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06.25.08, 19:44 PM General Topics
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Taking a poll based on argument with DH tonight: How old are your kids and what percentage of the time do they do something or stop doing something or never do something again just because you asked them to? What about if you raise your voice and sound very authoritative when you ask? What percentage of the time then do you get results? TIA! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.25.08, 07:44 PM Flag
 

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Come on, people!!!! I've already asked once! Can't you answer my poll now? Can you tell me when you plan on answering my poll? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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lol. My kids are 6yo and they might stop doing something after a few rebukes, but that doesn't guarantee they'll never do it again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Thank you. See, UBers? See this nice poster? She answered my poll. How many times do I have to ask you to answer my poll? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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and this doesn't change when they're older btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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1, 5 and 7. Everything is a struggle. They rarely listen to me. Raising my voice is effective only if I yell so loud it scares them (but then I get hoarse and probably scare the neighbors as well). Regular yelling doesn't work and neither does being calm and asking nicely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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4YO - need to ask 3x before I feel heard at all...but it is a struggle to influence. Some important rules are sticking. I find that doing the star chart is the most effective way to change behavior, so far. 2YO - never listens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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I have 3 tones. There's the "stop doing that, sweetie," which works about 50 percent of the time. There the sterner, "I told you once before, . . . ," which works about 75 percent of the time. There's the raised voice. "Stop. If you don't then xxxx will happen," which works about 98 percent of the time. The problem is, if I went straight to #3, then it would cease to be effective." Ds, age 5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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5 yo; at least 80% noncompliance. Yelling doesn't help. It just escalating into a battle then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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2 and 4. The 4 year old always listens and the 2 year old has never listened and never will. He could give a shit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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3 & 5 yo girls. I do yell to scare them to compliance. Fear method only works when they are small and can cause problems when they become teenagers. I've already noticed that they tend to tune me out ( which is what I did when I was young). Elizabeth Pantley wrote a couple of books on this such as 'Kid Cooperation' as suggested by my parent ed. teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 12:35 AM Flag
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9mo and 3yo. the 9mo does whatever he wants, and the 3yo mostly listens, though sometimes it takes a few times. every once in a while i have to take something away from her or do a time out. we don't yell at the kids--and i hope never to, but i guess never say never... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 03:24 AM Flag
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