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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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nothing works except genetics [ Reply | More
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ITA [ Reply | More
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[ - ] would you eat cottage cheese that you bought last night that you forgot to put in the fridge until this morning? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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I'd smell it - then maybe eat it! [ Reply | More
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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probably not, but smell it first [ Reply | More
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no [ Reply | More
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yes as long as it's sealed. it's pasteurized. don't be a freaky germophobe. [ Reply | More
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germs are completely different than bacteria [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:12 AM Flag
[ - ] I am not crazy with how my elbows look, so I am getting plastic surgery on them. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.18.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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great idea! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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well I wanted elbows that really look nice and the surgery for them is pretty easy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:56 AM Flag
[ - ] I have to decide between ps 9 G&T and private K. I need to decide today or tomorrow. I'm very lucky to have 2 great options. My head tells me not to be a fool and go public, save the money. My heart feels like the private is the right school for my child. WWYD? 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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We don't know your child. Which private? Does your child have any issues you are worried about. Your dc obviously tests well, so middle school shouldn't be a worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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Which private? What is the commute like to each? describe your child a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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OK: Both are very convenient to my home (I know, we are SO lucky). My kid is very bright but shy and not too social. Also young for the grade. And I won't say which private but I will say that it is not TT but decent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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What month birthday? Boy or girl? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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December girl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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OK, so you are also deciding between K and prek right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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you don't have to answer, but I would give her the extra year. Can't hurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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so private pre-k and public K? As a parent of two elementary school aged kids with fall b-days, i would go with private b/c I think there are huge advantages to being on the older side, especially with a shy child (although there have been lots of advantages for my outgoing child too!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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If you are trying to decide between Calhoun and PS9 - then it really is about your child and their personality and learning style. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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What kind of private? no need to name names but describe, so we can compare for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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Not TT but also not bad. A decent school with nice families and a range of kids from those who test off the charts to those who might be considered more "average". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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I would normally say go with your gut, but are you partly swayed by the prestige and nice facilities of the private? Also, how big an issue is money, and how close do you live to each? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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Not swayed by prestige, more by the idea of a community of like families. I don't knwo what we'll get at the public, although I'm sure there will be nice families there, too. I live close to both schools. Money is not a huge issue but it's not like 30 G is nothing to us. In other words, we were prepared to pay for private but it would be wonderful to have that money for extras. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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You sound like you want the private. Are the schools the same in style? Traditional or Progressive, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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You will get community in g&t too. Correct if I'm wrong, but there is only one class - so your dc will be with the exact same students for six years. Is that a plus or not to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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Then I would choose private. There are lots of families who can't pay private who would kill to take PS9 spot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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np, it doesn't work like that. don't make decisions about your childs ed based on the fact that someone else would want one spot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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At PS9 you would also find a community of families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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Why don't you go stand outside PS9 at pickup today or dropoff tomorrow if you want to get more of a feel for it? (But it sounds like you want to go with private.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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Are there any sibs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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I'd go private then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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in a similar situation, but a bit more pressed on finances. We are opting for the G&T, but it helped a lot that 2 friends have children at the school who absolutely love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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The only thing I did not like about ANderson/PS9 G&T is that (though I liked facility enough) afterschool really pales to some private schools' offering. A little less music/art/gym, bigger class size... If it's TT, I might choose TT if money is not a problem. If money is tight, and private is not TT, I probably will choose PS9G&T... and save money for TT HS later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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My kids are at Anderson and I can say that PS9 has an excellent aftershool program that keeps getting better. You can see all the offerings at their website, www.renaissanceafterschool.org. (I can't dispute that private schools might have even better afterschool, I just find it hard to picture!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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PS9 has great afterschool compared to all other publics I saw. But compared to the privates I saw (granted, I didn't see all but), it still paled by a lot. However, if money is an issue, I would choose PS9. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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we almost went private, and then chose ps9 G&T. Had already looked at the private afterschool, and were deciding when we made the switch. ps9 has a far better afterschool than the private we decided not to take. I cannot believe other privates are any different. most of my private school friends take their kids to outside classes, and the afterschool is weak from what I hear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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I have 2 dcs at ps9 and have been extremely happy. If you have any particular questions about the school I am happy to answer them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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Well, I guess I just wonder if you ever wish you had gone private (or could have gone private)? Do you feel like it's really the best situation for your kids? Don't mean to sound spoiled because i know it's a great school and we'd be lucky to be there. But i do have this choice and I'd like to make the best one I can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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full disclosure -- we never looked at private but we have never regreted the decision to send dcs there. We probably could have gone private but it would have been a stretch for us. The school has a great sense of community -- it is made up of very dedicated and involved parents. Our dcs (and we) have made wonderful friends. The administration is strong. The teachers (in our experience) have been uniformly excellent. The class sizes can be large but there is an assistant teacher in every classroom and often a para professional as well. The art program is excellent. My younger dc just brought his portfolio home yesterday and I was blown away. They have spanish and chess as well. They go on interesting field trips. My dcs are flourishing and thriving there. Doesn't mean that your dc won't do beautifully in a private either. It is a hard decision but you probably can't go wrong either. Good luck with your decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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Go public, save the money - prek is overrated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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Well if it's Calhoun I think your wasting your money. If ECFS I would go private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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ITA. We chose zoned public over Calhoun and haven't regretted it for a minute. If DC had gotten into ECFS off WL, would have sent him in a heartbeat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Also have Fall birthday dc. Got ps116 G&T last year (felt very lucky) and went back & forth quite a bit about whether to send dc or try for private. dc going to private K this Fall. Very happy now in retrospect. There are many more extras in private and it would have made me sad to think that my dc didn't have access to those extras and smaller class size. Also, didn't want dc to be one of the youngest. dc is definitely ready for K this coming year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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There were many fall birthdays at ps116 g&t this year and they are all thriving. I'm sure all the g&t's are like that, so I wouldn't worry about that. If you want small class sizes and the extras, that is a different story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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Your public option is really good. I would choose the private school only if it was a place like Dalton, or some other TT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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If you can afford it, you should always do what you feel in your heart is the best for your child. Signed, die hard public school mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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After having worked for the DOE for 10 years, I would go private 9 times out of 10. Go with your gut. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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We just withdrew from decent private for Nest. Very happy with decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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Which private? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Can you believe that cheating DH from yesterday? He's nuts! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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you're back ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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OP: I am not cheating DH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Skin care moms - need recommendations! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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^^Need recommendations and advice. What is considered a good routine (age 33, normal skin). Cleanse, exfoliate (how often and with what), tone, treat (?), moisturize? Any favorite eye creams and facial moisturizers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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I love Dr Hauschka because it's natural and I can get it at Whole Foods or Sephora. I also use something called Reveale that I got from the dermo that I like for line reduction and to even out skin tone. Since the smell of that isn't my fav, I cover it with la Mer too at night... TMI ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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not too much at all! Thank you! Do you ever exfoliate or does the Reveale take care of dead skin removal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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I wash my face with a fresh washcloth each day and that exfoliates. i also use the Oil of Olay stuff that exfoliates with some two step process weekly... I get it at the drug store [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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I love MD Skincare (that's the brand name). It's pricey, but I think that it works well -- I use an at-home "peel" that is great. I order from skinstore.com and they have sales and specials often. I rotate eye cream (whenever I finish a jar) -- am using L'Occitane right now and like it. Also like Sonya Dakar products and Juva (juvaskin.com -- I go there for facials). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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thank you so much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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I'm all about oil of olay. both the regenerist and definity lines are great and very inexpensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:16 PM Flag
[ - ] It seems like every other kid I know got 99 on either SB, ERB or Olsat. Strangely, it seems "normal" to get this kind of score in the city and anyone who gets below 90 seems like you will struggle to be in a class full of these other kids. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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people lie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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Well, the parents I know told me they're sending their kids to Anderson, Hunter, TTs or top G&T, so I don't think they lied. Some didn't tell me but I know their dc's must have bec there is no way non-sib could have gotten in w/o 99 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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You know a bunch of people (i) with really smart kids or (ii) who did a lot of prep with their kids or both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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A lot of smart kids bombed the OLSAT. You're an idiot for thinking that OLSAT given to 4 yos is accurate and predictive of future performance. And, no, my dc did not bomb the test -- too young to take it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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right, but a lot of kids who scored below 90 are plenty smart, especially the boys who bombed it b/c they didn't have the patience for it at this age (I know plenty of boys who did well on the SB and ERB but bombed the OLSAT). So your assumption that kids who scored under 90 will struggle with kids who scored above is based on faulty reasoning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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I agree, there seemed to be a lot of 99s. We were very lucky - our dd tested very well and so did many of her friends - wonder if the preschool prep was a big part since they all went to the same school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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It's because you're talking about a very narrow segment of the world - people who can afford to live with children in Manhattan. You're talking about a group of parents who are generally highly successful and often highly educated themselves, which translates to having a higher percentage of children who will score very well and have similar traits to their parents. I think in NY, these scores, although not "normal" are much more common than nationally. It's not just people lying. However, I also think that the difference between a 95 and an 85 given that you are testing 4 year olds is pretty minor in terms of classroom success. They're both smart, and I'm sure can do great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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I like you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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from everything I've read, it sounds like this OLSAT is just a way to weed out the kids that can pay attention, listen to directions and follow them... and also I have to say that the G&T programs are misnamed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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Don't be silly. The kids still have to reason out the answers to the questions. It just weeds out the smart kids who can't pay attention and listen to directions, leaving the smart kids who can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:12 AM Flag
