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[ - ] WOHM who work long hours and have DH's who work long hours. How do you do it? DH and I are having a very hard time making childcare work for us. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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I was wohm for 20 yrs with our first two dcs am sahm with #3. I made the commitment to work 8-6 and limit my travel. He had no such restrictions because he was making a huge income. I also wanted to be there for all the routines. We had the same sitter for 23 yrs (still do) that was key. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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We did two things...(1) we had two nannies for the early years, and only changed to one after both kids were in school full time, and (2) we staggered our hours so one of us went to work early and came home early and the other went to work late and came home late (to maximize time with the children). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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I guess OP is busy working her long hours. Now we know what her dcs feel like. lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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OP: DH and I work overlapping hours. My dc are not abandoned all day. They spend part of the day with me, part with DH, and part with a nanny. But it is still hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me your post preg weight loss success stories, like the amount you gained, how much you lost, and how long it took. Does the belly ever really go back? At 33 weeks I'm looking at my belly thinking how will this ever go back. I've gained 30 so far. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.25.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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30 lbs total, now 6 mos pp and 10 lbs to go. I am sick now and the weight is finally melting off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Breast Fed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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bf for 6 weeks, then ff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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whats ff? Sorry it's probably obvious, but I really don't know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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formula fed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Da,of course, I thought it was Force Fed! Ha! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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might as well mean that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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gained 45 lbs. have now lost 50 at 8 mos pp, but it was mostly gone by 4 mos and totally by 6. tummy and abs are back, but just a little "not the same" and a little wrinkly around the bellybutton [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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That's inspirational! Are you happy with you weight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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very! Im alt back to wedding weight. I think it helped not to stress about it. I nursed for 8 wks and lost a lot in that time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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^^almost [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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That's great, I had just gained a few lbs over the holidays when I got pregnant so I was up a bit to begin with after being A pretty good Weight before that (5'3" 115-120 lbs normally) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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so funny, you are me, except im 5'2" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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See that really helps, because really being short with all this weight is really devestating! Tall people seem to look so much better pregnant I look like a big Ompa Lompa right now, just trying to keep my sense of humor and my eye on the prize! I can't wait though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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I wont lie to you, i was biiiiiig, but i felt good and I loved it. I was really swollen towards the end, tho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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Did your dr get on you about gaining 45 lbs. Did you think it was alot. I think I'll probably gain another 5/6 pounds in the last 7 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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well, they really counted 40, and it was a steady pound per week. i say 45 because when they first weighed me, i was 5 lbs over where I thought I was (maybe water weight, but whatever) but no, they didnt get on me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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I gained steady in the beginning but have leveled off a lot because I just don't have that appepite I had in the first six months.Now I just want Cesar salads and Ice Pops! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate that one of the parents in dd's private school didn't vax her kids. Told the school it was for religious reasons. She's full of cr@p. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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hey wait, we can't say crap on here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Private schools don't have to accept religious based challenges. They chose to. They can set whatever vaccination requirements they desire. If you object, raise it with the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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how did you get that information? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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what do you care? your child is vaccinated and not at risk. It's her business if she doesn't want to vaccinate. Live and let live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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she can do whatever she wants...it's a free country. don't worry your kid is safe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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why is it your business, how do you know this, and why do you care? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Just saw the MMR post. With dc on the way (and a boy at that), how do you break up the shots?? I just don't feel comfortable at all with the MMR. tia 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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I recommend reading The Vaccine Book by Dr. Sears. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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ita. we were definitely not anti-vac, but dh and I were uncomfortable with the litany of immunizations that the AAP rec'ed. We found the Sears book to be quite pro vaccine for the most part, but didn't suggest you start so early and give so many [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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What does the book suggest? Too big to go to the store and buy this book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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meet my friend, amazon.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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Damn, that's rude. What's the point of posting a damn question on this site if people are going to direct me to a book or another website? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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I would rather get important info like this from a respected book than from a bunch of ninnies on an anonymous board, but that's just me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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np: Wow, you're a bitch. It's more complicated than can be explained here. And you should also learn not to trust some stranger on the net over doing real research and figuring out what's best for your baby. So you're also an idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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well, i'm not the responder above but i do think you ought to get some educated advice on this issue..... you need to read, and read a LOT before making your decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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I am the op. My question like many is to ask these types of questions from people who have been there/done that. I'm just curious as to how others have approached this. Calling me a bitch though is pretty extreme. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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yes it is. welcome to anonymity. quite unsisterly. waddya gonna do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Nothing for now, beeyatch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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hey, how'd I get pulled into this? why am I the beeyatch all of the sudden? jeez. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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I refer you to your own statement to someone who was trying to help you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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The basics the book gives is an alternative and selective vaccination schedule (a little to long to post here, sorry). Our ped rolled her eyes, but she went with it. We did dtap, hib and rotavirus. all starting at 6 months. Our db isn't in day care, so we weren't socially irresponsible imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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you started rotavirus at 6 months?? your doctor let you do that when it's not recommended you take the vaccine later than 6 months? huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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The preservative thought to be linked to autism hasn't been in the MMR shot since 2002. All you are doing by splitting it up is multiplying the number of shots and preservatives by 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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Then why is it all over the news that the MMR shot links this disease? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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They feed off of uninformed alarmist parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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np: People talking about it on the news is not the same as any studies actually linking the MMR vax to autism. If you want to split the shots to be conservative - fine. But stop assuming just because it's on the news that it's true (in general for stuff about kids). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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its not "all over the news." Its all over the interet - which is hardly the same thing. Goverment conspiracies about alien autopsies are also all over the internet - doesn't mean it comes from a reputable source though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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There's a lot more that's fishy (imo) about the mmr than it's supposed ties to autism. We skipped the mmr all together. And we believe in immunization. I don't want to start a mommy war, and I agree with the poster above, read the Sears book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Can you be more specific about your concerns? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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Just want a healthy baby, and have seen two of my best friend's deliver healthy children -- only to be led to this MMR shot and suddenly both dc are diagnosed with autism. Both boys. Its just scary and I would die if I felt like I was the one who was responsible for the condition if I could have prevented it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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There is nothing to suggest that the mmr has anything to do with autism though, more likely that they began exhibiting signs shortly after they got the shot because that is the timeframe that kids start having signs of autism. It seems to me that if there really was a connection there would be some science to back it up, and some of these court cases would have gone through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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it is very common for people to attribute a disease to a specific event that in reality, often comes on very gradually but has not been noticed. I'm an MD that treats adults and I see this all the time with things like Alzheimers - people will say it all began after a cold or a fall, but its really that they just were not aware of the earliest signs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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np: was this after the first MMR shot, or after the second round at age 5? just wondering b/c we're currently debating whether to break up the MMR round 2 for our dd. is it still something we should worry about if she had MMR together when she was 1 and no problems? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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You know, I can, but I shouldn't. and I'm trying to be kind here---but this is something that needs to be researched, really really well by YOU. You should get some perfunctory info off the board, and then, read up, discuss w/ your partner and ask your ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Just curious. I'm not the OP, I read the vaccine book, I have no idea what other issues you could have with the mmr. Seems like the risk of getting those diseases is a lot higher than the risks posed by the shot itself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Let's just say I'm much more of a drug company conspiracy theorist than I am autism conspiracy theorist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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fair enough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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To actually answer your question...many pediatricians offer the shots separately to parents who request them...our pediatrician thought it was crazy, but did it anyway... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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Our pediatrician thought it was silly to break up the shots, but did it for the parents who requested it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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^^^oops, sorry for the double post. didn't see the prior post when i refreshed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Any truth to the rumor that Joel Klein has resigned, effective July 1? Heard it from two different reliable sources. Anybody else hear it? