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[ - ] Last day of preK tomorrow. DD made her teacher some gifts and a card. I was wondering if I should give my own card expressing my gratitude or if I should just say a few nice things in person. Just wondering if a teacher likes to get "fan mail." 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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If you have something special to say, sure. Otherwise you're good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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I really just want to make sure she knows that I think she is great and I feel fortunate to have had her in my daughter's life this year. I guess I can say that out loud.....through the tears! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] 3yo has no interest in moving out of crib.. wwyd?? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.25.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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your THREE year old is in a crib? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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yes... she has no interest to go into her bed... wwyd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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take the crib apart and stow it away while she's out of the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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np: so? my 3 yo is in a crib too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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Let her stay in it. No rush! My 2nd DD didn't leave her beloved crib until sometime after 3. At that time we got her a new toddler bed, set it up and let her play in it. When she was ready, she slept in it. A few days later we dismantled the crib and put it away. If she wanted it we would have gotten it out, but she never asked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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are you kidding? it's a crib. it's not rocket science. just put it away. losing a crib will not scar a child for life, good god. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Neither will allowing the child to sleep in the bed of her choice. Why do you think the crib MUST GO? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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because I still have painful memories of being stuck in a crib when I was 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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I'm keeping my 2 1/2 year-old in her crib as long as possible. She's happy, she doesn't climb out, she stays in for naps, no middle-of-the-night visits. Course, she's not potty trained yet so once that happens all bets are off, I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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ITA. That's when DD went to a big girl bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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leave her. why rush. it won't last forever....and if she's sleeping and happy why mess with it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Feeling bad for #1. When #1 was a baby everyone said she looked like the Gerber baby, however everyone tells me #2 looks like a sumo wrestler or a buddah...... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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so why do you feel bad for #1 not 2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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Just don't treat number 1 Like NUMBER 2! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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I don't get it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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ya know, don't treat number 1 like Number 2 (as in sh*t), it's a joke. Obviously, not a funny one, sorry, gotta throw them out there now and then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] When did you take bedrails off dc's bed? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.25.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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never had them, moved to twin bed at 3yo, never had a problem with falling out. in fact, dd loved the bed, rarely climbs out of bed like she used to with the crib. btw, the mattress is hoisted just 8" off ground. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:51 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: Wrote a tuition check to DD's school in April. It still hasn't been cashed. Sent 3 emails to follow up (to make sure they got it) and received one response in mid-May saying "we'll look into it." School is out for summer. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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cancel the check, re-write when they come looking for it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I wouldn't cancel it. It sounds as though the school is not organized. Speak to someone in person. People are usually in the offices after school is closed. E-mail is not an adequate level of communication at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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OP: Do checks "expire" at some point? I'm actually a bit ticked because it's screwing up my bank balance (it's the same amount as our rent check so I'm continually confused about which checks are where). Isn't it unprofessional to hold onto a check for this long? I wrote it April 15, actually, according to my bank book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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in many banks checks expire after 90 days if uncashed. Call your bank on July 16, say it hasn't been cashed. See if you can be sure they 'expire' it instead of putting a stop payment on it (which would indicate that the choice was made by you) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Phil & Ted's Vibe or Dash stroller - any comments on which is better? Thanks! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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love my phil and ted [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:52 PM Flag
[ - ] where can i fix my breast pump. I plugged it into a 220V outlet and it burned. I dont want to buy a new one. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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sorry -- BTDT (with a clock radio, not a breast pump) -- cannot be fixed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Completely hypothetical question, but if you have one dc in private school without FA, then need FA to send a sib there (assuming the sib's accepted), how likely are most schools to consider that kind of FA request? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.25.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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The schools will certainly consider aid. Whether they grant it will be based on your particular financial situation. I think you will be expected to stretch; most people I know who receive aid (including us) stretch to be able afford our share of tuition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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no problem, that's what we did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Why haven't we received our daughter's ELA and Math scores yet? I mean, COME ON!!! Tomorrow is the last friggin' day of SCHOOL!!!! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Are you serious? That's criminal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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hyperbole? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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They will probably come home tomorrow with the report cards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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that is awful. we received the ela's in may and math in early june. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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We got ours yesterday, the school didn't have everyone's back so they waited until they had them all. ELA is down from last year and I'm not happy about it. Hope the 1385 thing is true. I love how they say "discuss it with your child's teacher" when they release them so late. DOE jerks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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THis "1385" is a moving target I think. I think changes every year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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If you are talking about cutoff for Delta, it has been two fours, OR 1385 combined, for at least the last 3 years. Think this is true for Anderson as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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Anderson is going up since they only have like 10 spots and being city-wide they get way too many applicants to test and go through with that cutoff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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Yes but many (like us) don't bother applying there for middle school in the first place -- odds of getting in are ridiculously tiny since there are so few spots and it is city-wide, application and recommendation forms are time-consuming (even before the test), and many dcs don't want to be one of very few new kids in a program where everyone else has known each other for 6 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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They still have way too many applications given the small number of spots they have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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true - more than 400 applying for like 8-10 spots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:13 AM Flag
