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[ - ] Any recs for a pediatric dentist in Fairfield County? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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First Pediatric Dentistry Fairfield - Dr. Greg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:14 PM Flag
[ - ] After 6 years of marriage, finally learned to just pretend my mother in law is completely justified in throwing temper tantrums. Saves me the energy of getting angry. What have you learned in your marriage? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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I learned that my MIL will always be ignorant, judgemental, hard headed and clueless. She won't change [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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Oh I know. They never change. That is my point. It is like ramming your head against a brick wall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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or: yes and my dh is still shocked at the shit she pulls. I tell him honey are you really shocked? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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At least you both agree she is out of line. Worst is when the DH thinks the mom is being totally fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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yes dh always thinks his mom is out of line when she is. Glad for that because it would make homelife very uncomfortable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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my sister canceled her wedding over that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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she may have saved her sanity. My mom married my dad and he's the biggest mommas boy. They had many yrs of constant fighting over his mom who was a HUGE pita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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true, true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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hey, are you married to my husband? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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or: maybe you are married to his twin brother [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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This is my secret... Each Monday i call my MIL to "check in" I couldn't really give a crap - usually - what's going on with her, but she is happy I called and it has reduced the tension and bitchiness... It's like an appt on my schedule, but i think she thinks I really want a closeness with her...whatever works [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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it;s called damage control [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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or preventative maintenance ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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I never call my MIL. My dh calls her on his way home from work about 3 times a week. We skype with her 1-2 every two weeks (so she can see dd), I don't hear a peep about me being a crappy DIL. You all hate me dont you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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Mine is 2 blocks away. What can I do. She is jappy, entitled, loud and immature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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Yeah my mom is 1 mile away and i know it bugs my dh that she is around so much. But i think he likes it a little to because his mom is in texas and we are in so cal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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what bugs me is, whenever I do feel things are improving between us, she pulls another ridiculous tantrum and makes me hate her all over again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I always give the kids (3 & 1 1/2) good breakfasts and they happily eat them. Except on days when my husband doesn't go to work early, he comes into the kitchen and always makes himself a smoothie while the kids are eating their cereal or whatever. Then the kids whine and clamor for smoothie. I am sick of the battles and I think that on the days my husband is home, we should just make everyone smoothies (he will NOT eat anything else). He thinks we should discipline our kids that they cannot have smoothie even if he is having one. WWYD? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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what on earth is wrong with a smoothie? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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I think my husband has two issues: 1) he doesn't want the children to "control" us; 2) smoothies are more costly than cereal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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np: your dh is a bit dramatic. If they are too $$$ then he shouldn't have them either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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Ugh. Wanting a smoothie is not controlling. I would want one too! As for cost, kids drink less anyway and there are likely ways to cut down - buy huge tubs of yogurt, buy frozen fruit instead of fresh, generic juice, etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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so your dh is allowed to eat BRAND and the kids have to eat NO FRILLS?? I don't understand his logic. The family should all be allowed to eat the same thing..His palate (sp?) is no better than theirs nor are his taste buds [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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smoothies aren't bad..and if your dh thinks they shouldn't have it..then he shouldn't either. They are small kids and don't understand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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What is wrong with a healthy smoothie? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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OP: TY for your responses. It helps to know the kids and I are not unreasonable to expect DH to "share" his smoothies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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my general rule is that if i'm having it, they can have it. the one place where i draw the line is coffee. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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OP: I agree. I make sure to do all my cookie eating after the kids are in bed! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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yeah. i think it's not worth the arguing, i think it's actually not fair to them, and i don't really like the message it sends. as a parent, i have certain priveleges but i don't want food to be included. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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Besides all the sensible posts above, the rule in our house is that DH is not allowed to do anything (like make himself a smoothie and not sharing) that makes my taking care of the kids more difficult, and vice versa. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Please help! What can I get FIL? He's retiring from the military. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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got my FIL a photo of the class he went through Marine Boot Camp with before Korea and framed it for him. he loved it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:20 AM Flag
[ - ] my babysitter just told me that not only drugs and sex, but bulimia and anorexia are totally common in some manhattan high schools. we're looking for schools now, how would you screen for that? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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you don't, the above list is in every school in America. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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exactly. public and private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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you are htere and attentive to your kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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You could try worrying about your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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MOST high school girls will experiment with "eating disorders" but very few will actually develop into anything significant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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I know a few moms experimenting with eating disorders ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:40 AM Flag