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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Guess he's hoping to avoid being drawn and quartered by a mob of mothers any day now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Anderson moms - what did you think about orientation? I found the diversity pretty interesting - I find it very hard to believe they randomly picked those kids out of all the 99s. 96 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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PS - don't get me wrong - I am thrilled with the diversity, just very surprised. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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ITTTTTA. No way they randomly picked. There seemed to be a large Queens contingent too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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Off tangent, but Queens and Brooklyn warrant their own (accelerated) citywide school. DOE, are you listening? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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yes, I think it is ridiculous that these people would commute to uws. even more ridiculous that they depleted so many of the spots that kids from the nabe and across town could've taken. doe: get them their own k-8 G&T school!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Oh give me a freaking break. They have not depleted anyone, and unlike the D2/D3 kids some of them have absolutely no district options! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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well, doe should develop programs in these districts then. a citywide should not be a garbage pail for districts with no schools or resources. means the few with means at these schools will be supporting everything else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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np. Keep digging that hole. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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I actually believe everything I am saying, and although i understand what you mean by the hole you think I am digging myself into, I don't feel its a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Of course. People like you never do see the problem with your thinking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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and people like you see a problem with anything that isn't 100% pc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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gotta say I live in one of "those districs." Can't afford private, but I pay more rent than most people in a rent restricted apartment on the UWS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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lol! comapring to someone with rent control is silly. my aunt in idaho pays more for her trailer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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np. I don't care about 100% PC. But there's a sane middle ground between 100% PC and the crap you're posting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:50 PM Flag
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what????? garbage pail???? my dd earned eligibility with her 99 just as did everyone else who had a 99 in the city--- my nyc taxes support ALL nyc schools just as yours do--the fact that a district has no g&t program has little to do with the resources in the district. in district 10, there are no g&ts because of a recent schools superintendent (Irma Zadoya) who didn't believe in gifted programs - and just because i'm not from manhattan doesn't mean i don't have "means"--- you're gross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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You are incredible. This is public school. Every tax payer in the city supports these schools. Hence they are open to all. By the way, there are high HHI outside of Manhattan, just as there are low HHI on your island too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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high hhi folks are not snding their kids on a 3 hr commute daily for public school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Wrong. As a matter of fact, they are probably the ones who can wrangle a way to actually do that commute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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seriously doubt it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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I know people who are doing this. Sorry to burst your bubble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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Who else can take the time to spend all day going back and forth and back and forth on a train to pick their kid up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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the unemployed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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I have seen plenty of posts on this board from people who can afford 30K a year for K who wanted a G&T "free" spot. Why wouldn't someone from queens who could do the same not want to put that away for college or opportunities? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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because it is a terrible commute. I have also seen people on UUWS choosing NEST. Are they insane? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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Insane? No. Going the distance for what they perceive as a better education that their other choices? Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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lunacy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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Exactly how do your means support this school? What makes you think someone in Queens can't make as much as you do, but does not want to blow it all on rent or over inflated co-op or condo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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you have a great imagination. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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Excuse me, but that is not what I meant. They have every right to attend any citywide school -- hence the name. But it is ridiculous that they have to commute that far to get to an accelerated program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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You freakin' freak! These people? You are a pig. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:57 PM Flag
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Impossible to reply to the intended poster; the placement is all screwy. I'm talking to the freakin' freak up the page, whom said 'these people" You make white smell SO bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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Freaky, not from NYer please return to whatever crazy urb you oozed from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:28 PM Flag
