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[ - ] Pregnant and nuchal fold size was large, cvs test showed no abnormalities, nuchal fold hasn't changed and fetus is now 34 weeks. Anyone btdt? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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I don't even know what this nuchal test is everyone talks about. My kids are too old now for the test to have been done on me. What did the sonogram say at 20 weeks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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Unchanged nuchal fold, everything else fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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What's the problem with an unchanged nuchal fold? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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Well, my understanding is that the Nuchal Fold was attributed specifically for Down's, I could be wrong though, and the CVS is 100% in testing for the Down's gene. What does your DR say? The CVS doesn't test for everything but it does rule out a lot of things.Call your doctor and tell her your concerns, that is too stressful to keep you in the dark. Good Luck, my prayers, I'm 33 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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tyvm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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what does that mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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OR: I'm guessing thank you very much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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oh, of course, something you never see here! Ha! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Please no flames; just really want to know if I have a problem. Eat a small bran muffin for breakfast; always skip lunch (if not, I eat a banana.) The only real meal I get is dinner, when I'm normal, eating veggie, meat, whatever (though not in large amounts). To be honest, I do worry about gaining weight, but not fat. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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sounds like you are denying yourself food. do you think about it a lot? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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you were on earlier... you have a problem if you need this much confirmation from people you don't know. You got a ton of responses... (I'm sick in bed which is why I've been on half the day before you flame) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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You need to eat, or you'll convince your body that you're in starvation mode and your metabolism will fall off the charts and then you'll do nothing but gain weight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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I think you sound fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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you wouldn't if you read her last post with the same heading... In further discussion it came out that she still felt like she needed to loose weight, and it was obvious even she thought she had a problem... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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I did see her earlier post, this is all just attention seeking behavior, and it seems like this should do it for her. She's eating enough, she sounds like the rest of us, we just don't post it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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people with eating disorders are often obsessed with getting everyone else to agree that they don't have one. If we are the only people left in her life that will do that, I think it is time to ask a professional.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:28 PM Flag
[ - ] when i ovulated this month, i took a brief note of when i would get my period. i believe it would have been on the 23rd. because we have had such a hard time to conceive i have tried to be as laid back about this as possible. now it is the 25th and yesterday i used a tampon just in case, one small red dot of blood and a bit of stain. today, only a bit of stain on tampon. is it possible to have that and be pregnant? will test tomorrow. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Possible. Does your period usually come slowly or all at once? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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not ever two days slow, first day is always a bit slow in the afternoon, and then next day is normal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Yes, there's something called implantation bleeding which is generally light and not like a period. I wish you the best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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yes, but this late? i thought it was much earlier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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it's probably not implantation, but I bet it could be from sex... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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but possibly pregnant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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definitely a possibility... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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also, did you have sex? At the very beginning of my preg. I had a couple dots after sex.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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yes, a few days ago. wanted to get it in before i got my period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Good luck! I hope you get your bfp tomorrow! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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me too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] We got into NEST but now there's a money issue for us. Do we go along and pull money from investments since as far as I can tell we are only having one dc and his education is by and large the greatest investment we can make or should we just go for one year and actually see if we like it? Maybe we can swing it if we are really careful but at what point is it too expensive and at what point will we really feel like although we are not saving for college it's okay? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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I thought NEST was a public school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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No we were told we have to pay 25K per year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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For what? It's a public school like Anderson or PS 6. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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Good one there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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I really hope this is fake... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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It is because NEST is a public school and even a non-profit. Here's the insideschools.org link: http://insideschools.org/fs/school_profile.php?id=64 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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-- sorry I read that wrong, insideschools is the non profit. But still, NEST is a public school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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You have too much time on your hands or someone is really tring to steal your money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:23 PM Flag
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sorry, I meant trying. When, where, how and by whom were you asked for money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:25 PM Flag
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What a fucking weird post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:07 PM Flag
