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[ - ] The article said Collegiate won't send transcript to colleges you applied to if you went against their advice. These schools limit you to apply to only 8 colleges and won't help you if you apply to more? Why the hell are they telling the kids what to do? 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.30.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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jeez. I applied to 13 ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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I didn't know these private schools did brokering for colleges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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OMG yes thats how they do everything. They have huge ties to HYP and other colleges and for the top schools its like a phone conversation btw counselor and admissions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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yeah, right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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Not true at other privates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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Get ready, it is everywhere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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Oh yes it is. Didn't you ask these questions during the interview? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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If you did, you wouldn't be getting in. Sounds like a wacko question to ask when applying to K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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Is that even legal for them to refuse to send a transcript to a school that you chose but they didn't? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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If I were a C parent, I'd get a class action lawsuit going. Seems wrong to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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You can't just make up laws to protect you from everything you don't like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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They all limit the number you can apply to, most girls schools limit to 6 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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All the SS schools? 6 is AWFULLY few. That is shocking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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sometimes they give you 8 but rare. boys schools allow more applications Collegiate I think 7 or 8 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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This used to be the case but pretty sure it is not any more. 6 is not really enough at all in this day and age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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Thats not what it said, It said if you were accepted early somewhere they will not send your transcripts on to other schools for regular admission even if the ED is no binding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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Well, why not? If the kid doesn't want to go to that school, the kid should have the right to go somewhere else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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Then the kid should not have applied early [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Because they are brokering the dcs that's why. You don't think that the collegiate and brearley applications get thrown into the same pile at the PS whatever do you? every one of those applications has been discussed by the counselor and the admissions dept and tagged. Its a long process cannot explain it here but you'll see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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If your dc is going to TT on FA and not a legacy at HYP or whatever, is your dc not going to be told to apply to HYP, etc. by these TT counselors bec they have to cater to non-FA kids who are legacies at HYP, etc.? I wonder if my dc will be better off in senior year at a PS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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It doesn't work that way, no, The counselors don't cater to the parents they cater to the colleges. Harvard will say 'we want x diversity, one FA, give us a scholarship student and three top As in science' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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lolol. Is that some years they only take 1 or 2 kids and other years 5? And occassionally none at all? Hardvard is the one that gets to pick all the way. There are no quotas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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And then what if that kid decides he wants to go to his safety school which is your dcs reach school? How liberal and open to his getting several spots and taking your sons will you be then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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Well, if my kid wants to go to his safety, let him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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No you don't understand. How would you feel if your dcs reach school was that dcs saftey? The other dc gets into four schools chooses your dcs safety and your dc gets NO place. That is why they have to limit apps and have the ED policy - its like getting into preschool brokered all of it brokered [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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I want my dc to go where he wants to go. I don't expect another dc to go somewhere he doesn't want to go for my dc's sake. That is absurd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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brokering is BS and benefits the weak candidates. Shouldn't be allowed for preschool or college [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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This is not brokering. The kid is the one who decides to apply early decision somewhere. Pretty sure C or anyone else does not push that. And you should not apply ED unless it is your FC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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you don't get it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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applying early admission and getting accepted is an obligation to attend. college admissions offices communicate with each other, and they do find out those bad eggs who are playing the field so to speak. collegiate is right to curb such a nasty practice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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np. ITA. And the college adviser would have made this crystal clear to the student before he applied ED. These are not little children. They make choices and need to deal with the consequences. If the school made a practice of supporting students who back out of their ED accepts people here would be shrieking about entitlement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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nnp: Yep. And it makes the college advisor and the school look bad in the eyes of the college if kids apply ED and don't attend, so it hurts future applicants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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Exactly. I can't believe anyone would have a beef with the school's decision in this type of situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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Then why don't they make it binding? If it's binding, of course. But if they explicitly say it's not binding, then why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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Never mind. I'm guessing you're the type of person who wouldn't see anything wrong with sending out multiple first choice letters to preschools and ongoings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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What? You are crazy. I know first choice letter to prek or ongoings binds you morally but I have no idea if early decision is like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:26 PM Flag
