dh will not allow ds to "be shrunk". I made an apt with a therapist but attended alone. Before advising me she needs to meet ds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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np: This will sound a little harsh, but grow a backbone. This is your child. You are responsible for turning him into a decent person. If your husband is working against you in this, then leave your husband. Do not give up on your kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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can you get some help around the house instead? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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DH tells me that women have done this for millions of years. I dont need help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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he is right that women have done this but teh vast majority of them had mothers or aunts etc nearby. Tell him to move you next door to your mother or cough up some $$ for help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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sounds like dh is a real treat. perhaps you need to leave him for a day and leave him a list of things to take care of in addition to caring for the children. my dh watched two ds's when i had a bridal shower once and he apologized after! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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He is always at work or playing golf. He has yet to have both kids at once. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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10 years ago we didnt have kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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you didn't discuss how you would raise them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Need better discipline with DS. be firm. be consistent. read 1,2, 3 magic. Make alone time for DD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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I have read it. We spend lots of time together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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you definitely need some help at the house. can you find a student to watch thekids a few hours each week? and maybe a cleaning person? i have had a social worker through EI and she has said repeating yourself over and over until ds does what you says would work. she is right about that. [ Reply | More
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What about dealing with the hitting and pushing other kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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i have a 4 yo (newly four) and we have some of these issues. i have just explained repeatedly that hitting and pushing is not allowed. those actions are punished immediately when they happen. he has to know that there is no exception and you will never allow this. the key is for you to remain calm. if you get angry and he gets a rise out of you he can be acting out more because he is getting attention, even though it is negative attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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tons of praise for good behaviors is also helpful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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don't be silly. take dh and leave the kids to fend for themselves. ok. sorry. do you think your ds has problems or is he just a normally challenging child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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I dont know. He is fine until he gets around other kids, then he becomes very aggressive. As long as we dont leave the house he is generally ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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your dh sounds like an asshole. i agree with whoever said above that you should just take off for the day and leave a list of things to do. he'll get the message. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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yes. and you need to let him know he can't golf that day because you have something to do. and if he is always off doing something, take your ds to a specialist and he'll never know because you don't have to tell him. i feel bad for you because i have a friend like this. but like you, she won't just state what is on her mind and stick up for herself. you need to have him listen to you and really hear what you are saying. [ Reply | More
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btw - i should add that i'm a dh. (guy who says your husband's an asshole) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm pregnant--can I get laser hair removal for bikini line? I know it's an odd question, but I'm not sure.. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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I got laser hair removal on my bikini line several years ago and I believe they said they wouldn't do it if you were pregnant. Totally worth it though -- definitely get it at some point! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Going on vacation in July while 6 months pregnant with a 9 year old dd. Where should we go? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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tortola. [ Reply | More
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love Tortola, very hilly though. [ Reply | More
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that's what rental cars and taxis are for! i never walked a hill there. [ Reply | More
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that's not what I'm referring to. they are all switchbacks, and feel it when you're in a car. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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i was there twice during pregnancies and never had a problem. i was doing the driving both times though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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St. Croix, Buccaneer. You can always take day trips to Tortola (and St. Thomas or St. John) if you feel up to it. [ Reply | More
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St John sounds good too, direct flight into St Thomas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Florida Keys [ Reply | More
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Quebec City, Montreal, San Francisco, Santa Monica, Puerto Rico [ Reply | More
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go to playa del carmen. we are at the fairmont now and it is amazing! [ Reply | More
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why are you on UB then? shouldn't you be having a tropical cocktail and relaxing? [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Info on Chabad preschool in Manhattan? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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friends have their kids on the ues and in chelsea, they both like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] any suggestions for books for a 4.5 y/o who's just starting to sound out words? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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my ds enjoys some of those leveled reader books from B&N - they are picture books but with easy words on the pages. he does the level 1 books. [ Reply | More
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ITA. Level 1 or the Pre Readers. Amelia Bedelia is funny. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Any PS9 Pre-K acceptances out there? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.28.08, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] My ds is 2yo and 2mo. He recently learned to climb out of his crib and naptime is now a disaster. I put a lock on his door but he immediately climbs out of his crib and just plays his bedroom. Today, I had to rock him to sleep which I haven't had to do in over a year. What should I do? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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crib tent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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ita - we have a crib tent (ds is now 2.5, put it on at 18 mo when he started climbing out) he thinks of it as his "house". Without it we would have lost the nap a long time ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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if he's playing quietly in the room, just ignore. he'll either go to sleep on the floor or go to bed earlier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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remove the lock - dangerous in case of fire. agree w/ the crib tent suggestion. H e may be dropping the nap too, though it is a bit early for that [ Reply | More
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