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well, since Anderson is citywide, and more people from other districts and boroughs tested than in previous years, it makes sense that the citywides are more diverse than the district G&Ts (some of which are very white, others more kids of color). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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I thought it was really nice. The incoming parents all seem normal and down to earth. I like that there are parents from 4 out of 5 boroughs. I'm sorry that dh and I have to miss the cocktail hour tonight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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Let me guess - Staten Island? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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right. because only white dcs are smart. honestly, you anderson moms are complete and utter a$$holes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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I don't think that was what OP meant. It just seemed very balanced ethnically, geographically, old/young birthdays. Just not gender balanced. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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so what? that can't happen by chance? they have to cherry-pick the non-white dcs because there are so few of them they otherwise wouldn't beat the odds? op disgusts me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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np: wow, I don't think that OP meant anything bad about her comment. The diversty was great. Out of 447 99's, it is hard to believe that the class was this diverse. Get off her back! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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huh? she said there's no way they randomly picked them. are you as much of an idiot as she is? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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np: Isn't it odd that they would balance for everything else but not for gender? I find it odd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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how do you know there were 477 99s? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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So you and your OP friend can pretend not to be Starbucks dates and bigot buddies-but Oh Please. If you aren't that yet, you will be- by the 1st week of September. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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Don't judge all Anderson moms by the OP. I was there and I am appalled by the comment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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i don't understand. minority dcs don't have the same odds as white dcs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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you're right. they carefully screened every family, determined to pick one of every size, shape and persuasion and you are the lucky douchebag representative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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I was there, and I agree with your observations. Was discussing this with DH tonight. I think the DOE is actually trying to make it a true citywide school. Granted, they still need to work on issues, like providing bus transportation from Brooklyn, Queens & the Bronx. But I also have a hard time believing that the mix was random. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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if it's not, the doe should be sued. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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For what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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for not choosing dcs blindly by lottery as they claimed they would do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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If you recall, they never stated that officially or publicly. They "leaked" it in private, one off conversations. You'll never be able to provide any evidence that they committed to a blind lottery officially. I wish they were more transparent. But they weren't and this is precisely why they weren't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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wait, you're saying they didn't officially announce it was a blind lottery because they wanted to make sure all ten of the smart black dcs in the five boros got into anderson? you suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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There's no point in engaging with you. I'm done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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How do they even know which kids are AA? It was never asked on the application. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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not that many AAs, although there are some. the diversity is more asian/indian. just way less white than predicted here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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psst. asians are smart. take a look at hunter hs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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And Stuyvesant and MIT and... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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^^^But, I should say that to many people, diverse means black and Hispanic as well as white and Asian. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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no one here is arguing that non white kids are not smart. its that anderson seems very divers when you compare it to district G&Ts in similar nabes. that is interesting. got it? no one is dissing your kid! sheesh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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np - But Anderson is a citywide and district G&Ts reflect their specific zone & neighborhood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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yes, so it proves that smarts come in all colors. you just don't see diversity in D2 or D3 because the diversity kids in these nabes go private or to local gen ed. I find that interesting, and am very happy to have dc start anderson in the fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Or to Hunter of course... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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np. It would be very simple for the OLSAT tester to make a note of any visible diversity when they meet the dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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a$$hole. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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Wow, that was totally uncalled for. Could we please keep this civil? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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call me crazy, but i think calling minorities stupid is pretty uncivil. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Before you jump to conclusions, my own kid happens to be one of those minorities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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you're calling your own kid stupid? wow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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NP: Where are you even getting this from? Neither the OP nor the OR has said anything of the kind. ALL THE KIDS SCORED A 99. All OP and OR are saying is that it didn't seem like a RANDOM LOTTERY. I tend to think myself that it was, but I can also see where it might seem like it wasn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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do you not hear yourself? ALL THE KIDS means tons of whites and two dcs of color if it was necessary to rig the lottery! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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Now I've totally lost what you're saying. What are you saying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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i'm saying you're a f&cking racist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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LOL - you have no idea. But please, tell me why you think so. I can't quite figure out where you get the "ALL THE KIDS means tons of whites and two dcs of color" statement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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seriously, are you stupid? why else would they want to rig the lottery if they didn't want to give dcs of color an advantage? you're not just a racist, you're a stupid racist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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WTF is your problem? I'll repeat - ALL THE KIDS SCORED A 99. No one kid was smarter than another. What is your problem with this statement? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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you are an idiot. i repeat. an idiot. there would be no reason to rig the lottery if there were plenty of smart non-whites. but there are plenty of smart non-whites. thus, no need to rig the lottery. what part of this crystal-clear explanation don't you understand, dumba$$? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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minority means that there are fewer of them than the majority population. hence, minorities make up a smaller proportion of the pool. if there are more kids at a given school relative to their percentage of the total pool, one wonders if there was some sort of balancing for diverity. could be luck of the draw or not. now do YOU get it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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NP: asian and south asian (indian) kids make up quite a large part of the 5 boroughs' population, as do jews, who are a minority. What's to wonder about? There are a lot of well-prepared, bright asian, south asian and jewish kids in NYC. Look at the makeup of coveted high schools like Stuyvesant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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not sure its just about being bright in these groups you mention. I think there is a strong culture of pushing and prepping that prevails within them. seems to work, so godspeed! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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oh and there were anumber of AAs too. i have to say that I love it. My dc will get a great education for free, and be part of a diverse community. thank you joel klein! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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By any chance, did you skip the part of my post where I wrote "I tend to think myself that it was (a random lottery)"? So I agree with you. But for some reason, you are so full of rage that you don't make any sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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Do we know the breakdown of 99s according to ethnicity? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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Of course not. DOE never asked for that info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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Robin Aronow email said 477 (or something like that) 99's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Okay then, how do we know Anderson's incoming class does ont reflect the breakdown of ethnicities for the 99% scorers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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how do you know how many 99s there were? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I can tell you with absolute certainty that the lottery for Anderson was ENTIRELY random. It was computer generated by an outside vendor per request by the DOE. OSEPO and DOE didn't even have the names until about the time that we did. Entirely random and that is why the Anderson admin and teaching staff (and maybe PA?) aer being so hostile towards the new families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:36 PM Flag
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why would that make them hostile towards new families? seems they would want to welcome the cash cow with open arms, and keep their kvetching to behind closed doors among administration only. PA should not be involved at all! they need these new parents to run their show. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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ignore the troll!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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Everybody was on best behavior today but the back room buzz is pretty nasty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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you are a troll, and it is nasty. probably dying for a spot at anderson. any way, even if it were true, which I doubt very much, it would not matter. these kids are the kids they are charged to care for and educate. if they do poorly in this task, or if they are not welcoming and inclusive because they feel they lost a battle, then the school will ultimately fail. people will not feel like contributing, and the school will have financial difficulty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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^^^also, if the kids are not what they wanted, they will just have to work hard to get all those 99s up to par. woe is them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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The OR is a fake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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I have heard that the PA moms are awful. they get in everyone's business, nose around the office, check up on how different kids are doing, and talk behind closed doors alright. they think the school is theirs, and they only want who they want in the club. I would not send a kid to anderson if my life depended on it. If i were brian Culot, I would put some reigns on the parent body there. he doesn't yet realize (too young and inexperienced) that these people are the ones who can wreck the school, not the incoming families who were not approved by the hens. they need to just thank the stars that their kids are getting a good education, and stop the nonsense. every kid who gets a spot there deserves it as much as the next kid, regardless of whether they were picked by random lottery or some other method. they all performed up to the standard required, and most will do very well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:18 PM Flag
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Bottom line: you don't have a kid at Anderson. Where is your "expert knowledge" coming from? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:06 PM Flag
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know many of them, and live in the nabe. like I said, the lotto for an anderson spot is the right thing. look at this post. it yielded a nice, smart diverse group coming into K,and there is nothing the cronies of anderson should be up in arms about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 03:25 AM Flag