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Everyone disregard this post. Someone is trying to mess with people. Nest is a public school therefore no one is required to pay a dime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone go to the Anderson (FOA) thing at Prohibition tonight? DH and I could not make it but wonder how it went? Was there a big turn out? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.25.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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they were expecting you, and your file will be duly noted. you should have come, seriously...j/k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Hey, I already bought a T-shirt, mark me down for $10 so far. lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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no. had to work late as did DH. sorry i missed it. if anyone has anything to tell us about, feel free. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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Please don't feel free. We're all over it already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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Have some pity. I wasn't even applying to K this year and find this abnoxious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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why obnoxious? this board is for sharing info. many had to miss the event, and are wondering how it went. seems like a good question for the schools board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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Wounds are raw. Do you see the same type of discussion related to other schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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I was there. A decent turnout. It was a good chance to meet some of the other parents who are new to the school. Had the expected pitch about fundraising. It was a softer sell than I expected. To be honest, I don't mind giving considering how much we're saving by not going to private school, and our child is probably getting as good or better education than most private schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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np: Thanks. I had to miss it as well. See you in September. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] My DH is travelling and I need to tell someone: I'm pregnant with #3! The line is faint, but it is there. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.25.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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Congrats!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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Just call him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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yey! A line is a line. Congrats on #3! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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wow! that's great! were you trying or will this suprise him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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We stopped playing defense a few months ago, but weren't actively trying. In fact, I think we only had unprotected sex about 6x over the last few months. We are exhausted by our DC and barely have time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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SEND HIM A TELEGRAM! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Morse Code! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Screw that... Smoke signals... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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That's how long I've been on here...the TELEGRAM of Aunt Ida dying post! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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in any event, congratulations! we won't say a word. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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same here... sigh... I should go to bed, but I'm actually having a lot of fun... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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Were you trying? Insanely jealous. Maybe it will be me in a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:42 PM Flag
[ - ] no flames pls. any ideas for a 1st birthday party favors? tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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board books and squirty bath toys [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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not really that much that's not a choking hazard... (I'm trying really hard not to flame) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] How many songrams/ utrasounds can I expect with this pregnancy. I'm 40. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Depends on your OB and your individual situation. I had sonograms every week from 30 weeks on and twice a week from 35 weeks til giving birth at 37 weeks, but I had twins. And I was 34 at the time and my pregnancy was uneventful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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I'm 39 and had 4. None after 20 weeks, they said they won't do anymore unless they think there is a problem or he's late. I think that's pretty normal. They usually do 16 weeks and 20 weeks no matter what, I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Taking a poll based on argument with DH tonight: How old are your kids and what percentage of the time do they do something or stop doing something or never do something again just because you asked them to? What about if you raise your voice and sound very authoritative when you ask? What percentage of the time then do you get results? TIA! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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Come on, people!!!! I've already asked once! Can't you answer my poll now? Can you tell me when you plan on answering my poll? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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lol. My kids are 6yo and they might stop doing something after a few rebukes, but that doesn't guarantee they'll never do it again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Thank you. See, UBers? See this nice poster? She answered my poll. How many times do I have to ask you to answer my poll? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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and this doesn't change when they're older btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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1, 5 and 7. Everything is a struggle. They rarely listen to me. Raising my voice is effective only if I yell so loud it scares them (but then I get hoarse and probably scare the neighbors as well). Regular yelling doesn't work and neither does being calm and asking nicely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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4YO - need to ask 3x before I feel heard at all...but it is a struggle to influence. Some important rules are sticking. I find that doing the star chart is the most effective way to change behavior, so far. 2YO - never listens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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I have 3 tones. There's the "stop doing that, sweetie," which works about 50 percent of the time. There the sterner, "I told you once before, . . . ," which works about 75 percent of the time. There's the raised voice. "Stop. If you don't then xxxx will happen," which works about 98 percent of the time. The problem is, if I went straight to #3, then it would cease to be effective." Ds, age 5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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5 yo; at least 80% noncompliance. Yelling doesn't help. It just escalating into a battle then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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2 and 4. The 4 year old always listens and the 2 year old has never listened and never will. He could give a shit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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3 & 5 yo girls. I do yell to scare them to compliance. Fear method only works when they are small and can cause problems when they become teenagers. I've already noticed that they tend to tune me out ( which is what I did when I was young). Elizabeth Pantley wrote a couple of books on this such as 'Kid Cooperation' as suggested by my parent ed. teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 12:35 AM Flag
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9mo and 3yo. the 9mo does whatever he wants, and the 3yo mostly listens, though sometimes it takes a few times. every once in a while i have to take something away from her or do a time out. we don't yell at the kids--and i hope never to, but i guess never say never... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 03:24 AM Flag
