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[ - ] How much do you think HHI would have to be (dual) to send two dc to private given that mortgage/maint. were under 3k a month? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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it totally depends, you would be surprised at how much you can make and still qualify for financial aid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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True, but that lessen your chance of getting in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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Yes but if you make $250K any aid you'll get will be minimal. You will still have to cough up $25k or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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For one child, for two you'd get more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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at LEAST 450k. privte school is about 25k-33k post tax per kid, mortgage alone is 36k. this is not including life expenses, other expenses you WILL HAVE TO SHELL OUT towards the schools, and you need to have extra money to save. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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without FA? Tuition is $6k/month for 2 dc's and you need afterschool or p/t nanny to watch the kids until you come home. Need childcare in the summer (camp or family or whatever). So, whatever expenses you have now, plus retirement savings, then extra $6k/month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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$350k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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That is what we make, but with a $4K mort/maint and don't think we could afford one private school tuition. Dual WOHPs and student loans though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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Maybe I'm crazy. Our HHI is $250 and we send 1 dc to private school Mtge + HELOC is $4K. (We have $2000 rental income per month though) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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$2K rental income if taxed at capital gain rates puts your income closer to $290K. Nonetheless, that is pushing it from my perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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If you're excited to eat rice 3 meals a day! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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I think $350K is possible with sacrifice. $500K is reasonable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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I would never do it on $350K unless I had dcs that absolutely needed private school. You deserve to have a life too, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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I consider private a luxury product vs. a necessity as I would move to a reasonable zone even if it meant I couldn't afford the city anymore. It really varies for me - Assuming you still need to continue saving for retirment and college, like we do, and pay for some type of camp thing (I work) and childcare most days after school, I personally would need to make $425K or so and have a years saved up already in case DH got laid off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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Np: Sounds right, though I wouldn't refer to an education as a "product" luxury or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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OR. Yes, I guess so... I don't think of private college & grad school as products. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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350 to 400K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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I think you need to ask yourself why private is so important to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.08, 05:51 AM Flag
[ - ] 22 month old is begging for popcorn. Is he old enough to have it? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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I wouldn't, but I used to live in a town where a 3 yo choked to death on popcorn at a movie theatre. Choking is one of my big sancti things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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of course! but low fat, low salt ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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no way. choking hazard until age 5 or 6 and even then still dangerous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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http://www.fda.gov/fdac/features/2005/505_choking.htmlThe American Academy of Pediatrics recommends keeping the following foods away from children younger than 4: * hot dogs * nuts and seeds * chunks of meat or cheese * whole grapes * hard, gooey, or sticky candy * popcorn * chunks of peanut butter * raw vegetables * raisins * chewing gum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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no no no. i'm pretty lienient with food, but not this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:57 PM Flag
[ - ] 17 weeks pg. still getting headaches all the time. how much tylenol is too much tylenol for a pregnant person?? I must take it at least once, if not twice a day. Also drinking caffeine to help the headaches, one or two cups a day. not sure what else I can do. this is #3 and I don't remember it being so bad with the other two. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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call your ob you may be reacting to the rise in hormones. i would lay off caffeine and tylenol altogether [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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ice cold diet coke helped me more than coffee. also be sure you are hydrated enough -- sometimes if you become dehydrated, you get headaches [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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are they migraines? My neurologist gave me two scripts to use for migraines in pregnancy that worked really well that don't cross the placenta - tylenol #3 and reglan. Really helped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] where online is a good place to buy a backpack for a preschooler? thanks. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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LL Bean, 4-7 yo size [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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four peas is a great brand-google it.......... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:27 PM Flag