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I'm not crazy, you're ignorant. They CAN'T make it legally binding; they can't FORCE a student to attend a particular school or forbid him to attend any other schools. Think about it. Applying ED is exactly like sending a FC letter. And aside from the moral implications of breaking your word, going back on an ED acceptance screws the dc's college counselor in the same way going back on a FC letter screws your PSD. So of course the college counselors aren't going to support students who try to do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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hee hee hee I see all these women shaking in their boots now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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Stuyvesant High School limits college applications to 7. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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BxSci has no limt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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What article are you talking about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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some schools do this to limit competition among graduates-like one student won't take a spot over another. it was like this when I was in grad school-not a bad thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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It is a bad thing if you are not the dc who is legacy or star of your class and you still want to get into competitive school. You need to cast your net much wider. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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eh, so send out a resume yourself. The school does not have to hold your hand for this, does it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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Whatever article this is, is completely wrong. My son just graduated from Collegiate last month and the application process is tailored individually. So while one boy might only apply to 3 schools, there were others who applied to 10 or more. And, if the boy wants to go to a school that Wendy hasn't suggested and has a good rationale for applying there, she will certainly send out transcripts and support the application in every way. It's an incredible school with an amazing college guidance department, which is part of the reason that around 35% of the class of 2008 is attending HYP next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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Key words are "good rationale". Who determines this? Sounds way too controlling for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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Oh calm down. I applied to 5 schools (no ivies) and had a great college experience. more than 8 schools is ridiculous- children reaching too hard to satisfy their parents rather than applying to schools within their range [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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I can understand why some weak or middling students might need to apply more broadly, but otherwise I agree with you. If the college counselor is good at helping students determine what they want and what's realistic, 8 colleges is more than enough for most kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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Exactly. 8 colleges with a good range should be more than enough for almost everyone, especially if they're not trying to hold themselves to a higer standard than they can meet. A weak student shouldn't be applying to HYP with other TTs as his "safetys" - that is just stupid and poor counseling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Just read the Page Six article. Said that the schools, and HYP in particular are good to legacies. Is that really true? Wouldn't you think at least a few Dalton kids were legs to Harvard? Seems weird to me. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.30.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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I'm sure there are legacies to Harvard but "good to legacies" does not mean automatic admission. You should read "The Price of Admission." The HYP legacies that get the real advantages are the ones who donate A LOT of money (millions) or are incredibly well connected (think George Bush). Your average legacy may get thrown in a different pile during the admit process but there are no guarantees. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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As an HYP legacy, I was always told it isn't necessarily about major $$. It's about consistent giving and consistent involvement, ie interviewing, fund raising, etc. Giving what you can -- ie a few hundred bucks a year when you're just out of school. Anyway, wanted to ask, what is the Price of Admission? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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It is a book published last year examining the admission practices at top colleges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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That's pathetic. I'm in the book business and didn't know that. Going to look it up right now. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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Yes, its true. Legacies always have an inside lane on non-legacies. And if you are not just a legacy but a sibling, then you are way ahead of the game. Its like that at schools, colleges, golf clubs...which are "exclusive" and have much more demand than supply. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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It's strange. The previous year, Dalton sent 7 to Harvard but this year, none. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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Every year is is a college that is the "flavor of the month" and one that is "the outcast". This year around many schools in the city, Harvard has for some reason gotten less attention. UPenn has beeb popular this year for example amongst NYC elite schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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What?? Are you trying to say that students across the city weren't interested in Harvard? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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Do you have any idea how many HYP legacies there are in every class at every school? They can't all get in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone out there have a bad Lipo surgery, I did after I had my son and yes I am getting my money back!!! Would you get redone or just leave it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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if something didn't work out, wouldn't you just walk away? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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I know but now I have holes in my stomach and I want to wear a bikini [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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wear it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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so juist wear it. spend the money on therapy to help your body image. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] I have to say, that I struggle with how much time/energy to put into my job vs. family life. Promotions today and I switched to a PT schedule, so... sometimes I wonder if I should get a new job and step it up. Have 1DD and TTC though.. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.30.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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I think I've got a sweet balance- also work p/t [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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are you happy with where you are in your job? I'm like a level behind and several $$$$. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Yes, very happy with my job- I don't make any $, mind you, but it's a creative job, I'm challenged, and I'm not stressed out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Yeah, I don't mind mine, not uber stressed, and it's related to other things I would like. I feel like I will look back and remember getting to do some SAHM stuff when I'm old and gray, but also have some 401K money, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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just don't forget to find joy in it all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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Stick with PT if you can. I work f/t and have 2 dcs. It's REALLY hard and I just cannot wait until #2 is a little older, when I'm hoping it will get easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Yeah, it just sucks that you can't be in two places at once. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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if you don't need the $$ as a family, I'd say stick with what you have for now, and maybe refocus on job once db#2 is well integrated. I took a major step down in my career for my current job but I'm just happy to be working while having a small db! I figure its kind of a placeholder for now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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okay, it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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-- is just so weird after going to business school, etc. that now I can't just burn the midnight oil at work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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after your kids are a certain age, you can have like 40 years to burn the oil- you only get the baby/little kid years once & it goes fast [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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oh I hear ya, I have a PhD and used to be a senior person on Wall St. But after spending a year as a SAH, I am coming at it from a fresh perspective.