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06.18.08, 07:20 AM General Topics
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MIL is visiting and staying with us. I hope she noticed how I raced around this morning, getting ds ready for camp and getting myself ready for work while dh sat on his a$$, leisurely eating breakfast and checking his emails on his laptop. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.18.08, 07:20 AM Flag
 

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she probably wondered why you weren't ironing his shirt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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lol, and I was probably asking too much of him when I asked him to hand ds his milk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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I doubt it. She might notice that you didn't make him a full cooked breakfast though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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that's true -- poor guy had to eat cereal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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I promise you she noticed nothing except what you could have done better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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ugh, and there was plenty for her to notice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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she's pissed because you didn't make her breakfast, iron her clothes and get her ready too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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ditto - sorry to hear it; tomorrow you should just have an early morning meeting and let the two of them deal with it to see how 'easy' it is - i'm serious - i have done this before when i have had enough of dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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I think that is a great idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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yeah, but ds would be late for camp. Whenever I ask dh to do something related to ds, he F's it up. So I stopped asking him and just do everything myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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i think the only way to fix this is to let dc be late for camp; he probably f's things up on purpose because then he knows you will do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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yes yes to let the f-up happen--it's not a safety issue after all. by stepping in to relieve the d?h on every thing he has trouble with (on purpose? even unconsciously so?)you are encouraging, maybe should say enabling, his spoiled prince act. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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np. ITTTA. You're being a gatekeeper and you need to stop or things won't improve. And I also agree with the poster above, it might be deliberate on dh's part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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np. BTDT. If your MIL is like mine, all that will do is cause her to criticize you for not being there for your family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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My dh sleeps till 8 and then leisurely takes a shower and goes to work while I get both dc’s ready and take them to school.. When my MIL came into town she said that I am so spoiled since I have a nanny, housekeeper (2x’s a month) and send my laundry out. I’m a WOHM with 3 dc’s and I pay half of everything!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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your MIL is a tool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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tell her yes I have to pay for help since your lazy ass spoiled son doesn't help with the 3 kids..He knows how to make them but god forbid get them ready in the morning [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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my dh helps out - with some direction -but then leaves for work when he feels like it while i wait for nanny and organize the day for the kids; if he needs to work late he does so - no problem; i have a reduced schedule and come home earlier but sometimes am still dealing with work stuff when i get home - can not stay late as I have to pick up dcs...will never get ahead at work like this and always feel behind. At least once a week I miss more work to do a dr. appt. or school thing and am a year behind on my own appointments. Have been sick for days and still come to work - dh stayed home in bed for two days sick last week while i did everything. My MIL would say the exact same thing - and that i'm not nice enough to DH. he has it made while I run around like a crazy woman. how i would love to just walk out the door in the morning and just come home when i wrap up my day - what a nice simple life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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I am in the same boat. Before we had kids my career was ahead of Dh's now I can barely keep my head above water. But I choose to have three dc's and am very happy with our family. Just the day to day gets me down and sometimes my career. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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ditto - didn't mean to rant so much above but have had a bad week with lots of extras piled on me and dh just goes along with his business like no big deal. he took dd to dr. appt. once (she has asthma so she goes pretty frequently) and when i asked if he could take her again this week it was like i asked him to split the atom! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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I hear you but we should both get off UB and get our work done! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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a dh: I would slap my mom down if she said something like that to my wife. (Things in my house are much more even but that really is not the issue.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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when my mil says things like that to me they go right over my dhs head until i explain later what she meant...i wish he would catch on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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happens to me too. dh has perfected not listening to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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My mom can talk shit about me all day but when I promised to "love, HONOR, and..." it meant I had my wife's back. Period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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Why does your dh sleep in until 8 and not help with dc's morning routine if you're both working? Make a schedule where you alternate days, and one of you sleeps late while the other gets dc ready and to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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