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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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NY Schools 06.25.08, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] breastfeeding - anyone else have one breast that just doesn't produce milk or very little? so odd, but i basically have only one that produces any significant amount... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.25.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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yes that was me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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This is not uncommon. keep using both sides anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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mine go back & forth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:35 PM Flag
[ - ] perez hilton says that a hollywood icon may have died, but until it is confirmed he won't say who. Any guesses ? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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Paul Newman? He's been rumored to be very sick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] vote now: obama or mccain? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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Obama. Now and in November. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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i'm voting for B.O. It smells better to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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bob barr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: Mustela products vs. Johnson and Johnson 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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neither [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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ita. I only use unscented products. I start out with Mustela with my dd but now have converted my whole household to fragrance free, natural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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burt's bees. I lovet he smell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] wtf was that noise? fighter jets? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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yes... not to worry... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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why fighter jets? why are they here? scared me half to death, I thought it was a plane crashing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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it's an air show, british planes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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my heart. lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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I heard that too in Brooklyn. And I don't look out the window for anything, but that was a 9/11 Flash back...I'm hiding under my kitchen table having a flash back of running for my life! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm expecting my first child in August. Planning to bf. Is the single or double pump best for when I return to work? Anyone have difficulty switching back and forth between breast and bottle? I was told not to introduce the bottle as it confuses db, but don't understand how I could not if I'm returning back to work. TIA 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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Get the double pump, saves so much time. And ignore people who say no bottle. If you don't introduce a bottle after getting settled into BFing, you are setting yourself up to fail when you get back to work (baby will reject the bottle). Meeting with a LC is a good idea too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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I second the advice on the bottle. Not only introduce it, but start pumping early and have DH give a daily bottle. My DB refused a bottle and now 13 months later I am thanking g-d a she likes her sippy cup, because I am spent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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:-). Thank you. When should I introduce the bottle? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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We did it from the one week old on - the midnight feed since DH is a night owl. Very good advice to have DH give the bottles at first, baby might reject the bottle from you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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I second this. Also get the Easy Expression bustier for hands free pumping. We introduced a bottle at 4 weeks (I had 12 weeks leave) and it's been fine. Our ped. told us that as long as the nursing mom is not the one giving the bottle it's fine. Babies are not stupid, they will eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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i 2nd the hands free pumping bra [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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Why does the easy expression bustier looks so damn fugly though? Omg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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yes, my housekeeper thought it was some KKK thing because it looks like a white hood with eye holes in it. I am glad she asked me instead of assuming I was some aryan freaky person [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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LOL. Can't I just use a regular nursing bra? What's the diff? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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It holds the flanges in place. A regular nursing bra just exposes your breast for a baby to feed from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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no, this is a bra that you wear while pumping that holds the cones to your breasts. this frees up hands to read or whatever while pumping as opposed to holding cones with your hands. you will still need regular nursing bras for regular time (btw, I loved the nursing tanks from target-i still wear them to bed though I haven't nursed in 6 mos). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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The bravado nursing tanks are going to stay in my wardrobe for sure! I am large chested and they are actualy comfy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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if you are large, the nursing bras from title 9.com-they are nursing sports bras. i loved them-very good support for larger women. also, elle macpherson (though very pricy). but do look at target-way cheaper and suprisingly comfy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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I love title 9! I'll take a look. My favorite nursing bra is the Goddess Bra. It's a lot of support and pretty comfy. but love those tanks. I'll check out the Target ones, thanks, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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I'm good on the nursing bras, but I refuse to buy that ugly expression thing. There has to be something else.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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I'm telling you, it's awesome. I'm using it right now as a matter of fact! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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function over form, I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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i introduced bottles with both my kdis when they were under a wk old, it was fine. what may be helpful is to either get a lactation consultant or go to a bf support group (i went to realbirth)-they can help you get most out of your pumpnig and help you figure otu schedule for pumping and est a supply. as for pump, I got a medela pis, regular not advanced. does your office have a pumping room or do you have space to pump? my office had a pumping room with a lactina so I did not have to schlep the pump back and forth to office [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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Cool. I will have a pumping room when I go back to the office, and am scheduled to take the bf class with realbirth next month. Looking at the Medela too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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fwiw, I only found the bf stuff useful after I'd had the db, not before. I guess I needed more context, like a dc. gl-it is hard but doable. I bf both my kids to 14 mos and woh ft with both of them. and Ita on giving the bottle from day one-may want to get a few different types to try out and see what works for your db. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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My ped had told me to give db one bottle a week to get her used to it. With that advice, I did the same with ds, and it worked well for us. I actually gave one bottle a day with dd so that my dh could let me sleep a few more hours in the morn. As far as the pump, I had a double but never used both sides at the same time if that helps. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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double electric is the ONLY way to go. Don't worry about practice bottles. Go to work have caregiver give a bottle. Baby will scream and cry for hours and then give in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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This might work, but it can be avoided by introducing a bottle earlier. It's also a great reason to have DH take a feeding so you can get more sleep. Seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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giving db a bottle earlier means op can have some freedom from db now and again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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it all depends on what you want I guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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true, but let's think of choices: going back to work and stressing over starving db or introducing bottles earlier and giving op a little freedom? maybe I am missing something here but it seems like a no brainer to give db bottles early on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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the only part you are missing is that people do things differently. And most of them work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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yes, but if someone is asking for advice on what works, a lot of us have given advice on something that works well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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so did I :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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Not OP: But Due in August too, this information was so helpful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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:-). Congrats to you!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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former wohm who successfuly nursed and pumped and db had no formula: start a bottle by 2 weeks if bfing is going well. Have dh give a bottle at least once every other day (and you pump at that time). You don't need to get the crzy designer babby bottles: gerber drop ins work fine (and many of my friends who had trouble getting db to latch on a bottle finally found that they worked best). Try and buidl up a little freezer stash beofre you head back to work (feed, shower, pump) after baby is about 6 weeks old. Pumping is most successful earlier in the day and after you drink a huge, huge glass of water. Oatmeal encourages lactation, as well. Good Luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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Thanks. Any advice on the specific pump you used? I'm looking now, and its confusing. (Medela) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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things have changed a bit since I purchased, but the standard is the Pump In Style [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] i think I had an orgasm in my sleep. Anyone else ? Maybe I'm just nutty. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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I do that all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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this happens to me ALL the time. love it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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I woke up amazed ! no fuss, no muss ! Loved it !! Now, how can I get that to happen again ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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ah.... i haven't figured out that part yet... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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call me when you do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] My 16mo dd has been diagnosed with an ear infection in both ears. The doc gave her an antibiotic...any other methods of giving her relief? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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motrin - she should feel better pretty quickly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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Ohhh, I am sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Not having a shower or registering for our first db. What basics do we need to get to be ready when the baby first comes home? Don't want to overload the apt with unnecessary stuff!! TIA! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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diapers, wipes, nightgown, dresser drawer with a towel for db to sleep in, boob :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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OP: wow that's really basic! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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and for the first 6 weeks or so that all you need - I skipped wipes for water and washcloth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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you also need a mode of transportation - stroller, sling, etc. and a car seat. not much else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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No shower? The usual diapers, creams, cloth diapers or rags for receiving blankets, changing pad or table, tub, something for db to sleep in that's smaller than a crib, swaddlers, swing with sound machine, onesies, socks, little tiny hats... I'm wanting another now, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:57 PM Flag
[ - ] TTC for a ds this time around. I think I will read up on the Shettles method. If you have btdt, I would love to read about it. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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I did it. Its great. Book is cheap. But read it NOW, it takes a couple of times and start charting - you need a practice month of that too. I did boy, girl, boy and got it every time. boys are easier. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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I have been charting for 3 months plus opks. Wish me luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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Good luck, but read up and there are things dh needs to do too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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such as... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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sorry, don't know if you are still here, wear boxers not briefs, wear nothing if he can to bed, stay out of hot tubs and hot baths, drink a cup of coffee 20 minutes before sex - all these are for a boy and there might be more - its been awhile since I read the book [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] When can I exhale and think that hopefully my dc will not suddenly become autistic? I know, stupid question but that dam tickler post got me again... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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I didn't relax until 5 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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this fear is keeping me from having #3. I think it's not so rare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Does your DH call you during the day? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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usually at lunch but this is maybe 2-3 days a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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once, maybe twice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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only on the very rarest of occasions. like- maybe once a month or less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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no, and he never lets me know if he is home for dinner either but expects it whether he will be there or not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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well that's just sweet. He doesn't want to crush your hopes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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lol - thanks, I needed that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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I take it he's not there yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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oh no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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Yes once or twice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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Generally no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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Only if we have some business that needs taking care of or to see if he needs to pick up the baby from day care [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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We text each other like teenagers, it's really silly, but a lot of times we can't talk but can send a text. I do like when I get a real sweet one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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yes, probably 2 calls a day plus many emails [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Opinions please. 2 y.o. has woken up and come into my bed the past three nights. I know what I need to do to make her stay in bed but it is a very busy week workwise and I'm tempted to allow her to come to our bed tonight and tomorrow night and start deprogramming her Friday night. Any thoughts on how much more this habit will be ingrained if I let it happen for two more nights? I can't decide. . . 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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what's the issue AND she's in a bed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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the issue is that i don't want her to come to our bed every night. but i'm pg and the effort it would take to keep her in her crib once she wakes would mean i'd be up for a while b/c i have a hard time falling back asleep. but if someone could convince me that letting her come to our bed for two more nights would make it exponetially harder to break her of the habit, then I'd start tonight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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I still have regular visiting seven yo and a part-time 9 yo. I like them coming in though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] i don't like how dishonest one admissions' director is. called to see if there had been any movement - they are keeping us on a waitlist until september. i know that one kid is not going and they decided just recently. admissions' director tells me "no, no movement, all spots are still filled and we are releasing the wait list". i just wanted to shout "i know there is one spot RIGHT NOW". is this what they tell everyone to not feel bad "no movement", even though there was. i feel like someone just lied me in the eyes! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.25.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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there may be no movement for the kid in the spot ahead ofyou. meaning, the dc who left may be a diff gender/bday/FA situation. you don't know. though honestly, if you have this reaction, maybe it is just you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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how would you like him to say, "no, no place for your kid."? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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we've all been there. really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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what is your position on the waiting list? unless you are in the first ten, there is probably no chance, and the director doesnt want to deal with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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would you feel better if she told you they had a spot, but didn't want to give it to you? she's just trying to be nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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np: I agree. I got a spot for my dd ahead of someone that was ahead of us on the waiting list. IT happens. They sometimes want a certain balance in a group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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do you feel you deserve a fully detailed report on the status of admissions ? You're one parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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there is a lot of displacement here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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on ub? just because you read about one person giving up a private spot doesn't mean everyone is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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maybe other family hasn't told doa about not coming yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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our doa at our privatge school told me that they are over-enrolled....very high yield and they hope that one or two change their minds over the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] UGh dh sibs are just ridiculous. They are all moochers and selfish bastards. There is a party happening this weekend and his moocher twin brother who never calls his mother up..calls and gives her the sad story on how he wishes to be there but can't afford it. She then says well I can give you $100..call your brother (my dh). My dh holds the money for her since they would steal from her. So his twin calls up dh and says that mom said she will pay for his airline to come over. BULLSHIT..she told me she offered him $100..not a $430 last min. ticket. They are all horrible with MIL who is poor and living in senior housing. Just venting 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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What is the party for (ie, is it for their mother, who will be upset if the jerk isn't there?)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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op: no it's a cousin who is having a 1st bday for his son..it's just an excuse for him to come and mooch off of MIL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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I'm sorry, that sucks. Also, since it's a twin, your DH must hate that his brother's such a loser - they were probably so close once. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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op: yes my dh tries to see the good in his brother but knows how he is and will not let him abuse his mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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it's a good thing MIL has you and Dh looking out for her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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oP; yes I'm happy that dh has her money (which is like 2k) in an acct..if not she would never have any play money for when she needs it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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