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[ - ] is it reasonable to expect dh to take care of 3.5 yo & 6 mo alone for a long wkend while i go to an out of town wedding? was going to take the 3.5 yo to ILs house so he'd only have 1 dc, but the flight times don't work. wondering if it's too much for dh, though he'd not think twice about my having both kids alone. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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is 6mo on schedule? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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stop enabling. is he handicapped? he can parent his children for a weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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why do you ladies insist on underestimating us dh's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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At those ages, I think dh should do it. It's not an infant and a toddler. The 6 yo can help out & everyone can play together. Go enjoy your time away - you'd do this on your own w/o even blinking! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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OR: Oops - sorry - misread this. But I stand by what I said even though I said it wasn't an infant & a toddler... You'd do this on your own without even thinking about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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It's easier now than it will be in 6 months. He really only has to watch one, as the younger one probably is not too mobile. Go for it now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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neither of us has had 1 dc alone for 3 days in a row let alone 2. once i had to be alone, he asked my mom to come stay with me. i'm glad he did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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I am sure some DH's could, but mine couldn't. The 3 yo sure, but not the 6 mos too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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op: this is what i'm worried about. he's great with 3.5 yo but has never had both alone for more than a few hrs nor much time alone with the 6 mo. at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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i don't know about 'reasonable', but i do think it's not easy. it depends on your 6mo and on how much hands on experience your dh has. i don't know if i'd want to leave my dh to deal with dcs for a long weekend. i don't htink i'd be thrilled if he left me either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:47 PM Flag
[ - ] for anyone who is interested and remembers, dd's friend of a friend who thought she was pregnant is not. this is the girl who was supposedly being taken to the doctor by the guidance counselor 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 05.28.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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I remember. That's good. Did the gc actually take her (I think we were wondering if parents would have to consent for that.) Now, there was another mom whose ds' gf was deciding what to do about pregnancy - I wonder how she is doing.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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I remember that one...sounded like terrible situation with the girls' nutso parents. I don't know if gc actually ended up taking her, and the more I hear about this girl, the more I realize she's in a very risky situation. Just this morning, I asked dd if she thought the girl might be exaggerating her predicament. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Went upstate last Sunday and walked through the woods. We all ended up with tics. Doc friend told us they're not the ones that carry lime disease. Next day (althought I had checked dd really well) found a tic on dd's scalp. I've been thinking about it ever since. Shall I take her to the doctor, just in case? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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lyme [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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I hate these posts. I think the last thing on her mind right now is spelling! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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don't be hatin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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nah. Google tic for info that willmake you feel better. DD has had 2 this year and I called the doc. They said it's really unsual for them to get anything. Watch for 10 to 14 days for weird looking rash and/or fever. The diseases actually only tranfer to people if they are done feeding - ie big and fat. Gross I know but assuming you got them off pretty quickly, there shouldn't be any problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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Yet another reason to stay in the city! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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I live inside Atlanta city limits and DD got one here! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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where you could get killed by crossing the street? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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Truth be told, you usually get killed by not crossing the street. If you make it all the way across, you are usually pretty safe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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We have them in Riverdale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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yes take to doc. do you still have tic bring it if you do. they should prescribe antibiotic for 21 days as precaution to prevent lyme. friend going through this now with her dd. good luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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I'd rather have tics than roaches any day! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] How overused/popular is the name Jacob? We are in the NY burbs. I know it is the most popular name in the US< but I don't know any kids younger than 2 named that. We have a fairly common Jewish last name (ie Shapiro ish) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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its very popular but still nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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Interesting - we know lots of 2 and up named Jacob - haven't looked at younger... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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Very popular at our Jewish preschool. I think popular regardless of religion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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It's been #1 on the list for several years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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hello mrs weiss. we have a jacob under 2 - don't know too many in the city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] come on. top five classic romances: dirty dancing, pretty woman, ???? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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When Harry met Sally? Father of the Bride. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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When Harry Met Sally [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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when harry met sally, sleepless in seattle, you've got mail - and I don't even care for meg ryan that much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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Dr Zhivago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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I loathe pretty woman. it's so romantic to be a whore! come to beverly hills girls, you'll look like Julia Roberts and land Richard gere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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really? its just a fantasy movie. no one expects that to happen. jsut as no one expects Nicolas Cage to leave a waitress a 10,000 tip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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wasn't that based on a true story? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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the Nicolas cage story was. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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but why does she have to be a whore? why couldn't she be a shop girl, or a bus driver. I hated that it made street walking seem so easy and fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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ITA with you. That movie creeps me out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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uhm. ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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ugh. what awful selections [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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well what do you like? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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african queen. adam's rib. double indemnity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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cleopatra, the apartment, the getaway, the Thomas Crown affair (with Steve McQueen) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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What about Breakfast at Tiffany's, Casablanca, Dr Zhivago, Sleepless in Seattle, When Harry Met Sally [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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op: thank you all. great list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:00 PM Flag
[ - ] At what age would you leave your dc alone at home while you ran a quick errand? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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9 ish. My son is 7 1/2 and i wouldnt do it yet. live in a safe burb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:33 PM Flag
[ - ] mmm.... eating fried egg sandwich for lunch. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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yum. I like breakfast food anytime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:31 PM Flag