[ - ] cooking Q: say you wanted to boil spinach. how much water would you put in? do you put the spinach in a collander type thing above the water, or directly in the water in the pot? tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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You can put directly in the water. Or in a steamer/collader over the water. To boil a pound of spinach, use a 3 or 4 qt pot filled with water. It'll take about 30 sec to a minute once you put in the boiling water... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] dumb 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I admit it. 20 wks and I miss drinking and never before have I needed it so much! 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.30.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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I think you can allow yourself a glass of red wine now and again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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DO you think? I want to believe that SO much. Why red, not white? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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I drank after 5mo and um, everything turned out fine. (I know, andecdata!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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oh my goodness, yes - I am 15 weeks and drink a glass twice a week. Doc said it was fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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I wouldn't, I was going to and researched it. There is increased risk of learning disabilities. I would feel awful if my kid ended up having ADD or something else, and would always wonder. Even in France now they are saying no alcohol at all while pregnant. I am in your boat though, 12w pregnant, really would love some wine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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i work and travel in France. That's nonsense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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A drink is a drink. Have a beer, a light on booze margartita, a white wine.. whatever floats your boat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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I thought the rule was after you hit the third trimester? That's where I am now, and I'm totally afraid of the thought. A drink is a drink, agreed. Is it really that serious? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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do the research yourself. I personally think that there is enough evidence that it is not good that I never would. I too heard about the French equivalent of the FDA say no alcohol at all during pregnancy. If the french are starting to abstain, so will I. So many people say "but they do this in Europe all the time". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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but mon cherie, I have told you that that is crap ! The French drink a glass at lunch and again at dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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"French Ministry of Health, Youth & Sports recommends that pregnant women avoid drinking alcohol (National Program for Health and Nutrition / Programme National Nutrition Santé, PNNS)" I did not say that they do not do it, I said that their FDA was recommending that they don't. I don't always trust what US FDA says in regards to women's health, but when most other countries' officials agree, I'm going to go with it. For the record, studies say 48% of pregnant women in france abstain completely during pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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your research is not through or your interpretation is flawed and not backed up by most menbers of the ACOG. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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you may also want to look up http://www.icap.org/PolicyIssues/DrinkingGuidelines/PregnancyTable/tabid/254/Default.aspx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=17869405 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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^^^this one says that the french are now requiring the same warning labels we do... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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Dad is a prof of OB and he told me to drink a glass of red each evening. I have two healthy DC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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my friend in spain told me her dr said not to cut out drinking. she didn't drink much but still [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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Anyone who DOESNT need a glass a day while pregnant is too neurotic for me. Your child will thank you for not being one of "those" moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Need a glass a day? Who really needs a damn drink? Esp when pg. Disgusting. Grow up. College is over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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I would not drink at all while pregnant. While you dc may be aok if you do, I always think about what their experience is when they ingest the alcohol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] My pediatrician keeps sending me bills for someone else's child. What's worse, they are filing with my insurance for this child as well. Since I am not paying the bills, they are refusing my appointments for my ds (whose account is current). This is insantiy and I can't seem to get anyone on the phone who will straighten it out! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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i would go there in person, show them all the incorrect info a b*tch them out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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I've done that. The receptionist told me that they don't do billing. Billing is handled by a service in Delaware. And they can't show me another patient's file to prove that the patient has different parents/responsible party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Don't waste your time. Billing is almost always outsourced. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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write a letter and send it certified mail to both places. Do not ignore because it will end up on credit report. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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But how do I prove that I am not responsible for Baby Boy Doe? Are they going to take my word for it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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It just gives you a paper trail to send to collection agency. You are in no way responsible for these bills. It should trigger an investigation by the billing company. I'm sure it is just a clerical error [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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many billing companies won't respond unless it is in writing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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Call in the morning--your ped's office--and tell them unless this is straightened out by your ped's office, you will call the local news and report it, a la 7 on your side, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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you are brilliant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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oh for Gods sake. No one will care, least of all a tv station. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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this reminds me of what happened at my dentist - they combined my record with someone else of the same age. I figured it out when the pulled out "my" xrays and you could see the person was wearing hoop earrings, which I haven't worn in years and years. Turns out she was 15 yrs old - I bet some of my info that was in her chart was surprising to her mom, including that she was pregnant!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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^^same name, not age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:38 PM Flag
