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[ - ] My dd's school was a nice place at one time. Not anymore... very sad 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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which one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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it's in LIC - PS78Q [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Carpet Beetles. Help. I have them, they eat your clothes (most people blame moths when its really carpet beetles). Is there a "bomb" for the house that kills them all? Anyone know? anyone gotten rid of them? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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what do they look like? i saw a curious bug last week in our apartment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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you can probably find a picture on line. The larvar are like small headless worms (tiny) and are beige. The adult beetle is like a tiny beetle. Black or dark brown. They fly. When you squish them, it has an exoskeleton like a beetle. You usually see the "shells" of the larvae in your sock drawer. Like when a snake sheds it skin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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np: ooohhhh, that's what I have. I doubt you can get rid of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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a pox on you! I have faith. I am smarter than they are! And bigger too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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yeah, but you can't get into the tiny places they hide because you'r too big! And you might be smarter, but they have survival skills evolved over thousands if not millions of years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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rasberry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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get rid of carpet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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The name is misleading, they don't really have much to do with carpet. We only have one rug in the entire house. They eat your clothes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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What are the tell tale signs of damage to your clothes? I have seen several small black/brown beetles in our bedroom, but I wasn't sure if they are eating holes into our hardwood flooring, or whether they're carpet beetles, or something else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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Its carpet beetles, and they just eat tiny holes in seldom worn things. They also like the expensive sweaters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Is there a cancer called stamis? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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there is a squamous cell skin cancer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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thanks I wanted to look it up - but obviously I didn't hear it right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:07 AM Flag
[ - ] when do i call zoned school and let them know dc is not coming - it's seriously over-crowded and they have asked that we let them know ASAP. Have not yet registered dc at new school but will do so next week - would you wait until he is actually registered or is it safe now? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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Imo. Wait until you are registered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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this is what dh says - they have called me twice to ask if we are coming (didn't turn in health form) - i need to avoid for a few more days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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I'm not tellin our zoned until I have completed registration with G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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thanks - we will do the same; after all of this waiting on our end they can wait a few more days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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Do not risk being left with no place at all. Wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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that is what dh says - i will wait; no idea why i feel such guilt after the hell the doe put us through waiting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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b/c it is not DOE you are disadvantaging, it is the school and other families like you (who may be making decisions to move, pay for private, etc. based on there being no spot for them at that zoned school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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IMO, safe now to tell them you're not coming IF registration at new school comes through without a hitch. You have the letter guranteeing you your spot. Unfair to zoned school and other parents who may be waiting for spots there to wait longer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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np. this would be the good thing to do but may not be in your child's best interests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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Ditto. We keep our PS150 spot until DC is registered with G&T school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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I just pulled my dd's registration file from our zoned school because we'll be registering at citywide G&T next week. The zoned school wanted to see our G&T acceptance letter, and made me sign a written statement saying that I don't want my dd registered there! So bizarre. And I'm so glad that I won't have to deal with them! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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It's not bizarre. They want to finalize their numbers asap. There's quite a bit involved in budgeting, class assignments etc., and having to deal with it so late into the school year is difficult for all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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well, i guess the doe should have taken that into consideration when they made this process drag out for SOOOO long [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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OR: When I asked to take our paperwork, the lady first told me that they could not give it to me because they were going to shred it. I told her that she would be saving me a lot of work if instead of shredding it, she gave it to me (!!). Then she made me sign the written statement, and when I asked why, she said it was so that I couldn't come back later if I changed my mind. (Again, ?!?!?!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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doesn't the admin staff work over the summer anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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no, just principals and asst principals [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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can you tell us what school? just curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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which school? if it's 234 or 89 I'm not surprised. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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np: that is what i'm thinking too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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PS 187 in Washington Heights. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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When I registered dc for G&T I said I had already registered her at zoned school and the G&T school said they would notify the other school because it would come up in the system that she was registered. I'm not sure they all work like this but I was surprised we wouldn't have to make the call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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I called the zoned school, and they said that the DOE would do it as a transfer when they registered her for the second school. The first school doesn't need to do anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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Please don't wait for the G&T school to call. They are busy scrambling to get their classes and numbers together. If you can, please notify your zoned school. It really does help them figure out budgets, class configurations, etc. and the earlier the better. Many thanks from a gen'l ed. parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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The G&T school doesn’t call. When they enter the child’s registration, it comes up as a transfer and they enter the code to permit it (given to them by the DOE). Then the zoned school is notified of the transfer. At this point, there is nothing the zoned school can do to change the registration, only the g&t school can do it. There is no point in calling the zoned school unless they are really behind and haven’t entered your dc’s information yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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does this work the same way for option schools like Midtown West? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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Yes. At least it worked that way for a "transfer" from zoned to a D3 lottery school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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You're assuming the information of transfer is instantaneous, which is a lot to assume based on the DOE's track record. If it's the same to you, call the Gen Ed school once you're registered at your G&T school. Thx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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I did. This IS what the gen ed school is telling me. Once they enter DC's registration, there is nothing they can do until they get the official transfer from the DOE when the second school inputs their registration. After they told me that, I called the DOE and they confirmed it. By all means call your zoned school if you feel like it, but they can't do anything (like admit more kids or set classes) until the transfer goes through, and most don't really want to be bothered talking to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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That makes a lot of sense. There is really no need to keep each school up-to-date as long as DOE's computer system keeps track of every student. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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FYI - on Inside Schools someone has posted that when they went to register dc at G&T school, school told them that because DOE over-enrolled, all registrations are "pending", not definite. http://www.insideschools.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=3530 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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That was one specific school. Since every school has its own registration process it was probably just a one-off event. Once the school realizes that not all of the assigned families will sign up they will turn the "pending" to "registered:. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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That parents letter was from OSEPO, not from the specific school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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It was the school that gave her a letter saying that the OSEPO over-subscribed the G&T program at her school. There was no mentioning that the placement office is in any way involved in this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 01:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Is really strong aftershave or cologne bad for a 6 month old db? I would think he would recoil from it but he doesn't seem to notice it (even when it is stinging the back of my throat). I don't wear any. Just wondering. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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So who is wearing it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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DH. I would like him to stop - but he seems to think it is no big deal. He is stopping for me - but I was wondering if it is bad for the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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it is not bad for the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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np. just unpleasant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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That was the excuse I used to get FIL to stop bathing in that revolting aftershave stuff he literally used to bathe in. He'd come over and hold one of my twin babies and I'd have to give her a bath afterwards. EW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:00 AM Flag
[ - ] DH is nearly killing me with his aftershave. So awful. Any recs for an unscented aftershave (or something with very little smell)? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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gross. take him to kiehl's. they have nice, subtle men's products [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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try suggesting to dh that he shower with soap not with aftershave [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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my DH uses nivea and I think it's really nice/subtle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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If he needs aftershave I like the Origins one a lot. (In general I don't need/use after shave so it is more about the rare times I pamper...) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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is it really lightly scented? i can't stand strong scents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Window guards. Anyone BTDT. I rent, I have casement windows from the 1920s/30s that open up completely, and my super says they don't make window guards anymore for those windows. I've called 311 and I'm working my way through the system but looking for anyone whose dealt with this? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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if they don't have them how about those iron gates I see on some windows? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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That's nonsense and it's the landlord's responsibility to supply the guards BY LAW. There are various types of guards, including the little bars that go up about one foot. I have those and have the 1920s/30s casement windows [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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I would call every applicable number in the blue pages. I would also walk around, find a building with the same windows and guards and give address to super. Tell him he has a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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By law if a child under 7yo lives in the apartment (or visits regularly) the landlord has to fit window guards if the windows open more than about 4". Tell your landlord to fix this straight away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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absolutely the owner's responsibility, not yours. do you research for them how to find and install a legal heating system or like that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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If your landlord refuses then inform DofH and they will make them do it (and will find lots of other things that need doing to the apartment too so your landlord will not want them involved). I'm guessing they don't do the annual lead testing either! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Okay, (OP here). I know it's not my job but the super is sweet but so *%*$*X@ useless. He can't fix anything. I don't trust him to find the safe solution and I just want it done. I can't believe I let him tell me they don't make bars for our windows (they don't but you can use a chain). I called 311 and got an experts name there for the super to call. They said I need chains. If they are not up in a week I'll report the building. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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ask the super if you can arrange for it and you'll get reimbursed. how old is your dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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she's two. she goes to daycare and we are mainly with her/she's not a climber, but come one now, we need guards! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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yes. There are chains that you put on the windows. I have casement windows and they work beautifully. Your super can put them on. The window will only open about 3-4 inches. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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Do you know where you can buy these? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Where can I take a cpr class on UWS? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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check at your local hospital or Y [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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Roosevelt Hospital. 59th and 10th. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:33 AM Flag