[ - ] for those of you who had awful morning sickness (in my case, it's morning, noon, night) in what week did it finally pass? signed, in my 17th week and still puking. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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yikes - get some meds! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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i've tried and they don't work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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sorry! hopefully it will go away soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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Ah - yes, I remember it well! Started subsiding around 20 weeks. Lemon gatoraide helped for some reason! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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20 weeks, half your pregnancy...ugh...you are a trooper. was it gone completely by 20 weeks or just better. i've been throwing up once per day for a week now which is down from 3 or 4x/day at week 11. i've tried it all, meds, holistic, everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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It was gone completely at 20 weeks - prior to that, it began subsiding around 17 or 18 weeks, but was still there! Have you tried yoga at all? SOunds like it is at least getting less for you - GL!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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thanks and actually no i haven't tried yoga. was too sick to leave the house but now that i'm in week 17 and getting better, i'll give it a whirl. ty! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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Good Luck! you are almost 1/2 way there!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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thanks and yes, that's true. and counting! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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For me (14 weeks) it's more about the headache than puking. Anyone have that dull heaache every day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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I've tried everything... suppositories and a trip to ER for fluids eventually did the trick. I went from 10+ and gradually decreased to zero puking fests by 19 weeks. It's hell, but it gets better! Sounds like your on your way to feeling better. Some yoga movements may make you feel more nauseous...so don't get discouraged if your not ready, yet. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 11:00 AM Flag
[ - ] when did you dc first use 'I'? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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18 mos [ Reply | More
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really! [ Reply | More
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yes, she says "i dropped it" and "i put in trash" [ Reply | More
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wow! [ Reply | More
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it's pretty amazing what she comes out with. she's a daycare kid, so i think she learns a lot from the older kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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18 mo but she learned it from her sister: "I want (ba)nana". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:07 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone's parents openly disagree with your parenting methods? how did/do you handle it? i am having a problem with my mother and need help! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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tell her she had her chance and you are doing it your wayl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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My mom doesn't really do it much - but that is because we rarely discuss parenting methods. I'm the mommy, I decide. A couple of times she made a comment and I said, You are a better mom than I am, and boy did that work. Shut her right up :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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Say, thanks for the advice, we'll think about it, and continue doing it your way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Any PS6 parents on? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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will be on in the fall [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know what's its like to work in Kaplan corporate office? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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my friend hated it [ Reply | More
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any idea why? i'm considering taking a job there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:48 AM Flag
[ - ] i am so insanely exhausted and im at work. DH going out for a work thing after dinner. Already had coffee, what else can i do to a) be productive at work and b) make it through the evening with the kids. HELP 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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uh, have another coffee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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eat a light meal and take a quick walk now. order a late "lunch" and eat dinner right before you leave your office. plan something quick and easy for supper for dcs. buy a new coloring book or stickers on your way home and let dcs enterain themselves. (how old are they?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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3 yo and 6 mo. good idea about a new coloring book for dd. the 6 mo is by far easier than the 3yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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this may sound crazy, but I swear by it and I have two girlfriends who do as well. We mix green tea (bought in the cans at Whole Foods) with fresh ginger juice and fresh unsweetened cranberry juice. Not too tasty and a bit bitter, but you could FLY with the energy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:47 AM Flag
[ - ] What's the general opinion of Midtown West? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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Good school, everyone in the school wants to be there. That is huge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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It's supposed to be a good school. Mostly used as backup school if G&T doesn't work out. It's not really anybody's first choice school but once you are in you'll like it enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Lately I feel wherever I go in the City I am being ripped off - taxi cabs, fruit and veg stands, grocery store, restaurant, even pharmacies - like everyone is trying to bring liquidity off their balance sheets (ok I am in finance, so sue me) -- and I am so tired of the greed. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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sorry liquidity on the balance sheet - trying to get more cash from the next dope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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I live in the city and agree...things are out of control but luckily I know where to buy food, fruit and other things for decent prices [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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WHERE? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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I live in the east village. Supermarkets are less $$$ (I don't go to wholefoods because $$). I buy fruit from a certain street vendor..cheap and great fruit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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You don't seem to understand finance terms very well. And in any event, it's called inflation. Don't blame greed; blame Bernanke [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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Excuse me. I blame greed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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np: that post wasn't saying you can't just that you shouldn't. Blaming greed for these high prices is like blaming hot air for the Macy's Ballons floating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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I went to Mr Softee the other day and asked for a cup instead of a cone-- the guy charges 50 cents more for this-- I told him he could keep the freakin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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fruit guy tells me - but the crate of (whatever fruit) went up $25 so I have to charge you X amount more! I am so tired of this BS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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np: curious how this is bs? many crops have failed this year (esp. bananas), dollar is weak, gas is expensive. of course prices have gone up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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yeah by 50% though on one nectarine??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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And you do realize that you automatically lose $20 everytime you walk out your door... at least that's how I feel. A little bit here, a little bit there, and before you know it you've spent $20 (or more). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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crazy - so true - i feel like the poor feel ripped off and are ripping us off more and more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Public school moms... how much do you/will you pay out of your own pocket to have an asst. teacher in your child's K or 1st grade classroom? Also, when does one make this payment? Does it mean no Asst. teacher shows up until enough $ has been collected? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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that isn't really how it is done. The PTA raises money. Sometimes they pick what they will use the money for and sometimes the principal picks. The PTA is not allowed to hire or fund staff. What actually happens is, they raise the money and the principal uses that money for something else - and then has her budget money free to pay for assistants in the classrooms. Not all schools/teachers want assistants in the classroom. So, if this is something you are trying to organize in your school, I would first find out if principal is remotely interested and then go about getting the PTA to fundraise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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Oh, and I guess I didn't answer your question. I won't pay any more or any less to the annual fund or acution (or veritable pletheora of other fundraising opportunites) based on assistants in the K or first grade. We give about 10K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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Um - ok. All I know is they told us it is an option and they nicely suggested an amt. to give if you could. I am curious what other gen ed publics seek or if they do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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Our school did not ask for money only from the K/1 parents. They figured out how much an aid would cost and voted (in PTA) about spending the money on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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What school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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wow. you didn't answer OP's Q at all and mucked up her post too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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I was trying to be helpful. Sorry. YOu have to be VERY careful - the DOE comes down hard on schools that say they do this. I know. It happened in our school. I was telling OP how to go about it without having someone complain to DOE about haves and have nots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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I would gladly contribute $$ to do this, but it doesn't sound like it's an option (Nest) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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Oh but you are in the "gifted" school. Your kids are so smart they won't need another teacher anyway. LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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At our school the PTA actually asks for a donation for the annual fund and a separate amount towards assistants for K and 1st grade. I contribute the amount asked for each, not more or less. I also constribute additional $ at the auction and other fund raisers throughtout the year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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What amount did they ask for [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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I don't recall exactly. I think it was a about $350 for the assistant teachers and $500 for the anuual fund. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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PS116 mom. $600 per year, and they will hit you up on the first day of school, or before. They assume that they will get enough money to last through at least the first 1/2 year, and then they make a second appeal when they get close to running out of money in February. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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Does 116 have an assistant in the K and first classrooms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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Yes in both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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Wow! I didn't know that. In the g&t too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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Yes, part time assistants in all k and 1st grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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oh, part time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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Yes, but for the most of the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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not all schools do it and very few teachers want an assistant in their room. it actually makes more work for her. better to have a very skilled teacher with lots of opportunities for parents to come in and help out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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I agree that not all do it (most don't), I agree that some teachers don't want it. Some principals don't want it either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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Not necessarily true. In K, assistant can take kids to the bathroom and help kids w/ other basic administrative stuff, freeing up teacher to do more uninterrupted teaching. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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Our K children go to the bathroom by themselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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well, not by themselves, but in pairs. No adult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] DH goes to strip club for business - I'd say - twice a month. He's in the Tv / Radio business and his stations appeal to men 25-54 and there are promotions and things there. I have been and found it a lot like being in a Loehman's dressing room with music, but whatever... The wife of another guy at the office just called to ask me to "put my foot down" and I said I didn't have an issue... would you ? 