[ - ] just moved into a new address and should pay gas. Can you please tell me which company I should call to open my account??? I only know Co-edison is for electricity. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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con ed is electric and gas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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is Keyspan for gas? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Need private bus for a dozen kids to a public school 10 blocks away. May get public bus, if we have to do private how do we go about doing? How much$$? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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Car services might be cheaper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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10 blocks? How about walking? It's good for the kids, you know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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10 blocks? Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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Why do these kids need to take a bus 10 blocks? I would set up a schedule for parents to alternate walking the group to school, or hire someone to do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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OP: I meant to say 20 blocks & a couple avenues (2 city buses). I have a cold today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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yeah right, you meant 10 blocks and now you're embarrassed about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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Why? only 10 blocks away. Just take city bus. My private school uses a private van company that charges $3000 for the school year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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You need to coordinate, asap with your school and establish a parent transportation representantive as well as getting the blessing of your school. They may already of transport, no? You only need 11 kids to sign up.....and it will be free....call the school, asap and talk to them. The DOE will determine the routes and stops and the first couple of days may be a a little confusing, but it is worth the $3000 per child, imho. We set thsi up at my private 3 years aog and it has been a wonderful asset to the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:58 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm a cross between Lynda Carter (yes, wonder woman) and Linda Rondstat. What do I look like? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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someone in search of validation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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Lani Kazan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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buttah face [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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pretty. and someone my dad would have a big crush on. he used to greatly enjoy wonder woman on tv, and also listening to desperado. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
[ - ] how much can you harp on DH about his weight ? I cook healthy food, exercise, etc and he tries... he says he tries... but the weight is unhealthy and unattractive. What can I say ? How much nagging is OK ? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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nagging isn't ok at all. Nagging isn't helpful. Many thin ppl think it's easy to lose weight. It isn't. That has to come from him and many ppl lose it very slowly. Unless you are in his shoes or have been, it will be hard to understand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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I understand that it isn't easy, but his dad has had a quad bi-pass and a stroke. I try not to say anything but positives when he exercises and everything, but the Russert thing has me all upset again... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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I understand where you are coming from. Both of my parents are overweight. My mom has type 2 diabetes which can be cured if she lost weight and controlled her eating but she choses to just inject herself with insulin instead of trying to change. My dad won't listen to the Dr's and has sleep apnea and needs to have a cpap mask in order to sleep. I was always overweight BUT I hit the gym 3-4 times a week and eat right. I will never be skinny but I'm healthy. I did this for me and my kids. Your dh needs to want it (as I do) but that won't happen with anyone nagging him. GL and I hope he does find the strength [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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Thank you... I also worry about diabetes and sleep issues. he has started snoring a lot in the last two years and we joke about it... He says, "I couldn't have snored last night. I gave that up !" We laugh, but I'm terrified of losing him... Great DH and fantastic father to our ds's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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or: I don't blame you. I had a very close friend who was 47yr old when he passed. He had 3 kids and was overweight. He didn't listen to the Drs and just dropped dead. It's sad but many ppl just don't listen (like my parents) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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would he join a gym or exercise with you? if not I think you need to let it be, there isn't much more you can do. make sure he goes for regular dr. checkups though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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he goes to the gym or jogs a few times a week but the big big belly is still there. I love love love this man, but i am afraid everytime he goes out jogging that he may not make it back... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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send him for a checkup. Dr. will surely do your dirty work for you. Once DH seems self motivated you can be helpful with cooking and encouraging exercise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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ita. this is what happened with dh- I pushed him to make a doctor's appt for a physical, and then the doctor laid down the law, that his cholesterol was too high, that he was pre-diabetes, etc. and that he had to lose 30 lbs. And he did (and he stopped snoring too!) It would be miserable to live with someone who nagged you about losing weight, so I would avoid that at all costs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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I don't want to be a nag and it really isn't in my DNA nor our relationship, but I don't know what else to do... I would hate someone nagging me too ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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You could also think about getting him a gym membership and a trainer as a gift. Trainer will nag about weight so you don't have to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:24 AM Flag
[ - ] where's MTV? want to take my visiting teen there - and also, what do you do/see there??? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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Times sq [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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^^^across from TRU [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:09 AM Flag