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someone didn't get in? perhaps,you? wow! the bitterness adn jealousy will push people over the edge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 11:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I am 6 weeks. I have a really horrible headache, very bad lower back pain, cramping and I had a little brown spotting today. would you be concerned or is this all normal for early pregnancy. I started freaking out as I never had spotting during my pregnancy with my daughter and I have had the cramps and back pain all day. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.25.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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Could be totally normal. Call your OB in the morning if you are worried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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i noticed your post as i am havin gsimilar symptoms. wanted to see how you are doing since this is a few months ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.30.08, 07:26 PM Flag
[ - ] any wohms with nannies on? how much do you know about your dc's day? my nanny writes down how much ds eats and drinks and length and duration of naps, but i don't really know much about how they spend their day. when i get home i ask how the day was and she generally just says "fine, he was great today" or "he was fussy in the evening" but i don't know exactly what they DO. he's 8mo, btw. just wondering 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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Just ask more specific questions. Did you go to the park? How was his nap? Did you have a playdate? Etc. I found with my nanny the more I asked the more she came to understand what I wanted to know and eventually she just told me in greater detail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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thanks. i'm debating between starting to do that (but then i feel like i am cross examining her every day) or just telling her that i'd like to know more about their day, can she start telling me what they did etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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I think it is your responsibility to ask specific questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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At first I felt like I was interrogating her but I wanted to know and she wasn't volunteering the info. Just ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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thanks...hopefully once we do this for awhile it will become routine and not feel wierd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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ask her. If I don't ask my daycare will just provide the basics [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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I know quite a bit. Playdates, trips to the park, meals, walks, crankiness level, new skills, ec. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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was it that way from the start? or did it develop over time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Developed over time. At the start, there was so little to report. Ate, pooped, peed, slept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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thanks - did you seem my second post re: solids? wondering if i am not requesting enough info... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I have so much to do and I am going to avoid it for as long as possible. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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story of my freakin' life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone been prescribed Ambien while pregnant? I just got it from my Doctor because I haven't slept in days/weeks and it's been tough getting up for work and being productive. I'm just kind of nervous about it, but on the flip side I almost got T-Boned when I ran a redlight by accident the other day because I'm so tired and have a hard time concentrating. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.25.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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did you try benadryl first? I was given ambien when I was in the hospital being induced, didn't seem like a big deal, but if something over the counter works I would try that first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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Yeah, I tried the Benadryl and Tylenol Pm (same ingredients) but they really don't do it for me, they do make me tired but won't put me to sleep. thanks for your response. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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I wouldn't worry about the ambien then. You need to sleep! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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OB prescribed it for me, it's safe for pregnancy. (I had those crazy side effects, though - DH found me trying to get out of the apt!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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I took it. The risks associated with taking ambien while pg are small compared to the risks associated with sleep deprivation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:38 PM Flag
[ - ] would you buy a used breast pump...and of course i'd buy new accessories. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.25.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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Yes, I did - no problems [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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thanks...that's what i figured.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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I'd say yes to that since I've borrowed pumps for both my kids, so buying it used would be the same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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I would, but I put it on my Baby Registry and I know someone will get it for me since there aren't many things on there to begin with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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Are you kidding, I'd buy used breasts! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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I rented a hospital grade pump. So I have no objection to having a used motor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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was the Hospital Grade the best or what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:42 PM Flag