68 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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if you don't have an issue with it, it seems silly to 'put your foot down' on someone else's behalf. It would not be something I would be comfortable with, but I am not married to your husband, so my opinion doesn't matter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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It matters just as much as any of ours... thank you. I think she asked me to "put my foot down" since my DH is the boss of her DH and if mine stopped, hers wouldn't have the excuse... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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i thought so too... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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probably not - seems like she's got some issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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if she has an issue more power to her. I find this strip club crap just that..women on display like meat. I also find that many ppl use the excuse that they need to go because of business...with that said if you are ok with it that's btwn you and your dh. You don't know the issues that brings btwn this woman and her dh. It isn't fair if this man is pressured because of his job to participate in something that brings issues to his marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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I can honestly say that there is no pressure at all... my DH feels the pressure as the boss to "say hi" to the clients, but he does not dictate to others whether to go or not to go. She was just speechless that I was so blase about it, i guess... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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then since there's no pressure, she needs to put her foot down with her dh. Does she know there is no obligation for her dh to be there? Maybe he's telling her he HAS to be there. Poor woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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OP you know, I never thought of that ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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Poor woman? This wife called her husband's boss' spouse to try and do something like this. She's an ass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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there must be something going on in her marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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No healthy person calls their spouse's boss's spouse like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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she must just be at her wit's end with something at hime and called out of some desperation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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It would bug me that he goes there so much, so I'd probably find myself questioning whether he can cut back on his visits. Also I would want to make sure my husband isn't "into" the actual action, and is truly just there because he has to be. Personally, my husband and I have had the strip club conversation a lot and I am pretty sure he finds them generally offensive. He's only been to a strip club twice in our 10 years of marriage, both times for bachelor parties. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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^^^ But I think it's unreasonable for this other woman to ask you to "put your foot down." She should only try to control her husband, not yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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My DH also says that they're odd, weirdly sterile yet gross at the same time. In fact, when i said I wanted to see what they were like I was happy to see him on his Blackberry and not really interested in the "action"... nevertheless, I was wondering what others though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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I think it's just an excuse to go to the strip joint on all counts. My dh is a CEO and he finds much classier places to conduct business. I would be a little concerned for all parties involved in this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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your DH is the CEO of a business. My DH works pretty exclusively with clients and men in the sports arena between the ags of 25 - 54... A diff sort of thing, i would guess... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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My dh is in the entertainment industry as well. Just an excuse on your dh's part [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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np: ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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I disagree... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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A CEO in the "entertainment industry" is dealing with artists, attorneys, and such, no ? Mine is dealing with athletes, beers, and car dealers... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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sounds like a classy group he runs with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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^^ yes, he chooses to do business with only classy people... that's how business works, no ? No NASCAR money... I just won't take it !! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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ita. i work on wall street and guys entertain there because they want to. it's an excuse to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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I mentioned that if she felt very strongly about it she should callmy DH and voice her issues to him. She said she was thinking of doing it, but I don't think she will... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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i think that's not a good suggestion. it's not your issue or dh's issue and neither of you should get involved in her marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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you're a DH... what say you ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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There are a lot of issues here. (First off, I'm not a strip club guy. I'll go with a bachelor party but other than that, it is not my thing.) No adult should be calling another adult's job on stuff like this. Unless the OP and the wife are really close (doesn't sound like it) this call is totally out of line. I think it is assinine that in this day and age companies still pay expnese reports for this kind of shit but again, I'm not into strip clubs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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The funny thing - OP here - is that my DH isn't into it either, but he pays for it on accts since he says 9and I believe him) that there is a return on it... there are results... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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The progressive in me would push back... many things seem to pay off great results -- like torture. But what if you took a stand and said, "Not this!" Take 'em to the driving range at Chelsea Piers, get one of the private rooms onto the range and an instructor to work on your clients swings for two hours. (Heck, got a hot woman to work on their swing the first few times, to ease the change if you have too.) You'll have a hell of a lot better chance to sell whatever it is you are selling there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I think you're under the impression that my DH or his staff inite clients to the clubs. They are invited to the clubs and they have clients who have promotions there and ask them to "stop by". They do entertain at meals, sporting events, etc... this is a "minor" portion of what they do... If your client called and said, "We're bringing the head of the region to watch the games at X, I'd love to introduce you," would you say, "can I take him out putting instead ?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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You are correct. I was under the impression that your dh/his company was the inviter. I thought you said somewhere he was paying for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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he pays if the salespeople go and buy drinks for the clients... you know how that works... Client says come by, but the guy itching for the business picks up the tab... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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I understand and can relate BUT I'll still make the argument that if you are not part of the solution... you are part of the problem. Tell the client, "We have a new policy... DO you play golf? I have a personal session with an instuctor at the driving range to work on my swing. Join me and let me tell you about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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If you don't have a problem with it, I wouldn't get involved. I would make sure though that he knows that doing this sort of promotion can cause family troubles for people that he works with. On another note, as a woman in business, this is a really sexist way to conduct business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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OP As a female, a business owner, and a Barnard grad, I have my own issues with it too, but mine more revolve around these dancers/working women who feel it's their best bet to put food on the table for their kids... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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well if you dh business stopped patronizing such places, wouldn't that be one step taken against exploitation of these women? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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Ah hah ! A simple answer... but no... then these women wouldn't earn the money they need. What should they do ??! Many do not have many opportunites that - I assume - we have had. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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^^ and I do not feel they are necessarily being exploited... I feel they were not given better opportunities earlier in life and this is the real "feminist" issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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but it cuts both ways - supply side & demand side. what are the ladies no longer dancing at all the times square places that guiliani shut down doing now? i don't think they're hooking. i'd bet they probably found non-sexually exploitative jobs. i used to be a stripper, btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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Then you know that many of these women do "work" their way through school and many do go on to other jobs in the sex industry. But to think that the women from Times Square are now all PTA members just because the doors were closed is too naive for me to believe that you were ever really a dancer / stripper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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i realize it sounds paternalistic. i think the idea of the sex worker with a heart of gold (i.e. putting food on her kids' table) is actually a myth. in my experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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Hooker with a heart of gold may be a myth, but dancer who feeds the kids with the money she makes at night and is home for them during the day is real... i even saw one of these women on Oprah ! Honest to God ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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please. oprah? she regularly represents the majority. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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just sain' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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I wouldn't so much have a problem that dh went there than that he is involved in such a sexist business. I guess there are no female managers/employees of his company? Seems kind of gross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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Nope... comptroller is aowman, Local Sales Manager is a woman, and two top sellers are women [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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do they go to the club too? Or stay at work and miss out on the networking opportunities? I would seriously consider this harassment, and I am not anti-strip-club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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They network in other ways, I suppose, but I know they have gone to these places as well in the past... MY DH networks in other ways 99% of the time, but the woman who called has a Dh who is not in sales. he is "personalty". The comptroller stays in the office though ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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If nobody says they can't go and nobody says they have to go, how is this harrasment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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it's a work event and a "hostile work environment" for women. If you were a woman trying to move up the ladder in that business you "should" go, but you might feel pretty uncomfortable being there, and your male co-workers might feel pretty uncomfortable being there *with you*, so you are disadvantaged [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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If both are uncomfortable how am I disadvantaged? If I'm not uncomfortable, how am I disadvantaged. I hate football. If my job has season tickets for the Giants for the sales staff -- how is that different? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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you are disadvantaged because the men might avoid speaking to you there out of discomfort, and would probably prefer you hadn't come. A football game is different in both these respects. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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These places are - certainly these days - not that "sexual" or seedy... They are bars that happen to have topless women trying to get your attention... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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men suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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they're certainly sort of beat... the Y chromosome seems to be problemmatic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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that is a pretty fat paint brush you are using there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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yes... but do you disagree ? I didn't say all men suck like other post, I just said they seem to be problemmatic... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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"men suck" read to me as a broad/group indictment. (I'm the dad who posted above. I think I'm evolved and most of my friends are as well.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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Oh... I do not hink you suck. I think in general women are just more "capable" and more evolved [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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How about we are differently "capable" and "uniquely" evolved. Then we call it a night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Deal ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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Op - BTW, DH's company was just named one of the top 40 small businesses for employees in our city... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:50 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of the name Greta(pronounced Greeta)? tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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I like it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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I think that everyone will pronounce it Greta. Which I like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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Sounds like Greedo, this weird Star Wars character with bizarre lips. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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she will have to correct pronounciation and/or spelling constantly for her whole life. I like Greta. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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I like greta pronounced greta. [ Reply | More
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