[ - ] diagnose my child's ailment: she complains of aching jaw, or her "throat" hurts, then falls asleep at 10:00 AM. She normally doesn't nap at all. Age: 3 1/2. No fever. Still sleeping. I'm at work, nanny is relaying messages and updates. Level of my concern at this point should be....?? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.18.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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UM, who is taking her to the ped?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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does she need to go? she's napping right now with no fever. i'll take her, but it's not clear to me that she needs to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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so, your child is in pain and more lethargic than usual, and you don't feel this is a reason to check it out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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considering she just woke up, claimed nothing hurts her, and she is now on her way to the park. nope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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so you are too negligent to even check it out? gross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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ugh, I hate pediatrician-crazy parents like you. You don't get tired of hearing "It's a virus. Make sure she stays hydrated"?? Learn to trust your isntincts. Not everything demands a trip to the doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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thank you, i share these sentiments as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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you can have strep with no fever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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ah, this is insightful. thanks. will call ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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i had strep a few weeks ago and no fever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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my oldest daughter would get strep with NO symptoms, more than a few times. we'd figure it out when her younger sister would get horribly sick with a sore throat and violent fever. we'd go to ped, both would test positive for strep, both would respond nicely to amoxi, etc. completely diff reactions in siblings. go figure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Bummer. My CSA won't be delivering after this season. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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farm closing or are they opting for pickups? we do pickups and it's really fun, great activity for the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Rec's needed. I have a chronic back condition and need rec's for either a sling or carrier. I'm having my baby in the fall and need to drop off my other dc to school and will be taking the nb. I tried the Bjorn with my other dc but that hurt like hell..too much pressure on my spine. Any rec is greatly appreciated 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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I think if you have a chronic back problem you shouldn't use a sling or carrier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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op: yes I shouldn't but I have to bring 2 other dc to school on the bus with a newborn..so this will be the easiest way. I can't afford to take a taxi every day 4 times a day (one in preschool half day and the other in elem.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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double stroller with baby and kid 1 in it. kid 2 holds your hand and walks to the bus. stinks but keeps you vertical! Imagine doing any of it if you're stuck in bed after really injuring your back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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that won't work. The middle dc is way too big for a stroller and carrying a nb, stroller folded and 2 kids on the bus in Manhattan at 7:45 is not the way to go. I hear what you are saying but I've tried it this way when I had #2..too much of a PITA..so I need to not to bring a stroller (even a single one)...with the baby's weight and the weight of a folded stroller, that will be too much for me. Thanks anyway. It's a pita but I've gotta find something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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I don't understand why they can't walk, but try the Ergo if you must. You do realize that it's really counterproductive to deliberately not take care of yourself, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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op: we can't walk because the schools are a mile + away from our apt. In the nice weather we do occasionally walk but at times I'm in too much pain to do so. In the cold weather there's no way I would make them walk. I've been living with this disability for 18 yrs now. I know my limitation and what I can do. When you find yourself in a pickle and don't have any other choice, you have to make the best decision you can. Thx anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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When does your DH go to work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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op: he goes to work at 5:15am [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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^^sometimes he's out early enough to pick the kids up but that isn't a sure thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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www.slinglings.com loved them, have two and gave a few as gifts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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op: thx will look into it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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Did you try the bjorn with the lumbar support? I really liked that one. Otherwise, ergo is good, but I've heard they aren't the best for newborns. Also look into the moby wrap. I found it to be a pita but a lot of people like them, and you could wrap it on a way so weight was off your back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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op: yes I did for #2 and it really was uncomfortable for me. My dc wasn't a big baby either but the constant weight down on my spine was too much. Thanks for the recs. I will look into the others [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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My cousin has this thing that works like a structured fanny pack that you can sit the baby on. It says to use after 6 months but my cousin used it before then. It may be better for your back because the weight would be on your hips not your back. http://www.strawberry-tiger.co.uk/acatalog/info-hippychick-hipseat-black.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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op: thanks so much. I will look at the site now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] poll: when did you start putting your baby down at night awake? right now my 12wo falls asleep after she eats and we carry her to the crib, she goes right to bed which is great but friends say she needs to learn to be put down awake 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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I put my dds when I saw she looked sleepy or tired. That worked well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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As long as your dc can fall asleep on their own sometimes ie doesn't always need to be held, rocked etc that is fine. Ideally your dc should be put down awake so they learn how to go to sleep on their own. If they can fall asleep on their own in the crib for naps then bedtime is less important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:01 AM Flag
[ - ] you sound like a tortured soul. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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and which of us is not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] good one! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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good two [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:28 AM Flag