[ - ] We are traveling across country to visit family in Aug. with our db, who will be 7mo by that time. I can't make up my mind whether to bring the pump or not. Any thoughts? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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bring it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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You are probably right. Ack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I have a manual pump that I bring on trips. It's very light and doean't take up much room. It might be worth it if you want to get a free night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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can you rent one there? i did that-you will have to buy accessories but the whole nt having to carry it was fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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at 7 mos, db will take solids and you can leave him or her for more than 3 hours at a time. If you get uncomfortable you can always hand express. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] please please help. ds will be 2.3 in the fall of 2009. do i wait to apply for preschool for him so he will enter at 3.3? or do i apply this fall for 09 admission. i know there are many progs that will not take him at 2.3 but i worry about waiting so long and also worry that it will be more competitive for the 3's programs. please help. any advice will be greatly appreciated 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.25.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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there are several programs that take that age. search around and call the schools your interested in. now is a good time. as for whether he goes you need to decide if he's ready [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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but would it be crazy to delay him until he is 3.3? doesn't that seem late? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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Only in NYC would starting school at 3 be considered "late". It's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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My dd is starting school this fall, and will be 3.6 in september. She's very sociable and intelligent. We didn't even think about a 2's program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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np: Same here. I really was just going to do pre-k, but a great opportunity fell in our lap that we couldn't pass up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] help - have new sitter. dd is 5 years old and she promised me she would let sitter brush her teeth tonight. She refused multiple times so I told her no treats tomorrow b/c she can't eat treats if she can't take care of her teeth. Not sure if that was the right things to do. Have been struggling b/c have new baby, etc. so I know it's a lot of change, but I also am frustrated by her behavior. I hate the thought of her going to bed without her teeth brushed, but she is refusing to have sitter do it. Do I brush them or what?? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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so maybe the nights you have a sitter and you can't do them, the sitter could just watch dd do it herself. it won't be perfect, but she would be happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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she's five - she will get shiny new teeth soon and you really should pick your battles... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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I know, it's just pissing me off -- probably bc I am tired / not sleeping with new baby, so things like this are just getting to me (when they really shouldn't) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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I wouldn't worry - if that is the biggest power struggle you have with her. A new baby is really a big transition. Try spending some time alone with her and I bet she will be more agreeable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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yeah, i think i have underestimated the transition to being a big sister. I have a 3 yo as well. Lots of adjusting going on - mom being home from work taking care of new baby, new sitter, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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op here... situation resolved itself. went upstairs to tell DD she could brush herself with me watching. she said, will you brush? then she said, actually, i want sitter to brush and happily went after her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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and thanks for your previous posts - i am tired from lack of sleep from newborn, so little things are getting to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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You brush your 5 yo teeth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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i do right now, b/c her gums are swollen so after she brushes, I am helping her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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Gotcha. I would think that on the occasional night when sitter is there it's ok for DD to do it herself and you can help in the morning. Happy it resolved itself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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thanks. as I said I am really struggling as I feel like I have been getting more "attitude" / frustration from DD since baby came home, yet on the other hand she can be soooo sweet and helpful. I need to figure out how to better encourage the sweet and helpful b/c I feel like i am just harping on the behavior I don't like, which I know is not right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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Eh - she's 5. It could have absolutely *nothing* to do with the baby (I have an almost 5 yo only who has developed a major 'tude of late). As for encouraging the good I find it works really well when she does something I want repeated to say (with a lot of (forced) enthusiasm): "I really like when you _____ (ask nicely, say thank you, put your dishes in the sink...). The repetition of the positive reinforcement works wonders. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] If you take a nanny on vacation with you, do you pay her extra (not including weekends, holidays, just requiring her to work regular weekday hours)? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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yes unless she can go home at night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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How much extra? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Yes. You really have to. She's not at home, she's separated from her family and friends. It's not a vacation for her, it's work. Pay her overtime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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we pay 50 extra dollars a day if she's working regular hours. now if we go out at night then we pay the extra hours overtime...and if away overnight we pay extra 100 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I need a really yummy menu for a concert picnic. Any ideas??? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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fried chicken, corn and black bean salad, caprese salad, brownies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone used cabbage leaves to successfully relieve engorgement? Also - is there any issue w/ using cabbage leaves to relieve engorgement yet continuing to breastfeed? (obviously removing the leaf when the baby is actually breastfeeding...) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.25.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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Cabbage leaves work great. They don't interfere at all with breastfeeding. And you only need them for a day or two -- that's how long engorgement lasts when your milk comes in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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if you can stand the smell, try them. if not, baggies full of frozen peas work fine, since it's the cold pack you want. gl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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