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[ - ] 12 mo refuses to drink cow's milk (took her off formula a week and a half ago). Ped said two servings of dairy daily would be fine. what do you think? (i wasn't sure if ped meant fine for a while or fine forever and the office is now closed so i thought i'd ask you all.) i feel like everything i've raed is that she needs the milk in addition to other dairy. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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i honestly don't see why, as long as she's getting enough fat and protein [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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rest of the world seems to do fine without giving babies cows milk. listen to your ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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sorry for the ignorance, but what do mom's in other countries do in lieu of milk? or do they bf longer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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I think she meant fine for now - they need the nutrients from milk - I've never met a ped who said dbs don't need it, regardless of the nonsense you read here. FWIW op, it takes a while for them to get used to the diff in taste, don't sweat it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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have you tried yogurt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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yes -- she eats tons of yogurt daily. that's why i'm wondering if it's ok to skip the milk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Remember when you broke up with a guy and he wanted to be friends? He'd try to be super nice because he felt bad for hurting you? The ones who wound up hurting you even more because they strung you along with false hope that things would change? Those guys suck! My dh is doing that and it sucks! What's worse, even though we're breaking up, he does stupid shit like the dishes when he watches dc, emails me jokes, wants to do stuff as a family, etc. Why can't he be a total bastard, not just a bastard who is cheating? So much easier. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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oh, all guys I know fear nothing but not being remembered as a "good guy" they all want to be a "good guy" even if they're ripping your heart out in the process [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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That's my dh, alright! Wants to be the good guy, but then runs around on me. Not. The. Good. Guy. He should just give up and embrace his badness. Many women find that sexy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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np: just tell him that. Say, "look, you're an asshole. you're a cheater. No amount of jokes or clean dishes is going to change that. If you want to be the good guy, go be someone else's good guy. I'm f**king the pool boy." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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You are my new best friend. Seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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my exbf did that while he was cheating (for basically most of our relationship) and before i knew about it. should have be onto it from that but just thought he was a rare good guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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a dh here: I always thought the other guys were the douchebags. The ones who turn into assholes/treat you like shit so you dump them so they don't have to pull the trigger. I've always been proud of the fact that none of my ex'es (I think) wish me ill will. I just learned something new. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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did you cheat on them? if not, they prob. do not wish you ill will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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I have never cheated. (I've wanted to but I think that is normal.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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so not the same as what op is describing. trying to be the good guy even though he is clearly the bad guy, not just someone ending a relationship that isn't working. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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I was actually responding to OR... "All guys want to be a "good guy'" Sorry I was unclear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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op: that is douchelike, it's true. Fwiw, dh seems to be trying that at the same time- continuing the other relationship until I finally divorce him, all the while being "nice" to me. Head case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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I sat a friend down once who was a habitual douchebag and told him that what he was doing was both cowardly and unfair. That taking away the future is one thing and totally fair. But by behaving like that to force her hand is stealing her good memories of the relationship and that is unforgivable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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But wait - has he told you you'll always have a special place in his heart?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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omg, that is the worst [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Have lived in Park Slope for about a year now. I don't think these people are my poeple. This is like living in Oregon or something. THese people are way to crunchy for me. I miss the UES and the pretention. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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a friend is going thru the samme thing. told her! PS is NOT the same as UES. not close. like you said, might as well be oregon, or mars. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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I live on Park Slope borders. I love being near the park and away from pollution of city yet still close enough. I am not crunchy at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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i think the word is "pretense" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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why, oh why, would an UESer ever think they'd be happy in Park Slope? Personally, I like Oregon. But the UES makes my skin crawl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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go to kidville - you'll feel right at home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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^^btw, i'm from the ues and have been in park slope for 2 yrs. i also think it's annoyingly crunchy and cheesy, and don't love it. but to not like it because it lacks pretense??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] i have had two friends lose babies at 20 wks in the past month -- what gives? :( 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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so sorry to hear that - any similarities? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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What is the reason? I had a friend lose one at 20 wks recently, too. So sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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i feel like one of the reasons we are seeing more of this is that technology and early intervention are making pregnancies that would have lasted 8 weeks a few years ago last 20 weeks today...but, i'm not a dr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Probably true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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np: I discovered that there's nothing they can really do to prolong - let alone save - a pg. They don't even bother trying. I think people with uterine abnormalities (like me) and old eggs (like me) are getting pregnant with unsustainable pgs though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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are you ttc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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I actually have two kids now. Out of 7 pregnancies. On total bedrest, cervix trussed up like a turkey, and barely getting through them. And at 20 weeks when I went into labor with #1, they were really up front about how the meds they were giving wouldn't really stop the labor if it was true labor and there was nothing they could really do. Lucky for me and db, I stopped contracting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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true - you can't "save" an early pregnancy w/ any technological intervention that I've ever heard of [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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you can determine if you are high risk and be extra vigilant about bed rest and nutrition and acupuncture...peopole do all kinds of things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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of course, but that's not what or was talking about, and no amt of bedrest can stop a genetic abnormality [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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i am or though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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I did do all kinds of things. But OBs will all tell you that bedrest doesn't really work, they put women on it because they want to feel like they've done everything they could, but it does not improve outcomes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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so sorry. That sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:45 PM Flag