[ - ] ps41 or ps11? 70 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.25.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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depends if you mean 11 G&T or not. I'd do 11 G&T over 41, but 41 over 11 gen ed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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g&t. why 11 g&t over 41? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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PS 11 G&T. But why are you asking now? I thought G&T acceptance was due last week. This year, there are so many high scores DCs in 11. Academically, it will be strong. Also small class size and music/art program is wonderful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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we accepted at 11 but hadn't heard about zoned lottery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Do you care about 41? Have you registered at 11 already? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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yes, no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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is it too late for you to register at 11? I would personally go for the G&T at 11. Going to be a very strong set of kids, two small classes, and the school is great. current parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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smaller class size, smaller school, more diversity in the school (although the G&T may not be as diverse as in years past)...swimming pool, more laid back/down to earth parent body, and I think 11 has better teachers overall than 41 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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how do you know this about the teachers? particularly the g&t teachers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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I guess I should have prefaced my response with the fact that dc goes to 11 G&T - finishing 2nd grade and I've never heard any complaints about the teachers. I chose it for the reasons I mentioned - we were all set to move into the 41 zone 3 years ago....so glad we didn't. Meanwhile I've had two friends who were not happy with their teachers at 41 (one in K, one in 1st, but this was a few years ago too so maybe they aren't there anymore...and it's just two people's opinions- so still not that valid a point, I admit) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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ok, thanks. we didn't have a chance to tour 11 (it wasn't our fc) and we only just found out about 41, so it has been stressful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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I have a friend whose DC is in 1st grade G&T. She(and DC) loves her. She says all the G&T teachers(may be gen ed. too) are so wonderful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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ps41. it has a better track record and more parents who are willing and able to get involved, financially and otherwise (as opposed to ps11 g&t plus gen ed). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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I heard PS11s fundraising more than doubled this year. Might have been low to begin with, but seems like there is a lot of upward momentum there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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yes, a few years ago they raised about 30K. This year they raised close to $150K. They know they are going to lose their funding and everyone has stepped up the fundraising. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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but that's nothing compared to the $400-$500k raised by the richer schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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you're right but I think the economic diversity in the school is worth far more than 300K. There is a downside to having your dc in a school where most everyone is pretty well off financially [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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yes, it's nice to slum with the poor dcs from the projects and feel so sanctimonious while you do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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if that's what you call it....you may be shocked to know that some of those 'project' dcs are in the G&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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^I'm actually shocked that you would tell somebody that they are 'slumming' if they are in a school where everyone isn't rich [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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you've missed the point entirely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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not this year i doubt. and that's what i find troubling about the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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you sound like you'd fit right in at 41, with all those 50 yo masters of the universe and their young ivy league educated wives, who go shut out of privates. 41 is a scary place for those who don't mind truly diverse schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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if you're so committed to diversity, walk the walk. don't send dc to a g&t, which is all about rich whitey avoiding the poor black dcs down the hall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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it's interesting. i asked a principal at one of the best public schools in the city what the single most important factor was when it comes to a successful public school, and she said money. when i expressed surprise, she said when there's money to make sure the school is running, the teachers can focus on teaching the dcs, and that especially with all the budget cuts, raising money is crucial. btw, her school raises a ton considering its size. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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this is depressing to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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it's the reality of nyc public schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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one principal can be misguided [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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Who raises $500K? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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41, 234, 87, anderson (k-8, but still), etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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but there's a definite ceiling there when it comes to fundraising. the majority of it is done by the two g&t classes per grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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that will change big time this year. There are a lot of neighborhood kids going into 11 gen ed this year whereas in the past the school couldn't fill it's spots with neighborhood kids so they gave a lot of variances and bussed a lot of kids in from outside the zone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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you're talking about the g&t. but the majority of dcs are in the gen ed, and those dcs don't have money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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sorry, i misread^ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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no, gen ed too. Up until last year's K, they could never fill their gen ed seats with in-zone dcs (or their G&T seats). That is how quickly the school has turned around. This year there were quite a few sibs starting k who didn't make the olsat cut and they are going to go into the gen ed...same thing happened with PS9 a few years ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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no offense, but it hasn't turned around because people are choosing ps11. the reason the seats are being filled by neighborhood dcs is because they can no longer get variances to ps3 and ps41. parents are sending their dcs there reluctantly. maybe they will donate more than the people who were bussed in, but there certainly isn't a woo-hoo! rah, rah spirit among the parents i know headed for ps11 gen ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:36 PM Flag