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Brooklyn moms: How are you going to park when the new Trader Joe's opens? Already lots of great food shops there, Damascus, Sahadi's, but when TJs opens how is it gonna work? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.30.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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where? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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on Atlantic Ave., around Court or thereabouts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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The same way it works in most of NYC... dont drive. You have three busses right there. You have the F train at Bergen and almost every other train at Borough Hall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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OP: I have 3 kids. Public transportation doesn't make sense for me grocery shopping. I usually go to Fairway or Costco, but would love to go to TJ regularly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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This is why God invented delivery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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Hmmm...I still don't see that happening. Walking to & from Borough Hall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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Then there are garages in the area. There is one caddy corner from it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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Hon, if you're THAT lazy, why do you live in the city at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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Forget where YOU are going to park. As someone who lives in the neighborhood, I'm more worried how we are ever going to find parking on our street ever again. We've been on a waiting list at the local garage for over a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] At what age do you need to start thinking of preschool applications? I'm pregnant and already concerned. Do all kids get in somewhere? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.30.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Chill. You apply the year before you want then to start. My dc and all my friends dcs are starting this year and we all got places we were happy with. It is a crazy process but stay calm about it and you'll get through it ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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Preschool not so much unless you are looking at daycares that are feeder schools to the private prek. For instance, Grace Church feeds Packer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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Preschool is totally unnecessary. Get a grip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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Its 2hours 2-3 days a week, so not a big deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Actually, I think it's really helpful. They teach kids a lot of skills that prepare them for K. When I was a kid, kindergarten was like preschool is now. These days, K is more than that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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What "skills" does one need to learn for Show and Tell and Cookies and Milk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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how to respond within a group, how to make friends, how to listen to instruction, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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My kids all learned this stuff on their own before kindergarten. Why do so many kids these days need formal classes for it. Oh wait ... I think I answered my own question. So many moms aren't raising their own kids these days. Got it now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Ah, you again. When are you going to come up with some original material? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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Go raise your kids and leave us alone. I think one's about to put a fork in the electrical outlet ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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We know all about your kids. They're the ones who can't deal with other children or rules or working in groups. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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shouldn't you be teaching them to listen to instruction? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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Lining up, not hitting each other, trying to stay focused on the group activity, putting toys/blocks/books back in their place, getting along with other kids. These indeed are true skills that are needed to do well in K. I know you're making fun of me, but this is what I think. Of course you can teach a kid all of that outside of a preschool environment, but it's hard to do that if you need to work f/t, for instance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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^^^ Not to mention, most kids LOVE preschool, and it's where they form real friendships for the first time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Done this twice - both in Horace Mann - so trust me here. Relax! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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How bout you just worry about having a healthy baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone heard of or used Dr. Jacqueline Bush in Park Slope. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.30.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Yes, she delivered my son at Methodist, three years ago. I loved her. She was very busy and I always felt rushed though. I think she specializes in high risk now, which I wasn't. I would use her again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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I was seeing a high risk dr. at NYU, but she is not practicing anymore as of 6/30. I am considering Dr. Bush but was worried about some of mixed feelings I have been hearing on Methodist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone rented a crib while staying at a house at the Jersey Shore? Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.30.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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Which town or even county? The jersey Shore is a big place and Long Branch has different resources than Wildwood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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spring lake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Who out there has had success w/ IVF over the age of 40? Any encouraging stories? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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Grannymom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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I think of granny as being 60+ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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I became a grandma at 42. My mother was a grandma at 40. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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oh, I'm not arguing that one can't be a grandma at 40, just saying that when I think of a granny, I think of a woman over 60 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Thanks - very helpful beyatch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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A 55yo woman in the UK has just had a baby so it can happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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I will be 40 in Sept and did my 2nd IVF (3rd IVF total-- DS from IVF #1 when I was 37) this year with a BFP last week (although a low # and they are encouraging as the #s have doubled--going in tomorrow to see if there is a yolk sac). Good luck, it can certainly happen, you will just have to probably do a few of them to get a few good eggs, and yes, I will probably be a granny mom since I will be pushing 41 when I have #2 (hoping with crossed fingers that tomorrow is a good day). Signed GrannyMom (who looks 30 -- yep VBA here) hehehe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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You go girl, GL tomorrow......r/a [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:19 PM Flag