[ - ] My MIL buys my DD the ugliest, cheapest clothes. I have nothing against cheap, actually. I love Old Navy and Target, but let's just say we do not have the same taste. (If you saw the florescent Elmo poncho sweater, you'd know what I mean.) What should I do? Let her keep buying the stuff because it makes her happy, even if we don't use it? It's such a waste of money. 80% goes to the Salvation Army. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.25.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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let your DH deal with it... follow his lead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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You should have him call her up and say, "Ma, look, no way are we putting DD in this ugly ass Elmo poncho. You can shove it up your ass, for all we care!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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OP: In my dreams... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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Yup. Just take a photo of the kid wearing it, send her the photo, and ditch the stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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But won't that encourage her to keep buying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Yes and your local charity will think you are the world's most generous donor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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definitely don't take picture... do not encourage... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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The photo comes in handy to rebut the "but I never see XXX in the outfit I sent: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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yes, but if she looks in the closet and it isn't there, she's going to know anyway. Why throw it in her face? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Duh, tell her it's in the laundry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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OP: I would not be surprised if she has checked all my hampers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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that's why I say don't bother with photos... she's going to know, and it is better for you if she takes the hint... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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Duh "I sent the laundry out this week." You must not be very experienced at MIL management [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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if she's like my mil, then it comes from Salvation Army too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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More like Sears, I think. We've told her a few times to shop at chains like Gap, Old Navy, Gymboree (so I can exchange easily if there's a "size issue"), but she [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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likes a bargain and won't budge. OK, I'm convincing myself to just say thank you and give everything away. She can resent it behind my back. TX! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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mine too. She thinks a pooh bear face on a sweater is just adorable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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My MIL and nanny do the same thing. I've let it go. DD wears the crap during the day when I'm at work. Also, many of those clothes go to preschool as "emergency outfits." I don't stress if they go MIA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:37 PM Flag
[ - ] What kind of crowd do you picture when you hear the word "diverse" mentioned? My mental image includes AAs and hispanics, not so much South or East Asians. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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why do you care? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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op: answer my question and I'll answer yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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people with disabilities, maimed soldiers, poor whites, mixed race teens. You know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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brooklyn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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I think "diversity" is BS a lot of times. To me it should matter less what the color of the skin is and more what the economic circumstances are. Diversity is about more than race [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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Benetton ads [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:37 AM Flag
[ - ] REPOST: Perhaps I will have better luck tonight...So anyone out there getting off waitlists this late in the game? Anyone who would be willing to lose their deposit at a school because they got into another one they like better for whatever reason? Anyone still hopeful? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I am so glad I don't live in NYC! No answers for you, but good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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No idea if WLs are moving, but we did give up a spot. Stll not sure whether it was the right choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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Where did you give up a spot? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 10:20 AM Flag
[ - ] is the board slow because not as many people are here? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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start posting and it won't be slow... we've been waiting all night for you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I think it's just you, me and the moderator personally [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I'm here too, sort of [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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exactly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:42 PM Flag
[ - ] On average, how many sonograms did you have over the course of your pregnancy? How old were you? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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How many is too many? Help! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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DD#1 - 2003 - I was 32, two sonograms..... DD#2 - 2006 - I was 34...had at least 10...I was carrying too much fluid so they wanted to track better... one at week after 28 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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Time changes everything. That sounds about right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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One at 8 weeks, one at 12 weeks because of the CVS, and one at 16 and one at 20 weeks. At 33 weeks now, and I miss seeing the little bugger! Age: 39. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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Just request one and you should get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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my docs look every time I'm there - I'm 36 but they did last time too (when I was 32) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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I was 31 - I had the vaginal sonogram at 7 weeks, and an ultrasound at 12 weeks, 20 weeks, 35 weeks and 40 weeks (the last one was very quick to check the amniotic fluid since I was officially past my due date). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] dh is downstairs sulking b/c I was ordering pics of our son online and he started asking me 50 questions about it - why are you ordering more pics? Where will you put them? Why not wait to order more at a time? Etc. So I snapped at him a bit, just said something like "can i just order pics of our son please?" He told me I should apologize for being rude to him. Men can really be babies sometimes. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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micromanaging babies at that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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Uh...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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sounds like dh wants some attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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he always wants attention. Our son is 10mo and dh is mostly much better but he suffered from a major displacement syndrome when db was born [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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"mostly better" sounds like you guys have some issues to work out. he was just asking some questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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eh, we have no more (and probably less) issues than any other couple. No one is 100% thrilled and polite all the time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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but I don't post about little moments like that on UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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go get the camera and tell him you want to take nekky pictures of him. that will cheer him up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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ita! [ Reply | More
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