[ - ] I have an 18 month old who loves television. He woke up at 5 am this morning and cried for the TV to be put on. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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I don't want to let him watch it, it's probably terrible for him at his age. Any ideas? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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yes, don't turn it on. if he's crying for tv, that's because you've been letting him watch it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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Decide how much tv he can watch each day, and stick to that limit. Books, toys, or creative play all other times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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don't turn it on. it's that simple. after a few days he will realize you are in charge, not him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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At 5 am, I put the tv on for my db and try to doze. What are you doing, playing games at 5 am? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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either let him CIO or wake up and deal with him. but if you choose to wake up and don't want to turn on tv, then don't. you are in charge not the baby. give it a few days and he will get over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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my kid loves am tv and knows all her channels and how to turn the tv on (and thank god at 5am!!) and say what you will, but if she gets her fill in the morning she doesnt need it all afternoon and evening, and just plays. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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sad, sad, sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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Don't let the TV be on around him for a while. After a couple days he'll let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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Sorry, this is just the beginning. If you give in to crying/whining, you teach him it's effective. I know, 5am your resistance is low, but save yourself for the long game. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.01.15, 10:01 PM Flag
[ - ] my dh wants me to pay a certain amount each month of expenses - i only make about $80 and he works for himself and makes a lot more - not a specific amount since self owned biz - how much or what % of my salary is fair to contribute - WWYD?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.30.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Contribute proportionally to your income. If he earns 80% of the HHI, he should pay 80% of the expenses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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You don't pay any of the expenses? I make 60K and pay for the mortgage and maintaince and then it is pretty much gone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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Is your money co-mingled? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:39 PM Flag
[ - ] any PS 3 moms on? i'm lookning for opinions on the school.tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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do a search. there's a ps3 mom who posts here regularly and loves it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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thanks. do you know if there is an easy way to search. i thought whenever i've tried to search on things like numbers UB didn't allow it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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try ps3 (no spaces) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] What age do you start putting sunscreen on dc? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.30.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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my ped approved it from birth if necessary. baby should be covered or in shade as much as possible, but since that isn't always possible, sunscreen is better than a burn. I was told to use the physical barrier kind and not to put it on the hands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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6 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone choose pain medication during labor instead of epidural or natural? If so why how was it and if not why not? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.30.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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I got the shot of demerol. It just made me loopy, did nothing for the pain, but oddly I remember so little of the time that it didn't matter. DH says I was just wandering the room giggling and I couldn't balance on the birthing ball - he had to hold me on, but I was insistent that I needed to be on the ball. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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Laughing really hard, great image! Reading about possible risks to the baby: tired, groggy difficulty breathing etc. but is there possible permanent damage? did your doctor discuss these with you or express concern? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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They are most concerned about giving narcotics too close to actual delivery -that's when you can have those side effects. My OB only gives them for early labor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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thank you for responding. I am afraid of the epidural but don't want to have natural [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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I agree with the poster below - get the epidural. The narcotics really threw me off my rhythm, I think I ended up getting the epi sooner because I was such a mess as the demerol wore off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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Thank you again I appreciate this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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I was offered narcotics but opted against them because they effect the baby more than an epidural does and they make me tired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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But they just make the baby groggy and not as alert in the first few mins right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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They can effect their respiratory drive. Not an issue if you have it way before you deliver, but definitely can be if you have it close to delivery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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Getting the epidural is like being licked by a puppy compared to contractions! If you are scared of actually getting it I wouldn't be. If you have spinal issues or something that is entirely different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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I know its such a small chance but paralysis scares me. I like that 'licked by a puppy' ahhhhh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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I had demerol first, then the epidural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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PAAART-TY!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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I was in labor for 50 hours. I would have sawed off my own legs for the epidrual at hour 30. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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holy MOLY 50 hours?? FIFTY??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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Yes. Well, 50 hours in the hospital before I had the c-section. I had mild labor at home for a while before that. But it wasn't anything that required pain medication. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:13 PM Flag
[ - ] I"m 22 weeks preg and have been drinking a cup of decaf in the morning for most of my pregnancy. Someone just told me that it's healthier to have a cup of regular b/c of the chemicals in decaf...thougts? insights? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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just get a natural process decaf, look for "naturally decaffinated" or "water process decaffinated" Trader Joes has a ton of options, as does whole foods [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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