[ - ] POLL: Moms who had db in their 40's: Did you have m/c beforehand? Did you conceive naturally or did you need medical assistance? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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I'm 40 and pg with #3. I conceived naturally and on the first try for this one. My #2 took 10mo TTC at 36 yr old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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i am the father of twin girls, and we had many m/cs and failed attempts before conceiving and carrying to term--mom at 37 yo. i think miscarriages are more common than we used to know. now that ultrasound and pg tests give such early results, i've learned from so many acquaintances of lost pgs. i think it always had happened, but we didn't know. nature's way of picking her best shot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:22 AM Flag
[ - ] MIL is visiting and staying with us. I hope she noticed how I raced around this morning, getting ds ready for camp and getting myself ready for work while dh sat on his a$$, leisurely eating breakfast and checking his emails on his laptop. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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she probably wondered why you weren't ironing his shirt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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lol, and I was probably asking too much of him when I asked him to hand ds his milk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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I doubt it. She might notice that you didn't make him a full cooked breakfast though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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that's true -- poor guy had to eat cereal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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I promise you she noticed nothing except what you could have done better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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ugh, and there was plenty for her to notice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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she's pissed because you didn't make her breakfast, iron her clothes and get her ready too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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ditto - sorry to hear it; tomorrow you should just have an early morning meeting and let the two of them deal with it to see how 'easy' it is - i'm serious - i have done this before when i have had enough of dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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I think that is a great idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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yeah, but ds would be late for camp. Whenever I ask dh to do something related to ds, he F's it up. So I stopped asking him and just do everything myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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i think the only way to fix this is to let dc be late for camp; he probably f's things up on purpose because then he knows you will do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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yes yes to let the f-up happen--it's not a safety issue after all. by stepping in to relieve the d?h on every thing he has trouble with (on purpose? even unconsciously so?)you are encouraging, maybe should say enabling, his spoiled prince act. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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np. ITTTA. You're being a gatekeeper and you need to stop or things won't improve. And I also agree with the poster above, it might be deliberate on dh's part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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np. BTDT. If your MIL is like mine, all that will do is cause her to criticize you for not being there for your family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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My dh sleeps till 8 and then leisurely takes a shower and goes to work while I get both dc’s ready and take them to school.. When my MIL came into town she said that I am so spoiled since I have a nanny, housekeeper (2x’s a month) and send my laundry out. I’m a WOHM with 3 dc’s and I pay half of everything!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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your MIL is a tool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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tell her yes I have to pay for help since your lazy ass spoiled son doesn't help with the 3 kids..He knows how to make them but god forbid get them ready in the morning [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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my dh helps out - with some direction -but then leaves for work when he feels like it while i wait for nanny and organize the day for the kids; if he needs to work late he does so - no problem; i have a reduced schedule and come home earlier but sometimes am still dealing with work stuff when i get home - can not stay late as I have to pick up dcs...will never get ahead at work like this and always feel behind. At least once a week I miss more work to do a dr. appt. or school thing and am a year behind on my own appointments. Have been sick for days and still come to work - dh stayed home in bed for two days sick last week while i did everything. My MIL would say the exact same thing - and that i'm not nice enough to DH. he has it made while I run around like a crazy woman. how i would love to just walk out the door in the morning and just come home when i wrap up my day - what a nice simple life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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I am in the same boat. Before we had kids my career was ahead of Dh's now I can barely keep my head above water. But I choose to have three dc's and am very happy with our family. Just the day to day gets me down and sometimes my career. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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ditto - didn't mean to rant so much above but have had a bad week with lots of extras piled on me and dh just goes along with his business like no big deal. he took dd to dr. appt. once (she has asthma so she goes pretty frequently) and when i asked if he could take her again this week it was like i asked him to split the atom! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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I hear you but we should both get off UB and get our work done! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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a dh: I would slap my mom down if she said something like that to my wife. (Things in my house are much more even but that really is not the issue.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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when my mil says things like that to me they go right over my dhs head until i explain later what she meant...i wish he would catch on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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happens to me too. dh has perfected not listening to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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My mom can talk shit about me all day but when I promised to "love, HONOR, and..." it meant I had my wife's back. Period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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Why does your dh sleep in until 8 and not help with dc's morning routine if you're both working? Make a schedule where you alternate days, and one of you sleeps late while the other gets dc ready and to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Any recipe ideas for 5 lb.s of blueberries - not muffins or cobbler? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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a sauce for ice cream, pancakes, and yogurt parfaits. freeze some for later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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parents mag this month has a recipe for blueberry yougurt pops, relally easy, puree blueberries, add yogurt, puree again and freeze into pops [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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awesome! Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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mix with smaller qty of over-ripe bananas, puree in blender and put on mocha ice cream! of course, 5 lbs of berries will require you to eat about six gallons of ice cream, but sacrifices are necessary if we are to end waste! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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