[ - ] DH is planning an elaborate 40th b-day foe me with only nine closest couples. I heard that others "got wind of it" and are shitting on DH and me. Do I say anything to the ring leader, or just let it go... Iknow, let it go, right ? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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let it go and just let them deal..now if this is a really close friend who dh left out then that's not right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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no... not friends. Just people we say hello to at school functions and such... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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ah then don't worry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Dear 4th grade teacher: Why do you teach us Math like we are retarded? We can memorise formulas, we do not have to keep counting little squares to figure out the area of a rectangle. We are capable of abstract thinking - signed your faithful student in D3 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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you do realize that memorizing isn't really learning..it's temporary. Maybe she wants you to keep going over it so you can really get it and not just memorize it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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np: Albert Einstein said, "Never memorize anything you can look up." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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just do it the way they are teaching it. I can relate to your frustration though. they have this thing against rote memorization, and they refused to teach the multiplication tables until about a month before the citywide test. Then they freaked and had everyone memorize the tables. ugh. glad that's over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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Why do you post this as "us" you know it is your childs education not yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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Dear mother trying to live thru child, following directions and giving 'em what they want are far more useful lessons than figuring out the area of a rectangle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:20 AM Flag
[ - ] VERY EXCITED! We made our decision on PS 290 vs. PS 11 G&T... we're going to PS 11!! I hadn't toured so we went down today at drop off and looked at the school and talked to other parents. They all had fantastic things to say and I was very impressed with what I saw. School is very nice looking, great outdoor space, families all seemed very nice, and we met some teachers and 3rd graders as they now do a farmer's mkt outside on Wednesday mornings. Commute from UES wasn't bad either... 40 mins. door to door (crosstown bus to C train). They have pre-K for my 2 year old eventually, and if we still live on UES she can get a variance to the school (gen ed) if she doesn't get into G&T (which of course she will ;-). YAY!! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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I'm so glad for you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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That's great! Enjoy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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Good for you! Doesn't it feel great to have everything set? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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op There's such a huge weight lifted from my shoulders! I am so happy with our decision. Now I have to make sure I don't forget to email the acceptance... running to camp with DS so I'll do it as soon as I get back! Thanks for the well wishes!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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Did they promise you the sib variance? I heard that was iffy at best. I hope you get it and that things have changed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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I remember you. I"m glad you made the decision and can now enjoy your summer. I hope you and your dc are extremely happy there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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The parent coordinator told me about the variance. Apparently the principal there is very keen on doing it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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np: I don't know that he can promise stuff like that. The school could be much more crowded 2 yrs from now....they have done that in the past but starting next year, enrollment even for gen ed is going to be completely out of the school's hands. You might want to some casual apt shopping in the 11 zone if you would at all consider moving anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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seriously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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Congratulations! We will be there as well, and we are also excited about the pre-k for my youngest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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Hey, I think I passed you on the sidewalk (if that was you asking a school bus driver if there was a bus to the UES)! Anyway, welcome. It's a great school if you are up for the commute. Did you already register? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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Yes, that was me! I think I spoke to just about everyone on the block today... from bus drivers to teachers, parents, students, etc! He was there for a class trip so he didn't know about their busing. What grade is your child in? Or are you just registering now? I didn't reg yet, going to accept right now online then get the appt. for the registration. To the other poster, thanks for the heads up about the variance validity... I won't worry about that just yet... but thanks for the info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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oh, I remember you from yesterday! I'm a former 290 teaching assistant and you made the right decision - 290 is just too crowded! thought it's a great school, space is REAL issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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Hurrah and welcome to PS11... we'll be there with you and love that school! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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OP Thank-you! I really am excited and it doesn't hurt that with all the bitterness on these boards I don't hear any of it from any of the PS11 moms! I am done stressing about any of it so I am signing off and hopefully not coming back! I just joined these boards on Monday and I've had enough already... good luck to everyone, somehow it always seems to work out! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:01 AM Flag
[ - ] pg w/#2, had 1st ob appt yesterday. Yay! am slightly queasy--nothing strong, but had no m/s first time. Am slightly hoping this means #2 will be a girl, since we are probably finished w/2. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.18.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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I'm pg with #3 and my first 2 pg were identical..no morning sickness and I have 2 dd. This time I got lots of morning sickness and we are having a boy. Who knows..but cograts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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nothing with #1, sick as a dog with 3@, both ds... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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oops, meant sick with #2 ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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totally sick w/ #1, had a boy. nothing w/ #2, also a boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:05 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm looking for a very small inexpensive digital camera primarily to take pictures of items for ebay, any rec's? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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I have the Kodak EasyShare. Have enjoyed it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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