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06.25.08, 16:23 PM General Topics
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help - have new sitter. dd is 5 years old and she promised me she would let sitter brush her teeth tonight. She refused multiple times so I told her no treats tomorrow b/c she can't eat treats if she can't take care of her teeth. Not sure if that was the right things to do. Have been struggling b/c have new baby, etc. so I know it's a lot of change, but I also am frustrated by her behavior. I hate the thought of her going to bed without her teeth brushed, but she is refusing to have sitter do it. Do I brush them or what?? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.25.08, 04:23 PM Flag
 

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so maybe the nights you have a sitter and you can't do them, the sitter could just watch dd do it herself. it won't be perfect, but she would be happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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she's five - she will get shiny new teeth soon and you really should pick your battles... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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I know, it's just pissing me off -- probably bc I am tired / not sleeping with new baby, so things like this are just getting to me (when they really shouldn't) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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I wouldn't worry - if that is the biggest power struggle you have with her. A new baby is really a big transition. Try spending some time alone with her and I bet she will be more agreeable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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yeah, i think i have underestimated the transition to being a big sister. I have a 3 yo as well. Lots of adjusting going on - mom being home from work taking care of new baby, new sitter, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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op here... situation resolved itself. went upstairs to tell DD she could brush herself with me watching. she said, will you brush? then she said, actually, i want sitter to brush and happily went after her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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and thanks for your previous posts - i am tired from lack of sleep from newborn, so little things are getting to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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You brush your 5 yo teeth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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i do right now, b/c her gums are swollen so after she brushes, I am helping her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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Gotcha. I would think that on the occasional night when sitter is there it's ok for DD to do it herself and you can help in the morning. Happy it resolved itself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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thanks. as I said I am really struggling as I feel like I have been getting more "attitude" / frustration from DD since baby came home, yet on the other hand she can be soooo sweet and helpful. I need to figure out how to better encourage the sweet and helpful b/c I feel like i am just harping on the behavior I don't like, which I know is not right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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Eh - she's 5. It could have absolutely *nothing* to do with the baby (I have an almost 5 yo only who has developed a major 'tude of late). As for encouraging the good I find it works really well when she does something I want repeated to say (with a lot of (forced) enthusiasm): "I really like when you _____ (ask nicely, say thank you, put your dishes in the sink...). The repetition of the positive reinforcement works wonders. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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