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thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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42yo -- IUI entering my 8th month of pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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41 and pregnant with IVF twins [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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Awesome - congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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Good going ladies. I just turned 39 and Im in the midst of IVF #1. I hope I am as successfull as you, and if I am, will that put me in the granny mom category.? heheheeheheh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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I was just over 50 when dd was born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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Twins at 41. They are 1 year now. So happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:47 PM Flag
[ - ] http://nymag.com/news/features/45592/ 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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and? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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topic? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:01 PM Flag
[ - ] is there a stomach virus going around? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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I have a bug since yesterday afternoon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I think it's really amazing that people are deciding on which Kindergarten to send dc's to based on college exmissions. It's 13 years from now for god's sake and how do you know what your child wants to be or study 13 years from now? Do people really think life is only worth living if they attend HYP or whatever? Are our kids allowed to think about every career choice available to them? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.30.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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Don't worry about it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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You will fall on deaf ears here. Nobody wants to hear this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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are you nobody [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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sorry what is an HYP? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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Harvard, Yale, Princeton, I'm assuming. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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It all depends on what you think you're buying. $30K per year, per child, is a lot of money. I'm guessing that some people view college exmissions as one measure of what they're buying. I think it's a relevant factor to look at, but of course none of us know what type of student our kids will be at age 17, and where their strengths/interests lie. But undergrad is pretty general anyway, too. BTW, before you flame, we can't even afford private! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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^^^ Oh yeah, one more thing. I don't think anyone is "deciding" where to send their kid based solely on college exmissions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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np: I want my dd to be a good person- to be content and kind [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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Don't we all though? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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yes, but some think that private school education helps to raise a good person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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What is so wrong with that? So does public. It's THEIR choice to spend their money on private school. Why is that so threatening to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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I would hope. And for the OP- live and let live. It's not like she should even worry about what other people are doing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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Money is not going to buy you an acceptance to any specific college, though. Anybody who thinks that is insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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money can't buy you skill or talent either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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Maybe I'm going out on a limb here, but I don't think anyone believes that you're guaranteed acceptance into a specific college by attending a specific private school! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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It worked for the Bush family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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Well I think it is a sign that today anyway the school has a strong relationship with top schools and a solid reputation with those schools. And that these schools think that children from these schools are prepared etc. MY PROBLEM is that a lot can change at a school in 13 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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This is true. Look at Trinity. With Dr Moses gone, I don't think their ties will be as strong as it used to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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Oh god do you know how silly you all sound? These are the same conversation that people have been having forever 'oh well now that so and so isn't here the admissions will go down/up/lateral' whatever. Its all the same and will remain that way just pick a school you like and move on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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Maybe Trinity will try to replace Dr M with another person well connected to Harvard, but Trinity admissions people kept saying how they want their kids to go to no name colleges. I almost spit out non-existing coffee through my nostrils. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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Trinity, no matter who is at the helm will always be Trinity. Do you not realize that HYO and all the colleges know these schools by name and rep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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Well, I don't know. Brearley is suffering since Dr Hull came over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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People may not like her, as they hated the one three prinicpals ago or the new Chapin counselor en years ago that they tried to boot out but it never alters the excellent academics that they provide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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This Brearley mom likes Dr. Hull just fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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I like her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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I like Dr. Hull and haven't seen the school suffering since her arrival. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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ITTTA! Half of these women are going to get a rude awakening when a dozen years from now their children announce they have no intention of going to college, and instead want to be plumbers or electricians. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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One of my best friends just became a journeyman electrician- uh, is there something wrong with that!? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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Absolutely not. But apparently there IS to these wenches who seem to think that life isn't worth living unless there's an Ivy League degree attached to it. Otherwise they wouldn't be obsessing over these schools in the first place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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Uh- I'm not letting you off the hook for insinuating that plumbers or electricians are somehow 'lesser' people b/c of their job. Put aside the vinegar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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My DH is an electrician. Of course I don't have a problem with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Let's just let the kids follow their inclinations and not worry about the people that judge [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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np: By spending $300K+ on their child's education, they think they are "buying" a certain type of adult. Get it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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I think it is about the option of ivy. There are choices you could make today that would rule that out 13 years from now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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No, there aren't. Not school choices, any way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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Thank you for posting things. I'm fairly new here and keep thinking are this people really insane?? I was beginning to think it was me, thanks again OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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It really is unbelievable. It's as if the children won't grow up to have their own minds and develop their own interests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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Its so sad what they are doing to those poor kids who really dont have a say. I see them as little robots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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Well, I'm going to choose the best public option I can for my kid (private not a possibility). Ex-missions may be a factor, but not the only factor. Of course, I'll be thinking about middle school more than college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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ITA with you, but I think we're the minority on UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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i used to agree with you. until my dd entered the public school system. we were in a good zoned school, but frankly, the reason my dc thrived was because of who he is, not because of the school. so we applied to privates and are going. and exmissions means something to me as part of a whole. it translates to academic rigor. of course, now people will say 'i went to public and i went to harvard.' still, in the interim -- it means something, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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I am you in some ways, but only because I'm worried about the increasing emphasis on standardized test prep in public, which sort of translates into INCREASED academic rigor, but I'm pretty confident that DC will more or less ace any test. I'd be delighted if DC became a plumber or electrician, useful and pretty much recession-proof. I just want DC to be happy and honest and have a comfortable life, the most appropriate path to getting there is still up in the air and I want to maintain maximum options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone get an unexpected tax refund (not stimulus) after paying -- 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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yeah, on NYState [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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i paid $1826 in state tax and today i got a $500 check & i don't know what for ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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Don't spend it they did that to me once, and a few months later they wanted it back. They made a mistake is what they said. . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] sorry everyone, but i have a TMI post. I have had "the trots" for months now... what could it be ? I haven't changed my diet, I just had a checkup (not for this) and all blood work came back fine. Anyone ? Bueler ? Bueler ? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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months? jeez- I would mention that to your dr! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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yes... months... I eat something and shortly thereafter I'm headed to the bathroom. I'm general doctor-phobic, and this is a doozy... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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yeah, but hasn't the thought crossed your mind that your digestive system isn't working & it could be a symptom of something larger? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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Please. I'm convinced I must have cancer. I'm hoping you'll tell me you've recently read about some rare condition that happens when kharma is sending a huge sum of money or that you have a friend who had this and she suddenly was able to finish the Sat. NYTime puzzle in 30 minutes. Something good ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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np could be anything from parasites to food allergy to IBS. Only a doctor can figure it out. I guess it could be cancer but probably unlikely from your symptoms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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Thank you. I've seen commercials about IBS, but I don't know anyone (I think) that has it. As a huge foodie the whole thing is not working for me ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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I can understand that. But go find out. At least you will know. DH is a total foodie and IBS etc run in his family. He has learned to deal with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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Why speculate? And 'karma' doesn't send you money- it's the law of cause and effect. Avoiding symptoms like yours might have certain effects- what if you have something that can be fixed or prevented? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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yes. you are correct. up periscope, I suspect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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np LOL! From what I hear, it's not so bad. They dope you up pretty well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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I know it sounds stupid - especially after two natural births and countless Brazilians, but I do not relish the idea of someone sticking a tube up my arse. It's embarrassing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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not many do relish it- I would think of it more as an inconvenience than embarassing- it's just a butt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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and a butt by any other name should be as sweet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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gluten allergy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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That sounds good. Is there a test for that ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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search gluten free girl - my BIL has this and had symptoms (like yours) for years before diagnosed. he is now on a strict diet and doing much better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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thank you very much. I will look into that today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Just talked to au pair and said it isn't working for us and we feel no sense of friendship or connection on her part. Her response is that she has intentionally tried not to be connected so as not to miss us too much when she returns home. I must look like a real moron... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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LMAO! Did you tell her that she should really try a different approach should she end up with another family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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You shouldn't feel bad about that. She has obviously taken it too far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I had a c-section 3 months ago and there is a bump in between my belly button and scar. It is sort of hard. What is this? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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scar tissue? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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I still have it after 2 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] why do some people say that the end of the first trimester is 12 wks and some say it is 14 wks? which is it really or what do you go by to know when you are in the 2nd trimester? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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because people usually equate 1 month to 4 weeks so 1 trimester would be 12 wks, but then the pg would only be 36 wks long total. Actually, one month is 4.33 weeks, so 1 trimester is 13 weeks. once you get to wk 14 youre in teh 2nd [ Reply | More
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