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The g&t is doing for 11 what it did for 116. Practically in an identical fashion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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Ding ding ding! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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the gen ed, especially after this year's test, has and will have a real mix of kids, reflecting Chelsea. The increased fundraising year to year (what are they saying above... up from 30K to 60K to 160K?) is showing that. They may not raise as much $ as a wealthier school, but the dedication seems to be there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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this may sound harsh, but it's not the dedication that matters it's the money that's raised. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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you are depressing me again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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I'll take dedication over the extra money [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:36 PM Flag
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yes, and in an ideal world, that would be enough. but the budget cuts in nyc are crushing the life out of the schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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bunk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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but if you feel that way, 41 would work much better than 11. 41 doesn't want your participation and dedication - they want your money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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this is bulls*t. i'm so sick of the 41 bashing on this board. np, btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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the people who i know who live in chelsea are not going to ps11 gen ed by choice. they are all either going private or g&t and the people who are not do not have huge bucks. they live in penn south or otherwise don't have tons to donate to the school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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OK Penn South Peril mom. FWIW, I know at least 3 families in Penn South who have vacation homes upstate or in the Hamptons. Just because they live in Penn South doesn't mean they are poor. If I could buy a 3 bedroom apt in that location for 40K, I'd do it too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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sorry, but there's no comparison between the parents in penn south and the ones at 41 or 234. maybe some of them have vacation homes, but if you spend time on the playgrounds there on any given weekend in the summer, they're packed with people not buying out the calypso in sag harbor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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You are right that some people believe 41 is better. And as a matter of fact, I know 3 or 4 people in Penn South who are lying about their addresses and sending dc to 41 so those PS41 has plenty of 'low class' Penn South people among it's ranks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 04:16 AM Flag
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I have to say that the responses about people living in penn south and being less parents and "low class" based on money is a perfect example of why I would never send my dc to 41 and I am zoned for 3/41. This line of the thread is disgusting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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Same here - that and the fact that the dcs in our bldg at 41 are 1) not rocket scientists, and 2) are from very materialistic families, crystallizes 41 for me as the private school shut-out choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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way to generalize. your neighbors' dcs may not be geniuses but the test scores at 41 are very good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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first off, i never said people in penn south were low-class. i said most didn't own homes in the hamptons. someone used the low-class slur to try to flame me for something i never said. second, i never claimed to be 41 parent, so why you're trashing me for being one is puzzling. the discussion was about whether or not ps11 was going to get huge infusions of donations now that the demographic has supposedly changed. that's all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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I quote "sorry, but there is no comparison between the parents in Penn South and the ones at 41 and 234"...I found it funny because there are plenty of Penn South parents at 41 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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there aren't plenty. there are a few cheaters. but there won't be going forward. and anyway, what does this have to do with calling them low-class? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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well, what exactly does the phrase "no comparison" refer to then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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sigh. we're talking about hhi. read the thread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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I think small class size is a pretty big deal right now and going forward. I am curious to see what 41s class size cap is, actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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whatever it is, it will be higher than 11's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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g&t at 11. Because, its g&t with small classes and high scorers and the doe states that the curriculum will be advanced in g&t rooms starting next year instead of the same, you will have a better shot at middle schools coming from g&t program, 41 will have large classes next year - 11 small, and if you hate 11 - you can go to 41 next year. They will make room for a high scoring bright child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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this is a good answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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not really. op could very well wind up at 3. 41 is not guaranteeing spots anymore even for 1st grade. also, it's not true that g&t necessarily give you a better shot at a top middle school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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np: 3 is a great school, and more like ps11 g&T than 41. And, *all else equal*, of course doing well in a g&T program will give dc an edge in the middle school process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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I disagree that coming from a G&T matters in any way in the middle school admissions process (beyond what kind of eductaion the kid has gotten there). It's about the kid, the kid's scores, latest report card, and any test/interview/audition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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np and ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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once you have gone thru the middle school process, you may very well change your mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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or: I have gone through middle school process - twice - my gen ed dcs did great, both got their first choice schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Need some moral support right now. Really bothered by mom in our very small building who constantly snubs me at the playroom and playground. Dad is very friendly to DH and me and their DC is sweet. Mom ignors me pretends not to see me so she doesn't have to say hello etc. I usually can get along with anyone but really bothers me that she's chosen to dislike for some reason and can't just be nice because of the kids. How would you handle? We're neighbors. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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i would let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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maybe she's just shy or think you don't like her or maybe you smell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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ah yes, b.o., the bane of human fellowship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Wave all friendly like and go about your business. A couple of my neighbors have decided, for no reason that I can figure, that I'm not their kinda gal. I say, to each her own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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thanks. thats the kind of advice/support I was looking for. I know to do that but somehow I have to figure out how to keep it from bothering me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Unless you've done something to be ashamed of, she just has some drama in her head. I mean, why bother being unfriendly to a neighbor? That's effed up. I like all my neighbors, even if I don't. We live too close for feuds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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The only thing I feel funny about is that I'm very friendly/open and I guess I was a little too nice before I realized that she just wasn't someone I could win over. I guess because we have to see each other everyday and the kids like each other it really bothers me. Everyone else in my building is great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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Oh, that's me. I'm way friendly. I can tell that is EXACTLY what bugs these other women. They are far too cool for me. So I WAVE at them. Howdy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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Good to hear I'm not alone here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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NP Is this the first time in your life someone hasn't wanted to be your friend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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I have almost the same story--there was one mom at put playground who always gave me the stink eye. our dds ended up in the same class, and I always made a big point to smile and say hi. I've decided she's socially awkward. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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I plan on doing that but she's not socially awkward. She says hello and smiles and everyone else and then ignores me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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It's obvious. She's sleeping with your DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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Now that would be immoral AND stupid. On my block, the woman that was sleeping with another woman's DH made great efforts to be best friends with her. Worked for years, evidently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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she really might just be an anti-social person. It might not have anything to do with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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So you live in the same building. That doesn not mean the woman has to like you. Just get over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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This happened to me, and I really don't understand it either. Some people are simply incapable of neighborliness. We're not looking to be their best friends! Just ignore them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:36 AM Flag
[ - ] any creative ideas on where to have a halloween bday party for dd if our apt is too small to have it here? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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how much do you want to spend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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not too expensive, dont really have a budget [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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you could take advantage of some of the park events around halloween--like the "Boo at the Zoo" in Prospect Park, take the kids to the zoo, then have a picnic at the picnic area. The weather is usually good still, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] My ds is 17.5 mo. and not walking yet, but can cruise furniture ok but not steadily. However, he has great fine motor skills and talks a lot -- can count to 10, repeats almost any word you say to him, can ask for more milk, etc. PT and ped say he has low tone. Ped pushing for more tests and work ups but I say no. Reason to worry? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.25.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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I think i would at least go for an evaluation. maybe needs an extra push in gross motor skills -- why are you so hesitant if that's what the ped suggests? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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We are in PT already for 4 past months. Ped wants ds to be checked out by neurologist which means MRI. I think unnecessary worry and medical intervention is not needed and harmful if there is nothing but slower development happening with ds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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If after 4 mos of PT your DS still isn't walking fully, you should get it checked out more thoroughly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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he didn't crawl until 12 mo. so you can't expect walking so soon. He had reflux and spent a lot of time on his back until 12 mo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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My DD started scooting at 12 mos and started walking 6 weeks later. She never did tummy time. Just saying that your are looking for excuses. I think you should query your pediatrician. What does he think will be found in an MRI that can help your DS? A friend got a diagnosis of mild CP from an MRI, so they changed the goal of her son's PT. It took the pressure off him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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What is mild CP? I did quiz ped on what she thought they would find but she was evasive saying it was more to rule any problems out rather than one thing he was sort of tracked for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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mild cerebral palsy. In other words, it wasn't a gross motor muscle problem. It was a brain problem. So his PT was changed to increase the range of motion he could do, rather than go for complete freedom of movement. There are some other issues with CP that they now need to pay attention to. I don't know more about it than that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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What was he like otherwise? Some things make sense in reading about CP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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I assume she mean cerabel palsy (no idea how to spell it) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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so he started crawling almost 6 months ago. most kids go from crawling to walking in about 2-3 months. I'm really baffled by your resistance. you'll do your ds far more harm living in denial about some extra help he may need than just biting the bullet and getting to fixing whatever is going on! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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what is ITA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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i totally agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Well, not worry exactly, but worth an EI evaluation. It's fun! And if your DS qualilifies for some free physical therapy, great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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It sounds to me that your ds perhaps has lower body gross motor delays. If he indeed has low tone, I would get EI. It won't be just the walking, it will eventually be climbing stairs, jumping, running, etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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if you ignore your own pediatrician, who then would you heed on health issues for ds? listen this isn't about testing your mothering skills, it's about what is best for your child. if he needs some help, be a supportive and responsive mom, do what's best for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Have a number of doulas, naturalists and other mothers I consult as well as other peds I know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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does his PT recommend a neuro eval? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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2 medical professionals who know your ds are suggesting this. The only thing that prevents you from getting this done is hearing bad news. But you can work through that if that happens to be the case. Hopefully, and possibly likely, the results will be good and you will have nothing to fear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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Don't forget the doulas, naturalists and other mothers advice... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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I am sure they know more about it than ped and pt... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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you need to get him tested. have bf who son wasn't displaying the gross motor skills he should have, but was very smart, very social, very early. She finaly got him tested and he was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy (sp?). Since he has been diagnosed he is doing so much better! keeping up with peers, etc. I really think you should reconsider the tests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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Go with ped's advice and get ds tested. you have nothing to lose... should they find anything you are catching it early and will be the getting the help ds needs. if they don't find anything, you can rest easier and then start worrying about something else! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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My DD didn't walk till 18 months. She was a happy crawler and since I (I've been told) didn't walk till very late, we didn't worry. Did not do PT or anything else. One day she walked, wobbled for a couple of weeks, and then started RUNNING everywhere. Our pediatrician doesn't recommend PT until 18 months and he never pressured us to get tested. If he had, I probably would have...though the fact that I didn't walk until 18 months definitely made us feel better about the whole thing. Laziness runs in our family, apparently. Try not to worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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OK. I was totally against it but you've convinced me to go on with more tests. If he needs a different type of therapy it's worth it to find out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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according to my mom, i didn't walk until 19 months, and i'm fine (but maybe lazy). still, i'd go with additional testing to be on the safe side. early interventions for certain findings could make a big difference. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Go figure! 4s on both ELA and Math in both 4th and 5th grades, excellent report cards, and dc still rejected from Upper Lab middle school on appeal. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.25.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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Sorry. Did they give their own test too? And where will dc go to middle school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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They have their own test, where they tested on 6th grade math, which we did not know dc was going to be tested on. Apparently, many other parents did, and had the their kids tutored for the Lab test. Dc will be at NEST. Who knows? Maybe we'll make the cut-off for Hunter next year too. Just glad the process is finally over. It reallyt has been horrid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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Sorry that's very frustrating. NEST is not a bad option though. Is it very far from you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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No, we are fortunate to have a very good option. We would have to travel to either, but Lab would have been more convenient. Dc will do fine anyway. Just frustrated at how little transparency there was in the middle school process this year, and how much information I was given. Word to the wise for those applying next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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good luck to you. just keep pressing on the squeaky wheel gets the grease! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Thanks, but the squeaky wheel is out of luck. No more appeals left. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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that is why I like the score lottery system for elementary G&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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why? do they have sibling preference for middle school too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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does dc have another good option? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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Yes, but dc really disappointed cuz was realy hoping for Lab. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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this is why we are leaving the city. Too many kids, not enough spots. It is going to be really bad when the kids entering K this fall are applying to middle school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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OP: I was previously a big public school booster before this year, but now I would have to agree with you. Middle schools are busting at the seams already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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yup...as a parent with a child due to start K this fall I can see the writing on the wall. There is a huge population increase this year in the schools in manhattan for kids starting K. I know the BOE won't be thinking far enough ahead to realize they will have the same problem again come 6th grade for these kids. Would love to stay but don't feel we can trust the school infrastructure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Its wierd how arbitrary this is. I know of a kid who was rejected by Nest but accepted to upper Lab. Go figure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone know the name of the song in the opening of the new show Baby Borrowers? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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I don't know this show, what channel is it on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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NBC- Ch 4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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is it good? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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typical reality show- it's okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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i'm recording it for later -- so are the babies an any danger? how irresponsible is this show? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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i stopped watching it as i am on the computer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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bummer. i'm hoping it's truly horrible (a la the first episode of kid naiton) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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^^nation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] can anyone recommend a photographer for my 12 mo db? tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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we were really happy with Julie Brimberg. check out her website [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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jeniffer lee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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I used Abby www.abbycope.com - she's really patient and the shots she got were just beautiful. Not too expensive either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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Shari Silk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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http://silkcreative.com/sharisilk/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:54 AM Flag
[ - ] has anyone else here ever had sex with a first cousin? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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hell no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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I've messed around w/mine, why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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gross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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actually, I had an affair with one of my first cousins for years. From about age 16 through 20. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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so how is your relationship with him now? any kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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yes, we're both married with two children each. We have a perfectly cordial, normal relationship--with the occasional wink, yk. Nothing untoward. Normal, and a little flirty. We had a very, very hot affair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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does your dh know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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