[ - ] On vacation and have a terrible heat rash. Anyone had one of these? What can I do to immediately relieve the itching? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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get out of the heat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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That's not very helpful. Of course I'm doing my best to stay indoors but I have a toddler who needs to get out occasionally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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try to stay in the shade, immediately dry off if he sweats, use a cornstarch based powder in the crevices after bath [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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Thanks. It's for me though. DC is fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know of an in-home daycare in Chelsea? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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Call Child Care Inc. they are a non-profit Child Care Resource and Referal Agency and a have a data base of licensed providers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know a good baby clothing store near 30th & Park? Gift for a 6mo. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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anything in Herald Square [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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Space Kiddets - Park and 22nd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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Little Folks on 23rd between Park and Lex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:25 PM Flag
[ - ] we were advised for medical reasons to hold of on ttc'ing for a couple of months. i don't want to use hormonal birth control. dh has nixed condoms. so that leaves us with spermicide or a sponge. dh is pushing for the pill. i think b/c it's easier for him and won't make having sex so non-spontaneous. he doesn't see taking the pill as a big deal at all. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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have you thought about a diaphragm or cervical cap? No hormones. The cap let's you be pretty spontaneous since it can be left in for a couple of days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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i don't know anything about that at all. my doctor didn't mention it. maybe b/c it's relatively a short term issue? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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maybe. Both have to be fitted. Look it up. I just googled cervical cap for my sister (she just had #5 and is finally done!) I liked mine a lot when I had it several years ago and it worked fine. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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thanks very much. i'll look into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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no condoms no action [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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they are married! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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yes but the issue is not to conceive - condoms are still the easiest one to use, much less complicated than anything she would use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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yes but to threaten no action unless he uses it is a bit extrmem in a marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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For him to say he won't use condoms is a bit extreme. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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no, its a discussion that needs to be had. i dont think hit sounded like he completely refused. Just that he preferred not to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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NP: he "nixed" them. to me, that means he refused outright, not tabled the discussion for later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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op: he said he didn't want them, i said ok. i don't know if he'd reconsider it if it bothered me that much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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np, So?? I couldn't use hormonal bc b/c of blood clotting disorder and my DH was fine with condoms. As he should have been. Why should a woman have to deal with hormonal birth control? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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I was only commenting on her idea that the dw refuse to have sex if he doesnt wear one. i have o problem with condoms theoretically. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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If they don't want to have a baby, and she doesn't want to use hormonal birth control, what method of contraception do you propose they use? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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diaphragm, sponge, I dont know but there are other options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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op: i'm fine with him not using condoms. i mean, he's allowed to put have preferences too. i'm just not sure if i should reconsider the pill. or if there's another option, like the first OR suggested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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Sorry, but I think it's a huge deal. Why should the onus of birth control be on the woman, particularly when most birth control involves hormones? I think it's incredibly disrespectful for a man to refuse to use condoms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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i don't know what to say. i don't feel disrespected. I don't feel like it's a big deal. I'm just not sure how strongly i feel about hormonal bc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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Np- I agree with you 100%. I'd be pissed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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no glove no love [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Hooray for condoms... I have been married with 2 kids for 12 years and I love condoms ! No mess... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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that's because it is no big deal for him - he doesn't have to remember to take the pill, etc! men are so self-absorbed. then they wonder why you decide it is just easier not to have sex with them. btw, I would not take the pill if TTC soon - it takes some time to be fertile again sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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op: that's a good point. i'm not crazy about hormonal interference at all. but i really wouldn't want to delay ttc'ing once we get the ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Marriage is sometimes about compromises. You should not go on the pill if you're soon ttc. Dh can wear a condom. It shouldn't be a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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ITTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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i would use spermicide, sponge and natural family planning. you won't get pg that way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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that's the other thing. i was wondering if we just need to use the birth control at times when i'd be ovulating. b/c then i definitely wouldn't go on the pill. although that's probably pretty risky. there are probably hundreds of women who have gotten pregnant by miscalculating ovulation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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how often do you have sex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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on average probably twice a week. some weeks more, some less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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get the book take charge of your fertility and start charting. it will help anyway when you decide to conceive. I would still use bc all month but this will let you know when you are most fertile and need to be cautious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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i looked at that book once and it's great. maybe i'll get another copy and review it. thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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what is the medical reason for holding off on getting pg. Would it be dire if you were to get pg now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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my doctor is concerned that it wouldn't thrive right now. more of a danger to the pregnancy than to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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We pull out. It's worked for over 10 years for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:22 PM Flag
[ - ] help me make my sons invites, something along the lines of 'Jake Smith is turing one so come celebrate and have some fun' (but cuter!)thanks! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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pizza and cupcakes, music and fun, our baby Jake is turning 1! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:31 PM Flag
[ - ] So my favorite name - since I was little and read "All in the Family" is Ella. Our employment lawyer just named her little girl Ella and everyone in the office is making fun of her. Screw them right??? (I'm pregnant now) 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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every new baby in the country is named ella. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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name your kid what you like. What's wrong with Ella anyway? I like it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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they started singing the Rhianna song . umbrella. . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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I have never heard of Rhianna (43 FWIW) and think Ella is nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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are they in 5th grade? Seems weird to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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Ella is nice - why would anyone make fun of her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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Its a beautiful, class (and popular right now) name. Signed Ellas mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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It's nice but extremely popular [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] how long after ovulating did you start to feel pg symptoms? how many days? ty 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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about 10-14 days, mostly feeling hormonal, breasts feel different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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