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[ - ] Doc Moms: Sometime Smokers, like 10 a week, is this just as bad as smoking full time? Am I at the same level of risk for lung cancer and emphesyma? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.25.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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no one really has the ansewr to this but some studies suggest that cancer can occur from a single event [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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Cancer risk is not clear. Emphysema is also probably dose-dependent, and also dependent on your genetic risk towards having this, but female smokers are probably more susceptible to this than male smokers are. However, studies definitely show that smoking as little as 1-2 cigarettes per day doubles your risk of having a heart attack. Not as relevant when younger, but starts to matter when you hit your 50s, if you are unable to stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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I thank you for responding. I need to quit, no one should smoke, not proud of it but I appreciate the information [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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dear you, I used to smoke like you. Just loved having a ciggie at the end of the day. it was like a routine. I decided to quit as a wedding gift to dh (he had never smoked and grew up in a house where his dad chain-smoked and really hated the smell). Anyway, because it was so much a part of my relaxation routine, I chose to quit when I was on vacation, away from home, relaxed already. worked like a charm. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 12:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Doc Moms: Sometime Smokers? Anyone? Smoke a few every week, is this as bad as smoking full time? Like 10 a week maybe 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Yes, this is very bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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id say since even non smokers are significantly at risk from second hand smoke, yes, its risky, there are more factors than just the smoking itself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:14 PM Flag
[ - ] help what can sitter do with 19 mo db? she is with us 5 hours. any activities sitter can do with her? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.25.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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Music class, other classes, take her to the park or for a walk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Is "Beatrice" becoming a very popular name? Need a French name for dd and most of the ones we like are SO popular right now... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I think it's becoming popular. I know 2 born in the last year--still love it though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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I love it too... I know one who is 6, and one other who is my age (20-something), but we're having a hard time with names!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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which ones are popular? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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Isabelle, Claire, Charlotte, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Mathilde? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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really dislike this name, sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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Chloe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] ugh -- a mom i know has a ds 2 months apart in age from my own (mine's a dec. kid, hers is a feb. kid). she always goes on and on about how they're a year apart, and about how "advanced" hers is. mine has just finished K, hers is starting next year. she is going to be even more insufferable next year! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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she brags about his reading skills, so advanced for a mere pre-k kid. i just keep thinking "he missed the k cut off by like 6 weeks -- he's not a genius!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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why bother associating with someone like this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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same circle -- she's everywhere i go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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did he at least get into a good school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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local g&t [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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Just tell her to go F herself and you'll never have to talk to her again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] What's a funny product line? Need an idea for something I'm writing. Like Spam is funny, but something more gengeric. Thanks!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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preparation H? Condoms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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Brillo? [ Reply | More
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Attends [ Reply | More
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Mentos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Need to do CIO soon with db #2. Question is how I explain it to older dc (3.5yrs old). She gets distressed when she hears him cry. I'll try to take her out, and leave DH for the CIO (or vice versa) most of the time. Any tips here? TIA. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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Our DCs share a room. We moved older DC into our room with a white noise machine and told him the baby was having a hard time falling asleep and might cry for a bit. That seemed to do it for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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What about for nap training? Was older dc around those days? How long did it take? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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We didn't do it for naps....those sorted themselves out on their own. Took about a week to work out at night--crying about 30 min the first (worst) night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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Thanks. I might take older dc for a walk that first night, and hope that the next few nights are not as tough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:01 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone feed their kids defrosted (not cooked) peas?? this is ok to do, right? dd likes them. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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they're fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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my kids LOVE frozen peas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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Mine too! Crazy kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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My 10 month old loves them--they're the perfect finger food! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:15 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the new thinking on sleep training? Ferber or CIO? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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same, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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CIO is just walking out. Ferber is gradual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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No, CIO doesn't have you going in to check. Just plain old CIO. Ferber has you check in intervals, which is definitely my preference. I can hardly stand that. I know I couldn't do the hardcore CIO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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the new thinking is "think for yourself". do what works for you and your kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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Thanks - I wasn't planning on thinking for myself! Great idea! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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My DCs too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] nyschools moms, if you think ny is nuts, check out this blog about sf schools, crazy debates about exactly same issues: http://thesfkfiles.blogspot.com 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.25.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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I heard that in SF, it's a pure lottery. Is that true? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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no, i think it's based on some criteria of HHI, language spoken in home, etc. but after that, all random. but it's crazy and same crazy debates about private/public [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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not crazy, i mean, valid debates, but heated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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didn't check out the blog, but that's what I hear from my friends there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Except they are fighting over poor schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Need sleep help for 3.5 m/o baby. His night sleep is good, but naps are short and all over the place. He is clearly exhausted, and no amount of soothing is helping him lately. We try getting him to sleep every 1.5-2 hrs, and we soothe a lot, but he can't settle down. He's clearly overtired. Do we start CIO? Is Ferber better? Very confused. Very tired. Feel bad for the boy. TIA. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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hmm, i honestly would say if his night sleep is good, don't push teh day sleep overly, let it happen and be happy that you have good night sleep. i'd get a sling and wear him in that, i'll bet he falls asleep that way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Well, he's not falling asleep in the baby bjorn or stroller lately either. So I'm not sure the sling will help. It's not that I want to push something that is bad for him; I can see he's exhausted and needs rest. Just not sure what else to do to help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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maybe he has some dietary discomfort? or other discomfort that is keepign him up? is he unhappy when he's awake? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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He's only really unhappy when he wakes up from an incredibly short nap. Not unhappy generally. I was thinking he might be teething - he's drooling a bit, fingers in mouth, etc. Is it too early for that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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Every kid is different. The average is around 7 mos,but there are early teethers & late teethers. FWIW, my dd was very drooly starting around 1.5 mos but is now 7.5 mos and just starting to actually teeth (I can see the bumps on her gums). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I think it's a little young for CIO or Ferber. I think Ferber says btw 4-6 mos. I know you're close to 4 mos, but if it were me I'd wait a little. Have you tried a schedule? Not a rigid "you must do this at this time" schedule, but more of a routine. I read BabyWise and it worked for us. DD is not a good napper so I was flexible w/ that part of it (length wise) but it helped us both know what was coming next and at about what time so I think it helped her sleep. Hang in there. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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We follow the 2-hr rule. So we start soothing between 1.5-2hrs. Every day that falls at a slightly different time, depending on when he starts his day. What is the babywise method? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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It's a routine of eat, play, sleep (playing after eating so as not to get in the habit of falling asleep at the bottle or breast). Also includes a steady time to get up & go to bed each day. I think at that age, it's a 2.5-3 hour routine (eat, play for 1.5 hr, nap 1.5 hr or slight adjustment depending how much sleep your ds needs). Try googling it for more info or buy the book - it's just called "BabyWise". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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I never understood these theories, though. How can you control how long your db sleeps for? Just like I despise books that say the best morning nap is at 9am. How does that happen if db is awake by 5:30. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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You don't control it. Some kids will sleep that long, some won't. That's why you may adjust the awake time to be longer if your dc doesn't need the entire nap. Or in my case, she was tired (at that age) after the 1.5 hrs so she'd sleep for as long as she needed and then we'd just play til it was time to eat. The more important thing is that the approx time of eating and the beginning of naps is the same and that dc isn't eating and going right to sleep. It might not work for everyone, but it (or a variation of it) worked for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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We sort of do that already b/c we don't put him down right after eating. We burp him, keep him upright, play a bit, etc. So I guess we do that in a way already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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my db slept every hour at that age- one hour awake, then I would put her down for an hour, and so on. I got that strategy from No Cry Sleep Solution I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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at that age by db selpt for an hour tops, it was maddening! now at 7 months he has gotten into a more reliable nap schedule. I think at this age you just have to accept what works. CIO is too young and much harder for naps than nighttime sleep. It WILL change so just go with this and know it's not forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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TOO YOUNG for CIO. Ugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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OP: According to my ped, it's not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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he may not have consolidated his napping yet. it will come. just be consistent in your routine. the first nap will be the one that becomes the most regular, then the 2nd and 3rd (if he does one) will come. keep your bedtime routine consistent too, it will all apy off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:17 PM Flag
[ - ] how old, how long on UB? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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39, 3 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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37, 5 (sigh) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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42, 6! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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37, 4 yrs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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37, almost 2 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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43, newbie this week (read NYTimes mag article) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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link please [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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29, 1.5 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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http://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/22/magazine/22wwln-medium-t.html?pagewanted=2&_r=1&ref=magazine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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^^^sry that was meant for "link please" above :^) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Made chicken soup yesterday and left it out all night by accident. If I boiled it first thing this morning, do you think it's okay to eat? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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no, toss it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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probably, but don't risk it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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OP: GGGRRRRR...I made it from scratch!!! I cannot believe I forgot to put it away. That's what I get for having a 10 week old and a 2yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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yeah, i've done that. it's just so daunting to put the huge stockpot in the fridge that it's easy to forget. sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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kudos to you for even attempting with a nb and toddler in tow! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I think this is decidedly not feedback about this site. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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I always do that with chicken soup, leave it on the stove for a night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] how long do you have to cook ground beef for it to be done? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.25.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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when it's no longer pink. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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until pink is gone if it's all around the pan, and burgers until only a little pink. i'm not sure why the double standard, but that' smy advice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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also depends are if you're making a burger or browning meat for chili or tacos or something that is going to cook longer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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mine takes like 5-10 minutes... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I am bored... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.25.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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go do something! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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read [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:44 PM Flag
[ - ] how can i help my 5 yo to read? i read to him a lot, any other ideas? what do you think of the tag learning system 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.25.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Leap Frog videos (letter factory first then word factory, etc.) were amzing for my ds. I think they gave him all the tools so that we could easily teach him to read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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start with the BOB books. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] This summer, DH and the kids and I will fly to Omaha and drive around Nebraska for a week. We want to observe average Mid Westerners in their natural environment. This will include visiting their diners, cafes and stores and observing them on the streets. We will also knock on their doors nad talk to them as well. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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make sure to bring change to throw at the children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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We would not do that but we will observe them and engage them as necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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we are taking a similar trip but have chosen a pilgrimage to the Mall of America. It will be really good for the kids to see what people in the Mall of America are really like, what they wear, how they shop and to observe their eating habbits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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brilliant, are you going to have film crew with you? Excellent reality show material [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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we didn't think of that......mainly we just want to talk to them and observe them and find otu about what happens with people in Nebraska [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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You should just watch Wife Swap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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we want the kids to see them in their native environemtn plus we can question them when we knock on their doors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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wouldn't you rather invite them to come live with you in your home to share their values? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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We feel the kids will get a lot of out observing them in their natural environment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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