[ - ] my veterinarian is unbelievably dedicated. my pet died and (she was great before he died too) she's spent hours emailing me information to answer all of my questions. i wish there were something i could do for her besides a donation to the hospital. any ideas? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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you can take my old cat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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i don't see how that would serve as a good thank you gift for my vet? and...i don't really like cats [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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your vet would be happy knowing you are helping out another feeble animal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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that's all you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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Nice bottle of wine? Cookie tray for staff? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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I'm sorry for your loss. A letter to the vet thanking her for all her help would be lovely. Also, let her know when you are ready for a new pet - vets always know about animals that need homes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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thanks, i'm sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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so sorry for your loss. it is so hard to lose a pet. i would definitely send a nice note. a donation is a lovely idea too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] what's the most you're willing to spend on preschool for a 2 year old? Annually? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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full time or half days? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Any Habonim parents on? What do you think of the new Rabbi cnadidate? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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love him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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What did you like? Only saw him in action at a Tot Shabbat. Nice guy, but seemed a bit "light" compared to the current Rabbi. Love her. Think she's a real powerhouse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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did you see this? http://www.habonim.net/community/index.php?page=15985 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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No. Relatively new member with twins. No time to breathe. Didn't even know this existed. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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oh my, you'll need all the support you can get. Get out as much as you can! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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It gets better...2.4yo twins and 3rd on the way. Yes, we NEED to get out more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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OP: Now that I've read this, I go back to my original question? What did you like so much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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I felt something good with him and I like change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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Somewhat OT: How do you like the school? We're headed there in the fall... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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OP: Same here. Yellow room. We've probably met. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:37 PM Flag
[ - ] 2yo just getting over stomach bug. 5.5 mo showing signs of it coming on - decreased appetite, lots of burping/gurgling tummy, general fussiness. What do I need to do? Have a call in to peds, but have to wait for the on-call doc to call back. I'm nervouse about db throwing up/getting dehydrated. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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^ sorry about the typos/spelling - db on lap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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omg - I would freak out if my 5 mo had a stomach flu. I don't know what I'd do, but I'll be thinking of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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relax - it may be nothing - is db still nursing well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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She's bottle fed - and no - only about 2 oz before her afternoon nap, and just now only about 3 oz. And she spit up/threw up about half of the last bottle and then cried and cried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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sounds like she's already got it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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That's what I think. What am I supposed to do? How do I keep her hydrated? How do I keep myself sane?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Not as many posts on this site anymore? Seems so quiet. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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omg, you're right! i'm gonna head over to YOUBEMOM.COM right NOW! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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me too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:07 PM Flag
[ - ] OK you know you have a REALLY bad cold when you call your OB to ask about cold medicine and the nurse says you sound so awful that you should make an appt with your regular doctor ASAP. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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it did give me a little laugh. but i feel like i am dying a slow death. poor dd. i just stick her in front of the tv so i can sit down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Suggestions? My 4yods weaned recently and will not forget the boobie. He asks for it daily and I always tell him no. When will this end and what should I do? It makes us both soo sad. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.28.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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LOL, good one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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Did you wean him or was it his idea? Did you have a weaning party? You've got to have weaning party!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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really? I have never heard of this. We did, however, have an intervention where all the family gathered around him and told him that it was time to stop sucking the boobie. He hid behind my and cried and vowed to never stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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reason #1 to wean before 1 yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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He absolutely refused to wean aat one year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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if they have teeth and can ask for it, they're too old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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ITA. The longer you wait to wean them, the harder it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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not for everyone -- i weaned ds at 22 months (he was still nursing to sleep at that point) by saying "not tonight, tomorrow morning" for three nights. he didn't ever want to nurse in the mornings, and after three days he didn't care about it at night anymore either. no problems -- but if we'd stopped earlier, it would have been a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] who had a negative nanny/babysitting experience? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.28.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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a parent in my db's daycare was telling me they got home when he was about 4 mo and he had a HUGE bump on his head and nanny wouldn't admit anything had happened [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Have friends who say their 6yo is smart but lazy. Can you really tell if a child is "lazy" at that age? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.28.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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mnnn, i don't think so. when children that age are referred to as "smart" it really just means that they are engaged and interested in learning. their child is probably average, i mean, just based on that description [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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Kind of. At least in that if homework is always a battle and dc always seems to want to do only the absolute minimum required, then s/he may be on the lazy side:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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^^^my dc is like that, really bright and everything comes to him very easily, but hardly ever bothers to put any effort into things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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np: Ditto. My 6yo DS is like this. I am dreading 11 more years of homework. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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I think by labeling him as lazy, this will sink in and will be much harder to change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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there's also a difference between lazy and not being engaged... but I have a lazy one... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:29 PM Flag
[ - ] is it possible that i killed my bamboo plant? i thought they were indestructable but many of the leaves have turned yellow and the trend is continuing. any tips? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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that's such bad luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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is it really? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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did you pee on it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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I think yellow means overwatering [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I though frozen veggies now have as much nutritional value as fresh but when I look at the package it has very little % of vitamins? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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is this a question? Are you comparing to vitamin counts in fresh versions of the same veg? Or are you just assuming that all veggies are nutritional powerhouses when fresh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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get organic cascadian farms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:01 PM Flag
[ - ] What is an average age that dc writes their own name? My 3 yo wants to, and can spell it, but doesn't have close to the fine motor skills to write the letters. He is getting frustrated that he can't do it. We try to divert at this point. Any idea? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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my ds was doing this at 3. it didn't look good but he kept trying and they always helped them at school too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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My 3 yo can spell it but can only write two letters thus far. She is working on it. I think 3 is pretty early and most do it at around 5. Let him keep practicing. I would work on one letter at a time until perfected [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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Mine was 4ish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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mine was around 3.5 and it was an easy name. wrap your hand around his to help him write the letters and it will turn into drawing on the page quickly (which will help improve his fine motor skills). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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